What was your transition like?

CinnabonHotJizz · 2013-07-05T04:05:54+00:00

True story: about five months ago, i was unemployed and in a blue pill relationship of epic proportions. I actually wrote a fucking paper on feminism on behalf of my ex who was getting her degree online. How about that for irony?

Our inevitable breakup lead me to search for answers and i stumbled on this sub like many of you have. THeres nothing short of dramatic in how much I connected with TRP philosophy and its uncanny ability to offer a framework in not just my failed marriage and LTR, but my outlook on life and how I relate to people, let alone just women.

Yes, I'm bitter. And i've been dickish to some of my female friends, but you know what? I've noticed that they were more complimentary to me and much more responsive. I approached a female in my local sport club for the first time ever after first seeing and ogling her for a fucking year. No exaggeration, i had her entering her phone number in my phone within literally two minutes. We exercised together today and SHE asked me out for drinks tomorrow. I fully intend to kino early, maybe spontaneously go dancing and will have absolutely no hesitation in taking her home and fucking her like a champion. I finally feel really unapologetic about acting boldly and shedding the shackles of guilt and unworthiness for getting what i want out of life.

All this and more is what awaits you, if you can only be self aware enough to understand that "being a dick" is an arbitrarily label foisted on the vestige of your former, socially conditioned self. You will come into your own to devlop new paradigms that leave you healthy, grounded and thorough engaged with life.

Thank the universe for this sub.

Edit: on my ipad, not even bothering with the typos

A_Seabear · 2013-07-05T04:11:44+00:00

For me personally, it was slow over a couple of years. When I was a senior in high school, I honestly had girls throwing themselves at me. This made absolutely no sense to me as I didn't party very much at all, and instead focused on sports and getting decent grades (Not a 4.0 student by any means). I was a relatively quiet guy who didn't really enjoy the classroom, as a result I came across as being pretty irritable and sarcastic.

I took a very advanced Spanish class my senior year, where it was populated by me and one other guy. The other guy was a quiet dude, who did graffiti and tagging on trains (he was pretty broke but was a cool dude, very mellow). The rest of the class was filled with women. There were a few girls in it who were somewhat notorious for being gigantic teases and flirts.

Me being a relatively average guy at that point in my life could not understand why I was getting all this attention from these girls. It was the same circle of gals who always started hitting on me, and not to be outdone a lot of the other girls in the class gave me attention as well. It grew to be irritating and eventually i dropped hints that I wanted them to knock it off. I was pretty shy and didn't like being the center of attention and being scrutinized constantly. Looking back I realized that I came off as playing hard to get, ignoring these girls and focusing on my own goals. This lead them to (predictably, now that I know this type of stuff) redouble their efforts, writing me notes asking if I wanted to come over and "hang out".

Afterwards when I started college, this type of attention faded. I was trying to put myself out there as a freshman and develop a large social circle while I still could. This type of female attention predictably waned, as I sought to be everywhere seeing everyone. (My game was pretty pitiful at this point in my life, even now I consider it pretty subpar compared to others.)

Anyways this rapid transition in the way girls was seeing me left me confused beyond all hell. (In hindsight I came across as a little bit too available and probably a little boring). So I sought to figure out what was happening, looked online. Found heartistes blog and was immediately hooked. There was something that this guy was talking about that just made sense to me on an almost primal level. I withdrew from a lot of things I was currently involved in, I was so astounded by what I was seeing validated in everyday life. It was surreal to see so many social and gender dynamics being played out every single day, and now I saw them for what they truly were.

It took me a solid couple of months to get my mojo back and get on with life as a freshman. For a short time period, I was pretty disgusted with girls, as I saw examples of the types of manipulation used to bully guys into submisison on a daily basis. It sickened me to see the things that girls could get away with because guys simply wanted to fuck them. Slowly as time went on, and I became more familiar with some of the evo-pych theories. I accepted it for what it was. Currently I'm 22 years old and have one year left of school. I am focused on work and my personal hobbies right now, taking a bit of a break from chasing girls as I've grown a bit sick of the college lifestyle that so many of them around here embrace.

For me it was a slow process, and to tell you the truth, it's still kind of ongoing.

Hang in there.

ugdr6424 · 2013-07-05T04:49:16+00:00

It was gradual for me. I studied Japanese in college, so I naturally hung out with the exchange students. When I started dating one, I was in a relationship with a girl who hadn't been touched by western feminism. I realized that there was a proper dynamic for a relationship - I felt way more comfortable and way more manly than in any of my past relationships. I made a post about it on facebook, and immediately got attacked by my female friends, so I knew I was right?

TheIslander829 · 2013-07-05T20:51:32+00:00

Gradual.

Went through ultra beta phases of declaring my undying love for girls in highschool. Called the girls a lot, talked a lot, etc... zero success.

Senior year I started hanging out with a different crowd. These guys could pull, and could pull well. I decided I needed to be friends with these guys, so I'd buy them drinks and invite them to wherever I was going. I tried to imitate what they did, with a bit of luck I could get phone numbers and maybe a date once in a while. I remember a particular guy was a master at IMs (msn messenger we used back then), I'd just give him my computer and he could get the girl to be really attracted within a couple of minutes... I took notes.

After graduation I came upon David DeAngelo. Boy was that a breath of fresh air or what!

After that I got into serial monogamy, basically. My last serious relationship ended 2 years ago. It lasted for almost 3 years and she dumped me over a guy 15 years older than me. Instant depression. I vented on /r/seduction and a wise man pointed me to Heartiste, and the rest is history. I read Roosh, I read Neil Strauss, I read everything, and went out every night.

Semi-steady rotation of 3 girls today.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-07-05T03:27:02+00:00

Take it out on their vaginas.

When it starts working in your favor, you'll have a lot less resentment.

RNAofYouListening · 2013-07-05T12:57:58+00:00

Given that I am 35, I did not actually have to change much - somehow pretty much age itself brings more confidence, more no-fucks-given attitude and so on. I just kind of got more focused, more conscious about what is going on inside me and so on. And really everything from the basic logic of human interaction to history just stated to clck.

I mean if I had read about it all at 19 it would have been great and my 20's would have been perfect, but it would have been incredibly hard for me. At 35 it's like nodding, nodding, a here and there putting a bit more effort into this or that.

lord-denning · 2013-07-05T10:01:52+00:00

We have discussed this on other threads. Consensus seems to be that unless you have been massively fucked over this should hopefully be a phase. You have been knocked out of your previous groove and it will take some time to find a new, hopefully TRP channel. After awhile anger at being lied to, and being told that men are the liars while you are being lied to (!), subsides and you are left simply with a clearer perception of reality.

cma6250 · 2013-07-06T16:03:22+00:00

A few years ago I was in a serious relationship, when I moved into "her" house, she said to me "what's mine is mine, and what's yours is mine." I was a little confused, but sort of ignored it as I was happy to be with her. Now, I would never hear those words spoken; why? Because I don't date that type of girl, instead of hoping for any girl to be with me, I only invite really amazing girls into my world. After learning about the red pill, it's necessary to go through a transition. After living the blue pill life for so long, having your reality crushed, you gotta go to the other side before you're able to find a good balance. Enjoy this experience, it only happens once.

Tastysalad101 · 2013-07-05T10:03:02+00:00

I just subbed to this sub reddit today and i don't completely get what it's about yet but so far i find it interesting.

Title	What was your transition like?
Author	Embracing_the_Pain
Upvotes	14
Comments	16
Date	July 5, 2013 3:16 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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