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It sounds like she comes around when she wants to fuck and goes away when she doesn’t. She sounds like a good plate.
/r/askMRP25/06/25 12:08 PM
4

Read sex god method and lead your wife to the sex you want. Reread The Rational Male slow enough to understand it. If you want your wife fitter, make a few innocent comments about how fit a celebrity looks, or once you level up, how one of her friends looks…
/r/askMRP20/07/24 05:28 PM
6

She wants you to feel like she can’t be resisted. She is playing hard to get.
/r/askMRP12/10/23 03:25 AM
2

Have you thought about giving her shit for it? Tease her. Say “baby are you starving for attention like a woman who can’t get a man?” “Are you trying to be a celebrity? Are we going to release a sex tape next?” Then, “but really your better than that, you don’t post try-hard full-body selfies.” “Anyway, that ass is mine, and my girlfriend isn’t going to do that often, better yet, not at all.”
/r/askMRP04/08/23 08:37 AM
1

You are right. I’m not around here much and I now remember why. Unfortunately, this place now rarely helps me reach my goals and when I try to post to help others it quickly devolves into arguing at the edges with a poster playing a status game, and I believe status games are low value, especially while anonymous on Reddit. Thanks for your kind words. I’m glad something I once wrote helped.
/r/askMRP26/03/23 07:43 PM
1

You’re probably right. The original advice would be better suited for OP after he is getting fucked and is able to bring his wife to tears. I assumed he had his shit together, lifted, gamed, outcome independent, etc.
/r/askMRP26/03/23 02:06 PM
2

I understand you believe I’m suggesting he dance for his wife. I see where you’re coming from since my post said, “so” she won’t say that. Perhaps, it would have been better to say, “and maybe” your wife won’t say that. I can understand how you misunderstood the comment to be in the woman’s frame, I presumed he wanted the change, for him, just as you say you did. Nonetheless, there’s another harsh opinion, although mildly harsh this time, and people have harsh opinions from time to time. Regardi…
/r/askMRP26/03/23 06:45 AM
1

Retarded…that’s a harsh opinion. Help me understand how you conceptualize the reflecting and adjusting you suggested in your recent post about giving your wife enough comfort for her to give you the affection of a girlfriend. Based on your attack, I gather it isn’t scoreboarding. We agree on that. So, when you reflect on your actions and determine if, based on your frame and the life you want to live, your actions need to be adjusted, what do you call it?
/r/askMRP25/03/23 02:14 PM
0

Care in advance on your terms so she doesn’t say that in the first place. If you care on your terms in advance and she tries to manipulate you for more, DNGAF. Then, reflect and determine if your terms are enough or are too little, if so adjust.
/r/askMRP23/03/23 09:22 PM
18

The the other girl to the event and flirt with both. The first girl is not girlfriend material but that is your best chance to game her.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/23 02:47 AM
4

Say, “cool story, make me a sandwich.”
/r/askMRP22/11/22 06:41 AM
1

Start at the origin: https://leangains.com/fuckarounditis/ Read that 3 times.
/r/askMRP23/08/22 05:57 PM
4

Look at your first reason you claim she is emotionally attached… She’s projecting. She’s wondering if you cheated because she cheated, or is in an affair, more likely.
/r/askMRP21/07/22 11:06 AM
5

You are over-analyzing. You have to get out of your head…Be present.
/r/askMRP13/06/22 02:26 AM
3

Rambo. You can say “I’m sorry your upset” and not lose frame. Lead the relationship. Divide and conquer. “You watch the kids, I’ll make us food.”
/r/askMRP23/12/21 02:51 AM
2

“Her bad moods give me anxiety.” That is another way to say: 1) You’re in her frame 2) You’re afraid of her feelings 3) She has power over you Read MMSLP. Stop having fucks to give about your wife’s tantrums. Chuckle at them, to yourself. If she gets the job done, who cares if she stomps around.
/r/askMRP27/09/21 02:41 AM
2

You chances of catching AIDS from vaginal sex are close to zero percent. You’ve already had the clap. Herpes and warts are a threat, but until you have symptoms, proceed as normal. I’d be more worried about getting her pregnant. Wear a condom next time.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/21 03:55 AM
2

It’s not easy. It is possible. You have to become the prize. Be the best version of your self. Be able to bang other women. Care less about the relationship than she does. Self validate and disregard other people’s subjective opinions (including hers). You should seriously reconsider marrying her, and marrying at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/21 11:26 PM
3

You learn game. You can flirt without being a simp.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 06:18 AM
14

Yes you are a pheromonal beta male.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 06:16 AM
2

I’m more of a heartbreaker. You’re not. No judgment here. It sounds like you’ve thought it through, and have no regrets. It’s only pussy, anyway.
/r/askTRP23/01/21 01:18 PM
2

I saw a girl at a coffee shop with great tits, so I sat next to her and said, “Hello.” We talked for about an hour and then the coffee shop closed so I invited her to my office to look at paintings. When we got to the office we started chatting and she told me she had kissed a girl once, and I said that was hot and that I wanted to kiss her. A few minutes later we were fucking on a couch. She was a good fuck. After we fucked we played the age game and we discovered that I was two years older tha…
/r/askTRP23/01/21 05:41 AM
1

Girls your age gravitate to guys that are “fun attractive.” You’re not. You are wrapped up in your ego. You’re defending, explaining, and rationalizing. You’ll be stuck, and fail to improve. The teacher appears when the student is ready. You are not ready. So, you’ll continue to feel resented and other guys get invited out and fuck all the girls.
/r/askTRP23/01/21 04:29 AM
1

You’re still the same awkward person you were as a teenager. You’ve dealt with the lost and empty part by taking on the hardworking mature role. You consider others around you less mature, less hardworking, more reckless, etc. This is a classic superiority complex. People don’t gravitate toward you because your superiority complex makes you not charming, not fun, and not charismatic. Read Book of Pook to be more fun. Figure out what self-perceived inadequacy you are trying to hide and work throu…
/r/askTRP22/01/21 12:25 PM
-5

There is no such thing as love. Stop being weak.
/r/askMRP22/01/21 03:00 AM
-2

You love your wife when she is fertile, and hate her the rest of the time, because love isn’t real and you were biologically programmed to wander through nature and fuck fertile women and then leave them to hunt food then find the next. If you want to stay married, do what I did: tell your wife you are going to have side pussy. Let her know she’ll be your number one, that you won’t waste your resources on other women, that you won’t tell anyone, especially her friends and family, and (this will …
/r/askMRP12/01/21 04:22 AM
1

I didn’t say everything will be “totally fine” whatever that means. Totally fine is a subjective opinion of the state of affairs. I said no matter what happens there will be winners. You have the power to make it totally fine for you. Life always goes on. Empires rise and fall. There have been times in recent US history when things were similar. The capital has been ransacked. We had a civil war. In 1871 shit was fucked. And here we are buying iPhones and complaining because we can’t fly around …
/r/TheRedPill09/01/21 03:14 PM
1

Whatever man. I’ve been in the highest individual income tax bracket since the Obama years. Just make more money and you’ll have plenty. Invest and take advantage of the capital gain rate. Start a hedge fund and take advantage of carried interest. Get creative. Adapt. Evolve. Stop whining. There have been no guns in Australia and the UK for years. Those countries are great places to live. It I’m left with a hunting rifle, so be it. If they take that, so be it. I’ve never once in my life had to d…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/21 02:45 PM
11

Whatever man. I don’t believe in Trump. I just believe in me. The world evolves. Only the strong survive. It’s always been that way. And, your figures are way off. I just bought a boat for a 150k and that was about 12% year over year inflation. People have been saying it’s revolution, or market crash, plague, flood, demons, or that the king or cabal or illuminati or some other great power is going to ruin it for thousands of years, throughout recorded history. It’s the human condition. Life goes…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/21 01:42 PM
7

You’re overthinking. Just reply, “that sucks, lol...Busted?” Don’t defend, explain, excuse, or rationalize. She was right there with you.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 02:53 PM
2

Strippers go home with guys because they are beta. If you seem safe, weak, and willing to provide, a stripper will go home with you. Then she’ll run around and get fucked by dangerous alphas. It is hypergamy magnified. She has no ability to pair bond and gets the game. AF/BB. You appear to have little self respect. She’s a stripper, not a Victoria’s Secret model. She’s nothing to take pride in. If she fucks well, and you want a good fuck, take it without shame, or pride.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 01:02 PM
1

Strippers are high drama and play the game for a living. You’re needy. It would never work.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 04:56 AM
2

Until you are willing to kick her out, she has the power. Ask yourself what you want. If you want her out, you have to kick her out. If you want to fuck other women, you have to kick her out. If you want to fuck her, you have to kick her out.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 04:47 AM
1

You’re doing it wrong. I’ve had several same day lays from cold approach at coffees shops, parks, hotel lobbies, etc., with good logistics. You have to learn to push pull. The approach is a pull, then you push by playfully disqualifying her, and make her chase. Then you demonstrate value. Then you talk innuendo. Then you ask her to change venues. Then you escalate. It’s called seduction. Women fantasize about that happening to them with the right guy. You can become that guy and learn to do it. …
/r/askTRP03/12/20 04:38 AM
20

Embrace satanism
/r/askTRP02/12/20 04:20 AM
12

Read the post 12 levels of dread. Go slow. Recognize, with your religious background, you were likely attracted to a “good girl” type. Meaning your wife plays that role. It will take some time to retrain that in her. Also, you have a 1 year old child, which puts the sex life on hard mode. If you aren’t, track your wife’s cycle. Get an app, and when you see a tampon in the trash, or whatever, mark it is a the start. Read an hour on moods during a cycle, and follow your wife’s for 3 months and it …
/r/askMRP14/11/20 03:11 PM
13

You say you’ve been reading the sidebar. What have you read exactly? “You only want me for sex” is a shittest. Say, “that’s not true, I want blow jobs too.” And smile and laugh. If she gets pissed double down, and say, “full nude massages are cool, and I like your cooking.” Or, whatever. The point is you have to get to a place where you have no shame for being a man who likes to fuck. She needs to know you are a man who likes to fuck. And, if she doesn’t fuck you, you just might not be able to c…
/r/askMRP14/11/20 02:45 PM
1

Suit yourself.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 03:31 AM
1

You’re not there every day bro. It’s new enough. If you know the coworkers tell your lady if she can’t keep her mouth shut your going to have to fill it up with your cock. But you could never do that and hold frame so keep whining and denying the advice. Whatever, doesn’t matter to me.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 02:10 AM
1

Of course they don’t require a response. You respond because you dominate. You respond because you are a winner. And then you get her best fuck. If your staying silent, you’re not fucking. Or maybe you get a duty fuck but you’re missing out on the best.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 02:08 AM
4

You’re missing out on so many good fucks. Women shittest so that they can find a guy to dominate them. When they test you and you win, they fuck. When they test you and you ignore, you look autistic. Sure every now and then ignore. But if you do it all the time you’re missing out.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 12:30 PM
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Yes, it’s normal for some women. You’re enter a new social circle (her and her coworkers) and she is (probably) unconsciously shit-testing you to establish her dominance of that social circle. Many people, men, and women, will do that. Try this: “If you keep that up I’m going to have to, take you in the bathroom and fill your mouth up, or spank you, or anger fuck you.” Obviously depending on the people around you may not be able to be so explicit. So you could try: “Isn’t that cute, you’re tryin…
/r/askTRP23/10/20 12:27 PM
2

I don’t know. I’m not pushing stoicism.
/r/askTRP19/10/20 02:04 AM
2

Stoicism was developed in Ancient Greece. Lol, but whatever bro.
/r/askTRP19/10/20 01:57 AM
1

How many calories are you eating? What are the macros? When I’m cutting and get to 8%-12% body fat my dick is very sensitive to calories and fat/carb ratios. I normally carb load the day before I’m going to fuck. When I cut really low, I’ll take a 1/4 of a viagra and I’m good to go.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 06:31 PM
21

She’s not going to want to be 100% professional. If you take the dick away she will stop training with you. Give her the dick a few times a month. Always be willing to walk away.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 03:44 AM
32

Listen, you think they all think you are the missing link in their life. That means you are doing shit to be Mr. Perfect and are sub-communicating that shit all the time. They think you are TRYING to be Mr. Perfect. You’re coming off as a betabux boyfriend/husband material nice guy. Basic sidebar shit: don’t compliment a woman with words unless your dick is inside of her. Push and pull, disqualify her, and make her chase you. Them being 8-9s doesn’t matter. It’s all the same shit if you have hig…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 02:47 AM
1

You’re butthurt because she doesn’t love your autistic attempt to spread her butt and NOT fuck her. If you want to spread her ass, tell her you are going to tie her up and a do what you want with her. Then do it. Don’t make some half-assed (no pun intended) attempt to play grab ass (again no pun intended) in the shower and then get butthurt (at this point the pun is subconscious).
/r/askTRP07/10/20 02:28 AM
12

If you want to fuck 10s you have to be attractive. Stop being a bitch and lift.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 01:41 AM
-1

If it’s legal, I would fuck her. She is just a number. She wants it. Just do it and don’t talk.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 03:22 PM
1

When I’m around 10% body fat, my libido gets very sensitive to my calorie intake and carbs especially.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/20 12:57 PM
10

Where do you get this therapy?
/r/TheRedPill21/09/20 06:40 PM
-1

Try self hypnosis with iPhone apps. Search social phobia.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 02:32 AM
5

You did fine. Get her number next time.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 02:27 AM
0

Implement the levels of dread.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 02:06 PM
3

Your ltr is a train wreck. Your relationship is toxic. The fact you think it is even an option to stay with her means you have a scarcity mentality. Next. Start lifting, gain 30 pounds of muscle, and spin plates.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 11:53 AM
3

Most trainers fuckaround with their clients for this reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 05:13 AM
2

Track her cycle and look for clues. A week ago she was probably ovulating. She needed space to get fucked by Chad. I’m not saying she did, or even that she is conscious of it, only that when at peak fertility she is more likely to test, and more likely to be disgusted by beta. A week later, she’s awash in a different hormone cocktail and beta hits the spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 03:19 AM
2

Develop outcome independence. Game other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 03:11 AM
2

You are subconsciously communicating you are low value in the interaction above because you chase her when she needs space. And the bitch at her needing space. JSYK.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 10:12 PM
1

It probably depends on the delivery. If you and your wife can joke around about you facefucking her, it’s not so much about dread, it’s more about setting expectations and having a laugh. If that’s what you want. If you’re a more serious type, it probably won’t work. Many other things will.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 04:22 PM
2

I agree OP doesn’t have the frame to pull this off. Hopefully, he’ll read my response and realize what is possible, and get to work. The spirit of your comment is understood. I’m dropping in here giving children dynamite, and if he were to try this at this point he come off as butthurt and flame out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 02:46 PM
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You can’t blame your wife. You are an unattractive fuck. You smoke. You became a fat ass. You cucked yourself daily for years and never fucked your wife. Of course she isn’t in love with you. Forget about Chad. You have been so unattractive, Chad doesn’t matter. The good news for you is you can change. You stopped smoking, that is a start. You’ll relapse. Just stop again immediately. You stopped porn, that is a start. You’ll relapse. Just stop again immediately. You started STFU. Don’t relapse. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 01:08 PM
2

You are too sensitive. She is a woman. She is going to unconsciously try to uncover your weaknesses. You are being a bitch and letting it hurt you. If you don’t like the testing, why did you invite her to dinner? If you don’t like the testing, why did you insist she come even when she said she needed space? If you don’t let the testing, start passing them and lead her and they’ll stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:46 PM
1

You’re right for OP. He’s nowhere close to being able to pull this off. When he can finally deliver this with a shit eating grin and a tickle he gets his dick sucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 12:39 PM
8

You failed a shit test and acted like a bitch. Let me fix this for you: Her: “Ha, you think I’d want what you have...” You: “Great, you won’t have a problem signing. Now, are you good enough to move in with? Because I may want a roommate someday, you never know. I’ve been looking for a bikini model...but you might work. Do you cook? Clean? Make cocktails? Deepthroat your housemates? What do you bring to the table as a roommate?”
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 09:24 AM
4

“Let’s talk about this in person.” Hug, kiss on the forehead, and fuck her.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 01:54 AM
6

Nah, she’s 19. Disregard. Fuck the pussy. Demote to plate. Fuck other pussies..
/r/askMRP22/08/20 04:27 AM
3

Live like there is a 0% chance and the chances go up.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 08:35 AM
0

I have been there. There is a genetic component to depression. My father is prone to it, his mother was prone to it. Nothing has worked better than lifting heavy weights every other day consistently. Lifting does a few things: it releases endorphins, it teaches you to breath, it is meditative, and it focuses you on incremental goals that are achievable. Start by lifting. Next: “We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terr…
/r/askTRP15/08/20 03:19 PM
1

Stop binge drinking.
/r/askTRP04/08/20 10:46 AM
3

You probably have a tight pelvic floor. Squeezing your glutes is not a kegal, although it may activate the PC muscle. Bouncing your dick is a kegal. If you are too sensitive that probably means your dick bounces all the time. You probably have a flexed PC when standing and walking, which means you don’t need to practice kegals. Try reverse kegals, which is the feeling of pushing out your pee when you are not peeing. To fuck a long time learn how to fuck, and breath while it feels like you are pu…
/r/askTRP23/07/20 11:47 AM
1

You want commitment. She has not indicated she does. You are in a weak position. Start spinning the other two plates and look for other options. If she realizes she may lose you, maybe then she’ll try to lock you down. But even then this girl does not seem like she is really all that into you. You may always be weak in the relationship. You are young. There are billions of women. This one is not special.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 01:10 PM
2

You have oneitis. If she wondered where it was going, she would ask. You are her plate. You are in a weak place. You need to soft next and pursue other options. She is almost at the wall. There are several red flags. You are weak and COVID is causing you to perceive pussy scarcity so you are clinging to a women 3 years older because she “gives you everything .” Who cares if she lets you face fuck her after anal, there are countless women who will do even that if you are high value. You have year…
/r/askTRP19/07/20 02:45 AM
1

If she wanted to be in an LTR with you, she would ask for commitment. Women strive to gain commitment from a high value man. You are in a weak place in this relationship. Pursue other women. Get options. Gain abundance mentality. You need to dread her.
/r/askTRP19/07/20 02:36 AM
2

Good book. OP got wrapped up in a game without knowing it. However, it sounds like he offered her snack cakes, which she probably misinterpreted.
/r/askTRP04/07/20 12:07 PM
6

Don’t bring a gift. Pass her shit tests and fuck her good. Tell her you are doing something awesome in 3 days and ask if she wants to join in. When she does, pass her shit tests and fuck her good. Repeat.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 12:13 PM
1

I tell my wife it is Vaginatine’s which means she needs to do something special in preparation of me taking her vagina.
/r/askMRP13/02/20 12:54 PM
1

You just have to view yourself as always above her and she’ll keep bringing you sammys and blowing your cock. The problem with this deal is you not her. If you let this manifest as insecurity within you, you’re fucked.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 12:33 PM
1

This is a tough one. On one hand who gives a fuck if you are her type. Sure, in an ideal world you were Mr Perfect but that doesn’t exist. In an ideal world she is an independently wealthy Victoria’s Secret model. If you are going to raise kids with a women you are going to have to be a provider type, if you want your kids to grow up in a two parent home. Be an alpha provider. Those dudes did juice, so what. Find your power and dominate her one way or the other. Or, spin plates.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 12:30 PM
3

The emptiness is a feature of our evolutionary biology not a bug.
/r/askTRP03/01/20 03:31 AM
3

He’s added plenty. I’ll try to say it another way: You do get points unless you put the penis in the vagina. There is no reason to text her unless you are going to. Texting is only for logistics. This post is ego validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:23 AM
1

I support it. Design your life. You’ve only got one, as far as anyone knows, and it’s short.
/r/askTRP28/12/19 02:32 AM
1

Suit yourself.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 07:52 PM
5

Houston is a dump. Dallas is blah. Austin is full of college aged women and travelers.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 01:45 PM
2

Yes, it happens until you’re 24ish.
/r/askTRP26/12/19 12:35 PM
1

Tiger Woods was a classic nice guy, beta bux. His wife did not know he was fucking around. There are many men who hold frame entering the relationship and fuck around. Tiger Woods could have entered the relationship with some woman and fucked around. Maybe not his wife, but many women would have willing accepted that frame. As long as he held it from the beginning.
/r/askTRP25/12/19 02:21 PM
2

With that attitude you will get what you get.
/r/askTRP25/12/19 02:18 PM
3

You can overtly tell your baby’s mom that you are going to fuck around. Assure her you will never get emotionally attached and you will always give her resources first. To pull this off you will need frame. You will have to be unwavering in front of her emotional shitstorm and perfectly willing to let her go. In a perfect world you would have done this in the vetting process and found a woman who wanted her man to live like a lion before you knocked her up.
/r/askTRP25/12/19 01:14 PM
217

Read books. Find a mission. Plan a mission.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 10:36 PM
24

You’re choking on the pill. If you left one good women to go look for another one good women, then you are doing it wrong. There is no “one” woman for you. Either buy in to the strategy of spinning plates and reap those benefits, or buy into monogamy and reap those benefits. If you want to spin plates, realize it will take some time to get over the inertia. You are going to be uncomfortable before you find comfort. If that’s what you want, and you give up now, then you are being a pussy. If you …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 05:36 PM
2

Your problem is you were a dancing monkey for your wife for so long. You were also afraid of her. Afraid of her emotions. Walking on eggshells. She can’t respect a pussy and you were being one. You can rebound from here. Read No More Mr Nice Guy and don’t tell her despite what the books says. You were a classic Mr. Perfect nice guy pussy. I know because I’ve been there. I highly recommend you fuck some strange and build abundance mentality ASAP. Stop negotiating desire. You have much to learn fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/19 05:49 PM
2

Getting shittested is a sign of respect. If it’s coming from a girl, it’s flirting. If it’s coming from a beta, he views you as a worthy opponent. Give him dominant eye contact and agree and amplify, or pressure flip, or ignore.
/r/askTRP19/12/19 04:08 AM
6

Check your health. What are you eating? How are you sleeping? Are you drinking alcohol or doing drugs? You may have some unresolved anger or fear or pain you need to become aware of. A good therapist can help.
/r/askTRP18/12/19 05:35 AM
1

Have you read and internalized the sidebar? You have high SMV. You’ve accomplished a lot. Have some muscle. Travel. But, you’re up in her frame. Have options. Make her chase you. As for your question, you need to up your sexual experiences. Have a threesome or two. Fuck in public. You’ll realize it’s not that big of a deal and stop judging.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 10:03 PM
2

Have you read any sidebar. You need inner game. The good news is you are aware of your problem...ego defense. You are also a pussy. You have zero balls around women. You’re chicken shit and afraid. You can earn courage. And completely change that. Just like when you first started lifting you couldn’t lift much and now you can. You can’t talk to girls, and after putting in the work, you’ll be able to. Start with Models, Book of Pook, and the inner game section of every PUA book.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 12:32 PM
2

“That’s flattering.”
/r/seduction13/12/19 12:24 AM
1

This was my experience as well. How did you dad go about meditation with you?
/r/TheRedPill13/12/19 12:12 AM
1

People grow in different directions and frequently people grow apart. Don’t burn bridges. Old friends are valuable even if you only touch base a couple of times a year. Always be making new friends.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 12:00 AM
19

Lead a discussion. Give her responsibilities. Delegate chores to her. Set expectations. Take responsibilities for yourself. Mutually agree to do your part. Hold yourself accountable. Hold her accountable.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 11:56 PM
65

This too shall pass. You’ll have many highs and many lows in life. The trick is to trend upward and to the right. Lift, read the sidebar, and be thankful you have many years ahead. That LTR of yours is not special, not unique, and not stable. Be glad she’s not pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/19 03:14 AM
-2

Whatever man.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 03:07 AM
-3

Yep
/r/askMRP10/12/19 03:05 AM
1

Why SHOULD he? If you leave it there you are moralizing, which is fine, just recognize you are stating a subjective opinion based on your emotions or some fairy tale you read.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 03:02 AM
0

Did you read Law 22? The surrender tactic describes surrender to an authority so you can strike them up close. Who does OP have to surrender to? Himself? If so, your suggesting he give up and turn himself in. Which is weak.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 03:00 AM
2

The red pill is acknowledging the truth and acting accordingly to get what you want. Unless OP wants to be shamed by his family and friends he should keep this to himself. If he must tell her is carries an STD then he should claim ignorance as to the cause, or lie and say he had a ONS with a model.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 02:09 AM
-2

It takes courage to hold such an unpopular opinion and that is why those in power thrive. See Law 4: Always say less than necessary See Law 5: So much depends on reputation, guard it with your life
/r/askMRP10/12/19 02:04 AM
-20

Don’t tell her. You will be ruined if you do. Ride it out and hope she doesn’t contract it. Deny it if she does.
/r/askMRP09/12/19 08:45 PM
1

Nail on the fucking head.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 12:42 PM
1

It’s not rocket science. Eat the healthiest food you can. As much as you can. If you don’t have time to sit and eat, snack or eat huge meals. Mix protein powder in Fage for dessert.
/r/askTRP04/12/19 01:05 PM
6

Protein shakes. Protein bars if you must.
/r/askTRP04/12/19 01:00 PM
1

Your voice and/or your verbal delivery is probably weird. You are insecure and hide behind your internet achievements. Do you even lift or play sports?
/r/askTRP03/12/19 02:59 AM
5

You sound needy and overly nice. Read NMMNG and Rational Male.
/r/askTRP03/12/19 02:56 AM
3

Text her for an encore.
/r/askTRP01/12/19 09:16 PM
4

Hobbies asap
/r/askTRP01/12/19 12:48 AM
18

She was nervous about you going down on her and she pressure flipped. In other words, she tossed a simple shit test. “I’ll show you dominate.” With a smirk, pull your dick out and face fuck her.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 04:18 PM
3

3-5% for a fuck close if you are spraying and praying. If you approach mostly women who are giving you choosing signals your same day lay percentages can be way better that that.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 02:06 PM
2

Read the sidebar books. Start with NMMNG then WISNIFG. If you love yourself you’ll never be alone. When you have a reason to love yourself and you do, you’ll attract the job, the friends, the women, and the luck. Right now you hate yourself and you’re attracting hate.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 07:14 AM
1

That’s an anecdote. I wonder if it would be a different anecdote had had your brother not been robbed of the opportunity to learn to self-regulate as the medication masked his less desirable traits.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/19 03:20 AM
2

Who says your son has to be an employee? I stared a company.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/19 03:19 AM
8

Read the research. There is no correlation between ADHD medication and long-term positive outcomes and there are many negative side effects. ADHD is a subjective diagnosis of a set of traits that when exhibited can be hard to parent and hard to teach. Each of those traits has a positive side. For example: impulsive = creative, can’t set still = energetic, defiant = leadership qualities, etc. Teach your son to self regulate. ADHD medication is the next opioid crisis.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/19 03:09 AM
0

She gave you a compliance test and you passed. I thought that was the point.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 06:37 PM
3

Exactly.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 06:32 PM
3

On it.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 01:40 PM
17

I’m thinking about writing an RP book for young boys.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 01:14 PM
150

As a Gen X with 2 boys starting school, I want to know how I can unfuck my offspring. The world is full of Disney and Girl Power. My son’s first grade bitch of a teacher is out to get him for being “aggressive” and suggesting ADHD medication because he hasn’t been totally feminized...yet. Other than encouraging sports and keeping screens out of their faces, what does a father do?
/r/TheRedPill27/11/19 01:07 PM
4

You want what you can’t have. Try internalizing the fact that you can’t have any woman fully - AWALT - and focus on abundance. You don’t get to win all frame battles. She may be an anxious avoidant type and the higher you raise your SMV the more aloof she becomes, because she doesn’t want to fall for someone out of her league.
/r/askTRP27/11/19 11:38 AM
1

Start handling shit tests appropriately and they become fun or stop. Stop demanding the “respect” of not being shit tested and earn it by handling yourself appropriately. You are reacting emotionally to her shit tests, which means you are FAILING the tests. Your reaction is the problem. If you stop getting emotional, and her tests stop working, she’ll stop testing.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 09:15 PM
4

No, your responses are absolutely the problem. If you handle shit tests appropriately two things happen: they become fun and flirty, and they subside, especially when you hold frame and are fucking her well. Your ego is your own enemy. You’re too sensitive. You’re losing frame and getting butthurt way too easily. You angry because she’s not paying attention to you. You’re angry because she’s comparing you to a guy taking lots of pictures. You’re angry because she’s comparing you to a guy with a …
/r/askTRP26/11/19 12:52 PM
5

That’s the nature of a feminine woman. The alternatives a bossy cunt.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 12:22 PM
3

If someone is attacking me verbally with their SUBJECTIVE opinions of me, I either treat it like a shit test and agree and amplify or use amused mastery, or I fog, let them punch at air, and remove my time and attention. Since it’s a sister and she was being hateful, I would give her the “talk to the hand” gesture or something similar and walk away.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 08:39 PM
1

She’s flirting with you... See the reply above.
/r/seduction25/11/19 01:40 PM
2

Great reply.
/r/seduction25/11/19 01:39 PM
1

Google James Franco tinder antics.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 01:34 PM
10

You DEER’d to your sister. Unless you overtly agreed not to fuck her ex friends I don’t see what the problem is.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 12:47 PM
2

Start a company.
/r/askTRP23/11/19 01:16 PM
2

As a person with the set of traits commonly described as adhd you would likely be a good employee in a sales job. You need short positive feedback loops. Sales provides that. Also, people with adhd are commonly extraverted, open, and high energy. Those are helpful sales traits.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 10:22 PM
4

Live life like he is dead. That will require you to become a man, get a job, move out. Leave the womb.
/r/askTRP22/11/19 07:23 PM
3

Yep, he needs to Google fuckarounditis, read, and stop being a retard in the gym.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 07:11 PM
5

Praise other women. “Your sister’s ass looks hot in those yoga pants.”
/r/askMRP22/11/19 07:10 PM
45

You have the pussy on a pedestal.
/r/TheRedPill22/11/19 07:07 PM
5

This is a solid mindset. Learn your way. Keep slaying.
/r/askTRP21/11/19 12:51 PM
7

He’s playing beta captain save-a-hoe waiting for her to hit the wall.
/r/askTRP19/11/19 12:51 PM
3

“Every time I wear it I get hit on. You know how women are about men that are taken...”
/r/askMRP15/11/19 02:06 AM
5

Once you start to achieve success with this stuff you’ll realize that what he writes about isn’t just possible but it’s highly probable, even guaranteed, that someone out there is living that life. The unlikely thing is that someone would take so much time to share, with little incentive, just so that people can learn. If you would wake up, you would be grateful for that. Unfortunately, your ego gets in the way, and says, “that’s so much better than where I am, he has to be full of shit,” and yo…
/r/TheRedPill26/10/19 01:45 PM
1

It’s just a shit test. Don’t defend ego.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 02:34 AM
1

Have you tried it? Read Mode One. If your getting overt IOIs, you can be explicit. If she feigns outrage, hold frame and she’ll be coming around.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 11:12 AM
1

Leg press 4x5 Bulgarian split squats 4x5 Calf raises 4x5 Decline crunches 3x10-15
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/19 04:00 AM
3

That sucks. Now, move on. It will be hard at first. You’re there right now sleeping too much and not lifting. You’re thinking of the past, which will lead to depression. Here is a roadmap: Get up every day and first thing go to the gym. Lift heavy weights 4 or 5 times a week for a couple of weeks then, you can move to 3-4. Focus on a routine and track your lifts. Meet personal records every session. If you think of the past with her, or any past thought, give yourself 30 seconds maximum and then…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:46 PM
5

I’m right there with you. See my post history for a post from about a year ago. There are some great comments. The problem for me is ego validation seeking. My ego doesn’t think my wife is good enough. Male hypergamy in action. My wife is fit and always has been. She is a milf, but she is aging and I’ve always liked young women. Ego is the problem. The decision is between a family or plate spinning. If you sit on the fence, you’ll have a fence post up your ass. Make your decision and commit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 05:36 PM
2

Cutting calories works for me.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 02:09 PM
4

You’re giving one butch way too much power over your life if you are going monk mode for a year over this. Forget about her. Move on.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 10:49 PM
54

Yes, 100 percent this guy has oneitis and no options or abundance. OP needs to work on curing oneitis and development of abundance and the old cockiness will manifest as a by product. If he jumps to cockiness without curing oneitis, she’s leading him, and he’s a dancing monkey.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/19 01:20 PM
1

Exactly
/r/askTRP24/02/19 09:56 PM
1

He’s not trying to fuck them.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 09:09 PM
1

Yes, introducing sets and shine a light on those guys. Don’t talk about their money. Always offer to pay for less expensive shit like a drink here or there.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 02:59 PM
1

You speak like a woman. Nobody gives a fuck what you feel like.
/r/askTRP23/02/19 06:56 PM
2

Your fumbling at the finish line. Create plausible deniability and your in. “Let’s grab sushi and watch music videos (insert anything to give her an excuse) at my place.” Also, overall you’re being too aloof and definitely too technical. Tease her more.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/19 11:32 AM
1

Read No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/19 04:17 AM
2

She’s just a plate. Wear a rubber and continue fucking.
/r/askMRP22/02/19 03:52 AM
25

Started a company. Grind for 6 years. Started two more companies. Grind 3 more.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 12:07 PM
1

Do something about the information you receive.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/19 03:43 AM
4

Plan healthy meals. Cook amazing meals. Keep the house clean. Decorate. Do the laundry and don’t fuck it up. Put clothes away the way you want. Make kids healthy lunches. Etc.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/19 03:38 AM
2

You’re needy and seeking external validation. Read No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/askTRP17/02/19 09:50 PM
2

She bought lingerie. I gave her dick.
/r/askMRP16/02/19 05:09 AM
13

Not going to read the article. Based on your summary, my initial response is, no shit. Funny though, as a red pilled man, who has sex on tap at home, I feel the same way as the article suggests women feel. I’m tired of fucking my wife. Strange is good. Novelty is amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 01:13 AM
3

You act and think like a bitch. You need to learn what STFU is. Use it on the phone at the dealership and this doesn’t happen. Use it in the bedroom when she’s nagging and this doesn’t happen. Also, fuck your wife when she offers, don’t be butthurt because she doesn’t respond to your text game, whatever the fuck that is. Read the sidebar. You have a lot to learn that is only in the books.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 01:09 PM
0

Have rock solid frame. Get their number. Have an awesome life. Invite them to enjoy a day of it. Let them know you don’t judge. Escalate.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 03:37 AM
2

No. I was telling you to try that tact for a year or two and see where you are then. 8 years is a long time for an LDR without a doubt.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 01:15 PM
1

J Peterson’s chapter on raising kids is very good.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 11:53 AM
0

Tell her that she is going to move and focus on school. You’ll be there to support her and visit from time to time. Tell her that while she’s gone it will be impossible for you to be monotonous, but you’ll always wear protection, you’ll be discrete about it, and you won’t fall in love with the other women. Tell her when she is available to you, on trips to her or when she visits, as long as she continues to deserve your time and attention you’ll give it all to her. If she asks if she can get dic…
/r/askMRP06/02/19 11:51 AM
1

You’re no fun. Learn to be fun and flirty. Reread book of pool. Learn to tease women. Do it often.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 01:29 PM
2

I thought you were the guy complaining about meaningless tinder hookups.
/r/askTRP03/02/19 01:02 AM
1

Your problem is the women you are hooking up with.
/r/askTRP03/02/19 12:43 AM
2

What do you look like? How do you dress? What vibe do you promote?
/r/askTRP03/02/19 12:32 AM
3

You need to sidebar. This is a basic shittest you are failing. Your DEER response is beta failure.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 05:00 AM
2

Exposure. Start playing a sport. Hang with the guys.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 11:29 AM
10

That last sentence is truth.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 03:21 AM
3

Dread her.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:04 PM
5

It’s all his fault. Don’t blame her. He has no game, no confidence, and no abundance because he’s been jacking off for the last 4 years instead of doing the work.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 02:40 PM
12

Lift. Sidebar. This shit works but you have to do it. Lift. Read. Start gaming women. Get abundance. Spin plates. At least you avoided this dumpster fire. If your oneitis would have been closer to the wall or failed to see another branch she could have easily trapped you, and ruined your life. You got out of this easy. Now, stop dicking around on this forum and do the damn work to lift, read, and gain abundance. It’s all here for you. Just do it. Stop jerking off for years at a time and do the g…
/r/askTRP27/01/19 02:38 PM
2

Congratulations the veil has been lifted. You took the sexual red pill. I remember the first time a former plate told me to slap he across the face. Then said harder, harder over and over again until I basically knocked her out. I was disturbed. She loved it.
/r/askTRP26/01/19 07:41 PM
2

If she was kissing you, she was chasing you for that moment. If you think you have her hooked go for the meet. But, she may just be leading you on. You have to feel that out. Whatever you do be fun and flirty and have abundance mentality. If she says no, laugh it off because you are the prize. Game other women. This broad is low level plate material only. Do not LTR
/r/askTRP25/01/19 01:03 PM
2

If you go to the club do the same. If you can be outcome independent about it, invite her to your place and escalate. You’re going to have to seduce her.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 11:33 AM
2

If you go clubbing pay her little attention. Tease her, neg her, act indifferent around her, game other women in front of her. Do not expect to isolate her that night unless you do that and get her chasing you.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 10:58 AM
3

You need to start lifting ASAP. Google fuckarounditis Follow that. Lift 3-4 times a week. It will help with emotional control. Learn to STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 03:30 AM
3

It’s an acronym for one of the 3 most important books in the sidebar. You need to read it ASAP.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 05:54 PM
2

At 14-15 you can add HIIT to speed up your cut. The problem with HIIT and all cardio is it increases appetite, so depending on your body and discipline it may be easier to reduce calories and walk on off days instead of HIIT, if you are trying to get to 6-8% bodyfat. At your age/weight you should only focus on bulking right now. You are in your prime years to add a lot of lean mass and strength. You will look more aesthetic at 185 than you do now. Look into this for more: https://leangains.com/f…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 05:35 PM
2

You need to clean bulk until you weigh about 185. You have 40 pounds to gain. You do not need HIIT. See below, skip to #3 Start with a cutting phase. Lose body fat until your waist reaches about 45% of your height (for example at 6 feet tall you’d want a waist that is 32 inches around the belly button). Depending on how much fat you have to lose, this cut can take anywhere from 3 to 10 weeks. When your waist reaches ~45% of your height, move into maintenance for 2-3 weeks. After the maintenance …
/r/askTRP20/01/19 05:07 PM
1

Accept the friend request and leave it at that. If she reaches out to you invite her to do something active you are already doing, kino, and lead her to sex. Game other women.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 11:18 AM
5

You fucked up when you asked her what she meant by having a lot of dating stories. Why do you have time to consider what she means by that? STFU and get busy. She doesn’t want to touch you because you are needy. Read the sidebar multiple times. Start with NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 04:14 AM
1

The next time you get drunk, initiate, and get rejected. Call an Uber and go out of the house for 1-2 hours. Come home and take a shower. This eliminates the butthurt. If she asks, say, “not tired, I still want to party.” You were butthurt. Your fault. Now, your wife is using sex to manipulate you. She has weaponized the pussy. You must continue to initiate, be outcome independent, and don’t be butthurt.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 10:19 PM
2

Drinking is bad. The 2 hours of TV per night is appalling.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 10:14 PM
1

Yes, ego defense.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 07:26 PM
1

That’s is a tenet is stoicism. Username checks out. What are you trying to say?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 06:26 PM
1

Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 11:39 AM
9

I’ll let you know when I see you naked.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 10:51 AM
2

I tell them I’m married and game them as normal. When they put up ASD, I remind them that it’s just a kiss/fuck/night, and we are the only people who have to know. If a woman has a moral issue the only way to overcome it is to influence her reptilian brain and take reason out of the equation. Being high SMV and having game can do this. It gets easier if she is dancing. Even easier if she is drunk.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 10:42 AM
2

Yes I’m retarded, do you understand sarcasm?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 05:39 PM
2

Yes, that’s great income, and he still got cucked. Income only matters insofar as it gives you time to stay healthy, pursue a mission, and exercise power. Otherwise you’re income makes you a beta bux provider. OP states his income like it should keep his bitch loyal. That’s a classic covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 03:14 AM
1

Agreed. This topic needs a post. I’ve done some research and need to learn more.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 10:34 PM
5

Agreed. For the record, I’m not suggesting that PHDs or high levels of education are bad things, even in liberal academia. I am saying that for the most part, they don’t wet panties. Neither does money. What it will do is make you a provider type, unless you know how to wield your education and money to get power.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 06:00 PM
2

When you do KNOW you’ll most likely be surprised. Competition anxiety like most things is a part of AWALT. Sure, there are degrees of competitiveness but your wife is human and a woman and you represent resources and the more valuable you are the more competitive she’ll be.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 05:22 PM
17

Yes. I read above you have no kids. Consider this a bullet dodged. Move on. If anything the hot wife will be good preselection for all the plates you’re about to spin.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 12:26 PM
45

You’re clearly a smart enough guy to understand that the guy who just got cucked is in no position to say what it takes for a man to be a 9.5. Yet, you’re trying anyway. Why? I’ll tell you...ego. You’re ego is the source of most of your issues, including the cucking. And yes, I have a annual income many, many multiples of 126k derived from companies I built from the ground up, and I go through life downplaying it, especially to women. You used to lift and you used to get laid. Now you don’t and …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 12:09 PM
7

You have given us little to criticize. Except, do you even lift? You are a small man, and it is hard to hold a 8.5 in orbit unless you’re a 9.5 and it is hard for a man 5’8” 155 to be a 9.5. Bitches don’t care too much about how smart you are. PHD can equal nerd. 126k a year is barely middle class. All that’s beta bucks anyway. Provide more details about how you lost your “game principles” and what actions losing them brought about in you in your opinion. Also, how did you find out your wife too…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 10:42 AM
2

How would you know if your wife is or isn’t competitive with other women until you flirt with other women and see how she reacts?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 06:25 AM
1

Does dread do anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/18 12:56 PM
7

Be the guy that she knows can go out drinking with women with higher SMV than her. Don’t tell her, show her through your behavior and let her see other women react to you, once you are that guy you won’t have these problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 12:11 PM
7

Can confirm people fuck at the gym. This is probably your wife telling you some of her “no” response are LMR and you are not taking her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/18 05:07 PM
2

As you get older you will have less and less opportunities to meet friends and the friendships will be much more superficial, because the amount of time you’ve know someone relative to the length of your life will be less.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 07:00 AM
1

Since she’s in your circle text back 2/3’s as much as she texts you for a few days. Friend her on FB because why not. Delay time between texts for a few days. Let her feels fizzle over time. Be warm and fun the next time you see her at a party, let her fight for your attention and you her as preselection to create competition anxiety in other women, or fall back on her as a late night fuck.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 06:55 AM
21

All this is fine. Read the commandments of poon and follow them. Give her a little less than she gives you. If she gives you a lot because you are the prize, you can give her a fair amount of beta comfort, because she earned it. Just make sure it is less than she gives you. Always lift. Stay in shape. Keep improving. Always make time for other men and go out and game other women a little. Instill passive dread in your LTR. Make her jealous. Flirt with the waitress, but much better to have the wa…
/r/askMRP28/11/18 02:55 PM
1

Just listen and say, “that sucks.”
/r/askMRP24/11/18 08:35 PM
0

Maybe. I guess I’m just weird because I don’t like cuddling.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/18 02:14 AM
1

Aesthetics are found in relative strength. Strength relative to bodyweight. Example, if you are 6’ weigh 190 and bench 285, you look more aesthetic, and lower body fat, than weighing 220 and benching 285.
/r/askMRP22/11/18 04:09 AM
12

You like to cuddle, and give a lot of comfort.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 03:41 AM
2

You need to read and follow the married red pill sub. Read the sidebar ASAP. You are a giant pussy. First, taking your wife to a spa hotel is fine if you are doing it because you want to go to the spa. Doing it expecting her to change, or fuck, or be sweet is a covert contract and a lost cause. Second, if you want your wife to be feminine (and not yell at service people) you need to not be a pussy: Handle all the shit that requires a person to be assertive. If I’m at that spa and the room doesn’…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 12:20 PM
2

This hit me very hard for a short time. I projected my fucking around on to my wife, got insecure, and lost frame. STFU helped a lot. The episode passed in 5-10 days. I am still cleaning up the fallout (frame loss).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 07:25 PM
2

Yes, I have the same issue. It’s called seasonal depression. My armchair evolutionary theory is this is migratory instinct. Your instinct is telling you to move towards food and habitable weather. 5000 years ago that was the difference between your ancestors living long enough to reproduce and not. Accept that sometimes you have bad days. Eat right, sleep right, and above all exercise.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 04:57 PM
1

Read When I say no I feel guilty and no more me nice guy.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 06:45 PM
110

The whole check thing is a massive reminder to everyone involved how beta you used to be and how in the past you didn’t own your shit. Shake it off. You’re doing what you can to redeem the past. She’s being a woman. You’re response was appropriate.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 06:02 PM
2

You had her on a pedestal because she is a cheerleader. Acknowledge you could have been more outcome independent and maybe it would have helped maybe it wouldn’t have. Dude, she probably had a yeast infection and she has no personality anyway.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/18 01:04 PM
5

You’re describing ambition. Understand, life is suffering. That’s a good thing. Lean into the suffering. Understand, it’s what gets you better. Every day is a struggle, just like every workout is a struggle. The struggle allows you to put more weight on the next day. Read the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Book of Pook, and Game. Make this shit a game for yourself and it becomes fun. Then you effortlessly shake off your losses and move forward understanding the losses make the winner.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 12:10 PM
1

I take takes questions as well
/r/askTRP31/10/18 11:01 AM
2

I concur meditate. Embrace stoicism. Marcus Aurelius wrote Meditations.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 02:22 PM
2

That’s infantilism. You’re facing the world as an adult, wanting to turn back to your idealized carefree childhood. Your experience is common. Exercise absolutely. Set achievable goals 1 to 5 years. Get a new hobby. If it doesn’t subside in 3 months seek a behavioral therapist.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 11:06 AM
47

She agreed and amplified your shit. She will not wear a prom dress. Don’t wear a suit.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 02:29 AM
1

Yes, women are hypergamous to degrees, and some control their instinct better that others.
/r/askTRP24/10/18 03:45 AM
3

Definitely game the party and subtlety flirt with girls as hotter or hotter that your girl. Points of you get them to flirt with you.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 11:11 AM
0

Normally if you don’t fuck on the second meet up, next. You might give this one 1-2 extra chances. Increase escalation each meet. Disregard her “issues” because they are hers. Don’t treat her any different. Let her work through her issues or not.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 11:05 AM
2

Get a sales job that requires you to go door to door. Learn to talk to people effortlessly. Make male friends. Game women. Lift, and develop active hobbies. Stop reading so much. You’re too intellectual. That keeps you in your own head and alienates others.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 10:57 AM
7

You’re betabux. You have your ego wrapped up in the money you make and you’ve neglected the traits that attract women. You’re unattractive. Lift. Sidebar. Look into levels of dread. You can save the marriage and have your wife blowing you regularly if you want. If you nuke the marriage now, when you’re unattractive, you’ll end up in a similar situation with a different woman who isn’t attracted to you, so you need to lift and sidebar anyway.
/r/askMRP20/10/18 08:11 AM
3

Would have been better to have not tipped his hand, but if he grovels well enough the boss might still fall for it.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 11:05 AM
4

It’s possible to accept the BJ and not accept the apology.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 10:30 AM
2

If you are lifting for aesthetics and you are naturally bottom heavy (wider hips and thighs) then you would minimize squats and maximize OHP, BP, and weighted chins in order to increase the size of your upper body in relationship to your lower body. If you are lifting for strength, squats would likely be your best lift relative to your body weight and so you would maximize that to raise your overall number.
/r/askMRP18/10/18 03:40 AM
1

Yes, that is really the case. Read Mode One. You have to be very direct and sexually open.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 01:21 AM
1

Also, study the sidebar. You emotionally puked on this new girl. What the fuck do you expect? You are showing and telling her that you are unhealthy. If you want an LTR you need to appear healthy.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 06:16 PM
1

Your brain chemistry is royally fucked. You need to begin lifting to exhaustion 6 days a week. Lift heavy weights. Your body is a machine built for that. If you don’t do that your brain is going to manifest the unused energy in other unhealthy ways. Imagine a gorilla is a cage at the zoo, pacing back and forth, chewing through his own skin, covered in his own shit. They give gorillas in the zoo the same medication you are taking to make gorillas appear docile. Modern life is the zoo you are livi…
/r/askTRP17/10/18 06:13 PM
2

You weren’t scared, you were excited. Sexuality is exciting. Enjoy it.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 05:57 PM
5

If you told her it makes you uncomfortable, and she willing does it anyway, either you are terrible about setting boundaries, or she is willing walking over them. In either case, she has no respect for you.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:59 PM
30

Take other girls on dates to the park. Swim with other girls in lakes. If your LTR cheats, you have options. And, you might find one of these new girls is a better fit for you, which would be better for everyone involved.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:57 PM
1

The fact that you are not married makes it way easier to withdraw your attention. Imagine guys who have lived with a wife 15 years and have kids. Stop making excuses. Tell her you’re going “out” and get an Uber.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:01 AM
1

You say you’ve read everything, so you should know that paying the bills and taking care of babies aren’t masculine things to do. I’m not saying you shouldn’t do those things, I’m just saying you shouldn’t use those things to distinguish yourself from your brother-in-law when determining who is more masculine. Honestly you shouldn’t compare yourself to your brother-in-law at all.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 05:28 PM
2

She can’t make you do anything. She can’t make her problems your problems unless you allow it.
/r/askMRP04/10/18 11:44 PM
3

I have a very similar upbringing. I had an n-count of 11 when I married, but most of that was the 10 months after an LTR, before I met my wife. I only “gamed” that 10 months without red pill knowledge. I often feel the same as you. Trapped. I have kids and want to raise them in a 2 parent home. I’m committing to staying married, at least trying to stay committed. But, being game aware and high SMV, pussy finds me a lot. Often, I fuck it. It sucks sitting on the fence. If you want to stay married…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 05:58 AM
1

If you present yourself as an alpha fuck, good for only one night, you don’t have to worry about them tracking you down. You would have fulfilled her fantasy of fucking an older British dude and never telling anyone but her best girlfriends about it. Cringeworthy frame. Sidebar harder. You have much to internalize.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 12:17 PM
1

There are many reasons not to date a single woman. The least of which is you will never be number one in her life, her kids will, and if you make her your only one, she will have the power in the relationship. That is the problem you are dealing with. There are many reasons not to date an older women women. One is if she has more experience in the SMP she will have the power in the relationship. That is what you are dealing with. You have oneitis. You are doing it all wrong. Fuck this woman if y…
/r/askTRP29/09/18 11:22 AM
1

You are beta. If not, you’d just get another plate.
/r/askTRP29/09/18 11:15 AM
1

I second this. One fear of opening for many guys is the fear of attack by a rival male (boyfriend/husband), which is bio evolutionary or the fear of player hating from other men. If you can’t open men for a quick chat, you can’t open women. Half of the numbers/ONS/plates I get are women in a set with a man, be it her friend, boyfriend, or husband.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 12:16 AM
10

90% of movies, TV, and video games are blue pill. Super Mario is captain save-a-hoe. Boys are trained from a young age to repress their assertive instincts, to be caretakers and providers, etc., to be blue pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 11:54 PM
1

K
/r/askTRP27/09/18 11:48 PM
1

When all to girls were calling you creepy it was because you weren’t making eye contact and were looking down. They thought you were looking at their tits.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 12:43 PM
1

WTF could do you always hold eye contact or could you never look people in the eye?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 02:52 AM
1

What are you texting them before they flake?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 01:59 AM
1

Yes
/r/askTRP27/09/18 01:58 AM
1

You are paranoid. Also, when in conversation with a woman do you look down at their tits? Is it possible they think you’re looking at their tits?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 01:55 AM
4

Likely affair partner ended it.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:27 PM
1

We agree the most attractive guys have up to a 40% advantage. They normally suck at game, because they don’t have to practice, so it all balances out. Max out your weaknesses and be the best version of yourselves.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:16 PM
1

Yes, this process is a tightrope. On one side you’re doing MRP for yourself and if your wife doesn’t respond, so what. On the other side you’re a dancing monkey doing MRP with the expectation that it will change your wife’s behavior. When it doesn’t, or doesn’t as quickly as you expect, you get angry. I get it. I’ve been there. When you’re angry you want her to know. You want her to change. The best way to get her to change is to act indifferent and up the dread. So, don’t leave the room. Act in…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:03 PM
3

You’re not fit enough and socially autistic, which means you’re not attractive, which means you will have a difficult time spinning plates. That being said, it may help for you to reframe why you are doing this from “to get my wife to fuck” to “so I’m attractive enough to spin plates.” Give it a try, it will reveal your weaknesses. I can tell you one weakness: you’re too skinny fat. At 6’ 185 you need to be benching 280 to have anything near an ideal physique. Once you get there women will respo…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:24 AM
7

Most women are responsive sexually. If a man is providing alpha sexual signals, then they will respond. They are sexual because they want those signals and want to respond. When ovulating, they get a spike of testosterone and become more sexually aggressive for a few days. They will initiate sex with an alpha more often during that time. For some women that means they’ll grab your cock at a bar when you just met them. For others it means that they workout next to you in low cut shirts and give y…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:14 AM
1

Don’t delude yourself. Your face is a major component of your SMV. All things being equal, a handsome man wins more easily than an ugly man. Just like a tall man wins more easily than a short man. That being said, it is only one component of many, as your post suggests. More importantly, it isn’t something that is easily modified Op should do the best with what he’s got, by trying to grow a beard, dying his eyebrows, plucking his eyebrows, getting a better haircut, etc. And, as you post suggests…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 11:07 AM
1

Your wife pulled a knife on you. Please take your own advice.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 05:00 PM
7

GTFO
/r/askMRP25/09/18 04:59 PM
4

Definitely bulk
/r/askTRP25/09/18 03:27 PM
2

Yes
/r/askMRP25/09/18 12:51 AM
3

Tell her you want to fuck new women occasionally and that you’ll always be safe, discreet, and that you won’t get emotionally invested or spend too much money on the other women. Be prepared for a shit storm. Hold frame and tell her you don’t want your relationship to end but you understand if that is what she wants. Be prepared for her to fuck other dudes. Good luck.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 03:33 PM
1

https://leangains.com/fuckarounditis/ Read that a few times and come back to it periodically. It tells you or links you to most of what you need to know about lifting and diet.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:56 PM
1

We all experienced the anger. Learn to STFU when angry and you won’t derail anything.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:54 PM
2

Sure, that’s better. Try new things. Have fun.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:50 PM
6

You can move to level 4 now. However, when you remove your time and attention do so mostly within the house or at safe places, like the gym. Example, if she is being a bitch, be amused, smirk, then go lift. If you get a hard no, smirk, be amused and go lift, or go work on a side project, or go work on a home project, etc. Don’t go out to the bar and come one wasted with a 4 month old. Couple of things: you can flirt with women now and you should. Flirt with everyone, old women, young women, marr…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 01:37 PM
15

It doesn’t go away. It will probably get worse before it gets better. Then it will come and go in waves. Don’t Rambo. Internalize the anger and use it to drive you to be the best version of yourself. Remember she is just a woman being AWALT. You’re really angry at your former self and your misguided beliefs. You sound like you will be prone to wanting to cough up the pill, and revert back to comfortable ignorance. I doubt you can, but that feeling will come and go as well. You’re going to have t…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 11:51 AM
7

Stay resolute. You made your decision. You control whether it is the right one.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 04:10 PM
2

Thanks buddy, but I found this place after being married 10 years, which is why I have so few approaches and anxiety about them.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/18 10:53 AM
6

Don’t wait for this chick, read the sidebar. You clearly haven’t. You need to cast this bitch off and have two more in the kitty. Just because she is your only plate now, doesn’t mean she will be in the future.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 12:15 AM
6

You said no and you felt guilty... Then you text her, when you didn’t need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/18 09:38 PM
2

The goal is to develop game skills.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 10:56 AM
2

100% I hide my sexuality due to conservative religion forced on me at a young age. How does meditation work you through that? Any tips on meditating?
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 08:56 AM
2

You have 2.5 decades to try.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 03:36 AM
3

There may not have always been value there. She may have took you on as a fixer upper. She may have low self worth and think she deserves an addict. She may be living her what she learned from her parents (was her mother or father an addict)?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 11:16 PM
7

I’m glad you shared. Your wife shittested you and you used Amused Mastery to pass her test. You may need to slow your roll on boundaries conversations. Start establishing boundaries with nonverbal communication and by withdrawing attention. All in all you are on the right track.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 11:12 PM
1

I don’t know what you’re supposed to get from this either. I have more questions than answers. I have no lessons to give. The truths you find are those you seek.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 10:06 PM
14

That’s a long-ass, boring story with no climax and I read it all without regret. You’re a good writer with a good woman. Keep fighting the fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 02:00 AM
2

Of course not. I’m posting here for advice.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 10:26 PM
5

I should have ignored her from the beginning.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 10:25 PM
3

Good advice. I am. I have gotten fairly good at small talk. I’m very good a public speaking. My issue is being openly sexual. Or, being open in sexual environments.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:54 PM
1

Yeah, the fact that she answered the FaceTime naked was shocking to me. She wanted me to raw dog her...depraved.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:21 PM
1

Right. I’m not portraying myself as cool. I don’t think I’m cool. The point is for everyone, including myself, to pick up on my insecurity in this post. Of course, every FR is a humble brag of sorts. I would like to say I would have written this up if I didn’t bang, but I wouldn’t have. Maybe I’ll write up random night night when I flame out.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:19 PM
5

I’ll use this sometime. Not with her, because I wouldn’t fuck her.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:11 PM
1

Yeah, but I don’t want to trick them into thinking that I want something else. I want them to know all I want is sex and fuck me anyway. That’s the game I’m playing. So the only standards I’m evaluating them on is sexiness, and likelihood of super crazy, or STDs, even though I’m strapping on. Which reminds me this broad wanted raw dog. Haha. I get your point though. If I was looking for plates, I’d be dishing comfort here or there.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:04 PM
1

Fair enough. You’re probably right. NMMNG was definitely the most impactful read for me. I am just trying to get laid right now. When I say better man I mean more perfect looking, more money providing, more perfect sounding, more nurturing. Yes, basically Mr. Perfect Nice Guy. Other than re reading NMMNG how do you propose I root out my insecurity and faults and progress from here?
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 05:25 PM
1

I get your point. I’m currently working on game, so I’ve been reading the recommended pua books at the expense of rereading the core material, again. I’m surprised you think I portray myself as cool here. I don’t think I’m cool. I have terrible inner game. Infield I probably project cool as a defense mechanism to mask my insecurity. But, I didn’t try to write this up as cool. I’ve spend the last 38 years being a better man. I am the better man often enough...and I have no game. What’s the point …
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 04:25 PM
4

I did just want sex.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 03:30 PM
7

I would add that you have to fight through self-doubt and have the balls to sexualize at least once.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:39 PM
2

You’re probably right. I read Bang for indirect openers and need to use them more. The one opener I used was situational and worked. The “hey” to the 6 was clearly not enough to open, but I read somewhere if you can think of no opener it’s better than nothing and sometimes the girl helps you out. I’ve read the shit test encyclopedia and listened to standup but I have more work to do on this. I’m probably not putting out Alpha vibes. I’ve always gotten away with doing very little, which is the re…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 01:52 PM
5

Honestly, I think I handled this really poorly. I called her out on her manipulation. Which lead to the hateful cockblock. Which killed everybody’s boner. Had I just STFU and been fun and flirty and played dumb she never would have asked me for a drink. I probably would have ended up fucking her friend had I mustered the motivation and balls to sexualize with a 6.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 01:38 PM
3

I don’t know if she came. I had a condom on and it was vigorous. She acted climatic on multiple occasions, but she may have just been into it. Either way she had fun. I’ve not tried CBD. I take magnesium which helps. I have a very quick, active mind. Lifting helps a lot. I need to meditate.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 01:25 PM
3

Thanks. I really only felt rejected the one time, because I had invested a lot of time in the second set (the pair of girls of which the hot one said she had a boyfriend). While we were dancing she said, “why did you pick me?” I replied, “I don’t know, I’m just more attracted to you.” I should have said, “who says I picked you?” Or, some flirty banter. Needless to say, after my reply she went cold, which suggested validation seeking. Ultimately, I thought she knew I wanted to get with her and sh…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 11:44 AM
7

It is what it is. I’m still married with 2 kids. You have 5-10 years before you even peak. I would trade you.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 06:33 AM
24

Totally mental. Self-important. Anxiety. Freeze when opening. Once I open or am opened I have trouble with shit tests and am too logical and vanilla in conversation. I need to be way more fun or at least way more sexual early.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 04:41 AM
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Yeah but she got real hateful about it and cock blocked me. I did not handle her well.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 04:19 AM
2

Upvote
/r/askTRP11/09/18 04:07 AM
1

You should not cut to 163. Maybe 175. If you are not yet intermediate lifting you can gain strength and lose weight on Leangains or Kinobody warrior. Google fuckarounditis
/r/askTRP11/09/18 04:06 AM
2

You’re probably right. I mean it builds comfort.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 03:47 AM
8

I’ve read that 20 times. I haven’t had many reps in the field. Yes, I get opened by women a lot. I always have. It’s good and bad. Good because I’ve never had a problem getting LTRs. Bad because I have never had to learn to open, because I’ve always been in LTRs.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 03:45 AM
2

Yeah, venue changing works. Especially if you want an LTR.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:56 AM
4

This is awesome. I was hoping someone would do this.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:51 AM
9

I was way more social than this reads. I didn’t write up conversations with dudes, or conversations with most of the girls. Your point is taken that I really only opened one set. I was opened by girls every other time. That is my normal experience. I need to open more.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:40 AM
5

I want to get good at same day/night lays and cut way down on the 7 hour venue change requirement. Numbers won’t work for me. Mode one taught me to do that I need to be way more sexual. No brainer.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:37 AM
13

I went to the room to avoid standing around all night with no targets. The initial encounter was rubbing her tits on me. I agree this is not an example of expert game.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 02:30 AM
10

It’s definitely red pill. Mode One helped me. I’ve always been really good at LTRs. Which means that I have played good beta game. I wrongly thought women wanted providers types. I have never tried to be mode one, and rarely if ever had fast hook ups as a result. I thought that women needed way more comfort to fuck. It possible that the women I preselected for LTRs did in fact need way more comfort. But, probably not. This broad literally talks to me for less than 15 minutes total and didn’t kno…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 01:03 AM
11

I don’t know if it does help people here. Good that you know what you want to read. Maybe I’ll preface future reports, if any, as “no theory.” But, probably not. Some people feel the opposite of you and like to see this type of report. I’m not sure what I learned, if anything. There is no commentary because I have more questions than answers.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 12:46 AM
10

Definitely built-in logistics. An extremely favorable playing field.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 12:41 AM
19

To you and me. I don’t think I’ll ever be quite there.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 12:39 AM
2

Understand this: the more you do, the more you get done. Your problem is that you think you are prioritizing but you are just doing less. You haven’t exercised in two months. My guess is you think you don’t have time for exercise and need to devote that time to your startup. I’ve done the same thing in the past. What happens is you stop exercising, testosterone drops, you ramp up stress with the startup, cortisol rises, and you seek relief in your preferred mind-numbing activity (Netflix). Coupl…
/r/askTRP31/08/18 02:21 PM
3

At the very least you need to game the friend and give her tingles. If the friend wants to fuck you, she’ll envy your wife and your wife will love you for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 03:05 PM
6

Then nag until Chad 2.0 is a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 03:02 PM
0

If I knew then what I know now.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 10:35 AM
3

Lean bulk. Lift heavy. Focus on chest in the 3-6 rep range. Right now you look good but small. You have 20 pounds of muscle to gain in the next 2-3 years. Your bench will go way up.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 10:28 AM
1

No shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 12:24 AM
8

Your wife is not extreme. You are extremely stuck up her ass and walking on eggshells around her. You are in her frame. I’ve been there before. Read the sidebar if you haven’t already. NMMNG. Read everything you can on shit tests. Get a life outside of the relationship. The one good thing you are doing is trying to live like you are divorced. I still do that. It is a solid mental frame. To actually do it you need to overcome your wife’s compliance tests. Read up on them. The post above provides …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 01:50 PM
2

Smile more. Work on game. Be the life of the party.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 02:58 AM
1

That sucks
/r/askMRP28/08/18 12:28 AM
3

Were you lifting heavy? Did you drink often? Smoke pot? Eat shitty? What contributed to the low T at 33?
/r/askMRP27/08/18 05:19 PM
4

What contributed to you needing TRT at age 33?
/r/askMRP27/08/18 01:50 PM
7

You have oneitis bad. She not yours, it’s just your turn. You’re in a LDR during college...
/r/askMRP27/08/18 10:20 AM
10

Tell her it is none of her business and set a boundary at her snooping and be prepared to enforce it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/18 10:39 AM
1

Wanting freedom to fuck younger women without guilt.
/r/askMRP24/08/18 01:35 AM
1

She gives me very little shit. I would like to be free to spin plates and I want to keep the family together.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 05:14 PM
3

Having too many fucks to give about what other people may think. In other words, failing to be my own judge. This manifests itself in many ways: guilt, shame, and loss of OI. I have to periodically read NMMNG and the beginning on WISNIFG to maintain OI. It all makes sense logically and I buy in fully, only to have a trigger event bring about emotions and I’m aware I’m giving too many fucks logically but the emotions don’t stop for a couple of days. Despite this weakness STFU allows me to maintai…
/r/askMRP23/08/18 01:45 PM
1

You probably are a nerd. That means your ego identifies with being smarter than others. You are probably trying to logic woman instead of interacting with them on an emotional level. You’re still fucking, so they are attracted to your ambition, intelligence, etc. But, you can’t be fun and flirty when you are in nerd mode. And, most people don’t like the smartest asshole in the room, they like the most charismatic. You can be both, but that requires you to mute the display of your intelligence. I…
/r/askMRP20/08/18 01:38 PM
1

K.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/18 02:26 AM
1

Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 06:03 PM
1

After last weeks shit show I’m solidly back in frame. The storm of emotion subsided. I was overwhelmed by feelings last week. I honestly felt like a fucking woman. I ultimately got full access to my wife’s phone. She’s not cheating. I was projecting. I have running access to her iMessages. Her friends and her talk about boring shit. It is the least salacious read I can imagine. Last week I got a lot of excellent feedback and that helped me quickly snap out of it without too much loss of power, i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 10:50 PM
1

I get that. Without judgement, I’m going to continue to strive to discover and live an amazing life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/18 11:28 AM
2

That’s a great link and a good reread for me at this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/18 03:01 AM
1

It sucks. Still stings after so much progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 10:51 PM
2

I do have options and act on them. I have too many options. The fear comes from not wanting to lose the white picket fence. I’m straddling the fucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 10:46 PM
3

I’ve got nobody to blame but myself. I searched cheating and read 20 in a row. I’ll check out that video when I have some time. I’m coming out of my fog of jealousy into a relapse of anger phase. I take that as progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 01:06 PM
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These bullshit posts coupled with my transgressions is what got me into the downward spiral I was in. My wife doesn’t even go on GNO. But, these hypergamy on steroids posts get me all worked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/18 12:45 PM
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I hear you. I’m not going to stop improving. I’m going to redouble my efforts. Hit the sidebar again and search for abundance mentality and outcome independence. I’m going to stop fucking around until I can root out the guilt and shame. I need to do some deep work on why I give a fuck if my wife cheats. If I can’t be outcome independent about that, my cheating seems to create some shitty feelings not worth dealing with.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 05:04 PM
1

Absolutely. I’m peaking. Going rouge. And I haven’t cast off the feminine imperative enough to overcome the guilt and shame. The troubling thing for me is the guilt and shame lead me to relapse to neediness, insecurity, and beta tendencies. It has been short lived and I’ve controlled myself outwardly enough that I’m not concerned about too much loss of frame. I’ll recover in the relationship. I am concerned about it happening again. I want to root out that possibility. I also hate mate guarding …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 04:38 PM
1

Honestly, I’ve ran my MAP my wife instantly gets wet, cooks great dinner, never nags, follows my lead, I have the frame to handle her emotions, I have a company and a mission, and I have the white picket fence. I am probably a validation seeking co-dependent with a wife who is not quick to validate. I didn’t get a lot of validation growing up and ended up marrying what I knew. I’m risk adverse with woman. Despite that I’ve never had any trouble with woman because of above average attractiveness …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 03:00 PM
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This sub as been instrumental in making me what I am today. Clearly I’m human, I have faults, insecurities, and at times I’m very ego driven and have a hard time reining that in. Despite all that, I am far closer to my best self because of this sub and the men here to help themselves and others. Thanks guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 02:39 PM
1

I don’t know. This really has come out of nowhere. It’s irrational thinking. In ways this broad was as hot as my wife, I just wasn’t attracted to her. I did it not out of lust, just pure fucking for fucks sake. Zero meaning. I think that brought on the shame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 01:54 PM
1

That’s actionable advice. I’m going to hit the side bar again.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 12:56 PM
1

I agree. I won’t confess.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 12:52 PM
1

I’ve applied MRP. I’m the best version of myself physically and before this lapse, I was the beat version of myself framewise that I have ever been. I’m substantially better than when we got married. She recently told me I’m more attractive now than when we got married. I make decisions and I lead. Before this last lapse I had abundance mentality and outcome independence. I applied dread, gained control of the relationship and everything worked. Now when you ask and I a guy she deserves to cheat…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 12:51 PM
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I agree. I’m trying to prove something to myself. I’ve always been in relationships and never really fucked around. A part of me feels like I missed out. There is probably something deeper going on from childhood that I’ve repressed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 03:50 AM
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Thank you. I have not confessed to her. That is great advice and I will follow it. I have felt like confessing... I’m using this forum as my witch doctor and also discussed it with a safe friend. Thank you again.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 03:47 AM
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I agree I need to stop drinking so much. I can and have banged sober sluts, but I do drink as a crutch to overcome sexual shame and approach anxiety. I banged a low tier slut because I went out and released a few high quality targets, telling myself I was married and shouldn’t close, only to continue to drink, regret the releasing, then say “fuck it” with a low quality broad. I’m trying to be honest here, I think I bang sluts to prove to myself that I can and because biologically I have the driv…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 03:42 AM
1

Agreed. I’m repressing a lot of self loathing. Trying not to think about it. It’s projecting out. Either that or she is cheating and I’m ego protecting with the projection theory. But she has willing handed me her phone. I have her call records. I have seen no evidence. Outside of hiring a PI there is nothing else I can do. But I know she maybe opsecs as well as me. I know it’s possible because I’ve done it and I’ve seen how it can be covered up. That being said, I only started worrying about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 08:22 PM
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That was an exaggeration. I’m not really going to run to my mom and I generally have to make myself call her as well. But, the thought of calling her has crossed my mind in this weakened condition... I agree I’m lying to myself about something. I’m insecure about something. I think it is guilt and shame. I grew up in a conservative church. I’ve since cast it off, but it’s still there in my psyche. I have had flings for three years and have been fine. The second one was hard, but I weathered it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 05:27 PM
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I’m convinced I’m projecting at this point. I’ve satisfied myself she isn’t cheating. The only thing that got me suspicious is MY own actions. I was covering my tracks and started looking for tracks she was covering. After the suspicion started everything looked like a clue. My mind raced and I got to a dark place. I have found no evidence. I think I’m dealing with some undiagnosed, mild BP or manic depression. I got off an antidepressant a few years ago and I’ve been and everything has been gre…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 04:59 PM
1

Thanks it definitely is a shittest.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 12:19 AM
1

I am in a dark place. I did create it. I saw or imagined her AWALT hypergamy and even though I’ve prepared for this mentally for several years now, I relapsed dramatically. Or, more likely I’ve been a kid with dynamite all along. I’m validation seeking. Ego overdrive. I’m self aware enough to recognize and admit it but I can’t stop. I don’t know if I’m projecting or if I’ll report back in a month having found something going on. I’m concerned because I figure she knows I cheated and it just hit …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 10:04 PM
1

I probably am fucking for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:16 PM
1

I’m awash in feels. Ugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:16 PM
1

Don’t know. Probably filling a void. Inherent insecurity.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:12 PM
1

I think you are completely right. Whatever inner game I had disappeared for seemingly no reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:11 PM
2

I probably need to stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 06:02 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. It’s guilt and shame manifesting itself in some weird insecurity and jealousy. I’ve also had a couple of heavy drinking nights which is unusual for me. My brain chemistry is jacked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 05:13 PM
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Ugh... Massive, overwhelming relapse on my part into niceguy behavior, and betadom. I’ve read everything multiple times. I lift religiously. I’m as attractive as I’ve ever been. Sex with my wife has been consistent and satisfactory. She adds value, follows my lead, and had basically submitted. I’ve been concerned I’m not fun and flirty enough in our friend group, so I resolved to improve my game. I go out alone and catch and release a few times and then talk myself into not releasing and I cheat…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 04:03 PM
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When I do that, most of the time my wife gets angry, claims she is going to bruise, and says she doesn’t want to be thrown around. After a couple of drinks, when she’s ovulating, she seems to like being physically moved into positions. I know I programmed her into this by fucking her like a snowflake for 15 years. The question is what is the best way to reprogram her and me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 04:59 PM
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I appreciate this post and concur that most men have an issue with self imposed sexual boundaries, especially with a long term LTR/wife. I had a similar revelation with a plate a year ago. It has taken a full year to reprogram myself and my wife. For most guys the sex I get would be way more than they could imagine (facials, anal, mirrors, all positions, etc) but I still feel like I have a long way to go. I’m still overcoming internal resistance during sex. Calling for a position change, feels l…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 12:05 PM
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It doesn’t matter. Change for yourself. Your wife’s reaction will be one of many and rarely the most important.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 01:51 AM
3

Unfortunately, I know several people living in this textbook reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 12:43 PM
1

It is called a compliance test. Deal with it using humor. If she asks for a kiss, walk towards her, stop three feet away, and say, “come here.” And laugh. If she asks for a beer, say “are your legs broken?” And, laugh. If she asks you to carry her bag. Ignore here completely.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 11:33 PM
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Then, say, “awww, are you too shy to walk through the scary crowd all alone...” Offer to escort her. She is choreplaying you. Also, this is a dominance move on her part. When is the last time you asked her to grab up a beer?
/r/askMRP20/06/18 09:41 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 07:07 PM
1

If you are eating at a deficit, you may lose your wood.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 10:58 AM
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STFU, sidebar, raise your weight and upper body strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 10:55 AM
1

NMMNG
/r/askMRP06/06/18 04:55 PM
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Yes, you’re a sociopath, so are half the guys here, so are most CEOs. Being a sociopath isn’t your problem. Your problem is you DEER when you get caught, as opposed to owning your cheating and letting her leave or not. Change your frame from you cheating and “her taking you back” as you said (which sounds a lot like you getting into trouble for attention), to you doing what you want and what is in your nature and her accepting it because you provide so much value to her. Don’t DEER and it just i…
/r/askMRP06/06/18 11:11 AM
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Most likely you aren’t hot enough and/or didn’t demonstrate enough value. Or she was on the rag. Or she has a boundary at being the other women.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 12:01 AM
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Agreed. OP don’t overtly vocalize anything.
/r/askMRP01/06/18 11:41 AM
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My wife was always wet when we first got together, before we married and I went full betabux. I stopped working out, went out of my way to not flirt or make her jealous, and supplicated to her every whim. She dried up, go figure, and I thought it was age or kid related, ha. I haven’t seen a bottle of lube since successfully implementing MRP. The short answer is be more attractive. The long answer is lift, lose body fat, develop a cocky funny frame, be a fun and flirty guy, and cultivate passive …
/r/askMRP08/05/18 01:42 PM
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OP you are overwhelmingly needy and need to develop abundance mentality. Hopefully of the 22 people coming to your dinner date their is at least 1 broad you can lay game on and prime her path to platehood. If not, go day game and invite some girls you don’t know to your deal. View your girlfriend wanting to go to her function as your opportunity to interview potentially better prospects for her job. Read the sidebar. Start with NMMNG then WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP14/04/18 12:41 PM
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You judge and think you are better than them. Even if you are better than them, they sense the judgement and resent you. Either stop giving a fuck or work on being charismatic with men.
/r/askMRP28/03/18 10:00 AM
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WTF are you talking about the reading doesn’t apply? These concepts: You’re the prize Outcome independence Abundance mentality Are all applicable. You don’t understand the reading. You don’t have to lead a woman for her to be attracted to you, you just can’t follow a women. Work on yourself, and she’ll come along if she likes. You are the problem here. As a side note: you are an idiot for not marrying her. Read between the lines: you had everything to gain. Marriage isn’t a bad thing for men if …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 05:35 PM
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You could be worse. At least you aren’t fat as fuck. You need to bulk at your weight and you’ll change you body dramatically in two years.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 03:23 AM
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You’re doing it wrong. Wives who get on their knees nightly are inspired to do so by a very attractive man who is charismatic, who leads, and who has options. Since you are none of those, when you demand your wife to get on her knees she’ll do one of two things: not comply, or comply and resent you. If she complies and resents you, you will end up living in a shitty relationship. If she doesn’t comply, or more likely does for a short time, then stops, you’ll divorce and since you aren’t very att…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 11:10 AM
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Take it one step further and argue a set off for the replacement value of the sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 05:29 AM
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A child with dynamite.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 07:06 AM
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You fault was stopping at NMMNG. Had you read Rational Male you would have probably avoided this, because you would realize AWALT, resisted oneitis and implemented solid plate theory. Everything has a beginning, a middle, and and end. To live life we’ll, you have to stick the dismount. You did the opposite. Get control of yourself and get back to work.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 07:05 AM
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Awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 11:54 PM
1

K
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/18 01:28 AM
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K.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 02:14 AM
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If you can’t find it within yourself to read and learn from NMMNG, Rational Male, and Pook, then give up now. Quit. It will be easier anyway; you won’t have to wake up to lift, you won’t have to read, you won’t rock the boat at home, your wife won’t get angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 03:35 PM
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Meh, this doesn’t take balls. The only thing he has to fear are HER emotions. They are her emotions and nothing for him to fear. What this does take is the ability to remain amused in the wake of her emotions, the ability to STFU, and the ability to be completely nonbutthurt regardless of what she says to him and the kids. OP may not be there yet.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 02:55 PM
1

Right. No way that’s happening, even though your wife says she wants to be licked, and you never pause to consider that she may be wanting to bring another woman to bed for your pleasure and instead immediately take it to mean she wants another dick.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 02:48 PM
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“Please make me a sandwich.” “Make me a sandwich, please.” “Make me a sandwich...please.” “Make me a sandwich.” “Sandwich” Sits in chair.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:47 AM
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If my wife said that to me I would say, “If we had a girlfriend here she could lick you while I fuck you.” Are you sure you aren’t the one subconsciously fixated on a MMF? Not sayin your homo, more likely insecure.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:41 AM
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You were butthurt when your covert contract with the Roomba wasn’t filled. Buy skittles next time. You probably are low SMV. Lift and bulk. Stop running unless it’s sprints. You boring fucks and your captaining with dry erase boards. Get everyone in the family a fucking pocket protector as well so their pens don’t bleed ink on their church clothes at Wednesday group. Next time follow the sidebar and don’t try to pull off what some douche here says (yes, I understand I’m a douche giving you advic…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:24 AM
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Your dad is a narcissist. You admire him because that was one of the ways you thought you would get his attention growing up. Your insecurities stem from him. From Psychology today: “As the son of a narcissistic father you never feel that you can measure up. Dad was so competitive, that he even competed with you. (Or, didn’t pay attention to you one way or the other.) You may have accepted defeat - you’d never outdo your dad. Or, you may have worked hard to beat Dad at his own game just to get h…
/r/askMRP14/01/18 12:29 PM
1

Right.
/r/askMRP14/01/18 12:22 PM
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Exactly this. OP dresses like his dad, the marine, who he clearly idolizes and his deep seated insecurities stem from. OP’s wife is trying to do him a favor. I’m not suggesting he should listen to her style suggestions, just take a hit and develop a style.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 10:56 AM
3

Fast hamster powered by serious daddy issues.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 10:53 AM
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No this isn’t mate guarding. No this isn’t blow back on progress. Tell your wife that you dress yourself and that you don’t need her to be your mommy and pick out your clothes. The next time she tries to do something nice by taking you shopping say “no thanks” and suggest she make you food and fuck you instead, or whatever might actually be nice for you, doesn’t matter to me. Read a book about how to do that without feeling guilty if you need. Consider that you might have poor style since all yo…
/r/askMRP12/01/18 10:49 AM
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The fact that you disregard the marriage contract acting as consent to ass grabbing between two adults blows me away. By your logic my wife is embezzling from me daily. OP had little tact and clearly his wife isn’t attracted to him. Don’t drum up the sexual assault narrative and shame him for grabbing his wife’s ass.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 04:15 AM
1

Interesting discussion. When you say contributor characteristics, do you mean those that contribute to Alpha, or am I misreading
/r/TheRedPill10/01/18 12:14 PM
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How do you show or fake this?
/r/TheRedPill10/01/18 12:01 PM
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Probably. The circumstances that are required is the measure of sluttiness in the women.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 11:37 AM
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You can either marry a slut and try to make her a good girl or marry a good girl and try to make her a slut. You married a slut. What do you want? It sounds like you want to stay married, but are starting to realize that you failed to filter well. If you want to stay married ask yourself what you have done to contribute to your wife’s behavior and change that about yourself. Doing anything else will frustrate you and her. If you want to make boundary at cheating with men or women, do it. You mus…
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:45 AM
1

Tell me your height, weight, 1rm on bench, weighted chins, overhead press, and deadlifts. If you can lift 6 days a week you are fucking around. Or, maybe you look great. In that case it is the nice guy, pussy pedestalizing you’re prone to.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:42 AM
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You can either marry a slut and try to make her a good girl or marry a good girl and try to make her a slut. You married a slut. What do you want? It sounds like you want to stay married, but are starting to realize that you failed to filter well. If you want to stay married ask yourself what you have done to contribute to your wife’s behavior and change that about yourself. Doing anything else will frustrate you and her. If you want to make boundary at cheating with men or women, do it. You mus…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:39 AM
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Right now your wife had all the control in the relationship and you have no power. You are or have been betatized. You read like a classic nice guy with her pussy up high on a pedestal. You don’t make out because she isn’t attracted to you, physically, mentally and probably both. That doesn’t mean she hates you. You provide her comfort. She just doesn’t like the thought of kissing you. You are going to have to rebuild yourself from the ground up. Start lifting if you haven’t already. Look into l…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:23 AM
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Cheat if you want or don’t. Doesn’t matter to me. Apply the levels of dread. Initiate often, when you want, without regard to what she seems to want. When you initiate have something else worthwhile to do, so when she rejects you, you can go do that without being butthurt. She’ll say things like, “all you want is sex.” Agreed with her and amplify. She’ll throw other shit at you like, she won’t have sex with you unless, xyz. Tell her someone will. Occasionally, initiate and when she rejects you, …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 12:52 AM
1

This
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 07:12 PM
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He’s a codependent man who clearly can’t rely on himself alone, as this story shows, he gets an idea about what may be causing his fucked up life and is unable to STFU, blurts it all out, and celebrates the intimacy afterwards like he is in a desert and that is the first drop of water he’s had in months, even though he fucks every day. Good for OP for recognizing the issue. I can see no good coming from him communicating this to his wife. It’s his ego looking to be stroked for starting something…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 07:02 PM
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Not being in her frame means you don’t go around guessing at what she wants. Don’t try to calculate how she seems. If you are not getting what you want out of the one life you have to live, then yes do something different. If a sex toy is what you want, get one. A sex toy and sleeping naked would not be what I would want. It would not be enough for me. If I were you I would develop myself to the point I could reliably game women much younger and hotter than my wife and I would number close them …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 06:46 PM
1

Saving a Low Sex Marriage
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 06:34 PM
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I don’t know how menopause affects ovulation and hormones in females. If I were you, I would still track periods and research hormones. You are deep in your wife’s frame. The fact that you recognized your wife looked annoyed at your advance is an indication of that. It’s like your looking at your mommy to determine if she is angry, annoyed, happy, etc. The night before you didn’t initiate because she “seemed” tired. You’re in her frame, trying to determine what she “seems” like. Trying not to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 02:40 PM
1

Stay the course.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/18 12:07 PM
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Forge ahead. Sidebar. Lift. STFU and your vision will become reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/18 03:11 AM
1

If you are all, it will be difficult to develop abundance mentality. If your wife knows you’re all in, there is no dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 12:26 PM
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A massage is a total covert contract and a blue pill, pussy way to initiate. What the fuck do you mean warm her up?You don’t need to warm her up for sex, especially when she is ovulating. You need to increase alpha behaviors and pass her tests. Remember she wants sex as much as you, just not with you, instead with an alpha. Look at your wife like you want to eat her, take her hand and say come with me. Walk her to where you are going to fuck her and kiss her deeply then fuck her. You still have …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 12:24 PM
1

The understanding that there is no one thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 01:37 PM
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I’ll help. You have failed to develop abundance mentality and you do not view yourself as the prize. You are in a shitty relationship and you have a shitty life because of the decisions you’ve made and the actions you’ve been afraid to take. Your wife is a shitty wife, and your relationship is shit, because she reflects you. You’ve been trying to escape your pathetic life and relationship by thinking up a delusion about your work wife and escaping into that delusion daily. Here is a core belief …
/r/askMRP31/12/17 06:16 PM
3

If you are worried about what other people think of your life, remember those who care about your life, don’t matter, and those that matter, don’t care about your life.
/r/askMRP28/12/17 02:47 AM
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Of course questions pop up. Letting go of the questions is a skill some have to develop. Who says a simple man can’t get the most out of life? The most successful men are simple. They focus on a few meaningful things they can impact.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 11:18 PM
1

That would be crossing a boundary for me. You need to decide if it is a boundary for you.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 08:05 PM
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I was once prone to deep, ruminating thought. I would think myself into despair and depression, just as it sounds like you have. You have a core belief that will continually cause you pain: “Everything we do is insignificant, we are insignificant in the big scheme of things.” As long as you continue to mentally masterbate on that thought you’ll be fucked. Give up the philosophical thought and live in the present. Be a simple man with simple pleasures and be happy.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 07:57 PM
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Watch out with this line of thought or you’ll have 100 guys dancing around like monkeys because they think it gives girls an emotional spike. The only emotional spike you need to give is the one women get when they think you don’t give a fuck because you have options.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/17 12:52 AM
1

Exactly this. When you leave her punching at air eventually she’ll stop and if you are attractive enough she’ll seek her stimulation with your cock.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 08:21 PM
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Male hypergamy in action. Your wife is fat so you branch swing. You’re doing it all wrong. You have oneitis for a post-wall, bipolar, woman who has finished riding the CC and is ready to be supported. The most glaring error in your post is your thesis: that if you have an affair, be prepared for divorce. A married man should always be prepared for divorce emotionally, financially, and sexually. If a women adds enough value to his life, he lets her hang around. If not, divorce. As for your affair…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 03:23 PM
1

Do you always avoid tough questions by asking questions?
/r/askMRP14/12/17 09:42 PM
1

I’ll solve this for you. You can’t make her happy.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 06:13 PM
1

How does it feel to live with this lack of abundance mentality?
/r/askMRP14/12/17 06:07 PM
2

Why don’t you spin 24-29 year old, childless, HB plates?
/r/askMRP14/12/17 06:05 PM
2

I thought the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/17 01:42 PM
2

She’s not special and since she’s that smart, it won’t take her long to realize she’s acting adolescent. Try AM as a way to give comfort. Be calm and collected and reassure her. Or, try it with a smile on your face as a tease. Or, don’t try it at all and keep repeating your same mistakes and get angry because she won’t change even though you’ve pumped her full of all the logical reasons she should. Doesn’t matter to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:40 PM
1

Have you tried amused mastery when she freaks out about missing a train? She is reverting to a scared child state. Treat her like it. “There there, honey, the train is boarding now. It doesn’t depart for 20 minutes. Now what’s the difference between boarding and departing? Can you tell me?”
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 11:47 AM
1

Are you or have you been on an SSRI?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:22 AM
2

Annually: PRs for Bench, Incline Bench, Dead’s, Weighted Chins, Squats, Overhead Press, and Weighted Dips. Bodyfat Annual Income Net worth increase Business Growth Metrics
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 10:07 PM
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100% Wife doesn’t have proper incentives because OP has been pussy footing around his wife writing covert contracts. His explanation of her going “ballistic” makes me think he is afraid of her emotions. Classic nice guy beta acts out in secret. I have told my wife overtly I will divorce her if she gets fat. I told her that before we married. Guess what, she is skinny. If only there was a way she could avoid aging...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 07:22 PM
1

Flirt with your wife’s friend and give her tingles.
/r/askMRP11/12/17 02:42 AM
3

The person who needs the other least has control of the relationship. Your wife has been in control from the beginning. You gave her that control. Something about your psyche led you to chase her then submit to her. MRP will fix that for you to the point where you will be extremely disturbed by the old you. Your wife may respond submissively to the new you. If she submits, she will likely become more sexually attracted to you and more sexually available to you. She will be more willing to follow…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 02:26 PM
1

“Hypocritical” is a judgement rendered by others. Why do you care what others think? If you want to have sex with other women and want your LTR to only have sex with you, you can have that. There will be an LTR willing to enter into that relationship. Maybe not your current oneitis, but someone. It will be dramatically easier for you to find that LTR is your are the best version of yourself and that version is better that 99% of other men. That being said, I’ve seen some unimpressive men in thos…
/r/askMRP09/12/17 09:35 PM
1

The oneitis is overwhelming. You sound codependent.
/r/askMRP09/12/17 09:22 PM
1

This entire post is full of validation seeking and hamstring. You do not appear to be as far along as you overtly claim. You need to identify your ego and leave it behind. You’re the pairing off type and prone to oneitis. You’ll have to find validation within before you rid yourself of that. As far as your question, if she gave you a hall pass use it because she’ll use hers.
/r/askMRP09/12/17 09:19 PM
5

http://www.ycombinator.com/resources/ For staring a business. E-myth for running a business.
/r/askMRP08/12/17 06:51 PM
1

Of course. Only attractive guys, guys worth losing in them minds of their LTRs (alphas), create competition anxiety.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 11:45 PM
1

Your experience must be different from mine. If not, how do you explain women who exhibit all of the physical signs of nervousness and anxiety in the presence of women with higher SMV when they estimate those women are available to their mate? Have you never perceived that with your LTRs? I have had several LTRs and now a wife who fidgets, stammers, and becomes restless until she physically comes between me and other attractive women who are flirting with me. This commonly ends up with my wife s…
/r/askMRP02/12/17 05:22 PM
2

Dread creates attraction as you say. It also creates competition anxiety, which is a fear of losing a mate. One way some women mate guard is to become sexually available.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 03:59 AM
1

You have a goal. Improve yourself to the point she lets you fuck strange.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 03:50 AM
6

You think there is less of a chance of her divorcing you if you stay a fat fuck with no charisma or game who escapes his shitty life jumping on a video game console? By the way, your wife wants to be fucked more than once a month. She is so disgusted by you she can only bring herself to fuck you with the lights out once a month.
/r/askMRP02/12/17 03:48 AM
1

Once she gives up her fishing, he begins to give her attention. The attention is what she gets. Of course, if he is a high value man that her friends repeatedly tell her she is lucky to have, his dick is the ultimate reward.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 03:16 PM
1

This describes Abundance Mentality and Outcome Independence. When you have developed yourself to the point that value is easily attainable, and when your validation comes from within, you don’t get butthurt. Butthurt is an emotion. There is no emotion when a man with Abundance Mentality and OI withdraws attention, he simply has better things to do. When my wife occasionally gives me a soft no, she will ask if I’m ok and look closely at me as I respond. She is subconsciously looking for any subco…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 03:01 PM
1

Study shit tests and develop your amused mastery. Treat her like a little girl growing a temper tantrum. They are her emotions and hers alone. Become amused at how she try’s to use them to manipulate you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:50 PM
2

You were ashamed of your sexuality. You sold your wife a less sexual version of yourself. Now you’re afraid if you reveal a more sexual version, she won’t like you. You’re still ashamed of your sexuality. A more sexual version of yourself is better for your girl, so long as the sexuality is directed at her. Internalize this: women want sex as much as men, women want to be desired, masculine men desire women constantly (our brain chemistry demands it, we are literally wired that way), there is no…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 12:27 PM
2

If she really just wanted to be worshipped, and there isn’t a SMV imbalance in her favor, then my guess is the new guy represents deeper pockets to her. He is more Bux. The thing you need to take away from this is that before MRP you picked a princess. This has nothing to do with foot rubs. There are women who the more Alpha you act, the more they rub your feet.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 12:27 PM
1

She doubted your SMV and proved herself correct by dreading you all the way to PIV. My wife knows that if she cheats, I trade her in for two plates half her age. If circumstances make sex impossible by the third day I daydream of catching her cheating so I can divorce her for cause and abandon my futile attempt at monogamy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:23 AM
2

Yes
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 04:34 PM
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Yes. After 1.5 years of MRP and coincidentally right about when I could bench 1.5 my body weight she got a boob job. Her SMV went up 1 point. IDGAF. She still knows where the door is if she wants to leave and I slap her boobs sometimes when I’m fucking her rough.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 02:00 AM
3

Everyone starts somewhere. Follow the protocol. It works.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 08:04 PM
2

You stirred up a little dread buy leaving the house then quickly diffused it by DEERing to make sure she knew you were only airing up your tires. You definitely don’t have to worry about going Rambo. Focus on you and learn game. The next time you go out, number close. Time after, kiss. Time after, BJ. And so on. You lack abundance mentality, or else you wouldn’t settle for three months fuckless.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 07:16 PM
2

Why are you switching away from heavy lifting during your cut?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 11:59 AM
1

Here are some tactics I have used: Open baristas and women in coffee shops and number close. Open bartenders women at bars and number close. Shop for clothes and open the retail girls and number close. Open a branch of my business in another city. Travel to that branch. Get a plate, drop plate, get another plate. Etc. We aren’t sharing tactics because they are so self-explanatory.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 09:55 PM
1

Here are some tactics I have used: Open baristas and women in coffee shops and number close. Open bartenders women at bars and number close. Shop for clothes and open the retail girls and number close. Open a branch of my business in another city. Travel to that branch. Get a plate, drop plate, get another plate. Etc. We aren’t sharing tactics because they are so self-explanatory.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 09:55 PM
1

If all you want is for girls to want you, be awesome, be in an LTR, and open women. They will want you. Currently, you are not awesome, or you wouldn’t be posting this. Apparently, you aren’t opening women either, or you wouldn’t be posting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 09:50 PM
1

“Keep my balls drained and belly full and you have nothing to worry about.”
/r/askMRP13/11/17 07:08 PM
1

My anger deadening has left me feeling less motivated. I established habits during the anger phase and they remain intact, but I don’t have an urge to discover more and more about the matrix. I feel like I’m coasting.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 11:30 AM
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It’s anecdotal evidence, not an appeal to an authority. Your reference to a single scientific study, is in fact an appeal to an authority. Now that we have our fallacies accurately defined, did you just post a study titled: “Resistance weight training during caloric restriction enhances lean body weight maintenance” to argue against me? As you do that I’m beginning to think your ego investment is the cause of your fat adaption.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 10:08 PM
1

Lifting burns calories without increasing hunger for me and many others. The more I lift, the leaner I am. But what do I know, having only been verified at 8% bodyfat using hydrostatic. Be fat if you want. Argue with good advice if you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 07:49 PM
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Your wife is a master manipulator. You can’t dread her, or she’ll get spooked. You can’t act like a man who wants sex, or else you’ll be shamed like a teenage boy. You can’t eat fucking leftovers that you bought or else she just won’t know who she is married to anymore. Realize you are your own judge. Stop deering. Learn AA and AM or just stfu.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 05:39 PM
3

You told her to divorce. She said no. So you told her you would. And, you didn’t follow through. That was a fuck up. It’s fine, it can be overcome. I think she is shittesting you with separation talk. Tell her she knows where the door is and she can leave if she wants. It isn’t dread if you are doing the flirting. Get to a point where you give eye contact alone and get women to flirt with you in front of your wife. That is dread.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 12:09 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP18/10/17 02:05 AM
2

What's the point of making them apologize?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/17 05:28 PM
3

What level is face fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 12:10 PM
2

WTF about your father? I think half the guys in here are the equivalent of a male with daddy issues, myself included.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 03:51 PM
1

Insightful. He may be keeping up appearances. Afraid what others will think if he's divorced. Or, oneitis - unable to live with the thought of her happy with another man. Or, thinking the kids are better in a two parent home. As I said above, he would benefit from considering an open relationship from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 01:58 PM
1

As much as we say AWALT women have different personalities and utilize different unconscious tactics to retain mates. Some women are assertive and go for what they want with sexuality. Other women play hard to get. Etc. It's like strippers: if the hottest stripper is standoffish, has resting bitch face, and is generally cold, she'll get some tips, but not as many as a less hot stripper with a warm, charming, sexy personality. He may have been too Alpha, or she gave up on trying, or she may just …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 01:55 PM
1

Some men are made to fuck many women. Many women want to fuck them and they want to fuck many women. Monogamy is a convention created by western civilization. And, even then, historically, and presently the most powerful men often don't follow it. Don't beat yourself up. Own it and move on. Think seriously about angling for a one-sided or fully open relationship with your wife. The foundation of your marriage just got rocked. Time to rebuild your vision.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 01:40 PM
1

Give her a bit of plausible deniability and tell her you were just checking to see if your workouts had improved things and disregard. When she shit tests you about it, agree and amplify. If she needs comfort tell her to drain your balls and feed your stomach and she has nothing to worry about.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 01:42 PM
1

I'm with you. He totally DEERed about cleaning up later. His wife was happy because he did all the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 06:30 PM
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She's fucking that guy, or is very close to fucking that guy. If I were you I would leave her and spin plates. Or, stay if you want. Either way, lift, get ripped, and sidebar. STFU, because you can't talk her into not getting wet for her Alpha dream boss who is showing her attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 10:05 PM
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Welcome. Search 12 levels of dread and read that post. Better yet buy the book. That is as close to a road map as you'll get. If you do it right your wife won't notice any drastic personality changes in you. They need to happen gradually right before her eyes. Don't talk about this shit to her or anyone.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 11:37 AM
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You have to change your whole mentality. You are trying to improve yourself to change her. That is a giant covert contract. She will not ch age under those conditions. Paradoxically, if you improve yourself for yourself, without regard to her or her behavior, there is a much better chance her behavior will change as well. Most importantly, even if her behavior doesn't change for the better, you will have improved, and you will feel great about it.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 12:59 AM
1

Why is she still with him is the better question. Any time I see an anxious wife, I know the is a nice guy, non-assertive pussy close by.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 03:15 PM
2

There is no quick fix. It will take you many months to change physically and psychologically. And it will take her longer to notice. Hit the gym hard.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 12:41 PM
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His wife is running MRP on him. Her "no thanks" answer is exactly what I would have said in that situation.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 12:38 PM
1

Fuck her harder. Fuck her so hard and beat up her vagina from time to time. That will buy you a couple of days to rest.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 12:23 PM
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A picture is worth a thousand words and a video many more. I led my wife to watch porn with me and once she saw what a good blowjob looked like, she improved.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 09:54 PM
1

Don't hate on a man for a little dick slap.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 01:26 PM
3

Then you have discovered something you need to work on.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 11:34 AM
1

This is the path. When you read 12 levels of dread, read the recommended books, as well.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 11:31 AM
3

Baby, when you need the dick, use your words.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:25 PM
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If you are turning down girls 20 years younger with insatiable appetites for sex, why the fuck are you asking if you should start a an online account to cheat on your wife? This post is full of contradictions. Lies you are telling yourself. You're ego is working overdrive to explain why your wife cheated on you and now you are trying to validate your ego by cheating yourself.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:21 PM
2

It depends. Some guys may need to go monk mode on their wife. Others need to internationalize the other parts of NMMNG and initiate more. Either way, one has walk the path to please the self and not others. Meaning, you have to act without a covert contract.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 12:43 PM
1

Prenup. Rewrite the equity of the company to restrict transfers by operation of law. Create and fund a buy-sell agreement.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 11:40 AM
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If you are asking this you are not Chad.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 11:37 AM
2

This is a series of shittests. Your STFU was better than DEERing and worse than handling the shit with AA and AM. Carry on with cocky funny as if nothing happened, because nothing that concerns you happened. Her emotions overwhelmed her and her emotions are her responsibility, not yours. Don't Rambo. Be awesome and the type of fun, amazing guy women want to be around. If she doesn't like it, she knows where the door is.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 02:03 AM
1

How often are you initiating? Why not more?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 05:35 PM
1

Thank you. I'll give the Subtle Art a read. It seems like it is going to reframe the issue for me. I certainly have too many fucks to give from time to time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:37 AM
1

It is bullpill vomit. The vast majority of posters are stuck in deadbedrooms, using Craigslist to try and get laid because they are unattractive they have no game.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 04:47 AM
2

Can you agree it is more Alpha for a man to be married and have his wife consent to his affairs, than it is for a man to hide his affairs, because of fear his wife won't consent?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 04:38 AM
2

Thanks for this. So the problem is defined. Is the solution to accept it as the human condition and live with it?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 04:20 AM
1

My guess is the first time something like this happened between you and her you acted the same way, didn't use AA or amused mastery or basic flirting and acted autistic, and she then got angry, and you failed to establish a boundary and deferred to her anger (rewarded her bad behavior). Of course, she keeps doing this.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 11:05 PM
1

Actually, I would say, "ok, bye."
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:52 PM
1

These are basic compliance tests. You are failing them. Her: "Change the radio station." You, smirking: "Are your arms broken?" Her: "Put this in the car" You, smirking: "Right away, your royal highness." Her: "plug my iPad in" You, "I've got something to plug in." Initiate sex. Instead you complied, which demonstrates she is in charge. When you didn't comply you DEERed. Lastly, when she rolls over and gives you the shoulder, you should shrug and move on with your mission. Don't periodically che…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:45 PM
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Part of it is your SMV is 2-3 points above hers. You will be able to find plenty of low SMV women to care for you.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:26 PM
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If you want women to chase you, lift, be wealthy, have status, have game, and develop abundance mentality. Also, nature dictates you almost always have to initiate conversation. The extent of a girl chasing you can be her walking closer to you. For example, I was recently buying jeans at a retail store, I had a brief moment of eye contact with a 22 year old blond who worked there. I smirked and have her a little head node. She put on her work mode bitch face on and I figured she wasn't game for …
/r/askMRP06/08/17 08:38 PM
3

Read the entire sidebar with a focus on The Rational Male. If you still want to marry, do a lot of research on screening and the selection process. Understand that you are going to marry a good girl and make her your slut. In the long term, you are going to sacrifice variety of pussy for stability of pussy, unless you plate on the side. You can never let you shit slip or your stable pussy will dry up and you'll be left in a sexless marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 08:07 PM
2

I am not concerned if I get caught and it goes tits up because being single would be fulfilling in its own way, although it would be a different type of fulfillment. If divorce happens, I'm ok with it. This puke of a post, is definitely some complaining, written at a time when I was experiencing some NRE with a plate, and my wife gave me a soft no. I was sitting on the fence between divorcing, living single, and plating and living married. I know better than to ask internet strangers to tell me …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 07:03 PM
1

Your diet is likely the problem with your lifts and libido.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:52 AM
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Everything this comment says. And, eat. If you are plateauing at those levels and have low libido it sounds like you are under eating. Count your marcos and add protein then other stuff.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:51 AM
2

Yes. Game matters in marriage.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 03:32 AM
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Your hamster is looking for shortcuts. Do yourself a favor and get out of your own head. The MRP praxology has been fleshed out. A guy like you, who has been at it for 3 weeks is not going to add much. If you want to accelerate your progress, do it in the gym. Read and understand fuckarounditis (google it). Hit your macros. You'll make more progress in 3 years than most do in a lifetime at the gym.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 02:47 PM
1

Understood. I'll implement in stages.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 11:35 AM
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You are the captain. Define the roles on the ship. If she is overwhelmed with work for good cause, help her, of course. If she's been watching Netflix all day, tell her you'd be happy to help her plan her schedule so she can contribute effectively, but you're not going to bail her out when her poor planning and laziness led her to get behind.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 03:06 AM
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There was no reason to text her back the two times she texted. She didn't ask a question about logistics. Let it linger and let her hamster run. Start lifting asap. Buy the dread book. Get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 02:20 AM
1

Basic
/r/askMRP25/07/17 09:25 PM
2

Welcome to the game. She showed your friend who's boss. It's called social dynamics and you're clearly not to dynamic at it. You are the problem, not your wife. She wasn't disrespecting you. She was playing with you. The good thing is some reading and bantering and you can fix this pretty quick. And, yes you have been avoiding this since grade school. You used to think it was bullying.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 06:34 PM
1

My wife is physically attracted to me. At least she says and her friends say I'm hot. Mentally, she is coming around. I will try what you suggest but it is a big departure from the type of vanilla sex she is used to and the roles we play. When she says, "say please" she is not being playful. If I resist the situation devolves into a discussion on respecting her and being politically correct. I get more mileage teasing her about it and calling her the "politeness princess" or going over the top w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 02:03 PM
1

I am squarely in scenario two.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:22 PM
1

Agreed. Men more monogamous than me could have avoided this situation, played it safe, and protected the marriage, at the expense of having amazing sex with plates. Dread is not the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:15 PM
1

Yeah, thanks to this place I've come a long way. Your point is probably that I need to give my wife more time and lead sex more. That is the decision I've made.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:12 PM
1

I agreed there is some madonna whore thing going on and I'm slowly overcoming it. I'm sure after living with it so long it influences her behavior, even if I'm overcoming it. I am going to keep working on sex with my wife. Another comment suggested the BSDM brat and after reading up that appears to maybe be her type. I've been trying to get her to be a pure sub and it's maybe against her nature. Thanks for your comments, book, and all you do for this place, btw.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:10 PM
2

Women mostly know I'm married. I don't lie about it. I don't always wear a ring due to taking it off to lift and another hobby and failing to put it on. But if I escalate tension the question of whether I'm attached always comes up. If they ask if I'm married I say with a grin and laugh, "yes, that means I'm only good for sex." Sometimes they'll ask if I have a girlfriend and my answer is, "that and more." I'm not worried about getting caught. It is an outcome I've come to grips with. I use Burn…
/r/askMRP25/07/17 12:06 AM
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I completely agree with your first point. It is 100% my fault for the same reasons. I am and have always been K group. Yes, I've imagined divorce. She would likely part amicably for the kids. However, she is prone to anger and who knows what her war bride nature would produce. I'm having trouble accepting both isn't in my cards. I'm wishing I would have stumbled into this place or at least rational male before kids, because I would not be married. It's pointless, I know. I need a mental model to…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 05:18 PM
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I'm not ready for divorce. My wife is always going to be in my life as the mother of my kids. If there must be a relationship, I would rather have a hand in shaping it through marriage. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing until it blows up on me. Presumably, that's how all this shit ends. Until then, I'll take head and as plates drop I won't fill the slot. Eventually, maybe I'll find that pussy is just pussy and not need to scratch the itch.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:50 PM
1

I have done that. I have a need for variety with other women. She can't fill that need.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:43 PM
1

Thats's essentially what I have decided to do. Divorcing my wife isn't going to change much in my favor at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:03 PM
1

I don't think my wife has as much of an issue of what you describe. She initiates, we've tried anal, I've given her a facial, it's the passion, style, sexuality, and eagerness as compared to my plate that is lacking.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 01:26 PM
1

I think it's ASD. Normally, one could negate that by taking responsibility for the sluttiness and telling her what to do. My wife has a bad attitude about taking orders. She isn't coachable. Frequently, she asks me to say please, if I say, get on your knees or something similar. I treat it like a shittest and fuck her good but it is a mode killer.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 01:22 PM
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I have pulled out and stopped starfish and left the house. I have told my wife it just isn't doing it for me. I have assertively told her what I want in bed - she asks me to say please, I shit you not. I play it like a shittest and still fuck her good. We've done anal. She initiates. I told her I wanted to give her a facial and she let me, though the look on her face after was contempt. As my original post said, she is trying and I am trying to lead. So what's the problem: The difference between…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 01:19 PM
1

OI is hard to say. Probably 9 months. That was when I first read and ran some basic PUA and ended up in bed with a HB-8 much younger than me. Since then I've been spinning her and now 2 others very casually. They are all out of town, know I'm married with kids and make time for me when I am nearby on business. One is married and one has a LTR and is probably going to get engaged. The other says she has no boyfriend. Honestly, IDGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 01:04 PM
4

Screams oneitis.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 03:02 AM
1

Everyone is assuming I haven't tried to lead my wife. I have. Sex with her has gotten a lot better. It is still the lamest sex I'm having right now. Maybe I'm not as good at sex training as Bogey or the guy that trained my plate. Maybe it's the fact I let my wife fuck lamely for 15 years and acted excited to get lame sex. I dunno. I've read SGM. What else is there?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:57 AM
1

K
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:51 AM
2

They are 4and 2. I would probably be better off doing it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:50 AM
1

Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:23 AM
1

No issue. I just wonder sometimes if it is worth me holding it together.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:14 AM
1

I keep trying to lead my with to be 15 years younger. It's not working.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:12 AM
2

I'm sitting on the fence.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 12:11 AM
1

I am unsatisfied with one aspect of my life. This post is a puke about that dissatisfaction. It's only one aspect of my life. Overall I'm very happy. Honestly, right now I'm getting the best of both being married and single. Ultimately, I have to reconcile that. Or, maybe I'll just keep being discrete.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 07:26 PM
2

I don't feel miserable.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 07:05 PM
2

Ha
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 07:03 PM
3

He's fucking with me. I've tried (not with my wife) and I am not a sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 07:01 PM
2

This is the path I am currently on. This line of thinking led me to plates. The problem is the abundance mentality is leading me to really not give a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 06:59 PM
2

This is a fair assessment. I have SGM a little with her. I am going to have her watch porn with me. She may not know what eager fucking looks like. Young girls grew up with internet porn and in my experience the girls willing to fuck someone nearly twice their age fuck like pornstars even if they appear like good girls from the outside.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 06:56 PM
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She's fine with the kids. She is loyal to my knowledge. She is honest. She is very clean and keeps a very clean house. She is an excellent cook. She is good with money. She was emotionally supportive when I started my business. I don't look to her for that support now. She fell for me before I became successful.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 06:51 PM
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Imagine this: a man takes in a dog. Because he doesn't realize it's important and doesn't know how, he never trains the dog to not shit and piss in the house. He lives with the dog for years, cleaning up the shit and piss. Sometime later he learns that well behaved dogs shit and piss outside. The man studies and learns all he can about how to train a dog to shit and piss outside. The man goes to great lengths to change his own behavior to facilitate the transition for the dog. The man gives the …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 06:47 PM
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I think it would be a wash.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:55 PM
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Beta me spent many years with my wife being the one to fix the relationship. Since MRP that has stopped and she has complained and I have told her I want her to to fulfill that role. She is an anxious avoidant type, so when there is discord in the relationship she avoids me. I have been living with endless silent treatment.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:41 PM
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Sounds very similar. My wife is catholic. She claims a n-count of 2, with me being one. She is a HSE low libido at least with me. I completely agree I am to blame. My wife is a reflection of who I was before MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:28 PM
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The benefit to me is I will get to see them more. The benefit to them is I will have more time to influence their character. I am sure I am overvaluing both. Which is my point: does MRP lead some men to divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:22 PM
2

A one-sided open relationship that I'm sure is a step towards an eventual divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:16 PM
2

Agreed. My wife is not to blame. I didn't mean to suggest I blame my wife for the situation if the original post suggests that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 04:15 PM
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I don't know. I just felt like writing what I wrote. Maybe this should have been the main post.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 02:43 PM
3

I'm being indecisive. I'm staying for the kids and this post is a puke about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 02:07 PM
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I got married because I was beta and didn't know any better. I would not marry one of my plates. I wouldn't marry again. You are right about burger vs. filet. I have led my wife to much better sex through MRP and dread. She is learning how to cook filet but she takes no pride in it and seems to resent having to learn half the time. Also, she has some sexual shame to deal with herself and just doesn't want to be what she perceives as slutty, at least not with me. Maybe it's the years of beta mayb…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 02:06 PM
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It probably is a covert contract. I have thought about proposing a one penis policy open relationship. I will do that before I divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 01:56 PM
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You are right I have led my wife to do more of what I want when fucking. Sometimes she submits and makes a good effort. Sometimes she digs her heels in and does the opposite what I want as a power play like a defiant toddler. It gets tiring dealing with it. This post is a puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 01:53 PM
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Relevant. I want two competing things: a two parent home and the independence of being single. As far as my MAP: I have a company and I want to grow it. I am fit and I want to continue to stay that way. After this bulk, I'm done with mass. I'll cut and stay at 7-8% bodyfat. I have male friends and I want more of them. I have a hobby I want to be better at it. I want to live the good life.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 01:47 PM
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I don't believe in love. I definitely created the problem with my wife. I picked her and proceeded to break many of the 16 commandments of Poon as I put her on a pedestal. I take responsibility for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 01:32 PM
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Probably.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 01:29 PM
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If you are your own judge, why are you afraid to fail? Reconcile that. You haven't internalized shit. This puke reads like like a passive, listless, nice guy wondering why reading books his LTR knows about doesn't wet her panties. Reading teaches you how to act. You still have to act.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 04:40 PM
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The RP way: start going out to eat a healthy meal by yourself or with a plate every night she doesn't cook.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 10:22 PM
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Your wife was hanging out with a single friend and putting herself in a position to fall on a dick. There are plenty of women, and men for that matter, who will not actively initiate non monogamous behavior. And, many of those same people will fuck around with the right mix of attraction, plausible deniability, alcohol, and secrecy. It was reasonable for you to tell your friend to knock it off. It was stupid of her to paint you as the bad guy.
/r/askMRP01/07/17 04:50 AM
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You are a Ned Flanders nice guy. You say "crap test" for fucks sake. Sidebar and lift.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 11:00 AM
1

Why is it plain wrong to manipulate god?
/r/askMRP29/06/17 10:49 AM
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K, become a man who can.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 07:55 PM
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Fuck a 24 year old HB. Or, at least become a man who can.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 12:17 PM
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You summed it up with saying don't let her pretty little head worry about shit. If you want a sexy, personal slut for a wife you have to give her plenty of time to tan, get waxed, and plan on how she'll suck your cock next.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 12:16 PM
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Once you become your own judge, what others say and do becomes amusing. Eventually, you realize what others say and do has more to do with their relationship with themselves than their relationship with you.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 12:50 PM
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Nice work. It's good to see MRP save the man and presumably the marriage as well. There have been a lot of men saved and marriages discarded recently. I was beginning to think that was the ultimate result of successfully MRPing. Then again, I'm probably projecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:47 PM
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You have failed to internalize your assertive rights. You're your own judge, brother.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 10:58 AM
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Basically, yes. Though, not always with other married people.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 02:04 PM
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You get to decide if this is a step towards or away from a more intimate relationship. She may see this as a DHV and mateguard which will lead to more intimacy in the short-term. However, your persistent victim mentality, if it goes unchecked, will keep that from happening.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:57 PM
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Your failure to develop outcome independence, abundance mentality, and failure to internalize that you are your own judge is astonishing. STFU with your wife, proceed cocky funny, initiate sex, and she'll bring it up when she's ready. You didn't fuck anyone, so shrug your shoulders and move on.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 11:41 AM
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And the author is married and presumably wouldn't be if his wife fucked around. There are women with self control and a strong moral aversion to cheating. Trust but verify.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 01:41 AM
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When you prepare yourself to show her the door she will want to stay. Then you'll get to decide if she is worth it.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:11 PM
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You failed when you were unable to assertively communicate that your father had a heart attack. Why are you afraid of causing drama? The facts are the facts, he had a heart attack. You can communicate that without drama. Don't stew on it or complain about it. Then say, babe, I'd like some fresh air and want to take a walk with daughter. The whole thing would have played out much differently.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:36 PM
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I have done it it multiple times and it works.
/r/askMRP01/06/17 02:59 AM
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You are the problem. You have created a relationship where she is the mean mommy and you are the little boy making mistakes. Fixing the situation will be mentally draining. We are men, we do hard things. If you leave, you'll likely fall into a similar pattern with another cunt. You are being a pussy and that is why she is bitching at you. Read NMMNG and WISNIFG. Develop abundance mentality and eventually you'll be amused by her tirades. What you saw as a mean mommy will look like an angry toddle…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 11:51 AM
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First, own your shit. If you make a mistake, use AM and AA. "Wow, you're sexy when you're angry."
/r/askMRP26/05/17 02:30 AM
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NMMNG talks directly about it.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 08:49 PM
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That's an opinion.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 06:43 PM
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Fully complete each book because men finish what they start. If you want to read them concurrently, that's fine. Are you trying to gain muscle or lose fat? If the former, don't do cardio, if the later, do cardio. A more important question you failed to ask is should you dial in your macros. The answer is yes. Give an example of your wife seeking comfort, and we can help you interpret. Lift, finish the sidebar, create a MAP and make goals, and slowly start to implement the 12 levels of dread.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 01:55 PM
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Kids are manipulative. You thought your kid was asking for food to stay up later. Maybe you were right.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 03:51 AM
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Can confirm. I had a similar situation about anal and BJs. I said, "we'd never still be married except for the anal and BJs" I saw my wife's friends eyes light up and hamsters run.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 02:11 PM
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Go fuck some strange hotter than your wife and call it good.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 01:45 PM
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Good for you on lifting. Now, root out whatever insecurity is causing you to post about how you look better than her ex. Development abundance mentality and outcome independence.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 01:42 PM
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How does your mission allow you enough time to concern yourself with this? If she is otherwise submissive and you lead the relationship, then I think you should have zero fucks to give about what your wife did 20 years ago before you were married. Any attempt to use this as a "dread tool" will reveal your insecurity and butthurt, which both are clearly present or you wouldn't be posting this. Lift, read, improve, focus on your mission, and STFU.
/r/askMRP20/05/17 12:33 PM
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There are no tricks to frame. You have to fix, feel secure, and love yourself and frame will result. Once you have frame, shit tests are amusing. Read WISNIFG and NMMNG.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 12:10 PM
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I'll spoon feed you: Giving the pill and teaching game to AFCs is often like giving dynamite to children, because they try to use it for the wrong reasons and blow themselves up. Your post suggests you are reading, changing, and lifting to change her (to make her desire you). That is the wrong reason. Change yourself for yourself and she'll either desire you or she won't, either way you will be desired by women, many who will be better for you than her.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:28 AM
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Tales of an insecure, butthurt retard. Double dating is the problem, bro. Live in a cave and your insecurities will never be exposed. That's what true alpha's do.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 05:56 PM
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Are you trolling? If not, you have oneitis. Your ego is strong, not your frame. You clearly have not internalized MRP. Your plan is an excellent example of how to jam yourself in your cheating wife's frame. Why do you want to invest so much time in a disinterested women?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 03:00 PM
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You are monitoring her moods like she's your angry mother. Knock it off. Her being angry won't necessarily lead her to be less attracted to you. Own your shit, say what you want, and have less fucks to give if she's angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 12:03 PM
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You sound needy and fixated on her organism. Women are repulsed by men who thank them for sex. You thanked her for trying something new which is only a little less repulsive. Tell her "your welcome" or "you're so sexy" or "you've pleased me" or anything but thank you.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 05:38 PM
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And a man with no game, even if he is fit, intelligent, wealthy, and has ownership of his shit is at best a betabux or relationship type, because the man subconsciously knows he has no game, which leads him to pedestalize the pussy he has, and robs him of abundance mentality, and ultimately that pussy dries up.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 01:31 PM
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If she talks about crushes, she is shittesting you hard, and you need to respond with AA or AM or pressure flip. Your frame in response must be IDGAF. Without any anger and with a smirk on your face tell her that if one of these crushes is willing to deal with all her bullshit then they can have her and you'll even throw in the money you were going to have to pay to keep her fed for the rest of the year. Give her shit back and tease her for her crush. Of course you also need to be a man she resp…
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:38 PM
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Think of all that muscle you would have built had you started lifting then. LIFT. Also, you have not read any game books? They are there to give you frame, OI, and abundance mentality. Read them.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:15 PM
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There may be a way and it is to work on mending the shirt (aka, you) so well that it is better than new. Lift, sidebar, SGM, dread, frame, and time, MAY lead your wife to recategorize you in her mind. Or, it may not. Either way you'll be in a position to get the sex you want and maybe with her.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:12 PM
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You've been here long enough. You should know that you have oneitis. You're definitely jealous of this guy. You are jealous because you lack abundance mentality. There are billions of other women in the world and some percentage of them are younger, hotter, more sexually available, and less likely to fuck their ex-boyfriend in front of your face. Despite that, you're clinging to your wife. The problem with jealousy is that it's signals to your wife that you are less Alpha than the guy you're jea…
/r/askMRP12/05/17 11:20 AM
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And to carry this further, OP's oneitis and inability to walk is a reflection of the frame and resulting behavior that is leading his alpha widow wife back to Chad.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 10:43 AM
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If you are pumped about HJs read NMMNG's section about settling for bad sex. It is relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 02:49 AM
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I can't completely relate because it has not come to my attention my wife gave her best to someone else and she did initiate anal early on our relationship pre MRP. However, I always wanted to give her a facial and she would hard no. 18 months into MRP with no shortcuts and much passive dread and she took it on the face with a smile. I was likely the hold up on the deal. I'm sure you've never pushed too hard, as you aren't now, because she is the one, you respect her too much, yada, yada. You ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 02:33 AM
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No sex: next
/r/askMRP11/05/17 11:27 PM
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It may be the cutting. When I cut, I don't have problems with erections but my drive becomes normal as opposed to extremely high.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 11:20 PM
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You have premature ejaculation. You likely have a tight pelvic floor and are not breathing deeply during sex. Or a weak pelvic floor and are not breathing deeply during sex. You need to develop coordination of the muscles that stop your pee and the muscles that make your pee come out faster. The muscles that stop your pee ejaculate your semen. The muscles that make you pee faster inhibit the muscles that stop your pee (think bicep and triceps) you have an imbalance in that system. The muscles th…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 05:58 PM
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I read it like her comment about the weeds was a shit test and he viewed it as such and responded to it as flirting. Of course, he needs to weed his beds and win the lawn of the month club and he can get to that right after he gives her the dick she's needing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 02:04 PM
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You don't need motivation you need discipline. Motivation gets you started and you did that 18 months again. Discipline leads you to put in your best effort and keeps you going. If you want an example of discipline working, I've been at this roughly 18 months. I lifted and continue to life seriously, utilized leangains and hover at 10%bf, read through the sidebar in 2 months, reread through the sidebar, implemented the stages of dread, and at level 8 my wife is giving me sex when I want it and i…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 11:38 AM
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I get your point. I wouldn't bother saying those two sentences. ME: Heads up - Friend X will be in town tonight, so I'm swinging out to meet him. Won't be till around 7:30. HER: Wait. Is this instead of him coming over to hang out? ME: Yep HER: You never followed up with me. I didn't have a chance to think it answer when you texted. I wish you would stop assuming things. You do this a lot. ME: K HER: I'm so frustrated. Like, what went through your thought process when I didn't respond? There are…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 09:10 PM
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You did fuck up multiple times here. The worst part is you typed your puke out and still sent the fucking thing. You know STFU and text for logistics only, yet you disregarded both, because you have so little control of yourself. That is the fucking problem here. You are a piece of shit and you have much to overcome to become more than that, especially in your wife's eyes, But, you have not been set back for good, or for long. Lift, sidebar, and trust it enough to apply it and you can become a m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:38 PM
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That sounds like DEERing. Even if he decides to go with that, he'd be more effective broken recording it with amusement and not anger. I do get your point that it's ok for a man to be angry when his defined boundaries are violated. This is a case where OP hasn't yet established a boundary. He needs to here without anger. Simply and dispassionately tell her that he doesn't want to hear about it because she didn't bother to respond.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:32 PM
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You do you. There is something to be said about never getting jealous, especially if you have side women.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 03:18 AM
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She is trickle truthing you and fucked that guy. You set no boundaries. You are in an open marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 02:19 AM
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TRP will bring to light more shit you need to talk to a therapist about. Many of us use this board as our support group. Depending on the depth of your issues and whether your therapist is RP friendly you may want to hold on to him. Start tracking your wife's cycle with an app like Clue. You can also track when you have sex and get a no on an app. After tracking my wife's cycle for two months a pattern emerged for her seemingly random moods and aggression and to her willingness to have sex and r…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 02:08 AM
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Layout your plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 06:17 PM
2

She's fat? Why haven't you divorced her!
/r/askMRP06/05/17 03:13 AM
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Doubt it.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 11:03 PM
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Sounds like we agree.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 03:20 AM
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I bought my wife a kitchen mixer for Christmas and she hasn't opened it yet which is great because I am going to give it to her for Mother's Day.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 02:21 AM
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What behavior in her would embody that for you? Figure that out and lead her there.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:58 AM
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Are are suggesting every women has the exact same sexual preferences? It's a common thing said around here, and I get it, for Chad she'll give her all. I do not think every woman's all is the same.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:55 AM
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You may be want your wife to want you, which is a symptom of validation seeking. It should t matter to you what she wants if you get what you want regularly. If that is the case, introspect and disregard. If that's not what is driving understand that the slutty trait is like any other trait in that it comes in degrees. Your wife probably isn't the type to wear a butt plug to work and slurp cock with mascara running down her face. It's not like you can suddenly unlock that from within her.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:10 AM
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That sounds like excuses. Initiate on a Friday or Saturday night and if you get a no, leave. Or don't. You do you.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 11:22 PM
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How do you want her to act? What are you expecting her inner slut to look like?
/r/askMRP04/05/17 08:29 PM
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You are talking about RP with you GF if you use terms like "the wall" and "lose tingles" with her. That is RP jargon. It is like another language to women and plugged in AFCs. Focus on your mission and stop giving relationship advice. You've been divorced three times.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 08:20 PM
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No words. Acta non verba. You control you and you control the attention you give her. If she denies sex, remove yourself swiftly for the rest of the day. Start gaming her again as soon as you feel like it. It took my wife two times for her to connect the dots. We went out and when we got home she said she was tired, gave me a soft no, and asked for a rain check. I called an Uber and went out solo to catch and release, came home early in the morning, took a shower, and went to bed. I gamed her th…
/r/askMRP04/05/17 08:12 PM
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If he fixes his shit he might discover he doesn't want his relationship to survive. Either way he wins.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 06:24 PM
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You have a long journey ahead. No matter how far you have to go, don't stop.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 06:21 PM
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She is there to help out. If you want her to make decisions, delegate them. You have to lead. You want to cheat because you perceive your SMV going up and you want to prove you've still got it. It has little to do with your wife. Go for it. Either tell her before you do it, or make sure your OPSEC is tight and prepare to die with that secret.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 01:38 PM
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You want to get to a place where you say "yes" when she asks if you are checking out a girl. You are a man. You are attracted to women. You do not need to be ashamed. Reread NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 02:32 PM
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Lift and focus on the present when you aren't seeing your counselor. You have to control your thoughts. Become stoic. Don't stop lifting. Lifting heavy gives you moments of present thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 12:18 PM
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Run a map for yourself. Become a man she wants to submit to and she either does or she doesn't. You are in the anger phase and she is not your mommy and won't hug you when your angry. STFU and get busy. Lift, diet, hobby, parent, and initiate sex. Eventually, the anger will subside.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 12:15 PM
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It's not a coincidence that the first advice men are given is: lift. Heavy lifting raises testosterone. Lift, eat right, sleep well, fuck frequently, and knock off the faggot, lazy shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 03:14 PM
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Do you want to be married, or not? Your early STFU and move towards a power shift may be removing the only reason she hung around: the beta provisioning. Or, she may think you are on your way out and she is preparing. Regardless, I would seek counsel and prepare for divorce.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 03:10 PM
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Eventually, you'll look forward to the silent treatment. Lift, sidebar, STFU.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 02:58 PM
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Presumably, you would have avoided the public disrespect by passing the comfort test. However, your responses in this thread suggest that your ego would have found some way to fuck it up anyway and that you are unwilling to change, so I guess you're stuck with the type of behavior patterns, and relationship, that leave you publicly disrespected. That seems about right for someone who has been here for 4 years and is still posting questions like this.
/r/askMRP30/04/17 09:25 PM
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She threw out a shitty comfort test about the neighbor and you saw it as a shit test. She needed to hear, "baby, keep my balls drained and my stomach full and you have nothing to worry about." Instead you upped the dread by talking about a threesome. She alluded to dreading you back, and you are butthurt. Comfort would have lead to sex with your wife, instead you went bar hopping alone. Only you can say whether you failed, it depends on what you want. I will also say you should drop Facebook.
/r/askMRP30/04/17 06:29 PM
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A year and a half ago, I was in your shoes, now the best sex with my wife happens for me during ovulation. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Own your shit and become the type of guy men want to be and women want to fuck. Until then, she'll be more likely to fuck you if you up the alpha around her ovulation. That means concern yourself less with her around that time. Otherwise known as give less fucks. Which, paradoxically, is the exact opposite of what you have been doing the last three mont…
/r/askMRP29/04/17 02:30 PM
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This is cringeworthy. You swallowed the pill to get a side bitch, or worse to branch swing. Assuming you did swallow the pill, which is questionable, then you did it as a giant covert contract. You do have oneitis for this side bitch. You have to knock it off. She is just another vagina. Stop trying to validate your ego through her. Even if you had her you'd still be a pussy faggot. Reread NMMNG and let it sink in. Introspect and root out the validation seeking. Stop making excuses and lift. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/17 11:01 AM
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You were butthurt and lost frame because the waiter called you boss and chief. You have little frame and jumped into your wife's by asking her if she was "Ok." You DEERed about him learning a lesson. And you DEERed about your penis, which says it all. At some point you'll realize the waiter's actions are a reflection of his relationship with himself and not of you, then him calling you boss may amuse you, or you more likely at that point, you will concern yourself with things that matter instead…
/r/askMRP29/04/17 10:37 AM
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I chuckled when reading how butthurt you were about him calling you boss and chief.
/r/askMRP29/04/17 10:29 AM
1

Heh.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/17 10:25 AM
9

Think of all the shit that matters you could have done with those hours you wasted on this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 08:35 PM
2

I've fantasied about it a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/17 06:35 PM
1

I don't believe in isms, I believe in me.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/17 11:42 AM
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Wife and I went to a charity auction and she wanted me to stand outside a portapotty to make sure nobody opened the door. I made my way in with her and snapped a couple of unrevealing pictures of her taking a piss. She yelled stop and I laughed uncontrollably out loud because it was the most fun I had had in a week. Her frame broke into mine and she started laughing. Everyone outside waiting heard it all. We got out and she gave embarrassed apologies to the people waiting. I high-fived a guy. On…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 06:10 PM
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Maybe you were upset and you are repressing the butthurt. Women can smell that shit. Maybe you weren't upset. I'll assume you weren't, the correct response to a soft no from your wife, is be more attractive. Once you've done that, if she keeps it up, withdraw your attention. If she still keeps it up, leave the house, leave your phone, be gone for two hours and when you get home immediately take a shower.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 01:46 PM
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It sounds like you were butthurt due to the rejection and your amused mastery was from a place of anger and sounded condescending and not playful cocky funny. We've all been there. This will blow over. Don't text her back. Be in a great mood and act like nothing happened. If she pouts, so be it, get busy. The only thing you can do to not reinforce sexual rejection is to be more attractive. That means, lift, be assertive, game, and seduce, etc. Even when you do all that, she still may not be DTF.…
/r/askMRP27/04/17 12:33 PM
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No, I don't do that. It's not dread if you use your mouth sounds to make it. It maybe banter. My wife is in a constant state of dread without me bantering about other women. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 12:20 PM
1

Autistic as fuck. There is no golden ratio. It depends on you, her, and dread. If you are like me, you have few fucks to give, and you have to dig deep for single fuck to give so you can kiss your wife on the forehead and slap her ass when she has a tear running down her check because she thinks there is something up between you and her much younger sister, for example. If you are an nice guy and you have caretaker tendency then you need to stop smoothing everything over, because your wife is us…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:53 AM
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You shit feeling exists before the porn and cheating. Porn and cheating are a result of the shit feeling. You telling her about the porn and cheating isn't going to help. It only hurts her. You need to fix the shit feeling. If you don't, blowing up your marriage will result in you maybe pulling a 20 something and then needing her to mommy you to make you feel better, because you still have the shit feeling. Read NMMNG and WISNIFG as soon as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 05:36 PM
5

Coming clean only benefits the cheater. If OP had any frame, he would have saved his wife the heartache and died with his secret.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 05:30 PM
2

This or don't respond at all. If she asks, say you haven't made the time to read it. Let her punch at nothing and wear herself out.
/r/askMRP26/04/17 11:43 AM
1

You just got here and are uninitiated. If you read the sidebar, especially NMMNG, you might find the pill. Whether you swallow or not is the question.
/r/askMRP26/04/17 11:18 AM
3

That kiss on the forehead is wifey's amused mastery of all the "changes" that have taken place over the last month. She can smell OP's classic covert contract: run MRP and wife will fuck me (or, in his case: wife will sit next to me at the ballgame). Hopefully, with time and lifting and sidebaring he'll develop some abundance mentality and have less fucks to give. Then, he'll see the email for what it is: a distraction from his mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 02:47 PM
1

No. Not normal for the internalizers. You have oneitis. You are the problem. Maintain frame. Don't argue with your wife to prove you are right. STFU. The only pattern is weak fucks like you show up thinking they aren't the problem. I know - I was one of them.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 05:56 AM
2

I can understand that. Apparently, she can not. You are the keeper of commitment. She is asking you for it. Based on the way you describe her, it sounds like you have some oneitis and you have a kid so that complicates things. You are going to have to make a decision between the least worst outcome: her running off and fucking, sucking, and shacking up with a beta who helps raise your kid, or you bearing the marriage yoke, running MRP, and trying to build a frame and a sex life after this overt …
/r/askMRP21/04/17 08:02 PM
3

What do you want?
/r/askMRP21/04/17 06:34 PM
7

This thread earns highest honors for the most impressive DEERing of the year. It's clear that you are the problem, my man. /u/thefamilyalpha nailed it
/r/askMRP21/04/17 03:21 PM
11

I occasionally fuck other women. If you have no kids, spin plates. Or, don't. Doesn't matter to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/17 03:14 PM
1

Of course.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 03:11 PM
2

"Why should I be?" This is spot on. The simple answers are always the best.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 02:04 PM
1

Of course, I wouldn't advise anyone to layer on a pretend affair.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 01:54 PM
7

Who said anything about pretending to have an affair? Can't you imagine any other way to handle an affair accusation? How about STFU, smirk, kiss on the forehead, slap on the ass? How about, "baby, you know as long as you keep my balls drained, you have nothing to worry about." How about, "how could I even think about an affair when you are always on my dick like a horny teenager." How about, "why should I be?" Hat tip /u/UEMcGill
/r/askMRP21/04/17 12:15 PM
15

If you aren't lifting and leading at home, you don't "get it." Your wife is postwall and is starting to think that you may realize your SMV exceeds hers even though you are too lazy to lift and don't lead. You missed a golden opportunity to handle your wife's shittest about the imaginary affair and get her hamster working for you and instead you quickly relieved the tension because you're such a nice guy who wouldn't want her to be jealous. You're on pace to continue once a week duty sex.
/r/askMRP21/04/17 10:52 AM
6

Instagram shows you profiles it predicts you'll be interested in based on what you've clicked on in the past.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/17 10:27 AM
2

Don't AA. Say, "I don't know go see a doctor." Or, "that sucks, see a doctor." Or, " have you asked your doctor?"
/r/askMRP19/04/17 01:33 AM
8

Assuming you have lifted, sidebarred, and can hold frame and as long as your not going to piss your wife off, go with the frame that you are a grown man who can go to a race. Deal with the the shit tests and comfort tests appropriately. Internalize that you are not responsible for your wife's emotions. Making her jealous is a good thing. Fuck her good, and go to the race.
/r/askMRP15/04/17 04:55 PM
5

I have this why bother attitude from time to time. Monogamy is monotonous.
/r/askMRP14/04/17 11:22 PM
2

Despite my comment above. I fully agree with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 11:01 PM
11

If you are outcome independent and have frame, you can text whatever you want. When my wife is out with her group of moms I frequently send her texts asking her what color of panties she is wearing or something like that to tease her. Once one of her friends saw a text and all her friends were asking if I was serious, and of course my wife loved that. Make sure it comes from a playful, non-needy place and make sure the text isn't a covert contract for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 09:11 PM
1

Presumably, you are paying for all these trips. Correct me if I'm wrong. If so, how do you avoid the betabux trap?
/r/TheRedPill14/04/17 08:11 AM
2

Start gaming other women, develop abundance mentality, and your insecurity about your wife's work trips will fade. Read the game books and put in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 12:29 PM
1

Cocky, funny sexual. Must be delivered with a mischievous grin. You have to have the frame to pull these off. The first couple of times she will shit test you for being gross. Just own it and STFU or AA about how you'll show her gross later that night. "You look tired of not having my dick in your mouth." "Anytime we talk about bags and your face the only thing I can think about is teabagging."
/r/askMRP12/04/17 10:41 AM
3

Your little interaction failed to demonstrate your value and failed to build comfort. She didn't meet you because it wasn't worth it in her mind. You need to ramble longer and go for the date before the number. Example: blah, blah, blah (find something you are passionate about talking to her about) blah, blah, then: "it sucks I have to get to my meeting, this conversation is interesting, what do you say we meet back up for coffee after your interview." Her: "yeah" You: "number"
/r/askMRP12/04/17 10:12 AM
1

That's about what I remember.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 10:04 AM
2

Congrats. Also, how do you download texts? I might take a hopeful look.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 11:19 AM
7

Lift consistently. It will relieve stress and simultaneously make you more attractive physically and hormonally, which will make her more likely to fuck you. Also, track her cycle and initiate every day after her period before she ovulates. If you are attractive at all she definitely wants to fuck during the week that week.
/r/askMRP10/04/17 09:05 AM
1

Of course, you don't have to take a verbal berating ever. Once you have enough OI and abundance, you'll say "be sweet, or out of the car" and then you won't have to bother with all the words you used this time.
/r/askMRP09/04/17 12:39 PM
3

Don't answer her texts. Or, better yet, leave the phone at home. If you make the mistake you did, call her on her tantrum when you get home. Use a bit of amused mastery and ask if she got her feelings hurt because you didn't dedicate your entire day to her. Hold frame. If she keeps acting out, you leave the house, and leave your phone. Come back two hours later, immediately take a shower and go about your day.
/r/askMRP09/04/17 12:30 PM
1

Unless he is referenced by name in a thread, you can't find them.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 08:58 PM
1

I guess mods can't pinpoint a deleted user's posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 08:16 PM
1

I want this for UltimateCad. I arrived here, read a few posts, and then he disappeared.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 08:14 PM
41

This is a solid, positive field report that shows examples of a man who has internalized enough of the sidebar to pass shit tests AND to lead a woman AND to get the sex he wants. You can't go from nice guy deadbedroom to that quickly. It takes time for your women's perception of you and her mental model of you to catch up to the improvements you've made. Slow and methodical is the way of MRP. Take it from a guy who Rambo'd himself and thanks to feedback was able to pull back and correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 06:07 PM
1

You are confused. We don't give a fuck what would make you feel better, neither does your wife. The only thing that matters is what you are. Consider it well enough and you'll realize what you say doesn't make you feel shit in the longterm, what you do means everything.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:10 PM
3

Once you picture your wife's silent treatment as her pouting like a little girl, which is effectively what it is, and not her disapproval, which is what she wants you to give a fuck about, then it will cease to bother you and you'll be free to continue to be cocky funny. She can come along and play if she wants, otherwise just ground her to the house and take your kid out for some fun.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 12:38 PM
1

I'm curious about a blowout. I'm always concerned if it happens in my city (pop. 750k) it will get back to wifey. I normally reserve my gaming for when I'm away for business.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:35 PM
11

Have you made a play for pre-wall plates without kids? When I'm 50 banging 40ish with 2 kids may sound fun, until then it doesn't. How are you meeting these plates online? What site. For the offline plates, I want to read a post on the pickup. Are you truly IDGAF at home to the point you are ready to burn it down? Or, are you sneaking around trying not to get caught? Have you been blown out on a pickup because you are married?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 01:53 PM
3

You have a textbook case of oneitis. Ghost her. Start lifting and diet and macros today. Read Rational Male the book. Then, read it again. You are the classic average frustrated chump who just got dumped by his oneitis. You made the mistake of entering into this long distance relationship in the first place. She got your commitment and you got to masterbate. Now she dumped you. Move on and never make the same mistake again. But all the good times, you say. Bullshit, that is the sunk cost fallacy…
/r/askMRP06/04/17 01:28 PM
1

You will never be able to always see her as you did before. However, there may be moments of gratitude/love in the future. If you don't have kids, this is a sign that you need to plate this one and start gaming other women.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:38 PM
3

I couldn't imagine wanting to take yearly holidays away from her! I can't imagine not wanting to take at least yearly holidays away from my wife, because I don't rely on her to validate me, I don't need her to be happy, and I am not insecure about what she might do when I am not around. If I had a strong suspicion my wife cucked me or tried to, I would next her and spin plates. You probably should do the same. Except, you have a lot of shit to get together before you will be able to pull that of…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:33 PM
3

You can gift to a trust. However, the gift is imputed to the beneficiary of the trust. Therefore, you could only gift $14,000 to one trust for nephew and it qualify for the annual exemption.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/17 12:46 AM
1

Congrats on the job.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:02 PM
6

It may be an indication that you are still butthurt, or it may be that your LTR is expecting you to be butthurt, due to your reaction in the past. Fake being cocky funny and fun, not aloof, leave and do your own thing alone, or even better, do both.
/r/askMRP02/04/17 04:00 PM
1

It would benefit all of us, your wife, kid, and mostly you if you were asking questions and, other than that, shutting the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/17 11:43 AM
3

He obviously had less fucks to give than you. Work on that and do what you want.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 01:55 PM
1

Exactly. Unfortunately, the Socratic method failed to lead him there.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/17 02:38 AM
1

Based on this comment I'm thinking you are sub 25 no kids. If so, as soon as you get divorced, things will work out.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 07:27 AM
2

Keep crossfitting or lifting and look into leangains for diet. Don't brag about, talk about, or in anyway indicated your are changing. Show her, don't tell her. Internalize that this is for yourself, and you won't need her to pat you on the back for how much you work out, how well you dress, how good you fuck her, etc.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:15 AM
1

I respect all the different gods people believed in. And, most of the people I know who believe in your god are very agreeable.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:47 AM
1

I feel us growing apart. Stop the roids. Problem solved. This is making me think I have high test.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:38 AM
1

This won't work. I'm addicted to my hobbies, just like I'm addicted to strange. BJJ include. One doesn't replace the other I have found that the itch can be scratched monthly. Get a traveling sales job. Alternatively, cutting calories and getting ripped to 7-8% also must have lowered my test enough to make it go away. It can back within days of going to maintenance calories. Lastly, I was on an SSRI for a while and that was like a neutering. I don't recommend, but the experience suggests to me t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:35 AM
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You are a passive aggressive pussy and you are not leading your wife. She probably sat in the front seat and gave the Uber driver a sloppy BJ on the way to the impound, purely due to you complete failure to lead in any capacity.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:25 AM
2

Nothing in your post suggests you are bragging. I'm expressing sympathy for you, not envy. That being said, ask nicely and pass the one pussy you get to fuck thank you notes if that works for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:16 AM
1

Yep. Couple that with all the sex shaming and welcome to Mr Nice Guy. Disregard the New Testament and you get closer. Disregard all fairytales and you are there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:09 AM
1

How do you explain submissive wives who don't believe in your god?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 02:06 AM
1

She's an excellent cook and a good fuck. Her actual response the last time I said that was a chuckle.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 02:02 AM
0

My wife asks why I am still married to her and I say "feed me and fuck me and you don't have to worry about it."
/r/askMRP23/03/17 12:07 PM
1

I second this.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 11:53 AM
0

Look, few here are giving credence to your need to eradicate the problem solver/helpless wife nice guy situation you created. You don't need to always solve her shit if it involves your kids. You shouldn't have immediately said you could handle it. That would be a step backwards, and if your wife is like mine, she'll have you watching your kids everytime she has a hair, nail, tanning, waxing, and whatever the fuck else they do appointment, if she smells that you always step up for your kids. Say…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 11:50 AM
1

If she believes she has her betabux bound by a marriage contract that she knows he won't breach for fear of going to hell, what is her incentive to improve? You will have to step up your game and run enough dread that your wife fears you will leave her unless she loses weight, wears make up, gets an boob job, etc. She may not respond, of course. You will increase your chances if she fears a divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 10:27 AM
4

So what you're trying to say is your wife fucks you because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. When she isn't attracted yo you enough to even give you that consideration, she lies and makes up an excuse about a headache, so she doesn't have to fuck you, because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. And, when she does fuck you, you make sure and thank her in writing. I don't know how long you've been here but you are entirely missing the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 10:21 AM
2

I want blow jobs and sandwiches too.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 04:24 PM
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You set a boundary - be ready on time or walk to the station. She crossed it. You told her she would have to live with the consequences. She got angry at you, so you changed your mind. You rewarded her anger and you reinforced to her that when she gets angry at you, you abandon your boundaries. Until you stop that, she is going to continue to be a harpy bitch, because that is how she gets her way. I know you are asking about AA and AM, but the shittest was her not being ready on time. When she g…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 01:18 AM
3

That's fine. Kick her out.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 01:49 AM
1

Add should to the list of pointless words. Words of judgement distract from action. Do or don't, and don't talk about it. Allow others into your life or don't and don't talk about it.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 02:07 AM
3

There is your answer. She was ovulating and you weren't fucking her. It had nothing to do with you being nice and everything to do with her not getting dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 11:02 PM
5

Do you form covert contract when you are nice to her? Does she perceive a covert contract when you are nice to her? Where is she on her cycle?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 01:25 PM
3

You got butthurt and did in fact fail a shit test. She just took mercy and told you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 01:36 AM
2

Perhaps. Either way, you have and continue to allow her outbursts and allow her in your life. She and all of her behavior is a reflection of you. If you want her to knock it off change yourself and/or change your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:30 PM
3

Don't be surprised when acting boring and unattractive (watching Netflix alone) leads her to view you as boring and unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 06:29 PM
3

And this is why she is flipping out regularly.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 06:19 PM
5

Oh, that makes sense. In that case, you definitely want to pick the foreign girl you like the best. Really, talk to her and relate to her on an emotional level. If she has any issue, be quick to solve her problem. If you have plans, but she wants to hang out, drop what you are doing to show her how important she is. If she likes something, take an interest in it until it becomes your taste and favorite hobby. Always, listen to what she says. For example, since she is so virginal and innocent, de…
/r/askMRP11/03/17 12:28 PM
3

Then delete your retarded post.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 12:09 PM
2

Initiate and fuck your wife everyday. If she won't fuck you, the problem is probably you. If you want variety despite fucking your wife daily, go on a trip and have a couple of ONSs. That will scratch the itch, if you can land ONSs. If you can't, the problem is you. If that doesn't work, try cutting weight and count your macros. After a few months you'll be thinking more about food than strange pussy. If you can't cut that far, the problem is you.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 03:35 AM
0

You are making an assumption he is paying them.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/17 02:13 AM
3

Of course you didn't, that's why i showed you. There's a lot of shit you won't see for a while. There will be a time when you wish your could unsee the shit you see. Welcome to the club my man.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 06:58 PM
3

It has nothing to do about earning the right to AA, your comment is such a poor attempt at AA, your are getting called out on it. Reread your comment; you ARE DEERing, explaining that you took a "risk", and used "slightly inconsistent terminology" to "help" others. You are trying to protect your ego through a faulty attempt at AA.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 06:44 PM
1

I'm confused as to when you sent the picture. I read it like you took it and sent it while she was sulking. It is borderline and certainly not your biggest issue. It appears to me to be an symptom of your underlying oneitis and fear of your wife's emotions. Like you were trying to make her laugh or gauge her mood when you know she's mad. Eventually, you'll have ZFTG about her tantrums. And won't be in any hurry to text her anything, especially when she adds so little value to your life.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:50 AM
1

You either did it to cheer her up, or piss her off. Either way, it's in her frame.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 02:23 AM
2

You sending funny pics is getting sucked in.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 01:12 AM
3

Meh, I know several 100 millionaires who live nothing like this. Most millionaires still give too many fucks.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/17 12:33 AM
3

Fame is all social proof. If you are famous and a guy women want to fuck, fame is a force multiplier. If you are famous and not a guy women want to fuck, you are still a guy women don't want to fuck. 100 times zero is still zero. Money isn't alpha in and of itself but it can act as a force multiplier on living an interesting life. And money brings about a certain amount of IDGAF. However, as you said money is not alpha. And once you are in a LTR, it doesn't get you anywhere, because women self i…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 06:15 PM
6

You are a retard faggot. You are acting like you caught your wife being railed by a dude with a monster cock while screaming out how he's so much more of a man than you. This is not traumatic. You have an issue with how you are allowing her escapades with a dildo to make you feel. You are jealous, and butthurt about your wife being sexual. You need to encourage her to be sexual, idiot. You have no frame and have internalized little. Work on outcome independence and abundance mentality.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 07:22 PM
4

I'm not sure why you got so butthurt about her masterbating. I'm sure you have 1000 times since you've been married, and you still love her. Of course she doesn't love you the way you love her, you know that. If you've done any reading. If you want to have more sex with her, you need to show her you aren't insecure about her being sexual alone. Instead, you get butthurt, leave the house, make up your mind you want a divorce, and if she catches a hint of it, slut shame will wash over her. She is …
/r/askMRP08/03/17 11:59 AM
3

Lame. Your proposed comment is autisticly lame. Much better if one of them post it as shitkicker said. You could pull this off if you have a work instagram have your assistant post in and say, OP enjoying being engaged in xyz organization.
/r/askMRP04/03/17 06:00 PM
2

Humor, ghosting, and eye rolling are non starters. Treat her like a bratty teenage daughter. If she raises her voice, stare her in the eye, don't let her interrupt you and tell her what you know is right. When she says, "I never do anything right," tell her to knock off the self pity and that the only way she ever will do anything right is to work on it and improve. When she breaks down bring her in for a hug, pat her on the ass and tell her you believe in her. Later, when you see her interactin…
/r/askMRP03/03/17 08:41 PM
1

I get the professor's point in theory. For OP this is a tough spot, because you don't want to inflame her emotions and start a blow out in front of the kids at bedtime.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 07:29 PM
7

Make her go hug him next time.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 07:24 PM
1

Next time say, "hey, babe, are you coachable?" Then, say "how would it make you feel as a child if your mom..."
/r/askMRP03/03/17 07:21 PM
3

Let me guess, you have kids or plan on it. This sounds like your hamster trying to convince you why you shouldn't be spinning plates. IDGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 01:31 PM
2

Internalize that she is responsible for her feelings. Disregard her moodiness unless she is disrespectful. Get out of her frame. Be cocky funny. Limit the dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 01:28 PM
7

Yes there is a different sidebar. No, it doesn't directly address your question. You should still read it. Your question is fine. Here is my take: Texting is for logistics. Don't respond to her texts. Be cocky funny when you see her after, pull her in for a hug and ass slap. Don't talk about it. If she wants to bring it to a head, listen and say "My girl isn't going to do X." Get busy.
/r/askMRP02/03/17 03:35 AM
3

This is your men's group.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 03:28 AM
2

Have you considered inviting her if she agrees to let you have plates? Do you think she could abide by the one penis policy? If not, move and downgrade to fuck buddy when she visits you. Make sure your internal game is sharp when you move, game in the day and night early and often. Join hobby groups early. Don't make the mistake of moving only to feel isolated and lonely and later calling her to tag along in a moment of weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 12:07 PM
3

Read the Rational Male, downgrade your GF to a fuck buddy when she travels to you only, lift, work on game, spin plates. Welcome, and be glad you found this before you married her or knocked her up.
/r/askMRP01/03/17 02:30 AM
1

The one example he guys is gaming a 6 (worse than his wife) who he hangs out with in his kids play group. I'm not convinced this guy is routinely approaching unknowns with higher SMV than his perceived SMV and his wife's SMV. The post reads like hamstering why what he has at home is good enough, so he is taking himself off the market.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 07:17 PM
1

You don't have strange pussy being thrown into your lap and this post looks like your hamster finding reasons why you should just stay in your comfort zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 07:00 PM
2

If one is running catch and release in an effort to validate ego, of course there is a problem. However, the problem isn't catch and release, as your post suggests, the problem is validation seeking. There is a point when you become attractive, friendly, and outgoing enough that simply understanding game leads to catching and release. There is no intent on your part, it just happens. Like when you go out to each lunch alone, strike up a conversation with the waitress, because you don't want to s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 06:52 PM
2

When do you eat? When do you workout? Do you do cardio? If you want to gain weight you need to eat more. Do no cardio. Lift heavy. You should move from SL to an intermediate program. I prefer RPT. Start drinking Casin protein before bed. Eat before you lift and after.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 09:03 PM
13

You are on the right track and you'll get there. A few thoughts: OI. Flirting is flirting, not a contract to fuck. If you flirt and expect "shit is going down later" you are not outcome independent. If she senses you expect shit to go down, she doesn't have to chase. If you appear needy, because you are excited "shit is going down" it will turn your wife off. Acta non verba. Talk less and physically initiate more. You are setting up overt contacts verbally. Your wife is agreeing, then resisting.…
/r/askMRP25/02/17 08:56 PM
2

More likely was fucking the coworker when you were visiting your grandma.
/r/askMRP25/02/17 08:26 PM
3

Can confirm he is right.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 06:44 PM
2

Game everyone including staff, all HBs, any your wife.
/r/askMRP19/02/17 01:24 AM
2

If it wasn't hard it wouldn't be worth doing. You are doing more good than bad just keep going.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 02:20 PM
3

None of this has to do with how you are treating her. It is all about you. You have been at this for two weeks. You've read a few books and read some shit on the internet. You've been to the gym a handful of times. You haven't changed. Why is she noticing anything?
/r/askMRP17/02/17 12:46 PM
2

You aren't fucking up too much. Lift and diet like your life depends on it. Look into leangains and intermittent fasting. Count your macros, find a system you will adhere to for the next week, month, year, five years and beyond. If she is noticing your "attitude" this often and this early, your STFU is rambo. That is better than DEERing, definitely, but you need to read WISNIFG and learn to converse assertively and fog. Until then, be fun and flirty when she's not bitching to balance out the ram…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 12:08 PM
14

If beta means spinning plates, not wifing your mom and popping out you as a puppy, then beta sounds great.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/17 04:29 AM
0

The New Testament isn't honest about Jesus' N count, why should you be with your wife?
/r/askMRP16/02/17 07:00 PM
1

I have dealt with similar symptoms throughout adulthood. I have been as steady as I have ever been for the last two years. Do you lift? You need to lift heavy to exertion 3-4 days a week. It will help you sleep. Are you on prescription psych medication? You need to ween yourself off slowly. It will fuck up your hormones. Do you count your macros? You need to eat nutritious whole food. Knock off all processed foods and sugar. Do you sleep 7-9 hours everyday? See lifting, it helps. Do you drink al…
/r/askMRP16/02/17 02:49 PM
3

Like.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 02:31 PM
5

What about those chokers all the HBs are wearing nowadays?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 02:18 AM
1

Figuring out her thinking is part of your problem. When I started sufficiently not giving a fuck in her eyes, and when passive dread happened routinely because of baseline game, my wife started reacting predictably.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 02:01 AM
2

If you've been lifting for years and you aren't massive, or ripped, or both, you have fuckarounditis.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 02:19 PM
3

Glad to hear your kid is doing well. Pediatric ICU is rough.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 02:11 PM
4

Watch out for your glaring covert contract. Go on your trip because you want to, regardless of her, game everyone, including your wife, and there is a chance you get her best. If you don't, you will have had fun anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 01:21 PM
1

Of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 12:52 PM
7

Sidebar. Nofap.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 06:15 AM
1

You are angry. You have a right to feel angry. Much of that anger should be directed at yourself, some at society, some at your family, some at your wife. All of that anger, you need to acknowledge and find a way to move past it. Then, she'll say something, or do something, or you'll hear how your single buddy railed an HB, or something else will trigger it and it will come back. You have to acknowledge it and find a way to move past it. Lift, have a mission, divorce, whatever. Time is your most…
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:47 PM
5

Do yourself a favor OP and read this link.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:40 PM
4

If that's not what you want, when she did it, you should have told her that your girlfriend wouldn't have lunch with dudes. Establish the boundary and enforce it. Instead you payed her back by going to lunch with the other girl she is clearly insecure about. You're being passive aggressive. Now that you are here. Salvage it. Tell her mistakes were made and you agree neither of you should be lunching with the opposite sex and move on. Of course, I think you should downgrade her and aggressively p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:31 PM
2

Next, but if you decide your oneitis is worth it: Eventually all the silent treatment she is acting out and all the STFU you are implementing is going to explode into a conversation. Make that happen on your terms. Pressure flip the whole thing to the fact that she is acting like an insane, jealous psycho. Be aware that you are establishing that going to lunch with the opposite sex is fair game for both of you, because you don't have the frame/SMV/power to pull off the one penis policy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:05 PM
3

I assume you lift 5 days a week. On average, how long are you at the gym?
/r/TheRedPill10/02/17 11:53 AM
3

Therapists are hammers and mental illness is to them a nail. They will find it. A diagnosis will become a point of self identity for your daughter. Medication will be prescribed and your daughter will be in the system.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 08:20 PM
1

Look powerful. However, be aware of social norms and dress appropriately. If you can pull it off for the occasion, wear a suit. If not, wear a suit coat. Maintain confident posture. Always maintain eye contact until the other person looks away.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 04:14 PM
3

Try all less evasive means before you enter into counseling and medication. Read a book on spirited children and empathize with your daughter. Figure out what is making her tick. Read her How to Win Friends and Influence People. Teach her the game. Find what motivates her, and relate to her how she needs friends and connections to get that. Show her how to get friends and connections. Also, look at yourself and your wife for clues on who she is modeling and where she picked up these behaviors.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 04:03 PM
1

Why do you want this woman in your life all of the time? Granted, you have kids together, so there will always be that, but you don't have to live with her, you don't have to be married to her. She is trickle truthing you. It was coke and fucking strange cock in the most depraved ways.You are doing your children no favors by tolerating this bullshit. She is not acting like a mother or a wife. Who the fuck are these "friends" she hanging out with on girls trips? I could go on and on. See a lawyer…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 03:58 PM
6

So, I have taken sex with wife from always missionary and always vanilla, to very rough, hair pulling, choking, face fucking, etc. When I started MRP, my wife would literally tell me to say please if I made a request in bed. Talk about killing the mood. I started by teasing her and calling her the "politeness princess" and worked up over time to more dominant sex. There has been plenty of sulking along the way as my wife has dealt wife feeling objectified after she had massive organisms, I assum…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 12:45 PM
9

Congrats, you got close to your wife's best for once. You are making her chase and AM'ing her routine comfort checks. The key is to be lighthearted and fun with the AM. My wife, "I love you." Me, "I'm going to show you how much I love you tonight." My wife, "I love you." Me, "Lets go to the car and I'll show you how much I love you right now." My wife, "I love you." Me, "Do you remember how hard I loved you last night when I had a fistful of your hair and you were moaning for more?" She was givi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 12:24 PM
3

This is not an emergency.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:22 PM
2

This time internalize the material. You went straight to oneitis. You put her pussy on a pedestal. You failed to escalate. You chased. Listen to your roommate. Lift, read, and bang other bitches. There are billions of women out there and all vaginas basically feel the same. You dodged a bullet by not ending up in an LTR or worse marrying your oneitis.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/17 11:46 AM
23

Yes, if she has ranch dressing for you, you should definitely marry her, don't worry about a prenup, and have a kid with her, even though you've both been divorced, and she is fugly, fucked her neighbor, and lied about it, because you have muscles so what could go wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:20 AM
1

If you are losing weight, you are cutting. Good stuff. Just keep going. If you want to add more, do so. Whatever you do, make sure it is something you can and will do for years. Adherence is the most important component of all exercise and nutrition plans.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 03:12 AM
3

You will look much better than you do now in a year. You will look better still a year after that. Just keep going. You need to decide if you want to bulk or cut. Judging from you height, weight, and lifts you could use a cut. Look into lean gains and dial in your macros. That will keep you busy. No matter what just keep going.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 11:40 PM
1

If you're talking about me, I like women a lot when they are submissive and eager to please, and that includes my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:21 PM
1

Of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 06:51 PM
14

How hard is it for his wife to ask like an adult and not try to shame him?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 06:20 PM
2

You are your own judge. Nice display of STFU and OI. The next step is a type of amused mastery, "sweetheart, if you ask me like a big girl you might find out I like to spend time with you as much as I like to read"
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 06:18 PM
2

What do you ultimately want? I would be too busy fucking 24 year olds to have time to go on this trip. I would also be divorced by now.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 03:39 PM
1

Agreed, he has good reason not to file bankruptcy. I'm still not convinced he can't divorce without filing bankruptcy.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 11:31 PM
3

I wouldn't let myself be in your position. If I were, I would make my decision irrespective of the sunk cost fallacy. You've made your decision, you're not filing for divorce or bankruptcy. Now start changing yourself into the type of man this shit wouldn't happen to, a man in control of of his life.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 06:37 PM
2

Fuck you for letting yourself get here. I'll give you a hint on why this is happening to you: you live with a victim mindset. Everything happens to you, you think. You can't control anything and you are not responsible for that which impacts your life, you think. Knock that thought process off. It all starts and stops with you. You hate your wife and it causes you pain. Either get her out of your life, or stop hating her. Both will work, it is your choice. But, I can't get her out of my life bec…
/r/askMRP04/02/17 02:29 PM
11

It sounds like you have been good for nothing. I stayed with my in-laws for a night once. There was a curtain rod in a box that had been there for year. My FIL was not handy and had neglected to hire someone to hang it. I found a Phillips screwdriver and hung it by hand. It took two hours because I didn't have a power drill. It was worth it because I was busy and didn't have to be entertained by my in-laws. Get busy while you are in their house and they won't nag you. The scene at the lunch tabl…
/r/askMRP03/02/17 02:45 AM
5

Get her what you want to give her with no covert contracts. Don't give her skittles because you read that is the alpha thing to do and disregarded that the example given wasn't even an LTR.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 02:00 PM
1

When I started back at the gym I had to fight through fear and shame. As a way to overcome from within myself I would think through what would happen if I had a heart attack right there by the squat rack and died. A few people involved would be impacted for a few days, they would go home and tell their wives and husbands, and then they would keep living their lives and forget within days. Other people would be impacted for a few minutes and wouldn't even remember to tell the story at work. Most …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 12:14 PM
0

There was some discussion about this when I first started about 1.5 years ago. I recall the sentiment being that it is fine, not necessarily Alpha or Beta. I have never tried it. I have had a lot of success leaving the house and coming back two hours later and immediately taking a shower.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:13 PM
5

Go fuck someone else. Ideally, you game that girl into bed, but if not, hire an escort. As for your wife, get over it, she isn't yours, it's just your turn.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 07:08 PM
-1

Of course you do.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 08:26 PM
4

You need to internalize NMMNG and WISNIFG. You are your own judge. If you want to watch porn, do so. Don't lie to cover your shame, do away with the shame.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 05:52 PM
0

Read my comment closely: "if he is going to stay." He's already made up his mind that he is. I'll add that he should fuck her harder and better and also start gaming and secure a side piece and fuck her harder too.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 01:44 PM
0

Maybe you got a lot better and she is having a minifreakout because she sees your SMV outpacing hers and she is securing a branch. OR Do you think the ex fucked her harder and better than you? Either way, if your are going to stay, you need to start fucking her more, harder, and better.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 05:59 AM
3

The next time she makes you hold her purse, steal some money, and a piece of candy too, just don't get caught or she will take some of your privileges away and make you go to bed early.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 02:48 PM
1

If you can trust yourself, fuck the shit out of her until she leaves, and start running catch and release, or catch and nail, if you have logistics. When she leaves, let her go and start plating.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 01:25 AM
7

You need to raise your SMV. Also, take your wife through the steps of escalation. You can't force a cat to set you your lap, you have to dangle a string in front of it. Kino earlier in the day. And lead up to sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 08:23 PM
1

Are you on TRT?
/r/askMRP26/01/17 09:45 PM
1

Well, good job so far. Look into intermittent fasting. I would recommend an 8 hour eating window at night, which means you will have plenty of calories to make it through the night.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 09:44 PM
2

Have you tried intermittent fasting? At 5'11 250 you are carrying 65-55lbs of fat before you are 6-7% bodyfat, if you have a medium/large skeletal frame. That is a lot of fat, and you are correct it will fuck up your hormones. Look into www.leangains.com.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 06:22 PM
5

Look into leangains. Start counting your macros. You'll have to give up alcohol most of the time to meet them.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 04:33 AM
3

This was a bad time to be sarcastic. You were butthurt, and if not, that's all she saw. Take it from me, I've been in your spot and turned down starfish. I've been balls deep after a two day drought and pulled out denying starfish. The only way to do it is cocky funny, reassure her, and say it just wasn't doing it for you. When she asks further, say I don't know I'm just not feeling it. Let her hamster work to determine how to get you to feel it. In your case, she says "what did I do?" You smirk…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/17 10:04 PM
2

Agreed.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 03:19 PM
4

I have in fact slayed much younger pussy. My wife knows I'm there. I'm saying I would not care if she fucked another guy, I would lock her out and move on. But, still have an issue with what other people would think in that scenario.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 03:04 PM
2

I think I am at a place where I would not be jealous if my wife fell on a dick that wasn't mine. But, I do not want to be a cuck/chump. I supposed I shouldn't give a fuck about what other people think, but I haven't got to a place where my pride/ego could live with everyone knowing she fucked around.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 02:32 PM
1

I'm just glad you hadn't already ordered them. You are a fucking nice guy.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 12:47 AM
2

This.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 12:46 AM
8

Don't talk about fight club, until he stands on the porch and only you decide if he's stood long enough. Then, lift, sidebar, move on.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:09 AM
3

A tab on verba. Be busy on sex day a few times on a row. And initiate other days. Don't say anything about anything.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 08:45 PM
2

Just say, "that sucks" and move on.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 08:40 PM
2

Tell him if the opportunity ever arises, you'd like to have a threesome with him and her.
/r/askMRP14/01/17 04:04 PM
7

You are needy. You need to improve to the point where you internalize that you are the prize. When you get to the point where you know you would be able to meet all of your needs without her (sex would be taken care of by ready and eager plates) then you'll stop giving a fuck what she thinks. At that point your wife will be wanting to go on dates. And if she doesn't, you'll just shrug and hang with your bros, or solo number close at a bar, or whatever the fuck you want to do. Lift, read, STFU, m…
/r/askMRP13/01/17 12:39 PM
3

Welcome bro. You are correct you need to hit the gym asap. Don't fuck around like you always have. http://www.leangains.com/2011/09/fuckarounditis.html?m=1
/r/askMRP13/01/17 11:23 AM
10

Your wife is deriving power form controlling the pussy. She is the gatekeeper of sex and her betabux is wiling to throttle his sex drive, stand around with his dick in his hand, and look upon the sexy workout pants pedestal he put her on, until she decides to come down and dribble just enough to keep him around. How do you reframe this? First, take an honest appraisal of your physical SMV. Make sure you are at a low enough body fat percentage. You need to be below 12%-15% to get the maximum amou…
/r/askMRP11/01/17 09:19 AM
1

Work late, get home and immediately shower. However, I don't think passive dread alone will solve your issue.
/r/askMRP11/01/17 08:10 AM
1

Be attractive, don't be unattractive. That includes showering after gym, before you initiate. Husbands want to fuck their wives like pornstars, and guess what, pornstars are all showered up before they shoot a scene.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 06:26 PM
4

You need to be hammering strange pussy brother. The quickest way to get your wife's pussy of the Pedestal is to put your dick in many more and varied.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:38 PM
3

"You have sexy tits and I want to fuck them" is dirty talk, not flirting. Try some innuendo next time, bro. You went from zero to nasty in one statement. You need to calibrate your autistic idea of flirting to your wife's idea of flirting. But wait, there's more: Did you shower after the gym? Are you tracking her cycle? What is your body fat percentage? She's just not attracted to you. STFU, lift, and read.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:31 PM
1

How does is wife trying to passively dread him indicate she has him by the balls? If he handles this shit well, this can be a good sign. Of course, based on his post, he's probably not handling it well.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 06:35 PM
5

You say, "of course I'm talking to you" "of course I love you" the go back to STFU. STFU doesn't mean go mute. Read the recent post on the matter by BPP.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 02:57 PM
3

Ask for tit pics.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 02:53 PM
2

Good go. Actions not words. Keep up the hard work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 05:03 AM
3

I haven't read the comments but I'm sure someone has said this. Your doggystyle text was fine, but your wife felt pressured into sex when she wasn't attracted to you. Here are a couple reasons she wasn't attracted to you: you smelled like beer and you were lazing around on the couch.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 09:51 PM
3

The SSRI killed his libido and chilled him out.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 02:49 PM
1

We can agree that being angry and being an asshole isn't the way to go. We can agree that one shouldn't respond to a nonshitest like a shitest. Your claim that men should comply with their wife's requests while in their wife's frame, I can't agree with.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 01:09 PM
1

Wouldn't you agree you have to have your shit together and be a quality man for the alternative to work as well?
/r/askMRP05/01/17 11:54 AM
2

Wish it worked like that for me. My wife drys up when I fetch for her. Although, we can agree there's no point in getting angry. It's just a shittesting. They know what they do. And, there is a time and place for everything. If my wife was trapped under something heavy, I'd lift it for her, if she asked in a pleasant, feminine manner. Lol.
/r/askMRP04/01/17 05:51 PM
5

If OP is like most here, he is doing her bidding and never asking her for anything in return. Unless, he hasn't figured out that asking for sex is the wrong way to go about it, that is. Being a reasonable human in the face of female psychology leads to men being betafied and owned by women.
/r/askMRP04/01/17 04:59 PM
7

These are compliance tests. Slowly start denying them. Here are a few ways to do so: STFU, completely ignore, and leave the room. Grab the water sit it down 10 feet from her and laugh at her like you would a little sister. Grab the water, walk to her, get down on one knee and present it to her while saying, "her royal highness' water". Look her sternly in the eye and say, "babe, I'm your lover, not your butler." I had to use all of the above at least once and STFU-ignore a few times, and the com…
/r/askMRP04/01/17 04:54 PM
1

My one rep max on flat bench is estimated at 260. I rep 232.5 for 5. When I was bulking at approximately 200 additional calories per day, I was able to increase 5lbs a month for 5 months. When I cut the calories the strength gains stopped. Nothing else changed. I've been doing weighted dips with 60 pounds attached by 5. I don't have access to rings, but I wish I did. They sound fun. I have been able to increase weight attached. I used to do a ton of push-ups and never gained mass. I haven't done…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 02:41 PM
1

My wife used to do the "say please" shit. I would tease her about being the politeness princess and go over the top. Basically, amused mastery, like I was talking to a 4 year old girl wearing a princess dress telling be to say please for the imaginary tea she was bringing me. Eventually, she knocked that shit off.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 04:25 PM
2

Goal: To develop into the best version of my self and to live the best life I can live. The Best Version of Myself: Business - Current grade B. I run my own small company and have a separate partnership. I took my foot off the gas in 2016 and growth slowed. Action: I will, set goals, resume tracking key metrics, and measure, because I have found what you measure improves. Social Skills and Inner Game - Current grade B. I can be too serious, have bouts of approach anxiety, and have trouble with c…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 04:14 PM
5

The Sex God Method. It is an eBook MRP recommended. What I found is as my SMV went up and my wife's attraction for me grew, she was more willing to try knew things and became much more submissive in bed. I needed a roadmap on how to capitalize on that and SGM was good for that. Once I started having rougher sex with her I started craving sex with her more.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 02:06 PM
6

Lift. Lose body fat. Read SGM, and MAP your sex life.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 11:59 AM
1

Sometimes. No.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 10:38 PM
2

It is a false dichotomy. You stay in the house, the kids stay in the house. She can leave if she wants to. Get a nanny. You'll need one anyway if this ends in divorce. On that point, start interviewing lawyers. STFU. Lift. Sidebar.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 10:12 PM
1

My beta bros love them, so I end up there from time to time. I never buy lap dances. When I stay sober, I've found it surprisingly easy to number close, even at clubs that discourage the help from crossing the line. It has led to some interesting text threads. I flaked on one meet up and I left it at that. Never stick your dick in crazy.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 10:06 PM
2

Once you are willing to look at her behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of her relationship with herself rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over time, cease to react at all.
/r/askMRP26/12/16 08:37 PM
4

STFU, read sidebar, lift.
/r/askMRP26/12/16 06:57 PM
1

It's a joke. OP is strong and thick-skinned.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 05:39 PM
3

Let me be clear: telling your wife unequivocally that if she cheats, you will divorce her without a second thought is great. I'm all for overtly communicating that boundary or standard as you call it. However, expecting your wife to tell you if she cheats, because you told her that you expect her to, and that you will do the same for her, is ludicrous. If she is cheating, that statement is just going to lead her to better OPSEC. Maybe she'll cool it for a while, but she'll be right back at it in…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 04:43 PM
0

Of course, cultivate IDGAF, game other women, and don't expect a negotiated agreement with your wife for her to tell you before she cheats to actually work in the vast majority of cases with the vast majority of women. OP would be better off working on abundance mentality to the point where half the time he is hopeful she will cheat so he can walk and dive into the abundance of young, eager pussy waiting to be spun as a plate.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 03:16 PM
1

You guys should have seen me in real life: threw my self on the floor, legs kicking, red-faced with tears as I wrote that comment.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 01:18 PM
3

Work on yourself and get a keylogger on her phone.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 12:32 PM
5

And she still isn't going to tell you when she falls on Chad's dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 12:25 PM
5

You appear to be in fact weak and sensitive.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 12:24 PM
1

What is the problem here? With respect to your analogy, we aren't talking about your wife constantly thinking you are going to divorce her are we? I thought we were talking about her suggesting you could/are having an affair. The two aren't the same. My wife doesn't think I am going to divorce her because I tell her that if she feeds me and fucks me she can hang around. She does/has mentioned me having a girlfriend regularly. I always AA and fuck her brains out. It seems to do the trick. I don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 12:22 PM
2

You think I'm screaming like a 4 year old, why is that? If this guy was consciously dreading his wife, that would be one thing. Instead he is drawing up a boundary like Rambo. I told him something similar two weeks ago. OP is going to be fine and he going get MRP in the long run. But, he'll look back at this post in a year and cringe.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 12:03 PM
1

That's good agree and amplify.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 11:32 AM
35

You decided to draw a line at telling your wife you are taking a call with your brother? What's the fucking point. You created this entire shitstorm for no reason. How about next time you say, "babe, my bro needs me and I need to take this call in private." Slap the ass, kiss on the cheek, take your call, come home and rough fuck her in three positions, because you are the go to guy in the family. Instead, you created a ridiculous boundary based on an autistic understanding of Alpha. You evaded …
/r/askMRP22/12/16 07:40 PM
1

Never admit anything. If you must, say "mistakes were made."
/r/askMRP22/12/16 03:14 PM
1

Cardio can contribute to muscle loss during a cut. If you are just walking, it won't be an issue.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 01:13 PM
1

Losing 2lbs a week is the max recommended. If you lose more, you'll lose muscle and your hormone balance will be compromised. When you start bulking, your body will be prone to store fat. So, you are at the weight loss limit already. However, as you get closer to 10% bf and especially if you go to 6% it will be increasingly difficult to lose 2lbs a week. You may want to drop the cardio, lower the calories, and increase your lifting. That will give you the best chance for lean gains.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 06:24 PM
3

Dude, if you haven't read NMMNG, you have had MRP fuckarounditis for the last 3 months. Get the fuck off the subs, go monk mode, and read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP, Way of the Superior Man. Devour those books. Then, go back and read them all again taking notes. You have no frame because you have no foundation in place. Those books are your foundation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 04:20 PM
9

I second this. Further, as I said in another comment, nofap has left me with much more drive to initiate game and escalate sex. When I was pornfapping, subconsciously I knew I was going to get my rocks off anyway, so why bother with game and LMR and anti-slut defense.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 12:01 PM
2

Tomassi is not advocating the use of pornography. That being said porn isn't a worldwide problem and it isn't bad in general. However, when I stopped porn fapping, I started having a lot more sex. I had the drive to initiate and escalate, where before, why bother. Rub one out if you want, but don't porn fap just because women tell you not to.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 11:57 AM
3

STFU and don't respond via text.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 07:55 PM
2

That covert contract is the root of your issues. You think you deserve your wife's submission
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:30 PM
6

Read WISNIFG. The beginning tells you about your assertive rights. Internalize those. They are the foundation of STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 01:34 PM
22

Lol. The only thing you can change is yourself. How can you be lean now? You can't, it takes time to dial in macros. How can you be strong now? You can't it takes years to build muscle. How can you be charming now? You can't it takes a while to internalize and practice game. The only thing you can do quick is get a haircut and learn to STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 12:51 PM
2

Lead better. Don't reward her for the anxiety or bitching. "Babe, I got this." That is all.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 12:02 PM
3

He's also fucking up his kids by bringing them into the middle of this shit.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 11:59 AM
4

"I know you do. lol" "Do you now?" "lol" "Babe!!!!" "I'll show you how much I love you later tonight. Make sure you're wearing sexy underwear for me."
/r/askMRP16/12/16 11:54 AM
2

Your wife set you up. She only heard the early time in your estimate and when you weren't home she suddenly had someplace to be... Never tell them what time you'll be home. Just say, "later."
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:52 AM
1

Hopefully by now you realize that none of this has anything to do with her. You lift for you. You lose weight and get fit and gain confidence because you lift. You learn social dynamics for you. You crush shit test because you learn social dynamics. You learn game for you. You chat up everyone and some HBs show availability, because you know game. You learn about power for you. You crush it at work and get promoted, because you understand power. Your wife eventually sees you as a different perso…
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:39 AM
2

Right. The journey is your goal, not the end result. Once you internalize that, you will realize that since the journey is your goal, if you take a shortcut, you are denying yourself part of the goal you are striving to attain.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:23 AM
2

You spent a lot of this post trying to convince us your not in the anger phase and never butthurt, because you used to be Alpha, but a lot of this post sounds like a guy in the anger phase who gets butthurt when confronting basic shit tests. We all have the capacity to be both Alpha and Beta to a degree. Just as we all have the genetics to be both strong and fat. Even if we accept that you used to be Alpha, you said yourself that for years you were Beta. So here you are acting like a fat man who…
/r/askMRP15/12/16 05:59 PM
5

Where's the nasty stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 02:47 PM
4

This.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 03:57 PM
1

Of course. A natural Alpha is one who is predisposed to like more of those behaviors that are perceived as Alpha, not for the sake of others but simply because that is what they like. Some guys have to fake it until they make it. Some guys decide they don't care and just want to be themselves. You do you. Just don't argue that playing video games is as Alpha this or that as long as you want to play video games. Generally, it's just not.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 01:11 PM
3

Keep developing yourself and spin plates until you are 35-40.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 11:37 AM
1

I thought we were talking about wrenching on a car or motorcycle, or woodworking, vs video games.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 01:49 AM
3

I'm not saying you should care what your woman feels. That doesn't change the fact that some hobbies are more Alpha than others.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 12:52 AM
2

Ok. If you don't want to give her massage, don't. That's the point. You're sarcastic massage is at best passive aggressive. Same with being too busy to talk, if you can't talk, don't. Your two second massage is at best passive aggressive.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 07:36 PM
1

Yep, he needs abundance mentality.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 07:02 PM
3

I see this as a basic compliance/shit test. You want sex, she has the vagina, so she is creating hoops for you to jump through. It's choreplay. You are the prize. She needs to be massaging you so you don't run off and empty your balls in all the young available pussy that abounds. So she throws out an I need a massage, and your first response is good, "I'll pound you out," then she doubles down and says a real massage, and you do what? Give her a shitty massage. You comply and get no sex. Shit t…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:59 PM
1

All things in moderation.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:14 PM
3

Your theory is essentially just be yourself when it comes to hobbies. "Just be yourself" led half the guys here into bullshit marriages. That being said, when acted on in moderation, beta traits aren't all bad. Your woman is going to be more comfortable with you home on the couch playing video games, than she would if you were at the local rock climbing gym, or if you are more of a low risk guy doing yoga with a bunch of fit women. This discussion took place in my head when I was 16. I had been …
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:12 PM
1

And the danger is what gives women feelz, which is why it is a more of an alpha activity, than thumb fucking a controller on your couch.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:06 PM
6

Because at the end of the day there is something tangible for you and others to appreciate. Just spin it the other way. Does it make you hard when your wife thumb fucks her phone to earn candy whatever the fuck she earns playing her time waster? No. She'd do more to attract you by baking a cake, decorating the house, or working on her tan.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 06:03 PM
1

Yes, he has fuckarounditis and a any program and tracking his lifts would do him good. OP that is the next step you need to take in fitness.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 12:43 PM
1

As I said in one of my previous comments, your response was fine. Keep at it, your moving in the right direction.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 12:38 PM
12

So you only fuck twice a week?
/r/TheRedPill12/12/16 11:44 PM
3

If done right MRP leads the man to get better and better without regard to the marriage. Deciding between marriage and spinning plates isn't an up or down, right or wrong decision. Yes, being a better man, and dread, would keep wife from throwing things at OP's head.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 11:29 PM
5

You're right darling, which is why I would have walked out, railed a plate, blown my load on her face, and thought to myself how much better that was than having a disrespectful wife throw shit at my head. You'll say be an oak, be stoic, don't be butthurt, but here is the thing, there is a whole wide world or 24-26 year old pussy waiting to be drilled, and I'm not going to waste my time sitting around being stoic and non butthurt while a woman, any woman, throws shit at my head. All this being s…
/r/askMRP12/12/16 07:17 PM
2

Are you suggesting it's beta to establish a boundary at shit being thrown at your head?
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:24 PM
3

TRP would indicate walk out, call other plates and downgrade bitch who throws shit at head to lowest level fuck buddy, if you have time and only until she shows signs of the wall, then why bother. MRP on the other hand would indicate OP responded well. That's why MRP is hard mode.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:18 PM
3

If you fucked her good and dominant, you did fine. You have kids, so you have reasons to let this woman hang around. MRP is hard mode.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 05:22 PM
9

This. No PIV, blow it on her face and say, "at least it wasn't a shampoo bottle."
/r/askMRP12/12/16 04:38 PM
10

Stop being afraid of her emotions.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 10:32 PM
19

High five the guy and go spin plates. She wasn't yours it was your turn and it turns out you where sharing.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/16 04:42 PM
2

First define your goal. Do you want to get leaner, or build more muscle. Based on your lifts, I would suggest building more muscle. If that is what you want to do here are some thoughts for the upcoming year. You aren't lifting heavy enough. I know this because you are lifting 6 days a week. If you were lifting heavy, you would either have to be overtraining or on steroids, if you were on steroids, you would have gained more weight. Similarly, you are lifting too frequently. Unless you are on st…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 09:49 PM
11

You think she looks great, but don't want to say what you think, because you are afraid it will give her too much power (you are afraid it will make you beta). You are in her frame. If she looks great and feminine give her props. Tell her that she looks so good you've got to fuck her right then and there. Recognize her attempts to look feminine for you. Make her blush.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 01:13 PM
2

Not you again. Lol. It appears you texted less, perhaps you've made progress. Here are two options: Become the alpha of your wife's family, which means you go and game the party, bring the best food, the best gifts, game all the women, make your MIL blush, take all the guys to the back for a shot of single malt you bring, tell stories and high five. This is what I'd do, but I never would have texted my wife the original boundary, and I have long established this frame. Enforce your boundary. Wit…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 06:51 PM
2

I'm sure it's a shit storm and I give it up to you for holding frame this far.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 06:18 PM
2

I'm sure you're in the anger phase. That is unrelated. The anger phase doesn't necessarily generate covert contracts. That's on you. The problem you have here is you are trying to change your wife (getting her to suck your dick) and you can only change you.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:27 PM
1

Realize that you could die of a heart attack at any time. Everyone around you would be shocked, then they would go about their day, eat dinner and go to bed. Your family would be sad, then they would go about their week, their month, their year, eating and sleeping. "I'm not shit and that's ok." That is your mantra. After you realize that, realize you are awesome and everyone around you is awesome. Your new mantra will then be: "I'm awesome and everyone around is awesome." Find a reason to like …
/r/askTRP09/12/16 12:36 PM
2

Fuck her good.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 12:31 PM
7

Slow clap for the degree to which you have held frame and acted as your own judge. Many would fold with the shame of cheating on a and divorcing a pregnant woman. You've owned it with a smirk. She is fucking you like her life depends on it, because in her mind it does. She's pregnant, no job, and post-wall, and you have papers filed and have shown her there is slutty pussy ready and waiting. As you say, you win either way. This is dread level infinite. As long as she doesn't cut your dick off in…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 11:48 AM
1

No nothing verbal. If she brings it up again say "ok" and move on.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:20 AM
2

Fair enough. Move on. One piece of advice is don't fail to initiate or half initiate because you think your wife is tired/sick/sore back/on the rag/etc. Initiate when you want sex and let her worry about when she wants sex. Of course, you need to be OI when you initiate and no butthurt.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:17 AM
6

Your wife suspected a covert contract for sex because it was your anniversary. You probably had one. You initiated, and she begged off. You wake up in the middle of the night and initiate again while she was sleeping. If you had a covert contract, you doubled down. Even if you didn't, she thought you did, and your actions suggested you did, so she was disgusted. What else do you want to know? Keep initiating. If she calls you creepy, say, "Ok" and don't DEER. If it is important to you that you b…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 08:05 PM
10

This is what this text conversation should look like. Her: "Blah blah blah" ... Her: "Blah blah" ... Her: "Blah" ... Texting is for logistics. STFU in your texts, i.e, don't write them.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:53 PM
13

Outcome independence and no-butthurt come from abundance mentality. Lose weight, gain muscle, be cocky funny, and start gaming other women to the point where you can realistically expect to be able to pull 24 year old HBs and have them suck your dick. At that point, your wife will want to suck your dick, or she won't, and if it is important enough to you, you'll be equipped to do something about it. Until then, you have a covert contract and you're being a butthurt bitch.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:14 PM
4

Why do you care if she is angry? You spent your married life trying to keep her from being angry and the behaviors that objective manifested in you turned you into the man she willingly fucked around on. Stand up to her if she gets angry, that's her problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 07:35 PM
3

This is all the truth. Many here, myself included, have been in your situation and are now fucking our wives as much as we want. Others have self-actualized over time and left their wives to fuck other woman as much as they want. The point is to get you to a place where you get to decide.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 07:23 PM
2

You don't need a shrink you need self control. You said yourself, when you talk to people you judge them. Fucking stop. They have a right to be their own judge and you gain nothing by judging them. Currently, you are a judgmental asshole, constantly criticizing others, at least in your mind, and cutting others down. Fucking stop. My guess is you learned this behavior from your parents or close family at a young age. You saw them judge people. You wanted to be judged positively, so you became amb…
/r/askMRP07/12/16 07:14 PM
1

Agreed. An amused smile.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 06:44 PM
1

Amusing.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 06:40 PM
11

STFU means a couple off things to me. Most of the new guys reflexively DEER. STFU means letting your actions speak for themselves, without any further justification. Most of the new guys are in their wives frame and are swayed by, and therefore constantly trying to fix, their wives emotional issues. STFU means listen, nod your head, say "that sucks" if you must, and go on getting shit done, with the understanding that your wife is responsible for her emotions. Most of the news guys here are too …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 12:03 PM
2

Fair enough. Women rarely escalate sex, and if this guy doesn't escalate himself, he's got only himself to blame.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 02:55 AM
3

This. The bar doesn't lift itself, and women don't initiate sex.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 11:28 PM
5

You overtly communicating your covert contract. She doesn't owe you appreciation. Succeed for yourself and she'll blow you because she wants to or out of fear of losing you.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 11:25 PM
6

If you want to get laid, initiate. If you want her to stop complimenting you, tell her to stop.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 11:17 PM
2

Read WISNIFG to learn to be more assertive. Read Book of Pook to learn to be more fun. Your are only a couple of weeks in, so don't think you need to suddenly be more dominant. That leads to Rambo. You need to lift heavy, without your wife, 3-4 days a week. Google fuckarounditis. Read that blog post ten times. That is your foundation for lifting. Then pick a program. Initiate every other day, more the week before she ovulates.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 06:33 PM
6

Your wife has no sex drive for you because you are a disgusting beta stuck in her frame. This post makes it clear you have Oneitis, are afraid to take what you want, don't lead, talk too much, are easily manipulated, and weak. She knows all this subconsciously so she is all dried up for you. Ultimately, you have no kids so you should leave her and spin plates. However, doing so right now would be a colossal waste of time, because you still have so much to become. I'm going to tell you the main t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 12:06 PM
1

It sounds like you feel like you married up. Just remember she is a reflection of you. She had her own shit that kept her from demanding more from you or finding a branch to swing to. And, now that your SMV is rising, she gets a free ride.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 06:44 PM
2

Sounds like a comfort test.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 06:12 PM
2

Why did she threaten to leave? How long have you been implementing a MAP, do you lift, what have you read, what is you and your wife's SMV, how long have you been together - we'd need to know all of those things before we can tell you if this was a main event, not that it matters.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 02:50 PM
2

The Rambo line is easy to cross. Rambo is determined, relentless, and mad. The Alpha your wife will drop and suck dick for is determined, relentless, and fun. It is the difference between the high school jock, who lifts and has a mission, but it doesn't matter because he barges through the halls bumping into everyone who is in his way with a scowl on his face, and the jock who lifts and has a mission and walks through the halls smiling, high-fiving, and hugging HBs he's about to fuck. You seem l…
/r/askMRP02/12/16 06:29 PM
1

You are doing a lot right and you will likely be successful at MRP but right now You are RP Ramboing. Work on being cocky funny and she'll start saying that you are being an asshole with a smile on her face and wet panties, and when you tell her you want sex, she won't say "fine" and give you starfish. Specific advice: First, the boundary you set about MIL is fine. Your wife was trying to please you and MIL. She relented to MIL You probably could have captained around this by pulling MIL aside e…
/r/askMRP02/12/16 11:14 AM
2

Is Codependency No More worthy sidebar material?
/r/askMRP01/12/16 06:14 PM
7

If you are living with an LTR you will benefit from reading MRP.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 12:51 PM
1

Your attorneys should be discussing the details.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 12:36 PM
5

It's not working well, that is what everyone is trying to tell you.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 12:35 PM
1

You have no abundance mentality. Do you track her cycle because I bet she was ovulating and went and fucked that guy. You need to next her. More specifically: Should I have permitted her to talk to Chad? Seemed like total BS to me, but should I have been more understanding given the abortion situ? That is for you to decide. Don't mateguard but it is reasonable for you to determine that if she goes, you are nexting her or she is a low level plate. What would you guys have done differently? Plated…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 03:19 AM
3

Entirely true.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 03:07 AM
3

What you are doing is not a good example is not AM. AM is a tool used to deflect shit tests, and if used correctly it doesn't anger the women, it makes them wet. Go back to the responses to one of your previous posts about the divorce 180. It is all right there. What you are doing is either trying to piss her off, or trying to win her back. If you are trying to piss her off then you are being passive aggressive. If you are trying to win her back, you are being stupid. The best way to piss her of…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 03:00 AM
1

Depending on her tone her question may not be a shit test. "Yes" or "on maintenance" would have worked fine.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 07:47 PM
1

I wouldn't have got back in bed.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 07:37 PM
1

Hope it helps you focus on what you can control: you.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 01:06 PM
2

I hope your wife is on the pill, you had a condom on, you pulled out, or better yet, all three. Do not have a child with her now, probably never. Don't be scared of BJJ.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 02:43 PM
-1

Second this on both counts. Memory is fallible and well meaning shrinks do it to patients all the time. Think it through: it is confirmation bias all the way. You daughter is depressed and searching for answers, the shrink has a theory, asks leading and suggestive questions, and your daughter latches on and suddenly remembers the "cause" to all the shit she is feeling. It gets really bad when there is hypno-therapy involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 11:52 PM
1

Meh, beta males bring the fun to cheer up their bitchy wives all the time. Before they know it they are the queen's jester.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 07:04 PM
3

I'm not hard core no fap, and I've never been on that sub, but have you tried not jacking off? You might be a pheromonal beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 07:06 PM
0

You are incredibly insecure and you are being ruled by your little ego. You are so worried what other people think of you. I've read the other comments and what needs to be said has been said. Lift, read, get busy. Get your SMV so high and your game so good so that you'll know if she does fuck around you'll have 3 plates in 3 weeks. That is OI and abundance. You have none. The only thing I would add is keylogger her phone if you really think something is going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 02:45 PM
1

I'll tell you again: tease her about it. Say, "I saw you in the drink room with 'guy' and it looked like you were trying to corner him in there. Do you have a little crush on him? Really, you need to give him a HJ in the school pick up line." You can't do that because you are an insecure faggot. Since you can't do that, befriend the guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 01:22 AM
1

You have your head around the issue. Your wife hesitates to submit and you were on her career bitch turf. She'll never submit there. Give less fucks about it and never bring it up again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:36 PM
1

Way to go, brother. Never let up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:18 PM
1

This.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:17 PM
2

I had a very similar situation 8 months into MRP and mateguarding is/was one of my "natural" beta tendencies. Like he said: develop enough IDGAF and abundance mentality that you can tease her and encourage her to be sexual. Even if you are a little butthurt inside the first time if you can fake it and tease with a smile and no anger it is a major pressure flip to her and she tingles. Like many counterintuitive realities MRP has revealed, in my situation, preMRP I would have been mateguarding and…
/r/askMRP19/11/16 01:10 PM
1

When can one reasonably expect an unattractive man to become attractive?
/r/askMRP18/11/16 06:39 PM
2

You need me to define it for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 06:37 PM
2

I've heard the same sentiment about many disciplines and it's always been false.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 07:24 AM
1

Right now you want to have a family and you have a deadline and she is the one, because if it breaks off you'll have to find a suitable girl and that could take some time and you'll miss your deadline. If you want to get rid off the oneitis you'll have to relax your timeline.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 01:29 AM
1

You have oneitis and/or have no game and she knows it. You have a lack of abundance mentality. You give too many fucks about her. If I were you I would take my head out of her ass and spin plates. I would also not have kids for another 15 years. Then when I was 45 I would maybe consider kids with a 25 year old. But, you are going to do you, so search 12 levels of dread or buy BPPs book and run it. Have you read WISNIFG? Are you assertive or a passive aggressive asshole? Eventually, you'll have f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 07:01 PM
2

Do your own thing and carve out a time when you watch the kids, or hire a sitter, and she works out. Or, find a gym with childcare and get her a membership.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 06:47 PM
1

If you are talking about a bench plateau at 165 you probably have week external rotator cuffs. Widen your grip a 1/2 inch and add band pull-aparts or some other external rotator cuff exercise to the end of your workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 12:39 PM
2

Very close. Kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 02:00 AM
0

You haven't provided enough relevant information to get a good response. Do you lift, what have you read, how long have you been at MRP? You are right you should not be angry or depressed. Lift and fuck your way through that.
/r/askMRP14/11/16 12:31 PM
5

Stop being a needy faggot. That wasn't a lie, that was a hamster. She was too busy to text a needy faggot.
/r/askMRP13/11/16 09:33 PM
2

This post is boring. You are boring. You have no life outside of your wife. You have no abundance mentality. You have no OI. She can't picture you without her which means there is no dread which means she doesn't have to use girl game (eager fucking) to keep you around. You are a smart guy, presumably you realize that won't get you pussy, but it has allowed you to understand what you have to do. You have to get a life outside of your wife and learn game. Read Bang and Day Bang. The author did a …
/r/askMRP11/11/16 09:46 AM
1

If you initiate and she throws some bullshit compliance test out and you have enough abundance to walk with no butthurt, then you can pressure flip with something like "Sure I'll grab you that sundae right after I'm finished. Your going to need it anyway because this is going to bruise your throat." The keys are you have to initiate first. You have to have enough abundance mentality and outcome indifference to not care if your comment nukes your chance at sex. And, you have to have frame to deli…
/r/askMRP11/11/16 04:45 AM
1

A fucking sundae? I would laugh in my wife's face, but you clearly have a ways to go. Start with, "Honey, I'm your lover, not the ice cream man." Leave the room and be busy. STFU and do not engage. Between this and the guy whose wife won't let him watch nudity. Fucking insanity tonight.
/r/askMRP11/11/16 04:36 AM
0

It is all about the starting line. The FR you are suspicious of are likely written by guys who were fit preMRP and started lifting heavy. They are written by guys who's workout did work for them. You post points to your problem. Without more details my guess is you have fuckarounditis. Read this ten times http://www.leangains.com/2011/09/fuckarounditis.html?m=1
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 03:24 PM
0

Assuming you have general anxiety, caffeine causes it. Also, magnesium is required for relaxation. Magnesium levels are controlled in the body in large part by the kidneys, which filter and excrete excess magnesium and other minerals. ... If you drink caffeinated beverages such as coffee, tea and soda regularly, your risk for magnesium deficiency is increased. B12 help with relaxation. I don't think there is a link between b12 and caffeine.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 02:17 PM
1

Check your vitamin B and magnesium levels. Stop drinking and caffeine. Start lifting and sleeping.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 04:23 AM
3

Don't stop initiating. Work on yourself. Up the dread. Own everything, because women are anxious and stressed when they are forced to take care of weak men. You are your problem.
/r/askMRP06/11/16 08:19 PM
2

You are in the anger phase. Chill out. Work on yourself. It gets better when you are getting sucking and fucking every other night.
/r/askMRP06/11/16 01:24 PM
1

You can teach yourself to be disciplined. Write your plan down. Get a calendar and every day you follow the plan put a check mark on the calendar. If you miss a day it is in the past, forget about it and use it as motivation to follow the plan the next day. After a month count how many days you missed. Make a new goal for the next month to miss at least one less day. Do this until you never miss a day.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 04:35 PM
1

How the fuck could anyone even know that and why does it matter?
/r/askMRP02/11/16 06:21 PM
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NMMNG is not meant to talk you how to seduce/game your wife. MMSLP is better for that.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 06:18 PM
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It is serious advice.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 01:37 AM
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Anger fuck her.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 08:29 PM
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Fuck her good and she'll open up.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 12:25 PM
1

Yes, agree on a when give or take 3-5 years.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 10:53 AM
1

Yeah, if you DGAF, you DGAF. Your friends either stick with you or they aren't friends.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 09:34 PM
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They should be talking most of the time. That is one problem. All the scripted shit you do before is fine. You just suck at closing. If you stop at "that feels great but I want to see you again" you are an idiot. That is the easiest LMR I've ever heard. I'm not even sure you can call that LMR. Just say, "this feels so good, you'll definitely see more of me." Do this while you kissing her neck and tugging on her clothes. Get out of your head at that time and let the moment overwhelm you. She will…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 08:05 PM
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Is there a way to sense out a shit test/comfort/STFU situation? Practice. I am noticing she is letting me put her up against the wall/over the couch etc. The other day she sat on top of me. I wasn't even wanting sex and she pulled me out and sat on top of me in my computer chair and just went at it. Are these signs that I am doing things right? Yes. I have been limiting texts to logistics. And conversations to what I need to happen or feel needs to happen. My daughter is involved so sometimes I …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 11:32 PM
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Of course.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 06:34 PM
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Yes, many guys hide their wants because they don't want to burden others and because they are ashamed they have them. I justified this for years as me being independent and self-sufficient, but I was just being a pussy. Saying what I want did/does cause me some anxiety. I'm afraid I'll get rejected or that I can't be loved if I want what I want. So, I face that fear everyday. And it gets easier little by little with ups and downs and plateaus, just like deadlifts. It is all interrelated, as I am…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 01:47 PM
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If she told you months ago she would never blow you again, then this is a baby step forward. You just royally fucked up what could have been a giant step. Don't beat yourself up about it, because you've only been at this a couple of months, and many guys a couple of months in would do the same. Further you have an uphill battle. I did a brief read through your post history and you have been Uber beta for years. No matter how perfectly you execute MRP, she has a historical narrative of you as a b…
/r/askMRP27/10/16 10:48 AM
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Yeah, well, when I stall on incline bench, I'll do incline dumbbells. And I have made it through a few plateaus that way. I'm sure there is a study to substantiate the same.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 02:07 AM
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Sleep. Calories. Change exercises. Deload, sparingly. Alternate exercises. I can't increase my bench unless I eat way more than I want. You might need to eat more.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 10:45 PM
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1) in one of the comments I acknowledged that AWALT should be all women have a propensity to act like that. Trust but verify. 2) If the mods want to pull it, I won't object. I'll likely pull it myself after the discussion ends. Until then, you do you. 3) In you hypothetical how would blowing up my marriage protect yours? It would just make me more available to fuck your wife. That being said, your point is taken. I understand that revenge is a thing and I have taken on a lot of risk. I'm going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 05:32 PM
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Yes it could get me in trouble if I allow it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 04:16 PM
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You don't understand that you are the prize or you would have already walked with a smile on your face. You wife should be demoted to a plate at best. And, fucking make sure you don't get her pregnant.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 10:46 AM
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I have no clue. I haven't had your problem, I have had hers. If she uses iMessage it shows up as data use only, so you won't even see the number. I would start with a keylogger. Of course, she may just work with the guy and talk to him during the day, or use an alias email only opened incognito mode.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 10:39 AM
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You're going to have to do better than that little apology if you want me back.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:18 AM
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Of course. AWALT should be all women have a propensity for that. There are several factors that contribute: age, religion, upbringing, quality of marriage, whether her friends are single and glorifying the cock carousel, to name a few.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 09:56 AM
1

Do you have a keylogger on her phone and computer?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:49 AM
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You should always be down for sex and BJs offered if they spring from desire on her part. She has only a desire to control you here, and you don't want to allow her to weaponize sex. What she was doing is choreplay and it is manipulative. You want to have so much abundance mentality that you can laugh her off and walk out because you have so much ready and willing pussy that it isn't worth it to you to dress up in the clothes she picks just for her to give you an uninspiring BJ. And trust me, th…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 03:12 AM
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No apology needed. You are working to better yourself and that is what is important. You do you. When I was 2 months in I was dealing with a total ice queen and stuck firmly in the anger phase. Your shit is getting better at a rate you are happy with. Good for you. Don't stop, because it will get much better. There will be a time when your wife happily asks you what you want her to wear.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:58 AM
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I feel us growing apart.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:18 AM
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Yeah, I figure one way to end it is to go full on beta until she drys out.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 08:53 PM
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Agreed. This situation has already sucked up a tremendous amount of mindshare.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 08:35 PM
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No kids - next. Hard stop. Anger fuck one time, then ghost. Marriage with no kids is just dating with more cost.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 07:46 PM
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Yeah, my wife complains all the time. So it's always something. I don't acknowledge it. She is just looking for a reason to justify her failure to fuck if I call her on it even though I haven't in over a year of MRP. My response is exactly the one you took. Kiss on the head and walk away to do my own thing.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 06:54 PM
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Her leaving was definitely a shit test. I was OI and non needy, which made her come back. She was seeing if I would chase. She probably would have fucked me even if I followed her, because she told me she was trying to get me to follow her, but we'll never know.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:30 PM
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Yeah, well I've never been on a PUA sub and I've only read two PUA books which were MRP recommended, so here we are.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:26 PM
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Thanks for the heads up. I'll read into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:23 PM
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I have fantasized about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:21 PM
1

Former baptist youth group. Same shit. Funny thing is I have been a self proclaimed apatheist for 15 years but the shame runs deep.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:20 PM
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It is funny. I agonized about writing my post. After I posted it I read his and just laughed. We are experiencing the same emotions, although I probably couldn't have resisted fucking her and he somehow did. I think I am likely a sex addict. PreMRP I was medicated with an SSRI. Once I knocked that off, the urges are back. My SMV and sex drive exceed my wife's, which is a dangerous combo. I want to get to a place of acceptance and congruence one way or the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 06:19 PM
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Thank you for this. I have been dying to direct 24 on some opsec. Do you have any sources I can review for what a convo would look like? What opsec I should require on her part? I have no problem giving her firm boundaries and blocking and walking if she fucks up. I do have a problem with shame. I'm working on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:29 PM
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