I had some requests to talk more about the time I spent dating a derby girl and what I've learned from women because of it. I could write a book on this but I'll try to be more succinct. Most of the women I met in derby are awesome people I consider friends to this day. This is not a slam on derby women or the sport (which is actually pretty impressive)

  • Roller derby tends to attract a lot of women that see themselves as "alphas". What ends up happening is they all talk over each other. I was the only male present at a "girl's night out" where my then gf hosted a dinner in our apartment. They were all talking over each other, sometimes screaming to be heard.

  • They also try to outdo each other when it comes to drinking. As a result many women in derby are serious alcoholics.

  • Also with sex. They try to outdo each other with sex stories. There is a lot of girl on girl and every fantasy imaginable. There is a clique of lesbians that have slept with a good percentage of the entire league.

  • At their parties there would be at least one pair of breasts flashed, especially if there are no men around. They compete for the best pair and even give an informal award for best tits (and best ass) at the end of each season. Because I've been to a lot of the parties I've seen a number of players at least partially naked. If you are on a team and travel with them most likely you will see them all naked.

  • The shit talking is unfathomable. At any time there are a dozen dramas with a number of women not talking to each other. Out of nowhere they will be friends again, usually due to a shared hatred of another derby girl. It is impossible to keep up with the amount of drama. No human being can do it.

  • Just as in any sport there are some worthless players and some great ones but the cream rises to the top and most of the worthless ones don't even last a season. A number of women join just to call themselves derby girls and drop out after playing a game or two. I know one woman that barely played one season and still writes a blog about being a derby girl though she hasn't played for years.

  • Cheating is rampant. One team is full of cheaters and one girl is notorious for it. She's so good at cheating she is on the national team and is rated as one of the best players in the country. She's very good but she got most of her points from crying at the ref and stamping her feet.