You can relapse (a rant about my recent experience)

[deleted] · 2016-06-03T03:50:45+00:00

You let down your guard and got played. Been there done that. Don't let it get to your head and don't let it happen again.

BlackJ1 · 2016-06-03T03:25:39+00:00

Texting should only be logistics.

If I talk about anything that's serious or involves emotions, it's going to be face to face.

chris_sydney · 2016-06-03T04:23:17+00:00

I honestly think that women are annoying. I would never text about some sissy bs. It's either about setting the meeting or is counting as foreplay.

of_mendez · 2016-06-03T07:31:02+00:00

I want to share something my dad told me once: with women, the only quality is in the quantity.

haha, good one

smokecheck1976 · 2016-06-03T04:09:15+00:00

She was just playing the game. The boyfriend isn't getting it done for her, whatever it happens to be. That is why she was flirting with you. This wasn't oneitis or anything else, you didn't read signals wrong. She indicated a possibility of something more through her actions and then drew it away. At worst she was being a cocktease. Block her number and move on.

Sir_Batu · 2016-06-03T10:26:46+00:00

Had a very similar situation with a girl from my university (I'm in Aeronautical Engineering and she isn't even in same faculty so no problem). Here is how it went:

TL;DR: Had a pseudo-date with a girl at third try, found out she had a boyfriend, had a talk with his boyfriend sometime after dropped her off, ghosted her after that day.

Full version:

Had a plan with her for a "friendly" dinner. I don't know what I was thinking then, but probably trying to get to know her better and be someone she wants maybe. I was and still am a Sigma with Beta tendencies. Anyway

First time, says something came up and tells to push it further.

Second time, similar to first time and I manage to get a more defined date for dinner.

Third time, no ditching, had somewhat good dinner and talk after that because we were looking for a store that had something that wasn't in other stores. I said there is one near, walked a lot, failed to find it and returning. The talk comes to boyfriend/girlfriend stuff someway that I don't remember and she says that she has a boyfriend and how he is the right person, bla bla bla. At the instant of that sentence a giant voice echoes in my mind saying "GTFO nicely and stop talking to her, can't get what we want". What I want at the time was a great friend who had interests similar to mine and I was unable to find someone like that because I wasn't in my hometown. She had that with nice body and face so I was A-OK with that.

Another thing that happened in that was this:

She had very low charge on her phone, and needed to call or text someone. So as how every "good guy" does, I did gave my phone to her and let her do her thing. Turns out that person was her boyfriend and even had a talk with him sometime after dropping her off. The talk was good at least, no hard confrontation and making clear that I was her friend and nothing more. Thanks from him to me for looking after her and closing on good terms.

Now you may say: "You did put some distance and kept seeing her, right?". And this may shock you, but I didn't stay around and ghosted her. Somewhat deliberate attempts to avoid at first but nothing big like walking more silently than usual when I see her and not seen by her. Had a few talks with her after that, and it turns out that I was successful about keeping my intents hidden. She thought and still thinks of me as a good friend. I know that this isn't an acceptable result, but it was a fuck up on my end and my end only. So cleaning was up to me, too.

I know that this is cringe, but at the time I didn't know better. Besides, with the tools I had at the time the job I did wasn't too shabby for ghosting and damage control part. And used few RP tactics too it turns out. Used texting for logistics, used 2/3 ratio for talking in person most of the time, let the talking flow under my guidance. Sadly no kino because wasn't aware of it and its importance at the time.

[deleted] · 2016-06-05T18:02:00+00:00

I have had the exact same shit happen to me with an ex, calling me in the middle of the night crying with her new guy at her place. Me being at 50% brain capacity i was not ready for a drunken confession of love, as she was crying I told her a bunch of stuff to make her feel better. Says she wants to talk and meet tomorrow, I get excited cause she is a solid 8 and great in bed. The next day she blocks my stuff and we havent spoken since. I wasnt even mad, she played it really well and got the attention and esteem boost she needed while probably making her new guy jealous. But it has really hit it home for me that whatever women say other than scientific statements can NEVER be taken at face value. Women have very different motivations for social interaction than men, allways remember that. I'm not sure wether women have real friendships like men for this reason, someone whom you would act selflessly for like how male friendships work.

kez88 · 2016-06-03T06:32:47+00:00

I'd argue if you're still relapsing and having these issues then you haven't mastered or even really internalised a lot of what TRP teaches. Theres levels to the understanding and it comes in different stages. Just keep going along the path

Stythe · 2016-06-03T16:29:18+00:00

I have a rule. That rule is two strikes then you're out. You get one fuck up where I straighten you out and another chance to prove youve learned. If it keeps happening I move on unless you make the effort. It works out really well for the most part.

Jax77789 · 2016-06-03T21:39:40+00:00

My take away from your story is that the moment you become genuinely nice and sweet it is going to backfire on your ass, sooner rather than later.

"Sweet" moves and displays of affection should only be done in a paternalistic fashion ( that is, with emotional distance) and in extreme moderation. I did not learn that the easy way.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2016-06-04T07:38:23+00:00

Ugh, happens to me every now and then. I never knew why or how before...at least now (TRP) I know why. I can even stop myself from turning blue if I catch it soon enough. Tonight my plate and I were discussing what problems we were having and I finally grew a pair and told her in plain language "You are not giving me what I want in a relationship. You don't treat me like your boyfriend thus I am not your boyfriend. You don't behave like my girlfriend and thus you are not my girlfriend." Her jaw dropped and the hamster lept from her pocket to run around the table. Her eyes welled up with disbelief and tears. It was fucking great. Next.

Title	You can relapse (a rant about my recent experience)
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Upvotes	17
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Date	June 3, 2016 2:21 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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