A major component that makes up the philosophy here at The Red Pill is the ability to shed your expectations. Removing expectations allows your mind to stay on a steady course. Instead of expecting a high or low, you allow life to do its job and be rhythmic.

To have no expectations is a liberating experience. Expectations create fear, doubt, weariness, fuck even onesitis. Most of what makes up an expectation is the ideal you have created. And when you create an ideal, you situate yourself in a position that is concerned with how things will turn out, rather than the experience as a whole. This in turn create fear, it takes away from the experience itself, and can shatter your hope or outlook if things don't turn out as expected.

If I told you, "When you raise your right arm, I will give you a dollar." we have now entered into an agreement that you will do X, and after doing X, receive Y. This is a normal, logical, thinking process.

However, there are always many more variables involved in the equation. And when we use this sort of logic in our thoughts, the process of doing x to get y can become a bit more complex. If someone isn't clear how to approach this idea, this logic is exactly what can make someone become very frustrated... even if it's a very simple task. Also, when expectations fail, it can cause sadness or a loss of hope. That because since the origin, you were expecting that by square X, you would get your payout or return on investment. Lastly, when we shed expectations, it does not mean that we do away with what we want. In other words, I am not saying you should allow women to get close to you, and to do whatever they want in your life, because AWALT. What I am saying is that you shouldn't allow women so close to your life, if they have the ability to cross the boarders of what you will expect. Instead, find someone who is most likely to provide you with what you want, and the second she doesn't, do not wait around expecting her to change. (This logic can apply to something as simple as a plate.)

A solution may be to entirely shed expectations. But, for me in particular, this became an issue. I am very passionate about my work, and about many things in my life. When I would lose site of an an end goal or return, I did because I shed the expectations that surrounded it. But, I also lost the "want" or "passion" to give it my all.

So the better way to word it is; shed your expectations, but give it your all. Again, this became difficult for me. Remember our agreement? If I raise my right arm, I am supposed to get a dollar. When I don't get my payout, it's going to anger me or make me sad. That's because the reward circuit in my brain has been disrupted. Once again, this is the thought process of a normal, logic, person.

The first, obvious point, is that I must engage in "contractual agreements," (this here relates to anything where I do X, and presume I will get Y.) only with those that are likely to give me a return. And when we engage in these agreements with others, it is easy for us to push blame onto the other party. "Oh, he is just an asshole." or, "Mother Fucker, I got burned!"

It does become slightly more complicated when the person engages in this "contractual agreement" with themselves. For example, instead of allowing a failure to happen, we get discourage. To throw out an example, let us say you have been studying for a test for months, and were so sure you would pass, you had it down. Come test day, you fail. The shock can overwhelm you, you can doubt yourself and think you aren't as smart as you thought, and many other things can occur. Add a few more episode of this, and you're sure to be fucked up. All of these things can occur, instead of standing your ass up, and moving back towards studying or fulfilling whatever goal you are setting out to, you allow this to cripple you and cause you to lose hope.

It is good to have confidence. And there is a thin line you must walk in your thought process of doing X, and getting Y. The key is: you can't entirely worry about getting the right result or obtaining a certain outcome; as long as your actions serve a purpose, you have done what you were meant to do. You must give up control of external influence, because you have no/limited control over such. Everyone can't win every time. Instead we can have lines that we do not allow others to cross, evaluations of others before any engagement or agreement, and the ability to push forward through life with one foot in front of the other even if we do fail.

Then, failure and fear will not stop you because they no longer exist.