I feel that not enough of the newcomers have internalized that you should stop complaining, and that complaining is a tool you use to selectively change a factor bothering you.

When you think about it, complaining simply to complain does not do you very much good. Perhaps to complain makes you feel slightly better temporarily about whatever it is that is troubling you, but complaining in this sense doesn't fix the problem and simply makes you out to be a bickering, negative person. Complaining about unchangeable factors such as the sun or the color of the grass or perhaps the fact that your superior is better than you, will not get you anywhere and will, if anything, possibly put you in a worst position than where you were at.

You also shouldn't complain about factors that you do control. What good does complaining that you're out of shape? Do you think that once you complain, the complaint fairy flies out of his office and fixes whatever it is that troubles you? Instead of complaining about your standing point career wise, or your level of fitness, or your ability to attract woman, you should go out and actually try to fix these problems and improve yourself.

There is a transgression of the law. You might see this in all women. An attractive woman might complain of hunger, or thirst, or money, then POOF! A wild beta appears, with whatever demand she might have.

Men should use complaining selectively, but the proper way men should complain isn't really even complaining. If a man can't change a factor that troubles him, but somebody else can, then a man should complain- or rather bring to light the problem so that the person who can change this negative factor can do so. Complaining is too strong of a word because all you're really doing is making a mutual problem clear to someone who can change it.

For example, if the bathroom at your workplace is out of toilet paper, and you obviously aren't responsible for refilling it, you might alert a manager or custodian who can get toilet paper and put it in the bathroom for everyones benefit. Once again, this isn't really complaining but bringing light to a mutual problem.

Hopefully this was of some help to you all.