What the hell is going on in r/askmen?

RedPillCaveman · 2013-09-04T06:30:50+00:00

That thread is hilarious. I don't know if he's real but he's doing a masterful job of subtly trolling the fuck out of them.

rebuildingMyself · 2013-09-04T06:37:22+00:00

Women aren't used to rejection. When it happens, they short circuit. Of course, only a complete moron would propose to a man in the first place instead of the typical whiny ring-begging. If he wanted to marry you, he'd do it himself.
It's horribly beta to accept a marriage proposal from a woman. You'll never live that one down. I can only imagine her hamster spinning "if it was so easy to get this man to commit, could I have done better?" as he politely smiles as she rubs it in his face that she proposed instead of him in front of friends and family.
Askmen are shaming a man for wanting to stay single. News at 11

PolegarVermelho · 2013-09-04T12:40:57+00:00

What? That's the same subreddit where they're dropping RP knowledge yesterday?

OP: (26 up / 34 down)

I have a condo, a decent car. I have maintained my bod y, starting a software company with a friend in a year. worked for me.

BP: (36 up / 20 down)

Everything you just listed is materialistic. What an accomplishment.

Translation: I'm butthurt because you're successful and I'm in love with a landwhale.

cdx75xmx · 2013-09-04T07:55:18+00:00

"My girlfriend proposed to me..." Nope, can't help you there bud.

kukul · 2013-09-04T10:25:47+00:00

"Women can propose too" is one of the dumbest fucking ideas I've stumbled upon in the recent years.

edit: Just asked my newly-wed sister what she thinks about it:
"They really do that? How pathetic."

ss_camaro · 2013-09-04T10:10:16+00:00

95% of the "men" on "askmen" seem to have a female alter ego/ male throwaways: shaming, blue-pills, misrepresentations & white-knighting as far as the eye can see.

70% of divorces are intitiated by women? -15 that factoid.

IllimitableMan · 2013-09-04T13:20:19+00:00

TLDR: OP is fairly red pill. Comments are massively blue pill. Lots of people shaming him and calling him sexist/immature, whatever. Wow these guys are a bunch of clueless bitches. Couple of good comments in there, saw one of our own "pachan" who dropped a good comment but damn, the threads mostly a clusterfuck. AskMen? more like AskBitches.

2013-09-04T10:54:19+00:00

These comments are telling him to "man up" and just let love in. Unreal.

noblepaladin · 2013-09-04T14:44:40+00:00

The "surprise proposal" is an invention of Hollywood to create that climatic moment in movies. That is not how most people actually do it. They talk about marriage, kids, finances, where they are going to live, etc beforehand. Or at least, they used to do that. The woman might not know when the guy will take the ring out and actually do the proposal, but they already agreed to marry, have kids, etc beforehand. Just ask your parents or other older people on how it was done. It is never a surprise like in the movies (the ring giving might be, but the actual agreement to marry happened long beforehand).

Women have pushed the "surprise proposal" into popular culture because it works to their advantage. First of all, it is for bragging rights because they can claim that they got a guy to unconditionally commit to them. No rational guy should do this without an agreement on the plans for the future, you at least owe that to your potential future offspring. And secondly, it puts them into an unequal, greater position of power. If the guy proposes, he has huge moral and social pressure to follow through, marry, and love her, even if she changes behavior (i.e. stops working, gets fat, etc). If the couple discusses their long term plans for family, children, finances, etc. beforehand, then both parties would have to carry the moral and ethical responsibility to live up to their word, which is the basis for a healthy equal relationship.

And of course, a woman doing a "surprise proposal" to a man is another example of women/feminism convincing other women to shoot themselves in the foot. We already know that men doing "surprise proposals" are a bad idea. Why the fuck would you want to imitate it?

So in summary, most people don't actually do "surprise proposals", they discuss their future plans and come to an agreement about how they want to build their family. After agreeing to marry and agreeing on the future plans together, the engagement (e.g. the giving of the ring) may be a surprise ceremony. The "surprise proposal" or the "surprise woman proposing" are terrible ideas. Marriage, if you believe that people should marry, is the most important long term decision in life. It should not be a "surprise". No wonder divorce rates are so high.

redpilldude · 2013-09-04T14:02:27+00:00

She proposed to him? Gee, I wonder who wears the pants in that relationship. That's seriously the most emasculating thing ever.

Can you imagine what would have happened if he had said yes and talked about the engagement story with his friends and co-workers? He would never live that down.

lIllIllIes · 2013-09-04T14:30:44+00:00

The thread is full of jealous guys who make $15/hr max.

passingbylikeatree · 2013-09-04T16:31:55+00:00

more like askvaginas

ToTheLogicalExtreme · 2013-09-04T06:05:48+00:00

First thought is that they're jealous.

TheIslander829 · 2013-09-04T11:52:19+00:00

Daaaaamn

Title	What the hell is going on in r/askmen?
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Date	September 4, 2013 5:55 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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