How to proceed

james-the-professor · 2023-01-15T22:37:10+00:00

I am now concerned at spending more time/energy/effort/hours of my weekend renovating this house ...

Then don't do it. For fucks sake put yourself first.

If you aren't comfortable with the idea of buying a bigger house together, then don't do it.

Have a conversation and let her know that you have been reflecting and you aren't feeling comfortable with it at this point in time.

Then, get your shit in order.

You say yourself you are Mr. Nice Guy ... Sounds like you caused these problems. Dig yourself out.

It doesn't matter if you stay or leave the relationship, you have the same work to do either way. Don't ask the internet strangers what you should do with regards to staying or leaving. Man up, make some time to reflect and put yourself first.

Remington-Holmes · 2023-03-10T22:49:52+00:00

Don't double down on a bad investment.

When a 'girlfriend' is not banging or barely banging you and that bothers you, then the message to understand is that she doesn't feel like banging you.

What to do? Whining about lack of sex will only reinforce her feelings. Like a single guy (that in reality you are), one of your challenges is to find one or more lovers. To do that, it helps to be bangable - be attractive, don't be unattractive. You can't buy love, and you can't make a woman want to bang you.

When you're not getting banged, stop trying to please a specific woman enough to want to bang you. It reeks of desperation, and in reality it's almost as effective as whining about a lack of sex. Even if you say nothing, if you're being servile and /or holding a grudge about a lack of intimacy, it will be painfully transparent to the woman. The next level of self-sabotage to eliminate is to be making efforts (that you don't really want to do) for any woman, just to access sex.

The solution: live life like a single man. Set your priorities like a single man. You want to go out and do something interesting, but a 'your' frigid woman tries to manipulate you to change your plans for her - what would a single man do? If a woman tries, anger shaming or emotional manipulation to change his mind, a single man doesn't care.

Bottom line, when a woman knows she doesn't want to bang you (and she doesn't), she'll put in place logistics, lie and do everything possible to avoid sleeping with you. She might want to sleep with you if you become bangable. Can you be bothered to put in the effort to do that? If you put in the effort to become bangable for her, it will fail. What has a chance of working is living the life of a successful, attractive and interesting single man. You will know that you're on the right path when other women show interest in you. You'll be well on the path when women often show interest, and you don't need their validation.

Remington-Holmes · 2023-03-10T22:50:14+00:00

Don't double down on a bad investment.

When a 'girlfriend' is not banging or barely banging you and that bothers you, then the message to understand is that she doesn't feel like banging you.

What to do? Whining about lack of sex will only reinforce her feelings. Like a single guy (that in reality you are), one of your challenges is to find one or more lovers. To do that, it helps to be bangable - be attractive, don't be unattractive. You can't buy love, and you can't make a woman want to bang you.

When you're not getting banged, stop trying to please a specific woman enough to want to bang you. It reeks of desperation, and in reality it's almost as effective as whining about a lack of sex. Even if you say nothing, if you're being servile and /or holding a grudge about a lack of intimacy, it will be painfully transparent to the woman. The next level of self-sabotage to eliminate is to be making efforts (that you don't really want to do) for any woman, just to access sex.

The solution: live life like a single man. Set your priorities like a single man. You want to go out and do something interesting, but a 'your' frigid woman tries to manipulate you to change your plans for her - what would a single man do? If a woman tries, anger shaming or emotional manipulation to change his mind, a single man doesn't care.

Bottom line, when a woman knows she doesn't want to bang you (and she doesn't), she'll put in place logistics, lie and do everything possible to avoid sleeping with you. She might want to sleep with you if you become bangable. Can you be bothered to put in the effort to do that? If you put in the effort to become bangable for her, it will fail. What has a chance of working is living the life of a successful, attractive and interesting single man. You will know that you're on the right path when other women show interest in you. You'll be well on the path when women often show interest, and you don't need their validation.

Title	How to proceed
Author	betabuxbitch
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	January 12, 2023 4:21 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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