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When should I be paying for her?

sphinx221
December 4, 2014
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Title When should I be paying for her?
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sphinx221
Upvotes 0
Comments 28
Date December 4, 2014 7:04 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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[–]allcapsisyelling 9 points10 points11 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She's a big, strong, independent woman. Don't insult her by paying or offering to. You fucking chauvinist shitlord.

[–]12FAM0US7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

when her pimp asks you "credit or debit"

[–]tombreck2 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Plate: Never

LTR: If you plan the date

[–]DalekJay3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

exactly what this dude said.

Also one argument I had with an EX was:

Ex: I want a new car"(expecting me to help)

Me: "ok, buy one, whats the problem" (playing dumb)

Ex: you should help me...

Me: no, I shouldn't, when I wanted to take you on a date, I payed was my desire, and if is your desire to buy a New car, go work hard and do it, I'm fine with this one, I'm in favor of you getting what you want, but not in favor of you getting what you want without fighting for it.

Months later you can use this same conversation but change car for house.

So, pay when you are the one planning the thing, you can't take her to a expensive restaurant and say "fuck off you pay yours" be reasonable.

A alpha won't do that...Sometimes is part of the game show that you have power and she don't...Use hypergamy in your favor. But little things of the day don't bother, also 80-20% randomly pay something so she know you aren't thinking in yourself.

[–]primordialbeast851 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I challenge the men to ask their women to take them out for dinner. Let them know you want them to take you out and that they will be footing the bill. Watch the hamster squirm.

[–]DalekJay-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

would be awesome, and you know, some dude reading your post will post a FR next week. I'm not cold enough, but someday I will be in this level os asskickery

[–]Billetbill1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

Good job for giving the purchase a second thought. I know a guy who is stuck with a car he doesn't want, paying a big lease every month because he signed for this lady's car. His "wife" left him with $30,000 dollars of debt after the break up. To boot, he moved here from Scotland and can't even get a Canadian drivers license for a few months. Expensive lawn ornament. Yep, don't be that guy.

[–]DalekJay0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Can you guess after we broke up, who is in debt?

Damn I feel bad for you friend, I hope he can get on his feet!

[–]crazydave1979 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow, I'll spring for dinner most of the time, but I don't think I've ever had a girl ask me to buy them a car..

[–]tombreck2 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Ex: you should help me...

Me: Does that work on other guys?

[–]DalekJay1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

hahhahha

but I said that way as a power talk to : "bitch, got work and I'm not your ATM" frame+Boundaries+Bucks is not easy taken.

But I will use yours in the future

[–]skripklubbin 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Pay when you want to. When you don't want to don't. It's not that complicated.

[–]Billetbill1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You should pay for her when a divorce lawyer tells you she owns half your assets. Lemme tell you bruh, you'll be fucked six ways from Sunday if you don't.

[–]Algermas1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Never. The only way im paying for female company is in a high quality Eastern European brothel.

[–]crazydave1979 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's your own personal preference.. I take my gf to dinner once or twice month, she cleans and does laundry.. It's ok to pay if there is a balance and both parties contribute in some way..

[–]BlackHeart890 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It depends on your funds. A few dollars don't mean anything to me if I can guarantee a lay from it. Even then if I fail, a few dollars don't matter.

How I determine on paying or not depends on the whole situation. What type of girl does she seem to be? How much money does she seem to have? Do I feel like running A-level game tonight? How bad do I want to go see this movie, knowing she doesn't have any money? Etc...

Just don't expect to get laid just because you spent money. You may end up being an orbiter.

[–]sphinx221[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Like hypothetically if we going to buy ice cream and the cashier sais 12.50 and she is making no movement to her purse. What can I say? If I say somthing will it make it awkward?

[–]last_to_know5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm gonna go against what others are saying. I think if you invite a girl out for coffee, a drink, or ice cream you should pay. If you ask her to slpit a $7.50 bill for coffee, you're going to look either poor, or cheap as fuck, neither of which are very sexy traits.

I'm not saying you should take her out for surf and turf, but for the small stuff I don't even worry about it. Just don't let them take advantage of it is all.

[–]Algermas2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What can I say?

Nothing, simply pay for your ice cream. She'll take the hint.

If I say somthing will it make it awkward?

Yes, you don't want to be with a girl who won't pay her own way, especially in the beginning. She thinks her Golden Vulva entitles her to special treatment, it doesn't - there are 3.5 billion more out there just like hers.

[–]primordialbeast850 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It is too late by then and it will be awkward. It is quite the bomb to drop on them. Let them be fully aware of your expectations and let them deliver or fail. A woman willing to buy you a dinner is a woman who is truly into you.

[–]PleaseThrowMeAway000 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Weird. I pay my own way the majority of the time just so they won't expect sex and I won't feel guilty not fucking them :x

[–]BlackHeart890 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

For little stuff like that, definitely pay. Don't even give her a chance to make a movement. Just do it. Whats $12? Nothing.

[–]ImaFagLookatme0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you enjoy her company, then pay for her only when she has given you sex.

[–]primordialbeast850 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

My new rule is that the woman must pay for the first date. Too many women are using guys for free dinners. If a woman is truly into you, she'll pony up the cash. A lot of women will waste your time and take multiple dinners and trips to the bar without ever planning on having sex. See her reaction to her spending her cash on you. Women are notoriously frugal when it comes from spending their own money on a man. If you can't get a date with a woman willing to pay your way better reason to go monk mode imo.

[–]crazydave1979 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I don't take women to dinner for a first date to begin with..

[–]Billetbill0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, that's what old married couples do on the last Sunday of every month. If I do happen to go out to eat, they can spend their money on a fucking taxi home if I have to pay for their meal.

[–]BlackHeart890 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Works for me. Sure. They make think they're going to get an LTR out of me, but they get too caught up in the chase, that I've gotten what I want and they get the boot once I get bored or aggravated.

Just never spend more than you're willing to lose.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you want to see her again then pay and tell her that she can get you back next time. Consider this payment up front for all the awesome sex you'll be having later. If sex isn't on the radar then neither should your wallet be.

If you don't want to see her again then either insist she pay or split the bill.

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