Tension had been building up for a few days. Hard no's followed by leaving and doing 'stuff'. Last evening I walked in to see her at the dining table having dinner. We don't always eat together. Its not an issue, not yet. I have been working more on kino...I approach her, put my arm around her and kiss her on her neck....and she responds, "lets shower together." This is code for BJ in the shower. This is the first time in many years she has initiated, and that too for a BJ....I play it kool, say "sure" and am on my way to hug it out with the kiddos. She follows me up and I go straight into the shower...she joins me quickly and after some foreplay she is at it.....The problem is she is not good at it....its hesitant, then toothy ... I know she doesn't enjoy it, and therefore does a subpar job at it....I am not even close to cling and she is looking at me like "cmon man". She gives up and says "my jaw is hurting, come soon." this goes on for a while , now she is frustrated and begins complaining, then says "OK just fuck me then, here..." Any way I need to give her feedback on how to blow me. Its been s touchy issue in the past . She has said "I don't want to talk about it." How do I guide her into whats fun for me?