Help the newb

weakandsensitive · 2017-02-16T19:18:37+00:00

hahahahhahahaha.

help a newb. yeah okay. please post an update on this clusterfuck.

you ever hear the saying that some couples just deserve each other? that's you. you have no trust. you have no respect. she doesn't give a shit about you because you made it clear early on you don't give a shit about her.

you're like the farmer that doesn't do any work and when harvest time comes around you go "what the shit! how do I fix this and get crops?" the answer is you should've put in honest effort a long, long time ago.

blarggggggggggg · 2017-02-16T17:22:55+00:00

I'm one of those sexist hypocrites who believe men can be forgiven for cheating and relationships possibly savlaged but women should not.

whitebunny87 · 2017-02-17T00:20:41+00:00

if you don't respect your marriage why do you expect her to?

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2017-02-16T18:33:21+00:00

Here since the fall

No prior posts in OYS.

No questions for clarification based off material that's asking you to completely change your life and outlook on life.

No comments to other posts.

A shitty FUCK VALENTINES DAY AND FUCK HER post.

A second post with the global problem of your entire life with a bucket of vomit for a second half of this post.

You know what, I don't believe you. Either you aren't trying or you don't really care to improve yourself. In fact I'm tempted to call troll.

Prove me wrong, see you around.

Pinelero · 2017-02-16T18:31:36+00:00

How old are the kids and do you have divorce $ set aside?

aviation1st · 2017-02-16T18:54:27+00:00

BEFORE the divorce train these the station in the comments section....is there ANY way to save this marriage?

CanisFinn · 2017-02-16T23:19:26+00:00

Fail. Pull the plug on this farce, go fix yourself, and start over.

screechhater · 2017-02-17T02:33:07+00:00

"Angry? Go lift. Still angry? Fuck her hard. Still angry? Read. Still angry? Maybe a plate... and so on. You get my point. Just keep going."

At some point you will get out of her frame and stop giving ten fucks.

reaching the level of not giving a fuck is good..... go after it

"Here's where my perceived problems are: I can't believe that she'd embarrass me in front of my friends like that....almost fuck a guy in my good friends house.....with my goddamn kids in the next room!! He and I both think it was retaliatory for my affair and also because she felt the need to be validated to someone of the opposite sex."

The longer you focus on this, the longer it will take you to move forward. OYS

You are a fucking train wreck. Own your decisions and their consequences and move the fuck on

SeamusAwl · 2017-02-17T03:51:47+00:00

Men have affairs for validation, not women. Women have affairs because a man of perceived higher value wants to have sex with them or you were always beta bucks and she needs to scratch her alpha fucks.

Aechzen · 2017-02-17T04:07:29+00:00

Step one, stop telling her about your affairs.

Step two, stop obsessing over her affairs.

You have a cock.

She has a vagina.

Neither of you can do a very good job mate guarding. You can configure rules and consequences. Are you going to divorce her for having sex outside her marriage? Are you going to divorce her because you had sex outside your marriage? It seems like the answer to both is no. How about you come to a don't ask / don't tell truce, and you tell her to properly pay the tolls. And maybe a ground rule for her like you can't fuck in my friend's house, and she can have the rule that you can't fuck your coworkers.

I almost hate to make the recommendation, but go ahead and pick up Opening Up, and maybe you'll learn something. Will probably get downvoting for pointing out that some people have open relationships. Here everybody is scared of getting cucked, as if you have any choice in the matter.

Step 3, you better be working on your plan for after this marriage crashes and burns, because it sure seems like it will / already has. What value does she add over you being single and not having to hide your side pieces? You should be lifting, and looking hot, and working on your game, and heading for divorce with your fuck you cash ready, rather than being in debt.

BobbyPeru · 2017-02-16T21:42:40+00:00

More commanding in the bedroom, she's more receptive to that type of submission than I ever realized.

AWALT

Title	Help the newb
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	February 16, 2017 4:51 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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