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I enjoyed the content, but you are correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 01:47 PM
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This is awesome. There is a difference in my mind between “self help” books and “self improvement” books. They might be the same books but my perspective is what’s different. Amen on the religious angle. Pun intended. I believe in God but not by my understanding of how the Catholics see God (vengeful) or of how the Christians or new agers do (God loves you, “the universe is on your side”) God doesn’t give a fuck about me. And I am talking about the opposite of love: not hate, but indifference. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 01:43 PM
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Flawless analysis. +1
/r/askMRP07/03/18 11:44 AM
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+1
/r/askMRP06/03/18 12:06 PM
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Flawless.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 12:06 PM
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I also experienced more than one “main event” during the first year. I don’t remember how many, but the frequency gradually decreased (I started a log) until now, almost 2 years after I showed up, there are just occasional blips on the radar that I hardly notice and shrug off because I found the tools I needed to learn how to handle women here at MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 07:41 PM
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omg lulz thanks for that
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 06:03 PM
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Great post. Very solid analysis. I don’t believe the real solution can ever be spoken about, anywhere, except a male space (and there are almost none that remain) and even then, a white knight would cry to his surrogate mommy as a whistle blower who expects a blowjob for outing the group. The anonymity of MRP is what makes possible the betterment of men and the subsequent improvement of society in general. In a coaching situation where Pussy McFaggot (miss you Scurve!) could meet an actual man f…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 12:33 PM
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And that Scott Adams book is great too. Almost through it. It’s called something like “How to fail at almost everything and still win big.”
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 04:27 AM
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Neediness. That’s the rub. I’ve been there and mostly sorted it out. How? Nathaniel Brandon Six Pillars Of Self Esteem and addressing my co-dependence and I’m not talking about the ordinary stuff that NMMNG really helped me with. I’m talking about pathological codependency. The kind that had me legitimately attempting suicide at 14 years old without a hospital I would have pulled it off because an older girl didn’t like me type of inbred pussy faggotry shit. And that was the first of countless a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 08:58 PM
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Bingo. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 08:55 PM
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Spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 08:35 PM
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Boom. /thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/18 03:34 PM
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Haha ok fair enough.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 01:18 PM
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thinking not to mention... anything That’s the only smart piece of this. Now do it. Seriously this is almost cringeworthy. You must first grow your balls back before even considering to live with a woman black widow spider. She is going to eat you for breakfast and practically already has. READ SIDE BAR.
/r/askMRP06/01/18 11:26 AM
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lol this brought me my first smile of the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 12:47 PM
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This is so solid except: Ego = a person's self esteem or [...] No. Ego is not self esteem. As someone who has dealt with low self esteem and fixed it by killing the ego - I’ve seen that my big ego was actually the result of low self esteem. To quote Fight Club, self esteem might be described like this: “Yes these are bruises from fighting. Yes I’m comfortable with that. I am enlightened.” To me, the Ego is ultimately a manifestation of our insecurities. We have to overcompensate with inflated se…
/r/askMRP16/12/17 12:28 AM
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Dude. No woman will deserve the new you. They just make it worthwhile enough to keep them around. Flawless.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 12:11 AM
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Heh. Just noticed that OP /u/oak_water linked to one of my comments. I don’t get around these parts much anymore. Found what I needed here, gave back what I could and have a pretty awesome life now. I’m sorry to hear about the marriage and the infidelity. I remember that turning point when I started to fail comfort tests before I knew how to recognize one. I see OPs point about not eating paint and despite the comments suggesting otherwise, I don’t get her impression OP is giving her a pass - ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/17 03:38 AM
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most guys who find themselves here are socially inept and borderline retarded, I was for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/17 03:31 AM
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Like everything else, it’s about frame. The behavior isn’t the whole story. Sometimes I’m still amazed how I can do the same stuff that I did as a beta chump, and yet it’s not the same because of my frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 01:03 PM
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If you have a new employee, sometimes they require more micromanagement attention I would phrase it this way. Micro management is an attitude - one of being too afraid to trust those who you have delegated with responsibility, or too afraid to admit you chose the wrong people.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 12:23 PM
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haha +1
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 10:00 PM
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I like this. Expected to see a lot of “next” comments here, but She cheated on blue pill me ... is a scenario that leaves a rare option open. The option for two different people in the same body to meet “again” - IF the past can stay where it belongs. Mine never cheated physically that I know of (verified) but maybe it wouldn’t matter if she had. There were texts to other guys when I set a hard boundary, moved out and a marriage counselor backed me up on the no more contact principle to which sh…
/r/askMRP17/11/17 11:57 AM
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+1 Places offer on house. Doesn’t consult first mate.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 06:55 PM
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I woke up in a very strange headspace this morning. Reading this has helped set me back on track. My track. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 11:42 AM
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All that matters is if I am making progress to my mission. Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 11:39 AM
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If. There’s a famed version of it hanging in my bathroom. I read it several times weekly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 12:49 AM
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No.
/r/askMRP03/11/17 12:20 AM
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Codependency could be IS an issue. Question: Do YOU want children?
/r/askMRP01/11/17 11:14 AM
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Mid life crisis. Translation: oh shit he found his balls so let’s shame him back where we want him. EDIT - it’s a good sign. Hopefully some woman will call you a fucking asshole soon.
/r/askMRP30/10/17 08:35 PM
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I attended a NMMNG group in my area several times. Eventually I lost interest because most of the guys were seriously beta, not RP aware and I wasn’t gonna take on the role/risk of unplugging that many dudes at one time. I mentioned Rollo, and one guy had read him and generally some guys were trying to figure out why I had achieved some success where they had not. DYELB and AWALT was the answer but I wasn’t gonna blow up a groups “reality” so I casually faded away. I wasn’t gonna risk my own ego…
/r/askMRP30/10/17 06:40 PM
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Hail Rollos hahaha classic.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 06:57 PM
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Life is good. Really good. Damn bro, you’ve come a long way. I remember some of your early posts. Congrats.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 04:57 PM
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I was gonna say the same. This whole story reeks of what a woman will do in acquisition mode. Having a harem of plates, all competing with each other for the prize, as a 30 something would be fun as hell. It might even be fun as a 50 year old but I’m guessing the dynamic changes with age; despite my wishing this was hamster speak, I do believe it’s true that age changes things in a natural way.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 04:41 PM
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lol’d +1
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 09:07 PM
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This is an area in which I’ve had great struggle and more recent success - where success is defined as happiness and dwelling in reality. I’ve always had a mission. I chased it nearly to my death during my youth and “failed” for a variety of reasons. As I’ve grown older I found success (and thus more genuine happiness) by dwelling in reality. This change in perspective occurred when I separated my “mission” from my “goals” - “process” is not the same as “results.” Let’s say a mission is perceive…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 05:32 PM
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This is a fantastic perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 12:57 PM
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to be a man is to be alone +1 It’s possible to forget but indeed - ain’t nobody gonna give a fuck about me except... me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 11:47 AM
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Railing against the reality of a cold uncaring replication machine is pointless as is expecting the world to change to suit your own weakness. This is awesome. Self improvement is the only answer. True story.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 11:42 AM
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I agree the chances are good that she already cheated. Take reasonable measures to verify using phone records (sounds like you already have) and then let it go because you may never know for sure. Regarding the way you handled this latest incident: see my post history for "Right alpha, right time, wrong husband" to see how I handled a similar situation. Do not under estimate a more direct approach without mate guarding which is unattractive and comes from a position of weakness. I actually said …
/r/askMRP09/10/17 02:32 PM
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Sounds like a dependable woman. Hint: there are none. Live your life as though you were single. Utterly. Remove all covert contracts. Expect nothing. After I did this ^ she started asking permission to help. It made me so excited that I slipped back a bit into my previous expectations and thus: sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt Never forget AWALT. And when you do then AWALT.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 09:08 AM
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It's strangely comforting to know that other men have been on the other side of feminine terror tactics and refused to negotiate.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 09:03 AM
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I have been hate fucking my wife as of late Things are good for me, and I've earned a great deal more respect than I ever had before with genuine leadership (that I also never had before) but perhaps the best play at 4th and goal is the hate fuck. I'm gonna give it a try.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 08:59 AM
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Beta Bucks on hard mode +1 lol'd
/r/askMRP08/10/17 08:13 PM
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FACT.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 08:12 PM
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omg so much win here and beautifully brutal. I would have killed for this advice at OPs age. There are 8s+ that the Pussy McFaggot version of me was never able to keep around. I do hope OP pays close attention.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 08:12 PM
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The Lessons Learned make this FR anything but victim puke, and the obstacles I've seen you surmount are an inspiration.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 05:51 AM
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all that matters is relative change - So true. If I had stayed worried about "catching up" or making up for lost time, then I would never have started. Those are just excuses to stay a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 06:15 AM
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lol'd
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 05:00 PM
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If nobody is every angry with you, then you're doing something wrong. If nobody is ever offended, upset, or curious about you, then you're doing something wrong. Mine acted out some utter bullshit the other night. We were in a hotel and in the morning I was up early and about to leave, she grabbed my key saying "you're leaving me here, alone? To go site sight seeing without me for the day?!?!?" Me: yup. (Walks out the door without the key.) She texted me: "fucking asshole" I ignored it. I wander…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 04:59 PM
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Living my life as though I were single FTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 04:48 PM
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Holy shit you've come a long way. I remember your posts from the beginning. Good stuff man.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 04:43 PM
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you don't have the balls to call this off. My thought exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:38 PM
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the bible is totally RP. I'm not even Christian, and yet from what little I know, this is an obvious fact. Jesus was not a faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:36 PM
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some women initiate in really stupid ways. Indirect ways. The ASD is real. Once I uncovered the stupid/indirect ways that mine initiates I was able to yield more dividends. I'm kind of an idiot tho and over time have learned that mine is not even very indirect - other women are probably more indirect. This is probably why I've leaned toward natural sluts to compensate for my tendency toward idiocy. Mine will sometimes jut bust out with "wanna fuck?"
/r/askMRP03/10/17 07:45 AM
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+1
/r/askMRP03/10/17 07:37 AM
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That's a vital distinction.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 01:52 PM
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"I'm not responsible for my own actions, so I need to create why this is his fault." The next time someone asks what does AWALT mean? THIS.
/r/TheRedPill30/09/17 07:32 AM
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So brilliant. As a dude over 40 who has made a ton of mistakes, I can look back and see those holes in the ground 3 feet from gold. After finding RP thought, it is so clear to me why I failed thus far: it wasn't because I didn't have talent -it was because I was weak and shitty person. I've used a lot of time to improve my self over the last year and a half and I'm still pursuing the same goals because I never lost the why but my attitude now has changed. Internally. Have I received all that ext…
/r/TheRedPill25/09/17 12:08 PM
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how can you be one year in ?? My thoughts exactly.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 11:22 AM
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if she remembered to give you a blow job this morning Priceless.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:48 AM
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+1
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:46 AM
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Additional resources. Good stuff.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 11:45 AM
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Haha
/r/askMRP19/09/17 03:40 PM
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I prefer the word "complimentary" - which means in a non communist society that men are masculine and women are feminine. This is an increasingly rare scenario in western civilization but maybe the tides are changing because it's not possible to attempt violation of natural law for very long.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 01:14 PM
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Very few. There are some old fashioned card and board games we play that we both have fun with and occasionally a movie or tv series we agree on. Other than that, it's sex, fine food (cooking is a recent hobby of mine) dinners out and travels on vacation. She's a good companion as long as her family isn't around. I've sometimes wondered if I'm missing out in this area but didn't waste giving any fucks about it. After seeing some of the other comments, I see that feeling as another hidden layer o…
/r/askMRP19/09/17 10:57 AM
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What great way to begin my day. Thanks for the good post. Lots of wisdom in here and OP has clearly earned it.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/17 10:25 AM
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I am about to get an MRI. Same scenario.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 10:02 AM
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+1 Not sure why this doesn't have more up-votes. Solid.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 09:54 AM
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Maybe she took a shit. Girls do that?
/r/askMRP12/09/17 08:32 PM
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My favorite part was (cue her crying)
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:10 PM
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Some people get so focused on trying to be "hard mother fuckers" that people often lose sight that you still need intimacy to bring out your slut. I did this myself and it was a similar talk with hysterical tears like OP just experienced that got my attention. Alpha comfort is not being a pussy but it takes perspective to pick up on that. There ought to be a word for this place in progress...
/r/askMRP07/09/17 05:08 PM
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They all do this Yup.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:40 PM
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If your wife were my sister I would tell her to next you. So brutal. Such Truth. I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 08:09 PM
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/u/TheFamilyAlpha is a boss. Much respect.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 12:37 PM
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+1
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 10:43 AM
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Not me. Date nights are for pussies.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 10:42 AM
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OP: you are not ready for this yet but here it is for when you are. Probably wouldn't hurt to read it now anyway. https://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/01/04/ending-the-line-of-chads/
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:59 AM
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permission to be a cunt Is that a psychiatric term?
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:51 AM
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I was thinking the same. Sounds like she might lose financially. OP needs a lawyer. Right. Now.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:50 AM
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Lost time. Ditto.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:31 AM
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yes. Neediness (unattractive) and Covert Contracts. Read NMMNG.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:27 AM
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Amazing analysis. +1
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:24 AM
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I'm a social retard of the idiot variety. I got a lot out of that book and wish I'd read it in high school.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:19 AM
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And that's about when I learned the difference between nagging and the way she asks for help - because I'm more efficient at getting shit done than she could ever be. She's really good at looking sexy and sucking cock though.
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:17 AM
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Am I that awesome? j/k There's only two of us and I was tired of her putting the dishes and coffee cups I needed in the dishwasher (and never running it or wasting gallons of water) so after I took up cooking and taking care of everything around the house like a boss, I told her we weren't using the damn dishwasher anymore. She said "fine (bitchy voice) but you're doing the dishes!!" So, I did the dishes every time (because they needed doing and I was living as though I were single) until one da…
/r/askMRP06/09/17 01:14 AM
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That's what bothered me the most about this, is that it bothered me. If that's true then you're close to unlocking a new achievement and have made progress. Did you actually bail like a faggot? No. The follow through will come another time. Pretty sure that /u/BobbyPeru pointed out to me one time that Frame loss can mitigated well by how quickly one gets back on the horse with renewed strength and style: somewhere in my post history, I learned just how much of a bitch mine can be around her fami…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 10:54 PM
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Such gold here. I also got a lot out of Day Bang. The traditional PUA literature is great but some of it hit me like "damn I wish I knew this in my 20s!" After reading Day Bang, I number closed within a week... while traveling with the wife. And the point about "bend reality" is brilliant. Due to BETA programming, I've had to work hard at developing more dark Triad traits. The line about: she wanted to know if I was leaving for the night and if that girl (her) was my wife... ...is getting added …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 10:34 AM
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those guys who married virgins weren't in their 30s already and didn't already have families, I'm guessing.... Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 12:45 AM
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I am often say that when men were legally allowed to strike women, that was why they didn't have to. Now? Ya shits a mess. Only good part is that a few of us have been made stronger as a result.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 04:15 PM
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Only a woman would be able to complain non stop and then say what a great time she had. Nice job holding Frame.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 04:13 PM
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Do you workout when you have your period? Priceless.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 03:53 PM
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When I go on vacations, I look forward to being able to work out more not less. Did you know that hotels and resorts have exercise rooms? This is so Chad can stay in shape when your wife wants some cock. I've dropped a few pounds on vacations. More than once.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 03:51 PM
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Everything is a date I see this clearly now because it is, but this is gold advice for a newbie.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 02:54 PM
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I love me some Matrix analogy.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 02:51 PM
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I'm 6'2" and was 258 when I started. ~198-202 now and high teens body fat % Things were better than I'd imagined by 220.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 02:41 PM
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Iron Temple. Lift. Henry Rollins "See a grown man cry/Now watch him die" - there's a piece in there about Charlie Parker and how "nice guys don't play good." I fucked up 20+ years of my life, who cares? Nobody. And when I cared and did nothing, I was miserable.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 01:37 PM
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I genuinely found this funny. Me too. Life is good on the other side.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:48 PM
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To answer your question: neither. Be the oak.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:34 PM
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Companionship. Good company (most of the time.) Hot sex. A pretty face. Laughter. Great looking legs in heels. When I need could use a little help running our life then she (now) can see that, offers and helps get shit done if I remind her (most of the time.) Most of what she brings is "just physical" and "superficial" (blue pill programming), but I'm not ashamed of my dick anymore and am happy as a masculine man who fucks her relentlessly and regularly.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:23 PM
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I read it twice. The second time I actually wrote down answers to all the exercises. Then it worked.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:11 PM
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You're still keeping score. You haven't internalized NMMNG. Live your life as though you were single.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:10 PM
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Maybe its our job to lead our wives, and help/direct them to bring more value FTFY
/r/askMRP04/09/17 12:08 PM
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you think you can get back that time... As someone who had this serious liability and was able to mitigate the fallout before making a total mess of the present by trying to unsuccessfully re-live the past... I can confirm that OP needs to dwell in reality. Also I banged virgins in my youth and on a pure sexual level it wasn't that great. My theory is that hypergamous trading up a few times encourages higher quality sexual practice (greater slutdom) For example when I get a great blowjob I don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 09:40 PM
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there's no changing that dynamic. I, for one, am proof that statement is false. Mine married a walking wallet and it ain't like that now. You must be new here. Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 08:47 PM
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Finally. Someone called OP a faggot. Phew. I was almost getting nervous with all the great advice and new asshole ripping elsewhere in this thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 08:43 PM
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Because he wants an easy way out, and is fishing for someone to give him permission; True story.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 08:41 PM
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Prayers and blessings your way to you and yours and beyond. Thanks for all your help. Stay strong brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 08:32 PM
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Indeed. The most valuable takeaway from this solid post is that distinction between a genuine shit test and just plain bitchiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 07:18 PM
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flawless.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/17 07:07 PM
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I haven't taken to rape fantasy, but I regularly initiate with "ok that's it, I'm gonna have to hold you down and fuck you..." works basically every time and she giggles like a school girl - which I then acknowledge by calling her my little slut... more giggles.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 12:58 AM
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You get to pay the lease. Exactly. OP is complicating the shit out of this. Losing GF and paying the lease is what's at risk.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 12:39 AM
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ding ding ding ding - we have a winner.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 12:33 AM
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Ya I just lol'd at that too.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 11:11 PM
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I tried that. Lifting is much more productive lol
/r/askMRP29/08/17 09:05 PM
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OP just whisper how you want it or drop hints that she watch videos. Maybe you don't like getting your dick sucked enough? Either that or I like it way more than your average guy.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 09:03 PM
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OP. This. Art of Blowjob. Somehow a while back, I gave mine a few on DVD and she definitely watched them. Guess how I know?
/r/askMRP29/08/17 09:01 PM
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so the hamster doesnt die. Bingo. Personally I see no reason to cause excess dread, esp if your wife is draining your balls pre/post business trip as mine does. Agreed and have had similar responses. There was a point where the power struggle was over and after that where it just became obvious how far ahead I was, and then comfort was warranted imo. It's worked out well because I still keep it balanced in my favor.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 08:57 PM
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I will fuck how I want or find someone that will. No anger, no ego. And when she can see and know this to be fact, the barrier of entry disappears.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:43 PM
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omg so much win. This is great.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:36 PM
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This seems like a good time to bring back that caution. Why yes it does!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 08:34 PM
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Progress. That's awesome.
/r/askMRP26/08/17 11:47 PM
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leave before her, come back after her. Agreed. OP will need to double down on Frame and most efficient way would be to get out. do you even github portfolio??? lol'd
/r/askMRP22/08/17 10:52 AM
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I thought the same as you for a brief moment until I realized I had no idea how The Male Social Matrix works because I was a total fucking pussy. Now I'm not a pussy and being told that I was, was the first step in learning how not to be. Separate content from tone.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 11:52 AM
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WISNIFG will take longer than a day to really absorb. I am constantly reminding mine in a semi covert and funny way that there are really only two things she's gotta do to keep me around: 1.) not be a bitch and 2.) keep my balls empty Sometimes the sexual innuendo tank is full and I can back off but it's almost constant. At this point, she initiates on a regular basis.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:54 AM
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Boom. +1
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:45 AM
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Oneitis swings both ways, Well put. Never saw it like this. The both ways part. I knew if I'd nexted then I would still have been a chump, but didn't see how that's totally confirmation of AWALT.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 10:25 PM
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Paying attention to what women say is like trying to guess the meaning of words in a language you do not speak. Watch what she does instead: True story.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 11:47 AM
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My wife is an adult; Incorrect. She is "the most responsible teenager" in the house. Google that and start reading. The day I stopped treating mine like an adult was a day where I unlocked another achievement.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 11:25 AM
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The Siri trick is gold lol. Hope I get a good chance to steal that really soon.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 12:45 AM
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This type of explanation is gold. I started seeing it everywhere in my life as I improved. Same Behavior ... With and Without Frame.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:29 PM
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Bingo. The "it's not a priority" is implicit when OP is in his own frame.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:23 PM
8

I was Alpha (without knowing it) ...is a serious liability that I experienced. Don't let those times you banged a 10 but couldn't keep her when you were in your prime raise your ego defense. Admit it. Utterly. You ARE a chump. It no longer matters what you were. Don't hail the glory days or be like Marlon Brando in On The Waterfront crying "I could have been a contender" - start from ground zero and build. Admit defeat. That's what great leaders do, and as my self esteem has grown over the cours…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 11:35 AM
1

+1
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:34 AM
1

OP: My wife once did nothing and everything was a mess. I complained like a bitch. Then I killed my covert contracts and began to live life as though I were single. I did everything for a while just because I wanted an awesome and orderly life. Now she asks permission to do the dishes.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:29 AM
1

Stop with the "we" shit. There's a shit ton of priceless resources here and I'm glad I found this place but I fixed myself. And group hugs are for faggots. 4 months isn't that long but if you're seeing results then build upon them. It snowballs at a certain turning point. Keep going.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:36 PM
1

I already don't like you. lol OP, it starts to snowball but not at 4 months after that long a marriage. Keep going and don't bend over here, you ass hair is showing.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:34 PM
1

And it's usually the result of a weak man as the father, who didn't know what he didn't know and cannot even be fully blamed for the fallout - assigning blame for a sunken cost is pointless anyway. The level of brainwashing by the mass media in earlier generations to slant the population's thinking toward feminism cannot be underestimated. We've gone from Ward Cleaver to Homer Simpson in 40 years. Incredible. Weak fathers create miserable mothers who abuse their sons to retaliate.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 07:17 PM
1

This is awesome.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:04 PM
1

Did you have co-dependency? Yes. I am the product of neglect and abuse in a mild to moderately dysfunctional family system. How did you fix it? Codependency doesn't get fixed the way a chemical addiction can be fixed with abstinence. What is the next step in fixing co-dependency? Google "patterns and characteristics of codependency" - then one by one, stop doing them. It's a beast of a problem. After I fixed the Control Patterns I realized I still had all of the Low Self Esteem Patterns. It's a …
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:04 PM
1

Fact.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:17 PM
1

Jesus what a shit show. True story. This was painful to read. I couldn't. Had to stop.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:16 PM
1

The Germans speak German when ever there's a solitary English speaker in the room with no fucks given. I love those people. When I lived there, I'd order a meal in German and then they'd answer me in English to show off, not to be polite. Great cars. Great highways. Great music. Their shit was always sorted. Hot blondes with accents. A good place Germany is.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:52 AM
1

Bingo.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:46 AM
1

Laser Tag? Haha love it.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 01:48 PM
1

MKP is a legit organization. Not RP at all but not inherently beta either. Mostly grounded in the KWML model and geared toward mental wellness and healing a damaged psyche. Not harmful but would not solve the same problems that MRP/NMMNG solves. I went to a NMMNG group a few times. It was decent but I was already at like Dread Level 3-4 and haven't been back partly due to scheduling. That's said it's a pretty open forum and I'm guessing groups are very different in different areas.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 01:37 PM
1

Flawless.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 12:43 PM
1

That sounds really easy, there must be some hamster that could complicate it.
/r/askMRP04/08/17 02:01 PM
1

A literal cluster fuck. I wouldn't be interested an in open marriage.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 04:21 PM
1

Ouch. Wow that's cringe worthy.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 04:15 PM
1

Also the wife will intuitively know you could upgrade and stop rejecting, provided the timing is reasonable.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 03:52 PM
1

Hahaha yah well I did get positive results in my self esteem levels from his book.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 12:54 PM
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Did you actually write down the answers in the exercises for NMMNG? You will have to revisit it later again if you didn't. Also, it's not sidebar but I found results with The Six Pillars of Self Esteem book. Ayn Rand cucked her husband for Nathaniel Brandon. There's a reason why. Welcome. DYELB?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 11:37 AM
2

They're fun. They become fun, with practice.
/r/askMRP25/07/17 04:28 PM
1

who she really was after all of these years Not who but rather: what If you do the work here, you'll have your own of that "what" and be ready for women the next time.
/r/askMRP23/07/17 11:40 AM
2

An important distinction indeed. I stopped reacting almost naturally in tandem with DYELB and STFU. After a while, when I realized I was failing comfort tests, then I began to respond and take ownership/leadership of the vessel that is the awesome life I now have... with her in tow.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 12:00 AM
1

I'm gonna bet you're thinking a marriage will make everything all special again. Wrong.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 03:02 AM
1

I'm not here to get called a faggot That might be a problem. Faggot. Obligatory.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 03:00 AM
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Amen on several points here. It's a spectrum. Fact. It takes two to have dysfunction. Fact. MRP fixes the man, which usually fixes the woman. Fact. I come from moderately dysfunctional family system. Weak father and appropriately miserable mother. Sister is an single mom alpha female business owner. I was black sheep Pussy McFaggot until recently. Every time I've gone down the rabbit hole of wondering about personality disorders and trying to figure out what's "wrong" - it results in the same pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 02:45 AM
1

Ha! This is awesome. I've been doing it but never realized it could be put into words like this; that it was part of sexual strategy. There are several outside activities that I have made synonymous with sex by association, and the association is strong enough now that just mentioning the activity, even if it never happened, can result in sexual acts.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 12:05 PM
1

In my arena, family is equivalent to a shit show every time. One of these times, I'll actually be ready and it won't take me by surprise.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 12:08 PM
1

That's a much more attractive title to women. Very good.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 09:37 PM
2

I once was lost but now I'm found, was blind but now I see.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 03:55 PM
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Lol, this is the faggot comment of the day. Second that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 03:47 PM
2

Where'd these two come from anyway?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 03:46 PM
1

+1 A man is a peace maker. Meaning he does what needs to be done in order to establish his peace of mind. He doesn't settle. He doesn't negotiate. Alpha is a mindset. Not a check list of "approved" behavior Who is to judge that if that man makes that decision within his frame. The key difference here in mindset is does the man push his life aside for someone else. Facts.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:09 PM
2

46 years old. A natural loner rogue alpha who went far gone beta via oneitis in my mid 20's. The natural part was a liability for me because I didn't know what I didn't know. No kids - knew I was too much of a loser to be a good father. It's not too late biologically but honestly the opportunity to do it the way I would want to has passed. I also have made other decisions for myself that continue to guide the course of my life. That said, I don't knock sex and domestic comfort. Those are things …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:00 PM
2

Awesome!!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 11:12 AM
1

That's what I did. See my post history. She still doesn't cook much but I have no covert contract about it anymore, and it's more consistent then previously. Her cooking now, when she does, was the result of my leadership - after she asked if it was "ok" for her to help by doing the dishes. I will never forget that moment. My actions and improvements made me a better life AND created a win-win for the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 11:12 AM
1

Hahaha awesome.
/r/askMRP04/07/17 11:33 PM
1

Posting helps. See my history for when I used the example "Reframed Victim Puke."
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 11:22 PM
1

her family And you didn't think you should stand up for YOUR HUSBAND? I am DISAPPOINTED that MY WIFE would allow... First part of this is brilliant and I plan to use it however I seem to have overused the word "disappointed" to the extent that she's very sensitive to it now. I'm not a huge fan of Deida much these days but he does point out that women grow by praise not challenge so I've tried to ramp up leadership and layoff the criticism with mixed results. The direct criticism really fouls her…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:12 PM
1

Define PowerTalk? Obviously I'm not very good with it, not knowing what it is. I can't remember her exact words but it started with "you always" - which is text book shit test... However, I believe that Scurve is right in the shitty comfort test diagnosis and thus the lonely depression.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:06 PM
1

You mean the concept of "running scared"? Post Traumatic Success Disorder? What Rambo does when you've already won? Being "lost in the end zone"? I agree that's something not much read about here. I've been playing as if there was still a power struggle when her behavior indicates it's long since over.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 08:58 PM
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Last few days I've been distant There's your problem. You're cock blocking yourself. See my post history about family vacation for when I did the same - it's hilarious. You set the boundary, now let it go unless its crossed again. Women are children. They cry. You smile. They smile. Emotional memory is null. Next time try a different approach when she feelz like the kid is gonna cry but you have the facts. Reasoning with a woman is an exercise in stupidity and I know because I've tried. When I t…
/r/askMRP25/06/17 05:05 AM
1

I sense a Rambo in the making. Ditto. I Rambo'd way bad and I got here mid 40's.
/r/askMRP25/06/17 04:20 AM
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Hold that thought. For as long as you can. Then wait longer. Going Rambo is not a conscious choice, it just happens. If you get as bad as I did then you'll look back and feel guilty for was emotionally abusive. You married her and spent a lot of time with her. She deserves a shot. Do not think about leaving until you're asking why you failed a comfort test. Losing half your accumulated assets isn't worth the Rambo.
/r/askMRP25/06/17 04:18 AM
1

Come on bro. Truth hurts but you know what I would give to have known this shit at your age? Carpe fucking diem.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/17 06:51 PM
1

There is room for improvement in this area by: - soothing her terror back down to healthy dread - increasing physical affection outside of sex - relaxing enough for her to enjoy my progress
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 06:49 PM
1

Yep. The KWML stuff gets talked about over at Red Pill Wives and honestly taking about it too much is pretty gay, however once I started lifting DYELB? and began to watch my responses to life circumstance, I started to see more wisdom in it. The book(s) by those two therapists are damn good too, and each archetype has shadow polarities that can be balanced. This guy below writes about them incessantly and his synopsis of the movies listed is genuinely brilliant. Good theory to have under the bel…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 06:24 PM
1

Are you happy? Yes. But I didn't know it until I read Mark Manson's very basic articles on the subject. Happiness is something I do. It's not pleasure. Those cliches about the path being the destination are true once action takes place. Happiness is the process of becoming my ideal self which is series of crossroads involving decision and since I don't have complete control over the results, losing sleep over what happens is really pointless even though sometimes I still do, albeit more briefly …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 06:18 PM
2

Based upon zero direct experience, I agree with avoiding an overt discussion.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 01:55 PM
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Yep.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 01:54 PM
2

Is this when I tear up about what MRP can result in? For those men who go from getting their ass kicked, to kicking their own ass, to... finding balanced awareness of King shadow polarities: The Weakling and The Tyrant are still there, but I am now the scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 02:47 PM
2

I really appreciate this insight which came as the result of /u/man_in_the_world taking the time to dig in to my post history - I actually am "lost in the end zone." Could this be called: Post Traumatic Success Disorder? Is this all that Rambo has left to do when the battle is over? I had the brief heart-to-heart chat about her fears and it went well.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 02:41 PM
2

That makes 3 of us.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:01 AM
1

Seriously. That getting other girls to write flirtatious shit on your Facebook is the gayest thing I've heard in a long time.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 12:54 AM
1

Interesting point that I will ponder. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:31 PM
1

+1
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:25 PM
2

There's that word "like" again. Jesus. Am I fucking autistic that it causes me to falter? When I read Rollo about how women love, it describes her exactly. Now that the captain is no longer drunk she regularly expresses appreciation for the things I handle and make it look effortless. She tells me openly how much I have improved her life as the result of no longer being the man she married. I'm not even 100% sure, but I think that means she likes me. EDIT: If you mean "ME" capital - as a person,…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:53 PM
1

In addition to more affection outside of sex, and increased OI - I believe that an explicit conversation to soothe her fear is in order and I must do that without granting her manipulative leverage. It's doable from my current position. I keep hearing Spider-Man's father saying "with great power comes great responsibility" and trying to laugh about it but cannot, because it's actually very serious and true for the first time in my life. And yes the question from /u/weakandsensitive was so basic …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:30 PM
1

Yes. I like her. She's fun to be around most of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:20 PM
1

I'm not even sure what "like" means in this context. Love? Yes. But I "like" friends and don't consider her one in the same way. Maybe my stance needs evaluating. Do I have fears blocking me from closer genuine intimacy? Probably.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:15 PM
2

the maturity of addicts is frozen in the time they began using. Fact. Ain't that a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 11:41 AM
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Booze is my kryptonite, Seems like an inordinately large number of us running around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 11:39 AM
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I enjoy her company.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 11:34 AM
1

Good suggestions. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:16 AM
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I don't doubt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 03:33 PM
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I come from a family like that lol. The difference is I've busted my ass for several years now to figure it out and fix that shit culminating in my MRP journey. She and I met before I started that process. I am wondering if she will catch up. Her reaction was despair. She didn't get out of bed literally all day. It wasn't pouting it was genuine exhaustion and immobility. Thus, enter a professional.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 02:58 PM
2

Here come all the big guns. Thanks guys. These are important questions. Available when I need her? Yes. Listen to her prattle? Reasonably well. Physical affection outside of sex? Bingo. Fail. No. Not enough affection without sex. During the conversation I alluded to, she admitted that she sometimes has sex just because she's afraid I'll leave. Ugh. Granted I can see on her face that she enjoys it once we are having it but feelz before realz.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 02:47 PM
1

Exactly. And that's the reason for the professional. It's not my obligation and even if it were, I wouldn't be able to solve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 02:41 PM
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Based upon the level of comfort need she is displaying - it probably was. Learning curve is steep here because I've never had all the power in a relationship and my awareness of the fact that I now have that power, is the only thing different from being a child with dynamite. High stakes in new territory. Feels like being lost in the end zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 02:40 PM
1

True and something I considered before. The thing is that her behavior does align with her speech. She is exhibiting the physical symptoms of despair and I don't feel like it's an act, even though occasionally I've been able to snap her out of it with a surprise outing. That didn't work recently, so I remained close and was loving and supportive while owning my internal annoyance with understanding - an improvement over being a former "nice" guy. There have been times that I call her out on pass…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 01:47 PM
2

Good point. There's one that was in my court (grown up child from previous marriage) and may still be to some extent but I have not nurtured that contact as well as you suggest. Another is a straight up SJW and lost cause if not a liability. My comfort game sucks. Obviously. This is the first time in my life when I've been in a relationship where I (now) hold all the cards and all the power so it's a big time learning experience. She was practically offering to let me bang other girls so long as…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 01:21 PM
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FITNESS Holding steady. Eating right. Gym. Etc. FINANCES Built up a 6 month emergency supply successfully. Will be making new goals in this area. WORK Killing it. Avoided more post merger layoffs. Team I am working with is great. SOCIAL LIFE Only marginal improvement but it's there. Still need to focus on this area. MISSION I noticed this had taken a back seat to self improvement and 2 weeks ago made some changes to increase the amount of time I dedicate to it. WOMAN A bit of backsliding here. 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 10:54 AM
1

She says "you always" it's probably a shit test. She says "I feel like..." it's probably a comfort test. But you're not getting comfort tests yet or you wouldn't have to ask.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:49 AM
1

"I am sorry. are you ok? don't be mad baby" Cringed reading this. A large number of great girls, super hot with excellent cock sucking skills, were spoken to in this manner by chump ass pussy tard that I used to be by my post oneitis twenties. Guess what? They're not swallowing my loads any more.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:44 AM
1

That HB_ standing over there? Open her.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:38 AM
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Flawless.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:36 AM
2

And I've been meaning to read every word from Jack Ten for a while now - but after reading that, I think the time to start is now. The guy is a boss.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 08:33 PM
1

So much this.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 08:24 PM
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Until its working, then it was her idea all along. Hahaha FACT.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 05:05 PM
1

"I am the man of the house" True but acta non verba. For the love of god do not tell her that or discuss it. Eventually my wife started asking permission to do the dishes. Yes I'm serious. She got scared because I was basically autonomous. Now she says she'll do them... and she actually does. Amazing Grace.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 05:04 PM
1

Rambo or No Rambo is about Frame. Same behavior. Different attitude. Internalize with practice. Fall off the horse? Get back on. How long the "difficulty" goes on is entirely up to you. She will follow. Or not.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 05:01 PM
3

What comfort? Priceless. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 09:13 PM
1

Cool. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 08:39 PM
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knows when to nip BS in the bud. Actions have consequences. There's a thing that makes the way OP handled this not Rambo and that distinction is difficult to verbalize.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 02:27 PM
2

Fantastic post. Did the topic of your wedding ring ever come up? If so, how did you handle it?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 11:24 AM
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Just read this poem for this first time. Great stuff. I wouldn't mind having this in a frame on my bathroom wall. My physical gains have provided the strength to see where I am still lacking mentally in building the life I want to look back on. If I died tomorrow, there would still be some regrets and that is not ok for any longer that it must be.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 04:41 PM
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Everybody slips out of frame. Solid point. I slipped out of frame too, this morning. First time in months. And after prepping to dig in and then briefly beating myself up in my head to start marking it worse, I saw the old pattern that I had practically forgotten about... and just stopped. Moment passed. Pause. Reset. Back in the ring.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 04:37 PM
1

I've been toying with a post outlining my particular approach including logistics, etc. i just havent gotten around to it. I would read that too. Especially the logistics part.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 03:20 PM
1

back off the Reddit and start doing. Remember me? I did this. Posted and asked. studied and read. I used to obsessively refresh hoping for new wisdom. a new post that would shine the light better then before. Thank you for this. It's why I've been around less than when I started. I find myself having to catch up on several days or a week worth of posts and just skimming them. Others experience was distracting me from developing my own. I found myself over identifying with other guys' problems an…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 01:56 PM
1

Thank God I thought you were talking about marrying a man. +1 ...and a hearty chuckle.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 06:37 PM
6

Flawless
/r/askMRP26/05/17 02:25 AM
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Until recently I treated my goals as my mission and was miserable for now obvious reasons. Separating the two was a critical turning point is realizing I was happy. Process is what we have control over. Results less so. I apply this to fitness too, but where it really shined is in the undertaking of any creative endeavor. Great post!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 05:56 PM
1

+1 I really like that term "beta dread".
/r/askMRP21/05/17 04:21 PM
1

There's always a guy more Chad than you. Or me.
/r/askMRP21/05/17 04:17 PM
1

10 She knows I could bang another girl and has directly expressed concern. Sometimes I'm not sure she believes I actually would ...but that seems to be more clear to her over time with consistency. In my case, at the beginning, general lack of respect was a larger problem (which I had earned) than only lack of sex - she's got enough of an Adventuress [Practical Female Psychology] in her to be a natural slut. I like em that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/17 02:37 AM
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Gold. +1
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:17 PM
1

Good. Then you're on the right track. Get started.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:15 PM
2

The funny thing is that she makes within 20k yearly of what I do, but had no clue how to manage or handle it. Giving feminine women that much money is like washing it down the drain.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:35 PM
1

Yep. The translation is important.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:20 PM
1

Text her a picture of yourself. I lol'd hard when reading that Family Alpha actually does this.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:18 PM
1

Bingo. Joint bills account that matches a budget and is accounted for. Payroll amount is calculated and goes directly to the bills account. Everything else goes to her and myself individually, allowing for savings. I have a spreadsheet for her to look at if she gives a shit, which she doesn't. Mostly she's just so damn relived she never has to think about money and we magically always have enough because her captain isn't drunk. This woman was a financial train wreck when I met her.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:15 PM
1

I tend to gravitate toward women that are natural sluts. But even then it can be like Almond Joy versus Mounds: sometimes she feelZ like a slut and sometimes she don't. Sex God Method will help your cause. And remember that she's your wife and not a hooker. There is technique involved.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:11 PM
3

Have you read this? https://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 09:55 PM
2

I am not a fan of anal. But some guys swear by it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 09:52 PM
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Dude. Don't. I let my first nearly terminal case of oneitis drag me for 5 years and she still went back to Chad. And then would call me after he beat her up. And I would actually pick up the phone. ((cringe)) I know through the grapevine that she now got knocked up three times by another guy and then got a new guy to marry her with the kids. All I can confirm is: her cock sucking skills really are that good. I thought they were the best ever when I was with her. I was wrong. And would never have…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:42 PM
1

I went beta in my youth after a very bad case of oneitis. Then again shortly after. Wound up devastated and facing mental/emotional fallout from digging the hole I had built for myself. Stayed that way for over a decade, burned down a mediocre marriage during that time. Met current and things went downhill quickly. Started that way TBH. Length of relationship is not the metric. It's length of beta. At one month improvement per year of beta, I am on track to be coming out of the fog about now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 08:27 PM
2

Ya I realized that recently and is why it's best for men to have a higher notch count.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 06:45 PM
3

The Red Queen is still on my reading list. Sounds like a similar stance.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 06:00 PM
6

That was the reason for the post, but don't think for one second that I've arrived. I haven't. Progress is my primary goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 05:05 PM
5

Right. Easier wasn't the right word.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:46 PM
7

Persistence.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:45 PM
5

Truth. In an earlier conversion maybe a week or two ago. She admitted that if she were still a younger woman, then she would be almost certain that she could take me away from my wife. I didn't disagree with her. But this is what I meant about being on the winning side of AWALT: I don't have any fucks to give. My life is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:44 PM
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Great question. Here's a couple from the list. Get rid of the remaining loose skin mini muffin top at my abs and shoot for an over 40 six pack. Use the money I have more wisely to directly support my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:38 PM
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i find this admission utterly amazing. Tell me about it. Me too. I'm still not 100% sure that I am understanding it correctly. At the time I maintained composure but inside I was like WTF.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:29 PM
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Solid point. And a great clarification that it wasn't her realizing that I'm suddenly awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 04:27 PM
7

I don't know if easier is the right word. More internalized maybe. Habit is a powerful thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 02:39 PM
1

Solid post. Not talking about Fight Club is serious business. I recently saw what happened to these guys: http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/01/jared-rutledge-pickup-artist-c-v-r.html And I agree that Trump is alpha AF but also an idiot. I couldn't even convince myself to vote. For anyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 02:17 PM
6

humble brag overdose?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:05 PM
1

"He told me that I should look to be with someone who wasn't so abusive. " GOLD.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 10:38 AM
1

Nope. I like oral sex too. +1 and a lol
/r/askMRP15/05/17 10:24 AM
2

Mine genuinely appreciates when I call her this, including the fuck off attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 04:12 PM
1

Movies have helped me a lot on my journey. "Patton" was one of those movies. Even Jesus completely lost his shit with the money changers. Anger is ok and not always synonymous with loss of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 08:47 PM
1

Sounds about right to me. And yes, I as well have lacked what would be called Social Intelligence. A price was paid and now I'm working on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 10:45 AM
2

I think it's age partly. People at my stage of life aren't doing the things I'm doing but I'm the one who would be considered "behind" by the masses. I've made loneliness my best friend and maybe that's as good as it gets. I find myself asking "Is this it? Have I arrived?" and then I think Hell No.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 01:56 AM
2

Maybe that's part of it. MRP has placed me in the lower 20%. 80% don't see the world as I do. Now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 01:52 AM
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First OYS in a long time. The good: Work is great. Woman has never been happier and tells me so. Dread has done its magic. Finances are headed in the right direction. Fitness is holding steady - Iron temple is my savior. I haven't looked this good in 15 years. The bad and ugly: Internal game is way off. Feelings of failure that life passed me by. Struggling to build a healthy social life. Feel excluded and without real friends. Guys my age have lives with children. Guys younger don't fully conne…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 11:09 AM
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If/when they finally get clean, they have a ton of emotional catching up to do, and it's the hardest thing in the world for them. Hell yes. It is. That's not a complaint. Just a fact. And I was Type II. Over. And over. Repeatedly. Girl after girl. From 25-42 years old. In many ways, this place has been the "magic" bullet for me except there was no magic because I had to work for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 02:37 AM
3

Words are womans tools. This is awesome.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 08:19 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 07:14 PM
1

Initiate whenever you want and then learn from what transpires. Success or failure. Timing matters and was one of the more recent revelations to me, post improvement. The final hard no's I received were the result of my own inappropriate attempts. Your wife is not a hooker. Yeah sounds obvious but I possess idiocy in the third degree.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 01:35 PM
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Any woman that remains present after a suicide attempt is a huge case of "mommy is routing for you." Fix your shit and the relationship might survive. Be prepared for the long haul. Keep the focus on YOU.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 01:30 PM
1

I don't have an answer for you. If you don't find MRP helpful, that's fine. I do.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 10:56 PM
1

K
/r/askMRP02/05/17 10:49 PM
1

MRP is exactly that to me. You do you.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 12:39 PM
1

Is there an actual sub where it isn't populated by angsty children? Yes.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 10:54 AM
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He IS correct. Women are in tune with an emotional force field. Mistaking a comfort test for a shit test is a common failure and always yields very bad results. Learn from it and move forward.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 10:41 AM
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That's the idea. Early on STFU and DGAF are your friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 04:59 PM
1

The key is do not directly attempt to fix her emotional state.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 02:01 PM
1

And the book by Marshall McLuhan is a good read albeit very intellectual and nothing directly to do with RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:47 AM
1

Step 0. LIFT.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:41 AM
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"I understand." I use it often these days. Powerful words if they come from a strong frame. EDIT: even more useful is "I understand how you feel."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/17 10:39 AM
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One of your next challenges might be: NOT telling her you're sorry for "coming clean." Fuck sake do NOT even think about doing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 11:41 PM
1

Me three.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 11:38 PM
1

Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 11:38 PM
1

http://www.masculinity-movies.com/movie-database
/r/askMRP24/04/17 01:14 AM
1

Was covered by insurance mostly lol. Given that I didn't have MRP, there may have been something worthwhile about it only because I was a total fucking pussy and clueless weak sauce chumps need all the help they can get. Marriage counseling is the sign that the marriage ship is approaching an iceberg, but the counselor usually enjoys the show and makes it take longer and prolong the inevitable because then the cunts get paid more and have a better power trip - which can buy a man some time to gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/17 01:21 AM
2

Lots of good advice above. Two word answer? HOLD FRAME.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 01:27 PM
2

I searched dumbbell workouts on bodybuilding dot com and chose among the higher rated exercises to add. I do new ones periodically to keep things interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 04:42 PM
1

Damn you're probably right. I've always wanted to get blown on the couch... by a therapist.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:41 PM
1

True story.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:28 PM
1

Sadly no. I would have accepted her offer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:24 PM
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Counselor was a woman and she could obviously sense the change in me before I had even internalized it myself. That was early on and it took a bit longer to be on more solid ground but getting fired made it possible by necessity. It was still pretty epic.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:19 PM
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never thought about it that way Yeah. Being sexually frustrated seems preferable because then a man might be quicker to search for answers. Getting and then losing top shelf women is a bummer for sure and made the answer more elusive. Plus as you get stronger it can be cumbersome (or difficult to find in gym) heavy enough dumbbells. The gym has up to 50lb. I think I'm good for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:16 PM
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Indeed. That's going to take some time as there is a shitload of loose skin from being a chode.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 01:35 PM
2

Damn you helped me lots and I forgot you on the list. 10s are the hottest supermodel looking gal. Is this really what you're saying? If so, how did you accomplish this in your previous sperge life? Yes. I was a touring musician. When you're on stage in front of hundreds or in some cases thousands, there is no need to know that game exists, which can actually be a unknown liability. There were only 2 at that extreme level of hotness. Both bailed quickly and/or cheated on me lol. Are you still usi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 01:28 PM
3

getting blown is all the attaboys you need lol Fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 01:08 PM
2

16% as of right now using the Navy calculator.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 01:02 PM
2

See my post history.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 12:04 AM
2

I like Iron John a lot but it's theory, not practice. Knowing the key is under the mother's pillow is good but unguided Iron John might look a lot like anger phase. Same deal with KWML. Good stuff but without lifting and RP truths, it can become weak ass pontification. Look forward to reading your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/17 11:41 PM
1

+1
/r/askMRP13/04/17 07:15 PM
2

Truth.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 01:27 AM
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Captain Save a Ho. I've been there. My condolences. Do that work and re-evaluate later.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 01:26 AM
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Mediation didn't do much for my anger. Lift. Anger is not controlled. It's released... into iron. You're missing something and slacking off somewhere. What dread level are you at? I'm no MRP poster child but at almost a year in, I have had massive gains that seem to be absent for you. Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 01:24 AM
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I missed the 7 figure salary part. Jesus. OP: improve, game, replace. Next.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 01:18 AM
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Awesome. Good job mitigating risk enough to make this post. Question: At what point do you tell them you're married? -In the online profile? -While chatting in app? -During text game? -After meeting - does a drink wind up in your face?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/17 03:59 AM
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Hey those clothes need washed or the floor needs swept. She does the things and doesn't give any gruff when I tell her. OP is approaching leadership.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:14 AM
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Doing your fair share? What the fuck you think this is, equality? Reality check. You're a pussy. It's ok. Lift. Then do keep doing everything again anyway. Organize. Plan. Lead. Strategize. Make shit happen. And you will do this better than her because you have a Y chromosome that is currently not in use. And you will learn not be a little bitch about it. Then and only then will she ask permission to help with the dishes because she's filled with dread that you only need her for watching her lic…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:11 AM
1

I like it. I was gonna say 9 & 1/2 months. That's when it set in with me. Now I'm the one thinking about doing dumb shit like bogey referred to.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 10:12 PM
1

Cool ranch. My favorite.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 09:58 PM
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My childhood would have been very different had my father known this. Unhappy mothers take out their angry disappointment at men on their sons. He had been brainwashed but did his best. It's too late for him but not for me. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 11:13 AM
2

Read The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. But not without some red pill theory foundation. That book was my entrance, and inadvertently threw gasoline on my beta flames. .02.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 11:07 AM
2

or it may be that your LTR is expecting you to be butthurt, due to your reaction in the past. For me it was almost always the latter and occasionally still is.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 12:04 PM
1

Damn Auto correct.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 12:02 PM
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Brother. Don't drop the ball and be the last one to find out your life was IS awesome. Lift. Stay fit. Read sidebar. Improve. Carpe Diem motherfucker. You're already winning and can't see it. Read Mark Manson's article "Stop Trying to be Happy"
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:52 AM
1

Wow that was awesome. Good morning!!
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:44 AM
1

Wow. That is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 09:06 PM
1

Information is not knowledge. Knowledge is not wisdom. Wisdom is not truth. Truth is not beauty. Beauty is not love. Love is not music. Music is THE BEST. ~Frank Zappa Awesome post.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 09:43 PM
1

That book has been in my wish list on audible for a while now. I think this comment was my tipping point. Sounds about what I could use right now.
/r/askMRP26/03/17 05:55 PM
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I am battling similar urges. Post improvement. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. RP is not moral. But there is a compass however the man chooses to follow it. If fact being able to cheat is where you have the most power. Don't forget that. If strange really is that attractive consistently then maybe you have other addictive disorders to sort out. Same goes for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 06:40 PM
1

Don't break her frame. Build YOUR frame. There is no try.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 10:34 AM
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Boom!
/r/askMRP23/03/17 10:32 AM
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This. The HBs at work - I go out of my way to avoid.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:58 PM
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Yes. And the exact same thing before and after MRP, actually isn't the same at all. There is a world of difference between choreplay and ownership. Frame. Do something because she likes it - beta faggot fail. Do something because it's awesome or needs doing - failure is impossible. Only improvement matters. The thing itself doesn't matter. This pitfall can persist when, after a change, she is still accustomed to reaction from her complaints, and it takes time for her to see that it ain't about h…
/r/askMRP15/03/17 01:54 PM
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You're a total pussy. I was too. It's not ok, but might become so, if you keep at it. I skimmed the post and here are the failures I noted: Texting is for logistics only and... You are failing to lead. That laundry thing sounds like a cluster fuck. Sort that shit out. Organize your life as though you were single. Do not rely on her for anything, and then be amazed when she steps up her contributions. Once that happens you can direct her. I had a lot to do this past weekend, mine tried to make it…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:52 PM
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Yup. After I just started dealing with everything and stopped being a little faggot and killed my covert contracts, eventually she was in awe of my self sufficiency and then she got covertly afraid and started to ask permission when she thought she ought to do the dishes or whatever. It was beautiful. Most responsible teenager in the house. Craving a leader. AWALT.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 01:12 AM
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+1
/r/askMRP13/03/17 01:05 AM
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There is no reset. Fact. I never had one. There can be a main event, which is the largest in a longer series of events with slightly decreasing intensity, as long as the man's self motivated improvement continues. There are turning points though. I'll never forget the day mine said "I'm gonna have to stop being a bitch."
/r/askMRP13/03/17 01:04 AM
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Just like she will most likely not initiate sex in a manner portrayed in porn. I lol'd at this because early on with a bad case of Rambo, I thought she was supposed to and cocked blocked myself like an idiot. There is nothing like a woman in acquisition mode. A well satisfied wife can only get close. At best.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 12:59 AM
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Nobody understands wanting to go back and re-set the past like a clean addict. Amen.
/r/askMRP12/03/17 07:45 PM
2

Just revisited this post cuz I'm ok to keep a grill on my porch at the apartment complex now. Weber coming up soon. Stoked. I used a Forman for a while - those things suck balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/17 09:57 PM
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Totally agree in principle but I have found that sometimes the "how" can be modified to achieve greater result without being supplicating. It's a case by case basis.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 02:22 PM
2

In the KWML archetypes, each one has shadow polarities. The King shadows are "weakling" and "tyrant". OP is now the latter. When I reclaimed my power, I swayed too far as well and I think some degree of this unavailable as a man learns to balance the two. Find your balance. She doesn't want a boss but rather: a leader - a true king, and she is shit testing you by making a mockery of what she desires.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 01:39 PM
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da fuq? You bought a girl flowers on women's day? {{facepalm}} Take care of you bro. You are could be the prize. Airline Stewardess rule of life... for those who want to N-close her.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 09:55 PM
2

If you drop your sparring partner for shadowboxing, you will not become a fighter. This is some MRP gold right here. +1
/r/askMRP08/03/17 06:28 PM
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Congratulations, you're the winner.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 03:35 PM
2

OP. This. Wtf.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 03:27 PM
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I've been attending some professional networking events I don't count those types of things because there are specific expectations about my behavior. It isn't purely social. run out to the bar by myself at times. I love doing this to run game on strange, but the opportunity and inspiration rarely strike simultaneously. It's very hard to make new friends as an adult in a new area. So much yes. Dudes I used to work with are the best pool for me because there are no more employment boundaries to k…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 02:52 PM
2

So much this. Same here. Wish my dad had been able to teach me this. One day I snapped and went ballistic on a few kids. Over the top bad Rambo inspired violence. Basically no one fucked with me after that but I still didn't understand the male social matrix so I played the "crazy" card, which is not strength - it's weaponized despair and still beta.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 12:25 PM
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Solid. When I read The Nine Laws and divided my life into seven areas, I took a good look at them like a map and made goals and action plans to pursue the specific areas that have meaning for me. Am I "there" yet? Hell no, if I were, then what is my life for? One area where I found myself to be lacking is a genuine social life. I have a life of my own and go out alone often but these times are usually based around professional pursuits, which are not my current vocation, so this week I'm going o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 12:16 PM
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On it. This is a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 12:37 AM
1

Love this. I'm constantly evaluating my "stuff"and keeping it minimum. It's a constant battle and will always welcome opportunity to do more of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 12:35 AM
1

Done. Circumstance completed half my work for me this evening.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 01:11 AM
1

I don't think I'd have cared that much anyway. I don't believe you... because you mentioned porn and "harsh words."
/r/askMRP03/03/17 12:42 PM
2

Happy frame is not the same as "gay" I know a body builder guy who is always smiling yet nobody in their right mind would ever fuck with him.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 12:35 PM
1

Winning.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 12:03 AM
1

Thanks man. If I were still a pussy, I would look at guys like you and think "why bother, I'll never catch up" but it's not about you or anyone else anymore, and I'm not a pussy anymore. It's about me and my metrics as part of the pack. The Way Of Men is the way of the gang, and right now this is it. Just knowing that dudes like you have children gives me hope for the future. My opportunity for a traditional life is gone because I fucked it up, and I've never felt more ok about that than I do ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 11:38 PM
1

I know what it is. I have faced it. There is a process to rebuild it. Following through on every step as the time comes. Lists, whiteboard in the war room, (as described in New World Ronin - already read it last month) and E3D are the path. I'm on it. 100 before EOD. EDIT: every single example 1-6 was there in my past (recent past for some of them) and has been crushed and burned with my ship.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 06:22 PM
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40 + 30 + 15 + 15 = 100 Already tracking goals E3D as outlined in The Nine Laws. Was following up one one short term goal until I just got home now to see this glorious post. Let's do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:52 AM
2

This type of question would not be asked by a man who had not approached. OP's experience is implicit in the tone, although I can understand how the pure content could warrant thinking it was just an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 01:59 PM
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Not because you are just trying to get a dopamine spike. Yep but my body gives me the dopamine spike anyway. It's biology - that has become an additional side effect with addictive potential, and an unnecessary one because... Next thing I know she's in the bathtub crying, scared that I'm going to abandon her. I got one of these recently as well. I provided comfort and afterward she's asking me to please make love to her. Stone keeps saying let the wife deal with the relationship or some shit lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 11:51 AM
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At a certain point I'm supposing that it could be excessive and damaging to your master plan. I couldn't agree more. Something has been bothering me about the way I interpret reading MRP lately and what I allow it to inspire in me - the issue is me, not the content... and what I'm doing is exactly what you describe in the post. I have the disease of more and: just because I can, doesn't mean I should - in fact being in this position of power, of having options, is what I lacked the entire time. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 11:38 AM
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Passing comfort tests (when they start coming after some improvement) is every bit as important as passing shit tests. A real mindfuck for me was seeing how my behavior in some cases could be the same as before I improved, but because my mindset was different [Frame] the result was alpha provider and not beta chump. For example: cooking dinner. Before: do you like it honey? I want you to think I'm a good man like Pussy McFaggot. After: do you like it honey? I have an awesome life that I share wi…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 07:12 PM
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Exactly. I feel = comfort test You always = shit test Pretty basic and once internalized requires little thought. It just happens.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 02:47 PM
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Damn you're good. Well said.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 02:42 PM
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Thanks for the info. That's what I thought and better I know the truth.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 10:48 PM
2

For the first year ever I didn't get anything for my wife for V-Day. I did the same. In hindsight, it was a bit Rambo for me to attempt rollback to being a skittles guy after I'm already committed. She asked me out, bought dinner and gave me a card. I had nothing... and by the end of the night she was being a harpy bitch. Next year I would handle it as OP suggests.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 11:12 AM
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Fact.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 09:55 PM
2

Read WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 07:37 PM
1

Fuck yeah I'm stealing that. Ditto.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 04:49 PM
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1.) I do believe this is possible and have seen hints of it as I continue to improve. It's not the Disney shit. It's real. Age is big factor. But I'm the one who took down the scoreboard by living my life as though I were single, and sharing it with her, which means... 2.) As far as I can tell, it's 99% leadership. She saw a copy of "First Kill All the Marriage Counselors" and asked to read it - but only got through a couple chapters. Unless I choose to father children someday, she is the closes…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 10:47 PM
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I married a post-menopause while I was BP, and this is spot on... to a point. She is slightly more motivated to make "rational" decisions and I didn't factor that in to my MRP journey as much as I could have until a conversation that she initiated very recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/17 10:28 PM
1

one of them was a convicted murder who tortured and killed a reported gay man. Truth. These are the types of toxic people you need to be leading your wife away from. Yes. Leading is the key word here. DEER (explaining) doesn't work.
/r/askMRP12/02/17 02:10 PM
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Pure A&A didn't work very well for me in this area. But that's my wife not OPs. It just made her feel worse. I treat it as a comfort test because she's saying "I feel..." not "you always..." In my mind, I thought she was talking about me, because I'm a man but she wasn't talking about me. Rational thought is not relevant. The one time she did say "you" - I set off a shit storm with my reply and had to wait it it out. I briefly wondered if I'd said the wrong thing but wasn't gonna feel guilt for …
/r/askMRP12/02/17 01:52 PM
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I was in a very similar situation recently. See my post history. The corrective path I've taken is It only matters if I give a fuck. Lead her away from the horrible mental anguish and powerlessness that progressive liberalism instills in the mind of the sufferer, but not overtly. Logic and reason do not work. Do not discuss it. Do not agree to disagree - it shouldn't even get that far in a conversation. Instead be the oak. Listen to her whine about the patriarchy and how men like you who care fo…
/r/askMRP12/02/17 01:17 PM
3

I'm 300 days in. The improvement has been consistent but yes there were minor setbacks and peaks and valleys. I agree with the sentiment in other comments that you might be Rambo-ing it too much. An important question is how long were you beta? Career or otherwise? I realized that I had been beta since long before I got married. I got oneitis real bad at 25 years old and let my dick go limp. So... I took the "1 month per year of marriage" formula and applied it as "1 month per year of beta-ness"…
/r/askMRP10/02/17 10:02 PM
2

And I hope OP has read WISNIFG when then shaming language starts.
/r/askMRP10/02/17 09:49 PM
3

Do not address her emotions rationally. She is not looking for a solution or answers. She wants an oak tree where she can express her feelings without a man trying to analyze them. EDIT: and stop trying to overtly make her jealous. She's on to your bitch game and it ain't helping. Dread Level 8 is for when... you are at Dread Level 8. You aren't even close.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:40 PM
1

So good. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:19 PM
4

If she died tomorrow, what would you do? Go do that. OP: I can hardly describe how much improvement took place when I did this. She literally asks permission to do the dishes now.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 04:01 PM
1

Her branch swing fuse is getting ready to nuke. And you are her beta bucks plan B. She could find a Chad quickly. Get your head together asap. Lift. Go to the gym. Don't tell her too much. STFU. Read sidebar as if your future depended on it because it does.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 12:13 PM
2

She has threatened to break up multiple times This is what we call "mommy is cheering for you" - She is craving to be lead and wishes it could be you. I would have probably broken up. Nope. You lacked the power. It was she who would have left you. Understand this clearly. Now that she is moving here from another country "because of me" Women love opportunistically. Learn that. Know it. Get stronger and you'll be able to love it. I want to give it a shot. This is the only part that matters. What …
/r/askMRP07/02/17 12:07 PM
3

Shit. I was gonna say what you said. My bankruptcy will be clean this year and it was a good thing! Not so for OP due to issues I was not aware of. OP, I tend to agree with BPP. Most guys, myself included would be out the door after infidelity but this situational anger could be like a memory leak in software - fixable with great strain - but an edge case to say the least and OP's mind is the battlefield. OP, you don't owe her anything and based upon the unique situation, I would not consider OP…
/r/askMRP04/02/17 07:24 PM
1

Parts therapy for 6+ months weekly, and before him a CBT guy who was the quiet type for 6 months as well. Over a year total. I had NMMNG exercises written which I also shared here on MRP while being careful of disclosure and doxxing. Also a book called Facing Codependence which had a companion workbook. That shit helped. The second guy was beta as hell and I was already seeing him when I showed up here. As I put MRP into practice, I had to make sure I didn't red knight him but in spite of that, …
/r/askMRP04/02/17 06:11 PM
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That kind of shit comes from your past. How do I know? Because I am the product of a moderately dysfunctional family system. Moderately does not mean "it wasn't that bad" moderately means "it was very hard to see and acknowledge." The way I got out of the woods was by connecting the dots between childhood misery and maladaptive behaviors that had continued into adulthood... with a decent therapist and lot of self motivation. It sucked. My ego and pride hated it. But things are better now.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 11:10 AM
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Gracias to you and /u/FireTempered and /u/UEMcGill for the big smile on my face right now. McFuckless.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 03:15 AM
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Sounds like trouble with self acceptance. Ideally one can be comfortable with their weaknesses. The A&A suggestions here were good. And I'll add: It's not on the side bar and not MRP but Nathaniel Brandon's The Six Pillars of Self Esteem might help. There are sentence completions to help get to the bottom of the problem. Self Acceptance is one of the Six Pillars. You're not good at math? Who gives a fuck. If you do give a fuck, doing the self acceptance sentence completions might help remove the…
/r/askMRP03/02/17 01:15 AM
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better than I was the week before. Yep. When I started to only judge myself, not as compared to others, is when the momentum kicked in.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 12:44 PM
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It's ok to have empathy and still stay in your own frame... I realized this recently and have taken corrective action. There is great power is the phrase "I understand..." - if it's spoken with frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 11:38 AM
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I like this approach. It's neither cucked nor Rambo if done with frame and ownership.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:47 PM
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Envelope method ftw. I sat down with my wife and figured out her monthly personal expenses including some reasonable flexible spending . She gets that much. The remainder goes into the joint account which she does not touch without asking and I tell her where that money gets spent. Funny thing is that now she doesn't even care enough to look. When I first did this I was a dick about it and cut her access off. Because I had to. Eventually the trust increased on both sides because she remained res…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:44 PM
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Do not give ultimatums. That's weakness. Telling her what the consequences are, for a guy in your position is like daring her, even asking her to cross the line.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 12:38 PM
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/u/prarrott be mindful of this comment. It's gold and alludes to bullshit behavior of my own before I got here. Past behavior makes future change more difficult because she will throw it in your face, and she should. Choose your battles wisely, if you're not ready to hold this weight now - then don't do it, or you'll have to recover from injuring your frame further down the line, but there will be scar tissue: Iron Rule #7 will loom closer.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 11:43 AM
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Right now tonight might not be the best time to do that, but do it as soon as possible. Perhaps just a delay in getting the damned couches would help explain to her why a child is more important than furniture. My wife gets a budgeted allowance from our joint account (we each have individual accounts and one to pay bills out of) and it's the best thing that happened to both of us even though she fought it most of the way. Now she thanks me often for sorting out the finances etc. That and... fuck…
/r/askMRP31/01/17 03:27 AM
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Regret is totally counter productive without action based upon rational analysis of reality. Not feelings. What do you want to change and why? What can you change and what must you accept? If she's really as good as you could ask for, then count your blessings. Epictetus - "The Art Of Living" helped me sort out a lot of what I thought was regret.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 07:05 PM
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I would need proof to believe it.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 06:56 PM
2

Glad you posted this because as much as I liked the related post... the Rambo is real.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 09:23 PM
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Boundaries are for defense, not offense. Well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 09:21 PM
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Women dont apologize is a myth Confirmed. I will never forget the first time my wife apologized to me. Everything I had learned from MRP was actually true. And it was exactly like this: after she did something unacceptable to me, I just bailed - phone blew up and I held frame for maybe the first time in my life. Then the apology came without being prompted.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 04:58 PM
1

I'm on that path since last April. Much improved and close to what you describe at times.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 04:13 AM
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Western Civilization after 1900 has been a Failed Shit Test. Well said. Brought a smile to my face despite the gravity of it. ...and good on you for the Mark Passio links.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 02:17 AM
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If she's been indoctrinated by feminism Number of women I've met in the US who weren't? Zero. I'm not 100% sure that men can be great again until most of what we consider civilization collapses. Maybe I'm a nihilist. I hope you are correct. Keep up the great work. Really appreciate your blog.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 02:09 AM
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she has no idea this is how I run our lives. She's happy, but she has no idea why. Idealistically I could ask for more, but this arrangement is realistic, and not as bad as it could be, given acceptance of how far the world has tried to go astray from natural law.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 02:04 AM
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I have zero evidence to the contrary, and believing this statement to be true actually makes it easier to plan an awesome life without wasting any time looking for fairy tales.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 01:40 AM
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This has worked wonders for me. My daily routine is solid now and when external circumstances disrupt it as life does occasionally, I feel disrupted and have to get back on track asap. Small breakfast. Exercise. Reading. Contemplation. Daily Meditation books. List making/time management. Without these my days are much less productive. In my younger years I was the exact opposite, refusing routine, and as a result wasted much time
/r/RedPillWorkplace28/01/17 09:03 PM
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I'm really glad I read here about what gaslighting is and not at all those feminist web sites. She accused me of it, and in this case, the accusation of gaslighting is itself gaslighting because facts are facts and I know what I know. I was actually considering a rational concerned discussion with her about it. Nope. Frame will remain mine.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/17 08:32 PM
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Yes. This morning. A woman gaslighted me by accusing me of gaslighting. That's how I wound up here reading this thread after searching. Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill28/01/17 08:27 PM
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Thanks for this. My Fitbit scale has been telling me mid 20's and I figured it was wrong. It is. Navy calculator says I'm fit at 16%.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 03:39 PM
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start listening to MGTOW videos on your computer where she can hear. I lol'd at this. Look forward to listening. Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 02:46 AM
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"fry her circuits." It is a PUA term but it absolutely works, once she's been fried and I weather the storm its back to business as usual. I have not heard that term. Thanks. And now that I no longer have to fear the boogeyman, let's see how it goes.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 06:25 PM
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No you didn't. You are not the first to declare that statement as "the DEER that wasn't." Valuable feedback. State your belief I do this almost to the point where backfires in certain situations. Timing is among the 48 Laws that I must master. it's just a covert contract If I were to expend patience with the expectation of sex (which is clearly her strategy) then yes it would be a covert contract. But all of this brings me back to my core lesson: Too many fucks were given and underneath those fu…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 06:19 PM
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A logical hypothesis but inapplicable. She has not pulled anything so extreme before, and outside of her other family members is mostly non feminist. Curveball? Yes.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 03:36 PM
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What is the nefarious consequence? Nothing I wouldn't be able to handle. And right here is the point I missed: unwarranted fucks given are the result of unseen fear.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 02:55 PM
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Fuck. Yes. I'm so grateful for MRP, where not only can men point out my areas of weakness but where I've learned to become strong enough to accept it without self pity or righteousness. The point about cognitive dissonance is solid. Conclusion: -Too many of my fucks were given. -Choose my fucks wisely.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 02:18 PM
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nuke that right there and say she can take or leave her sex as she may, she decides what to bring into the relationship, I'll decide if it's worth my time. I've gone that route previously with great success in different circumstances. However the intensity of this event threw me off balance and my failure snowballed - including the missed opportunity you disclose. A little butthurt here? Sounds like "oh yeah? Well other people want me I'll show you." I'll take it. "Sounds like" being the qualifi…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 02:05 PM
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Boring Ya sounds it from my description. It's actually one of the places where IOI from the waitresses has yielded solid dread. no point discussing it at all Yeah that's my take away from the interaction.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 11:06 AM
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Iron Rule 1, 7 may apply here. She knows other women would fuck me. I wonder if I have to do it so she knows I would.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 11:02 AM
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I don't think this was a wrong move. Interesting point. It was DEER no doubt but I was talking to her like I'd talk to some cunt who got in my face at a bar. Yes, I wanna be like Trump, I will get a haircut like his! This is a skill level I lost possession of at the time. You are sounding like a prostitute now. How much do I need to tolerate to get anal? lol this is gold and exactly what I needed. Had I delivered it with a smile, I would have gotten sucked off in short order. c.) pass shit tests…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 03:29 AM
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When it comes to your girl, why do you give a fuck? I haven't given fucks since I realized how pointless political discussions are but there was something different about this incident that I can't quite describe. She's not going to leave you for a male feminist. Of course not but I don't want to instigate any of this again (to the extent I have control over media brainwashing) nor do I want to see more of it, which leads to... Your problem is that you're giving too many fucks. You are probably …
/r/askMRP26/01/17 03:19 AM
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When it comes to your girl, why do you give a fuck? I haven't given fucks since I realized how pointless political discussions are, but there was something more extreme about this incident that I can't quite describe. She's not going to leave you for a male feminist. Of course not, but I don't want to instigate a similar scenario. Nor do I want to see much of this again which leads to... Your problem is that you're giving too many fucks. You are probably correct and that's as good a place as any…
/r/askMRP26/01/17 03:16 AM
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No but It's in my reading list several titles down. I will get to it eventually.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 10:02 PM
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Classic. I have lived this almost verbatim.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 10:01 PM
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umm... sounds about right. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 09:59 PM
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I know guys in their 70's with enough game to land new younger women. You could get your chance if you need it. Right now I would focus on the wife for the reasons stated. But RP is amoral. Do what you want. I've decided that spinning plates is not the life that I want right now.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 05:08 PM
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Yep. Things changed for the better on the day I decided to make loneliness my best friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 03:56 PM
1

I agree. Certainly in my case, but ultimately it depends upon the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 02:24 PM
1

And what you are both saying is inspirational epic truth. Fire!!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 02:16 PM
1

The title sounds troll because it's so absurd. But the content? Not at all.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 10:29 AM
1

omg lulz
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:54 AM
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Wicked. Subtle A&A, I gonna steal it and use it.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:51 AM
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It's like a switch went off I her head. Same switch went off in my wife's head on Saturday night after she soaked up social media rants about "the march" or whatever the fuck it was. Nuclear shit test. She said things about me I couldn't believe: white men (who provide for her) are part of problem and should feel guilty because we just don't get it - I must be a racist white nationalist (incorrect) and am probably part of the alt right (incorrect) blah blah. I fucked it up and DEERed saying I wo…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:34 AM
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Do not underestimate the power of mass media mind control.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:04 AM
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Picking a tribe is often a crutch to having strength. Comfort and purpose is something a man can give, but not something he can find. Women and kids get comfort, we just get two hands and a brain wired for risk taking I'm not sure you realize how brilliant this is and more importantly, how it has helped to start resolving a recent war in my head over how to handle a woman enraged with liberalism that is misdirected at her lover and provider - I have comfort and purpose to give, and am willing to…
/r/askMRP24/01/17 02:37 AM
1

SGM is awesome. DEVI is your friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 01:25 AM
2

Next up, Sex God Method. Game changer.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 01:23 AM
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Bro you need a lawyer in your state, not guys from MRP. It likely cannot be legally yours if it's her name but could be half yours... ** depending on where you live and state laws.** Get a lawyer.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 12:17 AM
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I found this place at 45. In the midst of a decaying second marriage. Everything will be ok brother. Stop being weak. Channel this anger. Sounds like you are.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 11:28 PM
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Holy. Shit.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 04:34 AM
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one past relationship + virgin (religious so no sex), attractive, previous scarring from cheating (ie, cheated by first relationship+brother's divorce), happy family with no childhood trauma, ok with traditional roles, not lazy, etc. I sometimes imagine a snowflake with a "good" history like this, but AWALT, I've never even met one. Thanks for the info.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 01:54 AM
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Fucking married women after you get divorce helps This is great stuff right here. I like the sound of it. If I am ever there. I will.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 01:42 AM
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I truly believe we are living in end times for many reason. You just gave me a few more. Bring it.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 01:38 AM
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I used to do that. Thinking out loud is deadly. Not only does she not give a shit about you or your thoughts but it makes it look like you've changed your mind when you simply haven't made a decision yet and that gives her a extra ammo for brutal shit tests. Even when you have made a decision - acta non verba. STFU applies. Avoid TMI. Strong silent type is a cliche for a reason.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 12:47 AM
1

Cool Hand Luke deleted his account.
/r/askMRP21/01/17 12:40 AM
1

At 20 years, you'd be a fool not to play for a while. That's a shit ton of alimony and if you don't improve then it'll just happen again with a new hottie.
/r/askMRP20/01/17 03:19 AM
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Yes but OP just showed up. I wanted to leave plenty of times and maybe Iron Rule #7 will still come calling but the gains are fun once I got moving.
/r/askMRP20/01/17 03:17 AM
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Having a place to go outside of the home. Office. Gym. Wherever. Is the best thing ever. Totally worth the expense. Superman had a fortress of solitude. And what happened to the world when he invited Lois over? A total shit show.
/r/askMRP20/01/17 03:15 AM
1

Boss man. This is great news.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/17 03:01 AM
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Confident men do not have to DEER. Stop. Do you even know what DEER is? Before your ego cock blocks you and you proceed to lose frame even worse than you already have, refer to the MRP sidebar, prepared by men who are more wise than you are currently. Order an electronic copy of the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" - make sure your wife does not see it. Do not talk about Fight Club. Start reading that book.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 11:07 AM
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"I'm no longer interested in scheduling sex. That's ridiculous. We'll fuck when we wanna fuck." HER: Why? [Broken Record] WISNIFG HER: "but I don't waaana cancel it!!!" YOU: "Then be ready the next time I slide my hand down your pants." She can feel your fear of not blowing a load and does not want the burden of power her pussy has over you.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 08:43 PM
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When my relationship was in turmoil, I set up date nights. Result was a big covert contract for me and lots of schedule pressure for her to keep her pussy dry. Consistent shit storm. One I day I said something like "date nights are gay, we'll go out when we feel like going out." She said "but what if I wanna go out and you don't?" I said "then we don't go out." No DEER.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 08:31 PM
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You should cancel the scheduled sex. OP. This. Genuine attraction is spontaneous.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 02:17 PM
1

^ the winning response imo
/r/askMRP15/01/17 08:02 PM
1

Yup.
/r/askMRP14/01/17 10:40 PM
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Ummm, I have to ask because I have never understood. Does a blowjob require a "sex drive?" Can't you derive pleasure from giving pleasure? Priceless. Exactly what I was thinking but you made it sound so eloquent.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 02:45 AM
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(f(woman) !== f(women)) true
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 01:50 AM
2

No place IRL exists to share gains. Another thing happened last night that I can hardly believe: we were having high grade sex - straight missionary drilling, and she's running her hands over my shoulders, forearms and back while describing the shape and feel of my more muscular build in a slutty voice. Afterward she looks up at me, eyes glistening and says: thank you for going to the gym all the time. I don't know what it is but the way you feel does something to me, and I love it. This can onl…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 10:56 PM
2

I remember the same turning point. Wife said to me: "I'm going to have to stop being a bitch."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:53 PM
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Approaching/Gaming ...is Dread Level 6-8. You are not there yet. Stop. You will stumble, fall, skin your knee and find no one here to give you a band aid. And STFU does not mean give her the silent treatment like a bitch would do. It means avoid TMI (too much information.) There's a recent post outlining the details. What are the first two rules of Fight Club?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:46 PM
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Maybe. For legit hipster status, his indy band must release their EP on cassette in 2017.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:50 PM
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I speak for my situation only. In person it would be perfect but over text might backfire.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:56 AM
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This is the wrong reply but I lol'd pretty hard at it.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 11:43 PM
2

Truth.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 11:41 PM
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I wonder how much sarcasm is lost on the internet?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 11:39 PM
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It was. And second nature. Amazing how hanging around here for a while does a man good. I have a lot less trouble just being who I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 11:38 PM
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I'm sure but what would my civilian ass know?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 11:34 PM
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Good for you!! Have a cookie. Now watch closely while I skip this invitation to DEER. I want you to hit me as hard as you can. EDIT: Stone is the guy who taught showed me how the male social matrix runs. I'm grateful for that and apparently they run it well in the Navy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 05:44 PM
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Failed. Because you knew it needed doing and that she couldn't do it... and then you did nothing. Be a Man. When you already possess testicles it's actually easier than being a bitch.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 05:00 PM
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Simple. For the next two days: be "Happy Frame Guy" Fake it til you make it. Then after you get back from vacation do a hard reset and check yourself before you wreck yourself.
/r/askMRP08/01/17 02:12 PM
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She certainly did think that, and with good reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 02:57 AM
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A solid post full of value. It wasn't immediately obvious to me because I was an idiot, but I still figured out pretty quick that STFU in practice means avoid TMI. Men are of few words and I used to talk like a bitch and speak waaay too many details about my thoughts and plans, my day, my emotions etc. I actually thought she gave a shit or was at least supposed to give a shit - thinking like that leaves a hell of a mess.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 02:30 AM
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Yep. And in my case, I'd been weak sauce for long enough that even when I was genuinely not butt hurt, she would assume I was (because I had been so often for so long) and act accordingly. It took a long time to make a dent in the cluster fuck I'd created.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 02:22 AM
2

Yes. IOIs pre boarding, then chatted her up across the aisle.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 11:03 PM
2

That's your answer. This is the question I would have.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 08:44 PM
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I am that guy and this post was timely and brilliant. I'm at 30,000 feet right now headed home and N-closed on the way out. Target was single though and situation was therefore not nearly as epic as this FR. Delivered my line whilst retrieving baggage from carousel. The part that should not have surprised me was how the target didn't give a shit that I was obviously married. Even when theory and practice match perfectly - they're not the same. Knowing and seeing are two different things.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 08:28 PM
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You can't start from where you are. You need to start from zero. This is awesome. Fact. The day I realized I was a needy little bitch living vicariously through asking the guys I called friends to make my life decisions for me, is the day I decided that loneliness is the best friend I ever had. The decision felt counter-intuitive but it was among the most valuable changes I've made since showing up here and it has little to do with RP directly, but is a solution to the common thread of validatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 05:02 PM
1

Some heady compliments for the professor.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 04:30 PM
1

Best movie ever. I work at Initech.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 04:26 PM
2

Awesome advice. I took a similar approach while taking control of the treasury and it worked exactly as you describe: I explained everything clearly and calmly but she still couldn't completely understand why until she experienced the gains. Delayed Gratification is the only sensible way to live and I think it's outlined well in The Road Less Traveled.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 03:45 PM
1

some lulz to start my day.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 02:32 PM
1

This is dangerous advice for newbies who have been drunk captains in an LTR, read this and decide to implement it overnight. Fact. The verbiage stinks like Rambo. It's MRP without the M.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 04:37 PM
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Yep. I still found value in the post as a reference though: for evaluating some of my prior (bad) decisions. The post explained why I am stretched to the very limit of my patience, given the number of red flags that BP me ignored.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 04:35 PM
1

I couldn't agree more, but I made a distinction between the way OP his expressed his boundary suggestions as a man among men, and the way that expression of boundaries would be handled to a female. This is the M in MRP. When I took the Rambo out of the way OP dictated the rules in his post, most of what OP stated was spot on and valuable to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 04:32 PM
1

The key word here is "lead". I've lead mine to vast improvement over the disaster area that was her finances by taking control of the treasury, but I don't believe it would stay improved for very long if I were to leave. And yes there have been times when I needed a second opinion to back me up and I wish it hadn't annoyed me so much to need that, because you're right that it can happen sometimes but the second opinion wasn't a bad idea - my ego was in the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 04:28 PM
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I just wrapped up Practical Female Psychology and got a lot out of it. This synopsis is solid and I'm glad to see it added on the sidebar. The Red Queen is already in my reading list and I'm looking forward to it. Along with "civilization" comes the vulnerability for males to be blindsided by comfort and the hard realities of forgotten evolutionary biology. Female humans definitely do attempt to "kill" their mates after copulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 09:52 PM
2

Yes that's a good sign. You're at least as uninformed as I was when I showed up and probably in a better position, given that this happened. Keep your foot on the gas and don't let anything feed your ego. This was an unwarranted free pass.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 07:17 PM
2

one of the assholes who thought he was alpha because he was controlling You are not alone. I still have work to do in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 02:59 PM
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I love watching guys fuck her real hard and she likes it. My two cents is that even after giving this statement the benefit of all my doubts and possible objectivity, all I can see is... cuck.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 01:37 AM
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So good.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 12:25 AM
2

Awesome post. Humbled to see my name up there. I'm not sure exactly what I did to help you, other than show up here as an idiot and then do my best to improve and anonymously own my shit on the internet but that's how this place works ain't it? Fist bump.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 12:24 AM
1

She count Love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 12:12 AM
5

... avoid losing your cool next time and have clothes ready and take off to a bar or a parking lot and read a book- look toward productivity. Ignore the texts and come back in happy go lucky....... My favorite part of this clearly experienced advice is: Ignore the texts
/r/askMRP02/01/17 12:58 PM
1

The best way to put this behind you is to pretend it never happened. Her emotional memory is non existent and if when she tries to drag you back into her frame with emotional tornado - don't bite the hook.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 12:56 PM
1

It likely happened due to OP's delivery. I found over time with frustration that the more calm I was when setting boundaries the more effective the results. A man who can restrain his anger while still directly expressing it is more attractive. She already knows you're angry.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 12:53 PM
2

your wife is your gatekeeper of sex with her. Fact.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 12:45 PM
1

Fucking Awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/17 11:17 PM
3

3.5 is interesting. Perhaps I've over looked that (outside the bedroom) and have taken "live my life as if I were single" to a polar extreme.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/17 06:51 PM
1

Laminated index cards? That's hardcore. I love it.
/r/askMRP01/01/17 11:52 AM
1

My wife is my slutty woman. Last night I asked her: "who's little slut are you?" She replied "yours." And then I blew a big load inside her TFA has a blog post about this.
/r/askMRP01/01/17 11:49 AM
1

I believe the professor has found an answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 08:22 PM
2

If you can come up with Pussy McFaggot, I believe you're up to the task. I stand with /u/FireTempered - counting on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 08:20 PM
2

I remember 1 and 7 because they play off each other. I entered the relationship without frame. It would be easier to start anew. But this is hard mode so I've got to improve myself and unlock achievements before I have enough data to make an informed decision. EDIT: please don't even hint at referring to me as a true shitlord. My validation hamster will pee itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 08:04 PM
1

Rambone - Will it get me anal? Priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 01:50 PM
3

Hurrah. Some bed time reading. And I just looked back on my post from 197 days ago that prompted /u/[deleted] to rip me a new asshole and suggest that I not wind up like Alpha As Wolf. I'm really glad I was able to go back and read that. Faggots would do well to not get butt hurt and delete their posts. In fact: clinical trials have proven that not getting butt hurt leads to an increased probability of no longer being a faggot. I was so lost. It would be funny if it weren't so pathetic. I actual…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 05:37 AM
1

massively improving her own standard of living by not being married to a weak beta bitch. If she follows. She might be stupid... And then Iron Rule #7 will point back to where it started - Iron Rule #1.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 05:09 AM
2

Now at least I know why I'm sad I missed it. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 03:24 AM
7

"MRP was about men saving their relationships" Glad you're here. You realize this is bullshit, right? Men save themselves, and then everything else works out the way it was supposed to.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 03:18 AM
2

I've heard about him enough times to be sad I missed it. Whatever it was.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 01:36 AM
3

I just lol'd in a public place about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 01:29 AM
2

It's good to have goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 01:08 AM
5

Enjoyable for sure. I had one post that scurve tipped me off made me BP famous for day. Shitlord status is an unlock-able achievement. +1 for TFA.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 11:24 PM
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Red Knighting. Anonymous success rates are higher. I'm pretty sure a lotta guys from deadbedrooms wind up here and fix themselves, which benefits their marriages and the world in general. The plugged in do not approve because they're so enslaved they will fight to protect that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 11:18 PM
2

Possibly, but the approach you suggest is passive aggressive, therefore weak and not something a genuine leader would do. Wives are not plates. This is RP on hard mode and achievements can be unlocked.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 08:40 PM
1

Sometimes a fucktard needs to think for himself Profound ...and quotable.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 06:02 PM
2

OP: notice that a mod with flair had the best response. Remember that now... and also when you get called faggot.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 05:49 PM
5

But encourage her to go. Then STFU. There are a ton of ball dropping suggestions in the comments on this post. This is one of them. Instead: OP leads by giving her a better option? Crisis solved. Then OP has time to fix himself and make a more informed decision. pack her bags for her Ok Rambo. Way to nuke this without sufficient data.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 05:41 PM
5

This is a Rambo approach. It's doubtful that OP has the skill or experience level to hold frame like a champ, he also has no earned respect. If OP makes a plan of his own and invites her and she doesn't want to follow his lead... only then would a more covert expression of the disrespect level indicated be a wise move, but for the benefit of the wife. EDIT: Summary is OP needs to give a reason not to go. I'm not disagreeing with the facts stated in the comment, only the suggestion about how to e…
/r/askMRP29/12/16 05:23 PM
3

I'd go with a variation on option 2. But don't frame it as "reverse your decision" but instead make a new plan that you want to do and invite her. If she comes great and if she doesn't then also great. Do not order her around. Leadership is earned not demanded. Ultimatums come from a position of weakness. I think we have a case here of "mommy is rooting for him" - she sounds like a halfway decent woman who really wishes OP would grow a set. Her behavior indicates that she has not completely chec…
/r/askMRP29/12/16 04:19 PM
3

This is gonna sound dark but my opinion is: if your good parents are suggesting you can do better, then you can. And should. Or at least give this vetting plenty of time. Read a few posts over at /r/AlAnon and see if someone who has lived with that kind of misery is someone you want to be around. If so then you've got issues imo. Or maybe she just sucks good cock. I came from an alcoholic lineage. That shit is no fucking joke. The non drinkers are just as screwed up as the drinkers but in differ…
/r/askMRP27/12/16 02:54 AM
2

I got the accusation of having a girlfriend two days ago and read this the next day. The accusation happened after she became bitchy/disrespectful and I had returned home from going out for a nice dinner alone, which was preferable to being around an offensive woman. I didn't respond perfectly - A&A but without enough humor ("why would I have just one?") so it was basically active dread and not the right move as things got a bit heated (the interaction was a step back for me in most ways) and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/16 03:35 AM
1

Wut? lol - Is it available on Amazon? I searched "The Family Alpha" and got no results, which is why I asked. How can I buy a physical copy?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 11:36 PM
2

Yer a boss, TFA. I don't have kids and won't be doing so but... I got a cousin with a new baby and her husband just gained a bunch of weight - I'm watching him go beta. Yes Red Knighting is dangerous especially with family but this kid was Alpha as fuck when I was a total chode so I'm gonna do it, and your work is the place I've chosen to point him. If the TFA book is coming soon, I might wait but I think time is of the essence in this case because the baby is a boy. When is your book coming out…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 09:50 PM
4

This Steve McQueen is playing Cool Hand Luke. If you saw the movie - he is a perfect idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 07:07 PM
3

Can you see how easy it's been for men here to knock you squarely out of what little frame you have? I was a douche too and whined just like you but less so because I was learning how the male social matrix works. I had zero experience because I was a total pussy. Google "male social matrix" and read up. Am I the fucking man, now? Nope. But I've made progress on MY journey and know where I (ME) stand. There's movie called "Cool Hand Luke" starring an actor you may have heard of? ...and you're ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 07:05 PM
3

Don't DEER bro... pretty please?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 06:55 PM
1

Yes, because stupid questions reveal stupidity.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 05:35 PM
1

Boom.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 05:31 PM
1

I am only annoyed because she isn't doing the housewife thing as well as I expected. I hear that. But once I could see that mine had not just dropped the ball, but never even picked it up on the cooking front, and then I starting unfucking the eat out every night and have a 4 digit monthly food budget problem, things kick ass now: Leftovers all the time for lunch at work - better tasting, faster, cheaper, healthier. Budget is minimal because I actually carry the groceries home instead of having …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 12:46 AM
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I agree with your distinction about mate guarding. Mate guarding done right is a thing and like effective "communication" with females, it must be covert. Right Alpha, Right Time, Wrong Husband is my field report describing a circumstance where a storm of RP truths came open me, and although I didn't handle it perfectly, I did handle it effectively and successfully. Art of War is high up on my reading list. She's not mine, it's just my turn. Her calm after the storm indicated my success and I no…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 03:51 PM
4

Wow look at you. Aren't you special.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 12:09 AM
4

Do not read The Way of the Superior Man yet. I started there and it fucked my shit way up because I had no foundation. There are very few reasons why explained in that book and those reasons are the foundation of RP Truth. EDIT: if you read The Rational Male already then you might be ok.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 08:21 PM
2

Mommy is dead, Sir.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 08:02 PM
2

Live as though you were single. Unless you're inches deep between her legs or she's swallowing your load... and be attractive enough when you're not sick so that happens regularly. It's brutal, but when I realized my best move when sick was to say "I'm not feeling well" and go be alone - I found peace. Men understand this sucks. We are capable of empathy. Feel better soon, brother. EDIT: but it's not her fault and she's not being cruel. It's evolutionary biology.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 07:58 PM
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Your wife is not your friend or your ally. Dark Truths. This confused the hell out me my entire life before I got here. The look on a BP guy's face when he hears this is priceless...and sad at the same time.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 07:52 PM
2

This made me laugh. Mostly because a year ago I'd have been telling you how wrong you are based upon only delusional BP programming and not reality.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 07:48 PM
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She's not a 'roommate' and stop treating her like one. She is your wife. Kill your covert contracts. Stop getting butt hurt and lead. She is second in command of the life you share.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 03:27 PM
2

A man of few words. OP. This. Her emotions and complaints are hers. Don't try to own them for her. My longer reply is the result of many months of improvement and might not make sense to OP yet, until OP gets hold of the wheel and begin to lead.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 12:38 AM
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The division of household labor is an elaborate feminist hoax. My mother did everything around the house I grew up in and was fucking miserable enough to take it out on her children and character assassinate my father. I have stopped trying to demystify my dysfunctional family of origin and instead just rebooted my own life. The solution I implemented after reading the sidebar here is to live my life as if I were single after killing my covert contracts: I run the budget and treasury and do all …
/r/askMRP19/12/16 12:31 AM
3

Second this. That guy wouldn't go near my kids if I had any.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 09:41 PM
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"There you go thinking about yourself again." OP: Yep. +1 Nice job buddy. I do agree with the others though, that this conversation should hardly have happened at all.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 09:39 PM
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That's what I thought. OP hasn't given all the facts.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 08:54 PM
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Solid post, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 04:32 PM
1

I find video games unattractive because I wish I had most of that time back. Stoned out of my mind playing Civilization or Sim City... I could have taught myself C++ fucksake. There are a few exceptions but even those took hella time away that could have used more productively.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 02:54 AM
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The moment when one of the manosphere gods nods at your frame which he is partly responsible for teaching you to develop. Newbs take note of this part: "success" might be even harder to shrug off than failure. It still doesn't mean shit. Better Stronger Faster. The journey, your journey never ends. Ego is the Enemy.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 03:46 PM
2

Yup. I slayed a ton of pussy in my teens and twenties but had no idea what I was doing (how/why I was able to) - BP brought me down. Hell I went batshit just like Mystery and made a total mess of my life. That'll teach her. Not.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 03:41 PM
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I was just thinking about this after leaving the gym in the morning. Wishing there was some RP brother IRL that I could say to "Jesus, has Mark Manson gone Purple Pill or what?!?!" After reading his latest posts.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 02:25 PM
2

We can discuss this when you're ready to act like an adult I use this often.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 12:48 PM
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I asked if it was to be thrown away. That was my mistake. Fixed that for you. FTFY is an acceptable "communication". "Communication" is the path to divorce if that's what you're looking for.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 11:39 AM
2

Take the helm. Don't force her to make decisions about throwing soup away because if it turns out to be the wrong decision, then she'll blame you anyway, and she did. Where are you at on the sidebar material?
/r/askMRP12/12/16 11:35 AM
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You are NOT going to make her dress slutty for you by forcing this on her. Fact. Dread has been very successful for me to the point where I tell her what to do and she does it... including putting on clothes that I want her to wear...but still - there's nothing like a woman in acquisition mode. Rocks vs Gold and Briffaults Law apply. AWALT.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 03:26 AM
3

you are showing off as a castrated faggot by not initiating +10
/r/askMRP10/12/16 11:26 PM
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Maybe when she goes out showing the whale tail off, she is looking to swing a branch. FTFY. OP needs to stop being a faggot and fuck his wife. I was guilty of a self imposed cock block, once. About 5 months ago. OP seems to be taking my lack of ego-killing at that time to a much higher level.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 11:23 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP09/12/16 08:56 PM
1

That is incorrect. I stopped reading your transcription almost immediately because the medium is why the "conversation" was a shit show.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 08:54 PM
1

I've had mixed results and understand your point. Sometimes sexting is a good idea for me. Criteria is her emotional state so I won't bother to try and analyze. I remember the texting when mine was in acquisition mode. I saved the leg in a thigh high pic - BP me didn't know that I would unlikely never see that type of sexting again... from her.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 08:51 PM
2

start gaming other women to the point where you can realistically expect to be able to pull 24 year old HBs and have them suck your dick. At that point, your wife will want to suck your dick OP, this is Fact.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 01:37 PM
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And she has been validated by her friends who have sex much less than we do, When my woman tries this line of reasoning on me, I look her right in the eye, serious expression on my face and say "but I'm better than those men" (who don't get sex when they want) and because she can tell that I genuinely believe this, no question - it works. Sometimes I think it's duty, but then she's sopping wet.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 11:50 AM
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Soft next. Disinvite her to Christmas. You know her best. Take away a privilege. Yep. I've done this type of boundary enforcement with my woman. She has anger issues as well. I've also suggested therapy, kindly. She's now successfully written herself out of many places in my life. There has been improvement nonetheless but Iron Rule #7 applies and I consider it more and more often.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 01:36 AM
2

I've been seeing benefits from doing the written work in Nathaniel Brandon's Six Pillars Of Self Esteem. I had similar thoughts as OP describes. I saw two therapists a while back. Each for about 6 months. First guy mostly listened. Second guy talked about my "parts" and it was actually helpful. He was BP as fuck tho, which as I continued to improve with MRP, became annoying because I practically started red knighting the poor guy. I am still glad I went to him. I was really miserable when I star…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 08:01 PM
2

OP, did you come here seeking validation? Or did you come here looking for answers? Put your ego away.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:02 PM
2

but I suspect you know that on some level. I'm not convinced.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:00 PM
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Silent Treatment is for girls.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 11:59 AM
2

Exactly my thought when I read the post title.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 11:59 AM
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I've seen the trailer and that was enough for me.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 12:44 PM
1

Psy op calculated to delegitimize The Truth...
/r/askMRP04/12/16 02:26 AM
1

Don't sign the license after the ceremony. Bring your A game frame. This will also guarantee sex during your honeymoon.
/r/askMRP03/12/16 01:20 PM
1

Lack of Power.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:49 PM
1

Over time and traveling, I've seen that it depends on locale. But yes.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:36 PM
1

Exactly. Codependence is a complex beast. I'm not sure everyone who shows up at MRP needs more than NMMNG... but I sure did. Some are sicker than others.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:33 PM
2

Welcome. Glad to have another double winner around here. Keep your foot on the gas.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:29 PM
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I was lucky to meet a guy in AA who actually did the work. Bless!
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:28 PM
2

I found "Facing Codependence" by Pia Mellody to be the most helpful. And read all the classics. Sidebar worthy? I'm not sure. It's for real sickos like I used to be. NMMNG covers it for the purposes of MRP imo.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 07:18 PM
2

Yeah I remember reading it and thinking "holy shit I'm a total fucking pussy and don't want to be." Brutal and true. There's nothing civil about disobedience - he with the biggest weapons... wins. Period. Natural Law. Whining about it is optional and futile.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 12:31 PM
6

+1 High value post. A great way of conceptualizing the options.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 12:29 PM
2

Yes. One of his thesis statements (and I summarize) that "civilization is the result of male violence" hit me right between the eyes and made me want to start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 11:41 AM
1

I agree and got a lot out of MMSLP when I was brand new. The Mindful Attraction plan, his second book, goes full purple and I remember scratching my head while reading it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/16 11:39 AM
1

I still catch myself holding my wife accountable to the same standards as men. Totally unproductive.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:45 PM
1

After I started to disengage from emotional drama, my wife apologized via text more than once. I sometimes replied "thanks" or "I appreciate that" ...but never "ok" or " it's all right" and eventually I just said nothing and moved on. Women are not prone to admitting fault. Ever. I think she did it via text because that's all her ego could handle. Fine. This was a BIG sign to me that things were headed in the right direction. I could have fucked it up (like you did) by saying anything along the …
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:27 PM
0

That would explain everything. Life and the Universe included.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 03:23 AM
0

Absolutely not. More like 7-8. Which is it? Have you started conversations with pretty girls in front of your wife? http://48laws-of-power.blogspot.com/2011/05/law-8-make-other-people-come-to-you-use.html
/r/askMRP28/11/16 03:11 AM
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Sounds like you think you're at Dread Levels 9-10. Are you actually there in real life? I'm not convinced of that from your FR. Since she is on the couch, you're gonna be the one who will initiate this talk? I wouldn't do that. Just continue being awesome and don't let her drag you into this emotional bullshit. You sound like you're about to verbally try and figure some shit out... with a woman you're fucking!? That's a bad idea. but I don't feel like I'm "there" yet Then you're not. EDIT: Ultim…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 02:58 AM
2

I will answer all questions Have you asked a sponsor in any 12 Step Fellowship to actually guide you through the steps? Make sure it's a man with at least 5-10 years of sobriety. It is unlikely that any information here will help you much until you've addressed your addiction(s). Paging /u/ex_addict_bro, we have a double winner.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 10:53 PM
1

Flawless. The picture describing the cardinal rule of women on the internet is gold. Looks like it's from pol.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 02:23 AM
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I have a feeling this is not over. It will be over when you make it over. Pretend it never happened. Change the subject. Talk logistics. Lead. Don't engage. A woman's emotional memory is almost non existent. Be attractive and carry on.
/r/askMRP26/11/16 02:33 AM
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First off, you didn't let it slip. Dont lie to us. Fact. Why mention it at all unless OP was on his way out? Because validation. OP, stop that. You wanted her to ask. Act like bitch, get treated like bitch, by a bitch, that OP created. Bitch.
/r/askMRP26/11/16 02:30 AM
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+10 This reply needs more up votes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/16 02:15 AM
2

Male space is So toxic. Help. I can hardly stand it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/16 02:14 AM
7

Omg. Priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/16 02:12 AM
2

The difference is a healthy level of true self esteem. Nathaniel Brandon's Six Pillars is working wonders since I started the writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 11:31 PM
1

I had a girlfriend when I was 20. Hot little brunette. She kept asking me why I said I was sorry all the time and made excuses for myself. Mommy was rooting for me. 20 years later I figured it out. I still struggle with compliments. Just got home from family dinner and I'm at Dread level 7. People tell me I look great (-60 lbs) upper body muscular and flat stomach. Apparently it will still take more practice before I can just say "thanks" without adding "I'm not where I want to be yet." Onward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 11:27 PM
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I know, it's pathetic Ok you win. EDIT: in an effort to be more constructive, I will add - remove this type of self effacing speech from your life. It reflects your inner dialog that you still believe you are low value and thus, you are low value. Become mindful of speech patterns. Pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 01:30 PM
10

I've been on a strict diet for more than a month, she hasn't heard a single word about it. Yep. And if you had shared that goal with her, she would have have sought to make it more difficult for you. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 12:32 AM
2

I am surprised by how many men actually think that their woman is going to be willing or able to help them. That was once me. I'm very grateful it's not anymore. Women are in it for what they can get. Nothing more. Nothing less. Once I internalized that and put the moral judgement aside, my relationship got better.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 12:28 AM
1

Practical Female Psychology is a great read. I'm almost done with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 01:28 AM
3

but the difference now is my motivation for that improvement. Now I go to the gym because I enjoy being strong. Now I read because learning has become a part of me. Now I push myself at work out of a sense of duty and pride in what I do. I turned a similar corner but it wasn't like a flash of light, one day I just realized it had happened. I wouldn't be able to knock out Mike Tyson, but I'm not a pussy any more either. Fear is no longer my motivator. This.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 12:33 AM
1

I wouldn't worry about her being a cunt, every woman can be a cunt, so it's really a barometer for your shit, and not some quality that only she holds. This comparison is like scripture. Brilliant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 12:21 AM
1

It's a lot easier to invite my wife along as a part of my happy life, than to invite my wife to be happy. So true. Happy wife - happy life is bullshit. It's the other way around: happy life comes first.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 12:18 AM
1

Ya man. That's the solution right there. I got a buddy who has been there. It can come back in 5-10 years too but at least now you know what's wrong and what to do about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 05:30 PM
2

Lyme disease is rough. It's hard to spot and not usually recognized as legit by most doctors and few of them know what to do about it. I hope OP has found a specialist. I know several men whose lives have been negatively effected by it. Sometimes needing I.V. Antibiotics etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 12:35 PM
2

DEER is from NMMNG. WISNIFG gives you some things to do instead. I got a lot out of learning the WISNIFG techniques like fogging, broken record and negative assertion.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 10:12 PM
3

Astro glide ftw
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 06:54 PM
1

Good stuff man. That comment might have thrown me a bit too but your damage control wasn't terrible.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 11:46 AM
2

Sounded more like a humble brag from her An excellent point, that like OP, I wouldn't have spotted.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 11:44 AM
4

7 Seems to keep balance. Two 40 gallon bags of clothes that no longer fit are left over from Dread level 5.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 02:56 AM
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Yesss. Interesting how the wife found about fight club without OP talking about it and things are still better. The Fountainhead is incredible. I read it at 19 and it changed me. Now more than 20 years later, I'm going to read Atlas Shrugged during the winter vacation. I have also recently found great personal benefits in Nathaniel Brandon's work. Ayn Rand cucked her husband for that guy and now I can see why. This post inspires me to keep better track of what's happened to me over the last 7 mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 01:45 AM
1

Fact. Actually the last one has great relevance to "red pill" truth, just nothing to do with sexual strategy, marriage or cross gender relations.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 11:54 PM
1

-Capitalism and Freedom by Milton Friedman -The Road to Serfdom by F.A. Hayek -The Creature from Jekyll Island by G Edward Griffin Disclaimer: these works have no relevance to MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 11:08 PM
1

Ain't that the truth. Sadly my Austrian economics soapbox is in storage, so I'll stop now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 10:20 PM
1

+1 for zerohedge
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 10:11 PM
1

That depends. Are you angry enough to raise iron from the ground?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 07:14 PM
2

Once you get a LJBF there's no way out that's worth the effort. You have a masculine form of mental illness called "oneitis" and it can be deadly. We live in an abundant world.
/r/seduction17/11/16 12:54 AM
0

send a selfie asking if it makes her feel better. Brilliant. Definitely gonna do this.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 12:15 AM
0

Yeah, sounds like the same thing... but isn't even close.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 11:17 PM
3

If you really want to go deep. Read "Rantings of a single male". Might as well get it all out asap. EDIT: I went through anger stage before I arrived here. No RP theory. No understanding. Just "it's not faaaair". Thank God I didn't go MRA. Yeah it was really bad. I've actually got a whole list of anger phase books because Amazon kept suggesting ways that I could stay angry. Let me know if you need any more to really drive it home but I don't suggest any more than you need to start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 11:10 PM
2

Slowly We Rot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 08:55 PM
2

It's you lead, she follows. Not you plan, she decides. Good work on the rest. Important point. It's about frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 08:54 PM
1

Indeed. My bad getting subjective.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 06:07 PM
4

I used to judge myself morally and harshly for having a similar image. I chose not to take on that kind of responsibility, which in itself was a responsible choice.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 11:44 AM
1

Knowing what I know now, I would have never had kids; and had a much higher quality life. For the love of God, please make sure he never finds this out, but I have no moral issue with you feeling this way.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 11:41 AM
1

don't decide and do what she wants. Is still an option but would not be on my list.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 11:36 AM
2

And by the way, life is littered with "what ifs." Ain't that the truth. This one crosses my mind periodically but... what is, IS.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 11:31 AM
2

I'm just not the family type. I knew that about myself early on and was always up front about it. The women I was with went off and have happy families now. If you're saying this now, don't do it.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 11:29 AM
2

Checkout Meshuggah if you haven't already. After I heard the album Obzen, I wasn't the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 02:29 AM
10

This post is high value as fuck. I've constantly had to stop myself from moving too fast because after all I'm The Man, right? Wrong. I'm an idiot or I wouldn't have wound up here with my dick in the wife's handbag... that I bought her. Best part is that OP gave the syndrome a name.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 08:17 PM
1

Flawless! Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 07:49 PM
1

Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 09:10 PM
1

button that suppresses the alarm Yep. Unfortunately, the alarms are installed by the apartment complex. Some day I'll have a place of my own. I've delegated other appropriate tasks to her, where she is more efficient than I am, like cleaning the kitchen for example. I realized how important this was on the day she asked for permission to do the dishes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 02:21 PM
1

Fair enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:59 PM
1

Know the chemical nature of ingredients and how the order of their mixing and degree of mixing impact the quality of the synthesis is really interesting. More food for thought. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:57 PM
1

The flip of this situation would be if she were to go into the garage and pick up my wrenches to take care of that ticking sound she hears. What matters is her motivation for doing so - does she want to learn like I do in the kitchen or does she want to manipulate me into fixing her car by pointing out shit unowned? The difference matters, imo. Excellent point.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:56 PM
1

What would be your response, if any?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:53 PM
6

Sidebar. NMMNG. Or search MRP. defend explain excuse rationalize /u/sfstexan, can you see my mistake above? My original statement was sufficient to encapsulate what I meant: Fiction can be a waste of time. I did not say fiction is a waste of time and yet felt the need to defend and explain my original statement, despite not being asked directly, which reveals insecurity - a desire to be understood and validated: weakness. Unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:47 PM
2

By fiction I meant what is often on the "best seller" list. Not what would be called literature. You are correct and I appreciate the clarification.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 02:32 AM
1

Weber. Note taken thanks. Yeah the gas is against regulation except outside the garage where I could store it to prevent getting jacked. And solid take away - not grilling because it's winter is weak sauce. You just gave me a good reason to drop 800 bucks. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 01:57 AM
4

Nice!! And Yep. That's the one. Susan Silverman was the GF shrink. He meets her in the second book "God Save the Child" and every book after that, up through "A Catskill Eagle" is some high quality fiction. I don't say that lightly - fiction can be a waste of time like video games. A non Spenser novel of his called "All Our Yesterdays" is fantastic masculine reading as well. I met Robert Parker at a book store before he died and was able to tell him how much his character had influenced me. He w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 01:30 AM
1

Ya man. A grill has been nagging "buy me" for a while now. I live in an apt complex so the placement might be tricky but it's doable and when the winter is over, I am all over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 12:52 AM
5

I rarely looked up to my father and when I did as a child, he was very rarely present in a way that I wanted. MRP explained to me why this was the case and what I could do about it and that it was now my damage to carry, if I continued on the BP path I was on, so I decided to let that shit go and move forward. That said, my mother has since passed away, and I have as good a relationship with my father as I have ever had. I know he is proud of me in a way that he always wanted to be, but he lacke…
/r/askMRP10/11/16 05:38 PM
5

Yup. Red Pill Rambo. I knew it when I saw the word MY in capitals. I'd love to see a guy who doesn't do this but I ain't holding my breath cuz I did it.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 12:25 PM
1

he needs to be honest with himself and act accordingly. True. But an active alcoholic is not capable of that.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 11:43 AM
2

Yesss!! It took me so long to internalize this but... AWALT. even especially mother. EDIT: in BP, AWALT is a criticism. RP AWALT is an understanding and forgiveness thing without comprising my integrity or tolerating bullshit.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 03:29 PM
1

I've been getting a lot of worth from starting sentence completion exercises as described by Nathaniel Brandon in The Six Pillars of Self Esteem. Also read WISNIFG. Again if need be.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 03:28 PM
5

MRP does not save relationships. Especially ones that aren't worth saving like the one you describe. MRP is for building men. This is where I learned how to save myself. Welcome, brother. Start lifting weights tomorrow. Don't know how? Use machines and dumbbells for now and then start learning. Exerting your body will help in ways that you cannot fathom right now. Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" and actually do the written exercises. Also order a copy of "The Rational Male" Read the sidebar. It's the…
/r/askMRP09/11/16 02:45 AM
5

Unless you live in a community property state...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 10:26 PM
1

Of course you do, I'm pretty awesome. Internalizing this was a milestone for me as well. It's frightening how much of my life was spent without even knowing that I didn't believe it or why. Glad I know it now, and that you do too. Solid post. It may seem trivial to you because you just got to this place but a guy reading here for the first time will have light bulbs go on in his head from absorbing your words.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 02:32 PM
1

I didn't know there was a podcast. Thanks! I read this book early on before I got here and it was great. The reading uncovered layers of my unwarranted masculine shame before I knew I had them.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 12:36 PM
2

Good job breaking free from the pharma-cratic inquisition!! Take it slooow. Especially with benzodiazepines. It sounds like you telling her has made it more difficult. Maybe pause, rewind a little bit and then keep her in the dark about it until you're off? Just my two cents.
/r/askMRP07/11/16 01:16 AM
2

Fact. I recently stopped asking my friends: "what would you do if you were me?" It can become toxic. Instead I ask myself: "what would I do if I were me?" Much better. And Nathaniel Brandon is a boss btw. That said, I wouldn't have been able to see this problem or the solution if I hadn't been an idiot here first. Thanks MRP
/r/askMRP06/11/16 10:01 PM
1

Yep. I ordered Ivan's work yesterday.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:34 AM
1

Sometimes meditation works...but depending on your mindset if you're not doing it right it can become an unfruitful session of you sitting there thinking. I second this. I meditated for years, and still do, but very little got better until I entered the iron temple. Work out your demons. And when I do, this next part is much easier. Don't show them to others.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 02:30 PM
2

I would hardly call what I did "chest pounding". I agree but... I do not want him to become a white knight... This is not within your power. Your statement was made. Stop trying to control. Fix yourself. Disclaimer: I don't have kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 02:22 PM
2

BUT until that "after years" phase my common scheme was trying to save women from what I perceived - bad relationships. "OMG my friend doesn't respect her, I'd be much better boyfriend". Guess what, that shit doesn't fly. Yes, I know, you can call this "white knighting", "beta", and all of that, but that's not the point. You and I have similar pasts, /u/ex_addict_bro. Much respect for your presence here. If he is openly aggressive, if he has no frame actually (display of anger shows that) Very g…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 02:11 PM
1

Thanks for this. I just got a copy yesterday, having seen it suggested earlier, and look forward to applying what I can learn from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 02:01 PM
1

The weather stinks outside, but it's a beautiful day on the Internet thanks to this. So good.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 12:33 PM
1

See my post history about Family Vacation. Scurve called it and RedMountain said: The gay agenda is to ensure sh0ckley doesn't get laid Still pretty funny when I think about it now. Not so at the time but ain't that how it goes? Don't be red pill rambo.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:22 PM
1

I saw some huge improvements (two steps forward) after a month, and then converted them to noob gains by taking a step back with gloating about it and even cock blocked myself once. Sounds like you might not screw up where I did. Great job bro! Keep going.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:55 PM
1

Wow you still haven't stop whining? K.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:44 AM
3

Glad to see this acknowledged. Texting for logistics only is a very good base line. That said, I've been able to sext my woman lately with great success. She even sent me an underwear selfie a few weeks back which she hadn't done since being in acquisition mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 09:10 PM
2

Just a long running problem I have had with the wife going buck wild on the spending money. You are not alone. I give her an allowance. Of her own money. And she's grateful for the leadership and financial management. Now. We "magically" have enough to do cool shit that wouldn't be happening when she was spending it like water.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:42 PM
1

Whining.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:40 PM
0

Faggotry. Affirmative.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:39 PM
1

Solid point and firmware is a great metaphor.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 03:34 PM
1

There are a few similarities to a situation I was in before I got here, but... Yeah, she fucked him. This is where your logic would break down with me. I don't really care. Are you sure about that?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 01:50 PM
2

That's how I would feel like what I would be (a bitch) if I fucked her again, after she had already banged someone else while we were still married.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 01:40 PM
1

Great response. I agree with the other regular contributors because they are swapping notes about how they did what worked for them. It's all valid. But ultimately only OP knows his situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 01:35 PM
1

+1 Sarcasm can be a wonderful teacher.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 11:21 AM
1

Same. Lift. Butt hurt is unattractive and leads to a hard no the next time. Use kino. Ten second kiss at times when you're not about to initiate. Be attractive. Acta non verba. Just because she's your wife doesn't mean you get pussy on tap without having to work for it.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 11:21 AM
1

That too, is caused by watching porn.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 11:10 PM
2

It means you will have a higher success rate nailing your wife if you stop watching porn.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 11:01 PM
1

Initiate to fuck wife. Hard no? Lift. No porn involved.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 11:00 PM
1

I havent seen reasons not to jerk off because it's simply easier. If you want "easier" then why complain? Or haven't you figured out that jerking off makes you initiate less? And less successfully too.
/r/askMRP23/10/16 10:54 PM
1

Stop whining. She is a reflection of you. NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 12:11 AM
2

+1
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/16 12:09 AM
1

Learning to ballroom dance with my wife prior to wedding was a great experience in leadership even though I was beta as fuck at the time and couldn't see the opportunity or really use it to my advantage. The man must lead while dancing like in all areas of marriage. Some of the lessons rubbed off on me even though I was an idiot. And I'm not just talking about the dance lessons, I mean the hidden masculine lessons. I suggest a variation on option 4. You already know that she wanted to learn, so …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/16 10:36 PM
1

I would cover my ass no matter what. That's just me. She's already seen a lawyer once, you were already separated once, and why risk your future livelihood? See a lawyer and find out if a Trust would protect your ownership and who you might appoint as a trustee etc. Find out if a post nuptial agreement has successfully held up in court in the past in your state - many do not. The wife might not agree to it, and even if she does then there's the "coercion" angle if she gets unhaaapppy, which will…
/r/askMRP22/10/16 07:41 PM
2

I travel occasionally and sometimes get these types of communications but not quite as often. One way I think I've kept it to a minimum is by texting logistics while I'm away the same way I do around home. "Here's my flight info..." "Just got to hotel..." "Headed to work, will be away from phone, text you in X hours..." Maybe it's pre-emptive comfort working in my favor. Getting drained by her before and after is exactly what should be happening.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 05:19 PM
5

Holy shit. This was awesome. Thank you TFA.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/16 10:28 AM
1

Well put.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 09:33 PM
12

You're all doing God's work for men. Ain't that the Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 01:16 PM
1

I came to these same conclusions and took actions to achieve the results early on before I got here. BP me in anger phase was more "cooperative" than I needed to be but the outcome was what it needed to be. I have no moral aversion to your methods - the one who knows money management best (me) must be in total control however possible. Go ahead and DEER that overtly with her to make the transition more difficult or impossible. Wife doesn't fully realize that I have managed her assets (in her nam…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 10:43 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 12:30 AM
1

My birthday sucked balls this past year too. It happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 09:08 PM
1

OYS 10/18 Woman: Over the weekend I failed to maintain sexual OI and lost frame badly enough to warrant a fearful/angry reaction in her - a bit of a shock to me because it's been weeks or months since this happened. I did not apologize but instead admitted I could have handled it better and got back on the horse. The boundary I set regarding drunkenness is still in tact and has not been crossed. I'm actually surprised. Wondering if it will ever become naturally engrained and not feel like I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 05:04 PM
1

I want to have a successful marriage, but the writing is on the wall and there are too many hot bitches out there I could be fucking to have to put up with this shit much longer... Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 11:00 PM
0

Simple solution- she's not invited when I hang out with my son. Bingo. +1 I've tried to include my wife in places where she is no longer welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 09:49 PM
0

I second the personal checking account idea. The way I have it set up is one joint checking for accounted expenses - meaning the stuff that she and I both need to buy every month and the bills to keep the lights on. I made a spreadsheet. Anything not in that sheet doesn't not get paid for out of that account. There is also money in that joint account to pay for vacations which are booked on a credit card and paid off before we leave. Then there's savings going to other accounts. Last, we each ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/16 09:48 PM
1

First, I'll just leave this here: "codependency kills" ~/u/ex_addict_bro And do not overtly tell your wife that she's not the most important thing in your life, even though she shouldn't be is not. Trust me. I did that before I got here. Acta non verba. And btw it was a comfort test. A shitty one.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 04:44 PM
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If you were in a business meeting with a client, would you tell them: "I care about my revenues more than yours", even if you both deep down knew that's what you are meeting him for? Brilliant way to put it. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 04:32 PM
2

+3
/r/askMRP15/10/16 03:00 PM
1

Wow that dude was literally the guy I hypothesized about in my comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/16 12:43 AM
1

imo Edit2 is critical A lotta guys (myself included) would have missed this early on and the FR reads like what most new guys are only trying to achieve when they sprinkle a little alpha on it - their goal is forcing her to go the club. You're a boss for writing this up and being about six months in myself, your timeline assessment is accurate. I can see this type of frame on my horizon but I am not there yet. They realized that to be in power, you didn't need guns or money or even numbers. You …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 04:27 PM
1

Good plan. +1 GPG keys on smart card.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 02:15 AM
2

I also said I would not bring it up anymore Acta. Non verba.
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:48 PM
11

This is fucking classic. I have a huge smile on my face right now. /u/Scurvemuch replied to a recent comment of mine on the "I need a hobby post" that: picking flowers Dungeons & Dragons ...is as masculine as building a house. In the hands of a man with the right frame. D&D is alpha as fuck, do you even lift bro?
/r/askMRP12/10/16 03:45 PM
-2

that's just not me Who are you trying to convince? It doesn't matter whether or not I'm different than a man biologically. Would sexual reassignment surgery and an inflatable penis help your case? These are legitimate questions; without judgement, not sarcastic and not "patronizing" - but those are the undertones that your mind will hear. Your destiny lies along a different path from mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 12:49 PM
1

These are not the droids you're looking for.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 12:22 PM
2

Quality post. Number 5 hit home hardest to me. I used to waste a lot of energy convincing people that I was "right" which is a symptom of how deeply insecure I was.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 12:10 PM
2

Braun AND Brains = the winning hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 12:05 PM
2

The difference is the man's Frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:25 AM
2

It's worth noting (and your past confirms it) that even if you've "opened up" to a woman in the past, there is still a possibility to rebuild the holes in a man's frame while keeping in mind that it will not surpass the frame you entered the relationship in subjective to her. I was weak in the beginning for some time, but my woman apparently never wanted to believe I actually was that weak, which is why I have been able to rebuild. The new foundation is contingent on my frame - my ability to lea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:24 AM
1

That's how I understood it. As soon as I thought about it from the perspective of evolutionary biology, everything was crystal clear and I realized quickly how plugged in I had been.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:05 AM
1

Free your mind... https://youtube.com/watch?v=Wi5_0fNLSIQ
/r/askMRP11/10/16 11:35 PM
1

I was gonna say something similar. Braun AND brains is the winning hand. That's why a good quarterback in football is so valuable. The same for a catcher in baseball. I was a geek who started lifting weights. I'd think going the other way is more difficult but cannot confirm. A dumbass who is ripped (only braun) is just as unattractive as a snot nosed skinny kid (only brains) who talks about discreet mathematics. I'm at a point now where I try to learn something from either one, and I wasn't alw…
/r/askMRP11/10/16 11:32 PM
1

OP This.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 11:23 AM
1

Ham radio Computer programming (pick a language and write 'hello world') Music (Learn theory and why/what equal temperament is) House repairs (pick something and research) Woodworking Electronics Remote Control Cars/Boats/Helicopters Geometry/Advanced Mathematics/Calculus
/r/askMRP11/10/16 11:22 AM
3

Divorce is always an option. It sounds like you're ready to hand that option to your wife, but here's a news flash: Women are attracted to men who have options. What to do? Sidebar and start moving up the 12 Levels of Dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 10:54 AM
1

It's in their DNA Fact. Well worth highlighting.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 10:50 AM
1

+1
/r/askMRP10/10/16 10:47 AM
1

Agreed. Fake tits might look ok behind clothing; but look odd naked in any kind of hanging position and feel disgusting. Thumbs down to fake tits. Larger or smaller. I was with a girl once who had huge natural tits like G cups or some shit. She told me she wanted to get a reduction. I told her I felt the same about that as falsies. She was pissed but didn't get the job done despite my being a total pussy at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 06:30 PM
1

Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 10:37 AM
2

'live like you were single' Disclaimer: I don't have kids That said, I never saw it stated as cleanly as this. When I was ready, I heard around here to "take ownership of household shit" and be the captain, so I did, but first I had to kill my covert contracts surrounding groceries and cooking etc. Then started to cook myself - high quality meals on a schedule. I have a bunch of solid recipes that taste better than most restaurants. Now: 1.) I have a more awesome life than ever before 2.) She be…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 11:36 PM
1

but why stop there Agreed. It's your decision. You deserve to get the sex life you want. How you get it and the strategy you choose, is not a moral issue. There is a point at which you should do exactly what /u/RPSigmaStigma said to do.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:49 PM
1

Confirmed.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:07 PM
2

25% from PIV without oral warmup is not bad imo. I've seen women gush buckets and also women who couldn't climax at all - at least with me at that time. It's a spectrum. This thing: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitachi_Magic_Wand ...if you can get it on her, has brought a slutty smile to more than one woman's face. Have you read Sex God Method? I think your situation might not be as "bad" as you think, you just wouldn't know otherwise which is no reason to despair and asking here is as good a…
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:05 PM
2

Exactly. I could feel the power shift back to me. And you've pointed out evidence as such. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:48 PM
1

Solid point. This is another area where I failed. I did not physically intimidate Lone Alpha, but I definitely could have had I tried.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:46 PM
1

Glad to hear that. If M prefers a male therapist - that is the right move. I am neither a parent nor a doctor. I just have some knowledge about mental health.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:34 PM
2

Yes. OP took all the necessary actions given the situation. I'm sorry for your loss and have several friends who have lost loved ones to suicide. Words fail describing how difficult it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:16 PM
3

It ain't over unless you want it to be. She loves you (the way women love.) Translation: She is rooting for her little boy to become a man and make her his lover, not his surrogate mommy. That's why she was crying - her team is losing because it has no captain. Yeah recording the convo is a little fucked. Make it clear that should not happen again. Calmly. She was trying to remind you to STFU. Obviously women hamster together to help shame men into staying feminized. Only a weak man allows that …
/r/askMRP05/10/16 01:14 PM
1

told her to step up or shes out off my life... Ultimatums are a show of weakness and lack of power. Genuine Respect is earned. I know because I made many of these same mistakes. Acta Non Verba. Communicate covertly.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 01:07 PM
2

Bernies.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 12:52 PM
1

I've found that remembering how easily replaceable I am (not mine just my turn) keeps me from thinking like Capt Save A Ho, which allows more to more objectively determine the value that she is bringing to my life. Even post wall, she could land another dude in 3 hours - I was reminded of that a few weekends ago. Thinking like this is not easy because I am the only one who could ever have enough data to measure the value she brings, so it can never be fully objective, but I am rational enough to…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 11:23 AM
1

I believe you took all the actions you needed to take, given the situation. • Helping M I would get M to work with a female therapist who is not an M.D. and legally cannot prescribe drugs. Thinking problems (mental "illness") can also be resolved by taking actions, not only altering consciousness. Profit incentive still exists in the pharmaceutical mental health industry. "Cutters" are usually diagnosed as borderline BPD. Be ready for that. The effectively recognized solution to BPD is something…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 09:57 AM
1

"yeah I would totally hit that if it wasn't for the fact that I am already X+2 inches deep in your ass" followed by a HARD ass slap. Perfect.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:58 PM
1

You have to earn it. Ain't that the truth. Only potential problem I see in talking to a lawyer is getting an itchy trigger finger. Having the information is good but with great power (knowledge) comes great responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:54 PM
1

+1
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:44 PM
1

well she is fucked if I leave... so there is that... I've been telling myself this same ego bullshit. I think it's important to not underestimate how well any woman learns to use her Sexual Agency. There is always a better beta that she can snag while Chad drills her on the side. Have you looked at /r/WhiteKnighting lately?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:42 PM
1

Well put.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:28 PM
2

+1
/r/seduction04/10/16 02:50 PM
1

Yes. I am in the midst of a second reading, and going over the techniques again with the examples is helping me internalize them.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 12:56 PM
5

I like this red/yellow/green formatting.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 12:45 PM
1

Indeed. Balance. I can't stop moving forward while I learn - that is one way that I will learn. My current goal is already -15lbs below what my original goal was. For exactly that reason. Stretch.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 11:21 AM
1

OYS 10/4/16 Owning These items are here because they are reds on my MAP that I've started doing something about ...but they ain't fixed yet. Self Esteem I am continuing to ask myself what would I do if I were me instead of asking "friends". That's not what friends are for. At least not how I was doing it. Women talk. Men do. My apparent neediness has left me estranged from several guys. Then I read Rollo's article Ghosting https://therationalmale.com/2016/03/07/ghosting/ If a person doesn’t resp…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 10:30 AM
1

Yes. I agree that this is the issue right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 04:52 PM
1

Yes. Lawyer up.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 04:50 PM
1

There is a kindle app for iPhone (and probably android.)
/r/askMRP03/10/16 12:55 AM
1

I also suggest start with /u/BluePillProfessor 's book.
/r/askMRP03/10/16 12:26 AM
1

Fact! Hadn't thought of it that way.
/r/askMRP02/10/16 07:13 PM
1

Yes. I loved the shit out of that post.
/r/askMRP02/10/16 05:24 PM
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I read the Gottman stuff with the wife when... we were in "crisis" because my role model was Pussy McFaggot. It's true imo but nothing changed until I started lifting heavy objects in the air repeatedly and began the 12 Levels of Dread. After that, like clockwork, things began to get better. Happy Life, Happy Wife. Not the other way around.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 05:22 PM
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Meh. Faggotry. Maybe if there is no porn involved.
/r/askMRP02/10/16 05:16 PM
1

DYELB? I push heavy weights in the air until it hurts and remember this: https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/17/the-pheromonal-beta/ I also initiate with my wife like a man, and the less butt hurt any rejection can make me, and the less power her sexual agency has over me, the harder I have to fuck the piss out of her while she loves it, and when she doesn't that's good too. A Zen conundrum. Trying to focus on me and come off as confident FAIL - You're measuring success by her response. There is…
/r/askMRP02/10/16 05:06 PM
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Profile not being shown anymore - for a while now. I've got an HB8 DTF if I choose to but after seeing Navy Stones math - 3 shutdowns allow me to fuck 80 lbs of girl - it's unlikely I'll ever be able to bang a tinderella. Hell even if it was 60lbs. Abundance is great but so are guidelines and discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/16 03:06 AM
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DYELB
/r/askMRP01/10/16 09:24 PM
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Doesn't sound too late but... I've travelled extensively and had/have interesting jobs. Past tense. What are you doing now? It's not that hard. Get started. Take action. Read sidebar. Post on Tuesday in the OYS thread. Lift. Exercise. Get fit. Yesterday. Improve yourself. I have found it amazing how much easier this is for me than my wife. I didn't do shit except become a fat fucking pussy for way too long. Stop that. Now. My wife always comments about her noticing other women noticing me, and s…
/r/askMRP01/10/16 07:55 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP01/10/16 10:53 AM
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Why are you pushing me away? This is where your failure started. She does not want to be able to have that kind of control over your state. It makes her uncomfortable. Internally you probably still give a shit, but don't let her know that, pretend you don't care for a while, and eventually you won't. This does not mean you should stop applying kino and affection, (assuming you want to keep her around) just stop doing it in such a weak way: remove your expectations regarding her response and do i…
/r/askMRP01/10/16 10:51 AM
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This. GALNUC.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 11:26 PM
2

Howard Roark. That is all.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/16 07:59 PM
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Truth. I started lifting for the first time in my life when I got here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 10:23 AM
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gave him a look that would have made him shake in his boots. The look alone might have done it. I wouldn't describe myself as seriously built yet, but would likely have taken the guy if it came to it. if you had established on the onset of your relationship that this behavior is off boundaries, Yes. Iron Rule #1 and #7. I'm digging myself out of a hole which may (or may not) be possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 10:21 AM
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Game Changers just blew my mind. I'm that guy who says once said "if I'd known then what I know now..." All of sudden my decades of blue pill life no longer appear "wasted." Holy shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 04:22 PM
1

Yes thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 02:47 PM
1

Hellz yeah. Nice catch. Thank you. On the second point - my "slow down" to make sure I don't get ahead of myself keeps the dread levels organic instead of forced. The flow is natural when I'm able to keep me ego out of it. With focus on the current level, and not looking too far ahead, shit just falls into place.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 02:11 PM
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Maybe there's a hidden insurance premium against onitis built in to the 80lb math.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 02:11 PM
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it's pretty easy to make sure your dick doesn't fall into her pussy. There are no sexual accidents. For men.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 01:35 PM
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We have the self control; but it is the last vestiges of non-abundance mentality that causes the angst and incongruence. True abundance mentality would result in no angst because your true thoughts would be "I can get this whenever and wherever I want, she was one of a million". Thanks Brilliant. I'm seeing this in myself as well.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 01:32 PM
4

Female Social Matrix.
/r/askMRP27/09/16 01:29 PM
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None of the fad diet shit worked for me. Low carb Atkins Palio etc Portion size is the metric. Install the app My Fitness Pal and stick to it. I'm down 50 lbs over about 6 months. 1.5 lbs per week like clockwork.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 12:55 PM
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Petty much? The guy is a boss imo. I think everybody gets started by sprinkling a little alpha on it, acts like a domineering controlling dick. I did it for longer than most. I'm not sure it can be avoided completely. It's a piece of anger phase. Respect is earned not demanded. Ultimatums are a huge show of weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 12:42 PM
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The Six Pillars is the landmark work. I started with Honoring the Self. Currently just started How to Raise Your Self Esteem and that's the most concise of the lot, and also the one I would suggest. Very clear and Action oriented.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 12:39 PM
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Sounds like your relationship is in purgatory. Keep going. Guerrilla Mindset was an awesome read. Cernovich is doing good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 11:29 AM
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OYS 9/27/16 Not owning: Recent FR revealed wife's disrespect due to my lack of sufficient value. Remedies: * I could use polishing on decreased response time for A&A so I can move closer to AM when passing shit tests. This means an internal cocky and funny attitude at all times when she is present and holding frame like a boss. * Her dread has since nearly turned to despair so I should put some focus on comfort: being present for her emotional needs and developing my alpha provider role - which …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 10:54 AM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:49 AM
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It sounds like you have everything figured out.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:21 AM
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True. And indeed a possibility. They do not keep in very close contact but these two friends have known her for decades - I have not. She's no snowflake for sure. AWALT. No reason to lose any sleep over it. My parachute is packed if I decide to use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:19 AM
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Re: alcohol. Yes I agree. I wasn't gonna leave an opening that night. And I have area codes, numbers and phone records if there is ever any reasonable suspicion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:10 AM
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The difference between: my wife wanting to fall on this guys dick while I prevent that versus her actually doing it is not complicated: Do I move up to higher dread levels while giving her the chance to notice what's going on and do something about it? or Do I pull the plug on my exit plan immediately? Pretty simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 01:06 AM
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The wife was probably +4 SMV and one of the other two women was married and acted like it. I didn't come across as an obstacle because: • I am not currently high enough value. • Lone Alpha had a Full House as a hand. • Lone Alpha was getting some IOIs like a smile. • I mixed work with leisure on the travel and "took a woman fishing" thus failed to have my guard up and keep my A game in the front of my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 08:14 PM
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Continue to improve SMV and move into dread levels 5 and beyond. I have some notes started for OYS tomorrow. EDIT: also work on alpha provider behaviors.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 06:04 PM
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A flawless highlight of the successes here. IMO James Bond is a wuss compared to The Thomas Crown Affair but I won't give any spoilers in case you haven't seen the movie.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 05:56 PM
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At times, it felt like magic to me - watching my better self on TV. I'm only starting to Believe internally. I also have a ways to go yet but this experience added to my momentum. (p = mv) The whole thing should not even have happened for a number of reasons but it makes a great example of RP truths as well as an opportunity for learning where to place my focus on improving.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 05:44 PM
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I am sure you're right - I'm a mate guarding blue pill bitch. Maybe I could post about this experience on an Internet forum, highlighting TRP truths as well as my own mistakes in an effort to better myself, and not get cucked in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 05:25 PM
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Solid point re: slut shaming in female social matrix. The situation occurred for two reasons that I see. First is obvious: I allowed a guy with a stellar hand to sit at the table. Second was less obvious: I wrongly had my guard down because the travel plan mixed business with pleasure - a sleeping but potentially disastrous version of "Never Take a Woman Fishing" https://therationalmale.com/2015/10/20/never-take-a-woman-fishing/ I cannot confirm that I would have been perceived as high value eno…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 01:43 PM
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Many of these points about FSD passed through my head and I can confirm: the dynamic was as much about Lone Alpha's attraction as it was about one upping her friends to feed AWALT insecurity about being attractive enough. I risked exceeding post size and chose not to discuss the FSD so thank you for bringing it up. I also pondered Lone Alpha failures from a PUA perspective. Yep. The hug/kiss was for my benefit not hers. Once I had her safe, I should have just bolted, and the fact that I did not …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 01:07 PM
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Let's imagine that I had communicated overtly. Her response is/would be: "You think I was interested in Lone Alpha? You're crazy and being jealous. Why are you so insecure!?" Let that sink in for a minute. I know some variation on this would be the response because of my experience as a BP mate guarding chump. I agree that STFU isn't always good. There are times to clearly state boundaries and make sure they're understood - as succinctly as possible. This was not one of those times.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 11:09 AM
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This.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 11:02 AM
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Fact. For lack of a better word, the "traditional" (pre feminist) way of approaching this for a woman would be to defer to her husband, and I do not currently warrant that level of respect. That said, unless maybe if you are Thomas Crown (from the movie The Thomas Crown Affair - worth watching) then there is certainly merit to the point that /u/Persaeus makes, but for me to focus on that is not only a DEER excuse but would also blind me from the colder reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 10:29 AM
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Yes. I am aware of this and appreciate the warning.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 08:44 AM
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Spot on with your description and no DEER. Thanks for the backup. I was pondering how to say this. I do need to continue improving. It speaks to the experience of men here that no one tried to call this mate guarding. IMO mate guarding is always a beta move. I only did that shit when I was a total pussy and had to. Women are not valuable enough to fight over - it's too easy to find a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 09:46 PM
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Ya man. I fumbled my offense by allowing Lone Alpha to come out for dinner in the first place. It would have been respected (and effortless) had I just said "nah" - but that would have required foresight that I did not possess at the time. Sleep is the cousin of death.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 09:40 PM
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Her friends never suggested that wife go with him. They suggested that I take her with me. I could have beaten the Lone Alpha if it came to it. Some form of martial art is likely on my radar soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 08:29 PM
1

That's a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 08:06 PM
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Truth.
/r/askMRP25/09/16 06:20 PM
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Yep. +1 /u/ex_addict_bro
/r/askMRP25/09/16 06:19 PM
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Hamster Translation +1
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 04:22 PM
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This. I'm getting there. Unless I was too big a chump when we met (Iron Rule #1) ...and then it will best to move on and start over. (Iron Rule #7) Only time will tell and there is no reason to jump ship now, until I've learned, or the same will happen with the next woman. I mostly enjoy her company and the sex is great. From an OYS stance, progress here is visible as I never considered to DEER or discuss "the injustice" with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 03:03 PM
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Bro. Thanks but I'm still a fucking idiot. Looking back at this situation it's like the scene after The Oracle tells Neo he's not The One... and then he starts to Believe. The actions I took were foreign to me and it almost felt like I wasn't there and only watching myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:47 PM
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Burn hamster burn. If I were to ever have concern then I would check phone records against his number and area code with a reverse lookup. Obviously she knows where the right Lone Alpha lives, but it's no longer the right time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:42 PM
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Exactly. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:32 PM
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Yes she does know where he lives. That was my epic lack of foresight but out of my hands until I allowed the car to return, because he happened to be standing in front of the house. The house is a significant traveling distance and no personal numbers were exchanged. Lone Alpha also stated that he is rarely at home, adding to the "synchronicity" of her feelz. If his game is that good then maybe he lied about that. The concern about her knowing where Lone Alpha lives is rooted in masculine in nat…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:30 PM
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Show me a top 40 pop song that doesn't have lyrics about a dysfunctional codependent relationship??? That bullshit is the very conditioning that turns men into Pussy McFaggot. It worked on you and then you spread your cheeks for your master like a bitch. Actually what you said was probably ok, but you weren't ok with it because you're asking for validation here. Don't be that guy. The number one thing that will make your girlfriend miss her ex is... you being worried that she misses her ex.
/r/askMRP24/09/16 06:15 PM
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Sounds Good. I'm headed to the temple now actually.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 08:10 PM
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Yes. That's it: letting go of your need for validation. It won't happen today or tomorrow. Keep moving forward. Be careful not to "sprinkle a little alpha on it" and expect any results, but if you do, and then complain about it here, /u/[deleted] will be there to call you out.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:38 PM
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Fact. Didn't notice that part until now.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 05:56 PM
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No. She doesn't fuck your mind. You are allowing her to fuck your mind. This is why she doesn't want you to fuck her pussy.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 05:22 PM
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And I thought I was such a special snowflake when I posted shit like this not too long ago. Jesus. Stop being a pussy. This is done by lifting heavy things. Never "decide to be withdrawn" - shit or get off the pot. If your wife is being a bitch then leave. If you are on a date, then touch her. Read about kino. Your attention is valuable. Foremost to yourself but also to her, so use it wisely. This will take practice and learning. STFU is your friend right now. Lift. Do the sidebar reading and yo…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 05:08 PM
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Amused Mastery - the word mastery implies a skill that can only be attained with consistent practice. There are also other more remedial skills that can be learned in order to prepare for it. Do or do not, there is no try. ~Yoda The only times I've caught recent glimpses of what genuine AM looks and feels like, I wasn't trying. It just happened. It's not something I can try to do. AM will follow as I continue practicing the pre-requisites. Get out of your own way man. Also, do you legitimately w…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 04:55 PM
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Whenever YOU decide to. I saw this shared recently and it was informative, even when already in a committed relationship. http://www.rooshv.com/the-girl-score
/r/askMRP21/09/16 04:12 PM
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I read all the blog posts and am now mostly done reading the hard copy book. The order in which the posts appear in the book helps solidly them in some way. It's clear that a ton of thought went into the book as well. I'm glad I read the content in both formats.
/r/askMRP20/09/16 06:35 PM
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OYS 9/20/16 Not owning: • Social: Need to build a better social life. Will be making more guy plans soon, even if it's just for a quick meal like I've done with several long time friends in the last month. • Finance: I need to build a bigger savings of emergency money. I developed a new budget, which is great and accounts for this plan, but it will take time for the effects to pan out. I would have to liquidate investments if there was a crisis right now and I don't want to live that way. No mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 05:03 PM
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Your shit ownership is inspiring.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 03:46 PM
1

Amen professor.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 12:11 AM
1

Keep texting for logistics only. Especially now. Be weary of what Deida says until you've read/internalized Rollo and improved sufficiently. These ideas are based upon the knowledge gained from my own mistakes.
/r/askMRP17/09/16 11:50 AM
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Noob gains when I took two steps forward, and later one back and so on... https://reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4k5uvj/mrp_killed_the_marriage_counselor/
/r/askMRP17/09/16 02:51 AM
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"I changed the speed to disguise my voice." When I heard it the first time, your voice seemed higher (or something) and I secretly hoped you didn't really sound like that much of nerd. It wouldn't be congruent. Phew.
/r/askMRP17/09/16 02:40 AM
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Humor aside, I thought about qualifying to exclude this type of activity which is a bit like bowling or whatever - I do love me some pinball. I'm referring to idiocy like: "game console in the living room" or "my new case is liquid cooled bro" or any douche who considers gaming a legitimate hobby and has completed Fallout4 while thinking it matters, or allows his woman to know anything about it. A guy who can build his own MAME cabinet from scratch and wire all the electronics by hand, or write …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 07:39 PM
1

DLV vs Display Hamster Value: Shoot the DEER for a 5X bonus multiplier!! Sick bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 04:44 PM
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You are light years ahead of where I was at 28. Congrats on dropping the video games. Keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 03:08 PM
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Then stop. Rarely is not good enough. Fast food is not... food. Learn to cook? It's easier than I thought to make high quality meals.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 03:04 PM
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This post has zero value... less actually if you consider the time it takes to read. There are 9,000+ other lurkers thinking the same. You haven't made it, you are only here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 11:21 PM
1

These techniques exude confidence in one's identity and display an openness to criticism without giving up the power to be one's own judge. As I continue to use them, I am seeing their use also builds my upon my existing self confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 12:14 PM
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Exactly. When I saw the title of this post, I thought to myself "not vetting well enough" should be the answer. There is mention of red flags but under the heading of "date to establish trust" not as the über important process that vetting is. I did not vet well enough for 3 things, and 2 have successfully been addressed but not because I "fixed" the things, but because I started fixing myself. Only time will tell if that final thing is to be the rocks on which the marriage crashes, but either w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 06:30 PM
1

Duke Ellington once said in reference to swing music, that: If you have to ask, you'll never know. When it comes to be called out as a faggot: If you have to ask, you already know.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 02:54 PM
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Ya. Similar here. Having a woman around (sister) whom I thought it was safe to ask for advice about women was a dangerous thing for me as a young boy. AWALT. Add in a mostly absent father and you get core blue pill conditioning.
/r/askMRP14/09/16 11:26 AM
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It was flawless. Actually improved my evening when I read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 08:15 PM
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Fucksake. Cracked skull? I hope you feel special, and get better soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 05:39 PM
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A more accurate statement to make is: If I don't fuck up here again, then it will ultimately be her that ends the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 10:43 AM
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OYS Sept 13, 2016 Not owning I've uncovered a new RED on my MAP that has been effecting me my entire life. While I've made a great deal of progress in removing approval seeking behavior from my relationships with women, I have noticed recently that my friendships with men are decaying for similar reasons. There's a part of me that seeks approval from a friend about my course of action in many areas of life. I "check in" and ask "what would you do if you were me?" This is brutally toxic behavior.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 10:30 AM
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You are referring to my inability to enforce the boundary, and you are correct. Please elaborate if you wish.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 10:19 AM
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Good point(s). I'll be listening outside the box.
/r/askMRP12/09/16 08:59 PM
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Cooking is basically following instructions... no wonder modern western women cannot do it.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 07:21 PM
2

Very nice. Thanks for setting this up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 10:40 AM
1

Yes it is. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/16 03:47 PM
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Believe it or not, I am watching a video of Karpman lecturing about the drama triangle right now. And I thought of it right when I saw OP say the victim word. Shits ugly and I learned it well in my family.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 07:31 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/
/r/askMRP09/09/16 07:18 PM
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Sure. For example - Praise. He speaks a lot about praise being like food for the feminine. My BP mind took this to mean I should put pussy higher on the pedestal. I ended up tolerating a lot of bullshit, clueless about how to handle it, and made it worse while failing to vet as well as I could have. Can you see how that could happen? I wasn't aware of how covertly conditioning my presence and affection could lead to improvement. Other things he says hit me like a ton of bricks, but I wasn't stro…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 05:33 PM
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"if you're not happy, the door is right there..." I said this effectively for the first time the other day. As you describe: "simply." Without raising my voice. Just a statement. Her reaction was that of your wife: Shock. Horror. Feminine imperative shaming tactics. I let it sit there like an elephant in the room. I understand now, what Deida means when he says "choose a woman who chooses you" and not to discredit his work, but I offer this warning - newbies should not start with Deida. The mist…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 02:57 PM
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I once told myself this wasn't true. Now I've reached the point where I cannot be sure, and continued attempts to figure it out are just distraction without positive value. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 12:36 PM
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That will be a challenge for me but you are correct that it needs to be done. I am closer to the end game than I want to admit and do not have any control over the outcome like I want to believe. I am all I've got. But I do find great solace in the work I am doing on myself and realize now: that work is the only rock I will ever have and must remain conscious about the worthiness of those I choose to share it with.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 11:44 AM
2

Well said! I saw someone say this the other day and thought to myself - isn't it the other way around?
/r/askMRP08/09/16 05:09 PM
1

Newbie feasting on your soul: • If you want to do your own thing and "wait" like a faggot... then better to get divorced, stay celebrate and preach the wonders of MGTOW. Their logo looks like an unsatisfied hard on for a reason. • If you want to whine about the high effort of taking your wife on a date, then why not just learn to suck cock and be gay? Those guys suck each other off no strings all the time. • If she doesn't reciprocate then you have a covert contract to eliminate. Only put in the…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:54 PM
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OP: this. Professor spot on as usual. • Having balls means not being afraid of her reaction. • Having balls means be nice without covert contracts When I started using a 10 second kiss daily, things began to turn around. She is your wife. If you want out then fucking leave her, but don't keep doing what you're doing - using feminine tactics against the feminine is futile.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:31 PM
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Yes it's incredibly difficult to be a man. At least it has been for me because I was a total pussy. What fills my void these days? Loneliness motherfucker. You heard me. I am getting to know it well, and making it my best friend. I don't even want "friends" right now because then I rely on them (that's what I need to let die) and until I am utterly worthy of my own company, anything else is a sham or leads to disappointments. When I finally get comfortable with myself, I will have friends, but i…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:21 PM
1

OP, the last paragraph here is 100% aligned with my recent past.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:14 PM
1

Thank you for this information. I'm at Level 4 and need to stop wondering if it's time to walk away. I'm not gonna have enough data until I'm further along.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 10:34 AM
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I looked into selling some of my older formal wear on eBay and realized I could do this. Thanks for the tip!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 10:06 AM
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Try again. Most of them are idiots. The real douchbags will just give you drugs ...but good therapists DO EXIST.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 01:07 AM
1

I think that's bullshit. That's your damage and similar to mine lol. I don't "get it", but the less I give a shit, the closer I get. There's some Zen about it. My answer? God. Almost sounds silly in today's twisted world. But I didn't find Him at church... going to church makes you Faithful the way standing in a garage makes you a car - it doesn't "do it." Once you get lost enough, you're Found.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 01:05 AM
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"6 Pillars Of Self Esteem" by Nathaniel Brandon. CBT/Parts Therapy. I fucking hated it but it helped. Spiritual beliefs. God. Buddhism. Atheism. Investigate them all and take what works. Maybe these: "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron "Sacred Path Of The Warrior" Choyum Trungpa "Man's Search For Meaning" by Viktor Frankl
/r/askMRP07/09/16 07:27 PM
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I'm re-reading WISNIFG now. Re-read NMMNG a while back. I've found it all starts to sink in with repetition. It's a process.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 07:09 PM
1

This response is great and I just got a lot from it. I still fuck this up. Actions are the way to communicate and alphas are the life of the party. Discussion is futile.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 06:48 PM
1

"Shut your mouth or use it to suck my dick" +1
/r/askMRP07/09/16 06:43 PM
3

"furiously masturbate to no-fap videos" +1
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 04:38 PM
1

Bingo.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 02:54 PM
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Those responses are pure Gold. I aspire to attain that level. Holy shit.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 02:54 PM
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This. Op: do not heed her feminine imperative shaming. You do know The Truth right? Accept that she will never comprehend it and use that to your advantage. IF her point is valid (and only if, after consideration) then replace "I'm sorry" with "I shouldn't" - that's what I do. Keep stepping up your game.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 02:51 PM
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Glad to hear you're lifting. That was THE game changer for me.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 02:46 PM
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Dude you're a mess. There are so many mistakes and fallacies in your post that I hardly know where to begin. How can you be doing "constant self improvement MRP style" without formally doing levels of dread or any of the pre requisites? Your throwaway account is 8 days old. What in the actually fuck? "If she treats me well, I won't leave" is an ultimatum. Ultimatums come from a position of weakness. See Rollo's article about that. Get your shit together. Maybe learn to write a well structured pa…
/r/askMRP06/09/16 08:21 PM
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Mindfulness is a practice. Once you can go there with your eyes open, it spills over into other places, away from the cushion. I meditated long before I lifted.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 05:00 PM
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omg this. I think it's worse having been one myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 04:53 PM
1

Indeed. AWALT. What I heard was her asking for help and for me to lead the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 04:28 PM
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Fact: Mediation will decrease your reactivity and rage. Buy a cushion. 10-15 minutes daily did wonders for me and now the iron temple has a similar effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 04:14 PM
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• Why is she still around the booze, and you? Yes. That is the question right now, and thank you for asking it. The answer is: I failed. I knew going in that she could be a bad drunk, but I was a chump then. She might be close to alcoholic but I can't read her mind, only watch her behavior and act accordingly. She asked me to enforce a two drink maximum and has agreed to comply which means jack shit until she does. Repeatedly. These agreements are new and were opposed by her before I started wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 03:53 PM
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Good BMI is still about 10-15 lbs away but at that point yeah, I should turn my focus toward size. Also my body fat percentage is still around 26%. I want that at 20 or lower, but that's related to putting on muscle mass. I think. Still learning. I was a total pussy most of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 11:22 AM
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It's been a while since I checked in here. Still at Dread Level 4 Not owning Expert Mode * Failed to cut off her drinking again over the weekend. She got too drunk. Lost Frame. Improvements over last time in that I didn't discuss it until the next day and I also set a boundary. Lines were crossed that don't work for me - being a baby sitter for a repulsive imbecile. The next day, she admitted her faults, apologized and asked me to lead moving forward. If I fuck up here again it may be the end of…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 10:21 AM
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Exactly!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/16 03:58 PM
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Good FR. Nice to see younger folk here. If I had known what you know at your age, my life would have been different. Not that my life is bad now, but it's great to see men in younger generations knowing how to handle women - they are far and few between as you alluded to. You probably already know this but if you plan to take this relationship to any greater level of commitment, make sure to vet her. Not vetting properly is how I wound up here digging myself out of the hole I built by bettering …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/16 12:54 PM
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I like his point and also your rebuttal. MRP is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 03:20 PM
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The risky part imo is actually saying "you can't say no." Where I'm at, that would be a bad idea and I'm not sure if I would ever say it even though that is the result I'm looking for - and that's why I wouldn't say it. For spring training tho, simply planning an activity is a great idea. I've discovered that the language and words I use are critical: "Hey we are going to X on Sunday." "I'm doing X, would you like to come along?" And NOT "would you like to do X?" The more I kill my beta the more…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 03:16 PM
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sex is ...kind of like taking a shit. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 03:05 PM
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Gold Standard Whey Protein after workout. Coffee before. No breakfast. Once it became routine, and it did quickly, I couldn't imagine beginning my day the way I used to. Melatonin for sleep. No less then 7 hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/16 12:40 PM
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I would add "Iron John" to this list. KWML is a very great work, but heady and theoretical and basically useless unless backed up with RP theory like Rational Male as well as physical fitness and an action plan.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 04:27 PM
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And if they get you to do that, then it's time for you to be replaced. Seems legit.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 04:23 PM
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Call a fucking lawyer right now. Find out how to properly document evidence that will be admissible in court. The video might not be if she's unaware of it. See point number 1. Continue planning your exit with daughter. Jesus Christ.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 05:15 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP31/08/16 10:31 AM
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Sounds like you did ok from where I stand.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 07:23 PM
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K ^ best reply ever to a woman's emotional vomit.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:56 PM
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Take this as where it comes from - a FNG who is at dread level 4 and thought he was ready for 5 but was informed by men here that dread level 5 isn't in my skill set yet. Have you gone out with your wife yet and gotten IOIs from other women while the wife was there? That improved things in my situation but it took time, work and patience to get there. My ego then gloated over it and I fucked things up in an entirely new ways that I didn't know were possible... but I still learned from my mistake…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:48 PM
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"same old chump, new paint job" You called? The paint is starting to dry though and Happy Frame Guy wouldn't "ego cock block" himself like I did the other day. Drugs aren't my answer but I think he's on to something.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:23 PM
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I think you're really on to something here that would provide a valuable post. The mistakes you point out? Yep I've made them. Happy Frame Guy? Exactly what I need to be doing now. Which means I am not going to call my woman out for trying to manipulate me this morning. I've been re reading WISNIFG and it's starting to settle. She tried to manipulate me into doing something. I said "let's see" (I have the assertive right to say I don't know) and then I started to speak overtly about a boundary a…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 05:51 PM
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This is very true. I'm not sure how it would be done in a home school situation, but I'm sure there is a way.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 08:17 PM
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Sounds about right.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 06:09 AM
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Shit. Progressives co opted the word liberal in the first place. Milton Friedman speaks about it. You're saying that now they use neoliberalism in referring to free markets?! I'll just keep calling them progressives then. Liberal doesn't mean what it once did.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 11:37 PM
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And overcomplicate the shit out of it is another thing I did here. Thanks for the breakdown.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 11:24 PM
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I'm really glad I found out that the secret gay agenda is to stop ME from fucking while her legs are open. That's how important I am. Jesus.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:50 PM
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Bingo. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:38 PM
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Solid point. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:37 PM
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This. Red Knighting dad is dangerous. I've dabbled in it but my mother is dead. If his wife (your mother) is still alive, be very very careful. I know what you're saying about his laughter tho. I told my dad about shit tests and his reaction was "there's a word for that?"
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:26 PM
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TFA has the best response imo. However you do it, you're doing the right thing. My father allowed my mother to drive a wedge between he and I. Right when I was 14 ish and needed a strong father the most. The life long fallout I had to deal with as a result cannot even be calculated.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:19 PM
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To each his own but... have you read John Taylor Gotto? Fuck school. I cannot think of anything less educational than school. No child of mine would ever set foot in a public school, if at all... but I don't have kids so I can't advise from any experience other than my own.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:13 PM
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Me too. I was told I was special. I then believed that I was special and was not allowed to "fail" until I failed BIG and made a mess of my life.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:07 PM
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Pretty good stuff brother. An app called "My Fitness Pal" has got me down to 210 (and counting...) from 255. -1.5lbs+ per week like clockwork.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 07:23 PM
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Indeed. A voice of far superior experience to mine.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 02:09 PM
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Good. That's a better response than mine was. Now that you've stated your direction, STFU and DNGAF.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 02:07 PM
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Who cares? Stop being afraid of your LTR's mommy's response to who you are and what you do. I started getting this same shit test from my woman about a month ago and knew that she was just trying to reel me back into her frame. No thank you. She said "haven't you lost enough weight? you look great, when you are you going to stop?" I gave her a confused look and said "I'm not gonna stop." There are better responses but that's what came out. Diets are for Pussy McFaggott (TM) Changes are for men w…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:44 PM
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/u/Venge97RI these are great ideas that I would have used when my commute was shitty. Also podcasts and MRP audio books. Commute time became a deal breaker for me and eventually I found a closer office and new job. Fact: if you're not lifting then you're not even doing this. That is step zero and once I started, everything began to turn around in just a couple months.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:28 PM
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This.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:20 PM
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Classic.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 12:27 PM
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This. Is. Good.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 11:11 PM
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Oh, you mean she is being a bitch / cunt for not respecting your Authoritaaay!! This is awesome. I've been that guy pussy, and will be less so after reading this.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 02:01 PM
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Congrats brother, and how fortunate you are that the wasted time you describe can be measured in months, instead of years or decades.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/16 12:14 PM
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If you genuinely feel like you're talking to a dumb ass then that would not make an LTR, for me anyway. I've been there too - banging a hot girl and something in me just goes MEH... she's sooo very stupid. Too stupid.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 12:10 AM
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The continuum is there. Question being where is your sweet spot? There must be 8.5's that you'd be able to tolerate. She's financially responsible? Jesus, where I've been that sounds like a unicorn lol. Perhaps you could lead her toward having a social life of her own with new hobbies? but without the GNO flirt/hookup shit. You could also do things with her that don't involve much talking - exercise related or going out to the movies. I can't solve this for you brother.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 12:06 AM
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Set aside more time for yourself so you don't have to listen as much? And not only do they talk too much but they often talk about totally meaningless unimportant stuff. Some are worse than others. Does she have enough girl friends for that banter? There's a continuum between women who have half a brain and women who are hot as fuck. HAF don't have to learn to say or do anything interesting. Ever. Find your match on the continuum. AWALT. imho that's a dumb reason to next an LTR but I have no ide…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 11:31 PM
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DYERTSGM +1
/r/askMRP23/08/16 11:13 PM
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Very important. It will sub consciously improve you gaming your wife. If you wanna fuck and haven't fapped then you are 100% more likely to genuinely initiate. Your desire for her will be stronger and she will feel it. Check out a book called "Wild At Heart" - it's Christian and I am not but it was a good read and nearly killed what little porn consumption I had left in me. My sex life got much better. Also get the book "Sex God Method" - it's brilliant.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 11:11 PM
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Fuck yes. She won't turn back once it touches her. Super easily orgasmic women (I've been with a few who could cum with their clothes still on) - it might be too much for, or just not necessary. But my woman still thanks me, and refers to me as "the guy who introduced her to..." (the name she gave it) As a result, she's been to levels of sexual arousal previously inexperienced, and associates those experiences with me. I've used it with other girls too (my woman intuitively knows this but it won…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:52 PM
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Solid post with great info that I'll use regarding the blindfold, cuffs and maybe even the plug! But... forget battery operated: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitachi_Magic_Wand If your woman has never put one of these down there before, you will kill many Chads by being the one who introduced her.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:17 PM
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This. Hitachi Magic Wand or similar. No you won't be replaced. She'll beg you to fuck her while rapidly arriving at a continuously orgasmic state. If you've never seen a woman (no fap) growl like a dog and then squirt so much that it looks like pee (you'll need towels) - one of these might get you there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:07 PM
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I've handled similar situations recently but it wasn't for clutter. I did ok being recent. You are the one who wants it done so you'll have to lead but do not just do it all yourself. 2 is not gonna happen because AWALT 1 as you describe it is overly controlling. Give your first mate the option to participate if she is willing. Once she sees you taking the lead, she will likely want to participate but will be a bitch about it and make it much more complicated than it needs to be because AWALT. L…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 02:47 PM
1

What's the weather like? Are there HB10's there?
/r/TheRedPill22/08/16 08:14 PM
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Soda = liquid Satan beer = shit tons of empty calories If you count the calories you can allow for it one day a week maybe. Also just never order dessert. Maybe once a month. Shit carbs make the body crave more and increase stomach capacity. It's a lose-lose downward spiral... snowballs the other way too tho.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 05:27 PM
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+1
/r/askMRP22/08/16 05:20 PM
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Amen. Fuck diets.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 03:59 PM
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Here's what I did in the weight department: Used an app called My Fitness Pal. Log everything I eat. Never eat more than daily amount of calories. and Careful of carbs especially bread. High protein foods are my friend. Meat. Fish. Learned to enjoy salads. Killed these entirely: Soda Processed shit food Booze I've lost 1.5+ lbs per week like clockwork since I started. It goes up and down but over time it stays going down. 45 lbs and counting now. Diets are for girls. Change your eating for the b…
/r/askMRP22/08/16 03:57 PM
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Yup. I think back to a girl I was with years ago who had banged a couple famous dudes from days gone by. I made similar mistakes as OP. I was intimidated by their fame. It must have been so hurtful for her to be in the presence of such a weak man as I was. 80% of this game is half mental and once I realized that it wasn't the famous guys' turn anymore, it was my turn, and just by not allowing myself to be butt hurt, my present value would have risen above their past fame in her eyes - I learned …
/r/askMRP22/08/16 01:05 PM
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I'm glad you posted this fantastic article from TFA. I was about to do the same. OP: read this. Be that guy.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 11:35 AM
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But then I can't tuck my balls where no one can see them ...and run from the shame.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 06:07 PM
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Pink lace were my favorite.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 06:01 PM
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Because the idea is to improve yourself and then give your wife a covert option to extend. New pussy is the easy way out Hard mode is to fix the YOU that YOU turned into weak sauce and then resume the original game. You have been here for 3 hours, and have unlocked zero achievements. I know guys who got caught cheating while doing a much better job of it than you are. I'm glad I don't know you. One of those guys told me that fucking a girl at the office is really fun. Until it's not. And she's m…
/r/askMRP21/08/16 05:29 PM
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The new asshole you ripped me is holding up well... so long as I don't tear up over this unsought validation and cause it to rust over. Fucking New Guy readers might also note this excellent example, from 66 days ago, of what (Trademark pending /u/Scurvemuch) "Pussy McFaggot" would do and say: https://reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4oagmp/she_acted_unattractive_denied_her_sex 6 months ago, I could not even do 10 push ups. Now I can almost bench half my body weight after I dropped 45 lbs.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 05:17 PM
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That's why I used your format. Oral this morning when I got back from the gym. whatever.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 03:31 PM
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and remove "responsibility"
/r/askMRP21/08/16 11:00 AM
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That looks like an interesting read.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 03:12 AM
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Chrome Incognito Windows or Tor browser. Use your phone and lock it. You sound like you want her to find out. Stop that from happening.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 03:11 AM
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lol stone installed my new asshole. I think he did a great job, it fits great and I haven't bent over since.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 01:02 AM
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As a FNG myself, maybe I'll try this. That's the exact thought process I have when ever I fuck shit up now. I keep quiet about it because I no longer find satisfaction in whining like a little bitch and already have a shiny new asshole that I've learned how to polish myself. But posting that way would actually be useful, especially to some of the n00bs being referenced.
/r/askMRP21/08/16 12:20 AM
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Incredible stories. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/16 11:59 PM
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Automatic dishwashers were invented by betas.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 01:24 AM
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Our Great War is a Spiritual War. Our Great Depression is our lives.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/16 12:46 AM
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Codependency only kills the weak. The victim IS the villain. Fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 07:54 PM
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This is great.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 03:19 PM
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How long have you been at this/working on your MAP? Are you getting comfort tests? Without more details about where you are at, it will be difficult for men to advise you. Have you tried the 10 Second Kiss? If you're not making conscious decisions, then you're not steering the ship. Not being sure is not being attractive.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 11:14 AM
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I'll chime in here. My wife comes from divorced parents and has said more than once that after the initial hurt as a teenager, she saw how much more HAPPY they were, and quickly came to see how it was a GOOD thing for them. She also praises BOTH her parents for not only ending it when they did but also for not back stabbing each other in front of the children. She had no idea her parents' marriage was miserable until the day she found out they were getting a divorce. I came from long term dysfun…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 01:18 AM
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Solid analysis. I've been thinking about this a ton since comments on a previous post of mine. How much Alpha vs Beta might not be the most visible metric. Rollo's cardinal rule is more accurate and easier to gauge.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 12:38 AM
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Bro. No. It's not. DO NOT TELL HER you're doing the paternity test. Hide the test the same way she was able to hide the other dick between her legs during your engagement. It will help put your mind to rest IF you get the answer you're looking for. Be warned though, that if it turns out that you are not the father, you will very likely still be on the hook for child support after you walk away. That's how Marriage 2.0 "works." You wouldn't be the first nice guy to get cucked. Start lifting. Star…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 11:47 PM
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Wow. Your descriptions of her being willing to spite her face - just to try and crack your frame sounds a lot like my situation not that long ago. She might be getting ready to finally submit. Divorce and next is for when you are out of options. And you're saying you're not there yet. When you're ready to look that kid in the eye 15 years from now - that's when you're ready. Perhaps get your divorce plan in order but don't file yet because then you've got a loaded gun with the trigger cocked and…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 06:29 PM
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So she's a cat who thinks she wants a new ball of yarn to play with. That's not what she really wants (she told him to fuck off) but her brain has been washed by media programming. Have you internalized this truth? I won't ask how you know she did this, but the fact that you do means you're probably spending too much time thinking about her. Make 200% sure that the serving of papers is fully Outcome Independent. Only you know that answer but I'm not convinced it is because you're angry. Your pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 12:11 PM
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Ya man. Sail on brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 05:22 AM
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The drug addicted aunt tipped me off to a probable alcoholic/codependent lineage even its a generation away or once removed. That shit fucks up families - mine for example. It's out of your hands bro. If you don't want to be in the middle of it then don't be. By staying out of it. It's in the hands of the courts now and will de decided there. That said, I'm interested to see what more insight you get from the others here.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 08:52 PM
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I think similar thoughts as you when seeing those books. /u/WhiteTrashKiller provided some insight on my recent field report about a RP plateau which confirmed my suspicions from reading Rollo. At a certain point, I will just be shoveling shit against the tide because my woman will not be able to fully acknowledge perceived vs actual SMV when it comes to me. At some level, I will always be the little puss that I was when we met, but it hasn't been long enough to make an informed decision so I wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 04:29 PM
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I read only the title and was able to answer YES. I read the post just for the hell of it. DO NOT GET THIS BITCH PREGNANT. Now and probably ever. The Cock carousel that she has ridden destroyed her ability to pair bond with YOU. Now SHE must live with that. ALONE. This is does not have to be your problem. Sunk Cost Fallacy. Sounds like you made a mistake. Get out soon if things do not improve after you: Lift. Read Sidebar. EDIT: Did you hear me? DO NOT GET THIS BITCH PREGNANT.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:29 PM
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You can't save your marriage. You CAN save yourself and maybe the marriage will right itself but by then you shouldn't care. Lift. Sidebar. Take action.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 11:47 AM
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Stop being her friend. Do NOT go to counseling. Read sidebar and DO what it says. Build a life of your own and allow her to be part of it if she proves herself worthy. Give this process 1 month per year of your marriage. STFU around her while you get started. Maybe you can learn to be her lover.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 11:44 AM
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These are good points that give me perspective about what my woman generally brings to the table and especially that in some ways I have also shut her out. She's not my business partner, she's my woman and I should delegate things even if she doesn't do them as well as I do. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 10:32 AM
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I've asked myself this question before, after getting a comfort test recently along the lines of "I feel like you only want me for sex." The test was likely prompted by my change in behavior where I stopped being a drunk captain and just started dealing with shit while also avoiding the covert contracts that she'd become accustomed to. My reply was something like "aww baby I enjoy your company and you're easy on the eyes." After I said it, I realized I wasn't lying. Fortunately she's not so pois…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 10:26 AM
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There are cohabitation agreements but I'm not sure a woman would sign the one that says I can have her forcibly removed at any time.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/16 05:38 PM
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"will I walk alone" I'm not there yet. I got a lot out of WISNIFG the first time through but it is on my re-read list. I'm sure that the reason I have not internalized the concepts is because: I must know loneliness like it is the best and only friend I'll ever have. There would then be no more gloating reactions to response from others, negative or positive. My woman keeps telling me how great I look. I get IOIs like I've never received and it's fucking with me. Granted, that's improvement over…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 05:53 PM
1

...off the top of my head. Touching The Void The Cuckoos Egg Man's Search For Meaning Spiritual Bypassing Guerrilla Mindset / Danger And Play The Tao of Wu The Creature From Jekyll Island The Myth Of Male Power Wild At Heart / Fathered By God Trust Me I'm Lying Fight Club The Mole People by Jennifer Toth The Integral Vision by Ken Wilber On my to read list: What every BODY is saying Extreme Ownership The Obstacle Is The Way
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 04:23 PM
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You got a head start. I was still seeing that term in my late 20s. Do you even IRC bro? DCC is down now what's a warez kiddie to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 04:14 PM
1

Phew. Law suits are expensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 03:29 PM
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Sarcasm. It's an art form. Besides, I can't wash my mouth without help from my mommy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 03:28 PM
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Are the legend behind that term? Well shit. I am honored to know. #fistpump What are your licensing rates?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:45 PM
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I though you were going too easy on him until I read that last paragraph. The thing must be too heavy to get off the couch and besides... I heard that the last level of Final Fantasy 69 has some anime porn that hasn't been uploaded to YouTube yet. OP would be 1337 if he could unlock it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:35 PM
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This.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:30 PM
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Bro, /u/bogeyd6 is 100% correct. Any male who plays video games like they're a legitimate hobby is a total douche. I should know because I once played for 18 hours at a time without stopping. Regularly. Oh and don't forget to be stoned as fuck the entire time - chicks really dig that. It's so attractive. Also be sure and tell her when you beat the boss on the final level because she'll wanna blow you then for sure. I will never know what I could have done with that time. It's gone. Don't be like…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:26 PM
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Indeed she was drunk enough to get robbed easily. We were in a city. There were legitimate safety concerns which is why I went to get her when she asked. She couldn't find the car or would have followed me there herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 09:07 PM
1

Yea. Meh. But lesson learned indeed. I wouldn't waste my time trying to control how much anyone drinks but I am also not gonna allow it to effect my quality of life. And I had already made mistakes by the time I allowed her to get anther drink. It was a backslide.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 08:56 PM
1

Haha I like the comparison.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 08:54 PM
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Good question and true that it doesn't matter to her. I go to the gym on Sunday mornings and then take care of household stuff. I also choose not to function on less than 7-8 hours of sleep. That's one item on my self care list from NMMNG. It was after midnight and I don't drink. I keep a pretty strict routine and remain mindful of my biorhythms. After everyone is shit drunk, I get bored. Anywhere - even if I am out by myself. I had a great time though and would go back anytime... but my night w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 08:53 PM
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Fact. Good point. I was 100% sober. And remain that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 02:01 PM
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The "didn't even notice" place is where I want to be. Thanks for drawing my attention to that, but it will happen on it's own time because the harder I try, the harder it will get. There is no "try" and there is no spoon.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 11:32 AM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 10:06 AM
1

Agreed. I see the feminist thing as a spectrum and yes she's been brainwashed a bit by the cultural Marxist propaganda, but compared to my friends' women? and compared to women I work with? She ain't even close to that bad, it just comes out occasionally like this time. Example: she makes fun of women who complain about the patriarchy when getting whistled at on the street. She sees that response from men for what is. A compliment. But if I ever have to next her, I'm flying to another country to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 02:32 AM
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The thought of driving home totally crossed my mind - I damn near did. I like the idea of doing what I want with the intention of pissing her off because I do know how she gets when she's drunk. That story about the restaurant is priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 02:22 AM
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Yeah man. I see this coming as a very real possibility and appreciate your confirmation of the dark truths that I have read in Rollo and elsewhere. But I am not at my TRP peak yet and therefore don't have enough data to make a proper calculation. However I am weary indeed that as my actual SMV increases, her perceived value of me will remain what it was and I will be treated accordingly. Poorly. Not as well as what I'm worth. That said, she has mysteriously started doing my laundry without anyth…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 02:14 AM
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I didn't have one. Just carry on and dance. No woman has ever said anything like that to me. Ever. My only goal was to prevent her from see my jaw hit the floor - in that I succeeded.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 01:37 AM
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Excellent insights. I actually ordered a hard copy of WISNIFG recently and its been calling my name for a deep dive and re read. I got something out of it the first time but not enough. Given my sordid past, there are surely more answers there that I need to internalize deeply. I've also been thinking what do about my history with her and your suggestion of what and when to tell her is spot on, but I had never considered doing that. The reason she's afraid of being controlled is because I used t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 12:40 AM
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There's no frame like that of a drunk who is convinced he/she is right. Truth. Thanks for the insight. and still wind up with a belligerent imbecile for the rest of the night. This happens to me a bit more than I'd like, but being a non drinker and former drunk myself, it's something I've had to learn to deal with at... least within reason. Perhaps I'm being too compromising in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 11:56 PM
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I appreciate the confirmation of my suspicions that I am still moving too fast and therefore ahead of my skill set. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 11:09 PM
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MRP is the balls. I really appreciate the time you took to write this and it's spot on. Gloating I was. And that really was my first mistake, but I couldn't see it until now. Also, your description of the place I am headed towards is extremely valuable. It's easier to get somewhere when you know what it looks like and this is uncharted territory for me. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 11:07 PM
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Right on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 10:49 PM
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My lack of leadership is bleeding in other areas too that I won't bother to mention, but you still made a good point and it's good to know that I'm not the only one with a wife who can be an ugly drunk. She's not alcoholic. I know this because I am, and haven't had a desire to drink in years. She doesn't drink the way I did but alcohol is still alcohol.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 10:48 PM
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Solid feedback. Blowing loads in her before we go out dulls my edge for sure. Also I'm just starting to actually study (instead of only read about) PUA. And BPP says right there in the dread levels to try PUA game on the wife first exactly as you suggest. I've used openers on her just for fun with good results but never really planned out the long game because I was taking the pussy for granted... but AWALT. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 10:39 PM
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Indeed. I spotted those mistakes of mine, AFTER having made them - which won't be good enough next time. Exactly: I flip flopped like a pussy. She was drunk. Moving forward I ought to have enough resolve to just get that and know. And thanks for pointing out the unproductive sorry assed feeling for myself. I can let that shit go now because I'm not that any more.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 10:32 PM
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Read it twice and posted responses in OYS the second time. That said, I once leaned beyond nice guy into "control your bitch else be paralyzed with suicidal fear" full blown codependent, so I am not surprised that while I didn't miss the point, I am still missing behavioral manifestations of nice guy syndrome. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 10:25 PM
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Right on. I hear I'm a weak faggot too. That's one reason I posted. No she doesn't need to change and I already know that I do need to continue changing. It seems you agree that a sunk cost fallacy may apply here - she may only put in effort for the next guy if I eventually do get rid of her because I decide she sucks. Let's see where better Abundance Mentality and better NGAF can take me. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 09:08 PM
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Thanks for this. True story. That's one part of this that I got right.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 09:00 PM
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Points taken. I wasn't seeking the validation but she was giving it and I was unsure how to respond. STFU is right. Maybe smile. She's already noticed a while ago hostesses giving me IOIs when we dine out as well as my waistline decrease and both of those were unprompted by me. This is totally new territory for me as a career beta who only got pussy at all because I have a few positive physical traits like height. It probably sounds gay but for the first time in my life, I feel fucking great abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/16 08:57 PM
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Yes. I was gonna mention something similar. I had to kill my covert contracts first* ...but now I just deal with a lot of household shit like that, because it's easier for me than it is for her - practically effortless and just part of my routine. The other day she actually thanked me for all the things I do. I responded something like "you're welcome" with a tone of NBD/DGAF and I wasn't even pretending. It felt natural. A moment later I thought to myself - thanks MRP, I guess that's what highe…
/r/askMRP04/08/16 06:48 PM
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This.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 04:25 PM
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Hell yeah brother. I'm about 4 months in and also now easing in to dread level 5. I'm down 40 lbs and counting. Picked up a pair of designer jeans with great shoes and some shirts in my new lower neck size. My old clothes don't really fit anymore. Almost dropped 2 inches around the waist and need a new belt soon. And... similar to your report, I am getting a huge increase in IOI's, especially when I'm out with my lady due to pre selection. I must be a shallow pig.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 03:09 PM
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"Fear Of A Black Hat" FTW
/r/askMRP27/07/16 10:29 PM
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Her demons are not your problem unless you make them so. People get paid $150 per hour once per week to sort out other people's demons. What you have for her is NOT LOVE, it's codependency. Your sense of self value is utterly reliant on her and not God. You have no self esteem. I was also a little bitch like you for decades. Now I'm not, but I ain't where I want to be yet, and that's the fun part once you start taking actions. And even when you fix yourself, if you do, the chances of her ever tr…
/r/askMRP27/07/16 07:07 PM
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A line in the sand would be something she can see and has been told.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 04:54 PM
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Yup. This. I really hope I've finally learned never to tell my woman to "calm down" ever. Again.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 04:51 PM
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An ignorant man.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:43 PM
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How much is "drinking too much and getting resentful" ?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 11:57 AM
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I can't make that decision for somebody else, I just know that in my case, the prime time is likely past.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 05:17 PM
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I won't judge Mick. But this is the true for me. If I'd known then what I know now, things would different, but they aren't. Let's say I found a properly vetted mother and had a son in the next 3-5 years - that boy would be entering high school and needing a father who is near peak SMV and in very good health... when I was retired. This would not be a good decision for me to make out of concern for the son. It's unfortunate that I am now a statistic contributing to idiocracy but it's reality.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 03:17 PM
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Women will fuck a guy they hate before they fuck a guy who is too nice to them. sad but... so true!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 03:06 PM
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First: LIFT. Did more for me than all the intellectual psycho babble could ever do. Theory is not practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 11:44 PM
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There is a guarantee - in YOU. That's it. And if she can't guarantee that it won't happen again then she is not LTR worthy. Plate her if you've got the balls but I'll bet you don't because I didn't.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 11:51 AM
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One day I found myself headed over, uninvited, to a multiple rape survivors' house that I was seeing because I knew she was crying and had locked herself in her room. I knocked on the door. She didn't answer. She was home. Her car was there. Suddenly I was that same toddler I'd been, banging on the door to be let out of the room where my mother had locked me. The reason my mother locked me up was not necessarily for punishment but I didn't know that as a defenseless kid. Decades later, I was ban…
/r/askMRP14/07/16 11:50 AM
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Dude. I've been with multiple women who were raped in my blue pill days. One of them multiple times. I was a shit magnet for them. PTSD is bad news and only your problem if you make it so. You cannot save people. The world is abundant, filled with beautiful women. You might be codependent. Look it up. Then come back and start with No More Mr Nice Guy.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 01:36 AM
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Yes. This. I wish I had started with that book. Woulda saved some trouble.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 01:29 AM
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The Judge was identified in me during so called "parts" integration work. The Warrior is from the KWML model. This guy is a boss and the first place I read about it: http://www.masculinity-movies.com/movie-database There is also a book "King Warrior Magician Lover" I found most interesting (and useful) the opposing shadow polarities of each archetype. When I'm fucking up, it's because one of those is out of balance. King energy for example, can be "weakling" (beta) vs "tyrant" (anger phase / con…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 10:56 PM
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Thank you for sharing this and I look forward to listening. I read The Way of Men when I was neck deep in anger, drowning in confusion more than a year before I got here or had seen much of any RP theory. I was searching for answers. Great book.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 01:00 AM
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Sex God Method = great book. Check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 01:59 PM
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NMMNG 21-27 21 List one fear that has been controlling my life The fear of not being good enough. In confronting this fear, my mantra has become "I am worthy." I have also developed an inner relationship with my Judge and also my Warrior part. When the Judge enters my thoughts to attempt making me feel guilty about being who I am, I mentally say to the Judge STFU and then ask my Warrior to fill me with courage and he then replies. This may sound dumb crazy, but in private I have actually yelled …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 10:22 AM
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It's completely irrational, but so true in my brief experience. A real master might be able to do it moments later before sliding as far as I did. I'm not there yet. And I don't have kids, but it's a bit like what I've seen people do with young babies: Baby cries a little. Parent smiles and laughs. Baby giggles.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 07:46 PM
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This sounds like a great plan. Thanks.
/r/askMRP11/07/16 06:43 PM
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This is ownership.
/r/askMRP11/07/16 06:41 PM
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I failed a shit test yesterday in a bad way and almost posted about it but figured I could just hand my own ass to myself. My setback at the time felt like 3 months back in about 3 seconds but reading this is refreshing to see that men who've been here many months longer than me still aren't perfect. I made similar mistakes as yours yesterday: used overt truth about her behavior as a weapon and got into name calling etc. it spiraled a lot longer than yours did but I am back on track now. How did…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 06:17 PM
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We'll see. It's not possible to bargain with the past either and trying to do so is a mistake I've made. Your idea for a next post is great - looking forward to that if it transpires.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 09:15 PM
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After reading the replies, I see how right you are. He might even be worse than I was before /u/stonepimpletilists ripped me a shiny new asshole, but given all the slow "progress" I made alone, more than a year ago, without MRP or any RP theory, I'm willing to give OP the benefit of the doubt. But jeez there's a ton of doubt and I'm not a gambling man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 06:40 PM
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Great post. Bargaining. That is the word I was missing in my NMMNG #19-20 OYS reply last week when I talked about no longer trying wasting my time and energy to "fix" my past rather than just own it, learn from it, and move on. Good stuff /u/ex_addict_bro Sounds like you've dropped the rock. "If you should go skating On the thin ice of modern life Dragging behind you the silent reproach Of a million tear stained eyes Don't be surprised, when a crack in the ice Appears under your feet You slip ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 06:23 PM
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Totally. Once a woman stops acting like a cunt, it's never a good idea to remind her that she did, and then ask why, so you can prove you're right. Of course you're right. Her emotional memory is non existent. When it's sunny don't talk about how it rained a few hours ago or else it will start back up again lol. Such a simple principle once it's internalized.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 09:24 PM
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This. OP, a bit of similar shit like yours happened with me long before I got here. I moved out and went monk for months. Read NMMNG and did a ton of self evaluation. It was very helpful and I didn't even have the resources here like you do now.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 07:44 PM
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MRP was/is a game changer for me. You still can't control her. You can change and learn to control yourself. When you get better at controlling and directing yourself to put YOU first, you will likely see a change in the reflection of her man that any woman's behavior is. And if you don't then it won't matter because you'll be doing this to save yourself, not the marriage/relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 07:39 PM
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Save yourself. Not the relationship. If it works? Fine. If it fails? Fine. You don't have the power to control others, especially this woman you married. Do you realize how big a bullet you dodged? A woman with a full on beta will definitely put him in situations where he should hit her. Women fucking hate betas. Trust me I've been there. Do not let this happen. Make damned sure you can hold frame when she's a cunt, because you obviously earned it. Do not say you're "sorry." Do not tell her you …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 02:40 PM
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You are the most important person in your life. Nobody else gives a fuck, so I stopped pretending they did GAF, or even worse - pretending they should.
/r/seduction06/07/16 02:16 PM
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Thanks man. Will do. And ya that article by Mark Manson made me realize that I was "happy" in a very brief amount of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 10:10 AM
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Yes. I'm in this to fix myself and continue to improve. Without a doubt - that is why it's working. If I ever slip into doing it, or anything for that matter, just to improve the marriage then trouble is right around the corner.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 02:20 PM
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The distance is different for every man. I read somewhere that about one month per year of marriage is average. I've seen significant improvement in a few months but have no delusion that I look like an underwear model. I don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 02:18 PM
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Nice work man. This post is inspiring although I'm already seeing great results and have no intention of stopping switching to maintenance, until I'm where I want to be. I'm only several months in and gradually easing in to Dread Level 5. I can't go balls out on the new wardrobe yet because I'm not quite where I want to be body wise yet but this past weekend I picked up a new outfit at a designer store and put it on before dinner. She exclaimed "look at how flat your stomach is" and then in fron…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 11:31 AM
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NMMNG 19-20 19 One area in my life where I routinely feel frustrated and out of control? Trying to "go back in time" and do the things I wish I had done differently - i.e. "fixing" mistakes in my past. Taking responsibility for my mistakes in the past is necessary but is not the same as trying to go back and fix it. I can do things for fun now that I used to do more seriously, and perhaps I may still "succeed", but I have found happiness as "the process of becoming my ideal self" and I ought to …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 10:12 AM
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"Fair"? No, but I don't give a shit. That's my boundary. This is gold.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 03:55 PM
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Great. Stay the fuck away from women at meetings. Do not give them your phone number. Imagine what they did to get there. Sadly, I speak from experience. Once I saw the great fact that I was physically allergic to the drinking that had been a temporary solution to my thinking ... I realized that I was spiritually fucked, unless I became willing to have Hope that another man who had created his own personal hell would show me the way out. He did. That was 5 and 1/2 years ago and the tools I was g…
/r/askMRP03/07/16 01:57 PM
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Spot on ex addict brother. This hits close to home for me and my past. I couldn't agree more.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 08:16 PM
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First paragraph: http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt4.pdf You sound alcoholic but that's your decision. If alcoholism is your problem then that is the very first thing that needs addressing... not how much you're drinking, because alcoholics don't have a problem with drinking, alcoholics have a problem with sobriety. AA and a journey through the 12 Steps via The Big Book with a qualified sponsor is one proven Solution to alcoholism.
/r/askMRP01/07/16 10:33 AM
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Deida, I think it's in The Enlightened Sex Manual, talks about choosing not to ejaculate while having sex. I tried it for a while, every other time or so, and it was pretty awesome. Filled me with a strange sense of power. I haven't done it in a while though. It's kind of like lifting... with your cock. EDIT: and I agree - the post is a mess. EDIT: my wife's response the first time I did it was priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 07:07 PM
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This wins lol
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 07:01 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 10:30 AM
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I'll check it out, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 10:30 AM
1

How long you have implemented red pill into your marriage? 2.5 Months. Where are you at on the 12 Levels of Dread? Dread Level 4 How long have you been married, and how is it going? 2 years. This stuff is working. How is your sex life? (quantity and quality) 2x per week and sometimes a BJ. Very rarely more than 5 days no sex. How are you? (happiness, fitness- do you even lift? dadbod?) More than half way to target weight so far. Lifting with machines, have started to notice tone. What are you cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 12:15 PM
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Fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 10:29 AM
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Plenty meaning I had 19 and 20 ready to go but wouldn't fit in the maximum post length lol
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 02:16 PM
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