Long time lurker, I haven’t posted all that much here though. Spare me if my formatting is off by a lot but I’d love to share this here.

When you’re dating you should avoid complaining at all costs. No nagging, no complaining, don’t say anything that could be considered the above. It’s extremely anti-seductive to the person you’re seeing. If you’re wondering why you go on a few dates and it seems great but they don’t decide to go out with you again, take a look at what you say casually, ask your friends if you tend for complain a lot.

If they take you on a cheap date or a date that you don’t appreciate, hold your tongue and don’t complain, either leave or don’t go out with them again until they suggest something nicer and then agree to go out OR just drop them fully.

This can also apply in other areas of life. Try not to complain a lot when you first meet anyone, and try to hold your tongue about negative things that can’t be changed in 5 minutes or less.

It sets a negative tone for relationships to start on, you always want to keep things positive so people feel positive when they are around you.

There are 3 things you should do when you are about to complain about something,

  1. You can leave it (the date, your ex, your city)
  2. You can change it (doesn’t work on people, but you can change jobs, diets, schedules)
  3. Accept it (accept it’s a bad date, accept the fallacies of your city), if you choose this then you really need to accept it and all of its flaws. But you can’t complain and not choose one of those options.

Thanks for reading this post, I hope it’s helpful.