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| 2 | Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriageLOL. You can prevent a baby from learning to settle itself and sleep without a parent around. Like wives, babies learn. Be ‘nice’ and risk facing the consequences | /r/askMRP | 12/10/25 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriageA boundary is only a boundary if there are consequences. If breaking a boundary is ‘punished by anger and words’ only, it’s not a boundary. Women consider men in such a way as men consider jobs. You would do well to manage her, more as though she were an employee. Would you tolerate this from an employee? Would you get angry with an employee, but let them get away without any real consequences? If you did, would you be surprised if they repeated the behaviour? Reward good behaviour intermittentl… | /r/askMRP | 10/10/25 09:54 PM |
| 6 | Changing in dynamics or just being autistic?You’re fat (unattractive), apparently negotiating sex (unattractive), and the fiancee is likely feeling manipulatively pressured for sex. Goal: become lean and muscular, have options and be genuinely OI regarding sex. Intimacy and game become about having fun and excitement | /r/askMRP | 29/08/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Is this "anxious wife", tough times, or uninterested woman?It’s only a LTR if the girl wants that rather than fun. At 25, why the rush to ruin his life with a LTR? Have fun, learn the ropes and build value | /r/askMRP | 19/08/25 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Wife says I don't have the right lookRealise that if you live in the US, almost all food is metabolic poison. If you want to improve heath and lose fat the make your own meals. Drop processed foods, restaurant and fast food rubbish and eat high quality meats and organic fruit, veg and dairy. Drop the carbs, and especially anything containing high fructose syrup | /r/askMRP | 19/08/25 10:14 PM |
| 2 | Red flag from LTR. Overreaction or cause for concern?Years in the RP space, yet you are nowhere in integrating the MRP sidebar. You’re arguing with ‘the girl’ about another girl hitting on you? Was it perhaps a shit test? What do you think it reveals about your masculine nature, your self-confidence, your neediness, your game or basic assertiveness? I thought I was stupid for what I did previously in my own marriage. | /r/askMRP | 19/08/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Relationship, splitting costs and cleaningAny money you spend on a woman should be without any covert contracts. In any case you're not married and you don't have kids and she has a reasonable job. Sounds like there is no reason to blow loads of money on her. If you're blowing loads of money on her and you don't want to then it's your fault for having a weak frame, tying to make her happy so that you can have a trouble free life without conflict. There are pros and cons with women that have some money. Pro: they should be able to pay th… | /r/askMRP | 01/10/24 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Relationship, splitting costs and cleaningRead Practical Female Psychology. That statement is "an early frame announcement". That doesn't mean that it's not up for 'frame negotiation', however she was seeking to set a baseline frame for the start of a relationship. That doesn't mean that it cannot be changed, that she wouldn't be prepared to clean. It could have been total bullshit, a joke or pure shit test. As with frame generally, if you accept that element of frame (don't treat it as cheeky nonsense, ignore it, or state that it doesn… | /r/askMRP | 01/10/24 01:55 PM |
| 1 | What exactly is a shit test/comfort test and how do you pass them?Think of it as a joking, bad faith, accidental or unconscious testing of a (potential) relationship boundary. Just as guys might 'rib' each other for fun, but also to establish whether or not the other guy is weak, needy, duplicitous or full of shit, so a woman will consciously or unconsciously test a man. Continuously fail the tests from other guys, and they will see you as weak, useless, no fun, untrustworthy, and without any self-respect and so it is with a woman. She will also be viscerally … | /r/askMRP | 25/09/24 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Wife proposed an open marriage. Would you say this is same as, or worse than, ILYBINILWY?Branch swings work best when you're swinging from a safe and stable branch. It's time to be out for yourself. OYS, lift weights, eat healthily, dress well, and stop trying to please the wife. Live as though she were dead. | /r/askMRP | 20/09/24 09:11 PM |
| 2 | What if I'm not amused right now?Do you have to speak until your woman indicates that you've given the correct response? It sounds like you're asking for a cheat code. It's not the words that count, but whether the person saying those words is desirable, owns his shit, has frame, is not needy for pussy and knows he has options if the woman misbehaves. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/24 06:45 PM |
| 1 | A cry for helpThis is why the experienced guys bang on about OI, covert contracts and frame. It's just not obvious to us when we're clueless. It takes thought, reading and re-reading, improving physical attractiveness, experimentation and observation to understand how it all fits together. When you 'get it' you'll understand how being needy or scared set you up for failure, and you understand the process of how you build your own frame, by ceasing to validate the wife's frame. Chip, by chip you can undermine … | /r/askMRP | 13/08/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | A cry for helpI have a much better behaved, sexual and happier wife. I'm no longer deliberately seeking other plates, but I've learnt my lesson: I'm no longer limiting myself to one woman, not even making it conditional upon good behaviour. Why? It keeps me OI and there is no covert contract around sex. I noticed that the wife can spot that covert contract a mile away and it's like a switch changing her behaviour. | /r/askMRP | 13/08/24 08:08 AM |
| 8 | A cry for helpYou're deep in her frame. You value her opinion of your character above your own. It seems that in doing so, you are allowing her to play you like a fiddle. She cannot actually touch that metaphorical fiddle, you're actually doing it to yourself because you live in her frame. If you had already built a strong frame, anything she said would be entirely impotent. They would be the words of a silly girl, you might consider it to be funny or irrelevant, or perhaps nonsense words from someone tired, … | /r/askMRP | 10/08/24 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Seeking Advice After a Painful Breakup: where to start to fix myself?Stating what should be obvious: MRP applies in Muslim relationships too. From what little I know, all sorts of muslim teachings regarding male/female relationships align with MRP praxeology. Much the same could be said about what is written in the bible (not to be confused of the ever changing religion of wokery that is taught at many churches) | /r/askMRP | 07/08/24 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Seeking Advice After a Painful Breakup: where to start to fix myself?In a relationship, the person that considers he needs the other the least holds the power. Don't be needy. Own your shit, sidebar and lift. Build your own happy confident and successful life before taking on a woman (for long term commitment). Watch a woman's actions, rather than listening to the words. If she wants you, she'll make all sorts of changes and sacrifices to make it happen. If the woman expects you to make all the changes to accommodate her, then she's not serious. Religion and soci… | /r/askMRP | 07/08/24 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Do you “learn” game, or just practice it?It sounds as though the interaction you wanted was just some sex life related mission, and you would not have been OI, but loaded with covert contract. Women can sniff that stuff a mile away. If you're unattractive, that would make you really creepy | /r/askMRP | 03/08/24 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Do you “learn” game, or just practice it?Have you read "No More Mister Nice Guy" and "Book of Pook"? Do you know what a covert contract is? Do you understand the concept of Outcome Independence? | /r/askMRP | 02/08/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Unsure how to handle this.So you have had a number of other women, no problem....but only this one that you chose to settle down with. Perhaps you settled with her because she's 'a good girl', a Madonna, not a whore????? | /r/askMRP | 19/07/24 09:47 PM |
| 1 | FR: the you are changing talk and progress reportShe's giving you a little teasing/shit testing. Think of it as verbal foreplay. If you respond with comfort and compliance, you fail and you'll extinguish her desire. The parts of shit testing regarding you changing are about you becoming less predictable and it makes her a little anxious because you're getting out of a comfortable routine and making yourself more attractive to her competition. Being forced to deal with that takes time, energy, comfort, power and effort from her.....even though … | /r/askMRP | 09/07/24 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Firestorm erupts over requiring women to sign up for military draftEqual rights. Bankers, politicians and elite families first. All their assets are then redistributed amongst the masses | /r/MensRights | 22/06/24 08:19 AM |
| 6 | [FR] - BustedShitty comfort test passed by not being a little bitch, crying, begging, etc. and the comfort of sex plus a little attention. Fail the test, lose all frame and the girl will either leave, or stay white being a total bitch because you have convinced her that you're 1) weak, 2) don't have better choices, and 3) it's all your fault and you deserve it....and she would most likely be correct | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/24 06:43 PM |
| 20 | [FR] - BustedShitty comfort test passed by not being a little bitch, crying, begging, etc. and the comfort of sex plus a little attention. Fail the test, lose all frame and the girl will either leave, or stay white being a total bitch because you have convinced her that you're 1) weak, 2) don't have better choices, and 3) it's all your fault and you deserve it....and she would most likely be correct | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/06/24 06:43 PM |
| 4 | Help with dread in the context of WHMI'll let you in on a MRP secret: Left, left, right right, up, down, triangle! If that fails, install a cheat plugin. | /r/askMRP | 10/06/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Wife will become a SAHM, what are the challenges with this?Wife needs to earn her keep. That means being a mother, as well as a wife. If you lift and eat properly (part of having a proper wife and mother that cooks proper meals from identifiable ingredients) and you have frame, game, and own your shit, you should also have a lover. If you do your part and the woman isn't a lover, you're prepared to find that elsewhere. If you have frame, lift and own your shit, she shouldn't be shocked or terribly upset of she's not banging you, so you have 'lovers'. | /r/askMRP | 09/06/24 02:19 PM |
| 1 | LTR ending, gf has OCDI was fat because my diet was full of sugars, industrial oils, maybe alcohol, and highly refined carbs. All your relationships are like that because you have no frame, and therefore you live in her frame | /r/askMRP | 09/06/24 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Book of Pook 1Some of the most important elements of Pook are: - be fun and enjoy yourself - don't be needy (especially for women/sex) - Don't take women (too) seriously - Eat well and lift | /r/askMRP | 09/06/24 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Best practice on giftingGood gifts include the following: - Power rack and barbell set - Chainsaw - Tablesaw | /r/askMRP | 07/06/24 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Help me with some MRP topics!It's difficult to get a feeling for the interactions without the vocal intonations and body language, however consider this: When you're being hit with the remarks about other women, try just having fun with it. STFU when she has raised the topic of sex sounds like an opportunity to tease, and be suggestive. Make sure you're applying regularly non-sexual kino, and sexual kino that it works. It sex is always the same, take a look at Sex God Method. Try to play with her mind to get her anticipatin… | /r/askMRP | 05/06/24 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Wife's kink is struggling.Your description makes you sound boring and vanilla, looking for a very limited sexual experience. Read SexGod Method. Much of womens' sexual experience lies within their head's. Make it an experience, help her to feel emotions, thrills, including that of being powerless and dominated. If you want to get the sexual best from her, don't think of the wrestling stuff as a tiresome boring prelude to getting what you want. Think of it as an opportunity to play with your prey, to toy with her, to make… | /r/askMRP | 03/06/24 11:44 PM |
| 9 | Girls nights out etc..Newly single women have a terrible habit of sabotaging their girlfriend's lives. Why mope in your own misery, when you can spread it around? Your wife will probably be living vicariously through their emotions, breaking away from her own 'boring' and 'mundane' life and perhaps getting all the gossip about the excitement of meeting new guys. One of the better ways to deal with a wife that is bored and thinking of having fun with new guys is to distract her. How can that be done? By making her anx… | /r/askMRP | 03/06/24 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Help me with some MRP topics!You didn't give your height, but you're very light and your lifts are still low. Sure your bodyfat is low, but skeletal is only a marginally better look than skinny fat. You say you have no mission, apart from looking for sex (and validation). Upon that basis, being OI will prove to be a challenge. No matter what you do or how you try to act under that mindset, the wife will see through your bullshit. She knows that you're weak and dependent on her for sex. Weak because nobody else is throwing t… | /r/askMRP | 03/06/24 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Hamster spinning too fastThe thing that I really needed to change in my mindset (and apart from the physical attractiveness) was to: 1) kill the oneitis (basically don't look upon the woman as a permanent unchangeable fixture in your life). The woman only has a place as long as she has earned it by delivering enough value. There are other women, and you can have attractive interactions with them and will not allow yourself to be shamed for it (you judge yourself). 2) Stop being 'nice'. Identify and kill the covert contr… | /r/askMRP | 24/10/23 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Hamster spinning too fastYour story tells of someone that plays 'nice-guy' game, sacrificing your own best interests to appease a girlfriend with a bunch of attached covert contracts. Eventually when the lack of fulfilment of those covert contracts goes too far, you snap and kick the girl out. You need to read 'No More Mister Nice Guy' to understand how that screws up relationships and sabotages your self interest. You need to read When I Say No I Feel Guilty, to learn assertivenrss tools to better deal with people and … | /r/askMRP | 24/10/23 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Hamster spinning too fastJacktenofhearts (awesome old poster) had a post about helping a completely lost wife find a way out of her hampster maze. It's worth considering whether the wife is too lost (thinks it is already too late to fix and thus not worth trying), to work her way out and needs guidance, or whether she is too lazy, and/or spoiled, and not worth any more investment 'to fix'. That's your choice, but remember that it's worth taking a good look at your own strengths weaknesses first, and improve yourself. If… | /r/askMRP | 23/10/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Hamster spinning too fastJust a guess, but the shit test is there to get a measure of the following: Are you so weak, that you can be manipulated with anger, or playing wounded (i.e. are you under her control)? Are you just doing your own thing, because it's genuinely what you want, or are you doing it because you're looking for her replacement? Your frame may have a significant impact upon her effort, but that assumes 1) She values you enough to keep and make an effort, 2) Your frame demonstrates a possibility that you… | /r/askMRP | 22/10/23 09:37 PM |
| 3 | "Solve the fight" - learning from a mistakeDiscourse is optional. You have an assertive right to choose to engage in conversation as you wish. Just because an emotional female demands your attention doesn't mean that she deserves it. Consider it the female equivalent of a man following his wife around the home any time he chooses, with a boner and expecting her to fuck right that very moment. | /r/askMRP | 20/10/23 06:13 PM |
| 10 | Hamster spinning too fast"Trust issues" and histrionics are manipulative attempts to control frame and 'the relationship' (I.e. you). At best, restoring her trust is a matter of making you unattractive and to eliminate competition and reduce her anxiety. At worst it's about sending you on a lifelong mission to find out what she wants and try to deliver it, at the same time sniping, bitching, complaining, playing wounded and still stating there is a trust issue. If you want a satisfying life do the fogging, amused master… | /r/askMRP | 14/10/23 09:57 PM |
| 15 | I think it's too late"Not feeling safe with you", "Not feeling emotionally connected" is par for the course for a woman in a relationship. It also aligns with the wife seeking attention from another man. Read Practical Female Psychology. Read carefully the sections related to 11 stages of manipulation, and betatisation. 'The Relationship' are clearly well along the track and the wife is heading towards 'self determination' Carefully consider the section of the book describing emotional flooding and double binds. You… | /r/askMRP | 09/10/23 08:50 PM |
| 3 | [FR] the Panty Drop PauseThat was a response to Flaky Daikon, not a direct response to your post (_RPeed). The original post is solid - good content. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/10/23 05:52 AM |
| 9 | [FR] the Panty Drop PausePeople don't really 'lose frame', or 'hold frame'. You either have frame or you don't. Sounds like you would benefit from seeking out and identifying your covert contracts, so that you can become outcome independent. Once you have achieved OI, the wife can no longer push those buttons (to failure) with shit tests. Once you've achieved OI, the shit test resolves itself (as automated behaviour on your behalf) with zero effort. The whole point of a shit test is to throw shit at you to test you for … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/10/23 08:51 PM |
| 13 | [FR] MRP explains my entire marriageValidation seeking (dancing monkey) is not alpha and doesn't work. You might think that doing an activity because it's something you genuinely want to do FOR YOURSELF is the same as doing it for the wife's attention, however that is manipulative nice-guy behaviour and your wife will most probably FEEL the difference. You'll probably only properly understand after failing the dancing monkey routine and successfully rebuilding your frame. FWIW, someone that plays the guitar for pleasure, doesn't b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/10/23 08:29 PM |
| 5 | Should I STFU or address disrespect?Others had said what needs to be said. When it comes to respect, however, it is earned. If you have to demand it, then you'll never actually earn it. At best you'll get cowering compliance. Respect can be earned through demonstrating competence, and not seeking validation from others. When demanding 'respect' you consider that you're worthy of respect while the other person clearly doesn't think so. So what makes you worthy of that respect? Is it because you're delivering considerable value to t… | /r/askMRP | 03/10/23 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Haven't talked in 5 daysBeta is fine, as long as you are getting enough value in return for what you're giving. If you want to have a good sex life, then you need to add plenty of alpha (including not being fat, adding muscle, dressing well, not being weak, needy, validation seeking, and killing oneitis, and living for your own self interest). The consensus seems to be that once the wife is cheating, the marriage is beyond repair. I haven't experienced that, but I have no reason to doubt that it's true. | /r/askMRP | 30/09/23 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Lack of sex after first kid?Frame is everything. This needs to be about the man not the woman. It should be about what he wants FOR HIMSELF, and not what about what the wife will do. If he chooses to communicate anything, it ought to be that he expects to get his needs met one way or another. It should not be about expectations about the wife meeting his needs. If we learn anything in this space, it is that women are more than capable of not meeting the traditional expectations of a husband. What will the husband do when t… | /r/askMRP | 27/09/23 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Why do men supplicate and use desperation tactics 25% more than women?At a local level that isn't necessarily the case, depending upon where you're talking about. In any case, that point was in relation to many men that whine about how men used to be more highly appreciated in the 50s and 60s. Many men were killed or maimed in war. That was enough to swing the balance significantly in favour of men that were alive and not handicapped. Many women were left without a man. Those that wanted one had greater incentive to make the effort to compete against other women t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/09/23 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Haven't talked in 5 daysThis may or may not be a terrible woman, but YOU get the behaviour that you tolerate. There are covert contracts here about how you expect the woman to treat your kids, and how you expect her to think of them. Notice that you live in her frame. You back her up, but she doesn't back you up with the parenting. This is validating her. When you notice the lack of consistency with your kids, then you try 'discussing it with her' in the hope of convincing the woman.....but it fails and then you act li… | /r/askMRP | 26/09/23 09:42 AM |
| 16 | Why do men supplicate and use desperation tactics 25% more than women?1) Terrible lies and bad advice in media, much due tl modern feminism 2) oneitis and lack of abundance mentality for women (than women have for men) 3) Female manipulation of men in the stages of a relationship (read Practical Female Psychology) 4) Idea of traditional gender roles in a relationship that don't necessarily apply any longer (if the guy has no frame) 5) Mechanisation and automation eliminating the need for human muscle, and building of masculine men 6) Little war in the Western worl… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/23 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Asset ProtectionI said weaponising, but perhaps a 'poison pill' might be a better description. This might be more applicable to assets and valuation of a business that you own, but who knows, it might also be workable for other structures in different parts of the world. That is to say something where you can pull the strings to reduce the accounting value of the asset if the 'future bitch' chooses to exit. The approach works even better if the asset is difficult for authorities to accurately value, or where it… | /r/askMRP | 22/09/23 06:17 PM |
| 2 | I(35m) caught wife(37f) seeking feelings elsewhereThat sounds more plausible. The agoraphobia needs to be dealt with. I'll say nothing more about that, but I would guess that like getting over many hangups, it can be best dealt with by getting in shape, and splitting a huge challenge into many small steps and building healthier habits. Getting out is probably easier when doing something you love. Also bear in mind that weakness disgust women. It's best to deal with it, and the worst of all is to do nothing while making loads of excuses. I'm not… | /r/askMRP | 22/09/23 04:01 PM |
| 5 | I(35m) caught wife(37f) seeking feelings elsewhereYou seem to know where you have gone wrong, and it sounds like you have done some reading. Just remember that if you play silly games, you're likely to win silly prizes. What you need to do now is own your shit. You're pretty strong, but are you still a little fat? It sounds like you didn't have anything much of a mission or hobbies, and a fat wife suggests that she has felt under no competitive pressure to stay slim or maybe that is a lack of frame or leadership on your behalf? Perhaps she trie… | /r/askMRP | 22/09/23 03:06 PM |
| 7 | Asset Protection1) You're probably on safer ground if you work within the scope of what would be legally protected, rather than trying to be clever and hiding things that can be discovered. 2) Depending on where you live you can consider using things such as trusts. 3) Such planning is possibly largely only useful for people that begin with substantial assets - for you to get advise on, for your circumstances 4) Where much is at stake, one party could weaponise legislative systems by moving to a different state… | /r/askMRP | 22/09/23 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Any one feel like they started going backwards after lots of progress?Indeed, look for the covert contracts and also remember women don't always want a guy to fix their problems. Often women just want their emotions 'heard'. That's just a way they can feel connected. Just don't take it too far and become an emotional tampon. Fogging can be your friend. | /r/askMRP | 18/09/23 05:52 PM |
| 11 | Any one feel like they started going backwards after lots of progress?You don't want to be measuring YOUR PROGRESS by the reactions of your wife. That stinks of a huge and unattractive covert contract and a dancing monkey routine. Part of that reveals itself as bitterness, resentfulness and frustration in how you behave. None of that is fun or attractive. You are quite possibly validating/reinforcing your negative mental model of the wife, and bringing that very thing into existence. It's not always easy to achieve, but DNGAF can be your friend. Have you tried loo… | /r/askMRP | 18/09/23 05:54 AM |
| 16 | Why don’t you cum inside me this time?You don't sound like you're enjoying 'the relationship'. The way to enjoy life is to focus on yourself as opposed to the nice-guy bullshit. The wife sounds like she enjoys the benefit of her beta bucks husband. Put in the effort, read the sidebar, think about your interactions with women (and men in a non-sexual way) relate to your behaviours as you improve yourself. Lift heavy weights and clean up your diet if needed and be more selfish. Let people see how awesome and interesting you are and le… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/23 08:47 PM |
| 75 | Why don’t you cum inside me this time?One might wonder if even the first kid is yours. Get a paternity test for that one too | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/23 07:37 PM |
| 3 | An ex-wife that enthusiastically followed?Make yourself the focus of your own life, do the work to keep lean, muscular, own your shit and do things you enjoy......then don't fall back into the nice-guy shit when you meet new women. You know what? If you're fun, healthy, attractive and selfish and they don't want you - doesn't matter there are plenty more. | /r/askMRP | 12/09/23 07:26 PM |
| 2 | An ex-wife that enthusiastically followed?Like with Briffault's law, anything done previously during the relationship is taken for granted and forgotten. Maybe the woman screwed you over, destroyed your life, leaving you penniless and living in a cardboard box. That's all forgotten because she fed you. That makes her a wonderful person. The hamster is happy and you had an amical separation that she can spin to anyone that will lend an ear. She can spin the yarn that you 'grew apart' and it was nobody's fault. She's a wonderful woman, af… | /r/askMRP | 12/09/23 11:31 AM |
| 32 | Avoid arguments. Focus on your MAP.Rather than saying the above, OP could say: - Don't be needy, be Outcome Independent. - Look after yourself properly and first - Unapologetically live as though you're always ready replace your woman - Become the one that is more ready and willing to walk away from the relationship - Don't let yourself be baited into stupid arguments. Arguing and even talking is a choice, and you have an assertive right not to engage in any argument, or to not take any argument seriously. When arguing with a wom… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/23 09:21 PM |
| 11 | Conflicted About Potential LTR and Male FriendsJust as long as you can rationalise away all the red flags, It'll be ok. Note for any people that are particularly autistic: the above is pure sarcasm. This woman sounds like fine plate potential. Why would any man of value want to start out with a woman that isn't dedicated to him (already has the child of another man, that you will no doubt be expected to invest your precious time and resources into? There is also a certain likelihood that this woman is older than you. If so, that's not a grea… | /r/askMRP | 03/09/23 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Talk to me nice or don't talk at all.OP couldn't 'hold frame'....... because his hands were full | /r/askMRP | 31/08/23 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 22, 2023Not only employing peer pressure as a manipulation, but it also sounds like it was also combined with some amount public humiliation, disrespect and a demonstration of dominance + social dominance. I'll leave OP to judge for himself how much disrespect and dominance were being demonstrated.....but good for calling that shit out. It is something that could potentially be done in a sweet respectful and fun way by a woman that adores her man, but more likely it's a red flag statement of dominance a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/08/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?Be conscious that "You don't love me!" Is a shitty comfort test. It is also a double bind (see Practical Female Psychology). That is a shit test that you cannot win, if you go along with it. The solution is not to engage seriously. Either don't engage with it, or don't take it seriously - have fun with it. If you take it seriously, you can't say 'no, I don't love you' and if you say 'Yes, I do love you', you are making the woman your judge and giving her the power to beat you with her judgement. | /r/askMRP | 28/08/23 08:35 AM |
| 3 | Wife wants to have a heart to heart ritual. Advice?As I said previously, read Practical Female Psychology and for this instance learn about arguing with emotional women. It is just a stupid thing to do, particularly if you live in that woman's frame. You are not having a logical argument, you are trying to argue with the feelings of that woman. The advice from NMMNG and tools in WISNIFG are useful for those situations, but it really just needs some basic assertiveness once you realise you are being called to engage with the negative emotions. Yo… | /r/askMRP | 27/08/23 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?Whatever you do, don't listen to their words concerning what will turn them on....... because it is most likely bullshit. In any case, romance is a sparingly applied reward for good behaviour and sexual enthusiasm. Without the sexual enthusiasm, you're being asked to treat the woman like a princess, spending (wasting) your precious time, attention, validation, presence and resources on her with a vague promise that she will be sexual. Biffault's law applies there. Any past agreement she has made… | /r/askMRP | 27/08/23 11:19 AM |
| 2 | So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?In that case, sounds like you're getting some combination of comfort tests, maybe shitty comfort tests and as ever some shit tests. NMMNG and WISNIFG will explain how to remain assertive and not fall into the girl's frame. Practical Female Psychology will explain the relationship dynamics with the experience of ex pick-up artists that have been trying to make longer term relationships work. It will join the dots between pickup game and relationship game and provide a structured explanation for t… | /r/askMRP | 26/08/23 11:46 AM |
| 1 | So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?So you're a young guy. If the figures can be believed, fat is under control and you're strong with little muscle mass. You used to have multiple girls, but now you have oneitis, and apparently you have well progressed along the betatisation process and presumably the sex has dropped off a cliff and the girl is seeking communication and trying to put you to work. You are concerned about being a drunk captain. Do you even want to be a captain at 27 years? You are not married and you have no kids. … | /r/askMRP | 26/08/23 09:04 AM |
| 4 | So I'm the Drunk Captain. How do I know identify structural improvements v. something that only makes me more of a plowhorse?Which drunk captain are you? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2yrxtp/the_three_dysfunctional_captains_and_first/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2 What are your stats (age, height, weight, deadlift, squat, bench press, body fat percentage)? | /r/askMRP | 25/08/23 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Is it as simple as choosing power?Sidebar and lift. You're scared of what other people think of you? That's right at the start of the sidebar! NMMNG and WISNIFG. Nobody gives a shit about you, so stop living in their heads. You have wants and needs, so focus on those rather than serving the interests of others. When you have abundance, will you be weak, scared and undersirable? | /r/askMRP | 25/08/23 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Questions about my frame.Well at least you said thanks. Notice that you did also DEER to a random internet stranger, and it does certainly sound as though it triggered you to a certain extent. Let me explain that part of 'the game' at MRP is to practice not getting triggered by real feedback or just random provocation. That's because if a random idiot of an internet stranger can trigger your emotions and a response, then imagine what a professional manipulator (woman in a relationship that knows you) can get you to do. … | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 07:39 PM |
| 5 | Was this a comfort test, shit test or smth else? And was this progress og regression? And how retarded did I manage it?14 days ago is ancient history. When an emotional woman 'vents' she's telling you what she feels, and perhaps rationalised some logic for why she feels that way. If feelings are negative, them find someome to blame it upon. She is entitled to her feelings, but you don't make her have any of those feelings - that's on her. Part of a woman's manipulations is to offload the responsibility for her feelings onto her guy, and if he's weak and needy enough, then she can control him through his 'ownersh… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Questions about my frame.Masses of covert contracts and rationalisations. The other chaps have already called you out on much of the bullshit. "I'm fat because of my thesis" Seriously? I guess your thesis locked you up, and force fed you with junk food? The only times that I have added any fat is when I HAVE BEEN EATING TOO MUCH PROCESSED FOOD AND I HAVE CHOSEN TO BE SEDENTARY. Consider that and apply it to everything in your life. By your own admission you are fat, everyone can see that you're loaded with covert contra… | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Covert ContractsAny stated expectation concerning 'the wife' is mostly (not completely) worthless and best done as an early frame announcement in a new relationship. Such a statement would be better made in a way that is Outcome Independent - namely that YOU will expect to have regular sex, and that the wife has first call on your libido. If she loses interest, then you will fuck other women. I would also recommend that to be combined with your statement that the woman will be kicked to the kerb if she cheats. | /r/askMRP | 24/08/23 09:39 AM |
| 3 | In a LTR with 23f who wants to get tattoos. Am I overthinking something that I initially thought was a red flag?By reading the books and lifting some weights, a young woman will only do what you want of her. Or perhaps women are only as loyal as their options. | /r/askMRP | 21/08/23 07:27 PM |
| 4 | In a LTR with 23f who wants to get tattoos. Am I overthinking something that I initially thought was a red flag?Is 'she' 'the one'? | /r/askMRP | 21/08/23 07:24 PM |
| 2 | FR: Getting Caught'Accepting your fate' sounds incredibly passive and directionless. No assertiveness detected. Suggestion: Read the sidebar booklist and learn. Start from the top with NMMNG and WISNIFG | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/23 08:17 PM |
| 8 | FR: Getting CaughtAs Jimbob said, frame is everything. Thinking about sex with other women as 'cheating' on a frigid wife would be operating in the wife's frame. What the new guys should understand is that by 'fessing up' and even worse, apologising are acts of submission and validation of the wife's frame. Validating the wife's frame, confirms the wife's superiority, and value, and the husband's wrongdoing and worthiness for guilt trips, and abuse whenever the wife is unhappy. Doesn't sound like a great choice. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/23 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?The book is dense, short and easy to read, but benefits from reflection while reading it | /r/askMRP | 18/08/23 09:41 AM |
| 4 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?Just go for it, and for god's sake before she eats a large meal. Read practical female psychology and learn about last-minute resistance and evaluate whether you're getting, LMR and adapt, or whether you're getting a 'soft no', which can playfully be pushed through. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/23 10:08 PM |
| 9 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?Just go for it, and for god's sake before she eats a large meal. Read practical female psychology and learn about last-minute resistance and evaluate whether you're getting, LMR and adapt, or whether you're getting a 'soft no', which can playfully be pushed through. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/23 10:08 PM |
| 21 | Wife is sexual but doesn’t actually want sex?Sounds like the wife is leading the sexual interactions and ending it with LMR, or just being a cock tease. What do you want? Why are you not taking her, while she's apparently horny? Your description of the situation sounds entirely passive | /r/askMRP | 17/08/23 09:02 PM |
| 3 | FR: Getting CaughtLOL, someone downvotes this | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/23 07:21 PM |
| 5 | FR: Getting CaughtAgree with most of it. I don't agree with the bit about it being such a disastrous event. Is 'cheating' a disastrous event for you? Some of my assumptions in the following text may or may or may not apply to you. If the wife isn't fucking you, that's her right and her decision in a modern marriage, although it doesn't align with the old school concept of a marriage. If that is so, what gives the wife the right to hold you to the old school marriage concept of not fucking other women? She has the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/23 10:28 AM |
| 3 | What's the alternative to acting butthurt when she does something fucked up?It seems somewhat odd to be preparing to marry if your lives are not already set up (her still being a student). She is not currently your wife, however so you should stop thinking of her in that way. She is still qualifying for the position of wife. A significant part of qualifying to be a wife (to a valuable man) ought to be building a high degree of trust in her sexual fidelity. Marriage without sexual fidelity is fundamentally poisonously toxic to a man's self-interest. You should not have t… | /r/askMRP | 17/08/23 10:00 AM |
| 1 | An AF/BB example. How to avoid?Also...are they (all) his kids? And the woman he gets rapidly treats him like shit because there is no deep desire and she ends up exploiting and despising him. | /r/askMRP | 14/08/23 08:42 PM |
| 7 | Comfort Tests and Sexual Dominance.Sidebar and lift. Be attractive and act in your own frame. Sounds like you're in her head and trying to find the button combination to please her. Reading the sidebar will educate you to why that is doomed to failure and to kill your attractiveness. Being attractive is physically and mental (behavioural). Frame is key to building the mental part. Having oneitis and trying to please your 'partner' to unlock your reward is a bad approach for a man. Better is to be attractive and have options that … | /r/askMRP | 04/08/23 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Is it my insecurity or should I check her?If you pussyfoot around the subject and try to make it appear as though you're not concerned, then you will probably come across as weak and inauthentic. The girl will probably see straight through your act, and if there is any doubt in her mind youay well earn yourself a shit test in return. Understand that you can't change the behaviour of a woman for her. It's just your turn. If she thinks you're valuable enough to keep around, you should be able to state your opinion. Maybe she doesn't see y… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/23 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?The wife was informed of my intentions, then it became don't ask don't tell. Not need to run the wife's nose in it. | /r/askMRP | 01/08/23 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?You should already realise that such a question is ridiculous. If attraction could be logically deconstructed and fixed, then there would be little need for this sub. Attraction is a feeling. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 08:52 PM |
| 4 | Normal to no longer be attracted to your spouse?This happened to me. The wife googgles were ripped off, but only after a long time with a resolutely frigid wife. What finally ripped off the goggles and removed any remnants of covert contract was picking up a number of much younger female 'friends'. That fully removed the wife goggles, but it also reintroduced the fun, prettiness, naivety and sexiness of young woman. The original attraction to the wife has not returned, even some years later. MoonLandingHoaxer suggested that you resent your wi… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/23 08:44 PM |
| 1 | PreFiltering for datesAny covert contracts? Are you outcome independent? Are you relying on the encounter to lead to pussy access? Have you considered meeting these women to amuse yourself and have fun......even if they don't? NMMNG. Book of Pook. Have fun. Would it be bad if a woman thought that you're an asshole for having your own interests, opinions.....and frame? | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 09:24 PM |
| 2 | PreFiltering for datesHave you tried reading them Vogon poetry? | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 08:41 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with refusal?Pressure the girl into doing something she doesn't want to do? Covert nice guy contact. Then you get pissy when she doesn't want to complete your covert contract? Don't be a nice guy! Put in the effort. Fix your diet and be regular with lifting. This means a lifestyle change. Regarding diet, try periodic fasting, for example often eating within a period of only 8 hours during a day. It's really easy, as long as you cut the crap out of the diet, particularly sugar and highly refined carbs, which … | /r/askMRP | 28/07/23 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Is there a time when it's ok to DEER in a reasonable situation? (Explain)DEERing is done to justify/rationalise your bad decisions, or to appease someone that is upset in a stupid attempt to prove your value to someone that you consider to be your superior and/or manage their emotions. The same concept also applies to work situations. Before explaining, it's good to ask yourself: - Is explaining for your benefit or not? - Is the person acting as friend or enemy, and superior or inferior to you? - Is that person in a strongly negative mood? There is no point in trying… | /r/askMRP | 27/07/23 10:29 AM |
| 2 | MentorshipYou responded in a positive manner, so I'll say this: At this stage of your life, you really do not want to be worrying about the outcome of the relationship with this girl. What you should come to understand later in life is that you should never worry about ensuring the outcome of the relationship. You're young and should be focused upon your life goals can build your life goals and setting yourself into a strong position for the long term. It would make more sense to view your girlfriend as p… | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 07:41 PM |
| 3 | MentorshipYour goal is screwed up from the outset | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 05:37 PM |
| 1 | MentorshipNobody qualified to do what you want would want to do that unless it was for serious cash. They would expect the project to be pointless, other than for amassing a wad. | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 05:33 PM |
| 3 | MentorshipSomeone needs to do the work. You can't buy the work | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 05:30 PM |
| 5 | My Wife No Longer Trusts Me.What is the point of confronting the woman? If she was disloyal, confronting her does not change that. If you were correct but unsure, and expected the wife to confess, then you have just discovered that cheating women are great at gaslighting. In any case you're operating totally in her frame and being reactive. A valuable man on his mission would not particularly care about what she says, he would get on and do his own thing. The woman would be working to please that man, if she wanted to cont… | /r/askMRP | 26/07/23 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Age gapsIf you can and want, slay | /r/askMRP | 24/07/23 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreactingThe guy needs to do whatever he wants. Take the virgin Pina colada if he wants and don't hide it - that's nice-guy bullshit. Let them say something, and reply that he prefers virgins | /r/askMRP | 24/07/23 08:01 PM |
| 5 | Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreactingShe's fat because you tolerate it. Her complaining about it is a shit test. She wants to show you that she's anxious about it, so that you're not allowed to complain about it. She's preparing her defense against any weak ass criticism of her figure (from you), and laying the ground to go on a 'savage' verbal attack if you say anything. You need to build a frame | /r/askMRP | 24/07/23 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Male friendsDo some interesting things that you and some other men will also find interesting. | /r/askMRP | 21/07/23 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Leaving the houseYou're not afraid of your wife's feelings are you? | /r/askMRP | 14/07/23 10:06 AM |
| 1 | I am such a looser, how to chart ahead.I'm not going into the high-level dynamics, but understand this. When you're dealing with someone that is angry, or otherwise really upset, you are interfacing with their feelings. When those feelings are directed at you, there is little point in trying to address them with logic or DEERing. My approach: Zero communication under those circumstances, other to call out that the person is upset and (if I consider it appropriate) it will be discussed when that person has calmed down. If necessary, I… | /r/askMRP | 10/07/23 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Practical Boundary Enforcement HelpThere must be a sliding scale of privileges and rewards lost / punishments. The general rule for a guy is sidebar and lift, eliminate the drunken captain habits. It sounds like most here, you start failing at the nice-guy and assertiveness level. NMMNG and WISNIFG need several reads....and in-between you think, act, and review your behaviours and the consequences. Much of the problem for guys that have their financial life and logistics in order come down to nice-guy stuff, being validation seek… | /r/askMRP | 10/07/23 04:38 PM |
| 8 | Your wife gets first crack at your libidoBefore you go out to cheat, do what HOA has recommended. Why? Clearly you have a serious frustration with the frequency of your sex life AND you've only been initiating once every week or so. What does that tell us? It says that you're probably afraid of angering the wife, and putting her needs first. With that comes a huge series of unattractive low-value validation-seeking behaviours. You're telling your wife that she's more valuable than you, and you're dependent on her. If you don't fix that… | /r/askMRP | 10/07/23 11:30 AM |
| 3 | Should I let my woman win at board and video games?Yes.......if she's known to rip people's arms out of their sockets when she looses. Is she particularly hairy? | /r/askMRP | 08/07/23 07:43 AM |
| 10 | How does MRP compare to dating in an LTR?After what everyone else has said, you choose to be in a monogamous relationship with this woman, despite rapidly declining sexual availability. You have a covert contract for her to fuck you like you want because she is in a relationship with you. This is nice guy behaviour, your girl knows all about this covert contract and feels how manipulative and unattractive it is. You have that covert contract and you are here to discuss negotiating HER desire for you. Imagine an ugly girl that you don't… | /r/askMRP | 07/07/23 08:25 PM |
| 9 | So you married an alpha widow?It's a concept. It's about the woman having a strong sexual desire for the alpha she 'lost'. She marries someone else that she has little sexual desire for as a consolation prize, to align with her life plan (at that stage of her life). Maybe she wants a guy to protect, finance and raise her kids. Maybe she wants the social status of being married. Maybe she is genuine about wanting to settle down with the guy that she has little or no desire for because she likes him too. It could be that the e… | /r/askMRP | 07/07/23 06:38 AM |
| 6 | How did I handle this night (our anniversary) and where to go from here?Sounds like you have a covert contract for special day sex, and that's really unattractive. The wife knows you do, and has an aversion to sex with you, any sex you do have is probably of the duty kind. All her words and actions are there to send the signal that she doesn't want to be intimate with you. At the end of the night, she tried to maintain the status quo and the continued delivery of her benefits to being in the relationship (i.e. non-sexual) by throwing you the bone of allowing you to … | /r/askMRP | 05/07/23 06:42 AM |
| 5 | Jekyl/Hyde type personalityThis is a statement of living your woman's frame, entirely reactively. Why do you even care that she's angry or might get angry? Is she so fragile that anger will break her? Are you responsible for her feelings? Do your feelings and interests have zero importance? Does this woman care if you're angry? Maybe she had never seen you properly angry, rather than just frustrated and brooding, but always capitulating when pressed? Who is acting like the prize in this picture? Maybe you're actually obje… | /r/askMRP | 04/07/23 09:37 PM |
| 8 | Jekyl/Hyde type personalityAll women will try to manipulate their man. You'll get all the bad behaviour that you tolerate and reward. You explained that you live in her frame. The woman was nice until she realised that you were safe (shit tested you until pussy-whipped, which happened rapidly). You tolerate her bullshit and reward it. You probably DEER like a pro. She pretends to behave 'sweetly' as a pure manipulation to get her way when she thinks it'll be more productive than the bad cop routine. Do you feel your balls… | /r/askMRP | 04/07/23 09:25 PM |
| 5 | What's with all the deleting out?People come, people go and clean out as they do so. Many have too much ego and zero frame and cannot cope with the slightest frame test or criticism. And here's an off-the-beaten- track thought: Others have probably been redpilled and gone far further down the rabbit hole than just the sexual strategy content. By now, It shouldn't be a surprise to learn that the same people that designed and delivered the COVID bioweapon platform for its effect and response are also planning to implement Chinese… | /r/askMRP | 30/06/23 10:12 PM |
| 4 | Caught her in a lieLow effort question devoid of any context. My recommendation would be to forget the live action roleplaying and instead build a frame. How? Sidebar and lift. | /r/askMRP | 29/06/23 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Need objective adviceYou want to marry a woman, and don't want kids. What could possibly go wrong? You've said nothing about the looks of the new girl. Nevertheless, you now have the experience of a woman that has been around the block, and settles with a guy, for him to be the provider. You're not lusting for her, and that is unlikely to improve with more of the same, and as she is flung headfirst into 'the wall'. It's your life, your decisions, your compromises. Welcome to adulthood. | /r/askMRP | 29/06/23 08:51 PM |
| 4 | Bodycount ObsessionYou have much reading of the sidebar to do. Not having oneitis means that you aren't totally fixated on one woman and 'the relationship'. It means having a mindset where you know that you're only with a woman because it benefits you, and as long as she is interested in having a relationship. It helps to know that you can and will partially or fully replace the woman if she doesn't live up to your standards. You should understand that you can't make a woman want a relationship with you (at least … | /r/askMRP | 27/06/23 08:10 PM |
| 10 | Bodycount ObsessionHOA is 100%correct. OP, why does she need to know? If you let yourself be 'bullied' into giving an honest answer, then you're removing 'your mystery', showing yourself to be weak and unattractive, and opening the door to manipulations such as being 'the cause of her having missed out', or justifying her cheating. Under no circumstances do you take this seriously. Make it a fun game. | /r/askMRP | 27/06/23 04:35 PM |
| 7 | I have a new kind of energy. Is this what's called frame?You sound quite neurotic. It also seems that you have identified the benefits of having frame, but have zero experience/capability of keeping your frame when in a relationship. You met an ex and shortly afterwards, you were back on the familiar track of stepping back into the woman's frame. If you want to keep your frame, then you keep your long-term interests in mind, and act to progress them. Having frame is far more than not giving a fuck about what your partner does. If that were the case, y… | /r/askMRP | 16/06/23 10:43 AM |
| 6 | LTR talking shit things behind my back - how to deal with this women crap?What's yours is 'ours' and what's mine is mine. The wife clearly does not respect you and takes your income for granted. The standard MRP approach applies - sidebar and lift. You didn't provide your specs. Are you even attractive? Relationships are/should be transactional. How much value do you deliver? Note that 'value' is much more than choreplay. Sidebar and lift is about increasing your value, and not giving up that value to people that don't really appreciate it. | /r/askMRP | 13/06/23 06:17 AM |
| 10 | I fucked up big time, advise moving forwardSounds like you're doing ok now, as long as you learn from your mistakes. Never ever save a hoe, they'll typically see that as a tremendous weakness and f*** you over. It also sounds as though you give too many Fs about what other people think. You don't find a valuable male network out of neediness, just like you don't find a valuable woman that way. You get those by being valuable and interesting yourself. What interesting things are you going to DO with other men? Furthermore, you sound anxio… | /r/askMRP | 07/06/23 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Power Struggle and InitiationsDread is simply a term to express an idea. You're correct in pointing out the relationship to the anger phase and clearly it is linked to a covert contract. Nobody can control the willing actions of their wife, you can only adjust 'the odds' with your own actions. It's also not worth fretting over 'genuine attraction'. To do so is to live life worrying about how your wife feels, and that is for nice-guys living in their wife's frame. Understand that if you're attractive enough to bang other pret… | /r/askMRP | 05/06/23 01:00 PM |
| 2 | The SILENCE Here is DEAFENINGI can't fully agree with that statement......but only because you have a second channel, for playing computer games with some of your friends, where the MRP material is only secondary. Thanks for all the great material! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/06/23 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Power Struggle and InitiationsI'll explain it a little better for you. It's one thing to make a logical argument in your mind about who needs who more, but another thing for that to be a part of your mindset/automated behaviour. This is a key part of your frame (or lack of it) as far as MRP is concerned. If you want to have regular sex with your wife but she keeps refusing and you KNOW you can't get other women to bang, or you WON'T let yourself get it from other women, you MAKE yourself dependent on your wife. From that pos… | /r/askMRP | 01/06/23 08:36 PM |
| 10 | The sex patternTerrible advice, at least for the stated reason. Never blindly believe a woman's excuses for not fucking you. The real reason is mostly that she doesn't FEEL like fucking the guy. Sidebar and lift. | /r/askMRP | 01/06/23 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Power Struggle and InitiationsIt's unlikely that OP will realise the power of this until he actually has abundance, and a willingness to use it. Actual abundance works because it can shift OP's mindset away from covert contracts, and can make a significant difference to the power dynamics, who needs who the most, push-pull. In short, if OP is sufficiently attractive and high value, it sends the signal that the relationship's clock is ticking and the wife will need to make an effort if she wants it to continue. It sends the m… | /r/askMRP | 31/05/23 08:48 PM |
| 10 | Power Struggle and InitiationsYou're angry and resentful. Book of Pook talks about being fun. Initiate whenever you want and have fun with it. Maybe the wife gets annoyed with you initiating? If so have fun teasing and winding her up by doing exactly that. Perhaps that sounds not nice? In any case, it's mixing up your behaviour, making you less predictable and helps lift the wife's expectations of your nice-guy behaviour (covert contract for sex, and being a manipulative bitch when turned down). That also eliminates an oppor… | /r/askMRP | 31/05/23 08:37 PM |
| 2 | The SILENCE Here is DEAFENINGThere is a certain amount of material to be found on YouTube. Most is focused upon banging hoes, deriding women, and never getting married or trapped with kids. Much of the material is for entertainment purposes, of terrible quality and/or from grifters. Rian Stone's work is interesting and worth a look. It is appropriate for married guys and based on MRP content. Donovan Sharpe is apparently a grifter, and much of his content is not particularly useful, though for the guys here, he does have so… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/05/23 08:09 AM |
| 2 | The SILENCE Here is DEAFENINGMaybe, but does any of that matter? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/05/23 06:50 AM |
| 9 | Do I tell wife about Viagra?A high quality boner requires a healthy cardiovascular system. Are you fit, lean and strong? What are your stats? First thing is to fix your health rather than looking for pharmaceutical sticky tape. Eating too much, and particularly too much sugar, grains and heavily processed foods will do no good to your arteries. Periodic fasting is also useful to burn fat rather than carbs straight from the plate. I'll also say from anecdotes from female 'friends'; many guys in their 40's can no longer rais… | /r/askMRP | 31/05/23 06:33 AM |
| 2 | My gf caught me sexting a random girlThe girlfriend will do whatever the girlfriend will do. Having said that, whether she might return will be influenced by how attractive and how unattractive you are. Part of how unattractive you are would be demonstrated by how you reacted to when the girlfriend found you texting. For example: GF: blah blah blah, anger, accusations cheating!!!! Are you sexting another woman? You: I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to hurt you. Don't leave me. Tears. Versus You: Yes! | /r/askMRP | 29/05/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | My gf caught me sexting a random girlWe don't know. Maybe roll a D20? | /r/askMRP | 29/05/23 07:27 PM |
| 18 | ILYBINILWY received todayUnless a guy here is a lazy useless piece of shit, doing more choreplay isn't a fix for 'the marriage' not a fix for your long-term. The other guys have pointed to the YBININWY explanation. Typically it means she has checked out, quite possibly already cheating. Just returned from a business trip and picks a fight, accusing you of cheating.......the exact thing that is already burning in her thoughts. Time to plan for an exit and single life. Begging, pleading and choreplay at this time are only… | /r/askMRP | 26/05/23 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Compliance testsYou get many compliance tests. Why? 1) She is a woman and 2) Some combination of the following are likely A) You continually comply, so when she wants something she only has to command her servant B) You're incompetent, so she has to micromanage you to get you to own your shit C) Your fat/unattractive/badly groomed or just have a slave mentality where you will unconditionally take her bullshit (and perhaps zero pussy) and you can't or won't put your own priorities first, and find plates of she i… | /r/askMRP | 25/05/23 08:05 PM |
| 1 | I don't want to be a stoic. Any advice for the emotional man?STFU also means hand-waving body language | /r/askMRP | 25/05/23 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Sticky situation - need opinion from other menSounds like you have no frame, you're afraid of the girlfriend/ afraid of losing her. That will tend to have you living in the woman's frame. Why did you promise not to drink again? Because you were afraid of losing her and just lied? Because you meant it but didn't have the willpower to stick to that 'goal'? Either way you have demonstrated an extremely low-value behaviour, which is very unattractive. If you don't intend to give up drinking, then own it. Not ceding to her demands, at least demo… | /r/askMRP | 24/05/23 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Female emotional connection required for sexIt means that your wife doesn't FEEL like having sex with you RIGHT NOW. Since you're verbally pressing her for sex, she's coming up with a reason (excuse) why she doesn't FEEL like having it. A woman will have sex when it feels right. You cannot negotiate that feeling with 'logic' and 'discussions'. Acta non verba (act, don't speak). Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Sidebar and lift. | /r/askMRP | 24/05/23 12:33 PM |
| 3 | I don't want to be a stoic. Any advice for the emotional man?The answers are in the sidebar and lifting. If you're going to be a neurotic woman, don't expect the wife to want to fuck you. What do you want? Lifting properly serves several great purposes. Firstly it helps to make you look fuckable. Secondly it changes you physically, making it looks as though you give a fuck about yourself. Thirdly it makes you look less feeble and easily bullied, dominated and exploited. Fourthly it helps to improve your hormonal balance and resets your anxiety. In other w… | /r/askMRP | 23/05/23 08:09 PM |
| 4 | I don't want to be a stoic. Any advice for the emotional man?I've done a little research, dredging through stacks of old posts, and it turns out that your situation has an extremely rare but simple solution: 1) Dress up in an Ironman costume 2) Hop everywhere. Each time you hop, shout "Whoosh!" 3) Insist that the wife doesn't disclose your secret identity 4) Dread your wife by subscribing to several Onlyfans accounts. If that doesn't work, subscribe to some gay accounts. | /r/askMRP | 22/05/23 09:18 PM |
| 12 | I don't want to be a stoic. Any advice for the emotional man?So long story short, what you're doing isn't working for you, but you don't want to do anything about it. What was that saying about insanity, and repeating the same action time and again? Basically you're asking us for the magic zero effort solution. For that you should examine the "zeroeffortsolutions" sub. | /r/askMRP | 22/05/23 06:57 PM |
| 6 | Advice for First Threesome (FMF)Why are you following MRP? Most guys come here because their wives aren't fucking them. Bearing in mind the answer to the question above, are you having your ego stroked to create an excuse for you wife to fuck other guys? In any event, if the wife is planning to fuck other guys, and plotting with her girlfriend to achieve that, it is a reflection of what your wife wants RIGHT NOW. Are you really such a sexy desirable guy? The answer should help you to determine your course of action. If you're … | /r/askMRP | 21/05/23 01:27 PM |
| 22 | Advice for First Threesome (FMF)Others have said to expect that the wife will expect to sleep with another man at some point......for fairness. Prepare for the worst possible outcome, and proceed if you wish. Don't be hungry and push for it, enjoy yourself and if you choose, follow a woman's prerogative "It just happened to both of us", "it wasn't OUR fault". | /r/askMRP | 20/05/23 08:34 PM |
| 8 | Explaining my wifes behaviour from a RP perspective and advice on how to “re-evoke” this.When you were attractive, demonstrated options and outcome independence, the comfort, relationship certainty, your dancing monkey, validation seeking and neediness were removed. Woman saw enough value in the relationship compared to how she saw her options at that time, and was anxious and excited to make an effort to save her relationship. Once she had shown enough interest to get you back in your comfort zone, you relaxed and became dependent, validation seeking and restarted to make dancing m… | /r/askMRP | 16/05/23 09:41 AM |
| 21 | Wife wanted an exception to the ruleSounds like a good boundary maintained. My thoughts: It's not good to let a wife mix with newly divorced and single women. This sort of thing seems to spread like wildfire, at least in the USA. Let those women mix, and the wife runs the risk of living vicariously through the single woman - empathising with her, experiencing the emotional rollercoaster, being drowned in 'all men are bad' feminist rhetoric, and getting sniffs of the excitement that comes with dating and sleeping around. Compared t… | /r/askMRP | 11/05/23 11:56 AM |
| 15 | Sex initiation guidelines?Loads of good advice above. I'm wondering what's up with the chaps - none of the usual piss-taking and snark. I'll add a few more thoughts. No victim mindset allowed. Your wife doesn't prevent you from having sex. It is the man's duty to keep himself physically, mentally and socially attractive enough to be worth a woman banging him. If you operate with the mindset that the wife is duty-bound to bang you, you are wrong. A wife that never bangs you is a roommate. That roommate never wants to bang… | /r/askMRP | 10/05/23 10:11 PM |
| 15 | How maintain "women in competition" as a married man?The best way of producing a feeling of competition requires the following: 1) Not trying to produce a feeling of competition in the first place. That is Covert contract, dancing monkey, manipulative nice-guy behaviour. Your woman will feel that you're being manipulative and resent you for it. 2) Being a busy (physically and mentally) attractive man that will reprorioritise his time and efforts based upon what he wants and the results he is getting. This man will not double down on a poor investm… | /r/askMRP | 06/05/23 09:42 PM |
| 3 | How maintain "women in competition" as a married man?Oof! | /r/askMRP | 06/05/23 09:12 PM |
| 6 | Went through my GF phone and now I need advice/insightShe is a cumrag, so enjoy her for what she is and manage your life to keep a separation logistically and financially simple. If a woman is seeking attention from other men, that tells you exactly how invested she is in you. When she finds another guy that is a suitably more appealing (short or long term) offer she'll want to give it a try. Forget all the suggestions of 'dump her now', etc. Understand what she is and treat her accordingly. If she offers some short term fun and value, enjoy her. I… | /r/askMRP | 05/05/23 07:30 AM |
| 2 | Relationships with non-romantic female family membersIs it ok to be vulnerable with a potato? | /r/askMRP | 03/05/23 07:56 PM |
| 5 | Not sure how to approach long overdue conversations while staying in FrameThe wife has a mental model of how you think and react. She probably knows what to do and say to get particular reactions from you. It will take time, effort and practice to become different and for her to realise. Changing your mental models changes your 'automated reactions'. Changing mental models is difficult. You try to change your actions, and you try to change your way of thinking, with the help of the sidebar books.....which need a number of reads and you need to fix diet and lift (if yo… | /r/askMRP | 29/04/23 08:03 PM |
| 2 | 10 years relationship helpIf you're needy for the woman, and you're only working towards your desired outcome of bedding her, women can usually tell. Outcome independence really helps (i.e. you're not trying to manipulate a woman into sex only). That puts you in the position of chasing, demonstrating lower value and young women get loads of that, so you're not distinguishing yourself from the competition. What works better for me is to do active things that I enjoy, and actually have fun. That demonstrates an interesting… | /r/askMRP | 29/04/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | 10 years relationship helpYou're welcome. You don't post much. Depending upon your 'personal difficulty level' be sure to read at least the beginning books on the sidebar, lift and fix your diet. WISNIFG, NMMNG, Rollo Tomassi's work, PFP, and Book of Pool are really useful for guys that don't get strange pussy thrown at them. | /r/askMRP | 28/04/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | 10 years relationship helpPlausible deniability means that there are no hard facts about you banging other women or not. Maybe you are maybe you are not. Maybe you're thinking about banging other women, maybe you're not. If you're sufficiently high value AND you have frame and you want to, maybe you go beyond plausible deniability, and your woman is aware that you bang others, but you don't rub her face in it. Ultimately it's up to you. Clearly plausible deniability assumes that you're not totally unattractive (else it i… | /r/askMRP | 28/04/23 08:39 PM |
| 31 | 10 years relationship helpSounds like you have learned the first part of the basics: be attractive. The challenge for a longer relationship is to not be unattractive. What things are unattractive? Getting fat, having no drive or mission, being depressed, being needy for sex.....and having no other outlets for that desire. If you stay at home, whining or brooding about a lack of 'action', you are applying a manipulative pressure onto a woman, and she'll lose all interest. Compare that to a man that is sociable and on his … | /r/askMRP | 26/04/23 09:26 PM |
| 10 | Not sure how to approach long overdue conversations while staying in FrameWhen you have done the work to become an attractive man with frame, you will not be concerned about the response of your wife. Why? Because you should be an attractive man, living his life primarily for himself and what he wants. If the wife is not providing the 'value' you want, then you won't reward bad behaviour with your precious time, attention, affection, validation, resources and presence. You should then be an attractive man with options. That should be clearly observable to your wife (w… | /r/askMRP | 24/04/23 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Is this the beginning of the end? (34, M, US)You sound like a frustrated child having a meltdown that has put in little effort to understand what you want, to read, understand and integrate the sidebar materials or in the gym. You are failing on the most simple levels. For starters where does it say that you need to get into 'logical arguments' with the wife to get what you want. The frustration suggests that it doesn't work, so why are you repeating the same flawed approach? Where in WISNIFG or NMMNG, does it say that you need to explain … | /r/askMRP | 20/04/23 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Putting it together AKA calibration.You're still bothered by how the woman reacts and that is a substantial weakness. Woman spots a weakness and starts shit testing (probing). You care about what woman thinks and try to hide the problem (nice guy behaviour to redeem your value in her eyes) and by doing so, you prove to her that her assessment of your weakness/low value is correct. You might have made a great Tekken combo this time, but one of the roots of the problem is caring about managing the woman's opinion of you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/03/23 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Men with no frame and the things they do.Men with no frame and the things they do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/23 09:49 PM |
| 27 | Are these nice guy habits or should I do what I feel like doing?Sounds like you've correctly identified the behaviour as negative and manipulative. You could try to reward that bad behaviour, and watch the bad behaviours grow in frequency, scope and amplitude. Women love to find a guy, then try to 'fix him'. If you comply and let her fix you, then she will probably also 'fix' all the attraction she had for you. Once you're a compliant puppet that she's lost all attraction to, then your only value is to deliver your time, attention, affection, labour, social … | /r/askMRP | 23/03/23 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Shit tests and fogging through the phone?There are no quick and easy shortcuts, no cheat codes. We don't 'control frame', you either have it, or you don't. "It's much harder for me to understand when's the right time to be there for her and show consideration as opposed to just always act selfishly". This woman sounds incredibly fragile, and you must be responsible for her feelings. Hint: no you don't. If you feel responsible for her feelings, you are a dancing monkey, pandering to her feelings and manipulations. You're not being a man… | /r/askMRP | 23/03/23 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Shit tests and fogging through the phone?Plenty of good advice above. Bottom line: it's all about frame, but it typically takes considerable time for a nice guy to 'get it'. Getting it, comes from some combination of faking it until you make it, and just developing your own frame. If you're not a useless waste of space, but your woman can 'make you feel bad' with her words and 'it's not fair', then what is happening is this: Woman has some negative feelings woman expresses her feelings RIGHT NOW, IN THE CONTEXT OF HER WORLDVIEW with he… | /r/askMRP | 22/03/23 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Whats does "I never loved you mean"?What was said above, and maybe also "I think you're a weak guy with no options. You're dependent upon me, and lower value. I'm telling you this as a shit test, so that I can see those words hurt you, and confirm that I'm right from seeing how you react" | /r/askMRP | 20/03/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | How to proceedDon't double down on a bad investment. When a 'girlfriend' is not banging or barely banging you and that bothers you, then the message to understand is that she doesn't feel like banging you. What to do? Whining about lack of sex will only reinforce her feelings. Like a single guy (that in reality you are), one of your challenges is to find one or more lovers. To do that, it helps to be bangable - be attractive, don't be unattractive. You can't buy love, and you can't make a woman want to bang y… | /r/askMRP | 10/03/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | How to proceedDon't double down on a bad investment. When a 'girlfriend' is not banging or barely banging you and that bothers you, then the message to understand is that she doesn't feel like banging you. What to do? Whining about lack of sex will only reinforce her feelings. Like a single guy (that in reality you are), one of your challenges is to find one or more lovers. To do that, it helps to be bangable - be attractive, don't be unattractive. You can't buy love, and you can't make a woman want to bang y… | /r/askMRP | 10/03/23 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Advice for "equality" in the bedroomNothing wrong with rolling over and falling asleep. Bonus points for snoring | /r/askMRP | 10/03/23 10:22 PM |
| 1 | She had a meltdown and I decided it's crossing my boundariesLoads of good stuff in there. When someone doesn't want your help, stop giving it. What is your time worth? Is there not something else you'd rather be doing? Don't talk logic with someone acting emotionally. Only the emotions matter at that time. Criticise an emotional woman, and it's likely that she'll play victim and frame you as the villan. If you're clueless and frameless, you'll probably go on and further validate 'her' frame. That didn't really need to be stated because it's already evide… | /r/askMRP | 08/03/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Wife wants a long-distance marriage"It doesn't matter how much I........" Is a frame announcement - you're not operating in your own frame - you're trying to please others. This mindset reeks of desperation and inadequacy. A tall, well-groomed, successful physically attractive man could have that mindset and it would cripple his 'romantic appeal'. | /r/askMRP | 08/03/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | I fogged, and fogged, and fogged...Have you realised yet that when speaking with an emotional woman, you are only engaging with her emotions? Do you really expect an emotional woman to have a calm, construcive argument with you (even after some fogging)? Fog, remove your presence, use amused mastery, stop registering the flapping mouth noises, redirect, etc. but don't tell a negatively emotional woman things she doesn't want to hear, unless you actually want to annoy her. Was it actually important to 'fix her problem'? People, an… | /r/askMRP | 06/03/23 09:51 PM |
| 0 | Restarting after divorceGet yourself in shape, be busy and interesting. Don't chase the women, it stinks of low value, validation seeking and desperation. Instead of chasing, toy with them, have fun, tease them just to please yourself. If they are open to anything and you're not completely autistic, you may notice them seeking your attention and more. When they do, make them work for it. | /r/askMRP | 06/03/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I STFU?STFU is related to frame. When (as many retards do) living in your wife's frame, a retard acts as though the wife is the authority in most interactions. That mental model leads to DEERing (Defending yourself, Explaining yourself, making Excuses, Rationalising your actions). Instead of doing those, you STFU. Similarly STFU instead of discussing your plans and goals if you're a retard that dreams and never successfully executes. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/11/22 05:47 PM |
| 8 | Miserable at 22.As others have said, leadership (and frame) are your friend. Self-management, and having expectations of the other person in your relationship are important. Acting (or just demonstrating mannerisms of being) irritable, frustrated and powerless don't inspire calm, strength, confidence and trust. I'll also add this: Rough times, like likes of which none of us (unless there are some 'fossils amongst us) have ever lived are coming. Take care, be sensible, don't take on debt and pay off whatever deb… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/22 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Question about OYSMaybe they're both special? | /r/askMRP | 18/10/22 09:02 PM |
| 16 | "Why do you love me so much?"From your brief description of the context, this is my guess: "I have once more knowingly and deliberately trampled all over what you tell me is 'a boundary'. From past experience, I know you'll get upset and act like a little bitch for a while. Ultimately I know there will be zero consequences for me shitting all over you time after time. WHY DO YOU TOLERATE THIS YOU FUCKING RETARD??????? I DON'T RESPECT YOU, AND I'M ACTIVELY PISSING ALL OVER YOUR GOALS BY SQUANDERING YOUR MONEY. GROW A SPINE A… | /r/askMRP | 06/10/22 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to proceedI'm late to this party, but I'll add a few words anyway: Asking a woman for sex is really cringeworthy. Women like it 'to just happen'. Your job is to make it just happen. They don't want to feel obligated to breed because that makes it a job, one without fun and zero need to warm her up. This removes almost all the fun, playfulness and excitement and loads her up with anxiety. She is presumably not warmed up yet, and you're giving her a binary choice: Are you convinced that I can turn you enoug… | /r/askMRP | 01/10/22 06:29 PM |
| 8 | What are your boundaries on your wife’s male friends and what is your dread response?Is a great ultimatum until OP's bluff is called and and he backs down and wife orders him to wear a gimp outfit. Ultimatums need to be a last resort and serious | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/22 02:39 PM |
| 3 | First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing ExpertRegarding frame, anxiety, assertiveness and outcome independence, something that you'll probably not fully appreciate until much later is this: You are living in her head (in her frame, trying to understand how the wife operates, the links between inputs and outputs, then modifying your behaviour to manipulate your desired outputs). Big problems with this include the following: wife knows you're doing this, knows you're trying to manipulate her, and it feels like a creepy sex-pest pressuring her… | /r/askMRP | 24/09/22 06:35 AM |
| 2 | First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing ExpertFogging is good......but also consider that only for someone whose behaviour is good enough to merit it. For consistently bad and disrespectful behaviour, the attention and validation provided by fogging is too much. You were worried about the wife seeing what you're reading. There is a large dose of 'no frame' that goes along with that question. Why? Because it encompasses a lack of assertiveness, fear of judgement, nice guy behaviours, tendencies to DEER and covert contracts. Frame needs to be… | /r/askMRP | 23/09/22 08:14 PM |
| 2 | First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing ExpertA well earned history of competence helps. Frame and game go a long way. Being attractive and not being unattractive qualify you to be in a relationship that is not purely about leeching value from you. If a 4-year old girl (i.e. with no understanding/capability to fix the problem) was giving you shit about your ability to fix it, and being shitty about getting an expensive professional in; would you validate the bullshit and nastiness by 1) taking it seriously, 2) DEERing to her, 3) getting ups… | /r/askMRP | 23/09/22 06:48 PM |
| 3 | Pretty new here 19(M) I was just wondering how do you merge the 3?You missed the subreddit rules. Read them before posting. Basic questions go to askMRP. Typically mods will ban anyone responding to your question for failing to maintain standards and your post will be deleted | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/22 09:53 AM |
| 3 | don't push your wife/partner into being a stay at home mom"If I want my woman to be the best for me, fuck me enthusiastically and follow me anywhere I need to be the best version of me possible." Can anyone find a covert contract...... maybe some things that are not directly under OPs control? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/08/22 01:15 PM |
| 3 | don't push your wife/partner into being a stay at home momGood luck with holding your frame! It's not meant to be literal, you don't actually have to hold up a picture frame to look through. Frame is your mindset - your mental models of the world and how you interact with it. That model will drive your 'automated responses' to people and events. Let's say your mental models include a routine that you are responsible for fixing the wife's feelings, that pushes you towards operating as an accessory of the wife's mental model/frame. Outside the 'nice guy … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/08/22 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Fiancé & his Birthday need male and female perspectiveOP, please read the 'about' tab for the Marriedredpill sub (or sidebar on a desktop browser). This post will be deleted, if a mod applies the rules. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/22 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Field report a few years after I filed for divorceYup, my cock-up; dropped that into the wron post. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/22 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Field report a few years after I filed for divorceDarn.....you might be onto something and who said I swing? 😂 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/08/22 06:51 AM |
| 0 | Field report a few years after I filed for divorceOP should leave his ego behind and watch this video from the 01:30 mark: https://youtu.be/7bnpR44t51g Rian Stone has done you the rare favour of explaining why this post......could be better | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/08/22 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Social norms favors women too muchNone of it matters. It does not matter what other people think. Fix your mental point of origin. Be attractive, don't be un attractive. Assess and manage the risks in your life and relationships. Don't give people power over you, if you can help it. If a relationship doesn't benefit you enough, cut your investment and walk. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/08/22 05:02 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STYou really don't have a good understanding of this sub and the nature and quality of the people on it. If you think I'm bullying you, then that is 'a you problem', and not 'a me problem'. Most guys end up on this sub because their wives aren't fucking them. For the majority, it's for a couple of reasons (1: they are too comfortable and/or lazy and their lives are total screw ups, and/or 2: they got comfortable, fat weak and unattractive, combined with an unattractive nice-guy victim mindset, inc… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/08/22 12:45 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STBullying! 😂 Shame the flairs have been eliminated, because you, Sir deserve a "safe space, special snowflake" flair. You probably also believe that anyone disagreeing with you is 'violence'. Go to deadbedrooms or 2X chromosomes subs, if you want people to validate your feelings, and blame others for not playing along with your nice-guy game. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/08/22 09:07 AM |
| 5 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STHe could try 'identifying' as an alpha | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | How to show wealth/status without seeming flashy?Baiting women with money is idiot game. Better than decorating yourself to come across rich, would be to behave like a confident guy that has his shit in order, and hit the gym etc. Be sure to learn about the local area. Standing out can put you in danger, particularly if you're flashing the cash | /r/askMRP | 19/08/22 08:23 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STOP hasn't worked out that wife wants it soft and gentle because she can't submit to to him. Why? Because she sees him as too weak, unsure of himself and needy. Whatever he's doing doesn't get her terribly excited, and she feels no sense of urgency. In order to get her mind into the 'right space' she thinks she needs to relax and and enjoy sensuality instead. Maybe he fails to push through soft no's, maybe he's failing the shit tests. I'm guessing it'll get easier if OP lifts and works through th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/22 08:17 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STAll he needs is to sprinkle on a little alpha | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/22 07:57 PM |
| 7 | [FR] Not considerate/being insensitive and other STSo you're making excuses about not lifting, and you're concerned about the wife's complaints (words) and feelings, plus she's barely banging you, while you run around doing all the chores. Prescription: sidebar and lift. You're not a special snowflake. Standard dread program, stop rewarding whining and lack of effort with your time, attention, affection, validation and presence. Redirect those resources to activities that improve your life, make you happy, fun, sociable and more attractive. Remo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/08/22 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Started off RP for 1.5 years - Then Reverted to BP - Can it be saved?That suggestion was 200 percent sarcasm. You're so clueless that I suspect that your response might be literal and not joking. Read my advice again, and read Briffault's Law. Work out why I was being sarcastic | /r/askMRP | 18/08/22 06:04 AM |
| 2 | Started off RP for 1.5 years - Then Reverted to BP - Can it be saved?OP, it's recommended to have a good solid verbal agreement of your conditions before getting married. That's exactly what Robert Briffault discusses in "Briffault's Law'. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/22 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Started off RP for 1.5 years - Then Reverted to BP - Can it be saved?Think OP is referring to one of the lesser known Highland clans; the clan RP. Probably means that, like a wee girlie, he was wearing panties under his kilt. | /r/askMRP | 17/08/22 07:09 PM |
| 2 | FlairIts a good idea. Nevertheless, I enjoy funny flairs we earn as clueless autistic new guys. If we're pathetic, why not just spell it out for all to see? If a guy improves he can enjoy his ridiculous flair. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/22 12:45 PM |
| 6 | Started off RP for 1.5 years - Then Reverted to BP - Can it be saved?That's a really fine victim puke, captain (save-a-hoe). You're doing so well, I doubt that anyone will find an area of your life that can be improved. Why the hell have you even posted? You have some familiarity with what you would need to do to improve your life, but you're here, playing the victim. You aren't even lifting - that's considered the first thing anyone needs to do. What are you looking for? How do you think any of us can help you, if you won't even help yourself. Here are my recomm… | /r/askMRP | 17/08/22 12:17 PM |
| 6 | Here I am talking to strangers on the internet.Do it to understand consequences and worst case scenarios. Only push that button as and when you want to at the time of your choosing, or understand what will happen if the wife starts the process. You are under no obligation to initiate a divorce before banging other women (though that might be a wise decision in your particular circumstances), just as the wife is under no obligation to bang you. It seems that you had a little session of 'hysteical bonding' sex. I think you can often differenti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/22 10:59 PM |
| 15 | Here I am talking to strangers on the internet.Cheating is a pointless concept in the context of a marriage where your partner hasn't been 'engaging' for many years. Wives have a first shot at a guy's libido, then all bets are off. Having said the above, if you decide to enjoy other opportunities, make sure that you're ready for the consequences. There may be legal/financial consequences in some states for divorce related to infidelity, and be sure that you're frame is capable to deal unapologetically with any fallout. Life presents more opt… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/22 10:34 PM |
| 1 | One year review: concrete actions that had the biggest impactWell done, Sir! Nothing left to do but take your place as the head mod, and update the sidebar to reflect your vision! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/08/22 10:05 PM |
| 7 | Starting off wrong?Also, because you're a complete beginner and may not appreciate it, I'll add this: STFU means stop talking when talking only serves the following purposes: - to demonstrate (your) low value - to walk into the wife's frame - to DEER (which does both of the above) - to express your frustration, feelings, sadness and dissatisfaction with your relationship (from position of weakness/whining/victimhood). This includes talking about lack of sex and low interest sex. Talking about the above paints you … | /r/askMRP | 13/08/22 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Gigantic Shit or Comfort Test?Whatever. Girls are whatever they are RIGHT NOW. Never get oneitis and never put them on a pedestal. Loads of guys do that, remembering how good they were at first, then ignoring and rationalising bad behaviour later, as the girl gets worse and worse. Be careful not to enter a relationship or make ever more commitments just because a previously good girl wants or demands it. | /r/askMRP | 12/08/22 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Gigantic Shit or Comfort Test?There is no relationship where the woman doesn't want one. If you happen to want one too, with that woman, then you have your expectations and boundaries. What tools do you have to influence women's interest in having a relationship and willingness to respect your boundaries? Be attractive, don't be unattractive. The woman must want you. You can't make it happen with any one women, and where it happens there is no guarantee it will last forever, but you can increase your odds. Demonstrate, don't… | /r/askMRP | 11/08/22 09:09 PM |
| 23 | Starting off wrong?My boring predictable safe and controllable beta husband has done something unpredictable and potentially remotely alpha. I had better shit test him to discover whether a little pressure will get him to collapse back into my frame, and my full control as he DEERs to mom. If I can bring him back under control, that'll be nice to simplify my life, assure provisioning and security (at the cost of attraction). Do not DEER. Google the short post "Talking with women, always DARE, never DEER". Read boo… | /r/askMRP | 11/08/22 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Gigantic Shit or Comfort Test?Standard 'common sense' should apply. Is association with this person beneficial to your life? Do you want that person in your life? If you're anything like my young self, you want at least one outlet for your libido and you don't want it to poison your life, occupy much of your precious time, resources and effort. The woman/women would ideally be fun, cause little drama and be fit, pleasant and attractive. All of that is easier if you keep yourself fit, althletic and muscular, well groomed, fun… | /r/askMRP | 11/08/22 07:10 PM |
| 7 | Gigantic Shit or Comfort Test?Girlfriend should be for carnal fun and other fun only at your age. Dont take them seriously and don't enter their frames. Attractive people often have relationships at college, and other ones back at home. Quite probably banging or about to bang one or more other guys, and it's messing with her availability, feelings (including pleasure, guilt, sense of loyalty, etc.). Consider her a FWB or plate to have fun with while you set your life on a path to success. No need to get too excited of she's … | /r/askMRP | 11/08/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Can’t shake the angerAlso consider that your attractive behaviour resulted in sexual attention. Your response was to revert to your old (unattractive) behaviour and you were met with the consequences. Also consider that people like others to avt in a consistent and predictable manner. Maybe you rewarded the wife's sexual attention by failing her shit tests about your new attractive behaviour. The mouth will often portray one version of reality and the wife's sexual attention will portray the opposite: I don't like i… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/22 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Can’t shake the angerYou have an enormous covert contract: You act like a 'nice' husband, you'll never be a 'bad' husband and bang any other women and wife will meet all your sexual needs. You'll never bang another woman (or divorce) even if wife completely stops fucking you. How is this covert contract working for you? Looks very much like: - wife doesn't give a shit about it - wife doesn't care about your sexual needs - wife will take care of her own sexual needs - wife not playing by the rules of your covert cont… | /r/askMRP | 10/08/22 10:56 AM |
| 2 | Fiancé new job, might move without meFiancée will do whatever she wants. It's her choice to make. If she puts the job over a life with you, then she has demonstrated your importance to her, and that of a family with you. Being long distance isn't great for a relationship and even if it worked you'll still be screwed by logistics if you decided to start a family. A young woman will have plenty of temptations and opportunities with a new job, and the distance. If she moves away, consider her as a FWB or drop her and source new girls.… | /r/askMRP | 08/08/22 05:19 PM |
| 2 | How do you punish bad behavior without seeming butthurt?You're young, so get your shit together before opening yourself to the possibility of a LTR. You’ll be less pissed off if you invest your time in yourself and prioritise yourself and build your options. Put yourself into a position of strength, having options, rather than weakness where you're trying to manipulate others to meet your needs. Girls would typically prefer to work to keep the interest of a guy that's in demand, rather than have the attention handed to them by a guy that other girls … | /r/askMRP | 08/08/22 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Do I stay the course with her terrible moods?You're living in her frame and resentful. Do accusatiins or being angry upset sun guys that are enjoying themselves? Are you letting the wife lead the household with the excuse of baby logistics? Are you walking on eggshells, and not living you life as you want for fear of criticism and trying to please her, and living fully in her frame? If you're not worried about rejection, why don't you just have fun, teasing her? What's the worst that could happen? Stop DEERING. Google the post "Talking Wit… | /r/askMRP | 06/08/22 03:13 PM |
| 4 | Moving forwardYou're absolutely correct - covert contract. Admittedly some guys will need to apply far more effort than others to get a 'satisfactory' relationship. That depends on many factors including how attractive/unattractive OP, how well/poorly he owns his shit and how pleasant/how much of a basket case the wife is. Time will tell, and identifying and squashing the covert contracts will only help. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/22 02:58 PM |
| 10 | Moving forwardField report seems appropriate for this sub. The question is low value (already covered in many places) and would be more deserving of AskMRP. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/08/22 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Something I don’t Understand…and her mother | /r/askMRP | 02/08/22 10:29 AM |
| 10 | Something I don’t Understand…MRP is about the man living the life he wants. There is no plan to save the marriage. I made it extremely clear to my wife before marriage that if she cheated, then she would be unceremoniously cut loose. Nothing has changed my thoughts on that. Having said that, there are plenty of idiots in this world that deal with black and white thinking and will tell you what to do. That is not the point of this sub, which is about the man looking after his own best interests, making and owning his own dec… | /r/askMRP | 02/08/22 10:23 AM |
| 9 | Need advice I guess.This post is probably a troll. Sidebar and lift properly (see stronglifts 5x5) + EAT. Women will want to fuck guys they find attractive. Wife doesn't find you attractive. 190cm and 68kg? You're barely more than a skeleton. If you think you'll be swimming in poon, I'd suggest going somewhere that has suffered a prolonged famine. | /r/askMRP | 02/08/22 10:05 AM |
| 5 | Name my boat after my wife?The wretched hag? Then to eliminate any possible misunderstanding, add a figurehead. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/22 02:49 PM |
| 0 | Constant shit testsMore appropriate would be APALT. | /r/askMRP | 30/07/22 06:01 PM |
| 4 | Constant shit testsSo let's see: Mommy wasn't happy and sent her alpha gorilla a bitchy text message. Alpha gorilla has mastered all the basics such as WISNIFG, NMMNG, TRM and PFP and decides to employ master level DNGAF, mental point of origin and frame by getting angry, finishing his evening extra quick and communicating with wife every 3 seconds and validating her bullshit. What do you think will happen if you prioritise the woman's feelings, let her control you with them, and validate her feelings and her bull… | /r/askMRP | 30/07/22 03:17 PM |
| 2 | So. I made a thing some people might find useful. Is this the right place for it?Just go and have an argument with a woman, you'll surely convince her with logic and a good poster. All that intersectionality rubbish is just like a shit test. If you take it seriously, you validate it. Frame, respect and congruence alwith amused mastery and with roaring laughter is what's called for. This should have been in place well before she was an adult. Were you worried your little girl would call you an asshole? | /r/askMRP | 30/07/22 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Distilling to Base Concepts and Expanding ScopeNice post. There aren't so many original ones these days. Good progress. I'll also cry 'faggot', but only for old time's sake, as I haven't noticed anyone slinging that around recenty. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/22 11:17 PM |
| 6 | Using Your Anger to Find Your BallsJust noticed your flair - ROFL It looks as though your 'critique' that "MRP vets forget what it's like to be stuck at various stages" is stated as en ego defence (i.e. you are DEERing). That is one of many tells that you haven't killed your ego and you're lacking frame. Sure, the vets don't emote, empathise and hold hands because it doesn't work. The tone of the message doesn't matter because we're random internet idiots that you'll never meet. The important information is the content of the fee… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/22 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Using Your Anger to Find Your BallsJust took the briefest of looks at your post history, and what a shit show! Sounds like you're superficially attractive enough to get some female interest, but your frame and boundaries appear to be inexistent. There is a strong odour of validation seeking. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/22 04:19 PM |
| 11 | Using Your Anger to Find Your BallsDNGAF means zero fucks given. You either do or you don't give a fuck. Look at where the anger comes from. For many guys here it's probably from being a pussy and/or covert contracts with a Bluepilled world view. Get to the source of the anger and address it: Not fucking? Make yourself fuckable You're fuckable, other women want it, but not wife? Deal with it or stop giving a fuck about it. Come to peace with the situation because you own it, or take action to get what you want and own that too. Y… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Conflicted with Feelings of GuiltCan't see any problems there. Go, Big boy! | /r/askMRP | 20/07/22 10:53 AM |
| 19 | Living with separated wife - emotionless, but mixed messagesYour posting history gives little context, but with little to go on, my guess would be she's cheating, and keeping on good terms due to being sensible.......and keeping you as a backup in case her branch swing fails. | /r/askMRP | 19/07/22 05:08 PM |
| 6 | Living with separated wife - emotionless, but mixed messagesWhere are the mixed messages? Sounds like stbx intends to divorce and is sorting out the logistics. | /r/askMRP | 19/07/22 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Genuine Desire vs. InvestmentOP is apparently operating in a different plane Dread level 1i has been employed: Take the dumpster, set it on fire | /r/askMRP | 14/07/22 09:29 AM |
| 19 | 3 concepts for getting your wife's BJWhy did you justify you actions? We're a bunch or random internet loosers you'll never meet and you're Justifying your actions to us. You're either setting us up as the authority to judge you and we don't even care. Its incredibly weak. If you do that with us, just imagine how you are with a solipsistic woman that knows all your buttons and weaknesses, and all about your covert contracts for accessing poon. The answers are in NMMNG and WISNIFG. I've not looked at your post history, but I'm guess… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/22 09:23 PM |
| 10 | 3 concepts for getting your wife's BJOP, do you understand why this was called out? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Not sure I'll ever be able to call it quits with the wife, even if I want toZero reading..........and you know what? There is this magic Redpill trick. What is it, OP asks? You actually have to think about it and implement the knowledge. It's almost as though OP hasn't learned anything from NMMNG and WISNIFG. But, hey, what would I know? I'm a random internet idiot. | /r/askMRP | 07/07/22 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Not sure I'll ever be able to call it quits with the wife, even if I want toSounds like all the leading and expectations are being set by the wife and you're following. Not so much mentioned about what you actually want, you have left that unstated for us to interpret. Your story is essentially: - got with a woman - I let her emotionally blackmail me to continue the relationship and marry. By US standards she is great because she isn't fat, and she generates income, but she's as boring as hell. By Chinese stands you picked a dud because she's an old leftover that nobody… | /r/askMRP | 07/07/22 04:13 PM |
| 3 | I’ve just walked out.This is a basic question and belongs on AskMRP. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/07/22 10:33 AM |
| 3 | want to go for open marriage while being in existing relationship.1) sort out your finances 2) don't even think about spending the rest of your life with this woman. She is far older, and quite possibly infertile. What will she look like in 15 years? Think about that. 3) sidebar and lift | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/06/22 04:26 PM |
| 5 | When should you actually get into a LTR?Just do what the girl apparently wants. Do everything you can to make her feel safe and secure, even if it's not what you really want to do and not in your best interests. That approach hasn't failed a single guy yet. | /r/askMRP | 06/06/22 07:52 PM |
| 5 | What can I do to get special sex acts from my wife?I really wasn't expecting to find such a good response. Good stuff! A 'real man' wil earn and take what he wants, if he wants it enough. If it has to come only from the wife, but it's something OP desperately wants, but not so much that he would 'risk the relationship' then he's dangerously close to dancing monkey / covert contract territory. How much do you want it? Are you prepared to be a villain in someone else's story, or are you 'nice'? Are you valuable and/or attractive enough to get that… | /r/askMRP | 30/05/22 09:58 PM |
| 10 | Question / Field Report on STFUFor the benefit of OP, this translates to "you have little frame". Apparently OP also held frame - so much so that he had to dash straight to his computer to write about it. If, Sir, you indeed had frame, this behaviour from the girlfriend would be amusing, cute or irrelevant......though maybe an invitation to rip her clothes off. If woman is upset and gives you the silent treatment, you may learn to see that as an amazing opportunity to have some peace to relax or enthusiastically do something … | /r/askMRP | 30/05/22 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?They say that not far in the future, London wil be under water. They want you to believe that climate change is the cause 😂. | /r/askMRP | 28/05/22 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?And as a final parting word. Good luck finding a slim British woman, that'll stay that way for the long term - that's quite the challenge. I gave up 😂 | /r/askMRP | 28/05/22 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?Sounds like you're in a pretty reasonable situation. Nevertheless, make the most of the sidebar resources. You seem to have learned a valuable lesson nice and early. Remember the lesson. If later in life, you have a long-term woman and kids do not repeat that same mistake. You will need to own your shit and keep yourself attractive. If you're thirst and overcommitted in a relationship, women have a tendency to shut-off the intimacy. Lesson from an older guy: if your women ever cuts off the intim… | /r/askMRP | 28/05/22 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?Yeah, relationships should take effort from both parties, however thirsty men often make far more effort than the woman they are dealing with. Those guys are at considerable risk of screwing themselves over (because it is all opt-in). That's why it's essential to not operate from a lack-of-abundance mindset. If you want sex and at least one women, then make yourself and your attractiveness a priority. Whenever it comes to commitment (and you should not be in a serious commited relationship for y… | /r/askMRP | 28/05/22 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?Good on you, sport! No offense taken. Since you've responded in good humour, I'll offer up this little snippet of explanation: The guys have been ripping you a new hole on this thread, and that's for several reasons. One reason is because you're young and quite clueless and various things you say sound quite ridiculous to those that have been through the trenches. Another reason is that you're really quite lucky in that you've stumbled across the Redpill at such a young age and you've not been s… | /r/askMRP | 28/05/22 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?You sound as though you're trying to settle down with a woman at age 21 before having your life really sorted. At your age, you do don't have the income, assets, or experience with women to make a great go at that. Girls of your age are looking for sex, fun, validation and maybe to extract resources from simps. For the most part, they are not looking to settle down and have families. You do not need great resources to get a girl. Be a luxury guy (fit, confident, sexual and attractive) and have f… | /r/askMRP | 26/05/22 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Why do they come back and they didn't just drop you?British girl? The branch broke because it couldn't bear the weight. LOL | /r/askMRP | 26/05/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Is this an unreasonable amount of shit tests? And was my response valid?Here's a little tip with the passive aggressive behaviour. This is how women act. You know what? Whenever they act in such a way, or give you the silent treatment, they're seething with anger and want their action to be received as a punishment. That only has any chance of success if the person they are doing that to gives a fuck about whatever is being withheld, or the fact that she is upset. If the woman is not highly attracted to you and in your frame, such silliness will be counter productiv… | /r/askMRP | 26/05/22 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Is there a place on MRP for prevention instead of cure?If the cure is a long term solution to the problem, what makes you think that there is another set of tools necessary to employ as a preventive measure? Ask yourself this? What changes as men and women age? What are their motivations, rewards, opportunities temptations, risks and constraints then read the MRP sidebar and lift, or maybe you want to secure a long term monogamous sexual relationship with a defined woman on easy mode? | /r/askMRP | 20/05/22 06:29 AM |
| 7 | New Post - Happy to Be HereTotally. You want to have at least one intimate relationship. In order to get there, you need to become sexually desirable. For men, that's a little more complicated than it is for women. Looking good (lean and muscular), well groomed and dressed, etc. will help or be a force multiplier but it is far from all that is needed. Women will often sleep with guys because they want something from him, whether that is excitement, fun, to get away from their own crappy life, because they're horny, to get… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/22 06:15 AM |
| 6 | Losing control in workNo kids, good paying job, doesn't sound so bad. Put plenty of time in the gym, and that should go a long way to fixing the negative feelings. Just don't put a baby in it. Sidebar and lift, bro. You're fed up with life. So what, you have a wife that doesn't have much desire. Kill the covert contract that she will want to bang you. Would life be better if you weren't married? What's the fucking difference at this point in your life? You have no kids! This is marriage on low financial risk easy mod… | /r/askMRP | 19/05/22 09:34 PM |
| 8 | New Post - Happy to Be HereFrame (mental point of origin) is you next challenge. What do you want? And are you acting authentically to make it happen or are you living in the wife's frame, scared to step out of the box and prioritising approval and validation from wife and other people? If your actions are aligned with trying to make other people happy rather than building the life you want by focusing on your own priorities, then don't be surprised when you don't get what you want. In the first case you consider yourself… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/05/22 12:17 PM |
| 52 | New Post - Happy to Be HereAs you have already been told, you have the huge 'dancing-monkey' 'two-year' covert contract. That is to say that you will do x to get compliance and enthusiastic sex from the wife. That covert contract will be very obvious to the wife and she'll resent you for it. it is extremely unattractive and will kill your sex life. Imagine that you don't particularly like food shopping at a particular shop (right now) and the wife wants you to do the food shopping there. Imagine that your behaviours and w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/05/22 07:59 AM |
| 2 | Threat honored, After filing for divorcePlay fair with OP! It'll not be an excuse. He'll genuinely be a victim of some stuff. Now he's armed with the Redpill tool of making nuclear threats. He'll be just fine as he is. | /r/askMRP | 13/05/22 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Main Event happened last week now im purgatoryYou talk as you you have a covert contract: You are leaving the house so that she misses you and rewards you with attention, validation and pussy afterwards. What are you going to do when the wife doesn't even notice, calls you out for your bullshit or uses her womanly wiles to manipulate you do do her bidding? Are you going to get butthurt or angry? Sounds like you have made some effort on the lifting and diet (although you didn't post figures) but you are not acting like the prize. Getting out… | /r/askMRP | 13/05/22 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Shark WeekReading palms just works better than menses | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022U/SBIII is kindly calling you out on your shit. You say that look is what you like, and apparently you want to get some action. How is that working out for you? Which one do you want? That look was from a time when people were slimmer/ or had less muscle mass. Someone with that build looks feeble compared to a fatty or someone that lifts. Furthermore, unless you strip off, you just look plain skinny. The fact that you might be ripped is lost. There are reasons founded upon plenty of data support… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/22 12:04 PM |
| 19 | MAP resourcesI'll give you a good suggestion: leave the dead bedrooms subs and never return. Those subs are filled with some of the most self-pitying clueless idiots that ask no difficult questions of themselves. It is a permanent victim-mindset pityfest, with all people blaming their 'low libido' partners. There is zero introspection and it is policed by the politically correct woke brigade. Nobody will be challenged on their bullshit. It will be considered hugely offensive if it is suggested the problem mi… | /r/askMRP | 02/05/22 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Resources/Books for Choosing the Right Mate?I would suggest doing a bare minimum research into into Redpill, then ask a bunch of retards on the AskMRP sub to recommend a book or two. After skimming a book or two, you'll have it all sorted, bro! | /r/askMRP | 27/04/22 02:45 PM |
| 4 | how to go about her joking about my height ?That sucks. Did you need Doc? | /r/askMRP | 27/04/22 10:32 AM |
| 4 | how to go about her joking about my height ?I'm a man with rock solid frame. My suggestions are: 1) When she jokes about your height, hold frame and simultaneously do your best not to cry. 2) Put up a notice board with a list of banned subjects for jokes. That'll teach her | /r/askMRP | 27/04/22 10:30 AM |
| 3 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerI skimmed across some of your recent posts. Looks as though you have close to zero frame, and struggle with STFU. You're seem to be really needy and lacking in self-confidence, and playing beta dread game (i.e. a good dose of uncalibrated Rambo). Wife is clearly aware of what your issue is and shit testing you, by saying that you're going to see your girlfriend. In doing that she is testing to see if that is really what you're doing, perhaps mocking you if she thinks you can't get a girlfriend o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/22 07:53 AM |
| 3 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and anger"I don't know if I can not give a shit about being caught". You lost me there. There were a few things that made it happen. The wife goggles were slapped off my face.I was already in good shape, if not particularly muscular. I had been propositioned by pretty young women, and declined them only to find a frigid wife at home. I couldn't take it any more. I have a very comfortable income, investments, lovely home, good kids, and had made many sacrifices to give the wife a good life. While doing th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 06:54 PM |
| 4 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerYes, I did. I was probably one of the most sexually frustrated muppets on this sub. It turns out that taking on plates was particularly helpful to kill my thirst, and that the wife had zero intention of ever fucking me again. In my angry victim puke someone totalled the number of times I mentioned "sex" (37 I think 😂). I've never been dense enough to "ask for sex", although I did shift to overt 'discussion' on a few occasions before finding my way to MRP. On at least a couple of occasions, I 'me… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerLong time lurker with a previously frigid constantly complaining passenger. Never posted on OYS, but made a standard high-quality (i.e. hideously embarrassing) victim puke on a previous account a number of years back. My life was largely on track, but I had ruined my sex-life by deciding not to 'cheat' and, of course, crappy nice-guy mental models, not being selfish, and not lifting weights. Ultimately the pieces fell into place once I was at peace with not giving a fuck about 'the marriage' and… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 12:38 PM |
| 2 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerWas young and foolish. Married the wrong MRP mod | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerA better question would be "What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?" | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 07:47 AM |
| 6 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerThe best quick fit is to perform heavy compound lifts at least three times per week, read the sidebar and post in OYS. With no context for how screwed up you are, nobody can give you better advice than that. With no demonstration of effort on your behalf to make fixing your bullshit a priority, then experience tells us that we are wasting our time and words. Put in some consistent thought and effort, and you'll get feedback that is beneficial. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 07:40 AM |
| 6 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerPerhaps reflection will help you to understand this and OP's post. It's one thing to be physically attractive. That really helps, but it is incredibly far from being everything a guy needs. Being physically attractive might make it relatively simple to get you one night stands and very short relationships. On the other hand, a guy needs to be mentally attractive. Temper tantrums after being turned down for sex are incredibly unattractive. Why do those tantrums happen? The answer is as a result o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 06:53 AM |
| 6 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerLOL, good catch; could have been written better. It's clearly never a good idea to run interactions with a covert contract to get sex. Much better to be an attractive and confidently sexual guy that is having fun and is not needy. The point, of course, was that a man that has no other options and little interest from the wife has no other options and little interest from the wife becuause he is objectively unattractive. Once you're regularly getting decent sex, the scarcity mindset should drop a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/22 08:41 PM |
| 29 | Year 1 at MRP - Sex shame and angerNice basic observation about your sexual needs getting met. Making your wife responsible for them is a covert contract. Sure a wife is 'supposed' to want to bang her husband, but she has zero obligation, and in 2022 she cannot be compelled without serious repercussions. Notice how your wife failing to fulfill your covert contract makes you angry. That anger, combined with a victim mindset makes a husband incredibly unattractive, and the wife feels that the husband is acting like a toddler having… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/22 01:55 PM |
| 5 | My wife discovered a post on hereThat's a lot of weight. It suggests you're eating huge quantities of highly processed foods, with plenty of sugar and carbs. Make a meal plan for the week, and buy the ingredients you need for those meals. Don't buy additional junk crap. Rather than trying to fix the total calories, you'd be better off fixing the content of the diet. Cook meals from basic ingredients, and without significant sugar and managed portions of carbs. Get rid of soft drinks, and limit junk food. | /r/askMRP | 14/04/22 01:00 PM |
| 3 | My wife discovered a post on here30 percent fat, age 33, 2 years into marriage. Any guess what needs fixing immediately? Unless you put on a huge amount of weight very quickly or you have considerable game (which isn't reflected by the deering) you were most likely selected because you are compliant, and can be relied upon to provide. You'll not be desirable until you build muscle, lose the excess flab and fix your broken mental models. Why spend time on social media when you could be building yourself? You're being nagged to b… | /r/askMRP | 14/04/22 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Live near her family or mines?Do whatever is best for you and leaves you in the strongest position. Don't live your life for your parents, wife's parents or for the wife. What is troubling you here? Is it When I Say No I Feel Guilty? Have you any idea what you could read to help address this? It's likely that when you have kids, your time and financial resources will be out under pressure. Which of those locations (or any other location) would leave you in the strongest position to have a strong income, savings and investmen… | /r/askMRP | 14/04/22 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Live near her family or mines?I must protest.....but only to add that Wales and Scotland are too 😂 | /r/askMRP | 14/04/22 12:13 PM |
| 6 | Trust and the need to be informed of wife's movementsAnd that alone might not be enough. After reading through the sidebar, I realised that a cheating wife might be feeling insecure and needs huge amounts of extra security. Tell her that your love is eternal; that you'll never leave her, no matter what. | /r/askMRP | 07/04/22 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Blow job and then divorce1) What is going on with your squat? It's incredibly weak compared to bench and deadlift. 2) Sounds like you have little frame and you're going somewhat Rambo. It's standard fare for women to nag, criticise and shit test and make attempts to frame grab. It sounds as though you have failed many of these (hence the lack of frame). Accusations of selfishness are to be expected when (re) building or maintaining a strong frame. It is an expression of feelings of frustration that a woman's slave isn't… | /r/askMRP | 07/04/22 08:43 AM |
| 1 | What is the purpose of lifting in MRP context?I'm a wizard, but a fair number if the New guys are LARPing | /r/askMRP | 06/04/22 08:17 PM |
| 3 | Fiancé/girlfriend has told me to “shut up” or “stfu” handful of times when talking over the last several years, I finally clapped back today.If you're struggling with a relationship and it does sound like you're struggling with the basics, there are no quick and easy fixes. Read the sidebar books (or see the 'about' tab on mobile) and perform heavy compound weightlifting. | /r/askMRP | 02/04/22 02:37 PM |
| 3 | what major challenges or experiences that made you internalize a strong frame ?What worked for me was doing bicep curls with my left arm, to balance it with the right which had grown powerful from frequent self-mutilation. That and wearing T-Shits with wolf images and tattooing the words "alpha" and "fuk dem hoes" to the insides of my eyelids as a reminder during sleep and every time I blink. | /r/askMRP | 02/04/22 09:40 AM |
| 1 | dealing with past shit bringing upOP wouldn't have this problem......if he was banging the wedding planner | /r/askMRP | 28/03/22 08:20 PM |
| 11 | My wife puts out, but she completely see's it as her dutyAh, you're using the old asking and whining for sex routine - classic move! | /r/askMRP | 26/03/22 10:36 AM |
| 5 | Assuming good feelz post shit/comfort testI don't know the starting point of your engagement with MRP. Maybe you have been / are in a dead bedroom, maybe you just wanted better or more frequent sex, or maybe your're tired of getting attitude and disrespect from the wife. Most guys get here from too little alpha behaviour and too much beta behaviour (not being sexy and attractive, and rewarding bad behaviour with time, attention, affection, validation and resources). A small minority arrive from too much alpha (including the husband pers… | /r/askMRP | 24/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Assuming good feelz post shit/comfort testThat's sounding good. Don't rush to max out on deadlift. Be sure to get plenty of practice, watch videos, and get experienced guys to check your form. Personally I never push beyond my 3-rep limit for that lift. Why? Numbers are numbers, and my goal is to be reasonably strong, look good and not injure myself. Also, consider adding weight to the pull-ups. You're probably getting to the limit of increasing your strength. My personal take on the rows is that barbell rows are a full closed-chain com… | /r/askMRP | 24/03/22 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Assuming good feelz post shit/comfort testThe lifts are not terrible and your fat is under control, but you're not a big guy. That makes you fit, lean and not a physically disgusting computer nerd type. It appears that improvements to the frame / mental / game side will get you the biggest bang for your buck. I'm also rather surprised about your deadlift - that's really poor in comparison, and you didn't mention bent over rows / weighted pull-ups. Are you just not training your back enough, or are you recovering from injury? Training yo… | /r/askMRP | 24/03/22 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Wenn you never where the alpha and are a looser in bed?Sounds like you want genuine desire from a woman. It's quite simple: be attractive, don't be unattractive. You'll not get abundant good sex or desire with betabux provisioning. Look the part! Physical: Continue to lose weight and add muscle through barbell compound lifts. Stop messing around with machines or other bullshit. Improve your clothing and grooming. Mental: learn to play with women, and game them attractively. You need to realise that you don't need them, but you can entertain yourself… | /r/askMRP | 23/03/22 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Assuming good feelz post shit/comfort testYou could be doing perfectly fine in most areas of your life and screwing up because of zero frame. As others have pointed out, you're reacting too her, being passive aggressive and you post is full of rationalisations and justifications (i.e. DEERing) before anyone has even poked at your frame. Of course, it's clear that you're not ready for that yet and you're keeping a scoreboard. When you've developed a frame, you will be working on your priorities and taking the wife's priorities into consi… | /r/askMRP | 21/03/22 10:15 AM |
| 3 | Any advice on going about sexually repressed chicks?Maybe she would feel more at ease having a threesone with another beautiful woman? | /r/askMRP | 18/03/22 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 08, 2022The other guys are calling you on the lifting related bullshit. 3x per week must be a minimum. You have pain in delts, then you're in luck because you can still do barbell squats and deadlifts, which are the two prime foundational lifts. Don't have time to get to the gym? You can always complement the heavy leg lifts with work at home. If space is tight get some dumbells or adjustable dumbbells. Shoulder press - at home, dumbell press, laying on the floor and dumbell rows. If you have space and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/22 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Can Codependent women work?Sounds to me like it takes two to be codependent. Play that game and wind your just rewards. You don't have to play. Sidebar applies as usual. You act in your own best interests and girlfriend is responsible for her own feelings. Reward good behaviours, don't reward bad ones and have her replacements available, should you need them. | /r/askMRP | 14/03/22 03:34 PM |
| 1 | How should I handle situations like this?Follow the dude home, then investigate his life. Identify everyone the guy has ever cared about and arrange to have SWAT teams sent to their homes. Finally do the same with him. | /r/askMRP | 08/03/22 11:00 AM |
| 7 | Live-In LTR of 3.5 Years Offering "Hard No's" for the First Time.You have no kids and are not married. You're not having sex and therefore you have no relationship. Just kill the puppy. No sex with you, and talking about having sex with other people - that tells you all you need to know. It's time to become someone worth fucking again, if that's what you want. Do it for yourself, if you're worth it. You might be a candidate for the fastest guy to run through the betatisation process after moving in. Did you by any chance place the woman on a pedestal, give he… | /r/askMRP | 02/03/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | How to breakup with partner of last 5+ yearsI love you......but I'm not in love with you. I'm not haaaaaapy Keep apologising, when she misbehaves, treat her like a queen, let her know how much better than you she is. Get fat and wear baggy t-shirts and cargo shorts. Unfortunately 2 months is rather short for this strategy. | /r/askMRP | 28/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Assuming your wife lets you play the field, how to you unlock the single energy/flow so important when attracting women?I'm not allowed to play the field, but the wife let's me give young women a darned good spanking. Maybe try that? | /r/askMRP | 28/02/22 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Would like advice on how to handle my current situationSidebar and lift. A husband should be teasing and having fun with suggestions that you took advantage.....of your naughty little drunk girl. You didn't because you're deep in her frame, scared or upsetting her, trying to be perfect, and showing that this event is deeply upsetting you. Start the reading with no more mister nice guy, and when I say no I feel guilty. Post on OYS. | /r/askMRP | 25/02/22 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Disrespect, getting power backYou sound like a lovely woman Do you know what you actually want? Any thoughts about what you might need to do to achieve your goals? Have you researched "the dark triad for Christians"? | /r/askMRP | 21/02/22 10:24 PM |
| 1 | My current issue (DISRESPECT)This post will be deleted because it belongs on AskMRP. Post it there and it will be your only victim puke. Same formula to be applied, as for most guys here: sidebar and lift. Doesn't sound like you're the alpha, so: 1) Lift, fix your diet if fat and sort your hygiene and style. If you're not attractive, then removing your time and attention will not be missed) 2) Be attractive, not unattractive. Get out of the wife's frame. Your writing of life events will be about you, and not 'she'. You will… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/22 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 20221.80m and 68 kg and the wife won't fuck you. She's scared of breaking you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/02/22 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Help She's rude and cries in every arguementSounds like OP hiding the phone because: He is afraid of the girl's judgement, shaming, anger, playing wounded, etc. In most other words you're operating in her frame, being inauthentic trying to manage your image to manipulate her behaviour - so she is 'nice' to you. This action will tell her that you're a weak and desperate panty-drying looser and her actions will reflect that. Loads of DEERing happening with girlfriend and in the post. Read Always DARE, Never DEER. You're presumably a guy wit… | /r/askMRP | 02/02/22 08:32 AM |
| 9 | The Marriage Manifesto: How To Keep The Power In LTRs and MarriageUnderstand that can be a huge red flag too - if she can't fuck you properly | /r/TheRedPill | 29/01/22 12:39 PM |
| 8 | The Marriage Manifesto: How To Keep The Power In LTRs and MarriageOnly an idiot would argue with any of that, although the law often looks upon the men more as an indentured servant rather than a slave. Risks also include getting cucked. Many jurisdictions will saddle the husband with all the responsibility of the father, even if he discovers that a kid isn't his own. Some jurisdictions try to ensure that married father's cannot have paternity tests performed. In such circumstances, paternity tests might only happen as required by a court to establish paternit… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/01/22 12:12 PM |
| 91 | The Marriage Manifesto: How To Keep The Power In LTRs and MarriageNo reason to marry if you're not going to have kids imminently. Make sure you're deciding to marry, and you're not being pressured into it out of a sense of a lack of abundance. If you lack abundance, do not marry because you will be screwed. Next level hard mode is when kids arrive. Never stop lifting weights and don't get fat. Whatever you do, maintain abundance in marriage. If wife doesn't fuck you, there will be consequences. Cut it in the bud immediately. Your time, attention, affection and… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/22 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Lessons Learned from walking through HellThat sounds good. I also agree that the always DARE and never DEER should be on the sidebar. It's a succinct explanation of why one toolset should be employed as opposed to the other. These days, I can feel my balls shrivelling, at the mere thought of DEERing, and I'm aware that I would be putting the person in front of me into the position of judge over my actions. Be aware that 'the vortex' as you put it may relate to you caring too much about other person's judgements (entering their frame an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/01/22 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Lessons Learned from walking through HellI wouldn't worry about the shit test encyclopedia. The shit tests will be automatically when your mindset (frame) is correct. I would care less about learning smart lines, and more about understanding what you want, and aligning your priorities with those goals. Learning lines to win shit tests is like learning pick up lines. It's the mindset that's needed to adapt to the situation and have your voice, body language and actions align with what you say. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/01/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Lessons Learned from walking through HellAlmost nobody cares. Imagine a shy, fat, unattractive and disagreeable women in her fifties. That is how the world will see most men. Unless you bring value to their lives, and you have many options so they need work for your time effort and attention, then you will probably not be appreciated. Start by valuing yourself and your time. Women listen to each others' pity fests because they enjoy the drama, making mouth noises and enjoy living through another woman's emotions. I don't think that the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/01/22 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Getting her to lose the weight?Thank you would do just fine, for someone giving you their time to enlighten you, even if it was already posted on this thread. Your response makes you sound petty and easily triggered. Do you understand why why others have asked you about what you want? I'll put the pieces together for you: If you have defined an endpoint, and you're actively working towards it, then your actions will be congruent with what you want. The difference between this and having a covert contract with the wife to get … | /r/askMRP | 22/01/22 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Getting her to lose the weight?This is an excellent example of how to do it. Getting in shape and loosing fat happen as a result of improving habits. If the habits don't change, then it will be a constant and failing battle. That's why the guys here are told to lift at least 3 times per weak, rather than to 'try and lose fat and gain muscle'. | /r/askMRP | 22/01/22 08:45 PM |
| 13 | recurring comfort testConsider that by trying to fix her feelings you're making a series of displays of low value and living in her frame. At the same time she's being miserable and aggressive. Your attention and DEERing is feeding that. You cannot convince someone not to feel bad; that's not how it works. The path forwards is to live and enjoy your excellent and fun life in your own frame. If she's miserable, you can acknowledge it with fogging and a fun attitude. If she continues to be a pest, then get on and do th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/21 08:34 AM |
| 5 | Trickle Sex - Decline it or Praise it?Absolutely correct. OP needs to become the guy that is unphased by getting turned down, and perhaps even amused by it and he needs to initiate absolutely whenever he wants without any concern. Why would OP be unconcerned about getting turned down? Because when he's done the work, he's a guy that will have sex.......with the wife or without because he lives in a world of abundance. OPs wife doesn't seem to believe that OP has many great options OR that OP will not use those options. She thinks (p… | /r/askMRP | 09/12/21 08:43 AM |
| 1 | I'm in!Can raise and sustain an erection for a woman at 325lbs. Testosterone levels must be higher than Ghengis Khan's. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/21 08:00 AM |
| 3 | One step forward two steps back.Damn, that's even a thing! Thought you were kidding! The first words seen when clicking on OP's post history in r/exredpill was OP complaining about being the VICTIM of consuming too much redpill material. I'm betting that his wife made him watch them. | /r/askMRP | 17/09/21 04:05 PM |
| 6 | She's pissed and it's all your faultSure, it's all context dependent and you have given almost no background. Furthermore, MRP is all about you - you do your shit and the wife does whatever she wants to. You would be LARPing with covert contracts if you live your life to 'make' the wife behave in a particular way. It can be amusing to watch the hamster wheel spinning, when you understand the game and are playing it well. You sound deeply concerned about your wife's intentions, from a few silly words. If you're owning your shit pro… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/21 01:44 PM |
| 4 | She's pissed and it's all your faultThe friend opened her mouth and spoke some words. The real message behind those words depends on the context of their actual conversation and whether you're fuckable. She might have been bitching about her lazy 'partner', or she might have been showing interest in a guy that is fuckable and owning his shit. If you're fuckable and owning your shit, the friend is perhaps showing some interest in you, using the yard work to express it. Let's imagine you've found MRP and are now lifting and improvin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/21 01:00 PM |
| 3 | Own your shit. Earn your happiness.I agree. While the wife most likely played her part, so did OP, and it could not have happened without OP's willing participation. That's why it's all your fault, OP! Sure, you didn't get the result your wanted from marriage, perhaps even after investing years of high efforts, before finding MRP, but it's where your actions left you. It also sounds like you're now in the anger phase, and that's necessary to get you to fix your broken mental models that helped you to self-sabotage. The thing to u… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/21 05:24 PM |
| 7 | Own your shit. Earn your happiness.Sounds like you had previously failed all the shit tests that her anxiety fed hamster had thrown at you. By failing those shit tests you validated her image of you, and you entered her frame through an act of submission. The insults and insinuations come/came from her validated her image of you. Build and like live in your own frame. Living in woman's anxious frame is a living hell. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/09/21 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Thought that her changing her last name was important to me but now I am not so sureGo for it - sounds like a great plan! What could possibly go wrong? Give up your freedom and commitment for a woman that wants to be an independent wife. She can't be bothered to go to the adminstrative trouble to change her name and fully commit herself to you. She is communicating that you're not valuable enough to change her name to yours, but that she sees value in the benefit to herself of getting married. Not changing her name also indicates that because she sees you as low value that your… | /r/askMRP | 15/09/21 09:18 AM |
| 3 | Stfu or leadership opportunity?Congratulations, soldier, you have earned your level 1 autistic Rambo LARPing badge! Your hamster is working hard while you're busy living in her frame. A quick scan of your posts indicate that you've been getting some hysterical bonding sex as a result of opening your mouth and talking of separation. You have already discovered that hysterical bonding is unsustainable. Earning your level 2 badge will need you to pretend that you're living your life for yourself. Your wife does not matter. If yo… | /r/askMRP | 14/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Building FrameThat's a lot of words to say you have no frame. You don't trust yourself and you're anxious about being self destructive and about acting so that others don't judge you negatively. STFU comes naturally when you have frame. Why? Because you don't give a fuck about things that are not fuckworthy. You have a mission and you get on with it. If other people want to exploit your time, attention and resources, keeping you from operating in your own self interest, then their thoughts are largely irrelev… | /r/askMRP | 06/09/21 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Wanting to explode when STFU?It sounds like your journey has started. Put in the work. | /r/askMRP | 22/08/21 03:55 PM |
| 7 | Wanting to explode when STFU?I think that’s given women too little credit. So women are a special group that are inherently 'nice and caring' towards their partners, or perhaps everyone? How's that belief working out for you, in practice? Being a good human to your partner isn’t much more than a respect thing. But what do I know. Yes, what do you know? How are your nice guy behaviours wrapped up with covert contracts working out for you? Are you respected? By your wife? What do her actions tell you? If your behaviours are i… | /r/askMRP | 22/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Wanting to explode when STFU?Your post describes someone with a huge pile of covert contracts, who is getting angry and frustrated by random interactions with the main character in your story (the current captain). You describe yourself as a victim of circumstances, and being "made to feel" certain ways due to 'circumstances'. You finish by asking other guys how they can get though such situations without snapping (or according to your world view - being made to snap). The answer is as always, sidebar and lift. You have loa… | /r/askMRP | 22/08/21 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Attempting to get frame I’m sure I never had.Sounds like you've reaped the rewards for living in her frame. If your life is a general shitshow, start putting the most important parts back on track. If they're already on track, then start building your own frame and putting the bricks in place to build a life that will be satisfying for you. You're now aware of what happens when you support your wife at every turn, and give her free validation, time, affection and resources irrespective of her behaviour. You want her to stop treating you wi… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Sex and mind games. STFU or call her out?Teasing is teasing! It's messing with her. You can be a sexual tease even if you know she'll react with disgust because you're just fucking with her for a laugh. The important thing is that you don't give a shit about her response. You don't care if it'll irritate her at first - it's just funny. In essence you are turning the tables, you're shit testing her and at the same time demonstrating that you tease without any covert contracts, with full outcome independence - you are not doing it only f… | /r/askMRP | 02/08/21 04:46 PM |
| 2 | I (31M) am upset about my pregnant wife’s (36F) sexual history - that has just surfaced again. Now I’m thinking about RedPill life instead of Blue or Purple Pill Life. Depressing but where do I go from here as a Beta - with a kid on the way …FWIW, learning to spot the shit tests goes along with Shut The Fuck Up, which relates to stop being unattractive. Spotting the shit tests allows you to realise when you fail, and it allows you to fix your broken mental models. If you put in the work and implement MRP properly, then you will find that you automatically pass the shit tests and most become like a game because you have become the game. You will no longer need to use game (act inauthentically, pretending to be someone else) on your w… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/21 05:12 PM |
| 4 | I (31M) am upset about my pregnant wife’s (36F) sexual history - that has just surfaced again. Now I’m thinking about RedPill life instead of Blue or Purple Pill Life. Depressing but where do I go from here as a Beta - with a kid on the way …Your general attitude does seem a little odd. Have you been practicing RP for some time? A quick glance at your post history doesn't seem to indicate that your a troll so I'll say this: According to accounts, successful pickup artists experienced difficulties when transitioning to long term relationship. That was because they were using game in order to hide their deficits. It allowed them to bang many women, without ever having to fix their deficits and learn to play the long term game. Wheneve… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/21 04:50 PM |
| 1 | I (31M) am upset about my pregnant wife’s (36F) sexual history - that has just surfaced again. Now I’m thinking about RedPill life instead of Blue or Purple Pill Life. Depressing but where do I go from here as a Beta - with a kid on the way …So let's get this straight, OP, is hot sex really important to you? Yes? Then start acting like that's the case. This have precious little to do with your wife. It's all about you. Could you readily get hot sex from other women if you chose to? Did you ever get that from other women? Doubtful. If you want that then you must act like you do. You will need to BECOME an attractive man that gets it. That means fixing your mind and your body. If you're not prepared to do that, then just continue cryi… | /r/askMRP | 31/07/21 03:08 PM |
| 1 | I (31M) am upset about my pregnant wife’s (36F) sexual history - that has just surfaced again. Now I’m thinking about RedPill life instead of Blue or Purple Pill Life. Depressing but where do I go from here as a Beta - with a kid on the way …Take inspiration from romance novels: be sure to have little to no muscle, whine, be nice, loads of covert contracts, and wear nylon shirts. Buy her expensive shit. | /r/askMRP | 31/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Should I be worried if I get denied phone sex with my temporarily-LDR gfProbably best to go Rambo | /r/askMRP | 29/07/21 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Wife continues to complain about how little I’m home when we moved to our location due to the proximity to her worthless parents. Cut the drama and hire a realtor?Not least by making his time a priority to himself. A wife that doesn't deeply desire every moment of time with you will gladly piss away your time. | /r/askMRP | 26/07/21 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Wife continues to complain about how little I’m home when we moved to our location due to the proximity to her worthless parents. Cut the drama and hire a realtor?This is a great example of living in a wife's frame and acting upon her feelings. You are already the provider in the relationship and you willingly sacrificed a huge block of time every workday upon the basis of some fleeting feels. If you don't value your own life and time, nobody else will. In future, you decide how you commit your time, upon the basis of your own decisions. Did you really think it was a great idea at the time? Did you really? You seem to think that a wife will happily take a… | /r/askMRP | 26/07/21 03:42 PM |
| 7 | So you have ED, What are you going to do about it?Further to OP's assessment, it's also important to consider that guys are not sex robots. Like women, we also need to get into the mood and attraction is not binary. We have attraction floors, and yet there is a considerable difference between the level of arousal you will achieve from different women due to a variety of factors such as fitness, weight, age, looks, scent, bitchiness and entitlement, neediness, seduction techniques, clothing, cleanliness and grooming, and social/physical situatio… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/07/21 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Wife knows about dreadNow ask yourself why you're afraid of a little weak woman (assuming that she's not 300 lbs, and stood over you, ready to sit down). One of your first tasks is to understand when you become flooded by her emotions. You need to kill the fear, and kill the covert contracts that put you there. In your mind she should be like any other person. If she's being shitty, disrespectful and frigid, why do you give a fuck about how she feels? Flooding puts you into fight or flight mode, and from there you ju… | /r/askMRP | 24/07/21 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Wife knows about dreadAnd FFS don't sleep on the couch - that's a really weak move. It ought to be the bed you largely financed, so you sleep there. | /r/askMRP | 23/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Wife knows about dreadYou have posted in OYS, so that's a good start. The sidebar is your friend. You're still at beginner level, well in her frame: Your care about fixing her feelings - you're being emotionally flooded by her emotions. That is covered by mo more mister nice guy and practical female psychology. She knows about dread - so what? All it means is that the shit tests become more intense and directed. Keep doing the work and you'll realise the following: you're a guy with sexual desires, and there is no sh… | /r/askMRP | 23/07/21 10:07 PM |
| 3 | New here. Oblivious wife is inconsiderate and disrespectful. Do I STFU or call it out?That sounds like a fair assessment. It sounds as though you're not a disaster when it comes to provisioning. Your lifts are not totally pathetic and your fat is under control. A useful frame shift is to not own her feelings, and understand that she's human and will be tired and annoyed at times. When she's inconsiderate, she must first beware of your expectations of her. Just don't be a bitch about it. She cannot read your mind, and you getting angry will be unproductive. You can tell her to kno… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/21 11:37 AM |
| 2 | New here. Oblivious wife is inconsiderate and disrespectful. Do I STFU or call it out?Yeah, most of us have probably been there. Look at it like this:. Let's say that she's bitching because you didn't load the dish washer her way. Now imagine that her partner was George Clooney. Would she treat him the same way? That's because it's not about the dishwasher, it's about how she feels about you RIGHT NOW. Those feelings are founded upon many elements. Most here (but not all) had problems stemming from a weak beta mindset. The beta gets the dishwasher loading bullshit. The thing is t… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/21 10:28 AM |
| 1 | New here. Oblivious wife is inconsiderate and disrespectful. Do I STFU or call it out?You need to learn that what she says and how she says it often relates to her feelings. The message is her feelings, and the words are bullshit. Listen to the feelings, but don't try to fix them. If you try to fix her feelings based on the context of her words, you are only demonstrating to her that you're autistic and in her frame. Do a search for "It's not about the nail". | /r/askMRP | 20/07/21 08:18 AM |
| 3 | Sex and mind games. STFU or call her out?As usual, there are heaps of great advice here. As already stated, you appear to be deep within your wife's frame. Is your mood heavily influenced by hers? Are you troubled if she's upset, angry, crying or sad? Do you try to fix her emotions until she acts the way you want? That is living in her frame, and a certain dose of that stems from neediness for sex. She knows that, and it disgusts her. Women want to have sex with attractive men that fuck. A physically attractive man can still be disgust… | /r/askMRP | 20/07/21 07:55 AM |
| -8 | Just some thoughts about the sidebar booksThis is a waste of everyone's time. Please delete the post. Time for you to join a book club? | /r/askMRP | 15/07/21 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Wife very angry and hostile?Imagine that somebody annoying expected you to behave in a particular way so that you would do something specific for him/her, without both of you ever having actually made such an agreement. And imagine that they did those nice things again and again, then getting upset when you didn't live up to your side of the never-discussed agreement. That is your 'nice guy'. You should ask yourself why you're doing nice things, for a person that doesn't want them, and then getting upset when she isn't hap… | /r/askMRP | 12/07/21 02:11 PM |
| 3 | Wife very angry and hostile?Apart from your victim puke and lack of frame, consider that you've given almost zero context:. Age, weight, height, lifts, goals, kids, etc. If you want proper responses, make the effort to put a proper post in OYS. What do you want? If you want assistance to hold you accountable for your bullshit and weaknesses then OYS properly. If you want people to commiserate, validate you and tell you what an awful person your wife is, then go and make more low effort posts on the deadbedrooms sub. They'l… | /r/askMRP | 12/07/21 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Wife very angry and hostile?I disagree. I've visited the US. Everything is edible, sweet and flavoured. The paint probably is too ;-) | /r/askMRP | 12/07/21 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Wife very angry and hostile?Or she wanted to message/call chad | /r/askMRP | 12/07/21 01:20 PM |
| 7 | What am I doing wrong? When is it time to give up?You can't be phased by her rejections. If she can see you acting like a bitch after a rejection, you're rewarding that and dropping her respect for you. Sulking or anger resulting from covert contracts removes all excitement form initiations. With time she'll think to herself "oh crap, he wants sex again", over longer periods of time she learns to enjoy crapping on you. The answer is to kill the dancing monkey and be totally OI about rejections - to have fun teasing her and doing what you want t… | /r/askMRP | 10/07/21 08:30 AM |
| 18 | What am I doing wrong? When is it time to give up?You sound like a dancing monkey with a huge covert contract that you'll do the work and she'll respond by meeting your sexual needs. I killed that same contract when I decided that the wife only gets first go at my libido, and that I would fuck another younger and prettier woman over the following days. I understand why now, my wife's behaviour almost immediately became more sexual. It was because my mental model had flipped, the covert contract was torn up and I was no longer doing things to ge… | /r/askMRP | 10/07/21 07:53 AM |
| 1 | My wife dislikes that I do not take her seriouslyLet me parse it for you: Your woman (who isn't worried enough about competition from younger, prettier women.... probably with good reasons) made mouth noises about her feelings, in the moment, about how she feels you could make her happier without any consideration for your interests or the consequences. If you're a man of value, look after your own long term interests and happiness. If you're not a man of value, build your own value. In the that case, your woman may resist/sabotage your effort… | /r/askMRP | 09/07/21 08:12 PM |
| 1 | My wife dislikes that I do not take her seriouslySounds somewhat like my wife. It's hard to know where you are since it looks as though you haven't posted in OYS or followed the guide to give your background and lifts? Are you a fat, ugly poor loader that nobody would follow? Have you made any progress? Are you and have you been in her frame and now playing Rambo game? It could be that you've been improving and she's resisting entering your frame. Do tell us. | /r/askMRP | 09/07/21 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Wife horny after I got a new high paying jobAnd massaging her feet | /r/askMRP | 09/07/21 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Are you under 30No, not round here, round the back. | /r/askMRP | 05/07/21 08:13 PM |
| 1 | How has MRP affected your relationship with your parents?Stop whining and blame shifting! You sound like a woman. | /r/askMRP | 03/07/21 12:30 PM |
| 4 | I can never fully wrap my brain around why RP is so anti marriage and LTRThe food is bound to be better because you married a woman. Sounds like you're worried that you're not enough of a catch to keep a woman around long term without conceding to her pressure to get married. Good luck, that sounds like a great basis for an RP marriage. Remember to tell her that you're only going to marry her if she continues to respect and fuck you throughout the marriage. Problem sorted! | /r/askMRP | 30/06/21 04:00 PM |
| 1 | My wife, 46 years old, of 17 years is having a virtual affair with her first love from 30 years ago. Do I blame myself?Telling her you want a divorce is 1) In her frame, 2) passive. If you want a divorce, you get a fucking divorce! Get some some proper legal advice ASAP | /r/askMRP | 28/06/21 01:30 PM |
| 1 | My wife, 46 years old, of 17 years is having a virtual affair with her first love from 30 years ago. Do I blame myself?She doesn't care about how you feel. Read the sidebar and lift. As a man, nobody gives a fuck about your feelings! Why should they? That sounds like a covert contract - you have feelings and expect your wife to act accordingly. Think about that. That might be cute from a submissive woman, not from an overbearing one and it's downright vomit inducing when coming from a man. Your feelings are for you to deal with. You need to build yourself into a position of abundance, where you don't need sympat… | /r/askMRP | 28/06/21 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Wife is starting to push backAppointments can be rescheduled. Unless his marriage problems result from him banging every thot in the local area, it's not going to be constructive to tell him to drive full speed further into her frame, raise her ever higher on a pedestal and fail all of her compliance tests.....because she a has a pussy. Let her discover the word 'no' and begin the process of resetting where she has to earn his time, effort, affection and commitment. | /r/askMRP | 28/06/21 01:15 PM |
| -1 | Can you send this wife in the right direction?A woman that wants sex from her husband - she must be a saint. If that's the case, she must also be fit, sweet, sexy and cooperative. The husband must be an evil woman-hating misogynist. He probably also hates gays, people of colour, and even bunny rabbits. No doubt, he is the secret love child of Hitler and Stalin. He must have made his way to this sub, purely due to his evil nature and not because he feels that he was sold a pup. The guys of this sub are collectively gushing tears for this uni… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/06/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | How do I get a life out of the house without my wife resenting me for it?Regarding the scheduling of your lifting sessions, GSLP is very low volume (few exercises, fee sets and few sessions per week). If I were you, I would train more frequently - increasing at least the number of exercises and including pull work (pull-ups/chin-ups and bent over rows). With the equipment at home, you don't suffer a huge time penalty to get to the equipment. Just make sure you don't go insane with squat and deadlift frequency, because it can wipe you out. | /r/askMRP | 15/06/21 07:26 PM |
| 6 | How do I get a life out of the house without my wife resenting me for it?Furthermore, given that logistics or weak frame make it seem difficult to leave home, and that you're only training 3 times per week, then consider getting some strength training equipment at home. I have no idea of your budget or space, but having a power cage or half rack, a bench, adjustable dumbbells, barbell + weights and a curling bar cover most of the essentials. If budget and space are limited, consider at least some dumbbells and pull up bars. You're probably far too weak to to pull-ups… | /r/askMRP | 15/06/21 12:49 PM |
| 30 | How do I get a life out of the house without my wife resenting me for it?If you're worried about your wife's reaction to it all, then it's most certainly not from your own frame. When you're operating in your own frame, you'll be the judge of your own actions and decisions. You will not need to DEER (defend, excuse, explain or rationalise) your behaviour to your wife or us, you'll just do it. You may take her words into consideration, but you'll not be manipulated by pouting, anger, tears, playing wounded or her judgement. It's not that you will need to think that th… | /r/askMRP | 14/06/21 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Would Like Some FeedbackYou should only ask for sex if you're paying for it. Asking is autistic and removes any fun, making it a job for her. It's better to tease and insinuate - be playful and at least a little mysterious. Just go for it, if you want, but be congruent with your desires. Let her know that you desire and want to fuck her through your actions and insinuations, rather than literal statements. What's the worst that could happen? Maybe she never wants to fuck you? If that were the case, you would at least k… | /r/askMRP | 11/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 6 | A StartThe quality of the feedback seems to be falling. Just cut the crap, the victim mindset, the learned helplessness. Become someone that cares for himself, doesn't take crap and disrespect, and who rewards good behaviour and punishes bad behaviour. Lose the anger, and relearn to enjoy yourself and play with people and tease women unapologetically and be comfortable being a sexual person. Hit the gym regularly, fix you diet and post in OYS. Become someone attractive, that women are attracted to and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/01/21 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Following the guides, but having ethical/moral issues...maybe identity crisis? Need some Bro Boost.Finding anyone to save in deadbedrooms would be like searching for a needle in a haystack. Those guys have decided to give up and wallow in self-pity. Anyone with the slightest bit of self-esteem and assertiveness will see that sub for what it is an leave it. If a guy is going to look at that sub, better reasons would be for a good chuckle by watching the results of a victim mindset, to remind himself that things could be worse, or to mischievously tease them, with with the plausible deniability… | /r/askMRP | 07/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Lifting during Covid?Live life like an alpha: Saw the bed in half and throw away the wife's half, to make room for a power rack. There's no longer room in the bed for the wife, she can sleep on the sofa or the floor - who cares? The neighbours are concerned about the noise from the weights? They can go ***k themselves! Life is great. | /r/askMRP | 07/10/20 08:56 PM |
| 1 | A letter my Fiance wrote me after I began implementing the red pill threating to leave?I'm not going to comment on all the other blabber. "I have trust issues" means that I don't have crazy levels of desire for you, my beta, so I'm making the rules and I will use this statement to redefine my terms at every future point in the relationship to keep you dancing faster and faster. | /r/askMRP | 07/10/20 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Was I too nice to this bitch?You're angry, aren't you? Why are you angry? Don't tell me you're not! I can see it you're angry! After all I did for you recently! You narcissistic shit! Response:. Hahaha, good one. You're cute when you're angry. | /r/askMRP | 18/02/20 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Making Progress, but have questionsDamn, I think I might give that a go - for a bit of 'V' | /r/askMRP | 24/07/19 09:26 PM |
| 2 | What to do when anniversary is coming up?Go-karting or paintball | /r/askMRP | 11/07/19 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Handling a Fearful-Avoidant WifeI agree with everything you said. Sounds exactly like my wife. I settled for a very long time. You're so right about continually pushing. Mine also shit tests after being pushed for more and delivering, and threatens never to repeat the behaviour. The way to go is total cold indifference and high level dread and congruence with the message that you're not satisfied. I still have a long way to go, but I'm in no hurry as there are many other women. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/19 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Handling a Fearful-Avoidant WifeIndeed, you're correct. My wife also has considerable anxiety around sexual enjoyment and doing anything other than vanilla. Progress for me has required killing all neediness for sex, although I do plenty of gaming, and making it clear that I'm not satisfied with the sex. The communication about quality of sex was mostly made by being disinterested in her offer: turning down her initiations, a very few well chosen words when she raised the topic out of frustration, and active dread. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/19 09:38 AM |
| 3 | Handling a Fearful-Avoidant WifeThanks for the write-up. I've been on MRP for over a year, though this is a new account. This behaviour exactly matches my wife. Although general MRP principles work, and I had identified my wife as low self-esteem, she wasn't playing fully by the standard rulebook. I too worked out that I needed to completely check out of the relationship. With her, I'm exceedingly cold, and that is the only way to make any progress sexually, and to get any warmth, intimacy or sexual intimacy from her. My wife … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/19 08:16 AM |
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