Actually sick... how to hold frame?

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-19T18:11:44+00:00

Separate and deal with it on your own. Lock yourself in a room and fight it by yourself. Your wife is not your friend or your ally.

I always find it interesting how women are supposed to be the compassionate angels of fucking mercy yet the reports are ubiquitous that women abandon their men and withdraw ALL emotional support THE SECOND the man becomes sick.

Yes dears, some women stay with their man through thick and thin- but to do so they draw on the mothering instinct, NOT the wife instinct. She can be compassionate on rare occasions but she will not be fucking the man who is now her child. Look carefully and you will see in almost every case she does this not for the man but to maintain her image as a special snowflake angel of mercy. You can almost see them cum in their otherwise dry panties when people laud her for her bravery.

Got it guys? Women are brave for taking care of a man dying with cancer but the guy, screaming in agony, riddled with pain will be looked at with disgust from the women whose unspoken (and sometimes spoken!) message is: "Why doesn't he die already."

In almost every case a wife will overtly ridicule her sick husband and claim he has "man-flu" or whatever. A man can be shaking with tremors, suffer from a 105 degree fever and even be convulsing and the woman's natural reaction is: "Why is he such a baby?"

Women see men as human "doings" NOT human "beings. We are a utility and if we become no longer useful then we are replaced. If your car breaks down, you don't hold it by the hand and nurse it back to health! You fucking call Mother Wattles and donate the car without a second thought and then you lose a ton of weight (in some cases literally), put on makeup, burnish your "sweet and helping" attitude, and then go out looking for another utility.

AWALT brother. A-fucking-WALT.

sunthas · 2016-12-19T20:23:20+00:00

This is exactly where the phrase "act like you would if you were single" comes into play.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-12-19T18:03:55+00:00

you feel like crap, own it. She doesn't care how bad you feel, just state boundaries.

I'm not going to X, I'm not doing Y, if she asks a reason? 'take a fucking guess'

For me, sickness is great for frame, because my body is crying for me to sit in bed and sleep it off. Anything outside of that doesn't exist. I'll be a dick, which I normally wouldn't, but putting her in a nurturing role isn't her thing, and it doesn't help me the day after I get better, so I assure her that she ain't going to be there.

assured_destruction · 2016-12-19T20:02:05+00:00

Once again i hear myself say: You mean its not just my wife who is a complete cunt when i get sick?

Bitches. All of them.

logger1234 · 2016-12-19T17:49:41+00:00

just don't interact with her. take care of yourself. Do not expect ANYTHING from her. If she asks how you're doing, you say "I'm working through it, I'll be fine."

" she was clearly irritated that I was still in bed when she left for work"

did you keep her in the loop? "I'm not feeling well, it'll be a sick day for me. If It will impact dinner I'll send you a text" ?

dandar4600 · 2016-12-19T17:56:13+00:00

Actions.

You are a man. Deal with it...at least that's AWALT thought process and to tell you the truth, 90% of the time they are right. As soon as you stop feeling sorry for yourself, get up and do some shit around the house or go see a doctor. Don't look for sympathy from her and maybe you will get it. If you look for sympathy, you will only get scorn. She isn't your mommy, she doesn't want to be your mommy. You are supposed to be HER rock, not the other way around. If you are a man, you will deal with it and she will respect you for it.

jtzabor · 2016-12-19T18:10:15+00:00

Never ask someone to get something for you. You will just feel like a burden then. So essentially take care of yourself and ignore anyone being a bitch. <--- that last parts about your wife. Feel free to say it out loud. Feels nice.

Aaren_Augustine · 2016-12-19T18:13:00+00:00

I was sick this weekend. Shit test after shit test. I wanted to laugh it was so constant. Actually went out of her way to express her angry feelings.

It's good practice on holding frame.

Scurvemuch · 2016-12-19T18:16:20+00:00

you know, its wonderful.

When you feel bad, sick, ill.....

you can "hold your frame" by being sick or ill.

And when you are ready, you will stop being sick and start doing what ever else you want to do.

Or, did you want her to mother you AND fuck you?

mrpCamper · 2016-12-19T18:36:51+00:00

Yes, if you are sick your wife will look at you as worthless. But you need to realize this is not her fault or your fault. Expect no sympathy and do what you have to do no matter how bad you feel. If you have to take 5 minutes and puke and shit, you do it. But you move on knowing that no one gives a fuck about you.

Westernhagen · 2016-12-19T19:03:04+00:00

Coincidentally, a local bulletin board here has a tirade from some woman saying she has "NO PATIENCE" with her husband being sick, and other women chiming in about male "histrionics" and "man flu is sooooo annoying" and "they're such big babies" etc.

Just don't ask her for anything. You won't get the love your mom gave you when you were sick during your childhood, that's for sure.

sh0ckley · 2016-12-19T19:58:57+00:00

Live as though you were single. Unless you're inches deep between her legs or she's swallowing your load... and be attractive enough when you're not sick so that happens regularly.

It's brutal, but when I realized my best move when sick was to say "I'm not feeling well" and go be alone - I found peace.

Men understand this sucks. We are capable of empathy. Feel better soon, brother.

EDIT: but it's not her fault and she's not being cruel. It's evolutionary biology.

Texas_Sir · 2016-12-19T21:00:23+00:00

Puke on her. Real puke. It's the gift that usually keeps on giving.

Want sympathy for being sick? Two choices: A Dog or your Mom.

In the beta hell years it was much worse because I was no longer able to do shit for her when I was sick. Looking back at it, it's rather hilarious the way her panties would get twisted up.

screechhater · 2016-12-20T03:48:54+00:00

Dude - Dramamine and DayQuil until you are over it.

My advice ? Show no weakness

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-12-20T13:55:23+00:00

This sickness presents an obstacle just like any other life hardship. Do not neglect your normal responsibilities and use "I'm sick" as an excuse to be lazy. But also do what needs to be done in order to clear this obstacle, to get rid of this sickness. "I will fix the car today anyway. I will run that errand that I needed to do today. I will go to bed 3 hours early to let my body fix itself."

470_2_700_nm · 2016-12-20T14:58:42+00:00

Nothing like a post of this sort to remind me I'm not out of the anger phase.

Just get over the sickness. Talk nothing of it. AWALT.

Thomaskingo · 2016-12-19T18:17:19+00:00

Just don't expect pity. Don't pity yourself. Rets, not because you feel bad, but because you need to get up and running again. Tell her this once and only once. If she gives you shit, then apathetically react by not giving a shit.

Title	Actually sick... how to hold frame?
Author	Snowdog1973
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Date	December 19, 2016 5:39 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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