Summary: abundance mentality is always a hot topic. But can total sexual abundance be achieved? If so - what would be the consequences for your game?

 

Imagine yourself with 30 fuck friends. They're all hot, young, available and very much into you. You can sleep with different girl each day for a month and then repeat until you're bored. What would be the consequences? How would you behave? You'd be exhausted for sure but let's stick to what's important in this mental exercise.

First and foremost - you wouldn't be chasing any new girls. You have more than enough, your balls would be like raisins. You'd probably need rest and good night sleep more than another fuckfest.

Second - you'd have sex whenever you fancy. Just text/call a girl and she'll come. If she has any issues / wants to do something else before coming to your place / is not sure she can make it today - you just say "ok" and get yourself another girl.

Third - you'd be honest about what you want from her. You just want sex? You never do anything else with her. You want to have a nice dinner and then fuck? You do this. You actually want to spend some quality time with her? You do. If she's expecting more than you want to offer then you give her The Talk and let the chips fall.

Fourth - if she wants to reschedule last minute (for any reason) or tries to convince you to doing something she wants and you don't - you just say no. You don't have to put up with her humors. Why would you cave in? Tell her no, then give her enough time (aka radio silence) and she'll come back. Or not. Do you care?

Fifth - if she continues to misbehave you explicitly tell her to GTFO. Your time is better spent with more compliant girls.

 

Sounds great? But beware - these imaginary conditions are terrible considering your daygame adventures and meeting new women. You just wouldn't have any motivation to do your work. Even if you spot a hot chick you'd think "nah, I don't need more girls in my harem". If you forced yourself, got a number and even met her then you'd probably be a terrible date. No sexual tension, no spiking, not caring about getting even basic rapport. There is a difference between projecting abundance and projecting grand jerkiness.

This is also a place for a warning: in that state you'd probably pretend that you're a celebrity with such high sexual market value that you expect nothing less than utmost compliance. One flake and she's out. But be realistic in your expectations. Her family, friends and hobbies more often than not will be of higher importance to her as she's known you for 10-15 minutes tops. Yeah, sometimes you'll sweep her off her feet or be such perfect genetic match that she'll go to a date instead of her grandma's funeral. But most of the time you'll be just that "random charming dude".

Back to our story. If your goal is to have a harem then you're done. You've succeeded. Find a new purpose in life. But if you want to conquer new territories and fuck new girls then absolute abundance isn't the best mindset. Nor is total scarcity. We all know what scarcity brings to the table - supplicating behavior, neediness, pedestalising, insecurities and most of all - putting up with crazy shit just to get laid.

 

As always with everything everywhere - you have to find the right balance (which sure as hell isn't on the side of scarcity!). In retrospective you can see how often you act like you wouldn't give a damn and when you're just being needy. Funny thing is that stopping yourself and reflecting on your past actions is the single best learning tool. Little guidance, lot of self-analysis and you can internalize lessons a lot better than by learning from someone else. You just teach yourself.

How to spot the problem? Give some thought about every recent girl you were gaming. How many times you've told her to get her shit straight (or maybe even decided to next her)? And how often you put up with something you'd rather not? How many times you lost her trying too hard? Look for things that changed her behavior (for better or for worse). As a cheat sheet: if you've sensed that it isn't going well and backed off - good; didn't cave in to her demands - great; did something against yourself or your model just to get laid - bad. I get into little more detail in my full blog post but it's for the guys that usually don't even know about TRP. You guys can probably name a few other typical situations where abundance gets better of you or you suddenly become needy.

Rethink every date, approach and interaction. Reinforce the good behavior, eradicate the bad. Sadly, I don't think there is a better tool than "fake it till you make it". Keep teaching yourself and correcting your bad actions. In time you'll either a) get rid of all bad habits b) develop real abundance due to massive amount of action c) quit.

 

Lessons learned:

  • total and long-lasting sexual abundance isn't a state that most of us will experience;
  • ...and that's good - cause it's terrible mindset for approaching (and especially for daygame);
  • expressing too much abundance in your words and actions might be off-puting for girls;
  • ...but of course neediness is so much worse (so when in doubt - be a jerk);
  • learn by analyzing your past actions, correct them to become better;
  • have a great 2016.