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Why won't she suck my dick?

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January 4, 2014
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Title Why won't she suck my dick?
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Upvotes 0
Comments 19
Date January 4, 2014 6:37 AM UTC
(12 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1udjaw/why_wont_she_suck_my_dick/
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[–]shakaldrogo 12 points13 points14 points 12 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Stop fucking going down on her. You're rewarding her for something you shouldn't. And before you bloody feminazis & manginas come in here spraying your diarrhea everywhere, if this was a man not going down on his girl/wife, you would tell her to stop as well so don't even get me fucken started.

As for you OP, use dread game. Be flirtatious with other girls (not extreme just enough to make her mind wander) in her presence (waiters,cashiers, etc..). Stop & refuse sex for about a week or two & take up a new hobby that week. You'll see miracles.

[–]_whistler 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

As for you OP, use dread game. Be flirtatious with other girls (not extreme just enough to make her mind wander) in her presence (waiters,cashiers, etc..).

And when you do this, don't be all passive-aggressive toward your girl with little comments like 'I bet she'd suck my dick'. When you do that, you make it about your girl. It needs to be about you, and the options you have aside from your girl.

[–]shakaldrogo 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This as well. Don't start being passive aggressive. She'll see right through it.

[–]ThePragmatist42 -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

This will only back fire on him. Women don't get pent up exactly the same way men do. If he stops having sex with her it'll set a new sex routine... Less sex. Not to mention it'll come across as him not being attracted to her which could turn her off even more. He needs to blow her mind with amazing oral, which he clearly isn't doing if he thinks she can do without it. I've found that after amazing oral sex on a woman she melts like butter and you can convince her to do anything, including making sandwiches.

To each their own.. But be careful with the advice above mine.

TRP really only needs one piece of advice. Learn how to give mind blowing oral sex on a woman and she will be yours for whatever you want.

[–]shakaldrogo 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm not saying this is the ONLY advice he should follow. All this advice given here are just tools. Find one that would fit for you & use it. Clearly there's something wrong that OP doesn't know about but if he keeps rewarding her for behaviour like this without knowing why, anytime she stops something, he will keep giving her oral & she''ll expect it because he's thought that giving her great oral everytime will solve everything. He's giving more & she's taking more & giving less.

[–]ThePragmatist42 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I see where are you going with this. I think we are on the same page just saying it differently. She has ownership over this situation. You are suggesting he take it back. Point taken.

[–]shakaldrogo 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Pretty much haha.

[–]puah8r 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I hope this is sarcasm

[–]ThePragmatist42 -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

It depends on if you want to maintain a huge list of women you can bang in the future or if you are purely interested in never seeing them again once you are done.

Manipulation is the key here.. But doing it by not being a dick is more important.

Look at it this way. OPs "girlfriend" has him coming onto a website to complain about not getting blow jobs anymore. Seriously? This is what having Frame means? To bitch about not getting bj's from your long distant girlfriend? And the advice given is to go for a tit for tat approach and act juvenile by withholding oral sex / sex in general? Doesn't that make him lose even more? Isnt the idea to get more sex, not less?

This girl has control of the OP. And she did it through, supposedly great BJs. If he stopped going down on her, do you think she'd go online and complain about not getting eaten out anymore? From the little that I gather, no probably not because she isn't enjoying it.

He needs to own the situation, not her. She should be begging HIM for oral sex in exchange for ANYTHING he wants. And she will only beg if it's mind blowing.

Learn to give mind blowing head to a woman, and you'll never have any problems. Most guys never take a girls needs into consideration. They are used to poor sex or not orgasming. Imagine the power you have over a woman (women) when she knows you can make her cum 10 times in an hour without even having to try.. That's what I'd consider having "Frame"

[–]JimmyTheIntern 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Long distance relationships are not relationships. It is nothing more than a way to make you waste your time and keep you on the hook while she's shopping for a better option in another city. You waste your money and free time traveling, and for what? A half-assed blowjob twice a month? Is that really worth ignoring every opportunity to meet women that live near you? And your plan is to not give her any sexual gratification the couple times that you see her until she starts putting in the effort? Yeah, she's just going to get sex elsewhere, if she wasn't already. Worst. Plan. Ever.

Unless the distance is a temporary situation, you should end the relationship. You are prolonging the inevitable. If you don't let this drag on, you can even leave with your pride intact. Don't do what I did and try to keep a relationship going indefinitely over long distance. You will fail. Either eliminate the distance or end it before she leaves you for another guy.

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[–]JimmyTheIntern 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The distance is not an issue at the moment.

"The moment" is a mere 1/8 of the way through her time at university. And you ARE having relationship problems that you can't adequately address because of the distance. It's an issue. That's the whole point of your post, really.

Look, kid, I know you want to think your relationship is an exception, but it isn't. Every couple I have seen that went off to school and added significant distance to a healthy relationship failed. Every single one. Often in that really ugly way with cheating and betrayal. That "fantastic pair bond" of yours will not survive for four years on digital communication and the occasional weekend sexcapade. You're already starting to have relationship problems, and if you think the distance isn't a factor in that, you're lying to yourself so you don't have to face the truth.

I hate to see another young guy fall for the lie of distance relationships, but maybe that is a lesson that can't be taught, only learned the hard way.

[–]Endorsed ContributorOccamsUsername 6 points7 points8 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Little/no reasoning.

You know that's bullshit. You explained the reason. Lock your phone or stop lying to us.

since I go down on her

If you give without getting MORE, evaluate that. You're supposed to be the leader, she owes you more in the sexual arena than you owe her.

My plan would be to refuse to go down on her, until she reciprocates

Try indifference rather than scheming. Plans that have a jilted/disrespected woman as a contingency are rarely reliable. You fucked up and she's punishing you because she doesn't respect you.

only see her a few days a month

TRP cannon says she's likely to "see" other men. There is no dedication without consistent mate guarding.

We fuck like rabbits when we see each other

Good.

so its not exactly like she's missing out on much if I dont go down on her.

Except the absence of your prior supplication.

I feel like this may be the beginning of a very slippery slope.

You're halfway down the macaroni slide.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

NEXT HER. If a girl decides to stop performing sexual acts with you that she enjoyed doing previously before she met you it is time to NEXT HER.

[–]frequentlywrong 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like the fact she won't go down on me is disrespectful, since I go down on her.

And you say you swallowed the pill? Situations and sentences like that don't come out of a man with frame.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Communicate with her and ask her how this incident has affected her, and whether it has disrupted the trust in your relationship.

Do not refuse sex or anything like that, it comes off as immature. She may have a reason to not do it that you haven't considered.

[–]ThePragmatist42 -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

If you really think she won't lose out if you stop going down on her, you aren't doing it right. Women would prefer good oral sex over great intercourse even if she can orgasm vaginally.

She probably used to give blowjobs in order to obtain affection and seem sensual. Now that she is comfortable with you she has realized it isn't enjoyable to her. I haven't know many woman that enjoy giving blow jobs for the sake of giving them, rather than some form of power/value.

Think about this.. Do you go down on her because you like to or because you know she likes it? I'm guessing you really enjoy doing it.

If you go for a tit for tat situation its only going to make her resent performing on you. You have to find some way to make it sensual or beneficial to her. If you don't you'll end up with a crappy bj and a less than great sexual experience.

[–]puah8r 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Going down on a woman isn't going to make her attracted to you. Doing anything for her isn't going to. The only real solution to this problem is don't be in an LDR lol. I'm assuming you pay money to go see her, and if you don't get the BJs you want, find a local girl who will give them to you. Problem solved.

[–]ThePragmatist42 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Then you've never made a woman's legs quiver from going down on her. I really hope some other guys can come on here and back me up. Imagine being able to do something to her that 99% of the other guys she has ever met can't do. Every time she is horny she'll think of you. She'll compare any guy she is with, to you. You can go back after not seeing her for 5 years and just whisper about licking her and her pants will come off faster than you can get an erection.

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