Summary: Everyone may have a different definition of what it means to be a man. Formalizing a written definition of what it means to you can provide better clarity and understanding.

Body: Being a man means embracing your masculine polarity. What differentiates men from women is the core of what it means to be a man.

  1. Being Physically strong: Being a man means having the physical strength required to defend yourself, your friends, and your family. Having strength gives you confidence and value. Even if you never get into a physical confrontation, having strength will benefit you in many aspects of life. Men will respect you more and women will have a primal attraction to you.

  2. Being Mentally Strong: Women are more easily affected by their emotions than men. By learning to use logic to override non-beneficial emotions, you build mental strength. Being mentally strong means having a strong and beneficial frame that can't be broken. It also means bringing other people into your frame so that they agree with you and cooperate with you. When women are overrun by emotions, they depend on you to be stoic, reasonable, and emotionally sound.

  3. To demonstrate your value through your actions: Attractive women are born with inherent value that is automatically demonstrated, men are not. Men must earn their value and go out of their way to demonstrate it. Acta non Verba. Talk is cheap and is the domain of women. Actions are the language of men and prove your worth.

  4. Make yourself proud: This point ties together the previous three. Do all of these things for yourself, not for external approval or validation. Become strong so that you feel good about yourself, not to impress women. Sometimes immediate success is out of your control. It is the long term journey of self improvement that makes a man, not ever changing circumstances and comparisons to other people. Develop a strong frame and embrace stoicism so that you treat temporary success and failure alike. Become valuable for your own benefit. Only you know how much effort and work you put in. Only you can be proud of yourself. Don't let other peoples opinions or expectations distract you from your purpose in life.

Lessons Learned: You may agree or disagree with me, but critically analyzing your own definition of what it means to be a man will benefit you.