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But how do you "own your shit"? Do you just do what you want to do like go to the gym, bar, etc. And then take care of shit at home as well, like handle shit test, keep frame, etc? I will tell you the opposite of owning your shit. Let the house fall apart. Wife has to make you a "honey-do" list. Ignore the list until you have holes in the floor. Turn on the window air conditioner while the other window is open Forget to turn off lights at night and lock the door. Go to bed early. Make it wife's …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 04:58 PM
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You seem like you have given this a great bit of good, ordered thought. Borderline Personality Disorder? Just a guess, you didn't leave many details. Yes, I recognize neither of us is a psycologist and we can't diagnose.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 01:24 AM
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"Comfort or happiness, pick one" - TFA, and a bunch of other people I respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 10:57 PM
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my only concern with extreme fogging is that by validating their emotions, it can feel like you are invalidating yourself. EG "That was inconsiderate of me, I should not have done that" is fine. Saying that every ~3 minutes for an hour as she picks apart your mistakes? Of course, at some point you should have enough self-respect to leave, and have somewhere to go, not just butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 05:08 PM
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It's really weird that he posted 'read the sidebar' a year ago. I am confused.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 03:29 PM
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I'd let her be a plate. Live somewhere else, she is not your gf, etc, but if she wants to work (hard) to be a (part) of your life, that might be possible. But that's me. I don't think I'd take her out on fancy dates. YOU are the prize. Let her cook you a nice meal, then go do something you want together.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 10:22 PM
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You're trying to think logically like she meant what she said, instead of just throwing emotional darts like women do to see what sticks. Go congratulate her. She has your hamster running strong, instead of the other way around. I so needed to read that right now. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 10:15 PM
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"Bear in mind that according to Forbes 90% of startups fail." ugh. To get to that number we have to include silly ideas launched in your grandmas basement that never get to $1 in revenue. If you start a lawn-mowing service at night and make $500 over one summer, meet some cool people, get invited to some cool parties, and it was time you'd have spent playing video games anyway - but the next year decide to do something else - who is to say you "Failed"? Develop a stream of revenue at night, or, …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 07:58 PM
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You have a jurist doctorate? You can find something to do in the meantime. Can you work as a paralegal? Bicycle courier? Pizza Delivery Guy? Who care just bring in some revenue?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:03 PM
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This post just blew my mind. I think the ladies in my house will pick fights because they are bored, or for some other reason I fail to understand. There is no logical reason for this. It reminds me of something I read last night in a silly fantasy book (Kingdom of Landover by Terry brooks) - it said the witch was a person that played games, and that you could never win against her, because she made the game, so she could just change the rules at any time. (Landover is interesting, in the land o…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 01:10 PM
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Don't just lift, lift heavy, preferably legs. Activate the posterior chain. That means Squats. There is a reason StrongLift 5x5 is the #1 recommend here for lifting: Squats and Deadlifts FTW. If you want, consider a testosterone booster. Those are not raw T, they are herbs that cause the body to produce T.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 03:25 PM
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Also, you won't think of your kids in terms of sexual market value. When donald trump makes those sort of statements about Ivanka, it's bizarre. Gross. Like he is from some other planet. Instead, you might maybe think in terms of aesthetics - you want them to look good. Thinking of them in a sexual way is ... well ... you won't. Of course, you probably meant that and used SMV as an approximation because it is common language here. Fair enough, but tread carefully.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 09:58 PM
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Of course you can work on how you look, but if you're ugly, you're ugly. period. even if you're skinny, doesn't mean you're high smv. So not true. Google around for before/after makeup women. Short of midgets, people missing limbs, etc, any female upper middle class or above with disposable income can look hawt if that is her goal and she is willing to do a little work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 09:55 PM
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Not sure if troll. Seems really trolly. I've got three kids. I'm pretty sure if one of the had down's syndrome, I'd love 'em just as much. I think you would two. Genetic attachment is an INCREDIBLY POWERFUL THING. Don't worry about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/17 04:28 PM
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Just add some paragraph breaks (double spaces) and it'll do wonders.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 05:24 PM
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Yeah, we really should poor DEER, and an explanation to proper STFU ("change subject or (say something curt and go do something else).") more prominently on the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 11:03 AM
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Nice. Six months In I have done about half your list. Inspired to do the rest. I think I'll start working on personal finance and more cooking next.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 07:04 PM
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If you like podcasts, and you like free, Episodes 13-15 of History on fire cover Roosevelt: http://historyonfirepodcast.com/episodes/ There was a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 09:01 PM
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If that one is new to you then you might appreciate Roosevelt's speech on the man in the area: It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually stri…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 08:12 PM
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Great poem though I never quite understood this line: "If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss ..." Then again, I own a small business. Last year, I quit a relatively lucrative, guaranteed contract to go after one that was much less $$ but had long-term potential to enter a new market. The gigs were with competing companies. It didn't work out (literally ruined by new immigration policies, or, more accurately, the market's reaction to them) - but i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 08:11 PM
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The big win here is he is doing it for him, not to impress her or to get teh sex. Good for you. Clearly huge gainz. As long as the calf thing doesn't become a covert contract, I say onward and upwards, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 12:43 PM
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Being proactive in your life is key This. If the trash is your responsibility, you want to be on it so she never has to ask. Not because you want to please her, but because it is your responsibility, and you are that kind of man.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 12:29 PM
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Funny, details of your life sound a bit like mine You got links for your story I can mine for insight? Does she see/know this, or are you in her mind still just the numbskull at home who's finally getting some semblance of his shit together? I think this is a borderline thing. Yes, she sees me improving, yes, she hears compliments from other members of the church. In her eyes, I think, my success is her failure. Or something. (We don't go out in public together much ... ever anymore. No dates, n…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 02:25 PM
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no, that's ~6 months off, maybe never. So her comment about the sword, if I respond, either "calls my bluff" or gets me to back down? Interesting.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 02:05 PM
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It's a pressure flip. It takes a whiny, victimy comment by her and puts it back on her shoulders, where it belongs. It restores adult-to-adult communication.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:48 PM
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so don't drop the words, she already knows it? That makes some sense. I would feel better saying it. What negative repercussions could it have?
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:45 PM
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what chest thumping? I'm confused. What did I do to puff my chest? When did I open my mouth? I've edited the post for clarity.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 01:44 PM
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yes, exactly. It's secretly a self-improvement plan anyway. In fact, until you realize it's a self-improvement plan, the whole thing is a giant covert contract and unlikely to work. I think you might benefit from No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover and the Mark Baxter podcast. And yes, 60 days of dred.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 12:46 PM
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Okay. Welcome to askMRP. You are in the right place. You get one victim puke, you just used it. Now it's time for the 12 steps of Dread, and I will tell you a secret. Most people learn about the 12 steps of Dread and plane to "scare" their woman into realizing they are a valuable man with options. The truth is, the 12 steps of Dread MAKE you a valuable man with options. She might or might not realize this. Doesn't matter. YOU become better. The steps push you to become a good man, then go out an…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 12:20 AM
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I'm totally unplugged. I'm far along the dread path, though I haven't applied a lot of pressure (yet). Problem is, I'm not sure I even care about my first mate anymore. Show, don't tell. What have you DONE?
/r/askMRP06/04/17 12:37 PM
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Anger phase. You focus on you for three more months. Not just lifting and reading either. You need to add value. Does the yard look nice? Do things need paint? Do lightbulbs need changing? Take responsibility for your environment and fix it. Who plans the weekend activities with the kids? How is your social life? What have you been reading? What are you lifting? What is you % bf? Are you funny? Do you go out places together? C'mon steve. Get real.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 12:10 PM
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So get your head of out the clouds. You're wasting your energy blaming your wife and dreaming of a better life. Improve instead. THIS.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 12:08 PM
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No kids? No Paperwork? She cheated /twice/? She tells you she has no feelings for you and does for this guy? That she is immoral? How much more of a hint do you need? Ghost her. Go be your own awesome. If she comes back in six months and grovels you may give her the opportunity to be one of many women you are seeing and getting to know better. Worst case of oneitis I think I have ever read here. To be charitavble: Six years, you were each other's firsts, okay, I understand, you have strong emoti…
/r/askMRP06/04/17 11:57 AM
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Thanks, it doesn't feel that way at home sometimes, but I can't control anyone else, all I have is me, and I know I am stronger/healthier now that I was ~10 months ago. Woulda been better If I could have skipped that rambo crap at the beginning. :-)
/r/askMRP06/04/17 12:41 AM
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i'm not seeing BPD in here, just a cheater. Monitoring his phone without his knowledge was one sign, raw dog on second date another, okay She took risks in her 20's and has trust issues. What else am I missing? Seems like BPD is jumping to conclusions.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 01:39 PM
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By changing something she had already texted, you caused some conflict. Honestly, if you were passive enough to let her send the text, I'd say "next time" instead of fighting about this time. But water under the bridge. Now that you drew a boundary, figure out how to defend it. If you let her NOT go you've got a REAL problem. I'd also suggest a hobby where you make something valuable or do something pleasurable. Basketball is good, but I'm thinking something other people can appreciate - could b…
/r/askMRP04/04/17 10:48 PM
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THIS.
/r/askMRP04/04/17 12:38 AM
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Since I feel like I'm ingested the red pill, I feel that I must accept 100% responsibility here and that the shortcoming is with me because AWALT and obviously my attraction factor is low since I'm being a tightwad vs. being carefree with spending. (we have all the usual - mortgage, car payments, insurance, gas, regular monthly bills, etc. ) so we are just scraping by. It's taking a real hit on my confidence level. MEH. She could be attracted to the broke gang banger down the street who was dang…
/r/askMRP04/04/17 12:36 AM
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how old are you? I'm early 40's. That is not old. Most men MY age look pregnant in the US. I am not one of them, but slacked recently and gained 10lbs ... some of that is creatin water-weight gain. Still, time to get back to it ..
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:04 AM
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This timing is terrible, as I hurt my back today lifting right before reading this. I'd like to work our 4 times a week. Doesn't happy to be heavy lifting. 1 of those might be running, as I've been eying a 10K in May and here it is April. Whut. On off days I want to do something physical, even if it is just take a 1-mile walk. Speaking of which, personal decision I made last week: I never want to /choose/ taco bell or McDonalds ever again. EVER. If other people are going for some social event I …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:03 AM
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yeah. Put your number in here? That escalated quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/17 05:38 PM
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Don't leave this to her. Say "I got this - you are going. I am staying with the kids." Then use the time before she leaves to plan an AWESOME weekend they will rave about for years. Do not plunk them in front of the TV and serve pizza each night. Remember: Actual brain science sez men are better at executive function (making decisions) than ladies. That means we experience less angst and discomfort when making a decision. YOU decide, 100% confident, let her fall in line. You be ambivilant, or de…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 05:03 PM
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I was trying to be cocky and the is not the way i truly feel. Ohh. Next time, pressure flip: "Can't you recognize sarcasm, love?" "Do you think I went to far? Did i handle this ok?" I think you're looking for our validation. OKAY DOESN'T MATTER. Doing better every day does. She isn't dry, good. Make her wetter.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 04:29 PM
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My wife is in the same boat except she always wants to spend time with me when we have free time. Hiking, cycling, clubbing, mind-blowing sex, whatever. She's ready to go do anything while I'm in this.. sad, pathetic loser state of mind. Fix yourself before she dries up. Start lifting, fix your diet, consider a testosterone supplement. Do you eat crap junk food? I used to be whiny and emotional. I am much less now. I went back to crap junk food in the past two weeks and, amazingly, my victim att…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 12:56 PM
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Yes, it should be STFU about the complaint and change the subject to something fun ASAP.
/r/askMRP29/03/17 10:14 PM
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I'd say keep bulking then cut. It's be easier, and, after all, you want be a JACKED 10%, not a marathon-runner 10%.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 06:15 PM
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Yeah, I was going to say "the first 11 steps in 12 steps of dred are all about raising SMV without cheating." Dude is in the right place. Sidebar, lift, read, OYS.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:33 PM
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"I'm always improving myself; what are you working on?"
/r/askMRP28/03/17 05:29 PM
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I'll bet my hairline that he's the kind of man who thinks you need to fight your dad to become a man. I'm guessing very resentful of his plow horse status, and I wouldn't doubt he gets constant low level disrespect and insolence from the MIL. That's what I was thinking. I went crazy when bluepill. I thought I was doing everything right, paying all the bills, doing what was asked, giving then anything they wanted (wife+kids) and yet the disrespect just kept increasing and we went from DeadBedroom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 01:18 PM
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Were you obese when she married you?
/r/askMRP28/03/17 01:06 PM
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Become high value and enforce your boundaries, she'll be different. So true. I thought I had a terrible, no good, very bad spouse (TM) for a very long time. When I stopped whining, crying, rewarding bad behavior with time and attention and gifts and "I luvvvvv you why you so mean to me" and otherwise being a itchbay, her behavior toward me improved. Now we are in a cold affectionless war, and it's /weird/ but her massive-rude-criticism behavior improved. Also, I'm pretty sure if I can find a way…
/r/askMRP28/03/17 01:06 PM
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cool comment bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 11:17 PM
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On Sunday she went out with some friends. I packed her shit up and took it to this place. I packed the kids stuff and sent it as well - I told my kids they are free to stay in the existing house whenever they want. I had the locks to the house changed. Where were the kids during all this? With mom?
/r/askMRP27/03/17 01:55 PM
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bad-ass way to regain frame. Honesty, I was a big worried, because telling her to put things back put her in control. You could have just moved 'em back yourself. But that would create a stupid war over who was home last. This was better. Draw a boundary, defend it. Let us know how it goes.
/r/askMRP27/03/17 01:55 PM
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Massive verbal fight. She then started pushing my buttons to make me more angry. And once she was in control of the fight and pushing my buttons she slipped back into "Why are you yelling?". This right there, is a great example of manipulation. What you want to do is to decrease your time-to-realization until it is in real time and you don't escalate. Then figure out what to do instead, which will be based on personality, but is talked about here to death. STFU isn't a great response, but it is …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 01:51 PM
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When I read this, I see insatiable desire written all over it. That's okay, it is the default human condition. We buy the new bigger TV, are happy, and six months later ... hate the TV and want the next BIGGER one. Perfect example: People near poverty who win the lottery and even manage their money well end up not much happier, 5 years later, than when they started. The money is fun for awhile, but eventually they habituate to the mcMansion and the corvette, the same way they used to be habituat…
/r/askMRP26/03/17 02:59 AM
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Hard to tell without a picture, but I would say black blazer, black tie, grey slacks is hard to pull off. If you are rocking (<14% BF and Big) and it fits well, it will look good. Otherwise?? Besides, dudes who are aesthetic can pull off anything anyway. My advice for n00bs: Go to brooks bros, or at least JosephAbanks, and let them dress you. DO NOT ACCEPT "It goes with anything." Get specific combinations. LOOK FOR THE OLD GUY who has been there 20 years. If he says "It goes with anything", ask…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:52 PM
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haha. Yup.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:05 PM
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thanks man. The man is being saved. I am in my own frame. Other things are pretty terrible, but I am dealing with it 10000% percent better. It's amazing what doing the work can do for you.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 05:51 PM
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Who is leading the children? Who is the alpha, and who is relaxing? My guess is your wife is doing all the things for the kids and views you as mr. beta bux. Dressing nice and improving slightly won't fix that. Hey, let me be frank. I kicked ass, got myself to a reasonably impressive build for my age, fixed my diet, dress better, better haircut, better hygiene, got rid of the acne, and got social things to go do. Along the way my testosterone went up, I stopped asking permission for things, and …
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:54 PM
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https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/ One small nuance adder that might help: ANY conversation is a shit test if you get pissy and butthurt. YOUR REACTION TO IT MADE IT A SHIT TEST. But otherwise spot on, sure.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 09:18 PM
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self-discipline. Think about something else. Eventually the desire will become less.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 01:40 PM
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wow. I Stopped reading. And I'm like Mr. Empathy for victim puke guy. Sheesh. There should be some men in your lodge. Talk to them. Get your stuff together. (Are you at least 3rd degree? Have you figured out what the G stands for? I'm not endorsing freemasonry, but in some ways, it was RedPill before RedPill was a thing. Granted, it isn't the instrument for society it used to be, but, c'mon.) Next: Hit the sidebar. Read. Start lifting. DO a formal victim puke on AskMRP. You ended strong, but it'…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:53 AM
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Take for example you meeting someone. If you walk up with energy and loudly announce with a smile, "Hey man! What's going on? Awesome to meet you!" And they take on that attitude or something submissive to it, they adopt your frame. If they instead tell you to calm down, or display annoyance or low energy and you drop your excitement level, you are adopting their frame. As another example if you're teasing and flirting with your wife and she's giggling and playing along, she's in your frame. If …
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:50 AM
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You have almost no understanding of how women interact and test men. She's not testing you to see "how hard you'll fight back", she's testing to see if you are actually dumb enough to fight back. Stop fighting back, you're wasting you time and you're neck deep in her frame. Stop giving so many fucks, and do your own thing. You win MRP today, sir. Gold.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:47 AM
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Notice I said lead, not babysit, but point taken.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 12:43 AM
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this article you linked to was good until it got to the 'fixes.' Meh. I think the obvious step is to up your leadership. Specifically, take the kids out. Get the boy in karate one weeknight a week, that you do together. Take both kids to breakfast on Saturday. Start coaching the kid at activity_x. If the kids are pre-school, find a MOPS group (or secular or non-christian alternative) and recommend it to your wife. Step up your involvement in bed-time. When it is time to take the kids places on t…
/r/askMRP21/03/17 07:03 PM
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I've accepted wisdom that, once you have established your alpha dominance for an extended period of time, then a little gob of vulnerability can be attractive. I'm talking "Every year on March the 12th I visit my fathers grave. I sit out there for three hours. We have half a bottle of scotch together. It's been fifteen years. I still miss him." Not crying, not whining, just admitting you are not invincible and some things are hard. I have a buddy who is fantastic at these. He told me awhile back…
/r/askMRP19/03/17 07:41 PM
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stoic meditation and negative visualizations Can you elaborate on this? It is not in the sidebar (which I have read) - I have read marcus arelius and some epictetus, not familiar with those terms. Thanks!
/r/askMRP19/03/17 07:36 PM
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STFU does not mean "Stop talking", it means change the subject. If she's suicidal etc you probably have a autistic implementation of STFU. Have you read WISNIFG? Fogging, negative assertion, and negative inquiry could have helped a little. As for AA, it is not a magic pill that will fix everything. If she views you as a low-value man, AA will just piss her off more. HOWEVER, you only CARE if she's pissed if you are in her frame. If you are not in her frame, than AA is just demonstrating this is …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 02:14 AM
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yeah, I made a similar mistake today. Totally obvious in retrospect. You'll get another chance tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/17 02:10 AM
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Interesting. This points out another dichotomy. Honestly, my SO has rock-solid frame compared to me. Here's an example: I frequently take care of business, as the OP did above. After the fact, SO will ask "what about this? Did you ask about this? What about that? HOW COULD YOU HAVE NOT ASKED ABOUT THIS OR THAT? What's wrong with you?" (etc) When my SO takes care of business, either she's ignorant or actively uses information control. SO: "Daughter #2 is going to have soccer try-outs for the midd…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/17 01:46 PM
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*“don’t you see how that can make guys angry? Women run around sleeping with the “bad guys” and then once they are done fucking, they are now ready to give the nice guys a chance”. * I was going to say, you were doing so well up until this point, but on balance, it looks like it didn't matter. Good man. Just don't take your foot off the accelerator! But yeah, agreed with /u/SeamusAwl - don't show her your reading list and let her that far in the circle. NMMNG is probably okay material to let her…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 01:46 AM
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Instead of bars, you might get a kick out of "Day Bang" by Roosh. Day game is less-pressure, less-sexualized, easier, etc. Counter Fr: I went to a coffee shop today for a business meetup. i couldn't help but notice that during the meetup a college-age woman noticed us, head in her laptop. After the meetup was over, and it was me and my buddy chatting, she got up to leave. I motioned for her to come over. She did, we asked her what she was working on (Chemistry), she asked us about our meeting, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 03:39 PM
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Realising I'd lost frame That's a good step. You are in her frame, lots of her/she and you responding. How would you know when you were out of her frame? When she is bitchty, you don't care. And you certainly don't get butthurt. You sound a little butthurt. Not a lot, but it seems like anger phase. It's normal. STFU is good advice, but STFU and change subject to something positive. Acta, non verba. It's tricky here, because she asked you what's wrong, and you reply: Me: "From the moment you got …
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:22 PM
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taking the nuclear option and calling out such behaviour is suddenly the worst possible thing you could do because it marks you out as being the one who's over-sensitive and woefully unable to read social cues. Good point. Also, it points to a deeper problem in some marragies: When the feminine and the masculine are reversed. Often, literally, the women's testosterone is too high and the men's estrogen is too high. Thus the woman makes course jokes that the beta interprets as picking on him. Goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 02:23 AM
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fair enough. A high-value man might have to do some verbal jujistu to re-orient her to his position, and be fun while doing it. Certainly, the witty repartee isn't all AM/AA...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 02:17 AM
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And since I can see this via some writing....she can see this like a glaring spot light. The problem is you're still too new to establish real frame. This. STFU (and change the subject to something positive) and lift. Internalize your anger and use it to lift more. Do not expose your anger and go redpill rambo if you can possibly avoid it. When you realize you are angry at yourself, then you can expose a little. And you'll be on the path to internalizing the pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 08:25 PM
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Good politicians, good men, don't ignore and walk away from controversial topics or accusations; they "address" them by smoothly spinning and redirecting. Be careful, as a high-IQ woman who doesn't respect you will shoot right through that reframing as part evasion, part rationalizing (DEER). Better to STFU about the subject and change it to something better, or amused mastery or AA if you can. AM and AA will come later down the path for this one, I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 08:24 PM
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"I want to talk about X later when the kid is in bed." I used to do this, my wife hated it. I've come to believe it is a feminine thing, and okay. Of course, that means I was being feminine and my wife as in a dominant, masculine role - not satisfying for me and not inclined to create attraction. Basically, I'd suggest, if your wife says that, say "oh, find me when the kids are asleep" and ignore. If she has some sort of covert message she is trying to send, ignore. If you find yourself worrying…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 08:19 PM
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I'd say if it pleases you to get it for her, it's okay. You are really getting it FOR YOU. (eg lingerie etc) This year for our wedding anniversary I'll be giving my wife a copy of "First, Kill all the marragie counselors" plus tickets to a comedian she likes. I expect she'll throw a fit and refuse to come to the comedian or possibly want me to parent (she'll say "babysit") so she can go with her mom. I'll explain that "you misunderstand, i'm inviting you to go with me. If you don't want the tick…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 02:54 PM
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In MRP-land we have a preference for real experience and field reports over TV/movies because as much as they are idealized, the examples are not REAL. That said terminator as metaphor makes sense to me. Next post: FR, OYS, etc.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 01:43 AM
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Kids gone? Move into a bedroom on the first floor maybe?
/r/askMRP10/03/17 03:27 PM
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If you want the less-conflictly introduction, I suggest slipping them Althol Kay's "Mindful Attraction Plan." Then see if they want to talk.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 01:35 PM
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fear of hell. Or, more accurately, a unwillingless to reject the authority of a righteous God. you asked. (Note: I am not judging. RP strategy is amoral. You asked.)
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 06:39 PM
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I was thinking something like "Does somebody want more attention?" and smile and walk off.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 02:30 AM
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I think women have a fallen nature. It's pretty dang biblical. So do men. Man's first sin in the garden was inactivity. Go reread genesis 3 again. He was RIGHT THERE when Eve was tempted. It's in plain text. HE WATCHED AND DID NOTHING. Eve? Her sin was disobedience and taking control into her own hands what should not have been. Pride. Love of self. Think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 02:17 AM
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"I know you can't really map medical issues, but I think things would have been better If I could have pulled my head out of my ass a lot sooner. " Interesting data point for you. I have a relative who worked in a mental hospital for the criminally insane. No really. He gave me two examples of crazy. The first kind were the people with odd whirres, clicks, sounds, jerky body motions, etc. You do that on the outside as a pan-handler, and the only people who will approach you are the bleeding-hear…
/r/askMRP01/03/17 07:18 PM
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Awesome. I am reading "Education of a wandering man", by Louis L'Amour, right now. I am up for the 100 pushups. My personal plan for the lent includes denial of self-pleasure along the lines outlined above. The goal exercises will be fun tonight. Onward and upward, brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 04:12 PM
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1) She's a GF man. You have no legal paperwork. You care WAYYYY too much about "losing her" vs "being free." 2) You're going wayyyy too fast. Dude. I did that too. Watched BluePillProf's podcasts and said "that's disrespectful!", "try again!" and, afer more disrespect, took off for a couple hours. Dumb-dumb-dumb. Like she's going to suddenly respect a low-value bluepill man because he gets butthurt. hahah. That's still failing. Read the 12 levels of dred. Try one per month. At two weeks in, the …
/r/askMRP28/02/17 09:46 PM
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"in reality it doesn't take too much catch and release for a guy to realize his potential." This. If you find yourself C&Ring like you were fapping when you were fourteen, then yeah, that's a problem. (Edit: Because your energy is being misdirected.) The point of C&R is just to realize that you are attractive (enough) and carry that (attitude) home. I lost ~30 pounds after I un-effed my diet and started lifting. Now I get IOI's just by smiling and being pleasant. I see no need to actively flirt.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 03:50 PM
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correlates to ash wednesday which is the beginning of lent. Woot. I'm in.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/17 01:22 AM
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yes. glad it worked out for you but be careful not to make bribing a habit.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 06:45 PM
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At least take a 7-day Caribbean cruise. Carnival or Royal Caribbean. I worked at a Sand-hill-road VC-backed startup for three years. We went on a cruise, maybe two, in that time. I am NOT a 9-to-5-er, I have prioritized work consistently.
/r/askMRP23/02/17 02:51 PM
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wait for her to bring it up. When she does, say something like "I want you to be my girl, and my girl will take my name. It's really up to you." -> pressure flip. But then change the subject fast to something fun. Put on some music and dance with her. Make silly faces. Get scoops of ice cream. Do whatever it is you do. If she continues to try to bring it up while you dance, say something like "Nothing changes right now. You don't have to decide right now (pause) but you do need to decide so we c…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 04:16 PM
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just draw the line at no. if she leaves over it, her loss. If she stays, you are rewarding, and she is offering, the right behaviors.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 03:08 PM
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as others have pointed out, you are deep in her frame. But let's get specific about what I mean by frame. At this point, she is able to control you with her emotions. She doesn't want you to do X, so she can get MAAAD at you and you'll back down. This will lead to creeping disrespect. What she seecritly wants you to do is what you think is right. Of course, you're coming from the hole. So you'll probably want to start your assertions small. Being aware of being in her frame is the first step to …
/r/askMRP21/02/17 06:11 PM
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I just used an LA Fitness on a travel assignment. Some have protein bars where you can get a shake, meal replacement, protein cookies or whatever. I did not use the sauna or jackuzzi or yeah, I could have been there all night.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 01:13 AM
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YES. I used to apologize to my wife all the time, as a manipulation tactic. I believed that if i apologized, she should "forgive" me and it would all be "better." Kind of a covert contract. Except that her emotions don't work like a lightswitch she can turn off. And she lost respect for me. So the contract didn't work, I was a wuss, and I resented her more. She also sensed, on some level, the manipulation, and I think hated me for it. (shocking). Since I started swallowing the red pill, my apolo…
/r/askMRP18/02/17 12:33 AM
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I will diverge a bit from the mainstream and say it's ok to go Red Pill Rambo......if you are strong enough. Man enough. Just don't come here crying that nothing is working. Go Rambo, fuck it all up, look back and go. Well damn that didn't work. Then roll up you sleeves and clean up the mess. Suck less do better next time. Weather or not it is okay, it is what some of us did, even if warned. Okay. I poured lighter fluid over my marragie (which was already in shambles) and threw a lit match. Thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 03:32 AM
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I do want to help you man. Step 1: Read Sidebar. Step 2: Get thee to a gym. Step 3: Study your interactions with your wife, OYS if you want, askMrp maybe if confused about material. (Okay, I re-read and saw the part about 40 lbs down and body fixing itself. Good.) If you want a victim puke, you could do it in askMRP - ONE time - and be tolerated. I think this qualifies.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 03:26 AM
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Ok, RP aware for a long time. Do you lift? What is your height/weight % bodyfat? How much work have you put in? Do you even sidebar? Update, Just read this: "The good: -No fap for over a month -Quit video games 100%. Instead work in the yard as frequently as my schedule allows. There's tons of work to be done there. -More commanding in the bedroom, she's more receptive to that type of submission than I ever realized. -Down 40lbs, defined abs and chest -Went from drinking daily to completely abst…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 03:24 AM
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"I'm not up for the four of us going together as if we're one happy family "pretending" with the kids.with..me sleeping on sofa bed." Tell her if she wants to make the headboard shake on vacation, she's welcome to vacation together with you. If she gets pissy, hang up the phone or leave. No, you can't say it at your house while you have the kids over. (edited to be stronger)
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:48 AM
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" She is trying to set you up for a gaslighting tee off and re-establish her dominance of her beta." Can you elaborate?
/r/askMRP08/02/17 04:17 PM
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nice. Thank you. I've been referring to my wife as "going into her shell" like a turtle for years. She has been IN her shell most of the time for years. Closed communication is very compatible with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 12:51 PM
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look for a guitar for sale, offer to pay $20 for use it for a week. Or go to a coffee shop etc and ask about the local bands.
/r/askMRP05/02/17 09:42 PM
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even better. Rent one on craigslist. Now you have a guitar buddy.
/r/askMRP05/02/17 09:15 PM
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Well, for one, never 'hang' at the hotel. Develop yourself. Read a book, learn a foreign language, bring your guitar. Go out to dinner with a client, or, if it is training, with a group. Do some research about the city you are in. You can visit mueseums, etc if that is your thing. It's a little harder in the winter in the north, as outdoor activities are limited. Also, nix on the hotel gym. Unless it's a 4-star, it will be a tiny bit of cardio and some weights. Go find a real gym. Meet people th…
/r/askMRP05/02/17 05:57 PM
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It's weird. We say MRP is about getting more of teh sex - and MRP will get you that, it just might be be in your marragie. But that's just the hook for noobs. MRP is really about reclaiming masculinity.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 09:22 PM
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Yes. Offhand tho: Get something else to do when that voice is in your head. stop coddling it. Get more sun. Take vitamin D. consider fish oil. Lift. Take Testosterone pills. Get busy. When you start feeling sorry for yourself, have something to DO. Examples: Practice Guitar, learn a foreign language (duo lingo iOs App), home improvement project. I've done about half of those things, really improved my quality of life.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 09:19 PM
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I'd tell her to lay on her front and come in, PIV, from behind. If she didn't want that, I'd leave and find something better to do. "Lazy I can deal with honey, but I'm not in the mood for lazy AND boring." :-)
/r/askMRP01/02/17 04:22 AM
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My least happy days involved sitting on the couch, procrastinating, browsing the internet, masturbating, eating a bunch of crap, and letting the world and my own emotions control me. So timely. SOOOO timely. I haven't fapped for about a week. I am super uncomfortable. At the same time, I have more energy. My business has had a tangible, measurable uptick. Perhaps being comfortable is overrated.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 01:55 AM
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(Am I missing any big ones?) She's mad at me, better follow her around and try to DEER the problem away ...
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 12:49 AM
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/very/ slow. Maybe we should do a frame for work post ...
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:57 PM
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you get one victim puke. Plus, you have your stuff together better tha 90% of the victim pukes here. Heck, you are already making visible forward progress. Good for you. Call us when you get stuck.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:57 PM
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yeah. I'm much more pro-keeping-the-marragie than most of the folks on here, but even I read the post and IMMEDIATELY thought "oneitis"
/r/askMRP22/01/17 12:46 PM
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PS: Does it occur to you to say "ok, shithead" back?
/r/askMRP22/01/17 12:44 PM
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Is MRP working for you? I mean, are you getting more sex than before? If yes, ignore it. If no, if the RIIIIIICK leads to disrespect leads to no physical relationship (or whatever it is that YOU want out of the relationship. Sex might not be your #1 priority, but it is the specific priority of this sub.) then you need to do something about it. RIIIIICK.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 12:43 PM
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nice. Kind of like the president did with ObamaCare. "Call it that, I'm proud of it. Thanks."
/r/askMRP22/01/17 12:41 PM
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Not sure why you're getting beat up over this. Because we have no idea if behavior is real, if it works, etc. In fact, we know a lot of the media is BP conditioning bullshit. FR's over fiction, man.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:46 PM
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I just got this sent to me on a traditional, non-rp forum. I wonder if things like this might help - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4JDQ2y2B9s
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:23 PM
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haha. I distinctly remember a high school english teaching explaining to us how "The girls weren't interested in Holden; they just wanted free drinks." If only he had some game ...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 01:15 PM
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I thought there was a general censure on pulling ideas from literature, and a strong preference for field reports ("real life") - as popular media has an agenda. That said, novels and literature from the pre-feminist era are probably the most-okay-ist of the bunch. Also, an example of failures is probably safer than exemplars. Plus, the idea of self-development is sort of mini-FR-ish. So i'd say this is a gentle warning for the readers, but overall, good for you man. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 07:50 PM
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Not a main event. A main event is: you are leading, she rebels and threatens divorce. Actively threatens, as in "do X and I'll divorce you." Doing X anyway and let the chips fall where they may, that is a main event. This - what you just went through - was a shit test. And, as you realize, you failed. STFU does not mean literally sit there and say nothing. It means do not respond to the assault (other than maybe fogging, Negative Inquiry, Negative assertion) and change the subject. If that doesn…
/r/askMRP15/01/17 07:20 PM
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no, she wants attention. own this. give her the feelz.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:05 PM
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"It's been one huge covert contract but that has started to change so I'm hopeful I'll actually start doing this all for me." 3.5 months in? Sounds about right.
/r/askMRP07/01/17 11:11 PM
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" I think some of us have tried building our hard framed castles on sand only to see them crumble months or years in. Really starting from scratch or on the ruins of your first few tries to build the man you want to be is a recipe for successful OI." Super helpful to me after a rambo/anger phase and now nuclear fallout. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 09:37 PM
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looks like there is a user with a very similar userID who has posted to deadbedrooms. This account is BRAND new and has not ever posted anything. Dude put two and two together and maybe got 5. It happens.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:53 PM
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Get the fuck out (leave the premises) when you get the hard no, though...start conditioning her. No sex=no husband. I suspect at this point she would be happy he is gone. Demonstrate value first, I think. Otherwise, spot on.
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:21 PM
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sounds like dude needs some abundance mentality and some OI. Sure, go to the gym, but I'd suggest a bar as well. Get some friends, invite people from work to do stuff.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/17 11:58 PM
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Good summary. Thanks. One question: "--learn womanese because the more a woman subcoms with you, the more she is sexually attracted and being able to transfer between these modes of communication while maintaining your masculinity is the secret to seduction." I assume womanese is covert verbal communication, what the gervais principle calls "powertalk?" If not, can you elaborate a bit?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 09:46 PM
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good point. none of the stuff here was new for me. The post encouraged me to put some specific hard deadlines in place tho, which is good.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 09:31 PM
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Have visable abs for the first time Do you mean a "six pack?" this will probably happen around 10% body fat, 12% if you are lucky. Many weightlifters do not have a six pack. So you will be trying to lose fat and gain muscle at the same time - "cutting" - making gains in both harder. That's okay, you'e a man. I'm on the same path. (goal:12% bodyfat) Where are you now for deadlift, bench and squat? (I assume those numbers are 5x5, not PRs?)
/r/askMRP03/01/17 09:18 PM
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12% Body Fat by end of year Squat 225 5x5 - no interest in PRs. Want to do 25 of them. Shooting in Q1 Hunter's License / Hunting Trip in Q2/Q3 Concealed weapon permit in Q3/Q4 Unfuck my yard Q2/Q3 - Plant Grass seed, tend and mend apple tree so it yields fruit this year. Social life: Get invited to multiple xmas/new years parties. To do that: Throw 3+ social events during the year Mumble something about sports. Gotta think on that more. UPDATE: Run a 5K in each of Q2, Q3 and Q4. See times go dow…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 09:02 PM
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I quit porn in 2012, maybe relapsed once every six-to-nine months until may 2016, not since. Still fap and fantasize a lot (daily). I wonder if I stopped that if I'd get the super powers. As I lift heavier I find the % of my time fantasizing has reduced dramatically. fapping may be next to go, or at least stop being a near-chemical dependence to sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 08:32 PM
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Welcome. That was your victim puke. You get one. next post, give us a field report, but start with how you are improving. Some people start pretty low. For me, "I no longer whine and cry like a bitch in front on my wife" was step one. If you went into the bathroom, you're ahead of me. Congrats. Now get going. Read. Lift. Develop yourself.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:10 PM
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The social skills can be learned. For now, game your wife, go plan an exciting life and lead your wife along, and READ about those skills. Dale Carnegie is a decent place to start. Another option - watch a lot of late-night talk show hosts eg David Letterman, then read something like "The Art of Witty Banter" by Patrick King; it is a $3.00 amazon kindle book. It is worth at least twice that. :-)
/r/askMRP03/01/17 02:59 PM
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I read deadbedrooms and the codependency board. I think I am actually helpful on Coda. DB is good for me because I feel less and less empathy/association over time with the posters. Also, I find I check DB less and less over time.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 01:59 AM
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I suspect a lot of people we can actually help are in /r/Codependency not DeadBedrooms. I could be wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 10:58 PM
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Above all else though, the wake up call made me realize that I must start living my life for me and no one else. If I'm in a state of constant improvement, my family will take notice and follow suit. And if they don't, too fucking bad for them because they will be missing out in life while I'm enjoying the fruits of my labor. Bet yer ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 10:55 PM
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Benching 120Lbs 5x5.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 08:52 PM
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I read deadbedrooms for awhile. It was good to see other relationships as f--ed up or worse than mine. One common "that would never work and is not problem because" is the Wife or LTR was raped or abused in youth, thus it's not that I am a whiny bitch with a low SMV, but instead external_factor_x. That said, I think about 50% of the posters can not identify these external factors and are really, really interested in ideas for improvement - they just need to take baby steps towards what TFA advis…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 04:33 PM
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Time for a field report, brother. I'd like to hear about what you changed, specifically.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 04:25 PM
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The DB men don't need sex to fix their problems, they need to stop validating through their SOs and start finding completeness from within; they need a strong frame backed up physically, mentally, and emotionally. They need OI on top of that, but that comes with the frame and self-realization and actualization. I think this is the big seecrit of MRP. People come to MRP to improve their sex lives. If the pill works, they improve themselves and the sex matters less. With OI, they are more attracti…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 04:24 PM
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Every time you see men climb the ladder, or even try to climb the ladder out of their hole, it's proof that TRP is a way out of a deadbedroom. But if you just stand at the bottom joking about it (TBP) or whining asking if there's an elevator (DB) you'll never get anywhere. Truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/16 04:22 PM
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GOOD FOR YOU.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 04:09 PM
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wow. This seems SOO similar to what I went through. I also had a spouse with some trust issues, and I also backed down to make her happy and took abuse until I became something less than a man. When I discovered MRP I went redpill rambo/anger phase, and that hurt things even worse. It looks like you are in the anger phase now which sucks. It took me ~3-4 months to get through the anger phase. The anger phase sucks. For now I'd suggest not talking about the relationship. You come off whiny and an…
/r/askMRP31/12/16 04:06 PM
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" I'm already on the cusp of being too old for bars and clubs." Lose weight, get fit, dress well, handle yourself well ... you can go into clubs and bars into your late 40's. Don't be silly. unfucking yourself might take a year if you are farrr gone, but my guess is more like 3-6 months.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 01:05 AM
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Too old At 39 I swallowed the pill, lost 30 lbs, dressed better, got a real haircut. I haven't had a SMV this high since I was in my early 20's. I didn't even lift back them - no gains. So likely higher now.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 12:21 AM
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"I can't act on any flirting from other girls. I don't even feel like I can practice, get numbers etc as in general girls see being hit on by married guys as incredibly creepy." You certainly can be friendly. They may interpret this as flirting. If they do, that is their problem. In my experience, if your SMV is high enough and you are socially clueful, no, you're not creepy. You are fun. Seriously, practicing isn't hard. Just don't go over any lines if your intention is to keep the marragie.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 12:17 AM
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"expect a shit test when you get home that you should handle through AM"
/r/askMRP27/12/16 08:08 PM
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Be very very careful over the next few months. THIS.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 09:57 PM
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Is this a troll? Seriously? " I almost feel obligated to marry her." What a way to start a marriage! You did not waste her 20's. That was her choice. And even if you DID waste her 20's, well, you wasted your as well, right? In your shoes, I'd sit her down and tell her want you need/expect of a wife and ask her if she can be that person. If the answer is no, well, end it. End it now. Maybe she loses 30 lbs in 8 months (I DID WHEN I SWALLOWED THE PILL) and calls you back. Maybe she doesn't. But oh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 09:56 PM
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Can you wear no glasses in a social setting? I only need mine to drive. If that, join the club.
/r/askMRP24/12/16 09:51 PM
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Agreed, direct to gym wasn't great, it has the risk of looking nuclear if you didn't talk to her AT ALL. By nuclear, I mean the nuke option BluePillProfessor describes in his videos, this one if I recall correctly: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmUlJgV176Y The thing about nuclear is they blow stuff up now AND leave radiation around that has a long half-life. ESPECIALLY if you wife perceived that you were "just pissed and left without talking." Of course, she told you to leave, but SOLIPSISM wi…
/r/askMRP24/12/16 01:18 AM
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dunno to some of the replies here. They may be over-reacting. On MRP we have strong fantasy lives and often come up with something like "She looked at you funny? she MUST Be gorging on someone else's cock while you are in the shower!" I had those sort of thoughts, and got replies like that, during my anger phase. It was not helpful. C'mon, get real. It is possible that you are clingy (are you?) and she needs a break from the kids and you don't have enough of your own friends (do you?) so she is …
/r/askMRP23/12/16 01:58 PM
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I /do/ think you should read some general improvement stuff, but it should be warrior improvement, not Dr. Phil. If you read Carnegie, get an OLD edition - pre-1960's - modern editions are PC-ified, and not good. There's a good version of the meditations on AudioCD - https://www.amazon.com/Marcus-Aurelius-Meditations-Unabridged-Audio/dp/B00RWSEXLK/ I got it a year and a half ago, got little value. Listened again 2 months into the pill and I pulled a ton of info out. (Now 6 months after discoveri…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 01:38 AM
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I initially wrote a bunch of shit that was clearly in the woman's frame and designed to make her happy. Time for the delete button and a much shorter comment because ... Fuck. That. You're doing you. Who cares what she thinks? When she asks, say "improving myself." Don't flaunt the books and don't try too hard to hide them. If she leaves you because you are reading rollo tomassi, fuck her, let her leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 01:35 AM
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"All crazy shit is happening to me: the past three stores I've gone to, the people gave me deals on shit I didn't even ask for deals on." Yeah, I get things like free coffee or a bigger cup or whatever. Mostly i'm just a little entertaining to a bored cashier and they reciprocate. Sometimes I have to ask.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 03:07 PM
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When I wrote "Overall I think /u/470_2_700_nm 's advice is spot on." this is what I was referring to.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 01:42 PM
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I removed myself from the house, because I was told by mrp to do so Woa buddy. You're making major relationship blow-up level decisions because some guys on the internet told you to? Whut. Read the advice and do it if you decide, for yourself, that it makes sense for you in your situation. No person on the internet writing broad general advice is going to be in your shoes. As for crazy text messages, I'm convinced that extended text convos aren't helpful for me right now. I suspect you are in th…
/r/askMRP22/12/16 01:42 PM
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Gotta remember - DEERing is designed to make her say "oh, it's okay, I guess you have an excuse." In my experience, it never works. Like Never. Seriously, last time my spouse said that it was 1998 and it was a solid FACT we were arguing over that could be looked up. If you were wrong, acknowledge and drive on. "Yup, you're right, I'll fix it" is good. Other good phrases: On it! Handled! I've got it! It's mine. Do not make promises like "never again", because you might not keep them and become a …
/r/askMRP22/12/16 01:18 AM
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To what extent did you cut carbs? Full on Ketosis ? I let myself eat Wraps, Potatoes & rice as a side, and chips. Toast when I went out with buddies for bfast, about once a week.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 08:22 PM
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I think ~6 months ago I would have just assumed lawyer. It's downtown at a county seat. As for most girls - he was not redonkulously peacocking - no black fingernail, no pimp clothes. I'm not sure what method he used, but we talked Red Pill a bit, he mentioned dalrock, who is a RedPillMarriedChristian. He seemed very familiar with the literature. I did not ask him what denomination he was. If you write like this I am sure you talk like this squared Fair enough. My leadership is context-dependent…
/r/askMRP21/12/16 08:20 PM
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I'd say continue with what you are doing. At 2lbs a week you'll lose 20 lbs in 10 weeks. That will be a big deal. I want you to get lean, not starve yourself. Your body needs food, particularly protein, to build muscle. When I was in your shoes I cut carbs and upped protein. Only significant change I'm recommending, and I may have read you wrong - you may already be doing that. Plus the obvious - Kill the soda, processed food crap, no gas station food, no fast food, stop adding sugar to things, …
/r/askMRP21/12/16 04:02 PM
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23% ? Lose fat %. Radically reduce you Carb intake, up your Protein. Your mix of cardio and lifting - what you are doing right now - seems fine. I went from 22% to 16% in a few months with the strategy above. When I got to 16% I added a modest lunch+protein shake (instead of just protein shake) and added a hardboiled egg to my "just a banana for bfast." The weight melted off and, while I don't look chiseled now, at least I am not ashamed. Update: "... gains would remain hidden under that layer o…
/r/askMRP21/12/16 03:44 PM
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I started walking in May. My first victim puke was hilarious. I discovered the red pill in ~June and count from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 03:11 PM
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and the hobby should not be Vidya games or reddit, but something constructive.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 02:09 PM
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As in your family gets to see the child too. I think he might benefit from When I Say No I Feel Guilty (WISNIFG) here, which is required sidebar reading. NMMNG first tho, too many covert contracts.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 02:09 PM
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If I do this then she will do that to my dick" is a fuckup of epic proportions, and men all over the world engage is this thought process. It's a covert contract, and it's the wrong way to approach your life. The good news is he is in the right place, and he gets one victim puke here. The bad news is he is at the very beginning. So yes, it's a covert contract. It's BAAAD. It won't work. Go read NMMNG and post when you're done.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:57 PM
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" You're not alpha and probably never were." If he was, I didn't read why in the post at all.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:56 PM
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The people who told you that she would always be happy to have sex with you because you were married, lied to you. No one ever said this to me. I just wanted to believe it. Too much disney happily ever after. Reality sux, but it is REALITY, and I'm not going back.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:54 PM
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"Stronglifts will make you strong as fuck. Looking in the mirror is fun. The attention from women is mind blowing. The confidence boost cannot be understated. Lift!" This. I started lifting (with machines and crappily) in July, fixed my diet in September, and started stronglift 5x5 in late October. 30 lbs down, I look at the person in the mirror and am not ashamed, and get IOI's. I don't know if my wife will come alongside, but man, I feel better, and that is helping me deal better with her slin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:50 PM
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" I don't like these events and do that for the wife and believe I deserve recognition and sex for doing so. " Covert Contract. Does not generate attraction; quite the opposite, in fact. What about you makes you alpha again? Who makes the decisions? What do you do to improve her life that she is not capable of herself? (That is, not babysitting. She could hire that.) When do YOU go out? Who are YOUR friends that she can hang with and see you respected/valuable? My TL;DR response - Lift, read sid…
/r/askMRP21/12/16 01:32 PM
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I agree with #3 here. focus on respect via frame, not sex via dred AT THIS POINT.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 11:11 PM
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"STFU. Literally and completely. I plan to say virtually nothing to my wife. Logistics will be kept to a sentence. I will try to communicate as much as I can without words - body language, smiles, etc." Why? If you are a low-value man, well, at least you were providing beta comfort. Take that away before you have turned into a high-value man and instead of fearing your loss she'll want you gone. What you are describing is something called "Monk Mode" in the literature, typically for 2-3 weeks. I…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 11:10 PM
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just don't interact with her. take care of yourself. Do not expect ANYTHING from her. If she asks how you're doing, you say "I'm working through it, I'll be fine." " she was clearly irritated that I was still in bed when she left for work" did you keep her in the loop? "I'm not feeling well, it'll be a sick day for me. If It will impact dinner I'll send you a text" ?
/r/askMRP19/12/16 05:49 PM
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It doesn't matter to her what you do for her at this point; nothing you do will be enough. The more she pushes, the more you backpedal and try to make "it" right, the more "its" she'll push out there to bury you in her misery. This. No matter on many points you put on her board, you'll always be behind.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:34 PM
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yeah, I was going to say similar. The language is RP language, but the intent, what the wife hears is still "I'm sorry, I'm so sorry, please forgive me and let's go back to how things were before." That's total bluepill, man. This shit is hard.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:32 PM
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Welcome to red pill on hard mode. What did you think think she was going to do? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4rdmv7/what_did_you_think_she_was_going_to_do/ All of Triadis3's advice is solid. My life situation is a lot worse. Much much worse. But I'm a little further ahead than you, I think. Then again I'm sort-of socially retarded - I struggle to pick up the difference between words and action/body language. Happy to DM or chat or whatever. How young is the child? The first t…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:30 PM
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thanks man, and I think you hit the nail of the head. Right now, I'm damned. She suspects I am building a narrative or marshalling my defenses or trying to keep the house or whatever and I have already checked out of the marriage. All the improvement is just so I'll be in good shape when I press the eject button. So some comfort might help. But ... Part of it feels like wordplay here. I'm going to promise, now, to not abandon her if she doesn't abandon me, but the definition of abandon is such t…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 02:53 PM
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of course you're right man. Thank you for tracking my story.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 04:00 PM
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huh. I just did that immediately after reading the post. Old friend's ex-wife emailed me, looking for something like closure. (Asking us for extra prayers this holiday season.) I tell wife. Her response: Spouse: "I'm surprised she emailed you at all, because you're terrible and supported the ex-husband in leaving." Me: 2 second pause. Say nothing at all. Spouse: "Oh, seriously, what did she write? I won't say anything mean." That was weird. My goal was to give her a little emotional feelz outsid…
/r/askMRP12/12/16 01:42 PM
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Thanks. It's not just that they don't tell me absurd things; It's that they don't really tell me anything at all. I basically have a roomate who is a single mom with 2 kids, and a 3rd kid, the 3 year old, who still loves her dad. It's odd. It is, as you correctly observed, emotional blackmail. Giving in to it has gotten me to Disrespected, lowSelfEsteem bluePill land. It may be time to try something new ...
/r/askMRP12/12/16 01:13 PM
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this is definitely worth re-reading. As long as you are asking her what to about X, you are in her frame and submissive to her domination. That might be okay early on in your MAP, especially if there are some areas of the house you have delegated to her. But it sets you up for the get-yelled-at-for-doing-the-dishes-wrong situation.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 09:24 PM
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The 12 steps of Dred are for Betas stuck in a deadbedroom. That is not you. If things are going well, then the person to practice game on is your wife, man. Get a copy of GSM (God Sex Method) and take things to the next level. Focus on leading in your relationship.
/r/askMRP11/12/16 07:56 PM
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Logistics only. "Let's talk about it when I get home", etc.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 10:54 PM
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so much this.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 12:41 AM
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you might try askMRP, specifically with questions about the reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 12:28 AM
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--You won't likely find a therapist who won't "spew BP shit". They all will. At my first therapy appointment, ~9 months before I heard about the pill, my therapist suggested I stick up for myself, get out of the house more, and get a hobby. He studied behavior psych at a local university. So there are some, but yeah, he tolerated a LOT of whining and blaming and not improving myself. So take a new look at 12 steps of dred. Not as a way of getting her to be afraid, but a way of improving yourself…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 12:23 AM
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You might look into mentoring from Althol Kay.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 12:17 AM
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"This dominance/calling the shots really blankets all interaction with her--this is just an example. I'm always succumbing to her demands or complaints. Any push back is met with severe disagreement and no matter how justified or "correct" I feel, she never sees things from my perspective. I never "win" any disputes. If I ignore her shit tests or try to joke as a response, she tends to get angry, and adds that to her list of things to rant about." Seems pretty standard AWALT-y response to long-t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 12:17 AM
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but you keep sabotaging it with rigid RP rules. The rules aren't rigid; my guess is he went rambo?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 09:55 AM
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I'm sure it's in there somewhere, I'm just saying, not in NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. I believe it is a also not in BluePillProfs book, book of Pook, or the MAP.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 06:20 AM
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The main event is not discussed in the pre-requisite reading of the sidebar. Early in my journey I did a "is this a main event" post which was not because I totally missed the point. So let me be clear with my words based on my reading: The twelve steps of dred leave a possibility out. That the man will continue to take a leadership role in the family, and the woman will, at some point, refuse to follow. Prior to FU or F ME, SHE takes some agency and threatens comply or divorce. This often manif…
/r/askMRP06/12/16 01:27 AM
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"Is there anybody else who has a wife who WASTED HER BEST on them?" I can see how my spouse has come to that conclusion, yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 12:44 AM
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"he beat the shit out of me" what? Seriously? This is not a troll? I'd say leave tonight. Leave a note. He has to handle his anger. You'll be somewhere else (do not say where, go to family) until he has seen a counsellor (initial visit), given you the name, scheduled a visit for both of you, and fixed the door. You need some reasons to feel safe in your own home. When he texts you the time/place of the follow up visit you'll meet him at the counselor's office. Update: In the mean time, to borrow…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 10:02 AM
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. There are some good steps outlined in the BBP's book. I recommend it. I've read that book and reviewed it. I do not see boundary enforcing strategies in it outside of the nuke. I /do/ see steps of passive dred. Specifically boundaries I see in that book are warning that a behavior is disrespectful, withdrawing time and, for rejections of sex, withdrawing attention. (Time "Love ya honey gotta go life bye" kiss on forehead; time&attention "bye"). If you do the warning, he says take off, which is…
/r/askMRP05/12/16 09:59 AM
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Well, you did a context-free post. Linking to an askTRP context-free post. We don't know anything about you, your relationship, what you've been reading. We do know that you don't lift, only as a reply to a comment Your comment about using hand-signals, that's just weird man. From what I read so far, every commenter seems to be mis-understanding you. So you could be terrible at communication/socially retarded, or you could be a troll. I'm not seeing much other options here.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:42 AM
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You could be socially retarded. At this point I'm not sure.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:26 AM
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so this whole context-free thing is an elaborate troll? Nice.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:11 AM
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option 3 - she is holding on to power tooth and nail for as long as possible. This could happen. You may eventually reach F U or F Me, which is on the red pill path. How will you know? When you say "Be in the car at (time)" and she asks why and you say "it's a surprise", she refuses to get in the car. You ask "I'm going to starbucks, want to come?" and she says no. Every. Single. Time. Eventually you stop eating out together. Ever. Things may get worse for you relationship-wise. If you want teh …
/r/askMRP05/12/16 12:04 AM
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Silent treatment is a feminine tactic. MRP tactic is MASSIVE MASCULINITY. Do you even sidebar?
/r/askMRP04/12/16 11:49 PM
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how can a low-perceived-value man enforce such a boundary? If he threatens to leave, she'll open the door.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 11:47 PM
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I grant she was tougher to handle than most. AWALT on steroids is probably appropriate. I grant you had some redpill awareness, so I guess you were purple. I can't see someone running a pua school that had any effectiveness as being anything less than purple. As for most of the other stuff (coming off like a hermit) that was pretty much what you said. If you want to be taken seriously in this community (married red pill specifically), I'd stop circulating, and either redo or just give up on the …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 11:41 PM
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To attempt to be charitable, I do not take issue with his definitions of psychopathic behavior. I see how it could be helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 11:30 PM
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You being butthurt failed the shit test. Look, I get it, you don't have much frame right now and it's a fine line between MRP (convinced, relentless, and fun) and Rambo. (convinced, relentless, and angry). Expressing expectations without being butthurt is /hard/. As for her emotional push-pull, she's a scared teenager in a new town with no friends. Be the oak. Absorb her emotions. Wait for the comfort test and offer comfort - but don't offer comfort in response to shit. Next time she gets pissy …
/r/askMRP04/12/16 02:56 PM
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Yeah. Guide to the good life is on my short list. This summer I read Ryan Holiday's "The obstacle is the way", which is more like motivational literature than actual philosophy. Holiday is a semi-scammer and I'm pretty sure has hired people to put 5-Star reviews on his books. The book also cuts corners on stoicism, makes it easy and poppy. I'd avoid as not serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 02:25 PM
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Thoughts of a philosphical fighter pilot was transformative for me. I was whining and crying because my wife was mean. Boo hoo. Dude spent 7 years in a hanoi POW camp. Solitary for four of those years, in leg irons for 18 months, took 15 torture beatings for information. Dude held frame. If Dude could do that, why can't I? Why dude held frame: He chose to live, and to make sure that experience was used for some greater good later. This was a decision he made in prison. Wow. He also had some insi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 11:30 AM
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Those are the good things - I am doing the work. Bad things: I've gone too fast. Been angry. Plus I did a bunch of things she saw as divorce-implying recently, like a see a lawyer to take my business from Schedule-C to S-Corp, or save her batshit insane texts on my phone (which one of the kids found.) When I left home for my current 9-day business trip she was giving me the silent treatment and the kids were on her side. Here's the good news, as she said recently: "When you made changes this sum…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 07:40 AM
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I'm not convinced that the woman was a psychopath. Hyperagamy, lose respect for BluePill behavior, CapnSaveAHo, Low-self-esteem sex addict gonna validate with sex, AWALT can pretty much explain it all was my conclusion, yeah.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 11:38 PM
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yup. My reaction to the blue pill thinking was ... strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 11:36 PM
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"Cards" is twice in 4 months. Got two personal areas that need cleaning up. Haven't done it because I started painting a room. (Too much too fast.) Right now things at home are crazy. I think my next step is to participate more in OYS. Thanks tho.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 10:34 PM
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It's not my link, it's the video from Psycho-ex-wife guy. His post to marriedredpill is here - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5fyzma/video_marrying_medusa_how_to_survive_a_female/ As for me, I discovered the pill in July, did a victim puke to askMRP. Fixed my diet and joined a gym. Went from 22% BF and ~200Lbs to 16.7% and 169lbs last week. Read MMSLP, WISNIFG, NMMNG, some epictetus, Meditations by Marcus Arelius, re-read some NMMNG, Robert Bly's "Iron John", Thoughts of a phil…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 09:25 PM
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Not 100%, but the spirit of the advice to just do something to get out of your rut is very similar to what I wrote last week on askMRP in a post called "Get Busy" https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5fccwl/get_busy_absence_for_noobs_you_might_be_doing_it/
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 08:32 PM
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"Question is this: how long, or how many times will I need to hold frame, call her on her shit, and be the oak in her storm before crying, silent treatment, and repeatedly calling me a shovenistic ass doesn't last for 2 days at a time? " Think of the baby you're trying to train to sleep through the night. Rush in ONE TIME, and you'll reset the process. Give in to your wife ONE TIME ... even give indication that Beta B is in the building, and you'll reset. As to how many - as many as it takes. Li…
/r/askMRP02/12/16 07:42 PM
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This probably sounds to her like a temporary new thing you are trying. Most likely doesn't sound like you and more like something you are merely repeating. You don't have to explain. Acta, non verba! Yes. This. Don't TELL her from now on it's going to be different. That's not real, it's a line out of "The Honeymooners." SHOW her. Just say no. Leave the room. Don't paint the wall, or whatever thing she dominates you into doing that you disagree with. But do what you actually want - /lead/. Don't …
/r/askMRP02/12/16 07:37 PM
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Ps: re: Confront lying. Oh my gosh it so doesn't matter. Maybe she did lie because of some stupid plan - what does it impact you? Ignore it. The fact that you're overly worried about this worries me. Of course, it is POSSIBLE I don't understand.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 11:03 PM
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How old is the daughter? "Her" Daughter - you married someone and are help raising someone else's kid? Unlike some here, I won't judge, I just want to understand. How old are you? How old is she? height, weight, SMV, body fat percentage? Do you lift? Read sidebar? How long since you came to the pill?
/r/askMRP01/12/16 10:59 PM
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" She went batshit crazy. Crying, stabbing a notepad with a pen, unloading on me. I STFU. Tried to AM, picked her up, 10 second kiss, etc. She responds by pushing me away and being erratic. " You think this is about "is it a good idea to sell the stuff or not" and do not understand the emotional response. It is not. It is about control of the relationship. To comply when you disagree is to lose. The "fight" ends but the destruction of her respect for you (AND more importantly YOU FOR YOURSELF!) …
/r/askMRP01/12/16 10:35 PM
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Okay. Welcome. It looks, to me, like you have become aware that the Disney princess ideal marragie - the happily ever after with no work - is a lie. Good. It also looks like you have discovered the right place. Good. And that you have not read it all, nor do you understand all the principles, but you are READING and LIFTING. Good. Keep reading, keep lifting. Right now, learn the basics. Simple stuff like acta, non verbal. Three examples: 1) ACTA, NON VERBA "I told my wife that I am not suffering…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 09:24 PM
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haha this is exactly what i posted.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 02:23 AM
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wow. I stopped reading in the middle. My advice: Next her. Unf*ck yourself. Then look into dating again in, dunno, a few months, maybe six.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 02:22 AM
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I got the audio edition. Didn't get much out of it, then listened the 2nd time, and I grokked it. I think Epictetus is more straightforward. It was "Thoughts of a philosophical fighter pilot", though, that really got me on the road to unf-ing myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 05:05 PM
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"Edit: the term "chat" in our relationship means to have a light hearted, good nature conversation. " Okay, fair enough. I had something very similar happen this morning. I had a banana and hard boiled egg (protein!) for breakfast, after eating only a banana for breakfast for ~3 months in a row. Maybe 4. Her response was a shit-test style "So you're off your diet now?" My reply: "What?" "You were fanatical about your diet for months." Me: Stops. Thinks. Yes, I was. I also lost 32 pounds. Lost 6"…
/r/askMRP30/11/16 04:59 PM
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"SO my wife filed for legal separation, so I'm moving out" Why? She filed, let her move out. Seriously, she filed for separation, not divorce. Unless you hit her and she has a restraining order, I'd stay home. I look at your post history, your wife wants you gone because you looked at Pr0n? Seriously? Time to take a hard look at yourself. Are you reading sidebar? Lifting? Confident?
/r/askMRP30/11/16 01:54 PM
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yes, this. Look, I get the hook of MRP is more sex, but there is no promise of it with your wife, especially not anytime soon. The 12 steps of dred end up with you leaving and getting some strange. This could happen. The first 11 steps are everything you can to up to that in order to keep that more sex with your wife. A /general/ rule of thumb is no real results for one month per year of blue pill lifestyle, but if she's bipolor (not manic/depressed, but instead depressed/angry) or borderline, y…
/r/askMRP30/11/16 01:49 PM
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Oh I see. Wifey comes home She: "Can you vaccum the house?" You: "I could, but I'm just about to go outside to rake leaves. Do you want to rake leaves so I can vaccum?" This beats whiny butthurt I'd rather play video games. It implements absence while adding value. This morning I spent ~20 minutes on the couch reading "Gates of Fire" by Pressman. I'll give it to her when I finish. It is about being a warrior. Then I got busy. I think that is better than vidya. Dunno. Mixed feelings. It is what I…
/r/askMRP30/11/16 01:39 PM
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" but just asking if she wants to do leaves for a couple hours." I think you made a few typos here and I'm confused. Could you rephrase?
/r/askMRP29/11/16 03:20 PM
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Yup, you got me, the post is primarily for the career beta with oneitis who has put her on a pedestal. It is not about removing beta comfort (yet). Good, positive, clear reply. Maybe you should do a post on mystery?
/r/askMRP29/11/16 03:19 PM
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you make an interesting point. Worth discussing on the main sub, I think.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 09:00 PM
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I got those terms from bluepillprof's book. You could ask him. Honestly, RedPillMarried has a different hook and outcome. The hook is "get your wife to change", and is aimed at people who are focused on just that. Those people are generally victim-y and in the wife's frame. Eventually, you get to self-improvement, OYS, etc, but you have to go through the rabbit hole first.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:54 PM
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See this is for guys that haven't done shit with their life and avoided work for most of it. Yes. It is for noobs to the pill who would be posting on askMRP. If you've unf*cked yourself, the advice probably seems silly.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:52 PM
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Lifted yesterday? Do Cardio.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 04:14 PM
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She apologized and you told her to stop being bitchy? DUDE. "thanks" would have helped. Be positive when you get home and an involved dad.
/r/askMRP28/11/16 04:05 PM
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I said "No you're not!". I'm now sleeping in other room, well writing this up. You should have not said this and just gone to sleep where you were. (not moved). I plan to keep my distance from her for the rest of the week. But does that just show more butthurt? or should I act like I don't care what she said and continue as normal. Be positive. Act like it didn't happen. It wasn't a serious argument, she didn't mean it. Read more of the sidebar. Internalize. You (might?) know the answers, but ha…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 03:41 PM
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that can work, it's actually humor. Pre-apologizing and lowering expectations is not humor.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 10:16 PM
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"It seems I may have used some of these tools before, but as I always allow my self to be so sucked into her frame all the time I rarely am out long enough to judge these things properly." I get it man, me too. Even today I was DEERing. It happens. Pick yourself up and do better next time. One typo and a clarification: "Don't take it seriously until she talks about PAPERS." Typo. Not talks about, actually HAS papers. Even if she talks about getting papers in vague ways, I wouldn't take it seriou…
/r/askMRP22/11/16 09:15 PM
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"Next time she comes onto you escalate, like she is trying to get you to do." I was 100% tracking until this. Do you mean next time she tries to bring up divorce, or next time she tries to get him to be physical?
/r/askMRP19/11/16 07:23 PM
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"but need to get to an instructor for a few sessions for correct form I think" Yes, you do. Do it NOW. Do not get fuckarounditis like I did, and do not get >80lbs on a bar without proper form. "Come the sunday I tried to ask what we are doing about the separation and that I don't want it." Look man, I'm not genius, but I have figured out this: With both our wives, at this stage of the game, bringing this stuff up is a mistake. IGNORE it. Don't take it seriously until she talks about PAPERS. Proj…
/r/askMRP19/11/16 03:29 PM
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What do you think of this rack/bench combo: http://www.target.com/p/marcy-pro-power-rack-and-bench-pm3800/-/A-14969724 ?
/r/askMRP18/11/16 05:56 PM
2

behind the neck press - that's not part of stronglift 5x5, is it? If it is I don't know what you mean by the term.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 05:53 PM
2

For a great review of this, check out "Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot" by James Stockdale, that quotes a lot of Epictetus and a little of job. His bottom line - life is not fair. Stop expecting it to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 02:31 AM
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I am at risk of this right now. EVERY time I say something that betrays my anger it makes things worse. Probably 3 or 4 times we've been headed in a good direction, she's had a complaint or shit test and I've said given the wrong evil signals of DGAF (like replying "there's the door" to a comment that she feels trapped in the marragie. Look, that's cool when you're viewed as high value and the prize. Not there yet. That's dread level 8 stuff and I'm working on 1, 2, maybe 3.) Good closing advice…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:20 PM
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". I am sure there are conventions and academic get togethers that you can and should attend." If you've got lots of letters and a good consulting practice, start looking for conferences in ENGLISH in your area. You'll find some. Then apply to speak and take the family on holiday. Better yet, apply to present a full-day tutorial and get PAID to go. (Usually you have to build up to that, start with a track talk.) When you give your talk, get your wife in the audience. Do it. Figure it out. When s…
/r/askMRP11/11/16 01:39 PM
1

"I could improve my style a little and would like to increase my income by setting up some other revenue streams (I have concentrated risk in my consulting business) " I'd recommend recurring blogging/writing/content marketing. You won't get rich but it generates some predictable revenue while building your rep. I have done a lot of this, you can PM me. Where are you in Europe? Unless you're in spain most countries speak english. I'd suggest looking for an expat community as an easy start. Find …
/r/askMRP11/11/16 01:35 PM
0

About the 10th time, I come to realize it's a Covert Contract and I wanted nothing to do with it. No, it was overt. I'm not seeing the contract here, except maybe for the meta-contract of "if I get my shit together she will like me", which is the hook that catches most MRP newbies.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 05:28 PM
0

"the training plan I picked up on the Internet hasn't given enough return." Stronglift 5x5, get the iPhone app and a good trainer.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 05:22 PM
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My dad wasn't in the matrix. He had a mission (outdoors), he had a workshop, he took us to parks for recreation and worked on the yard. He wasn't super social, but he was a family man. He was the prize; finding some time to go on a walk or play chess with him was a rare treat. He was busy. He also used AM with us boys, "flirting" with us. I'd say "I need to go to the bathroom", he'd say "go for me too." I'd say "See you later", he's day "not if I see you first." I hated that. I did not understan…
/r/askMRP10/11/16 05:17 PM
1

Also re:getting things to click. If you are bluePill habituated then you will, well, have blue pill habits. I'm in about 4 months now, and just starting to find myself having different instinctive reactions. I know fake it till you make it sounds horrible, I don't recommend that. Instead, do what you know is better intellectually, until your instinct catches up. Lifting and unlocking testoerone will help. Maybe find a 5K this weekend or other easy sporting event to go to.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 02:00 PM
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wow. You are giving her way too much power. If she cheated on you and moved out and moved on and no kids, I'd say stop crying over spilt milk. "this group could have saved my marriage" -> This kind of thought will kill you, and it isn't even true. Adult Friend Finder 6 months /before/ the marriage? Only married 3 years and she was out? that's crazy. Man. Go lift. Read. Rebuild your social life. Restart a hobby where you build something of value. When you feel depressed GO DO SOMETHING. Recently …
/r/askMRP09/11/16 01:57 PM
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"But I still feel there is some kind of a barrier I need to cross, I need to get something in my head to click in a right way. How to do this?" It sounds like you need a hobby where you create something of value. I took up home improvement for now; I am painting a room. That got me busy. What is your relationship like with the kids?
/r/askMRP09/11/16 01:50 PM
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"I will also point out they do not do empathy for their men. Your expecting her to understand or feel your pain and anger. She could not give two fucks and will only feel contempt for faggot husband. " Holy cow. Yes. this is totally correct and matches my experience. "You could learn something from her on not giving two fucks." Yessir. Thanks.
/r/askMRP07/11/16 04:44 PM
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thanks man. Seriously. Thank you.
/r/askMRP07/11/16 12:06 AM
1

Agree with most of the advice here. STFU, lift, read sidebar, pass shit tests. You've got a long road ahead of you - typically 1 month of recovery for every year of bluepill. That's a 17 year trek, which I am also on. If you want specific month-by-month advice, I'd recommend BluePillProf's book - it's like four bucks on kindle https://www.amazon.com/Saving-Low-Sex-Marriage-Seduction-ebook/dp/B01BGZO1WK Also you might want to check out /r/askmrp which is a sub specifically devoted to newbie quest…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 12:05 AM
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It was coming to the realization that I don't NEED my wife in my life that set me free. This.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:57 PM
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I come from work, and she tells me to make my own dinner. NO doesn't work, does it? I tell her to get a job and she says NO. Fuck my life Be a happy single guy with a roomate for awhile. Develop yourself. Get good at things. Respect yourself. Build your relationship with your kids (which you haven't really mentioned.) Figure out how to be happy. Eventually your wife might come back to you. She might divorce you. That's on her. For a long time, go work on you. General rule of thumb is 1 month of …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 11:56 PM
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agreed 100% up until being wary of "want." WISNIFG introduces I want as an improvement over rationalization (which can be defeated or argued with, like the FIL in this recent post in askrmp - https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5bax7n/how_to_handle_fil_manipulation/ ) That said, once you are a high-value man, start commanding. I think that is the time to drop I want - in other words, "I want" is transitional.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/16 06:29 AM
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I was disappointed in it - It felt like it was describing someone else. I believed I had some of the behavior problems, but the cognitive psych seemed all wrong. ~3 months later, after reading most of "Iron John", BPP's book, and a lot of reading about external validation, I think I do have some of the cognitive issues. For example: I thought I was honest, but I caught myself focusing on one thing or another to deflect blame from my wife. Looking at how my story changed based on what she was mad…
/r/askMRP05/11/16 07:26 PM
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If you have a non-zero chance of wanting to keep the marriage, I'd delete the texts, block her, be done. Read RedPillProf's book again. If you leave the door open to more, there will be more, and your wife will eventually find out, and that will make divorce rough for you. Also: " By the end of the weekend I'm telling her this has to end, but I want to see her one last time. I'm going to be in a nearby city, closer to her, for work later this week. I tell her I have some free time in the afterno…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 04:25 PM
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so much this. Just a couple of things to add: 1: Buy the crib. Get up early. Eliminate the BS excuses. 2: You are both equal adults. She "forbids" your parents watching the kids? WTF. You forbid her plan. So you are even. What happens next is the dominate person will get what they want. Your wording like your thinking, is putting her in control. What would happen if you just took the kids to your parents? Just DO IT. Now that would probably be a big ass fight you aren't ready to handle yet. So t…
/r/askMRP31/10/16 07:23 PM
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PS: My strong guess is that she is on the iPad texting her girlfriend or sister or whatever about what a dick you are being, not some other guy. Stop giving her ideas.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 07:19 PM
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My guess is you have a sort of autistic interpretation of STFU and early stages of the MAP. Look, you were a beta for a long time. Sudden changes in your behavior will look like either grabbing the steering wheel (you trying to become dominate) or weird passive-agressive abandonment. You don't want either, and your comments about disrespect are showing up out of the blue after a long period of you rewarding bad behavior. The whole iPad thing is weird. The subtext I am picking up is that you very…
/r/askMRP31/10/16 07:16 PM
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I was/am passive aggressive and learning to be more assertive has helped me feel more in control, helped get my needs met (sometimes too well), and changed my wife's perception of me over a year. My biggest takeaway from WISNIFG is to start saying "I want" instead of "we should" or "do you want to" or "what if ..." That alone was a decent sized step forward.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 01:03 PM
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Hint: You Are the same guy the hot out of towner chick got to see. You just need to bring it in the face of a harpy.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 01:06 AM
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well, yeah. Your mom can love you in the way you want, your wife won't. Just don't be a momma's boy.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 04:58 PM
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all of this was by TEXT? Don't talk to her over text for anything but logistics. Coordinate a time to talk in person, or don't. I know that is not the first time you heard that here.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 01:39 PM
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Wife wanted to buy something expensive (>$1,000) sight unseen. I said we need to talk about it. She said there wasn't anything to talk about. I pointed out items A, B, C, D. When she repeated there was nothing to talk about, I said "If you can't even talk about it, then no." ~20 minutes later her attitude was more positive and friendly. I think she just desperately needed a boundary.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 12:33 PM
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First, think of it like a learning experience, for the next relationship. How did you get into askMRP anyway? Did you read the sidebar? Are you doing the work? Second, think of it like a learning relationship. Why block her? How can talking to her /hurt/? Hint: Only if you let it. Don't give her any more stuff. Learn how to not be manipulated by someone. You probably won't get your stuff back, but I don't see why you can't talk to her.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 12:31 PM
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y at 7pm and dont know the exact time I;ll be there so I just said tonight. She responded with Her: "Ok thank you :)" Her: "Im bald "picture of her new haircut" How should I respond now? ignore it.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 10:50 PM
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With all the context, shes still really pissed at my comment about the uber, and about me "complaining" about money invested in her, which is not even true. ----> you do realize you are so in her frame, right? You are RESPONDING to her anger, trying to minimize it, trying to guess what to do to placate her. Is that red pill or blue? Look, I get it. I still have those habits too, especially when it comes to reacting and not leading. I just realized, like 5 minutes ago, AGAIN, how I am failing to …
/r/askMRP21/10/16 06:16 PM
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sounds right to me, given the context I have. Own your stuff. I can give you ideas but you have to own your decisions.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 05:23 PM
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you are not ready yet to game by text. Sorry bout that.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 03:18 PM
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text for logistics. Don't pressure. Don't whine. Be positive and upbeat. "Talk" about getting her a job and english lessons. Everything else can wait.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 03:18 PM
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cool. Original post was unclear if she was from where your family is from (so she can talk to you/counsin well) or if mail-order. Situation is better this way. So now I'm with the guys who suggest treat her like you're dad and she is a scared girl. Take charge. Solve things. do things with her. LEAD her. IF she fights/resists let her. DNGAF. go do your thing. What you want to avoid is the situation where she is alone to think about how bad her situation - the hampster will driver her nuts and sh…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 03:02 PM
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silly context question: Do you speak HER language FLUENTLY?
/r/askMRP21/10/16 02:45 PM
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"If you have less fs, you accept your own joke as funny and not give two shits whether she did or not." The scenario there is SHE said something that caused my brain to laugh. It wasn't on purpose. It just was so incongruent that it was funny. (like literally the way John Cleese says humor works, can't find the youtube. But it's expect X and then throw notX at them in a way that connects but is nonlinear.) So she calls me an asshole because of logical statement I just made based on facts and I l…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 01:48 PM
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yeah, smalls parts of me still seek the validationz and to avoid conflict. Thanks.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 01:43 PM
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Do Both. Rosetta and the new school. Realize that she NEEDS SOMETHING TO DO ALL DAY. Rosetta could help with that.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 01:31 PM
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shes right, I dont know how to talk. You were doing really well until here. You do realize this puts you in her frame, right?
/r/askMRP21/10/16 01:30 PM
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fascinating. So you are saying that when I try AM, and she gets incredibly angry and talks about horrible a person I am, etc, and I DEER, I'm in her frame. In my frame, I'd think "crazy person is complained about valid comment, not worth explaining to crazy person because crazy." and go on with my day? Interesting. I do a lot of semi-autonomous reactions to crazy things she says. I'll snort, laugh, etc. Seriously, like: somewhat reasonable conversation ... Her: That's why your an asshole! Me: La…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 01:26 PM
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wow this seems very similar to me, except I was more aware wth new babies that women with new babies gonna be crazy. Personally, I've been trying to keep the pill down for 3 months, and m perceptions have changed. Where I used to be all "I WILL NOT TOLERATE DISRESPECT" and "wow, this is the magic forumula for shit tests", I now see that I failed to lead and gave up control to my wife, who now sees me as another teenager or maybe boarder-at-best, who can follow orders, maybe, sort-of. That realiz…
/r/askMRP20/10/16 08:00 PM
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acta non verba. Ignore what she says, focus on what she does. Here's a real-time example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XGn-pRte2fM She tells him he's horrible, he's bad ... and yet she is clearly EATING I T UP.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 06:13 PM
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BTW, one reason your wife might not conform is if she (Thinks) she has you trapped. The hampster if-then is this: "A. My husband is low value beta bux B. If he cheats, then he's evil, I can get a better man, and I get half his stuff. C. If he doesn't, he can stick around and pay my bills. D. I know he won't leave because he is (weaksauce / wimp / scared / committed whatever)." D is the thing that is making dred not happen, no?
/r/askMRP19/10/16 05:08 PM
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" My wife was pissed ! Lol Ignore what she said. How did the next 48 hours go?
/r/askMRP19/10/16 05:06 PM
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My guess is that you have superficial understanding of yourself and your BP-ness. When I read NMMG, I said "gee, I had some of these behaviors, but that lying guy trying to avoid conflict, that's not me!" Then I caught myself with inconsistent DEERing twice over the next month or so - my story was changing to be more palatable to her! What a jerk I was. So, like me, my guess is you are doing some bad things you don't see yet. That's okay. Keep reading. Look for opportunities - it is finances, or…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:44 PM
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Not sure on how long you have been married 18 years of blue pilling idiocy, 3 months of trying to keep the red pill down.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:38 PM
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You win or you get chewed up and spit out. As someone put it - Time punishes those who aren't paying attention. That statement describes the first 18 years of my bluepill marriage, and first ~10 years of my professional career.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:35 PM
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one day at a time. Pick one foot up, put it in front of the other. Alcoholics do it. Prisoners do it. Read Epictetus. It was reading "Thoughts of a philosophical fighter pilot" by stockdale that blew my mind. Dude was in a POW camp for 7 years. In solitary confinement for four of those years. IN LEG IRONS for two of THOSE years. Tortured 15 times. What the fuck is the this silly "my wife is mean to me" bullshit that we have to deal with? Seriously?
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:33 PM
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5'11"
/r/askMRP19/10/16 04:30 PM
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my point was the a low SMV (in eyes of wife) dude doing AM/AA, and doing it well, will just piss her off. I'm back to STFU, change subject, happy guy. Struggling with what to do with disrespect, especially in front of kids. ".and with you DEERing after faking it you are in that group. " -> Fair enough, tks.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 03:31 PM
1

I'm probably a 3-4 in my gym. It's hard because my gym has some retired folks and a couple of serious betas who work the treadmill for 15 minutes and leave. In the circle I run in I'm probably a 3-4. Stop comparing yourself to the gym rats and GET. OUT. THERE.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:40 PM
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That shit wouldnt work on my wife because of the previous groundwork or lack thereof. I hear ya bro. Check out my post from 15 minutes ago. :-)
/r/askMRP19/10/16 02:04 PM
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I think it was, but I'm pretty early on. Just game her all day and initiate a bit more. What's the problem? Buthurrt hard nos?
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:49 PM
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If memory serves there is an explanation in Althol Kay's MMSLP. Basically for females it is all sexuality, but they can immediately increase it by dressing tighter/more revealing/makeup/etc. While for males it is more subjective and includes social standing, confidence, preselection, etc. 5 is average. Just walk around and notice. Get a buddy to compare your estimates with, if your numbers are similar, you're close. As a guy who they just met off the street, walking into the bank confidently, I …
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:11 PM
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PS: Unless you want a research career I wouldn't worry about your thesis is different than your final name. Even if you want research, it won't matter past your 3rd job.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 07:04 PM
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yeah, I thought "not USA" might be the culprit.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:34 PM
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that's bullshit, though, right? Doctors change their names all the time when they married. Some established doctors who get married want to do keep the maiden name for professional reputation purposes - so old customers can find them. But you're not established. Help me understand this.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:07 PM
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oh my gosh, man, so much. Long post history here and I didn't want to repeat it. In a nutshell - I read the sidebar but my understanding was borderline autistic. Like If I do this she will do that, which is one big ass covert contract. I started with calling out disrespect like a week after finishing WISNIFG and redpillprof's book. I ended up leaving the house for a couple of hours (I guess I looked angry) when "that's disrespectful" didn't work. That caused her to say I was going "psycho" After…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:04 PM
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this.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 05:58 PM
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If you really just replied with ~3 sentences, I think you're fine. If she brings it up again, I'd change the subject or try to figure out if it was a comfort test.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 05:57 PM
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Well, you haven't told us how the "maybe comfort test" is manifesting, so it's hard to tell. prelude: 3 months into my MAP, went too fast, had serious problems. I do look decent now, but SAHM is hamstering that into "of course you'd look good if you joined a gym and spent 20 hours a week there and bought special food." (Protein shakes and bannas. And no, it's no 20 hrs a week.) My wife has serious BDP-like issues. They may have been brought on my by 18 years as a beta - but they did show up pret…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:48 PM
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I get it. I read them, then I got serious about lifting. Now I'm seeing insights in them I totally missed early on. Might be worth a second look.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 03:44 PM
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"Back to square one" That's what I figured. Time to bring back the MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:33 PM
1

I'd encourage you to dig into all the sidebar materials; it seems like this would really help. At the very least, it will help you to write a field report people can do more with. (For example, the book is WISNIFG, right? Have you read the rest?)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/16 02:00 PM
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lol
/r/askMRP14/10/16 04:41 PM
1

"Instead of having a lofty exercise plan, SL5x5, 5/3/1, instead of trolling on the internet, just say fuck it and walk/jog with the dog around the block, play sexy time pushups with the wife, jump on the kids' trampoline." I started (pre-victum puke here) walking ~2 miles at a time after kids bed time. I was beta to the core and didn't have anything else to do anyway. Then I cut soda ... +1 on JFDI.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 03:42 PM
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I sleep in my workout clothes and set the alarm for 5AM. Wake up, gym, easy, done.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 03:40 PM
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I think porn and fapping put me in a weird oxytocin fog. Been porn free for ~2 years now, seriously reducing fapping for 3 weeks. Want to get eliminate or continue to drastically reduce fapping.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 03:39 PM
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"In all seriousness though, I was a career beta, and the unplug was difficult not for the reading, fogging, passing shit tests, wrapping my mind around the theories. It was difficult for undoing my laziness / getting my shit together. I had/have a gigantic self-created hole to dig out of. I am using the affirmation and other tricks to un-fuck my mind." At this point this is obviously me too.
/r/askMRP14/10/16 03:37 PM
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I stopped "hanging out" with her. ... Make yourself busy. This. When I read your story I was "Why is he having chill time on the couch?"
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:39 PM
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Computer programming (pick a language and write 'hello world') No. Not masculine. NOW, if your kid is into computers and it becomes something you can do together, or it is a career aspiration, then maybe. +1 on house repairs, especially if you've been lazy like me.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:28 PM
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it is his first post, right? And people do get one victim puke. And compared to my first post, well ... I was much more of a whiny bitch.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:27 PM
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"If you are lifting, then the best hobbies are ones that have you building something or creating something, preferably something physical. " If you are the slightest bit handy, you can get a lathe. Start small, maybe pen kits. Give them as gifts.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:25 PM
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Evenings at the house? Get a weight set. Alternatively: Get a guitar and learn to play.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:23 PM
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"Basically now I'm just sitting in front of the TV watching football and thinking about the sex I'm not having." Fraternal order of eagles, Elks, Moose, Knights of Columbus all meet at night.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:22 PM
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ACTION will delineate and define you. Geez man, get on a month-to-month while you figure it out.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:19 PM
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"Parenting is difficult if you make it difficult and she constantly avoids conflict with the excuse "I pick my battles" which means I let the kids run over me until I lose my mind. " That's a chance to lead right there, no?
/r/askMRP11/10/16 12:56 PM
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Shit, I screw around here and feel like i've done something. I really haven't. Thanks for the reminder to own my stuff.
/r/askMRP10/10/16 09:41 PM
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thank you. I think you've got something important here. Thanks again.
/r/askMRP10/10/16 02:17 PM
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. If you're going to stay with her, make her add 1000% value to your life or she can fuck off. I feel like you're putting a lot of blame on yourself in this post, but there are tons of women who would have been with a man like you and NOT cheated. You were a pussy but that's no excuse. Put her ass to work, run her through the bitch ringer and take back control of YOUR life. Hold her to a higher standard. One shit test or burned dinner and her ass is on the curb. I was going to say this with less…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 12:58 AM
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good comment. Look man, until baby is sleeping through the night for a month, Mom is gonna be exhausted. I wouldn't worry too much. Be a GOOD DAD. change diapers. What she wants now is beta provider, and that's okay ... for awhile. Now if she is being a bitch/nag and the baby is clearly taken care of, sure, take off. But that's not what I am reading, I am reading just physical rejection. She probably gets plenty of touch from breastfeeding and doesn't want more, so your only angle is dred, and d…
/r/askMRP08/10/16 12:28 AM
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+1. If you're in a hole, text for logistics. Sexting is for when your SMV is higher than hers in her eyes.
/r/askMRP07/10/16 06:03 PM
2

Iron John maybe, not NMMNG?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 12:34 PM
1

"people who bitch are bitches. Don't be a bitch." is, I think, the reason not to say it, and what I came here to get answered. Thank you.
/r/askMRP06/10/16 05:43 PM
1

i made my post in askmrp - https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/566d30/so_tempted_to_talk_not_act_plus_more/ Checked your post history. You've been running a MAP for a YEAR? Dude. Do you look like an adonis (at least compared to before?)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 05:03 PM
1

I think haha lol rofl. no fs given here, but it made me laugh.
/r/askMRP06/10/16 05:02 PM
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there's a better explanation of it in RedPillProf's book. But man, I hear you. We stood before God and witnesses and promised 'till death do we part. We never imagined this would produce a perverse incentive for bad behavior ... but there it is. We've got some tough decisions to make. Time for us to grow up.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 04:26 PM
1

Assuming she's had these sort of mental issues, they just kept getting worse, for the entire marriage, the Catholic Church would probably accept a request for an annulment. I am serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 04:11 PM
1

http://i.ebayimg.com/images/i/151327557269-0-1/s-l1000.jpg that one is in my gym. :-)
/r/askMRP06/10/16 04:08 PM
2

this is so similar to what I'm going through it's bizarre. I'll probably post on askMRP later today. It might help, might not.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 02:24 PM
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Most people quote matthew 5 about divorce. Check out Matthew 19 - you do NOT have t make yourself to be a enuch for Christ. That part (denying yourself sex for righteousness, in this world because wifey said no) is optional. The words of Jesus, buddy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 02:22 PM
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I'm a catholic and serious about my faith; I thought it was funny too. Dude, you gave too much Fs here. :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 01:53 PM
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OP has to keep interactions brief and upbeat, but also show 'concern.' Too much talking and they'll revert to old patterns of conflict resolution that have left them on the brink of divorce. This.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 08:38 PM
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MAP. The Mindful Attraction Plan by Kay? I would think re-reading NMMNG would be in order.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 12:41 PM
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wow. Thank you sir.
/r/askMRP03/10/16 05:32 PM
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I used to fap. Then I got serious about lifting. Serious exercise re-directs the sex drive and reduces the need to fap. The lows seem less low and less often. fapping addiction (>once per week) might possible beta-ize you, both in your own eyes (by satiating the sex drive) and also by covering you with oxytocin. As someone else already linked to - https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/17/the-pheromonal-beta/
/r/askMRP03/10/16 01:48 PM
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Get books from kindle, not paper. Less clutter that way too. Get books from the library, not kindle.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 01:18 PM
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Cardio, did track in high school, so this feels good and let's me clear my head That's great. Now LIFT. Seriously lift.
/r/askMRP03/10/16 01:12 PM
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yeah it was clear he broke up pre-common law kicking in (2 yrs) and had no kiddos. Otherwise it'd get complex fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/16 10:33 PM
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this doesn't help the autistic guy much tho. What comes to his mind is boring. One trick I have seen is to have a bunch of stories handy, pre-packaged. They should be funny. You can find humor in everything. Here's a real example: I went through customs to get to Canada last weekend. The officer asked me a bunch of questions - where I was going, how long I was staying, if I was getting paid for the conference, that sort of thing. Then he asked if I had any weapons. I asked what kind, he said gun…
/r/askMRP30/09/16 08:12 PM
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it's tempting to flirt with people whose job it is to serve you. It is easy. But think about the hairstylist - she's trapped with this guy who just. Won't. Stop. I'd suggest trying it at a mall where women can walk away. "Move on and see if she follows" applies there. One thing I am is friendly/goofy at the checkout line. I'm not practicing "game" there, as much as quick light social interaction. See if you can make 'em laugh or smile, pay for your stuff, go away.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 06:50 PM
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if he's active duty or something, delay the marraige till you figure stuff out is an option.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 02:46 AM
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No, nexting is certainly an option. I'm saying next or be physically present. Physically absent for a long time, sudden marriage the day you get back ... how many ways could that go wrong? A LOT.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 02:46 AM
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I get that you are in a bad place, and got there an inch at a time. I did too. If it were me, I'd point out that you have plenty of buddies, you don't need a roomate, and you can pay someone for sex on craigslist. You want a REAL Relationship. She has some decisions to make. Then get absent. Go lift. Let her think. BUT that's explaining. And I've come to learn that words mean ... very little. Acta, non verba. So Lift, be direct, stop with the DLV paying for stuff. YOU are the prize. Internalize …
/r/askMRP30/09/16 02:44 AM
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Give up his job for a woman that isn't fucking him and isn't aroused by him? Should have said "if you are going to marry this one ..." Yes, of course, nextING is the other option. I intended to suggest that continuing status quo would be ... a bad idea.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 02:40 AM
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well shoot, that's plenty alpha. You might be okay just delaying the wedding indefinitely.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 10:15 PM
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GET ANOTHER JOB.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 09:57 PM
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I accidentally hit return or something and lost interest. Look, your fear is stupid. Set up another meet or don't. Do not over sell it as this other girl is into you. Let your wife figure it out herself, otherwise you're not don juan, you're bragger McInsecure. Get out of your head.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 09:52 PM
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delay the wedding and bag the work trip. Do not go on the work trip. Screw it. Get another job. You're in your mid 20's. People do this all the time. Certainly don't go on the work trip and then immediately come back and marry her. Do not do this. Reading this post, I suspect that would be ... bad for you.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 09:50 PM
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I'd add get business cards that don't suck from vistaPrint. $50 more bucks. Worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 01:49 PM
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For all the progress that I've made, I still fall into non-confidence/approval seeking when a situation is new. Yeah. The risk is that the wife throws a shit-fit and you back down and supplicate, slowing your momentum at best. Be precise, "other_couple wants t
/r/askMRP29/09/16 01:24 PM
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No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. Make yourself be someone they would want to be around, not a moody, needy, pathetic individual but a self-assured individual secure in the knowledge that they have value. ----> you may want to cry. Find some MEN to talk to about this and remain stoic when around her. I know we're all just some idiots on the internet, but write your cathartic victim puke sad letter on askmrp, not to her.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 01:03 AM
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thanks man. I have done those sorts of things. The kids refuse to get in the car. She physically shoves me off of her. I started doing my own laundry because it wasn't getting done, she was complaining, she refused to fold mine, and said I was screwing everything up, didn't know how to fold hers (she rolls hers up instead of folding), etc. So fine. She doesn't think I'm a MAN. Okay. Step one is to be a big boy. I actually enjoy the satisfaction of having laundry done, so I'll do at least my own …
/r/askMRP28/09/16 07:18 PM
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I appreciate the comment, man. I'm in the middle of Reading Iron John and trying to become a better man, yes. I have offered to take the kids to the gym, I take the toddler to library events, yes, but not lately. Might be something to fix.
/r/askMRP28/09/16 07:07 PM
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"counting calories on a high protein moderate fat and low carbs. Right now i'm at 1900 calories a day." ---> Just eat a banna for breakfast, 100-200 calorie protein shake for lunch, and a modest dinner and you'll be fine. No soda pop, no added sugar in your coffee, no sugar in nothing, no snacks. You might want to build up to that, so start with each of these one step at a time. Week 1: Cut soda in half, no desserts Week 2: Cut sugar in coffee in half Week 3: No soda at all Week 4: Banana for Bf…
/r/askMRP28/09/16 07:04 PM
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do you think Chad would say that to her? What would Chat Thundercock say? "If you want me to act otherwise you'll need to convince me. Asking nicely might help." ?
/r/askMRP28/09/16 07:00 PM
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"Here is what I've learned: I'm a fat fuck I need to read the sidebar better, re-read books I've already read" Height? Weight? Body Fat %? Reduce your portion sizes, get rid of sugars. Do you even lift?
/r/askMRP28/09/16 06:33 PM
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+1 "I guarantee, if you start building muscle, losing fat, and stop acting like a child/woman, 80% of your work is already done. I never figured out why this stuff works, it's outside the scope of the plan." This. STFU, Lift, stop playing video games, use that time to be a more valuable man, then do it. done.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 02:27 PM
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he certainly is a little douche-y. Okay. Good to observe and learn that too. Biggest risk I see is that low-SMV guys try his tricks and see they don't "work". :-)
/r/askMRP26/09/16 09:26 PM
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ould actually like a second chance at her. He stayed hot and got hotter. My wife got an impressive degree, but doesn't make that much bank, and certainly didn't stay as hot as she was in college. In almost every tangible alpha way, her ex is superior to me. My wife has had a lot of exes; that's the only one where she ever said the sex was amazing. All this said, I think there is a lesson here for you, OP. Are you bringing the dominance in your relationship? Tie her the fuck down, whip her, and f…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 04:02 AM
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I'd say focus on you doing you, and I have an idea. "we still have sex, not starfish but not amazing." Have you read GSM? Stop worrying about the songs and just take the sex to the next level. For you, but she'll like it too. Just my advice.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 03:55 AM
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as soon as I get the sixpack I'll start bulkingish, could be before 155. tks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 03:02 AM
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5'11". thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:49 AM
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no no no no no no no. Dude, did you even read the sidebar? is this a troll?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:46 AM
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"he just told me how she didn't want to run to the store for something, and I said I will go for her." Don't overthink it. If you want to get out of the house, enjoy the walk/drive, if you WANT to do it, do it. It's fine. However, you probably do have some habituated beta supplicating behaviors internalized. To the point that she expresses anger, points out something wrong, you RUN to fix it. I still do this from time to time after 2 months of RPing. It's a habit. That is a demonstration of low …
/r/askMRP26/09/16 02:45 AM
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PS: A better good starting book might be bluepill prof's book. For a free intro, get the podcast youtube vids for free on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 02:40 AM
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Remember, to be red pill married (hard mode) you need to balance alpha and beta characteristics. Sounds like you withdrew all the beta. If you are FINALLY taking the plunge, then you are just starting, man. Don't be all butthurt. Just lift and STFU for a bit. Be positive, invite her to things, but you don't need to change much else at first - just hold frame, pass shit tests, etc.
/r/askMRP26/09/16 02:39 AM
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I'm learning more about style and clothing from some good Youtube resources Have links?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 01:38 AM
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Last week’s post was my first, and mid-week, so not much to update. Some of things I said I'd do within a week will be done within a week of posting. Last TODOs: Last week I had 13 todos. I got 6 done, 3 in progress, 4 cancelled. 1 buddy cancelled a social event, another wants to lunch, not shoot. I'll take myself shooting in the next 2 weeks. Here’s my update: Clothes/Appearance: Did not get clothes this week. Did get a haircut. Immediate need is pants as due to weight loss my jeans don’t fit. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 01:29 AM
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thank you BPP. At the current moment she won't let me touch her, and complains the heck out of statements like "you're cute when you're angry." The one good thing: The crazy complaints are getting easier to not take seriously. Not really AM, but I think that's a step in the right direction.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 11:39 PM
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You cant just expect to take control back out of nowhere without her resistance and her thinking you are gonna do a good job. This takes time. Totally agree. We are also talking about me doing MY OWN LAUNDRY. Not exactly yanking the controls and trying to directly steer the ship -- baby steps.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 11:37 PM
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I read that as she had an affair online, maybe sent some sexy pics, maybe some video(?) but did not actually connect. Could be wrong.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 07:37 PM
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that's tougher. I have/had the same problem; I left the house after some disrespect early in the pill and looked PISSED. Not exactly OI! It'll get better with practice.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:29 PM
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Yeah, I get it. I'm always tempted to say "okay", "okie-dokie", or "whatever" to indicate I DGAF and have OI but it comes out as butthurt. Is the problem facial or verbal? Cuz there is an easy fix for verbal ...
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:21 PM
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Have you been doing the reading? If you don't have a better plan, start each morning positive; only withdraw if she acts negative. Project the reality you want: Super positive happy fun everything is great let's have sex guy. So LEAD her. DO take her hand. LEAD the family. Take care of things before she notices and has to ask. ADD VALUE. "wife hates this. Hates me losing weight, despises me going to the Y." That's what her words say. What are her ACTIONS showing you? re: Not appearing angry. Tha…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:11 PM
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"Why was this so fucking hard? What the fuck does it take to have a normal encounter, let alone get some respect?" Yeah, bro. Been there. No idea why it is so hard. No idea why it is so hard to have no normal conversation. (UPDATE: Victim puke off. YES I KNOW, I FUCKED IT UP FOR YEARS, that is why.) Expect it to get better before it gets worse. That is, the tests get worse. However, a funny thing may happen. YOU may get better. Once you detach yourself from the constant criticism, you become num…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:07 PM
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Seems like your position is better than many here. "Sexual innuendo and jokes is met with an "ugh or eye roll" 80% of the time." Try it after you have actually fixed something, eg "I put the painting back up; do you need anything else drilled?" Consider putting your progress, specifically WEEKLY GOALS and accomplishments, on the /r/marriedredpill own your shit weekly thread. Try to add some humor/positivity. What have you read so far?
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:02 PM
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thanks man.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 05:57 PM
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vague assertion of the covert contract that you have developed Nah, she is actually acting like she doesn't want me in the family. It's consistent. It's Borderline personality disorder like push me pull me shit. Push me away then complain I'm gone. I have better things to do than deal with that drama. I could have worded it better, "you're acting like you don't want me involved in the family", instead of the passive-aggressive hinting.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 02:38 PM
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"I translated for you in a beta view that shows her perspective. That should have made sense. Because you have none of your own YET that isn't filtered through her eyes." Well, yes, I got that. I do not respect that perspective and have my own: I'm becoming a man and taking care of my own stuff. familyalpha seems to see something different. My main concern was that she was throwing down comfort tests yet literally wouldn't allow herself to be comforted. "Hell, I read articles over and over. Revi…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 01:39 PM
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This seems very different than your first reply to my post. Has anything changed in your opinion?
/r/askMRP21/09/16 01:30 PM
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"If she can't cook a meal because you're drinking protein shakes, you've also taken that womanly duty from her." No. She doesn't eat lunch or breakfast with me. That's the bananas and protein shakes. I asked multiple times for us to have family meals besides dinner. She refused. I come to family dinner on time. I work from home. If she declares dinner at 4:00, I leave work an hour early to make it. As things got progressively worse over the summer, she found reasons to not eat dinner with the fa…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 01:05 PM
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PS: Why the throwaway account? Just curious.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 12:56 PM
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"Accept the fact that you must work on you. NOT work on fashioning tools that might get my wife to settle the fuck down and let me insert my penis into her" Totally. Accepting the reality that sex is a long way off. Working on becoming a better man and father, mostly. So you are saying accept the reality that she isn't going to like it, "What did you think she was going to do?" style, stfu and hold frame? "I disagree", etc. Can do.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 12:54 PM
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fair enough. I'm lucky I had a few masculine men in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 12:15 PM
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More expensive than NYC and SF. Whut.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 02:31 AM
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dunno. I was TOLD that the man should be the head of the family, as Christ heads the Church. Man, there is some serious MAN stuff there in the New Testament, especially the writings of St. Paul. But I wanted to please my wife, and there was a lot of disney in the culture, and hey, I already "won", right? She's SAID YES. Things will get easy from here on out now that I have my own special snowflake to validate me ... In other words, I'm a little harder on myself. I had options to become a man. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 02:30 AM
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if you live in SF or NYC I guess I could sort of understand. still seems super weird to me.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 02:11 AM
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I wanted to do a point by point, and I might later, if I have time, but man, you are clearly in a covert-contract running implementation of the pill. Why? This: I feel like ive been chasing her for 5 years now to try and get back the affection she used to show me, she says if only youd / wed to X then wed be happy. YES. That is exactly how I felt ... ... when I was bluepilling. Man. Read What Did you expert her to do? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4rdmv7/what_did_you_think_she…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 08:13 PM
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"We are building men here." Ironically enough, I'm in the middle of reading "Iron John"; the connection is not lost on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:04 PM
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But we've seen so many guys get halfway and then start to blow shit up because it was all a covert contract. yup. That's a danger for me, I admit it. "Should we develop a sales pitch that won't lead into this trap? Perhaps substitute "pussy" for "respect" (which is still a covert contract, but perhaps easier to fix)? Discuss" Seems worth discussing. As in "no one will respect you until you respect yourself. EVEN THEN, that is not a promise that SHE will respect you, or your kids, or your boss. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 08:03 PM
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It seemed very "pop" philosophy to me. Lots of rah rah, not much epictitus, even less Zeno. A fun weekend read but not much magical. It did, however, get me to thinking the things the eventually had me google married red pill ..
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 12:51 AM
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fair enough. I got married at age 21. But yeah, near-or-post-wall beta bux might never have had that. re:MRP as a covert contract to "win her back", yeah, I see that risk, and my wording can be read to imply it. Grr.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 11:35 PM
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nice catch. reasonable. respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 11:30 PM
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" Constant nagging, what I [now] know are classic shit tests (although, until now I did not recognize them for what they were), constantly challenging my leadership of household, and generally just being disrespectful and making fun of me, yelling and cursing at me when we have a disagreement/argument. She has also even been accused of cheating. ' shit this sounds like me, but you're still getting sex. One thing: ARE the nagging shit tests? Some of them are, but some of them are valid criticisms…
/r/askMRP19/09/16 07:05 PM
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that's why I don't suggest introducing them to MRP until they have actually done something.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 05:13 PM
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thank you. I read WISNIFG and NMMNG, along with Bluepillprof's book, months ago. I may re-read NMMNG. People seem to be pulling things out of it (haha) that I missed. Also, yes, I lost some formatting (like new lines) in a cut/paste. Also some wiki markup got inserted. I'll be more careful.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 05:12 PM
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"OP, from how I read this, is walking into Burger King and preaching..." Where did you get that idea?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 03:56 PM
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Sounds like you have your head on decently. A couple of comments: 1) A bar is fine - but don't you have a gym? How is the lifting going? IRON TEMPLE buddy. 2) One thing I have been doing at the end of a conversation, that doesn't buy me anything, I think, is to make snarky little comments like "you are entitled to your own opinion", or, as you put it "okie-dokey" I'm not sure these buy us anything. Specifically I mean those little "I-get-to-have-my-own-opinion" jabs at the end of sentences. "I'm…
/r/askMRP19/09/16 12:56 PM
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No, don't leave the house. Maybe consider going into monk mode for three weeks. Don't discover who you are, discover who you want to be, who you could be ... who you will be.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 12:48 PM
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"Escape fantasies are seductive. It's fine to have those fantasies, but don't let them distract you." This.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 12:47 PM
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First time posting in this thread, 2 months into MRP and 2 months of Q's in askMRP. Late 30's, wife same, 3 kids. Physical: 3 lifts, 3 cardio sessions. (Lift sessions a mix of bench press and machines) Met with trainer about lifting heavy; he suggested I wasn’t ready for squats due to flexibility/balance, pushed me toward HyperTrophy - longer sets with less weight. Less barbells, more dumbells. There is a trainer for StartingStrength in a town I am planning to visit for work in October; will sch…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 12:22 PM
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well, I fail when I try A&A without a punchline. Id suggest you go for comedy. Does this dress make me look fat? "I'd have to see you naked to know if it's you or the dress" or, perhaps "your ass? Your ass is GREAT hon." (if she persists, "does it make me look fat?" reply "phat, maybe") I think this is covered in MMSLP by Kay? It's pretty sidebar tastic.
/r/askMRP18/09/16 08:59 PM
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The best reaction I had from my wife before swallowing the pill was when she complained about being fat seeking comfort. I replied that she was "pleasantly plump." She took this as I was trying to say she was fat nicely. She flipped out about it, but I more-or-less held frame. "I can't believe you call me fat!" every-other day for a week. Then she lost weight and her sex interest increased. Ignore what they say. Focus on what they do.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:40 PM
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I guess he won't promote it but i will - consider Blue Pill Professor's podcasts/videocasts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaC7KmMmi4M Or his book: https://www.amazon.com/Saving-Low-Sex-Marriage-Seduction-ebook/dp/B01BGZO1WK/ But yes, there were some terms I did not find in the sidebar that I misunderstood at first. For example, I totally mis-understood the concept of "The Main Event" because I had only heard it from context. (The main event is when your spouse realizes she is losing control a…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 01:35 PM
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"Ahh yes. The secret to happiness... Lowered expectations." Removing my need for approval is making this crazy easy for me. Crazy person makes crazy, unreasonable criticism of me. Okay. so what?
/r/askMRP14/09/16 06:24 PM
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Realize this is probably like a confession for a Catholic. At the end of confession, you agree to sin no more and to resist the occasion of sin. So you've confessed. Now knock that shit off.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/16 05:14 PM
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agreed that she wants my focus.
/r/askMRP14/09/16 04:24 PM
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"But seriously, he has yet to understand she is enjoying the control" I totally get this. "and not letting go of the kids is a direct reflection of his physical presence but mental absence or complete and utter abandonment of the crew and ship." fair enough. when I was BP I was pretty passive, she called the shots, if I did something slightly wrong (like laundry) she'd say I screwed up and she could never trust me to do it, etc, eventually led to more passive behavior. Digging my way out of that…
/r/askMRP14/09/16 03:23 PM
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"This time it was "can you go plug in my tablet?" and I responded with "no but I've got something else I want to plug in". This literally prompted a half-week's silent treatment leading up to the discussion about how I'm degrading and gross." This tells me you are going too fast - trying to act alpha when she sees you as low value. Continue to STFU, lift, develop value-adding hobbies, take care of business at home, develop socially lifting activities. Keep trying. Be aware of where you are on yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/16 05:51 PM
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"my wife has also told me on many occasions that she hates drama (as well as passive-aggressive behavior, but that’s another post), but the fact is that she loves it, as long as she gets it on her terms. Women LIVE on that shit, and it behooves us as men to remember that, and ensure that they get it in sufficient quantities, and on our terms." Yes. Funniest moment of my past 2 years was when I said something snarky to wife (Did you just X? YUP) and she said I said it that way to hurt her, she co…
/r/askMRP13/09/16 03:02 PM
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don't beat yourself up too much. Reads to me like you are taking responsibility and trying to Own your stuff. Tomorrow is a new day. Lots of helpful comments here, my one thought is "I'm not mad" can come off beta/submissive. I'd say "I'm not mad, just disappointed." Disappointed is powerful because it communicates OI, DGAF, etc.
/r/askMRP13/09/16 02:45 PM
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When a noob comes here and spills his vagina all over the place, we beat him for being a pussy. It's like being jumped into a gang. A guy needs to stand up for himself to start the process. Learning how to fight for yourself is where it begins. That was /exactly/ what I needed, if it helps. 18 years of married. 10+ years of victim puke. Not cured, but seriously improved of it in two months through AskMrp. Thanks bluepillprof.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 06:09 PM
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DAAANG. Brother, stop doing that. Here's a little "thinking" frame exercise for you: You got mad and yelled at her. SHE THREW THINGS AND YOU AND YOU PUT ON ARMOR TO PROTECT YOURSELF. You do not apologize. She does. Project that reality. If she resists, it doesn't matter. Hold your own dang frame.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 03:52 PM
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+1 yup.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 12:35 PM
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"stfu and dngaf just put on a helmet and arm armor. " Is this a literal statement? He /actually/ put on a helmet? I assumed it was figurative. DAAANG. I can see wife throwing one thing and pausing to see what will happen next. Multiple things? Tell her you can speak when she can control herself, leave the room. Get in the car. Drive away. Go have a beer somewhere. Come back in 2+ hours.
/r/askMRP09/09/16 12:12 PM
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I'm of the school that one way to beat depression is to get out there and DO something. Athol Kay hints at this in his Mindful Attraction Plan book - that depression used to serve a purpose - it got you to STOP MOVING during the winter when there wasn't much food and you just needed to survive to another season. Today? Not so much. Develop your own MAP (not some mindless cut/paste of someone else - the book above might help) and run it. You might find yourself in better shape emotionally. While …
/r/askMRP08/09/16 03:23 PM
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Btw: Regarding the title. If you want to spend time with her, You are needy. It's like saying "I want a bunch of water but don't want to appear thirsty."
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:43 PM
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"I think you are trying to out-ignore a cold fish who is ignoring you and it is not going to work." I have tried this for 12+ months at a time. IT DOES NOT WORK. DO NOT DO IT. AWALT.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:32 PM
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Because not spending any time together would mean the relationship is over. Sounds like no kids? Go into monk mode to work on your frame. If you continue upping the dred, it MIGHT mean the relationship is over. That is up to her. If you improve yourself and she doesn't want you, the relationship is over anyway, isn't it? Staying together is just living a lie. You, however, will be in the best shape, financial, emotional, and physical, and social, of your life.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:30 PM
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thanks man, this is pretty close to what I have been trying to do. Maintain a strong, positive, OI frame, let legit complaints roll off while taking responsibility without bluepilling. I'd respond differently to a comfort test, but I have not been aggro-pissed off. Reading, lifting, setting up social events with friends, poker night, etc. Yeah I've got stuff to do. She has been complaining about the 'awesome life I am building' and how i am 'selfish.' Keeping it positive will help. thanks.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 08:57 PM
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" I have nearly zero expectations from you other than you are pleasant to be around more than half the time. That's 50% of the time. Everything else you get a pass on. You can't do it. Instead it's skewed more like 80-20. Lately, I can only feel sorry for you. Sorry, that you can't get it together." Does she cook, do laundry, help raise kids, or in any other way add value? (Clean the bathrooms?) Serious question.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 04:41 PM
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fair enough, I'm the one asking for help. I'll try to make more informative brief-ins.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 01:47 PM
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I've been lifting for two months. Lost about 15 pounds, have some visible muscle definition. Eating a banana for Breakfast and Protein shake for lunch and reasonable dinner. Lifting 3-4 days per week want to move to 4-5. Using my free time to read and improve the house. Developing my social network and she is hearing things about me at church (ran 3 church events in 3 months). Yes, the dumbass thing is a problem. Probably the big problem. I see that as the current obstacle. I can overcome it.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 01:39 PM
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plenty of other links for that. Mostly reading, lifting, getting better at holding frame and spending time with the kids, working on career, and fixing small things around the house that need fixing. (The watering is because I am planting new grass seed.) I've done a bunch other posts lately, you could read those. Or not and sneak a little dig in where you can; those are always fun. :-)
/r/askMRP07/09/16 01:02 AM
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no.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 01:00 AM
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I think you had a point an I went through the exercises. Amazing what I came up with to change in /me/. thanks!
/r/askMRP06/09/16 08:53 PM
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thank you man. FWIW I've read MAP, BluePillProf's Book (and podcasts), NMMNG and WISNIFG. Working through MMSLP now. Also reading some stoic philosophy - meditations of marcus aerlius, Ryan Holiday's the obstacle is the way, etc. Finishing up thoughts of a philosophical fighter pilot then I'm back to MMSLP. My situation is worse than most as our relationship is 90% complaints, 10% logistics - no sex at all, no touching, etc. Learning to not seek her approval is really really helping me get throu…
/r/askMRP06/09/16 08:53 PM
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"Yeah, your wife is just going to attack you continuously about everything. You're going to have to let go of any need you have for her approval. That's OK, it will be good for you." This. Reasonably-big blow up tonight because I have been "okay"-ing or STFU-ing her criticism. So she escalates. Do I just ignore the escalation? Walk away? It would be neat to find a way to make a joke of it. I'm afraid I am coming off a little butthurt/annoyed.
/r/askMRP06/09/16 01:17 AM
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I believe I am approaching the battle phase and believe I am screwing it up, probably drunk captaining instead of blue pilling. Talking a lot. probably too much. Probably over assholing and got rid of too much blue pill too fast. (See my recent post on askmrp - https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/515qbx/map_a_little_too_fast/ ) any recommendations for other posts or online material that might help with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/16 05:08 PM
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I believe I am approaching the battle phase and believe I am screwing it up, probably drunk captaining instead of blue pilling. Talking a lot. probably too much. Probably over assholing and got rid of too much blue pill too fast. (See my recent post on askmrp - https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/515qbx/map_a_little_too_fast/ ) any recommendations for other posts or online material that might help with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/16 02:53 PM
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Make sure you mix in a bit of that with the assholery. That's there's maybe three categories there. 1) Fixing Stuff around the house and solving problems. I've been fixing stuff, going laundry, generally get shit for it. (Example: She complains she needs a bookshelf. I buy and build one while she is out. Complaint: It is cheap, the sections are the wrong size, it won't hold heavy books, I should have known that from the box, I wasted money, etc. Laundry: I "don't know how to fold her clothes"; s…
/r/askMRP05/09/16 02:35 PM
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The guy at the church event is the real me - I feel good, like myself, when I am friendly. I am not copying a script; I am bringing energy into a room. What that guy does it give light punches on the arm, friendly "how are ya"s etc. When I do that at home wife looks at me like I've grown a 3rd head. Responses to a gentle hug in passing is "please stop that; I suffer and you are lying to yourself." Have your views around divorce changed? I have outcome independence now. Don't like it, but I recog…
/r/askMRP05/09/16 02:15 PM
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thanks. By way of explanation - We'd been trying to get a contractor to do this remodeling project for 5 years. Her father's retirement party was this weekend. Getting someone to take the dog was a pain. I offered to stay home with the dog and let the contractor in. Should I have told her to skip her dad's retirement party? Next problem: We planned a one-day vacation in two weeks to a amusement park. She now tells me she is not comfortable being out with me and "maybe I (wife) will not just take…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 04:29 PM
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"You have a great hold on every aspect of YOUR life. Where do I fit in? I feel low and I am not as talented or as hard working as you. Where are you taking US?" Isn't this just a comfort test? Take her by the hand, sit her on your lap, and let her talk or just listen.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 03:01 PM
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With time I learned to sftu And redirect the anger to productive activity. Heh. I was victim puking to my brother on the phone today and suddenly said "actually, I've got an appointment to meet a guy to lift in and hour and I have some painting to do, I'd better get busy." Victim Puking doesn't make me feel better; getting busy does - I feel productive and I'm focused on something I can improve. No deep insight there, just a little correlation. I'm early in the game too.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 12:21 AM
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I think the best treatment for depression is not taking pills, but instead actually doing things. Get out of the house and DO SOMETHING and you'll feel better, even if it is just take a walk. I believe that is in one of the sidebar books or MAP, also by Althol Kay. I think you want to get her to a therapist that suggests this option, not meds. One possible approach - talk about how meds didn't exist for the first 3 million years of human history, but you are really excited about some of the holi…
/r/askMRP14/08/16 12:11 AM
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"I have always lead the house and let up 3 years ago while getting my business to the next level. One day I recognized she was gate keeping and I showed a bit of betaness, which is rare. We went round and round, didn't take long for me to recognize what was happening I had just found MRP and had been already changing a few things. My removal of my presence, taking off to the gym 5 nights a week with the 10 year old and letting her handle her car and all the stupid shit was what created the event…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 11:50 PM
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Yeah, it's like the first rule of fight club. When I talk about "it", I talk about why my wife was attracted to me initially (physically fit, decisive, strong personal frame, strong social network, OI, she looked /up/ to me) and how I let all of those go. Even feminist types can see that without objection and they don't object to me rebuilding my social/physical/mental game while adding value.
/r/askMRP13/08/16 07:37 PM
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so how'd it turn out? :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 04:54 PM
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Read on askmrp how many newbies fucked their shit up by going 100 miles an hour as they start to realize what is going on. "Hand up" If you start "acting alpha" but you are a habituated beta, your SO will not see it as alpha, she'll see it as the behavior of an impudent child. Raise your Sexual Market Value (SMV) first and develop a fun, positive frame she wants to be around. Without that, "Dread" is just the opportunity to get some loser/orbiter out of the house for a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 03:30 PM
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STFU, lift, start passing shit tests. If you have no social life, get a friend to have coffee with. Check out the sidebar on /r/askMRP/ - it recommends three books. Read them. STFU, lift, read, start passing shit tests, get busy, maybe a little social thing here or there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 03:29 PM
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"Based on the above your SMV could be 10 and she will still be certain that her beta will take care of her. You have mental and logistical Oneitis. Then why did she improve her SMV??????????????" She could be competing to dominate. That's my guess. If you were a 5 and she a 6, and you've improved to 6, she need to get to 7 just to maintain dominance. So keep going. "Finally, my not so happy point. I had an LTR that had the sexually abused childhood. Without help and the desire to overcome it, sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 02:28 PM
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"So she criticises and you feel fear. Fear is almost always about something we need being threatened. Something inside of us. Think about how you feel when she criticises you. What are you secretly scared of?" When I was a child I had one older brother that was much bigger than me. I learned to habitually submit. (I hit him with a hammer once when I was about 15. My did didn't punish me. He said "for all the crap you did to your little brother for so long? If you're not going to the hospital, i'…
/r/askMRP13/08/16 02:19 PM
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What are the odds your wife doesn't like you, doesn't want to fuck you, expects you to leave, assumes you're getting ready for the single life, and decided she better get ready too? THIS. If you don't have a friend in the world, if going "out" means driving to a parking lot and Re-reading NMMNG, then you are still low-value in the eyes of the wife, her hyperagamy kicks in, and her response to your threat is to call your bluff. If you don't leave, she wins, and if you do, well, low-value man, goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 02:09 PM
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At this point in my life i'd be relieved. My concerns would be money and the children. I'd want custody.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 01:52 PM
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Lifting - Yes with machines. Lifting Heavy - Just Got a video on lifting ("Starting Strength basic barbell training") met a guy at the gym yesterday who had me spot him lifting heavy. We are going to meet up today for more. Socializing outside of work - one night a week + one event per weekend, plus a service fraternity about once a month. Occasional lunches out with friends. Trying to up that. Specifically - Poker Night - Late august. Inviting friends. Going to use that to set up shooting & fis…
/r/askMRP13/08/16 01:44 PM
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"OK, anger is the wrong question, how about fear? When was the last time you were scared of her or her reaction to you?" ALL the time. She's AMOG in our family. She uses the fear that she will take away affection to control my behavior. As it works, the bar for affection is lowered. Eventually it reaches rediculuous. I think your point about anger or fear is spot-on. for the first 18 years of our marraige I was a over-reacting, thin-skinned, whiny fearful guy. Now I'm a over-reacting, thin-skinn…
/r/askMRP13/08/16 01:39 PM
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"And yeah, your thin skin is indicative of poor/conditional esteem, which is why your Frame is all over the place... This, IMO, is the #1 Red in your MAP." Yeah. I am totally aware that I sought external validation, my wife picked up on it and used it to manipulate me in a circling cesspool of death. thanks for the meditation advice.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 09:31 PM
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When was the last time you got angry with her. When was the last time I yelled at her or in some other way flipped out? Not in maybe 10 years. At that time she was actively emasculating me/insulting me to test me. I got angry, called her names, took a walk, came back and apologize. Based on comments she has made since I am rather confident she was playing me. Over the past two months, there have been perhaps twice I was actively pissed/pissy. Both times I walked away. I can't remember the 2nd, b…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 09:30 PM
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agree. FO can take the chair for a bit in a crisis. This seems like a crisis. Just, you know, give it back after.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 09:08 PM
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"How to win friends and influence people in the digital age" I inherited my grandfather's copy, and it has a lot of men should X / women should Y in the back. It is good advice but my understanding is removed in the new editions because not PC. Bottom line: take a new edition of win friends with a grain of salt.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 09:07 PM
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If you find it hard to answer that question, your anger will point you towards the answer. When was the last time you got angry with her? Visibly? It's been a long time. Open and blatant disrespect and disobedience, from the kids, got me angry. A year ago she would have joined in with the kids. Six months ago she would have told the kids they can't act that way. Today? The older kids ignore me. speaking of ignore me, I've realized she's a SAHM and homeschooler who had complete control over the k…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 03:49 PM
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Obviously read the sidebar, recognize shit tests, follow the basic MAP. (Lift). But in your case, I'd like to add: get over your fear of rejection, your ANTICIPATION of rejection, and willful taking in of the pain you get when you are rejected. Think of it this way: You are going out to eat /w your SO. She asks where you want to go. If you say "I don't care", then you are ADDING one more decision to her stack. You are also doing it because you are afraid she won't like the choice, so you are pus…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 03:30 PM
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this is great advice. It means my relationship with my kids will suffer - but the older ones don't like me and the younger one I can take with me. :-) I'm also looking for things to do with the middle one, like 5Ks and the church float.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 02:53 PM
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Whats the worst that can happen , she yells at you? Which is different from now ... how? Actually she hasn't yelled lately. I think part of it is recognizing that I will no longer snivel in a corner. She leaves?? Or sleeps in another room, which seems to be freaking her out that it doesn't bother me. She divorces you?? Honestly, I'd get over this pretty fast.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 02:50 PM
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"Also important to be giving her positive interaction for any good overtures from her." She is taking the kids to the in-laws this weekend while I stay home and manage a home improvement project. She just came in and asked if she should put some leftovers out of the freezer and into the fridge for dinner - spicy pasta shrimp. I made an effort to thank her very nicely. But I want to find other rewards like things that are worth talking about. (not-boring). " Show her the way to be able to keep yo…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 02:49 PM
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we had a text chain last week - I was in canada. She got notified that I was at 80% of my data within a day of my arrival. She texted me to warn me (nice) and but put a dig in that I was over quota and had screwed up (not so nice). Only I got the msg too and had turned off data immediately. So I told her, she didn't believe me, I texted back "whatever", she called me a jerk, I texted back "You're adorable when you're fiesty", which I believe kicked off the convo. I think I need to dial back my s…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 01:59 PM
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Lots of good advice here. One thing to add: I know the classic advice is that alphas move slow, but consider the walk home. Why is she alway ahead of you? Consider taking her by the hand and LEADing her. Be one-half a step ahead of her the whole time. It is amazing what this small psycological move can make. Now i have been in comeptitive spots where both people speed up to try to take the lead. F that. This ain't no competition. If leading her means you have to walk at an Olympic pace, then it'…
/r/askMRP10/08/16 09:19 PM
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YES. When I started there was more than a hint of "I do X she will respond with Y" emotionally. It was because my frame sucked. The good news: Just following the MAP builds your confidence, your courage, and your frame. I find my covert contracts melting away like the inches off my waist. So you are where you are. The blue pillness is habituated, and it is influencing your thinking like a pair of sunglasses influences your vision. So do the work. Read. Lift. STFU. Tell yourself, over and over ag…
/r/askMRP10/08/16 09:11 PM
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She genuinely liked it right? Yes, she's just been a terrible person to me for a long time.
/r/askMRP10/08/16 06:19 AM
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I totally get this. My only concern: I said I would get her a liqour a a month. Should I just stop? My thought is to tell her I "get" why she doesn't want flowers from me anymore: They are supposed to be a thank you, not a bribe. Then I stop with the bottles. If she "reminds" me that I "forgot" about the bottle for next month, I will say something like "We talked about this; it's like the flowers" and walk away. HOWEVER, that's talking, that's the wrong strategy. I need a Acta Non Verba strategy…
/r/askMRP10/08/16 04:14 AM
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"I've gone through about half of MMSLP but it seems difficult to implement any of it when she shows zero interest in being touched in any sexual way, and physically recoils when I do so outside of actively having sex. " How much have you studied kino? Have you watched a few hours of videos?
/r/askMRP09/08/16 01:00 AM
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this.
/r/askMRP09/08/16 12:43 AM
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"Stop being an asshole! Tell me what's going on or I'm going upstairs!" Hold frame and make it clear you are amused. Example: You're cute when you're feisty.
/r/askMRP09/08/16 12:42 AM
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this. motivate them to do a little work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/16 05:43 PM
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Maybe he didn't do this by being beta lovey nice guy..maybe he's a cold, catholic-guilt ridden, joyless man. Nah. One thing that did happen: My wife criticized fundamental elements of my personality (my sense of humor and music) so I have supressed those. As a result I've become a boring, passive, silent wimp at home. I'm at an international conference I organized right now, having a blast. People are showing up because I am fun. I just need to bring the fun (and take some f---- initiative) at h…
/r/askMRP06/08/16 01:47 PM
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Maybe, but he sure sounds like a beta lovey nice guy in his posts, so I'm inclined to suspend disbelief and assume he's a hapless beta chump until proven otherwise. this. I've been a total fluffy-wuffy a love you weenie. It has been 2 years since we've had a 2 way "I love you" / "I love you too." I've said "I love you" and got no return maybe twice a week for 4 years. Realized it was a covert contract - I wanted the return. SHE realized it was a covert contract and pointed it out to me. She deve…
/r/askMRP06/08/16 01:45 PM
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re:Parenting. Yes I intended to make it clear that "how can I help" is blue pill and I'm over it. hanging /w the 2 year old is great. Making it an event, instead of passive, is good positive reinforcement of something I'm increasingly doing.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 06:07 PM
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"First things first: Is she sleeping in bed with you again or still with the kids? Has she hugged you in the past month? Why haven't you hugged her? Have you ever stopped and looked at her as you go to work in the morning, grabbed her, and kissed her on the mouth as long as she will let you?" She is back in my bed. I have tried to "reach out" to her. Looking back, It was blue-pill beta asking mommy for permission for a hug. When I get back from my trip (gone for 10 days, in the middle) I intend …
/r/askMRP05/08/16 06:06 PM
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I'm not a 10/10 alpha, and I get my girl gifts to maintain a healthy alpha/beta balance, but I try to stick with the 2/3 rule. Just "make sure you're putting in 2 for every 3 she gives you. (This principle is based on the assumption that you are a confident masculine alpha guy, so get that worked out if you haven't already" So she typically gets me something small, like a book. So I could do something 2/3rd of that. Seems reasonable.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 03:58 PM
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"No, I'm so stupid" is no good. There's no amplify, just sarcastic butthurt. YES! This is why I made this post. Thanks.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 03:25 PM
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"Something that helped me with A&A was to just agree right away and wing it on the amplify." Yeah, my recent replies have been things like "you're right, I'm a moron" or "because I'm stupid of course!" or maybe "Oh course it's my fault; there couldn't possibly be an explanation." Neither of those have the "zinger" effect of being "fun", except a tiny bit the third.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 02:59 PM
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""Why do I have to be the only one who does anything around here! - you don't respect me, Im so tired of this shit!" ( most annoying soul ripping voice of hers you can think of." I've got options: 1) STFU. Shrug. Walk away. 2) A&A. Just did a post asking for examples. 3) Amused Mastery. Smile, change the subject to something fun we are planning. Another way: Short and sweet reply "Is there a request in there somewhere?" if diarrhea continues, walk away.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 02:43 PM
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You're human. Improve your percentage of passing of shit tests and your pass-rate average. (STFU is not passing, it's just not-failing). Every day you'll get chances to practice. Onward and upward!
/r/askMRP04/08/16 11:21 PM
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thanks man. Woot. I can work with that.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 11:20 PM
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"Biggest issue is my inability to listen, follow through, and be a general wimp with no backbone. Sound familiar?" That was me ~a month ago. I am just starting the path (take my comments with a grain of salt), but I'm better than before. Lift, STFU, learn to pass shit tests, hold frame, sounds like you might want to think about social activities and maybe dress.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 05:43 AM
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"It feels like whatever I say, whatever I do, it just isn't right in her eyes." Dude, I am super new to the pill but even I know: Don't do what is right in her eyes. Do what is right in YOUR eyes and get her to enter your frame. That is, if you hold frame, she may enter yours. Even if she doesn't, HOLD YOUR FRAME. It's not about her. It's about you. (Mods: I am being super careful about giving advice this early in my journey, but COME ON. This is obvious. Also I have completed the required readi…
/r/askMRP03/08/16 11:19 PM
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"IMO that isn't A&A. Even if you intonate sarcasm into it, I would call that passive aggressive almost, more than A&A." Yeah. I think it worked not because I used some memorized tactic, but really because I maintained frame. Crazy woman gonna be crazy? Okay. That is not my problem. I did what i thought was right. Fogging in a separate post.
/r/askMRP03/08/16 11:09 PM
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that seems reasonable. You're making me think. Thanks.
/r/askMRP02/08/16 06:39 PM
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thanks man. Seriously. Thank you.
/r/askMRP02/08/16 06:25 PM
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thanks man. Acta, Non Verba, IDGAF.
/r/askMRP02/08/16 06:24 PM
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finished MAP in the hotel last night; got to the last chapter of WISNIFG on the plane. Listening to a red pill podcast as I lifted&cardioed in the gym last night. Facebook is part of my business marketing. Chatting up people while I'm in security, etc. I do have no respect in my home. It is sad. A month ago I was a sniveling weakling who would cry when my wife said mean things. Those days are over. Reading WISNIFG I've realized that I have't expressed anger or any boundaries. Trying to balance t…
/r/askMRP02/08/16 06:23 PM
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I'm too new to the Red Pill to give advice here, but this has striking parallels to what I am going through. You could help me by posting here more often or by DM. Don't lean on me for advice, as I'm BluePill habituated. It is amazing to wake up, tho!
/r/askMRP01/08/16 04:35 PM
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Later that day when kid is asleep sit her down and tell her your boundary and consequences ( you know about those, right?) Please tell us more about these. I'm not seeing it in the literature I am reading (aside from PlueBillProfs Commitment/Sex pairing) and think it might really help.
/r/askMRP25/07/16 01:29 PM
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agreed. You discovered the pill a few weeks ago? Overweight? STFU, lift, read, get rid of covert contracts, be absent a bit, work on yourself. Start with WISNIFG techniques, not looking for a fight. Start with small changes while you improve yourself. Overweight to No birthday cake in weeks sounds like a big change at the wrong time. Get something a little smaller and have a very small portion yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 06:01 PM
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yes. Google Shu Ha Ri.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 05:48 PM
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What kind of guy is her father? Bluepill extreme or deceased Redpillar? Just a thought. Dad is relatively non-communative. Left her mom when she was three and her mom was pregnant. Later came back for custody but put wife in a relatively unsafe/unsupportive step-kids-fight-for-attention environment. Simply put, she had trust issues before me. When I was user confident and she was attracted to me, she forgot about them. After bluepilling from middle-engagement to today, they are everywhere. Getti…
/r/askMRP20/07/16 05:42 PM
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I am reading your book now! Just reached "Dread level 10".
/r/askMRP15/07/16 06:16 PM
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after 18 years of blue pill, I suspect I'll have time to read it before I need it. thanks.
/r/askMRP14/07/16 06:02 PM
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thank you. Tough to hear. I totally deserve this, this is my fault. I acted without all the pre-reqs, should have STFU and lifted and learned to handle shit tests and taken care of business first. Any advice on dealing with the extreme anxiety that just hit me as things went from really bad to worse?
/r/askMRP14/07/16 11:12 AM
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good point. Thank you.
/r/askMRP13/07/16 06:44 PM
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i think I may have moved to 2 today.
/r/askMRP13/07/16 06:44 PM
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I'm a practical catholic, so I respect the dictates of the church, but you got me thinking. Honestly, I think it's an excuse and will fade when the alpha me reappears ... it may take some time. BP behaviors are learned and habituated.
/r/askMRP13/07/16 06:24 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/448rzj/introducing_bpps_book_saving_a_low_sex_marriage_a/ Got it, I am reading it now.
/r/askMRP13/07/16 05:33 PM
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word.
/r/askMRP11/07/16 06:13 PM
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Terribly worded. I have other recent posts that explain my current situation in much more detail. I intended to invite the priest over (yes I am catholic, used pastor for readability). I knew she wouldn't like it. I intended to do it anyway. Looking back, it's clear there was no need to ask, I should have just informed so she could prepare. Also it is embarassing how habitually I fall into BluePill Frame. One of the sidebar links for one of MRP-themed articles had a 8-week improvement plan. Week…
/r/askMRP11/07/16 12:38 AM
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Push-ups now, equipment at hotel. Yup.
/r/askMRP10/07/16 02:09 PM
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For OP here he is on a collision course with the idea that he has fucked things up royally. I totally get this. Completely. The experience has been like waking up from a dream. And it's so blindingly obvious! Now I have to kill some old habits and learn some new ones.
/r/askMRP09/07/16 08:40 PM
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This. Expect an update shortly. Travelling for business this week so probably the week after.
/r/askMRP09/07/16 08:26 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askMRP09/07/16 10:18 AM
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He couldn't turn touching a curtain into sex either and probably couldn't imagine that it was possible in anyone's reality...but it is, and now he knows, and he has examples of how fuckers do it. ----> and I Thank you!
/r/askMRP09/07/16 10:17 AM
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That /is/ what I did and she objected to my tone. You said "okay" sarcastically! Then I went beta and said "no, I didn't, just okay." Should have STFU and walked away? Or better get, laughed it off "It's a CURTAIN!"
/r/askMRP08/07/16 08:53 PM
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She got a hotel night, on her own, jacuzzi, wine, all around the time of all this bizarness ... and she's still claiming nothing happened? Sounds like you are still being lied to, man. I know a few people who recovered from these types of situations, mostly from the retroville community. You could google it. But in all of those personal stories, the men had to radically change their attitude. Right now, my guess is your blue-pill behavior is making her uninterested. She still has sex drive, she'…
/r/askMRP07/07/16 05:19 PM
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"You've established how weak you need to be in order for your wife to cheat. Become stronger or she'll cheat again." Lots of things, but this is totally up there.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 05:12 PM
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thanks man. I Finished the 39 mile goal today, upped it to 60, and am going to immediately begin interval training, accelerating my goals. Time to start looking into lifting on off days.
/r/askMRP06/07/16 04:53 PM
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wow. Rough. Exactly what I need to hear. Thank you. I'm going to double down on the exercise, maybe move to interval training NOW. I'm a Committed Catholic. Not going to start over. Recognizing how far down I am and how far I need to climb out of the hole is helpful. Thank you.
/r/askMRP06/07/16 02:19 PM
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"What does she want from you? Attention at least?" I think there are a lot of mixed up issues going on at the same time, that she doesn't know what she wants, and her actions are counter to her happiness. For example, she may have low self-worth. So when i praise her, she ignores the praise or worse thinks something like "who is this guy who is sucking up to me? I'm not worth it. So he must be deluded, or stupid, or lying, or SO FAR DOWN the chain that he looked up to me. Yuck." Likewise, she wr…
/r/askMRP06/07/16 01:56 PM
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