Hi my fellow queens,

I (25f) have been following FDS for a while and it has massively helped me level up. I have two accomplished, sweet, good-looking men pursuing me and treating me like a queen (a first in my life). A bit too soon to say that they are HVM but both have definitely showed only green flags so far, and are super interested in me. They always initiate conversations, invest in my life, and take care of me. I am definitely more interested in Guy A (M26) than Guy B (M23) as we seem to be more compatible and have similar interests but will keep on vetting both of them. I have only been on one date with each of the guys. I met Guy A through OLD and Guy B through mutual friends at a party, so have hung out with Guy B more, but not as dates.

I know FDS recommends dating multiple men at the same time before they ask for commitment and I want to do that but I feel super guilty doing it. I haven’t gone sexual with either of them. I get good morning messages and sweet texts from both of these men which is a great thing to have, but there’s this guilt that eventually, I am going to pick one (probably Guy A) and lead the other one on, purely because I found someone better.

How do you girls deal with it? Is there anything specific that has helped you? Do you tell those guys that you’re speaking to other men? And when you do break it off, what reason do you give?

Thanks girls for your advice!