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Iron John is an incredible work. It played a critical and formative role in what became the "men's movement." I read it after my dad died when I found out that he had read it. As such, my opinion of it is all tied up in that experience. I would love to hear your thoughts if you get some time to put them together.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/23 02:37 PM
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Wow man. So sorry you went through all that, and happy you pulled out the way you did. I have a heart thing coming up. A good reminder that nothing is guaranteed.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/23 09:50 PM
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I LOVE that you posted this to other forums. You're so afraid of validating your own feelings that you'll ask hundreds of complete strangers to back you up...and selectively ignore the ones who tell you you're full of shit. You had a gigantic fucking covert contract that your wife should text you and follow up with you and assuage your anxiety even though you explicitly state that you "planned on limiting the interaction so she could have fun and not feel like she had to check in." She didn't up…
/r/askMRP06/09/22 07:13 PM
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Here's what I want when I want evidence of desire. Sex every day with a girlfriend experience, which means the default yes, default being wanted, someone finding me so hot they must fuck me or else they feel they are suffering on missing out. It’s not the special acts, though yes of course they are fun, but rather the evidence of desire that I want. Not desire for a relationship but for the sex, authentic emotion released through sex. Duh. Not the rejection dance about protecting feelings and un…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 05:50 PM
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*gay as fuck
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 03:14 PM
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Is this a trap???/!! (Assuming this is an actual question - yes, we fucked. Frequency regressed slightly towards the mean, but better intensity/immersion. If this was a joke, assume that I totally knew it was a joke and came up with a witty reply)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 03:12 PM
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So, this week: ​ "planned" and "brainstormed" some stuff made up some mantras didn't track what you ate, and drank way more than normal didn't look for a hobby made a list of repairs but didn't start anything No wonder your phone dies all the time, you must be absolutely crushing the Notes app
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:54 PM
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I stuck to the plan super well during the week but then went overboard with "free meals" on the weekend, basically reverting to my old eating habits. It's crazy to see the two in contrast. I have found that simply cutting this shit out entirely greatly diminishes your overall craving for it over time. It comes and goes, but I find it much harder to stay on plan with "cheat stuff" in the calendar. ​ I have told her about my concerns but it's nothing she's willing to (or think she's able to) chang…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:46 PM
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I was outplayed with the butt-hurt, passive-aggressive withdraw of attention tactic I was playing. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I'm sure the "stern tone" will set her straight, though. Women have feelings. Why are you letting her feelings dictate your actions? By the way: how bored she is with her life ...that was the only honest thing she said.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:31 PM
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SBIII nailed it. The problem isn't your decision, but your feelings about the decision. For all actual dillemmas, an Evaporating Cloud will help. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TMMeRixlsSU
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:25 PM
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Weight down 0.5 kg - done if I compare my weight today morning and 7 days ago. Hovewer I had rather big fluctuations in weight this week. Max this week was 93.9 kg last wednesday, minimum was today, 91.6 kg. Max - min = 2.3 kg, which seems a lot. From now on I will focus on the moving 7-day average of my weight as it is not sensitive to weird fluctuations. Today the 7-day avg is 92.8 kg. The 7-day average a week ago had the same value, 92.8 kg, so with respect to this (better) measure I made no …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:22 PM
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yooooooooooooo Fine week overall. Making progress on lifting, weight loss, running, and work, so not really going to bore everyone. Realized last week that I had an overly emotional reaction to OYS - both in sitting down to write it, and in reading the responses. My writing was all over the place, and I was surprised by the negative takes. The dissonance between how I felt going in and how I felt going out was so extreme that I let myself get all flustered. It happens. But why? Lately I've felt …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 01:18 PM
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Hey, if anything I’VE been the one complaining there’s not enough fucking content on here. But you’re right about one thing - I went back over the original post and realized I was replying as much to myself as to him. MRP rubs me the wrong way sometimes - I have an instinctive desire to resist what’s mimetic here. That tendency caused me to read too much into the OP, and respond to the conversation in my head, rather than what he actually wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/22 01:33 PM
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Frame, game, and lifting are all important to me because I am trying to fuck. But there is no rule that says I must try to fuck. Or do anything at all. MRP is not a life philosophy. It’s sexual strategy. And “doing RP” is no excuse for not doing the inner work of determining a direction for your own life. Isn’t this place all about “mission” now?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 05:02 PM
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But I am glad I saved this giant spaghetti-post for Hell Week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 08:31 PM
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>she has fucked me more so I've put off thoughts of divorce, because that's all I really wanted. It really was all about sex all along. I can't see how focusing on sex is a bad thing. Yes. Sexual satisfaction is literally the problem. Nor do I feel any shame whatsoever over caring about, and pursuing, sexual satisfaction. Sex is not my only need, nor is it my primary need...But it is the need not currently being met, and, for me, a bare minimum for my participation in a monogamous relationship. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 08:30 PM
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RP is a toolbox, not a rule set. Use the tools as you want. Or don't. Make up your own rules.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 08:26 PM
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I do think it seems like level 9000 DEERing. Admittedly I got VERY heated on Tuesday. I came in hot and remained hot. I think you need your wife, your therapist, us, everyone to understand why you’re divorcing and why you aren’t the bad guy before you do it. There's certainly something to this. I think I need/ed myself to understand this as well. If you love your wife and want a great relationship, I’d advise you stop dissecting your dead marriage in front of her. That's powerful and insightful …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 08:25 PM
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That was our first therapist for sure. I don't know enough about it, but I also think the school of therapy matters quite a bit. Our current therapist is "emotion focused," which for me personally has been very valuable - more about tuning into your feelings rather than suppressing them. I released a lot of emotion around my dad, which had an almost immediate impact on how I felt about being a dad.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 09:20 PM
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Maybe come back and re-read the post and replies with fresh eyes tomorrow because you're a little bit all over the place. Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of loose threads that are getting mixed up here. ​ Your whole OYS (and last week's) is basically about how you are at the FMOFY stage, laid out a vision for her (focused on sex), got hysterical bonding and the *possibility* of some unspecified sex act, and how that's been great, but if she doesn't keep it up....it will be the last time (until t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 09:20 PM
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This is true enough. I think I got my parade rained on a bit. I was feeling pretty fucking good coming into this week. I was surprised a bit by everyone's take. But you know what - even IF I disagree (and I do), I've done this enough to know that other people pick up on shit you miss. I feel very confident that I'm moving forward, but I did feel the need to defend that, which implies that confidence isn't as deep as it feels.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 08:24 PM
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The sense I get from your posts is that you don't really know what you want and I also wonder if you'll actually be happy after divorce. Sure, you'll be able to fuck whoever and whenever you want, but iirc you had some plate you could fuck, so why not just do that? I'm not saying don't get divorce - but do you truly think all that stands between you and bliss is more frequent / abundant sex, or do you think you might find out that your focus was skewed all along? It's got nothing to do with sex.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 08:07 PM
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You're not "above" the tools on the sidebar that describe how to be attractive, not be unattractive. What makes you think you are different? What makes you think she's not a normal woman? It doesn't matter how much you've read about it if you're not doing it. I don't think I'm above them, or that my wife is different. But I am not trying to get sex out of my wife. If you did all the work for yourself going after what you want you wouldn't be surrounded by this cloud of exasperated resentment abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 08:02 PM
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I'm sorry, I'd like to respond but I can't make out what you're trying to say here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:57 PM
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No sex this week. One handjob after I asked (denied once). No fap. I initiated probably 3 times, super weakly (essentially just asking if we were doing anything) and was refused each time. The last time was at the hotel, and she said yes, then strung me along for an hour and then said no, and I was pissed because I needed that sleep as I was leaving early the next morning to work back at home while they finished the day at the park. I was pretty clear about my anger. Was actually much more annoy…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:33 PM
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The more I STFU and payed attention to putting myself first, the more I realized I find my wife annoying. I wouldn't have said that a month ago, I don't think. I'm fielding a lot of nagging and complaining, mostly responding with fogging. She's started doing some weird, physical intimidation stuff where she body checks me or tries to stare me down when she's upset. This honestly just sounds like someone who's addicted to emotional stimulation. You took away their main source of fun; now the tant…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:29 PM
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Fuck, man. Sorry you're going through this. Honestly - and I think a lot of people on here can relate - one of the hardest things to do sometimes is rest. None of us want to "take a week off." None of us like feeling like we're losing progress. But sometimes, taking a step back helps to take two steps forward. I was trying to run immediately after getting COVID. My diet coach (ex Marine, wall of muscle, tough as fuck) sent me a very nice message: "Hey man! Great run. Quick question: what the FUC…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:25 PM
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​ None of this has anything to do with sexual attraction. Did you think this post was about sexually attracting my wife? ​ She's not my partner, she's my employee. - "I can't believe she's not fucking you enthusiastic Could've been worded better, yes. But my point stands. No relationship is without its give and take. Both parties must benefit, both parties must have clear standards for success and failure, and inequality is inherent in the relationship itself. It doesn't mean "treat your wife as…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:05 PM
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I've read pretty much everything j10 wrote on here. The Hamster Maze post was a big reason I decided to be more overt, albeit I don't think it actually matters. I'm not trying to change anyone's behavior. ​ Maybe find some erotica for her to read that incorporates things that you like or want to try (i'm spitballing here). Yeah, that's not for me. I have a clear sense of what I need. If she wants to get in touch with her own eroticism, great; that's ultimately up to her. ​ Do you really believe …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 06:02 PM
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For someone who has been around so long it seems you are amiss on some fundamentals. This entry is a mess. Oh really? Man, is there like, a book I could read that would like, tell me what to do? I really need someone to tell me what to want. ​ Aka: talk. More talk and even more talking. Yup. See, talking is something humans do to exchange information. It (sometimes) works. The reason I disagree with your take here is that I did all the work leading up to this moment. I didn't complain to mommy t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 05:38 PM
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"stay tuned." jesus fucking christ can't wait to see the next installment of "Internet Marketing Amateur Hour: Covert Contract Edition"
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:41 PM
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Life is a game, I am a player in it, and I have the real (red pill) rules laid out to me. I don't have to play by, and be victim to, the (blue pill) rules I was taught and I don't have to explain myself or my strategy to anyone. There are no rules, friend. Especially not "red pill" rules. I've also started using a self-hypnosis track for PE treatment, but I'm sceptical. Action: Be consistent with the self-hypnosis - every night. Research and select a specialist. I've had some success with self-h…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:35 PM
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Welcome to OYS. Lots of talk here about what you need to do or prioritize or whatever. Talk about what you've done, not what you need to do. Action first. ​ Prioritize remaining calm and collected in my words, thoughts, and emotions with her "Prioritizing" is not an action, btw. Good luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:33 PM
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I do not have a plan to spin all 6 at the same time. I think it starts with writing a plan down and journaling to track progress and mistakes. "You can have everything you want...just not all at once." Think of effort expended on a project as lying along a spectrum. On one end of the spectrum, you have fully-focused, max effort. You will achieve fast gains in anything you give this much attention, but it's not likely to be sustainable. This is your "Maximium Recoverable Volume" - how much can yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:29 PM
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WHAT'S UP, KINGS. HOPE YOU'RE GETTING THAT BREAD Quick physical update, since that why I started posting here: Down 10.5 lbs for the last 30 days, weight seems to be stabilizing. Coach has started bringing up calories slightly; I will probably do another, smaller cut heading into the holidays. Also got back to a full workout schedule last week after COVID; was sore as FUCK after lifting on day one, but that went away. Got my runs in as well. Marriage stuff: Last few weeks, I'd been getting ready…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:18 PM
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Great! Welcome to the subreddit. Maybe you should examine the part of you that NEEDED to weigh in on this guys life, despite the fact that you know fuck all about anything. :-) And while you’re at it, examine the part of you that needed to defend and rationalize your opinion to a random internet stranger. And while you’re at THAT, examine the fucking sidebar and start reading. Welcome to MRP! I hope to see you in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/22 07:18 PM
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“Talk about it with your wife” CLASSIC MRP advice, good one
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/22 03:37 PM
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“I have taken the ass less fat, And that has made all the difference”
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/22 03:35 PM
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People actually jerk off with lube??! I thought that was only in movies. As others have said, not married, so have other options.
/r/askMRP27/08/22 12:23 AM
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Hey man - reading books is more RP than fucking. Books open up anytime I want, I can have as many as I want going at a time, I pick up new ones with minimal effort and financial investment, and no one complains when you cum inside them
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 02:16 PM
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You spent years gaslighting yourself about what you want because you feel guilty for wanting what you want. Yes, basically. I'm not mad about it though - I'm a much stronger person now. It was what I needed, even if it wasn't what I wanted. ​ You can’t negotiate desire. What happens if you act on it instead? Also, what does it convey if you treat your wife like an authority to the authenticity of your experiences/wants/desires? I can act on my desires with a willing partner, which my wife is not…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 02:31 PM
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I replied: “so they say.” His shoulders dropped, “yea…”. This is a legitimately comedic response that actually made me laugh out loud
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 07:03 PM
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OHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Dread's a hell of a drug
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 02:46 PM
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jesus christ, is this...possibly...the BIGGEST covert contract I've EVER seen?????? ​ it would be better for everybody in the family. OP: "Do a thing I suggested that's 'better for everybody'!" ​ After and during this conversation, I'm here and there touching her butt, hugging her, and pressing my boner against her and all this kind of stuff. ALSO OP: "But, like...don't you think I deserve to get blown for suggesting it?"
/r/askMRP24/08/22 01:42 PM
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But what if I don’t like what I want and would like to change that? What if I want to change my wants? Or should we all just follow our nature (as it is now)? I want to eat donuts every day, but I don't - because I also want to look like a Greek God, and the two are mutually exclusive. Pointless to judge what you want. NOT pointless to prioritize those wants and accept that, while you really CAN have everything....you can't have it all at once.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:40 PM
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the moment I stopped trying to reason out what I should want and just own what I actually wanted: everything clicked for me. This is kind of where I'm ending up. I want to fuck a lot, and I like a particular type of sexual dynamic. Neither of those things is fully present in my marriage and it bothers me. I've spent years in therapy, journaling, working on myself, trying to remove any kind of desire for validation, neediness, oneitis, etc...trying to kill my weaknesses so a clear picture of my t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:37 PM
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You didn't read my 6 years of OYS entries???? Dude, SO LAZY I actually have a fairly well-defined mission, lots of stuff going on in my life, and am extremely goal-oriented. I don't talk about it much on here, mostly because I don't feel any particular lack there (although I will admit to going through a transitional period right now, leaving one set of goals behind and still exploring where I want to go next). Sex is what is lacking for me - and it's also my biggest source of pain/growth. I foc…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:32 PM
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But wasn't that, like...the point? Did she not know that was what she was getting into? Or did she not want to go?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 01:27 PM
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He was one of my early models here. I haven’t gone through his post history in a long time - I should do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 09:50 PM
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Your comment a few weeks ago really kicked my ass, for which I am grateful. The whole time, I felt anxiety - and thought it was because I needed to pick the right side of the fence. Turns out, sitting on the fence itself is anxiety-provoking. Once action is taken, most of the stress burns away.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:38 PM
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Thanks for writing all this, and the thoughtful response. I'm going to need to really read this over a few times. (also, oh shit Gilchrist has another book? fuck) BTW, just based off your comments and what I know of your reading history, you might really enjoy Sadly, Porn. It's...a fucking wild ride.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:35 PM
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You know what never fucking fails to blow my stupid mind? Finding the exact bullshit I just pulled in someone else's OYS ​ I fucked up with some talking last week too. Thinking I needed to give out some narrative in response to an “are you cheating/planning divorce?” I got extremely truthful about what all my changes are about. I expressed joy and optimism about how great it’s been pushing towards my full potential (physically, emotionally, career wise) BUT ALSO, I shared tremendous regret about…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:30 PM
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I wasn't trying to convince myself. More of an observation of the gap between who I was then and who I am now. That was definitely not intended to be a flex! This is the defense. Wonder what the truth is...? :-) that piece about even trying to be my mental point of origin falling under others' influence is real. I can feel it. Any tips from experience or mental modes that have helped you? Nothing for it but practice, failure, and OYS. Undoing years of conditioning takes time and effort. And if I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 06:03 PM
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With sex, I have for a while now focused on compliance only. Do I get what I want when I want it? If not, am I able to figure that out for myself quickly. The answer is yes. Anytime I’ve felt a deficiency, I can identify a tool on the sidebar I’m ignoring or misusing. Thinking about some of the conversations upthread, maybe this is a good replacement for "desire" - do we really care about someone's internal state, which is unknowable, as long as we are getting what we want and it's consensual? I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:40 PM
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WTF happened in this course???
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:37 PM
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The main thing I struggle with is thinking about whether or not she had or is having an affair. I cycle through that, but the truth is that there is no way for me to know for sure. I also know that the answer doesn't matter because either way, what I want is to be around my kids every day. Thinking this way allows me to accept it and let it go. But I'd still like to reduce the amount of time I spend thinking about this. That's cool! Your wife is having an emotional affair (if not a physical one)…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:35 PM
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tlp?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:26 PM
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I was never gigachad, but I went from having 3 girls claiming me from prom in HS (I'd learned some PUA stuff back then) Nothing says "I'm awesome" like having to go back to fucking prom to find some wins. :-) I should mention I'm a Christian. I know I should post in RPChristian, but I like the dialogue here and don't mind swapping notes with dudes who may differ from me. My impression is that RPC is a place to specifically discuss whatever cross-over there is between RP and Christianity, not a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:24 PM
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I appreciate you linking that comment, it was thought-provoking. I wonder if we're not overthinking all this too much. I can't remember if it was you that has a post recommending The Master and his Emissary, but this, to me, feels very much like a left-brain-right-brain issue. (Strong recommend on that book, by the way - probably the book that had the single-biggest effect on how I see the world in the past 5 years.) Generally, when you try to dissect and analyze how you know things, you fall in…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:07 PM
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these are all excellent questions and I would be lying if I said I had a really clear idea of how to measure this kind of thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:59 PM
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Cool. give the exercises a try. They seem to work best (and have the biggest impact) as part of a regular practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:58 PM
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I know this translates to sex and initiation and that I hesitate, even unconsciously. I had felt a bit better over the past few weeks, but realized I had largely just been focused on other areas. Ego protection, I think. This was confirmed to me when I tried hard to initiate last week and it didn’t work. Rather than being OI, I felt hurt. I am sure this was just my fragile ego reacting and that my “disinterest” the weeks prior was my ego protecting itself. This is absolutely ego protection, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:33 PM
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Some tricks for staying on plan while eating out that have worked for me: Pick what you're going to order ahead of time (look the menu up online or whatever). Put it into whatever you track your food in, then plan the rest of the day around it to fit. By putting your "fun meal" in first, you can make it fit and look forward to it throughout the day. Write your order down on an index card and bring it with you. Hand it to the waiter early in the night and tell them you have health issues, so need…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 01:29 PM
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What's up my fellow homotextuals. Over the past few months, I'd come to two realizations: 1.) I was "playing not to lose" in many areas of my life. I'd lowered my standards and ambitions to match my current situation. 2.) I have a strong tendency to sacrifice my personal values and mission to protect the feelings of others. That created a wave of euphoria that led to firing a good percentage of my team at work - people I loved, and respected, but who weren't providing value and had refused to ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 01:24 PM
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There's an MRP twitter?????! I told you you were a slow learner. And that's with me editing out half the dumb shit I do. I appreciate you putting in the effort to chime in here. I take it seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/22 05:58 PM
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Other people gave the harsh criticism, so here's mine: You are so obsessed with your internal experience that you are delaying - or sabotaging - your external reality. I just told my 6-year old this when he was angry with his brother, and I'm going to tell it to you: You don't wait for your mood to improve before you do something. You do something, and that makes your mood improve. Think less, do more. By the way, on the lifting thing: that had nothing to do with your fucking frame. You're just …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/22 05:35 PM
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Are you saying these are posts I should read? Or they’re aphorisms you think I should consider? I couldn’t find any posts with those as titles so I’m assuming aphorism. (Man, I feel dumb today.) In any case, as aphorisms they are useful correctives, so thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/22 02:39 PM
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Ahh, I see your point now. Thanks for clarifying. That’s a valuable POV and I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/22 02:30 PM
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Hmm - I guess I don’t understand the metaphor. Am I the one fighting? Or my wife? I’ll put it another way: I have zero interest in a sexless marriage even IF the marriage was open, and if we stopped having sex altogether I would just get divorced. The goal is to supplement my current sex life; if I have to replace it, I could do that, but it seems like the costliest route. Could be my own stupidity for thinking I can have my cake and eat it too, admittedly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 09:49 PM
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> What do you gain by removing the one sliver of value she adds to your life? I do like my wife, especially when she's at her best, and I enjoy our lifestyle as a whole. I would still fuck her, in this scenario. I would also be able to have sex outside the relationship without the cognitive overhead of lying, and she wouldn't have to be my sole source of sexual activity. That's the idea. Whether it works out that way, who knows. My guess is that she doesn't go for it, but it would meet my needs …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 02:51 PM
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>Also "intimacy" is one of those words that gets thrown around a lot and I think I know what it means, but I'm not sure if I totally do. yes, it's often a "container word" - it means whatever the hell people want it to mean. ultimately, it's just a sign that the sex itself may be less of an issue that what it makes you think and feel...even below the level of your conscious perception. which feels "woo-woo", but has at least proven itself to be a helpful frame in my own life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 02:47 PM
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And seriously, watch Rambo
/r/askMRP11/08/22 08:18 PM
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WTF did you do that was “Rambo”? Tell your wife she didn’t have to perform for you sexually and then…not initiate? Your biggest problem is not “going Rambo” (have you SEEN Rambo?). Your problem is that you think how your wife feels is the barometer for whether you’re “doing it right.” That’s a long lesson to learn, friend. Start posting in OYS and get your head out of your wife’s ass.
/r/askMRP11/08/22 08:18 PM
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I think the point FF was making was that jealousy/shit testing would be far more extreme. Which is maybe true, I have no idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 04:44 PM
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“ Sex is fine. 2-3 times a week like clockwork, no more. I realize that I’m boring during the sex and I don’t know how to be more into it. It seems like I’m always thinking about fucking and then when it happens my mind is elsewhere and I don’t enjoy it. It has become so routine and I’m trying to figure out how to bring my own emotion into it, But I’ve used sex as validation for so long I don’t know another framework to build off of. I’ve read sex god method awhile ago, but I should probably go …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 01:49 PM
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My impression is that people include this type of thing because the most common responses here are “What are your lifts” and “have you even read the sidebar”, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 01:40 PM
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Anytime you write “I need to start…” or “I’m going to…” Just delete it. Then DO THAT THING, and THEN write about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 11:39 AM
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The “super hard mode” point is a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 11:26 AM
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Maybe, I honestly have no idea. I may be making mountains out of molehills, I’ll just feel better when I have some ballpark numbers based on my situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 11:25 AM
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Oh, I did that already. Many times. And then dealt with the fallout, which was extremely unpleasant. I don’t like the cognitive overhead involved with cheating - I want my insides to match my outsides. I wax philosophical in here, but my main problems are figuring out whether to just divorce or try to open the marriage, and doing actual financial planning for divorce (which I find difficult in terms of hard numbers, I just don’t have the requisite knowledge). I’m laid up in bed, so reading is wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 07:44 PM
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Opening up the marriage in the current situation would likely mean she gets herself some strange. Honestly, I don’t think that would bother me at all. If it did, I’d just end it. No matter the situation, "cheaper to keep 'er" is always wrong. Run the numbers and what you'd have as an income post-D and what you would spend. Guaranteed your disposable income goes up. This only works, of course, if you aren't too Nice and sign over most of your money to save the whamen and children. Man, I find thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 03:09 PM
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Hope everyone had a nice week. This week was basically split in half for me, progress-wise. First half of the week, wife caught COVID and went into isolation. I thought I would be stressed, but I wasn’t - I felt fucking GREAT. I handled everything, took care of her and got my workouts in…even two cardio training sessions. I haven’t run in years and years, and thought I’d be a winded piece of shit. Instead, I felt awesome. Even took my kids out with me on one, that was fun. Then I got COVID, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 12:57 PM
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You don’t “punish” bad behavior. You simply live your cool, interesting life. I don’t know, maybe do something fun? Fuck someone else? Read the great works of English literature? Boundaries are for YOU, not her. Boundaries dictate YOUR behavior, not hers. You’re butthurt because you’re boring and you depend on a 24 year old woman for all your happy feelings. Fix that.
/r/askMRP07/08/22 01:51 PM
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Why would my wife stay in a marriage where she‘s repeatedly fucked to the point of crying in the bathroom when there‘s seemingly nothing to be gained from it? Why do women stay with men who beat them? Who the fuck knows? Who cares? You're missing the far more important question, friend-o: Why are you willing to repeatedly fuck someone to the point of crying?
/r/askMRP05/08/22 02:10 PM
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OP: “I am extremely attractive. Like, really hot. Really.” Also OP: “There’s one woman in the world I HAVE to make touch my pee pee and I need this one specific woman to touch my pee pee SO BADLY that I am willing to literally torture her for years so that she will forever associate sex with crying in the bathroom”
/r/askMRP05/08/22 12:43 AM
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How to move forward? Post in OYS and let a bunch of random fucking strangers point out every weakness, inconsistency, and flaw you have. Then do it again, and again, and again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 12:34 AM
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I've thought a lot about your replies here and in the other thread since yesterday. Rather than wade into it here, I am going to recommend you read this book. You probably read too much already, but it sounds like you need it. I'll share the quote that I think about the most, the quote that - I think - changed things for me in some subtle way. "What did the men mainly dream of in the camp? Always the same: bread, cigarettes, decent ground coffee, and, last but not least, a nice warm bath."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 03:29 PM
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Body Fat: 10% (Navy method)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 10:12 AM
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You know, I just....straight up never thought of it that way. But damn
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 07:18 PM
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I’ve also cultivated a deep sense of loneliness. It’s not lost on me that this could be primarily a result of searching for and exploring the negative aspects of my marriage and my wife for so long, essentially, I’ve alienated myself. I feel you. The same happened to me. MRP can leave you very focused on the negative, feeling like you need to constantly assess everyone around you for "how much value" they're adding, constantly balancing a ledger. But that's just the anger phase, writ large, morp…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 07:10 PM
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I watched porn once this past week. This is the third week in a row I've reported watching porn. Does not feel good. I'm scared of just facing my sexual discomfort. Working by myself on my laptop all day is not helping. I need to switch up some of my routines. I work on the computer all day as well and also found this difficult. Get something like Freedom or Rescuetime and simply block all porn sites. Puts enough of a barrier in between you and the temptation to allow your willpower to take hold…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 07:02 PM
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My mission is to transition to a focus on my own objectives. My fundamental issue is: do I want these things for me, or have I rationalized them for others? Those determinations will take time. So...it's almost like, your mission boils down to "I will figure out what I want"? Fascinating. I know what servant leadership is. Just pointing out that there is a lot of "observing" and "noticing" and not a lot of "doing." :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:48 PM
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This is why when guys jump on OYS and say "12 months for her to turn around or im out" its completely bullshit. They are arbitrarily choosing divorce. Once they do, the stay plan is no longer the go plan. They favor a side with their ego. And they do so usually as the result of a fucked up mental perspective on how things are. These are the guys who after divorce either are sent reeling and regretting...or take some time to accept that the divorce was a result of their ego, and spent the next 6 …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:02 PM
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Is your wife fucking you with enthusiasm? Eh. It's much better than it was, and sex is good, but it doesn't cross into "enthusiastic," no. Sex isn't important to her - maybe just with me, maybe that's just how she is. Whose distress? Any guesses why the distress is there? Hers. She found out, and she's got a lot of childhood baggage around abandonment. We worked through it, but it was painful. I mean - I say this now, but...it's not like her underlying behavior changed a whole lot, really. So ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 04:57 PM
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UM is good if you just use the tools of riding yourself of "SP" and " OBW" as well as formulating a code and Mission. As an online marketer, I can feel the sale woven throughout the book, which tends to be put me on alert. Still, it's better-written than the vast majority of books with "alpha" in the subtitle, and it does a very good job of demonstrating that the "rules" we subconsciously accept are largely made up. I may have grabbed based on your recommendation elsewhere, so thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:40 PM
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At the sports match this weekend, be prepared and make an effort to be fun and engaging. Push myself to be a charismatic, outgoing individual. Sounds fun! you must be a blast to hang out with. If the goal is to have fun, maybe put yourself in situations you find...fun? You can't force yourself to fall asleep. You can't dance well by constantly assessing how you're dancing. You can't flirt well while running through a checklist in your head and wondering which "stage" you're in. Some things requi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:36 PM
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Mission. I will transition from a service leadership lifestyle focused on others to an assertive leadership lifestyle focused on myself. Your mission essentially boils down to "I will figure out what I want." But then: a. Vision. No progress here. Still have my 7 year, likely career beta conceived, career plan. Seems like all that time you spent staring at the heat map of your stomach would've been better spent journaling and figuring out what the fuck you want out of life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:32 PM
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I am not doing things entirely for my pleasure honestly, I am creating pressure on myself to log some amount of being social as a practice. Good enough for now, action creates thoughts and self image. Perhaps a more useful reframe: "I am experimenting to see what I like and don't like." I introduced the wheel of consent concept and enjoyed the four states it puts you in. Is this where you spin the wheel and see if it lands on "anal"?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:27 PM
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So in other words...its all your fault? The fact that my longest-running business problems and longest-running marital problems are functionally identical has led me to conclude that I may - MAY - perhaps, be involved in some way, yes. ​ Its kind of ironic that your section on validation itself is entirely for validation. I dont have women overtly asking me to fuck them, but when I notice women staring, stuttering, shaking their ass in front of me a little too much at the gym...yeah...its what h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:25 PM
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WHAT'S UP, DORKS Height: 5'10" Weight: 169.7 Last DXA: 18% Reading: Can't Hurt Me (Jesus christ, you read this? The audiobook is fantastic, big recommend), The Unchained Man (I expected to hate this, but I don't. I can't tell if it's just revenge porn for depressed married dudes though), Sadly, Porn (incredible read, utterly indescribable, maddening, probably complete horseshit, still awesome) Health: .02% calorie deviance from plan this week, my lowest ever. 7-day floating average weight ticked…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 01:02 PM
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You have it wrong.
/r/askMRP31/07/22 12:28 AM
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you are completely missing the point. for one, if you ain't worth shit, why would your fucking advice be worth anything to anyone? for two, you are ego-protecting so fucking hard it's embarrassing. THIS is why you keep bringing up people "not being dads" (news flash moron, most of us are). for three, you are escaping from the existential responsibility of developing your own frame by substituting some bullshit you found online. You're fucking around with "theory" and "facts" instead of doing the…
/r/askMRP29/07/22 08:05 PM
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Are you....literally substituting advice from a bunch of internet retards for your own fatherly advice? Seriously, dude. I'll take this post in good faith and assume you really want to have a positive effect on your daughter. 1.) You can't "red pill" anyone else. So don't try. 2.) You need to fix yourself. And the fact that you're even thinking like this is proof that you haven't done that. OYS is thatta way, bub
/r/askMRP29/07/22 07:16 PM
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I'm learning to embrace the discomfort of hunger. I'm telling myself that my body has two fuel sources - food and fat. When I'm hungry, its a signal my body is using fat as a fuel source. So hunger is positive. I do this. Whenever I feel hunger, I smile super wide, pump my fists, and think "Fuck - I LOVE how I feel right now, this is fucking incredible!" I've done it enough that it's become pure habit. Sooner or later the thought becomes automatic, and the thought of going off plan feels bizarre…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:22 PM
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I am no stranger to setting goals or doing difficult things - cold showers daily, periodic fasting, working out hard, cultivating discipline, etc. Yet I crumble like a fucking wet sack anytime I hit resistance with my wife. You have no trouble setting goals or doing difficult things provided they play to your strengths and ignore your weaknesses. You actually fucking suck at doing difficult things. This is why you're fat - and why, by the way, you took the time to tell us what you lifted three f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:16 PM
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No Homeo
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 02:15 PM
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I procrastinate a lot at work which adds stress to my day and life, and Instagram is the main culprit of wasting my time. I started using the ‘work’ mode of my phone which blocks out any apps that I don’t specifically allow. This has made me realize just how bad my habit was, I found myself replying to an email on my phone, then out of reflex I swipe to the home screen and click on Instagram. It has been eye opening, and I will keep work mode turned on between 7am and 5pm every day. The unwindin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 02:06 PM
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Fucked like rabbits from the moment we arrived. On Saturday night I wanted to fuck but she told me she was tired before I even initiated. I just said “Then just go rest”. And that was that. Not butthurt, no hurt feelings. However, the next morning I was butthurt. I was feeling like a pouty little boy who wanted sex and did not get it. What better illustration of the fact that butt hurt is rarely, if ever, actually about sex, but about validation? Covert contracts ("we're going to fuck all the ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 01:54 PM
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I mean...it's all body, man. No objective reality for you outside of physical sensation. That said, I don't think you need to act on or cater to every physical impulse. But I do think it's important to tune in to them, understand them, and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 01:50 PM
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As a therapist once told me, "emotions are your body's way of telling you something important is happening."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 01:25 PM
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I'm doing much better at maintaining my composure with the kids. They still test it. I've got a discipline system in place and I firmly stick to my guns. Use your kids as practice for your wife. Use your wife as practice for your kids. Same tests, different vessels.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 12:53 PM
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I have uncovered some deeply held wounds from traumatic incidents in my childhood and started making connections to the way those incidents have resulted in some of my current behaviors and attitudes. In some of these cases, I am still running mental software that was installed at a young age and has been on autopilot since. A tangent to IFS you might find interesting is the idea of "reparenting" - a way of attempting to heal some of the wounds you got from your caregivers on your own. I admit I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 12:52 PM
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It's mixed messages all around. One flaired person claims it's one thing, another flaired person claims it's another, both achieving the sexual strategy they want. The only way I can make sense of that is because they have different lives. good lord in heaven, do I ever recognize this. You have Smart Guy Disease. It's ok, I have it too. Stop trying to figure it out. Stop intellectualizing. Stop trying to "close the loop" in order to have things "make sense." Stop trying to innovate on the framew…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 12:49 PM
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HEALTH Good, solid week. Currently eating at a 300 calorie deficit (2010 calories a day, vs. my previous 2300; 190g of protein). Been about two weeks at that level. This was the week water weight started coming off, so I dropped 2.6 lbs as a floating average. Behaviorally, I was below my calorie target for the week by 74 calories. Calculated as a percentage of weekly calories, that was an absolute deviance level of 0.53%. Worked out three times, still increasing weights on all my lifts. My short…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 12:17 PM
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I’ve always been high energy, high output, high demands on myself with goals, and I am really awful at being joyful. I have written in many OYS about how I have difficulty accomplishing this. Mentally making myself do Knucklepushups and cold showers isn’t the way to live. That's just another form of slavery. No idea if this is a match for you, but as I've gotten older and more successful I find more and more fulfillment/joy from mentoring others. Turning your professional and life experiences in…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 05:35 PM
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From there it would be signing up for an inter-club fight (hosted every few months), and taking it from there. Two things: 1.) If you're in "fake it till you make it" mode, you need to acknowledge the reality that you actively self-sabotage and plan accordingly. A commitment device would help here. In your most gung-ho moment, call someone at your school and tell them that if you don't sign up for the next round of fights, you will pay them $1000 - and not to let you back out no matter what you …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 05:21 PM
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In truth this reminds me a little of my wife. Probably does with Horns' too. But...its not like I didn't have conviction. Its that upon her testing me, like she does naturally, we both found that conviction was misplaced. Maybe I wasn't as awesome as I thought. To cut the act a bit: I was straight up a wishy-washy pile of shit. I just did NOT "get it," even after multiple people/books/sources told me what "it" was. Crawling out of my hole of self-doubt and appeasement is the great struggle of my…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 03:40 PM
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Massive covert contract...And hedging it in advance Nah. I just wouldn't bet on my wife's behavior changing. Who knows - maybe she's secretly just waiting for me to be even MORE awesome than I already am, and she's a whole different person underneath. It's possible. I'm certainly open to being wrong, and I'm CERTAINLY open to the idea that much of her anxiety comes from my history of lack of conviction. It just isn't the most likely scenario. ​ Lol thats the 12 levels of dread. Speedrun at 1 sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 02:15 PM
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EXERCISE: This was a strong week. Back pain is more or less gone, shoulder pain is noticeable on OHP but basically gone everywhere else. Finished all workouts. Still adding weight on all lifts. Heaviest squat was 180, Bench 185, Deadlift 180. Progress is gradual, but DL feels very easy still. Squat feels difficult but coach says I have significantly more room to go before I actually start failing. Using their formula for estimating 1rm, this would put my Squat 1RM at 209, Bench at 197, and DL at…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 01:02 PM
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I WAS peachy! I just realized I want more. Maybe I had to say it out loud to realize it. Anyway, epiphanies are easy enough to come by. I’m enjoying process of getting back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 12:32 PM
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FUCK! I wrote it all for you, too. God, why am I like this??!! p.s. we all know the mods only approved me as a cautionary tale
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 01:21 PM
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I would, but Reddit pays me by the word
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 09:59 PM
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lol
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 05:06 PM
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This has been a wild, intense, unexpected week. First things first: Focused on rehab exercises for sore back and shoulder for the first half of the week. Managed to get all three lifting sessions in at the end of the week, including when it was the absolute last thing I wanted to do. There was never the thought I would skip, however - the habit has its own momentum now. Lifting made both injuries feel better this week, though OHP is still light. Back to regular squat and DL. Over the past two we…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 12:40 PM
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Dude. IM ON TRT. But with a prescription. From, like a doctor. Who checks my blood every 6 months. Test is a drug. It’s dangerous if not taken correctly. I can’t believe I have to explain this to you. You’re DEERing at me about your fucking Kindle and missing the point. Pretend this isn’t MRP. Pretend we’re two friends at a bar. You know what I’d tell you? If you want to do TRT, do it! It’s been a major benefit in my life. But for FUCKS SAKE, if you’re going to do it, DO IT RIGHT. Stop prancing …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/22 12:29 AM
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Yes, this, for FUCK'S sake. Dude can't even figure out how to read books on the kindle. Instead he's self-administering a controlled substance?! For christ's sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/22 01:13 PM
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This is some OYS3 bullshit DEERing. I guess most just stay fumbling around in middling mediocrity. This mindset is the reason that Maybe! But I also know that doing what others do is not always a recipe for success. I had NEVER squatted to depth in my LIFE before this year, now I'm approaching 200 lbs. I couldn't be happier. That said, I could definitely do better and could certainly optimize more around fitness. If the criticism is that my expectations are too low, that's a fair criticism and I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 03:34 PM
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OK. Good. What actions are you currently taking to figure this out? I'm in the middle of a major life transition - business-wise, I'm moving my current main thing towards someone else taking the reins. I've spent many of my recent years involved in music, but lately I'm less motivated by it, and need to figure out where it fits. Similarly, my wife and I are entering what feels like a different phase - one where sex is much more frequent, and varied, but where I still feel the push for more. How …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 02:51 PM
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it’s like a lightning bolt that brings on nausea: it probably doesn’t matter. this was an incredible line it is wild how little we know about how the human body works or what it all means. You go two levels deep into any medical field and you find out it's turtles all the way down
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:47 PM
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Actually, this is exactly what my coach said - that I should not stop training, and instead modify the exercise/load to manage the pain so I can strengthen the affected area. (This is also what she told me when I first came to the program with my initial back pain problems). Coincidentally, she wrote an article about it here: https://www.progressiverehabandstrength.com/articles/barbell-athlete-recovery I routinely hesitate when I experience pain/discomfort while lifting. This is something I need…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:29 PM
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very true! I'll ask you a question then that was asked of me, as I already had the attractiveness and sex stuff pretty much on lock. "Why are you here?". I glossed over this above, so let me give you an actual good-faith answer. I don't know what my "next thing" is, mostly because I got my old "next things." I'm older now, in a very different place in terms of my relationship, business, kids, goals, etc. After having a very clear idea for a very long time ("more sex!" "more blowjobs!" "more resp…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 12:22 PM
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**DEXA SCAN** I got my DEXA scan done (thank god there is one within walking distance of my office now. I was driving an hour away to get them before). So these are the starting numbers I can judge my progress by: BF %: 18.6 (slightly lower than I guessed) TOTAL MASS: 177.2 lbs FAT TISSUE: 33 lbs LEAN TISSUE: 137 Strangely, my lean tissue has actually ticked __down__ from my last DXA in May (a pound, perhaps within the realm of "different machine, calibrated slightly differently", when I was at …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 12:17 PM
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Lol - you guys. Never change, MRP. I’ll be fine, I promise. As for satisfaction - never satisfied! But neither do I think that’s getting solved on a message board.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 01:10 AM
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🤷‍♂️I’m more than happy with my progress, boss. And I don’t need your permission to post here. :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 01:07 AM
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support group incoming
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 06:32 PM
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Let's put it this way: I did the "have as much sex as you want" thing. As in, I actually tested it out. It was fine. But it didn't make me happy. So, no, sex is not "the thing." My real issues were always internal and it was never really about my wife. I don't have a great sense of what "the new thing" is, either. I do have a sense that it's more likely to be "hand-wavy" then "spreadsheet-ready," as much as I'd prefer the latter. I'm also ok with there not being a specific "thing" right at this …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 06:31 PM
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Hey, 1 for 2! MRP grades on a curve, right? To put it another way - The variety and frequency of the sex I have with my wife has significantly increased, and I am much happier. I put in a lot of work to get there. Is it PERFECT, as in I get sex every time I want, and have exactly the type of sex I want every time? No. But is it good enough that it occupies much less of my cognitive bandwidth? Yes. I've come to see that sex was never really the problem, nor will it ever be "the solution." It's a …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 05:06 PM
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I certainly still have problems and so on; nothing's perfect. But generally I am happy with my overall progress, and I'm much more focused on my own "stuff" than my wife's "stuff." "You won't like this, but that first photo, all I see is a skinny fucker. I almost like the look better in #2. Food for thought." Oh, I don't mind that comment at all. I also like my build better now overall (though I miss seeing abs, hence the change). My aim is to keep my current muscle mass, but shed some of the ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 07:32 PM
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also - lol, that's my oura ring. I'M MARRIED TO THE DATA
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 06:49 PM
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Still married! Much more happily so.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 06:41 PM
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thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 06:39 PM
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Much better than it was, could be better, could be worse. Just another part of my life now, rather than the end-all-be-all
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 06:38 PM
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Hello all. Long time, no see. I decided to pop back into OYS (rather than my own regular journaling practice) as an added layer of public accountability, as I'm transitioning into a different phase of my diet/exercise plan. A quick catch up: LIFTING While I've been lifting on and off for the past few years, I kept aggravating a back injury that would stop my progress. This last go-round I had avoided all squats and deadlifts whatsoever and STILL found myself waking up hurt, having trouble standi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 03:28 PM
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If you don't produce more than you consume, then you are a taker by definition. Ultimately, that "ride" you're enjoying is made possible by the labor of others - your parents, your coworkers, the society that surrounds you. If you're content to simply consume and not try to improve the world around you, that's fine; there's no God that's going to pat you on the head for it. But as I tell my kids: "If you're not helping, you don't get an opinion." :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/21 03:01 PM
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this is truly mind-boggling manipulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 04:30 PM
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Essentially that you know how this is going to turn out. You're getting older every single minute of every single day. Therefore, it's on you if you waste that time. On you if you don't take care of the important shit first. On you if you "blink and suddenly they are older than they realized." Life tells you the rules upfront. Spend your time accordingly. (Is my interpretation)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 01:12 PM
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My pleasure!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 05:36 PM
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God this post is so funny. Even the title is in the passive voice “Dear diary. For the first time in a long time, I have begun regularly changing my underwear. The female remains nonplussed. I have stopped talking completely and will record my observations”
/r/askMRP07/03/21 03:37 PM
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I am angry I did not see the twist coming and I enjoyed this ppst
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 08:05 PM
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Great post. Read a few fascinating things about learning recently - especially the importance of imitation in learning. All learning is imitation in the beginning. Through imitation, we acquire a sense of “taste;” we internalize principles. But that imitation must give way to internalization through practice. Once you understand how the parts go together, you start to play; you start to express yourself. I caught myself catering to the crowd in my OYSs. I caught myself predicting responses and c…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 10:01 AM
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Every single comment you’ve made on this post is you DEERing. You’re pretending like everyone’s personal experiences are going to vary wildly from the gigantic sidebar of material that is posted in this sub to answer this exact question. So, no, I’m not being edgy. And yes, I am judging you. I am judging you based on your behavior. The question is, can you back up, quell your ego, and look at the entire post of people calling you out? Can you take that feedback and use it for something useful? 🤷…
/r/askMRP18/11/20 09:52 AM
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You came here looking for excuses. You know what to do. You’re trying to disqualify yourself as “too old.” Get over it. Or don’t. Your choice.
/r/askMRP17/11/20 06:17 PM
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Cry more. You know what this post lacks? The part where you finally shut your fat mouth and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Millions upon millions of people would KILL for your resources, Privileges, and advantages. sorry you lost your head start in life. Time to fight your way human dignity.
/r/askMRP15/11/20 11:29 PM
2

Ahh, gotcha - I was curious if there was some “home method” to doing this. I’ve been getting DEXA scans and like them for the amount of data you get, but the only available one is quite far away.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/20 07:22 PM
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Cool post! I love “here’s a thing I did” posts (rather than “I totally going to do this thing” posts). The feelings —> actions model you reference is very common, but I’ve also found that actions —-> feelings far more consistently. You mentioned hydrostatic measurement (I think you Mean BF % here, though you said BW). How did you do this, exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/20 05:50 PM
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Maybe, just like, I don’t know. One bad fuck doesn’t mean anything? 🤷‍♂️ Mumble mumble frame something something Slap her ass, tell her you’re gay now, and just try to ENJOY YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU FUCKING DISINTEGRATE Guarantee on your death bed you won’t wish you spent more tome meditating about your fucking balls or whatever the hell youre doing
/r/askMRP29/10/20 11:09 PM
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Fellas, is it gay to ever talk to my wife?
/r/askMRP27/10/20 08:20 PM
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/u/kendallb183 So, you're retired, live rent free, are on disability, making roughly 100k a year... I pay 3k a month to be in a mentoring group for work. If it's important, put your money where your mouth is. Regardless, stick with the process of posting in OYS. Just keep at it. Forget about any end result. Like lifting weights. Just keep doing it. There's a lot to unpack and you're not going to do it in a week. But if you keep showing up, keep posting, keep trying, you'll earn people's respect …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 08:09 PM
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You are in a relationship, regardless of whatever cool term you try to apply to it Correction: 1 kid. Decide what you want from your life and stop pussyfooting around.
/r/askMRP17/10/20 08:51 PM
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Do you think that by labelling, dissecting, and flowcharting your life you can "do it right"? How many bits of lingo and in-group language do you think you could fit into a single post? How many signifiers that you belong, that you know what you're doing, that no one should accuse you of "doing it wrong"? You are a free man. Enjoy your life while you can. Hard to do that, trapped in your own head.
/r/askMRP07/10/20 04:48 PM
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Brutal post. Most will never allow themselves to be so vulnerable here. Recognizing how fucked up you are it the beginning of all improvement. Looking forward to seeing you grow and turn things around.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 08:41 PM
2

Very possible! I tend to think that most of what dudes call "shit tests" is just the existential despair of a wife married to a loser. But hey - could just be my own experience, or lack thereof. None of my own shit, past or present, was about "how to deal with my wife in the right way." It was all about putting myself first. For me, two years ago? All the PUA stuff was a blind alley. Just more ways to try and "do it right." I tend to bring that perspective here. YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 05:36 PM
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Now take your wife - she shit tests you because she wants to be attracted to you but she believes she is better than you. This becomes evident because the better you get the less often they shit test - many times it’s only while ovulating which is when they are programmed biologically to do so. Eh - maybe you and I am conflating "teasing" with "shit testing." I could certainly be wrong - I've never had to do "pick up" at all. My issue with "shit testing" as a diagnosis in MRP is that dudes come …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 04:11 PM
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I’m not saying that a wife never shit tests. But that implies she’s ATTRACTED to you. It’s a form of flirtation. Most dudes on here don’t have the “my wife is flirting with me” problem. They have the “my wife keeps finding shit stains in my underwear” problem. 🤷‍♂️
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 01:01 PM
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I was always thought shit testing got imported from pick up, where it was a sign of attraction (ie bratty sister teasing you kind of thing). It’s a weird addition to MRP, I think, and a common misdiagnosis. “She wants you to totally AA bro!” Is the advice given, when the typical wife of an MRPer just wants him to stop being a ducking doofus.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 02:54 PM
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All replies I post in MRP are secretly to myself. My time is never wasted here. :-)
/r/askMRP31/07/20 02:11 PM
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Improvement is great. But don’t forget to just spend some time every week introspecting. You have total, absolute control over what happens to you. Everything is a product of your actions. Assume that’s the Capital-T-Truth. How did you contribute, good and bad? What can you change? What can you test? You got this. But I swear to motherfucking god, don’t come back in here for advice if you don’t have this sheet filled out every single week. No advice can help if you don’t do the work.
/r/askMRP30/07/20 11:02 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ. You are a god damn mess. Honestly? You’re complaining about your wife, but all I see here is excuse after excuse after fucking excuse. Talking about getting a “pump” from your creatine oh my godddddddddddddddddd Ok. Breathe, R316. Breathe. I will be totally honest with you. One man, to another. I am going to boil all of this down, completely, to a single issue. Forget MRP, forget everything. Just, please, listen to this: Your problem is a complete lack of self awareness. Yo…
/r/askMRP30/07/20 06:26 PM
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Best comment
/r/askMRP10/07/20 01:54 PM
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Prediction for this thread: OP: “Hey everyone, I’ve been working out and owning my shit for a while and now women are hitting on me.” Some Random Dude: “BRO, the fact that you enjoy pussy or notice the actions of any other human being is somehow a sign of an internal mental failing on your part. I will hold you to an impossible standard in order to call you a faggot and make myself feel good.” Making your wife jealous by being attractive enough to receive unsought for IPIs is literally the whole…
/r/askMRP10/07/20 01:54 PM
1

Are you so afraid of taking responsibility for your own actions that you are literally asking if it’s INEVITABLE that you put your dick in a specific vagina?
/r/askMRP28/06/20 03:08 AM
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Have you read No More Mr Nice Guy? It’s cool. You’re codependent. I was too. It’s work to undo. But you aren’t free until you do.
/r/askMRP23/06/20 02:57 PM
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Co-dependent men feel responsible for other people’s feelings - especially the women in their lives. In beta mode, this takes the form of supplication - “I’m so sorry babe, what can I do for you?” In “I just found MRP” mode, it takes the place of faux-Alpha posturing. “Should I fuck her hard when she’s mad? Not because that’s what I want, but because I read on the internet that that will make my wife like me again?” Both actions come from the same place: the inability to be disliked, even for a …
/r/askMRP23/06/20 11:06 AM
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I don’t know anything about you, but Not for you. Just a wild fucking guess Not your job to fix her feelings. Work on mastering your own fucking feelings instead.
/r/askMRP23/06/20 12:10 AM
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Dig this post. Thank you for sharing your progress - it’s extremely helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 06:23 PM
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No one gives a shit about your fucking feelings. The medium is the message. The fact that you give a shit is the message. The fact that you think anybody gives two fucks about “pushing you down” or “acting alpha” is the message. You don’t get it. So shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/20 04:43 PM
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Cool! Thanks for your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 11:04 PM
1

What’s your sexual frequency? And congrats, 31 years is nooooooo joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:56 PM
1

Man with a hammer syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 10:50 PM
3

THERE ARE WOMEN OUTSIDE
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:38 PM
1

Sweet. I’ve seen some of these images but didn’t know much about the artist!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:37 PM
3

Why have I laughed harder at this post than any purge post so far
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:33 PM
1

FLORIDA CONFIRMED, COMMENCE DOXXING Just kidding, thanks for the post!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:31 PM
1

Spanish flu did not originate in Spain. The more you know
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 07:37 PM
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I personally see far more “man hating” in mainstream culture (by which I mean explicitly online, Twitter, popular subs, and so on, which perhaps stretches the definition of mainstream. Just trying to say “non-pill”). “Throw the whole man away” is literally a meme comment on every relationship post. This is couched as humor and I know it’s intended as humorous, but there is literally nothing even remotely approaching it in regards to women outside of explicitly misogynistic forums. Do I think thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 12:03 PM
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While I see your point, young women are the subject of the vast majority of pornography. “Teen” thus might not be a hugely useful modifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 10:14 PM
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Gotcha. That’s fair - to you, the act IMPLIES many different things, all of which were unattractive. I’m assuming - since this is a hypothetical where you know someone’s age off the bat - that in a scenario where you could know with 100% certainty that none of these things were true, it would no longer be creepy? And that, we’re all of the above true with someone your own age, you would also find them creepy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 09:34 PM
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I’m still not clear on why you think this is creepy. Is it because you think the relationship is unlikely to last? This is true of the vast majority of relationships, even between same age couples. Is it because she “could be” his daughter? Lots of people “could be” someone’s daughter, but they aren’t in this case. Are you as creeped out by reversing the genders? Are you really just this grossed out by other people’s sexual choices? These are consenting adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 06:14 PM
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Do you feel like a creep speaking to everyone with whom you don’t have much in common? I’m really curious what EXACTLY about this situation seems creepy to you....or even how you’re defining “creepy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 05:46 PM
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I’m sure this is true for you, and probably for a majority. But the existence of a majority doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of women who feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 10:30 PM
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What kind of 20 year old women are going to have casual sex with a 40 year old man? It’s not too hard to see how she would have issues and be damaged. Got it - you think certain types of attraction are “bad” and mean people are “damaged.” You have an authoritarian and judgmental view towards sex. You are welcome to have this worldview - it just doesn’t make it true. It’s not necessarily that the men should feel like creeps. It’s that those 20 year old women are likely to think you’re a creep. I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 03:13 PM
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Nahh. The only 20 year old women that would sleep with 40 year old men are the ones that have serious issues and are damaged. Give me a break. Theeeerrrre it is. "Sex is bad, therefore people who have sex I don't approve of are damaged." Nice. I don't know what to tell you man, other than you really don't seem to know much about the sex lives of young women. If we're trading anecdotes as evidence, I know plenty, and none of them are "damaged," whatever the hell that means. I never said that 20 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 01:44 PM
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It is not UNcommon. If you are a fit, attractive, successful 40 year old man, yes - you will find plenty of 20 year old women who will want to fuck you. And I have literally no idea why a 40 year old man would think this is creepy. Do YOU think that 20 year old women are not mature enough to make their own decisions? 20 year old women can fight in the military, vote, have babies and get abortions. They can’t decide what dick they put in their vagina?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 01:20 PM
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Me? No, sorry. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on height stuff. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 01:17 PM
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Everyone’s sexual preferences are different. You will find your own particular tastes to be the product of, yes, evolutionary preferences, but also huge amounts of genetic noise, upbringing, chance encounters in which you sexually imprinted on a certain “type,” the kind of masturbatory material you had available to you while you were younger, and more. If you back out all the way to the species, you will see notable preferences, on average, for certain things - youth, symmetry, long hair, whatev…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 12:42 PM
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Young women all over the world are sexually attracted to attractive older men. Not everyone, but many - more than enough to make it relatively mainstream. Stop shaming people’s sexual choices. It’s lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 12:38 PM
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20% of my comments produce 80% of my aneurysms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 12:46 AM
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NOT ALL STATISTICAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE POWER LAWS good lord
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 11:44 PM
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“You can’t disprove it” is not an argument. I can’t disprove the Easter Bunny doesn’t live in your basement. Doesn’t make it true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 11:42 PM
0

Power laws exist. Not everything is a power law. This is BASIC statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 11:39 PM
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Of course. Female orgasm is, on average, difficult to achieve via PIV intercourse. If you want an orgasm, it is up to you to communicate what you need. If you don’t need to orgasm every time, you should communicate this as well. This is why I’m saying: just talk to your sex partners. I find this unwillingness to be open about your needs (not you specifically, just in general) absolutely exasperating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:53 PM
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Subconscious desire for insemination. We all have it, men and women. It’s why sex exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:22 AM
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This is true, but it’s also true of nearly every subculture. Helps to identify in/out groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:19 AM
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It depends on the dude. The idea behind RP is less about sleeping around per se than it is about maximizing your own sexual strategy. I, for one, prefer longer term relationships. But I am best situated to build a relationship that benefits me if I understand the sexual drives and strategies that underlie the SMP. The “ideal” RP relationship js one where the woman is monogamous and the man isn’t. I personally don’t find that super realistic, but I suppose it happens (especially if it’s not for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 02:18 AM
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Everyone wants something from someone. No one wants everything from everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/20 11:00 PM
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I actually look for AM when I replied, but there didn’t seem to be a comment. Are they not automatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 10:11 PM
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I get what you’re saying here, but anyone arguing from a pure RP perspective believes our society is “feminine primary” and that the underlying social structures all primarily benefit women. Obviously, you can disagree with this and argue against it, but it wouldn’t be “intellectually dishonest” for an RP true believer to claim RP beliefs are non-mainstream. They say “enjoy the decline” specifically because RO believes they DON’T have a broad impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 06:21 PM
1

Yes and thank god.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 09:39 PM
2

So much impotent anger that things “should” be different than they are. Selection is a bitch, but you can’t argue with its results.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 03:14 PM
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I KNEW THIS REMINDED ME OF SOMETHING https://www.reddit.com/r/memes/comments/cjz84k/daddy_will_be_home_vary_soon_kitten/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:14 PM
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I mean, he was clearly hinting around about it. I like dominant play every now and then and no ones ever “figured it out” from a casual conversation. Who knows - I don’t call myself an alpha male. Maybe it works. But it just sounds soooooo unbelievably awkward and cringey.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:33 PM
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All this is fine if you’re into it. This dude sounds like he wears a fedora. No social intelligence at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 07:21 PM
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Dig this
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 07:15 PM
2

The primary difference certainly seems to be just what the conditions are. I’m not sure how the “real world” thinks about love (meaning outside of this board and ones like it). Ideals aren’t meant to be practical, of course, but I think many men (myself included) believe/believed that love was about “who you are.” Instead, it is about “what you do” - and you are not given credit for past efforts. The extent to which people on this board believe that is “common knowledge” has been a real eye open…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 05:22 PM
4

This is a CONSERVATIVE attitude based in religion. Timothy Leary and Anton LaVey aren’t out here saying sex is “dirty.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 03:17 PM
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There is always a person you would sacrifice for. This is true for men and women. I don’t particularly like getting peed on but if my CRUSH OF CRUSHES had it as a fetish I’d just get into it. We all rationalize worse things away every day - jobs we hate, lifestyles that make us miserable. Engaging in a sex act for the “right” person is one of the LEAST impressive mental gymnastics people engage in.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 03:16 PM
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The idea that men should desire virgins makes zero sense to me. It is baffling. I blame conservatives
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 02:27 PM
5

THE ONE TRUE PILL
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:09 PM
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I thought BP would disagree with this, but have been proven wrong by multiple posters on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:08 PM
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Excellent pick
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:07 PM
3

People SHOULD agree on this, but in my experience this is one of the most hotly-contested gender issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:07 PM
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“For the right man” There it is. FFS, communicate with your sex partners. Problem solved. Is porn not great for us? YES. But it ain’t because of expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 12:05 PM
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Chad doesn’t work to earn mating rights. Neither did Ghengis Khan, unless you count murder. All nature did was give men the desire to fuck. Everything else is purely your beliefs on how that desire “should” be expressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 08:28 PM
2

Mother Nature says jack shit about men needing to work for anyone. Your URGES are one thing. Your social conditioning - and this your expectations of others - are another.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 06:58 PM
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Mother Nature doesn’t have expectations. People do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 06:54 PM
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“Men have to constantly work to get their sexual needs met. They should also constantly work to meet my financial needs. They should just work forever, in general, until they drop dead. And in return, L E G A C Ytm”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 06:36 PM
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For men who think it's unrealistic to keep up effort in the relationship why does he expect a woman to keep the sex up too? For the vast majority of men, they misunderstand what "effort" in a relationship means. Men are told love is "eternal" and has to do with "who they are." We apparently agree on what it actually means - being hot and (somehow, god only knows how) making your wife feel "like you are still dating." Good luck with that 10 years in, by the way. My best friends before they went t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 08:43 PM
3

I don’t know what that is, but I googled what I’m talking about and it’s called the “coital alignment technique.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 08:19 PM
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Are your friends women? I’d encourage you to ask the man if he thinks he “stopped trying.” Men foolishly believe that the women they marry will desire them no matter what. This is the essence of blue pill - that love comes from “who you are.” They feel this way because much of the time they still desire their wives, even as she gets fatter, and stops “doing what they did when they were dating.” Men simply cannot fathom - much of the time - the extent to which a woman’s love is contingent on any …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 08:18 PM
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This is what mouth, fibers, toys, and communication are for. My wife used to have significant difficulties orgasming during penetration. We found a way to make it work - mostly by grinding pelvises together instead of the typical thrusting. Just use your words!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 08:10 PM
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While I can't speak for all relationships, in my own marriage - and in the marriages of many people I have communicated with over the years - ...it was the exact opposite. An endless spiral of desperately trying to provide more and more open communication, emotional vulnerability, closeness, comfort... While sex dwindled down to literally nothing. Communication and emotional closeness do not creative sexual attraction. Women fuck men who don't love them all the time. The myth that women's sex dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:25 PM
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While this may be true in general, it is no one's fault but your own if this is true in a marriage. Communicate with your partner, for god's sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 06:20 PM
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posts pic that demonstrates jealousy over women’s sexual power, from a sub that is literally dedicated to complaining about women’s sexual power “Why don’t men admit they are jealous of women’s sexual power???!!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:42 PM
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RP got infested by cultural conservatism to its detriment. Historical ignorance and a sense of powerlessness lead to the idealization of the past. It’s stupid but it’s far broader than the pills. This is a cultural thread ties around the neck of a less dynamic, less innovative, and less creative society.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 03:52 PM
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Registering your dislike is not “being triggered.” This is a message board, not a silent reflection board. Good lord, stoicism ruined you people. So afraid of emotion that you won’t even stick up for what you believe. What happened to, you know, being passionate about things? Giving a shit? “Giving a shit isn’t alpha, bro.” Bullshit. Brando was alpha. Picasso was alpha. Casanova was alpha. Only the dead never get fired up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/20 03:19 PM
1

Your literal argument is that the top posts in MGTOW - almost by definition, a series of in-jokes and status posturing - somehow do not reflect a nuanced reality of the SMV. The things people post in groups like this are not FOR you - they’re for THEM. They are group signaling. This drives me absolutely up the fucking wall when Rollo or some other dipshit picks some “MEN ARE CANCELED” tweet that was CLEARLY in jest and points to it as evidence of some feminist conspiracy. Maybe - just maybe - do…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 01:08 AM
1

“THESE MEMES LACK SUBTLETY” Wow. No kidding. Who would’ve thought
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 12:13 AM
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Think of “status” as anything that would have bestowed status 1000 years ago. Gates doesn’t pass the test. Musicians, shamans, political leaders, military leaders, etc, all do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:56 PM
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Ensuring that people adhere to the basic agreements of ANY relationship is not emotional dependency. It's like someone told you "MRP MEANS YOU DON'T GIVE A FUCK" and that's become this belief that any attempt to prevent anything bad from happening means you care too much. ​ I like my wife. I'd leave her if she cheated. And yeah, I'd like to know if that's happening. ​ Now, checking if the vibrator moved? Constant questioning? Sure, it's fucked up. But no, I don't believe: If you're "alpha enough…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 12:01 AM
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Nah, I'm being a dick because I'm deliberately taking a much harder stance than I would in real life. I'm playing Devil's Advocate - for who, exactly? As for the memes - I suppose it's really the "culture" of this board specifically. I feel like the tone got set by the original dudes and we're all play-acting, puffing our chests out and spouting the bad words we heard our dads use. It's lazy, and it allows people to co-opt the language for easy internet-validation-points. I know this for a fact,…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 11:45 PM
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To be clear, I get that I’m being kind of a dick in this thread. There’s a certain type of “memified” take on MRP that’s just been really grating on me lately. It’s not like it’s new, so I suppose it says more about me than the post - it just fucking bugs me. As to my wife, our actual situation is OK. We fuck, and I supplement that when I need to. I’m still digging through shit, but it’s more about my brain than it is about her vagina.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 11:21 PM
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So, basically, because I CAN earn more in the future, I should be cool with losing money now? Are you seriously this afraid to check your wife’s emails? Do you think for a single second she affords you the same courtesy? Look - live how you want to live. But sticking your head in the sand is not “alpha.” If you don’t CARE if your wife cheats, great! If you do, do your fucking homework.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 10:23 PM
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RP: every time a woman goes out with the girls it’s to cuck you, bro. ALSO RP: checking up on your woman is beta, faggot. This post would be 100% true if you could leave your woman without financial consequences. As it happens, that is not the case. So yes, I think men should be allowed to surreptitiously check up on the status of that relationship. Would you check up on a business partner? You should. Would you check up on your employees? You should. Would you check up on your kids? You should.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/20 08:49 PM
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Even if you believe women don’t contribute to society, it’s a leap to jump to robophilia.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 07:27 PM
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“OP’s motivation to leave is in response to his wife’s behaviours, not as a result of what he truly wants.” How do you know this? You don’t. You’re projecting. His wife isn’t some god-send to make him a better person. He doesn’t get Super Awesome Masculine Martyr Points for staying with a frigid harpy and wasting his life. MRP doesn’t save the marriage. It NEVER saves the marriage. MRP saves the MAN. And sometimes, that man chooses to stay married. If he is TRULY the prize - if he’s TRULY the sh…
/r/askMRP17/04/20 12:57 AM
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True. But just because his wife doesn’t treat him well doesn’t mean someone else won’t. Otherwise, you couldn’t leave unless you wife “approved” of you. He decides. He’s the judge. Maybe the fact that he’s here asking is the actual red flag.
/r/askMRP16/04/20 10:17 PM
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Why am I the only one who thinks you should just fucking get divorced? If you’re REALLY fit And REALLY owning your shit And REALLY your own point of origin Fucking leave. Everybody’s lazy ass answer is “you just didn’t lift HARD enough,” “you just didn’t own your shit OFTEN enough.” More in your wife’s frame than you are. YOURE the judge. If you’re ready to leave, leave. She doesn’t decide. You do.
/r/askMRP16/04/20 09:41 PM
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Here’s my issue, typically: Nagging implies you’re my boss. You ain’t my fucking boss. Ask nicely or don’t ask at all. 🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:03 PM
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Male-initiated sex is our cultural norm. But many men fantasize about being seduced by a woman, essentially reversing the gender roles. There’s a reason “The Graduate” was considered so erotic. The extent to which you prefer MOSTLY one or the other is probably largely individual. Most men and women aren’t ever fully truthful about their desires and so cultural norms will continue to dominate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:07 PM
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Cool post and interesting point! How would we ever be able to gauge the effect this might have on the stats?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:03 PM
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I think this is largely due to cultural taboo. Taboo breaking is considered erotic in nearly every culture; it’s just the specific taboo that varies. Same with zoophilia.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:03 PM
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Your goal for ANY mental framework should be to adapt whatever works to your life and drop the rest. RP is made by people; people are fallible. Take what works, move on to something else. But in this sense, you never “outgrow” it. You don’t outgrow knowing how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 01:39 PM
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But you CAN select visually for fertility. Hip size, hair quality, face symmetry, breast size - these are ALL fertility cues. What’s the earliest archaeological evidence we have of masturbatory aides? Statues of women with big tits and wide hips. Even if you want to use life expectancy instead of fertility as your metric, you can STILL estimate life expectancy by looking at age. Younger women will, on average, have longer to live than older women. If this is purely a matter of “people get hornet…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 12:51 PM
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“And more then that, what are you basing your claim on and why you assume that scale of fertility is a factor and not say the average life expectancy of a period, mating opportunities or lack of etc?” Because you can’t select for that. How do you choose a mate with a high life expectancy? Remember, this needs to be a VISUAL cue. Moreover, while everything you’re saying could be true, it doesn’t explain the existing, very real preference. That’s a thing. It exists. What’s the simplest explanation…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 10:55 AM
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Classic RP absolutely loves hook up culture. You are confusing “RP” - a male sexual strategy - with “TRP” - an internet subculture that has become dominated by cultural conservatism. This is a common mistake. TRP wants to be a patriarch with a happy wife in the kitchen. RP just wants to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:04 AM
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Sure. So - in regards to OPs argument - are you saying that maternal mortality is HIGHER in the 18-25 age range? I’m just trying to understand how this reflects on OPs claim that the fertility argument for why men prefer women in this age range is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 03:00 AM
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You’re certainly not crazy to assume that, but we’re talking about behaviors that span cultures and time periods. So no, I don’t think it’s out of bounds to assume some kind of selection mechanism there. Let’s put it another way: People who preferred mating with women in the 18-25 age range had more children and passed on more genes than those who didn’t. If we have to guess at a reason, I’d say it’s because of higher fertility rates in that cohort. OPs argument is that is a ridiculous claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:59 AM
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Right - that was MY argument. OP says he finds the argument that attraction to this age range for “fertility” reasons is nonsensical.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:56 AM
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A huge percentage of who? The women who didn’t live as long? I’m aware that life expectancies are skewed by childbirth deaths. But even among the people who survived childbirth, life was shorter, and old age was far more debilitating due to injury and disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 12:07 AM
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Ok, I get what you’re saying. You then need to explain the preference for younger women. As far as I can tell, this is pretty universal across cultures. Are you saying that attraction is NOT based on fertility cues? (Since tone is impossible online, all these questions are legitimate, not arguments in disguise)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 12:05 AM
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The question would then be, “why do they look better?” Attractiveness cues are mating cues. Mating cues are fertility cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 11:29 PM
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Really? 18 year olds? Are we forgetting that during the times our evolutionary drives were formed people didn’t live as long?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 11:27 PM
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I got a one handed head buzzer. It’s cordless, and curved so it fits the curve of the head. I hit it every 2-3 days. Not as good as a straight shave, but way faster. Never looks like I just had, or need, a hair cut - Patrick Bateman style.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/20 09:03 PM
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I’m doing goblet squats with it, yes. The bands can provide quite a bit of resistance but it requires some finesse. Also helps if you really focus on form, activating the muscle groups, going slow, etc.
/r/askMRP15/04/20 01:01 PM
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I don’t have much room, but there’s some space in the basement. I bought a 50lb kettlebell and had a 25lb. I also have one of those stretchy resistance bands. I work with an online trainer and he put together some routines with those and some body weight stuff. I miss the gym. But it’s better than nothing.
/r/askMRP14/04/20 11:05 PM
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I get what you’re saying, but I’m done judging my progress by my wife’s reaction. All I want to focus on is if I’M happy with how I’m doing. Edit: well, I’ve thought about this reply and it feels cop out-y. But validation seeking is a real problem for me. Adding this to my “mull over” list
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 09:47 PM
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Yeah...this sounds like me. It bothers me that I can’t tel genuine dislike from shit test. Which I suppose is the point. But she physically resists/pushes away from most acts of dominance in bed, even when mild, and I’m not willing to push through that. I just have more work to do - or she’ll never come around.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 07:19 PM
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They certainly CAN. There are definitely edge cases in which one trumps the other. Similarly, some men find sexual pleasure in being taken for a ride financially. Speaking categorically always creates exceptions. But if we’re trying to apply some kind of ethical rule of thumb, the above is the best I can come up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 07:17 PM
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ITT: it’s never happened to me, therefore it never happens. I’m sure this occurs. I also think men and women have, on average, different communication styles and are poor at voicing their concerns. But I doubt it deserves to be an “effect.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:26 PM
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While both suck, sex incurs greater existential risk (disease/childbirth/death) than does theft or fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 04:34 PM
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BUT WHAT COULD IT BE???!!! Curious: before your change, did you ever try dirty talk, etc? And what was her response?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 04:03 PM
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I enjoy your posts, but I’m always flabbergasted by the jump (and I get why you do it) from: “Yeah, my wife isn’t into any of that” To “So I told her, ‘don’t cum yet, you whore!’” My wife literally hates this shit, including any kind of talk. Maybe it’s because I suck - always possible. But it makes it hard for me to see the application of this kind of thing. In any case, I appreciate your posts and unique take.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 11:53 AM
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Sure. Tell me which men you’re talking about. After all, you specifically ask about “some men” who “follow all the RP tenets” for years and are “still unsuccessful.” So. Who? Who are we talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 10:27 AM
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“Gee, why are the people in this sub that is explicitly about helping sexually unsuccessful men struggling sexually? Does it mean RP doesn’t work?” “Jesus! Get a load of this cancer ward! Everybody’s sick. Does this mean hospitals give people cancer????!” By the way, absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, ESPECIALLY online, because those that grow, improve, and have success do not typically stick around and post. This post is so front-loaded with false assumptions it is literally dizzyi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 11:54 PM
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True, but I don’t put my penis inside the people at McDonald’s. ....anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 11:13 AM
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For me, it was more of an “avoid the worst case” scenario - the idea that I could be party to some form of sex slavery turned my stomach. I’ll admit I don’t know the % chance this happens. I just couldn’t handle any chance at all. My point in bringing up the “high end” was that my impression is that the lower you fo on the economic spectrum, the more likely coercion - either direct or economic - is to play a part in someone’s decision to sell their body. I have no problem with people selling sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 11:14 PM
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I have, in fact, visited sex workers and stopped once I learned more about the prevalence of sex trafficking at those places (massage parlors). It is a mistake to assume most sex workers in the United States are of the Twitter-debating-OnlyFans-having-variety. A great number of them are, in fact, trafficked, or victims of some kind of financial scheme that is trafficking in all but name. What’s more, since the argument here is “all men could do this if they really wanted,” please remember that e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:38 PM
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Your point at the end of your post: “Therefore, there is no such thing as a man who can’t get a girlfriend.” If your analogy is that money = sexual access, then yes, there are millions upon millions of such men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:27 PM
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Money must be earned. Having a working vagina is an accident of birth. I’m not weighing in on your point here, just saying your analogy is not 1:1.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 10:13 PM
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I would still get a DEXA if you can. In my experience all methods of estimating BF are pretty inaccurate. I thought I was 15%; I was actually closer to 22%.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 10:05 PM
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Err - I actually like your post, and don’t think everyone needs to be at the absolute top of their game to post. That said, either you’re completely deluded about your actual BF%, or your “after” photo is absolutely terrible. I don’t know how you’re measuring, but I’d highly recommend something like a DEXA scan. Again, purely based on the photos you posted here, there is absolutely no way you’d be “sub 8%” if you “lost a few more pounds.” That said, nice progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 07:49 PM
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In reality there’s no cut off point. Your chance of success simply increases or decreases on average as your own status changes. You can change that number again through selecting your prospective mates differently. SMV determines access to sex, sure; but it more often determines the extent to which you can pursue your own sexual strategy while trying to access sex. RP makes a big deal out of this, and I get it. But it all boils down to a simple rule of human interactions: If you have what other…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:13 PM
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You don’t need to be top 2% worldwide to have sex. You just need to be better than average for your immediate cohort. I live in the suburbs. I look better than most men near me. Relocate me to fashion week and I’d look like a sack of potatoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 01:55 PM
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I mean, I’ll admit: this has been a rough time. I’ve had to make hard, unpleasant decisions to keep my business going. I’ve been working longer hours. My workout routine was spotty until I acquired some basic equipment. It’s been an adjustment. But....did people stop...showering? And brushing their teeth? That just sounds like straight up depression.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/20 12:41 AM
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Your definition of idiot seems to be “anyone who makes a bad decision.” If you’re serious about that, I would argue that means you can extend empathy to literally no one. In which case, yes: it is a cold worldview. Doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Just isn’t how I would personally choose to live my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 11:50 PM
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If you apply this logic universally - ie, any woman getting a divorce is “abandoning her family” and therefore deserves an abusive relationship if she gets one - I’ve got no problem with it. Cold worldview, but if it’s consistent, that’s your right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 09:25 PM
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Ok, so we should all assume younger partners will take advantage of older ones? I thought it was older dudes who “manipulated” younger girls? My wife’s mother was killed by a hit and run driver whole delivering the paper. “Should’ve gotten a different job!” Every action carries risks. Some are known, some are unknown. That you equate marrying a younger woman with jaywalking into busy traffic says a lot about how you view women. I always come into these threads thinking you’re blue; I almost alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 06:46 PM
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The entire point of RP is to avoid exchanging resources for sex. So, no. Now, in the real world, are those good sexual options for some men, provided all parties are consenting adults? Of course. But this is not Red Pill. Fuck, RP doesn’t even want men to pay for the first date. Edit: so many typos
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 04:59 PM
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That’s it, but it assumes a great deal about what people can realistically know. The “fog of war” is very real. Life is a probabilistic mess; there are different ways to assess risk, even assuming informational parity (which is rare). That doesn’t even begin to address the various cognitive biases and loopholes that have fucked it human decision making since the dawn of time. Eventually, ethics settles on the abuser because they’re the only one making an active choice to do harm. And while all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 04:20 PM
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By the way, I’m being pissier than normal in my replies. I’m having a bad day, and don’t mean for that be reflected here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 03:59 PM
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Same goes for all women beaten by abusive husbands, right? If you think abusers broadcast that fact before the abuse I would argue you are mistaken. Do some people make terrible choices that put them in harms way? Yes. Does that excuse the abuser or make the abuse less wrong? No. “She shouldn’t have dressed like that!” “She shouldn’t have been walking alone!” “She should’ve called the police!” Victim blaming is gross for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 03:57 PM
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“When women hurt you, it’s YOUR fault for not picking better!” AWALT. Hobbies don’t change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/20 03:04 PM
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This is the correct answer. True honesty is rare in men and women of all ages and in all social contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 09:30 PM
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Well now, Buffets my favorite. But no, I don’t think nor Gates make the kind of impact you’re suggesting. I could be wrong, of course. But I actively dislike “Frame” as a concept. It’s completely nebulous and means nothing and everything at the same time. All the “what is frame?” Problems disappear by simply breaking out Status (how others view your place in a hierarchy) and Confidence (how you view your own place in a hierarchy). This is personal preference, of course, but discussions of frame …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 03:35 PM
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While women will fuck men for status (see above comment about Bill Gates), it doesn’t make them wet. Power / status do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 10:38 AM
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If you change “status” in your head from “is a leader!” To “could have been a leader in caveman days” status makes a bit more sense. It’s not necessarily physical strength, but “people shut the fuck up when he walks in a room.” Al Capone has status in this sense. Raw power.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 10:37 AM
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So your point is that while intervention can have a significant positive effect, outcomes are affected by chance and thus outliers may still come out ahead? I mean....yes? This is true of literally everything. Practicing at basketball everyday can make you better than everyone on average and you can still lose to a worse team. Terrible investors can beat the market by randomly picking the right stock and putting their life savings into it on a whim. All this is true. The question is not “is life…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 03:13 PM
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A few counter points: Groups/metholodogies like RP and (can’t remember the name of the female equivalent often cited on here, sorry) are prescriptive, and based off bucking trends in the SMP. Thus, it is not surprising that the majority of relationships don’t embody these ideas. Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence. We can all think exceptions - the question is, “are those exceptions following optimal strategies for whatever their goals are?” I would hazard not. RP doesn’t say “here’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/20 02:01 PM
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The “romantic” ideal is to gain worth by receiving the affection of another. See: Lancelot and Gwenivere. I would classify that as BP. If your take is “men shouldn’t put their need for validation the shoulders of either a single woman, or women in general,” then I’d say you’re right. It’s also what RP would say, on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 05:12 PM
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Nothing. Sexual coercion is disgusting. My hope is that it pushes our culture (meaning US in this context) to some kind of synthesis of “traditional masculinity” (chop wood and have muscles) and “new masculinity” (more inclusive).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 12:19 AM
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This is a ridiculous argument. What if the government outlawed abortion? I’d argue that that’s a need for some people, but it would be ridiculous to claim that making it illegal wouldn’t affect how people access those resources because “they should just do it illegally if they need it so bad.” Criminal liability, disease, risk of physical harm - you can HARDLY claim abortion rights aren’t “needed” because women wouldn’t choose to run those risks in order to get illegal abortions. Similarly, it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 02:42 PM
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Soooo.....your hypothesis is that because prostitution is legal in one state in counties with less than 400,000 people.... Men not going to prostitutes in droves in other states means sex is not a need? Food is a need. Why don’t more people steal food? Your argument presupposes men DON’T go to prostitutes. They do; When they don’t, there is a very clear reason why not. If you wanted to make this argument, why not find and cite stats about countries where prostitution is legal and say the percent…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 10:46 AM
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I’m pointing out that meth is illegal. Did you....forget that prostitution is illegal? Or do you not realize that men DO go prostitutes? The question is confusing because the entire premise is clearly invalid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 11:47 PM
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I mean... For one, in the US it is illegal in the vast majority of places. Secondly, men DO go to prostitutes. Happy ending massage parlors, strip clubs, escort services - all these do brisk trade. Do we include only fans or cam girls in here? You’re certainly paying for sexual stimulation. If you look at countries where prostitution is legalized in some form, it is relatively popular. I find this question odd. It’s like asking “if meth feels so good, why don’t people do it? Well, there’s a pena…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 06:33 PM
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To be fair, the post OP is linking to has ALOT of sources. If you want to argue he’s cherry picking - which he might be! - you can’t really say that without dealing with the evidence at hand. He DOES, for example, include male on male rapes in his data (as far as I can tell - I haven’t given it a thorough reading yet either).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 09:51 AM
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While I get what you’re trying to say, unwanted bodily arousal happens for women during sexual assault as well. People have tried to use this as a defense against rape charges (“She liked it!”), and it’s lack of connection to mental arousal is well documented.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 09:48 AM
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Is there? I’d argue (lol) that arguing over concepts is the PRIMARY way you learn. No one rote memorized themselves into long lasting behavior change. You NEED to engage with the ideas in order to internalize them...and the more radical the departure from your existing mental models, the more difficult the process. What you see in TRP is not “Chad.” It’s a lonely dude, choking down the news that the world isn’t what he thought it was. That’s an unpredictable and unattractive process at best. Wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:22 PM
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I mean...they’re in a forum for people trying to “become RP.” If every man was fully red pilled, there wouldn’t be a forum. There’s no forums for “the sun will rise tomorrow.” I mean, sure - if you don’t know your shit, you shouldn’t talk like you do. But it’s the internet. I’d be shocked if it were otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:04 PM
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I believe RP prescribes IAMTP as an antidote to the kind of thinking you describe. If the average red piller had it, they wouldn’t need the advice. TRP is a forum for people with problems, trying to better their lives. It would nonsensical to expect that population to already embody their own ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 04:17 PM
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So? You’re the one saying women’s brains have evolved to make them more deceitful, not me. The Venn diagram is pretty much all overlap so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 04:10 PM
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Of course. However - if you go this route - you’re red pilled. Men and women have “different brains” for “evolutionary reasons” that “affect their behavior in the SMP” I agree, but change your flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 11:20 AM
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This is because RP became coopted by conservatism. “Act manly because it triggers sexual desire in most women” became “Act like a patriarch, YOUNG KING!” and now that shit is fucking boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 03:04 PM
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Ahh, I see. I may be overly sensitive, being as I’m married to an Asian woman (American born) but there’s a lot of suspicion and negative feelings towards SE Asian looking people in the US right now. I appreciate the clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 12:43 PM
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You are conflating “Red Pill” the philosophy/idea/whatever the fuck you want to call it with “TRP” the forum. You can be “red pilled” in the sense of buying into its world view and be extremely sexually successful...or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 11:09 PM
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Eh - I honestly don’t see how that has anything to do with what we’re discussing. Bragging about “almost” doing something is pretty lame. And the term “FOB” is pretty distasteful. So. You know. Killer post I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 11:04 PM
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I suppose there is “looksmaxxing” along gendered lines. Women “maximize” their physical appearance through makeup, hygiene, hair, skin tone - female fertility cues. Men “maximize” their looks by lifting and....making money? Not really sure where the gender lines start and stop exactly... But it seems clear that there’s a line designated “FOR GIRLS” and men are not supposed to cross it. Unfortunate, but reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 07:14 PM
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I was going to post something similar. Note that men who DO looksmaxx at a level similar to that of women are shamed as “metrosexual.” Not sure if it’s men, or women, or both, that enforce this gender norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 07:00 PM
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Not agreeing or disagreeing with you, but OP directly addresses this by pointing to the study he cites as claiming “men who achieve polygyny are not phenotypically superior”... So if you want to make this point you’ll have to address that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 06:59 PM
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I believe - and correct me if I’m wrong - that those studies measure genital arousal. Note that women’s subjective EXPERIENCE of arousal is often NOT correlated with genital arousal. Many women are unaware of genital arousal when it happens, and the spectrum of arousal states in women is far more subtly graded than that of men. Basically, men ALWAYS know when they’re aroused due to unambiguous physical cues, and thus closely associate physical arousal with “feeing aroused.” Women don’t experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 06:32 PM
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I think there’s something to “the wall.” If women are valued (rightly or wrongly) primarily on looks, then their peak SMV happens younger. If men are valued (rightly or wrongly) on a combination of looks and status, then they peak slightly older. The “wall” then is simply the point at which the sexual dynamic flips; the woman is no longer at their prime, and the mean she most desires ARE, so theoretically she experiences more difficulty in locking down her most desired mates sexual commitment. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 02:21 PM
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Why is it degrading? Assuming they ask for it, nothing is inherently degrading. That’s a moral judgement, and all moral judgements are subjective and cultural.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:57 PM
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Very well said and accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 01:52 PM
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Every single time you post, you betray your complete lack of reading comprehension. Just blocking you now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 02:47 AM
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“Back yourself up with cites” Jesus. You didn’t read what I wrote. And you’re too busy being dramatic to actually engage with my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 02:35 AM
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Wow. I can definitely tell you have never actually tried speed dating. Not sure about the bar, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 02:28 AM
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I was trying to put my finger on what bothered me about this post in general. I finally remembered this article: https://simplystatistics.org/2016/08/24/replication-crisis/ This gets to what I find so exhausting about PPD posts that turn into citation wars. I can, actually, hunt down papers that back up some basic RP beliefs. I won’t bother, though, because it’s been done before in this sub, and I don’t even find THOSE particularly persuasive. Same goes for yours. Nearly every study on intersexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:16 AM
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You literally think SPEED DATING is equivalent to any kind of real world interaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:05 AM
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Are you....saying men don’t have casual sex? Is your conclusion thus: “some of TRP is probably true, and some of it probably isn’t?” That’s what this whole sub is about. If you want to make an argument about these points, they’d reserve separate posts. Just my opinion - because everyone in this thread can play “post the study,” and has. Take that as you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 11:14 PM
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I...don’t understand this post. You claim TRP says attraction is based on physical attractiveness, status, and game. You then post a bunch of stuff that says appearance is important...and then some non-sequitrs about immunocompetence and the good gene theory? This post would be more effective (and frankly, more comprehensible) if you limit yourself to a single issue and build a better case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 09:11 PM
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You are confusing “women are attracted to men within a narrowly defined category of certain physical traits” and “women are ONLY attracted to men within a narrowly defined category of certain physical traits”, which is the black pill perspective. It is not widely accepted or parroted that ONLY looks matter. This is the black pill position. As for Red Pill - the “lie” I most often see complained about there is not “women like attractive dudes,” but rather “women say they DON’T like abusive asshol…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 01:30 PM
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Leadership is for HIM. Not for her. Owning your shit is for YOU. Not for her. Owning your shit, captaining, being a “leader” and a “patriarch” - None of this is a guarantee your wife will not manipulate you, be irrational, be emotional, etc. Is he a fuck up? Of course. But you can’t look to his wife and say “IF YOU DID IT RIGHT THIS WOULDN’T BE HAPPENING.” That’s just the dancing monkey. Hoping mommy will play nice if you do your homework.
/r/askMRP06/03/20 07:15 PM
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Wow. Who got manipulated by OPs wife more - you or him?
/r/askMRP06/03/20 06:25 PM
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If you’re addressing black pill here, their problem is not being told that looks matter - it’s that they believe looks are ALL that matter, which is certainly not the mainstream narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 09:43 PM
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This is a fundamental misapplication of what the pills are about. You’re looking at modern dating woes and saying the issue is loneliness, separation, disconnection... But the problem there is NOT systems, or dating, or gender dynamics. The problem is and always has been attachment and the suffering that ensues. No “pill” will solve that problem. Pills are here to help people fuck better and more often. They’re not designed to make the world a better place - they’re designed to get genitals to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 10:01 PM
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OH MY GOD FUCKING HELL FUUUUUCK that shit is impossible to read. Two quick points, Hear me out: You know how when you eat yogurt, it’s great, but if you’re sitting next to someone who’s eating yogurt it smells disgusting? This is what reading someone else’s break up texts is like. This isn’t a “nuclear shit test,” she’s fucking breaking up with you. You’re not married, so who the fuck cares? Tell her “OK” and go live your awesome life and have sex with your other girlfriends. ......you DO have o…
/r/askMRP02/03/20 11:46 AM
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What she needs is to develop her own resourcefulness. You’d ant ever do that for her, and helping hurts her chances. Stay neutral. Live your life and lead your kids by example. The end.
/r/askMRP29/02/20 09:40 PM
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You seriously think that the ability of a 36 yo woman and a 26 yo woman to get sex from the most highly desired men are equivalent?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 09:59 PM
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Let’s think about it this way: Take the average man and average woman at age 25. Put them both in a line up and have them pick their ideal mate from a line up. The 25 year old woman will generally pick someone her age or older. The 25 year old man will generally pick someone his own age. Let’s now fast forward these same two people 20 years. Same situation. The woman will generally pick someone her age or older. The man will generally pick a woman who’s 25. We see this again and again in the dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 08:49 PM
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But did your wife PEAK at 32? Remember, we are not talking about your wife - we are talking about women on average. In terms of rates: the man in this instance can continue to INCREASE SMV past this point. If physical looks are your primary vector of attraction - which for women interested in men, they are - increase at this point ON AVERAGE is unlikely. Stating, as you did in your OP, that men and women “age similarly,” this invalidating the entire concept of a “wall,” is simply inaccurate. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 08:28 PM
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You said in your OP that men and women have a similar decline in SMV. I would argue this is clearly not the case. You can argue the timeline, sure. Maybe you don’t like RTs metaphor - I don’t either. But the phenomenon is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 05:24 PM
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We are told over and over that women are less visual than men in mate selection. If men’s mate evaluation is primarily physical... And women’s encompasses more elements like status, income, leadership, etc... Then it makes perfect sense that men’s SMV peaks later, while women’s peak earlier. Desirable characteristics in men are less innate and more inclined to develop over time; women’s are more innate and more inclined to decline over time. Is this ALWAYS the case? No. Are looks not important a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 05:08 PM
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I’m not sure I buy at all that a “slut” and a beta make are equivalent. It’s more like a “slut” and a Chad are equivalent...it’s only society that treats them differently. Both are defined by high amounts of sexual access.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 01:33 PM
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More female friends = you know more women = you have more sexual opportunities. I’m not sure there’s anything at work here than pure statistics; meaning I’m not sure this advice differs in any serious way from “go out and approach as many women as possible.” Not bad advice at all, just that for the men for whom it would have the biggest impact, “know more women” is often very difficult to act on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 09:21 PM
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I want you to stop for a moment. Take a deep breath, and completely emotionally disengage form what I am going to say. You are DEERing. You are defensive. Passive aggressive. This dude is calling you out. And he is right. “How can you help?” Is the wrong question. He can’t help you. Only YOU can help you. But you can’t even do that, because you’re too busy hysterically defending yourself on the internet. You even try to protect your ego in advance in your original post. “It may not be much in th…
/r/askMRP21/02/20 09:24 PM
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There is ALWAYS a lower desire partner in every relationship. It is not always the woman. It is the HEIGHT of hypocrisy to demand that the higher drive partner match your desire level in a committed relationship. You asked - no, insisted, in most cases - that this person give up sex with all other people in exchange for your commitment. You better fucking buck up and make sure they’re happy in that case. This goes for men and women alike. Let them look elsewhere, meet their needs, or end the rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 06:57 PM
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I find these back and forths on slang terminology really interesting and appreciate your take. Perhaps the bigger impact for this sub: we are all using terminology we assume is universal but in fact mean wildly different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 06:15 PM
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I don’t agree with the thrust of this article, but hey - congrats on getting published in the Atlantic! That’s awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 11:32 AM
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I think people forget this sub has a pretty good set of definitions in the sub info.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 01:39 PM
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I don’t have much to add, but if you’re interested in a nuanced look at the evidence surrounding testosterone, this book is great: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20668.The_Trouble_with_Testosterone_and_Other_Essays_on_the_Biology_of_the_Human_Predicament Not all about T, but the author is excellent.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 01:27 PM
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Oh, believe me, I’m fully aware. I’m just saying the story tracks, hence it’s emotional appeal. Part of my personal maturation process has been understanding the systemic issues that contribute to the drop in female desire in marriage - not to mention fully internalizing my own part in that dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 08:04 PM
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Ah yes - I can remember as an impressionable TRP youth, staying up all night reading guide after guide on how to improve my horizontal punching power. Every time I would post for advice, ECs would ask me “do you even punch, bro?” I’d try to get tips on meeting girls and be greeted again and again with “dude, don’t worry about girls, just get a heavy bag.” Sooner or later, the advice sank in. I spent every last dollar I had at the local punchnasium. At first, I was embarrassed - my total lack of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 02:21 PM
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This is a good comment. I would point out a few potential counters for discussion: Observations about women having much more casual sex in their 20s is often based on experience - after all, those women have partners, and men are 1/2 of hookup culture. Even if women want sex half as much as men - or 1/3 - if she ever acts on that desire, she will end up having significantly more sexual partners than the average man, simply due to ease of access. I think you’re missing an element of the “carousel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 12:10 PM
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God DAMN it now I’m crying in a Starbucks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 03:04 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 10:55 AM
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I’m not sure how to answer this question, but I think it’s important to note a few trends: the differences in sexual mores between generations (millennials, for example, all grew up with readily available porn, and this seems to have skewed tastes towards what was formerly “exotic”) the differences between popular internet culture and reality. As a specific example, EVERYONE eats ass on the internet. While I don’t have specific data, I’d wager this is much less common in practice. Appearance =/=…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 11:29 PM
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Jesus Christ. Do you seriously think and write like this? First of all, nearly everything you say about me is some kind of wild ass supposition based on NOTHING. There are so many straw man arguments in everything you post that it is dizzying. At this point I literally can’t tell if you are just dull or if you’re arguing in bad faith. Secondly, I didn’t say you had to read her research - only that you shouldn’t dismiss it if you haven’t. You don’t even know what’s IN IT - and you’re already dism…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 08:04 PM
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Err...she’s an academic studying human sexuality full time. You know, in a lab. Publishing in peer reviewed journals. If it’s not your thing, cool. But if you can’t be bothered to read it, don’t try to make that ignorance a virtue. “I never allow myself to hold an opinion on anything that I don't know the other side's argument better than they do” - Charlie Munger
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 06:16 PM
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You are....wildly missing the point. The idea is not that women think they are OBJECTIVELY the MOST attractive woman in the WORLD. Nor did I say anything even remotely approaching that. And yes, I understand the dictionary definition of narcissism, which is why I went to lengths to explain my usage of that word in the post. The feminine erotic dynamic hinges on being desired; the masculine, on desiring. If you’re interested in learning more on this POV, I highly suggest checking out the research…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 02:17 AM
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“Narc chart” is a legitimately amazing neologism that I will try my hardest to use
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 01:20 AM
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I think you are mistaking the meaning of narcissism in this context. It isn’t about selfishness, but about being desired. Here’s a quote I found in my notes that sums it up well: “To be desired was at the heart of women’s desiring. Narcissism, she stressed—and she used the word not in damning judgment but in plain description—was at the core of women’s sexual psyches. The females in the audience gazed, erotically excited, at the women on stage, imagining that their own bodies were as searingly w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 01:19 AM
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I think the difference here is the sexual relationship. Could be the interaction between the two drives.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 10:50 PM
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I will throw out a different angle - admittedly not super well thought out, but maybe can add to discussion. Women’s sexual desire is largely narcissistic. (This isn’t my phrase, but damned if I can recall where I got it l) Typically this manifests as the desire to be the center of attention/the object of ravishment - this is the underlying thread behind the “rape” porn/fantasy stuff we see mentioned here a lot. In this case, it manifests as “I am so powerful that my love can heal the broken.” T…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 07:49 PM
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Sexually available and doesn’t talk! Classic RP fantasy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 07:19 PM
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I consider myself relatively “red pilled” and I would NOT listen to old dudes for relationship advice. For one, most people have not thoroughly examined their own beliefs or engaged in any serious introspection. As such, most advice is terrible, and amounts to “here’s a few anecdotes from my own life” without any consideration to statistical base rates, other people’s experiences, etc. Secondly, both genders give the opposite gender terrible advice in general. We all tend to project the love WE …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 09:00 PM
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“The fault lies not with the con, but with the rube.” “It’s not my fault officer - if they were dumb enough to fall for it, that’s on them.” I actually agree with your main point - women are not the master manipulators that TRP paints them to be, merely more socially adept. But the ethics here are pretty dubious. If the above IS your worldview, then that’s fine; but my gut tells me that there will be situations in which you find the application of this principle uncomfortable. I certainly would.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:38 PM
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I get your point and I think we’re pretty close. But I would still probably think that our evolutionary past is more present than you’re assuming. The world is VASTLY safer than it was - but children are still afraid of the dark. Our decisions largely rest, not on a conscious risk/benefit analysis rooted in the present day, but in the behaviors and habits that helped our ancestors survive. Death in child birth doesn’t need to be a major risk factor now to still subconsciously influence our matin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 12:55 AM
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Sure! That’s the point. We have the hormonal balances we have because those traits encourage behaviors that were adaptive. Hormones are only important insofar as they influence behavior, evolutionarily speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 11:04 PM
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You’re mistaking hindbrain activity with conscious thought. No one consciously considers the risks and rewards that have been hard coded into our behaviors by biology and evolution; those things simply ARE, an inherent part of all our decisions making processes. I’m not saying that women think “jeez, I might die” right before they fuck a dude. I’m saying that the differences in sexual behavior, mate selection, and risk aversion that are clearly visible between men and women have deep evolutionar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 10:44 PM
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I don’t understand how you’re using the term “patriarchy.” Are you referring to a specific post, or something? This is a legitimate question, because in no context I can think of does “patriarchy” have anything to do with assigning people spouses. Are you referring to medieval Europe, or....? I just don’t understand the context of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 05:56 PM
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Gotta keep your chest up. If you can’t, lower the weight.
/r/askMRP31/01/20 11:46 PM
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Oh, I’ve never been to Russia. Blame my own ethno-centrism - i by default assume everyone on here is from America. Have to remember that’s not the case at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 05:45 PM
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Hindbrain operates MUCH faster, and more powerfully in terms of behavior change, than the forebrain. It’s true, with lots of practice you can control the fight/flight response - aversion therapy can help, for example. Same reason most diets fail. As to the “thug” comment - ask any random group of women you happen to be around how many have felt threat of mortal danger in the last month. The vast majority have. I’m not saying that’s an accurate risk assessment - just that women are highly attuned…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:27 PM
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Very true. So what does that tell you about the place of sex in each genders hierarchy of needs? I’m not saying it’s good or bad. It simply is - men do more and risk more to get sex, because the cost/benefit analysis going on subconsciously comes out in favor of that behavior. Not so for women, and with good reason (historically, anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:24 PM
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Murder by angry dude doesn’t need to currently be a realistic threat to still trigger hind brain fight/flight response. See: women crossing the street when seeing men come the other way, etc. As for the risk of breaking bones - you’re right! Hindbrain weighs that against getting eaten by the tiger it is CONVINCED is down there and comes out on the side of sprinting up the stairs. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:22 PM
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True, but the accusations thing is far too new to be deeply encoded in the hindbrain, as would be the knowledge of how disease spreads. There are many reasons why women put up resistance to sex and men don’t, and very few of these are fully conscious. Hence the difference in levels of casual sex in the gay and heterosexual SMPs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:20 PM
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Ahhhh. Cool, interesting wrinkle!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 02:30 PM
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Death in child birth, murder by angry dude, etc. We’re all wired to be anxious about situations that traditionally led to increased mortality. That’s why I still run up the stairs two at a time after I turn off the basement lights!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 02:30 PM
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Not to mention the potential downsides to sex for women - up to and including death.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 01:18 PM
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Isn’t self control and discipline a way of sublimating/controlling sexual desire? I’ve got no horse in this race, it just seems that you’re making OPs point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 01:16 PM
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OK - coopted by whom? I guess I’m wondering what the “new” definition is - and whether the one I mentioned above is the “new” or “old” one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 05:21 PM
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I thought the Madonna - Whore complex was “I don’t want to fuck my wife anymore, because I pedestalize her as the mother of my children and can’t imagine her as a sexual being”?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 02:55 PM
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She cheated. Or she wants to. You’re scared because you’ve been hamstering your “SMV”. Time to prove it, bro.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 02:52 PM
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I found that response really moving. Hit me in the damn feels. To have that kind of acceptance and understanding of past hurts is a goal of mine. Not there 100% yet though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 01:15 AM
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What was the understanding you came to, about the cheating? That seems like an incredibly enlightened view.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 01:55 PM
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Ahh, I get what you’re saying. Think of it as a college style debate. There are set rules that determine the format (ie you rah a post as “challenge my view” and all responses must do that, or as “question for RP”, etc). People flair as their basic stance (I’m tagged as “red pill man”, others will be flavored as “blue pill” or “purplish red woman” or whatever they feel best sums up their worldview) and engage in debate. Everyone in there enjoys talking “inter gender dynamics”, and everyone has s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:08 PM
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I AM a self improvement nerd, for sure. I’ve been down the NLP rabbit hole. Speaking from experience. PPD is essentially a board to debate BP/RP/Incel/MGTOW shit. It’s a fun and surprisingly respectful place to go if you enjoy that kind of thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/20 01:42 PM
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Still does huge bank. Still horse shit. Religion for self improvement nerds
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 08:11 PM
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Everyone else is having fun shitting on this post, so let me make a separate point: NLP is complete horse shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 01:24 AM
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One of my all time favorite comments on this sub. I read the original post and skipped to the comments without checking out the cited source. A basic error I certainly know better than to commit. Thanks for the great comment!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:06 PM
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Holy shit. What a write up. I love this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:55 PM
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Oh my god dude. I have been chuckling about this comment for like five full minutes. I am crying
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/20 12:41 PM
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This forum is a massive good in the pillosphere in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 07:03 PM
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I didn’t change the definition of anything. Alpha behaviors are behaviors attractive to women. RP believes that those behaviors are such as those quoted. If you want me to cite my sources, Rollo defines alpha this way. Rian stone defines alpha this way. Pretty sure Athol Kay does, but I don’t have that 100% in my mind. This is why people go on and on about RP being a “praxeology.” No one cares what the traits are, as long as they enable men to have more sex. And yes, RP concludes that provision …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:22 AM
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You’re rebutting your own point. Well, I take that back. How do you define porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:22 PM
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You are looking at RPs answer to the question, “what is attractive to women?” They call that answer “being alpha.” But there is no “being alpha” without “being attractive to women.” This is the ENTIRE point of the RP sub. Look - I’m not saying it’s not confusing. I personally think “alpha” is a terrible and misleading choice of terminology, but it’s what that community went with. I’m not sure what you’re implying - are you saying that people on RP simply want to be socially dominant, and arguing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:10 PM
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Porn is porn. Men don’t read romance novels specifically because they are NOT porn. There’s even literary porn. Romance novels ain’t even that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:04 PM
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I’m not trying to switch any definitions. I’m simply telling you what I understand the RP to have defined “alpha” as. You seem to think that RP came up with a list of traits that they “liked” and then tried to argue they are attractive to women. (I could be wrong - with no contentiousness at all, I’m having trouble understanding your post, so please let me know below if I’m mischaracterizing your argument). That isn’t the case. RP just tries to figure out what women are attracted to by comparing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:18 PM
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Romance being the operative word. As I said, provision is great for LTRs. How horny is the Hallmark channel?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 07:13 PM
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Alpha = creates sexual desire in women. Stable resource provision is not what does this. There is no porn about being provided for. Your paycheck doesn’t make anyone wet. Schlubby dudes in LTRs who pay the bills don’t get fucked more often than anyone else. Thus, alpha =/= being a provider. Is it good for landing an LTR? Sure, probably. Also not the same thing as Alpha. You are confusing your sense of virtue with what is sexually successful. This is a common misunderstanding stemming from the my…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 04:07 PM
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The book “Orientalism” is a wonderful academic look at the long tradition of eastern fetishization in the west.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 12:26 PM
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Honestly that’s exactly what I’d expect, given what we know about women’s average sexual drive in LTRs (gentle decline) vs men’s (much slower decline). Also because it’s purge week: THATS ALSO BECAUSE MEN KNOW HOW TO WORK HARD AND WOMEN DONT
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 12:49 PM
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Ahhh right. Based on everyone else’s comments, it was just me and my poor reading comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:25 PM
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Curious what jumps out at you as bad from Esther. I’ve liked her stuff but haven’t read a ton of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:20 AM
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I have read that the female sex drive can diminish quite sharply if it’s been a while since you had sex. Maybe it’s a case of needing to “kick start” it? Easier said than done of course. It seems like this bothers you, so sorry you’re going through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:04 PM
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LI quote, husband on tour. Happy sad music people make me happy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 11:03 PM
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I’m far more purple than I started. I would also say the dialogue has drifted towards purple overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 01:32 AM
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AWALT is good branding but terrible for arguments like these, which work to disprove the “all.” It should really be “Most,” but that’s not meme-y enough. If life is a bell curve - which is what AWALT is about - that would actually PREDICT communities like these.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 05:41 PM
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If you’re asking what the average TRPer would say, that would be: “High N count in men shows pre-selection which is attractive to women. In women, high N-count shows lack of discretion, which is unattractive to men.” The idea being that sex is hard to get for men, so getting a lot of it displays value... While sex is easy to get for women, and so displays poor decision making. TRP has a real Madonna-Whore problem that they haven’t gotten to the bottom of.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 05:36 PM
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Nitpick: it’s “bucks,” as in dollars, not “buck” as in deer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:46 PM
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I know, right? Who would want to talk about RP on checks subreddit Purple Pill Debate? This, plus you thinking I somehow made philosophical skepticism up, plus your complete lack of a single coherent argument other than “lol,” has made me finally realize I’ve been engaging in good faith with a troll. More evidence that I’m not that smart!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:13 PM
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First of all, this forum literally exists to debate the pills. You get flaired by the mods depending on where you lean, to help others debate you. Please take the time to learn the bare minimum about the forum you are posting on. Secondly, epistemological skepticism is hardly something I made up, and has a long and storied academic backlog I HIGHLY suggest you read. Or google. Thirdly, it is literally observable that obesity doesn’t help in mating. You and I BOTH know your example is ridiculous …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:47 AM
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I find it fascinating that you consistently make it personal in your comments. First all the passive aggressive “sweeties,” then the insistence on mentioning your school class ranking, now the “lols” and the man-baiting. I’ve been nothing but polite - but you seem incapable of having a polite debate. So weird, considering your elite school class status... Men seek status largely because status helps in mating, subconsciously or not. “People don’t think like that.” Fascinating. Tell me - what’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 10:19 PM
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Interesting. I would argue it’s the ONLY way the human mind works. I don’t really think we have the slightest idea why we do anything. But I do think that, on average, the mating cues of our desired sex shape our behaviors in a major way. Some of us seek to mold ourselves to the ideal; some seek to reject the ideal. Both are influenced by the ideal. Again, on average. Individual variation is always a thing, and no ones really “average” - but selection pressure is a force that’s hard to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 08:45 PM
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I edited my response to you. The original was, in fact, unclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:02 PM
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I didn’t say that women don’t care about status. I said they don’t care about status because it’s an attraction cue. This is literally the same exact thing YOU said. Edit: although, on re-reading my comment, I see that this was unclear. I was talking about seeking status as a mating strategy, but that didn’t come across well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:49 PM
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Don’t be that guy Don’t be that guy Don’t be that guy Don’t be that - “It’s tracts.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:57 PM
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It makes total sense. Men want to feel attractive, and much of female attraction is rooted in status cues. But if your status is rooted in something obscure or arcane, it’s largely wasted. Find a woman who understands the hierarchy, and finally get to reap the benefits of your hard work! Hence the tryhard horseshit. If you’re higher in the hierarchy, their attractiveness (and ego) takes a hit. Note on your comment on women’s egos - female attraction is EXTREMELY ego driven, just not hierarchical…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 07:55 PM
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So if a dude: Super tough in “normal” life and Fucks a lot, but Enjoys being dominated in bed... He isn’t “alpha”? Who’s the one spreading his seed around here? Who’s the one being sexually selected? WTF does alpha even mean at this point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:36 AM
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Yeah? I mean, I halfway agree with you, but how could you possibly know this? You fuck a lot of dudes? In my experience men do not share this information with other men in anything even remotely resembling an honest fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 01:33 AM
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Yes, of course; if attraction is not the issue, MRP largely wont help. And all the therapy in the world working on someone’s “resentment” wont help a bit if you are an unfuckable man-child. You can presuppose any number of factors (“she has post partum depression! She’s raising five kids!”) and claim that MRP wont help in that case, but I don’t see how that helps you judge MRPs efficacy in general. We all bring our personal experiences to these things; I do, and I assume you’re doing the same he…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:22 AM
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You are missing the point of MRP. MRP is not general population marriage therapy. It is aimed at a population of married men who aren’t having SEX. Attraction ISNT the end all be all of relationship issues...but it sure fucking plays a role in dead bedrooms, which is what MRP is trying to fix. (By the way, all of this languaging about what MRP “says” is misleading, because MRP is a peer group of men trying things out and sharing notes, not a top down philosophical system. It’s ridiculous to expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:44 PM
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You’re thinking about this entirely the wrong way. If women’s sexual desire is hypergamous, it is literally NEVER fulfilled. They constantly need to seek the better thing. Anyway, “which sex has it easier” is a sucker’s question. The real question to ask is: is ANYONE ever satisfied? Spoiler alert: no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 08:31 PM
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Whether you TRY to have more power than someone else is irrelevant...Someone always has more power. This is universal in every human relationship. It is neither positive nor negative, it is simply is. I think you’re mistaking my pointing this out for my saying that the PURPOSE of relationships is to get the upper hand. This is not the case - whether you insist on being the “more powerful” partner is purely a matter of personal choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 12:46 AM
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The moment you say someone HAS the power to do something, but SHOULDN’T use that power, you are claiming they owe you something. No one owes you shit. If you have no other options for sex, or aren’t willing to exercise those options, that’s on YOU, not them. Luckily, there’s a pill for that...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:55 PM
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This is one of the reasons he’s my favorite poster on this sub.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 08:29 PM
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Look - you can take the feedback or ignore it. Your responses here and elsewhere in this thread tell me you’ll choose to ignore it. Insecure people typically do. But I am TELLING you: You are incoherent. You can neither form a coherent argument nor express your ideas in a way other people can understand. Address it or don’t; I don’t give a shit. But if your goal is to affect the world with your words, you need SERIOUS work. And sick lifts brah. Sure proved me wrong there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:37 PM
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You’re a disguising laziness as virtue. Literally no one can follow what you are saying. The fact that you’d rather post streams of diarrhea rather than edit yourself means you don’t give a shit about actually communicating with other human beings. Try harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 08:08 PM
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Don’t you know that swallowing TRP is just about replacing one hand-fed societal narrative with another one? But this time, MOM CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO ANYMORE!???!!
/r/TheRedPill25/11/19 11:20 PM
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I'm happy to answer, but a deep dive into my personal story doesn't feel like it serves the topic at hand. Specifically, for me: I was told by multiple marriage therapists, after a 2-year dead bedroom, that: I should stop initiating sex, since it gave my wife anxiety; That I should wait for her to initiate, and that this would improve our sex life; That the core issue was that we were not communicating well enough; That my wife was stressed about housework, and that if I did more around the hous…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 01:21 PM
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I wasn’t referring to my specific history in this post. I was just typing out a personal life summary but it’s so off topic for this post that I deleted it. Happy to dig in privately; my post history on MRP is open as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:44 PM
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Literally no one thinks this, so I’m not sure who you’re talking to. Hell, 80% of the RP boards are just people telling kids they haven’t “done the work” and to “lift.” This post seems like it was mostly written to make you feel good about yourself. If you want to speak to the RP community, the least you could do is acquaint yourself with what goes on there. Lord knows there’s plenty to criticize.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 09:58 PM
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You’re getting close, but... The thing you completely miss is that the anger phase comes about specifically because it is WOMEN who reinforce the “blue pill” view of the world that the “red pill” claims to refute. No one is angry that things are the way they are. They are angry because they have been deliberately misled, then taken advantage of when they fell for it. To use your metaphor: there’s a sign outside the restaurant that promises stellar service, and he’s paying extra to receive that s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 09:13 PM
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I’m still figuring out what I think of the various pills. This is a good place to get exposed to widely differing opinions - a vastly underrated thing nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 06:01 PM
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One of the PRIMARY characteristics of Pill-world is the inability to understand the humor of other groups. RP/BP/uncles/MGTOW/feminists/EVERYONE. The amount of OBVIOUSLY humorous shit I see posted as “evidence” of someone’s worldview is completely disheartening.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 02:32 PM
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How do YOU want to handle it?
/r/askMRP18/11/19 02:25 PM
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Only once or twice. Not sure if that’s due to the scraper or my tongue. The one I use is Dr Tungs brand. I find it scraped off a huge amount more than plastic scrapers. YMMV of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:29 AM
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I started every comment here with: F A C E S I T T I N G
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:28 AM
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I think there are pretty clearly cultural shifts in preferred body types. “Sexy” women during the civil war period tended to have the classical “pear” shape we associate with renaissance painting. There was a shift in the 20s with “flapper chic” and the emergence of the rail thin “model type” we often see on catwalks today. Generally we seem to be in the middle of a shift towards more curvy bodies in general. Whether it means anything, or whether it’s purely the product of cultural “noise”, is d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:35 PM
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Fascinating. If you’ve ever done a write up of your experiences, or would like to share here someday, I think it’d add something interesting to the mix. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:30 PM
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Assuming this is true - which I personally don’t - Wouldn’t this be far better explained by the fact that men generally can still procreate at older ages, while women’s ability to give birth gradually declines? If sex preferences are really a combination of personal experience/noise and the desire to procreate, it makes all the sense in the world that men would remain attracted to those with the greatest ability to procreate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:27 PM
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I don’t. This is something I want to improve upon. Moisturizer, some kind of better skin care routine in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 08:20 PM
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I don’t have the worlds driest face, but....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 05:16 PM
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My hair is pretty thin, and I made the decision to start shaving it last year and have never looked back. Barber gives me a great head shave, but where I live it’s 40$ a pop and just not worth it in terms of impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 05:15 PM
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Lifting 4x a week, cardio 4x a week (low intensity). Quarterly DXA scans to track muscle and body fat. Weigh and track all food/macros. Hired a trainer. I buzz my hair every few days. Same with trimming the beard and buzzing my neck. Started wearing some cologne every day. Tailored a bunch of my shirts. Stainless steel tongue scraper twice a day - truly a life changing thing. The only product I’ve ever left an amazon review for. Things I do a terrible job on I should improve: Skin care (not as b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 01:52 AM
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The difference between our two comments, both of which claim the other doesn’t read, is that I can PROVE you don’t read by pointing at your post. Were you too busy “slut shaming” your “life partners” to go to the library every once in a while? Every comment of yours is full-on horrific cringe. Just stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 05:35 PM
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“Socialist” LOLLLLLLLL Oh my god. You people are truly caricatures. The absolute worst part of all this is that you actually think you’re smart. You think what you do counts as “deep thinking.” Good lord, the sheer hubris. It’s like the Dunning-Kruger effect came to life. Have fun cleaning your room, buck-o. Just another graduate from YouTube university without a single original thought in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 05:25 PM
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“Cultural Marxism” “Ideological classes” LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLL Jesus Chriiiist
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 04:42 PM
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“The woman is an individual” Yes, bro. And the sun rises in the east, even though every individual sun rise is its own magical thing. The existence of either end of a bell curve does not invalidate the objective reality that most people are in the middle of the bell curve. It most CERTAINLY does not invalidate the fact that bell curves exist. Not to mention that absolutely none of this qualifies as even the most basic reading of Marxism. Even if you DID want to make the intellectual contortions …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 11:11 AM
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Admittedly, I lobbed this out there without worrying if it made much sense. “Lobster” being a derogatory term for fans of Jordan Peterson, who famously pointed to lobsters as an example of a species with natural hierarchies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 11:34 PM
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Yup, nothing like those awesome Marxist cults. What a horse shit post. Lobster much?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 10:00 PM
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Great guide! I think for many, the sex act itself is less important than “what it means...” And for those, seeing the work involved to make this pleasurable for both parties will be a turn off.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/19 08:42 PM
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This is an interesting point. Two core takeaways: college students still suffer from lower frontal lobe involvement. Risk management is the defining characteristic of adulthood. RP assumes what is pre-rational is “more real.” It isn’t, but that belief makes sense in the context of adult relationships, which are more complicated, more difficult, and often less sexual. (In marriage, in any case)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 04:56 PM
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The only thing they have in common is what they reject. Logical, then, that the topic of discussion would be that commonality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 06:57 PM
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How about: “You are descended from ancient warrior races, and deserve a place of power - whereas other races are more inclined to crime and degeneracy?” You don’t know me, but I’m not a fucking idiot. I know racism when I see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:07 PM
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I replied a bit further down the thread, if you care to check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 11:33 AM
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There are mods in that group with very specific, overt, and well thought out racialized views of the world - people who explicitly view their work in RO as a way of propagating that belief. RP as a sub IS racially diverse, And most of the content there is not racially explicit. But the philosophical underpinnings are all about genetic destiny. Blacks are this way because genes, whites are this way because genes, etc. This is not a criticism of RP as an idea. But my personal conversations with pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 11:32 AM
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Eh - I have yet to see overt racism in MRP. Of course, Reddit is legion and anything in society will eventually find its way here. But TRP has a deep vein of racialized thought that I found profoundly disturbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 10:38 PM
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This is an excellent take. Observations on the sexual marketplace are profoundly useful. When it comes to understanding others’ lives reality, projection of personal anxieties and a lack of empathy leads RP astray more times than not. This is one of the reasons MRP is more useful. Focus on a single woman with a home you share experience leads to a deeper and more nuanced understanding of their inner life. Sometimes, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 08:39 PM
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Personally, I achieve a lot in business because of personal drive and ambition. Wanting to get laid (specifically, a dead bedroom marriage) was the only thing that got me to pursue fitness. Sample size of one, of course. But I personally need strong motivators to get after shit I don’t enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 07:37 PM
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Yeah, the biggest noticeable difference for me has been focus. I’m a machine at work - and I only realized how much time I was losing to brain fog in contrast. Very curious to see how sleep shakes out. It’s also a historically stressful time of year, so I’m trying to be careful not to attribute everything just the T. Have not noticed much in the gym yet, but I’m giving that time, and it wasn’t the primary reason for it anyway. Just a bonus. Congrats on getting on TRT and improving your quality o…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 05:18 PM
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That’s interesting, especially since people always say that improved sleep can be a side effect of higher T. How far are you in now, and what’s been the overall trend?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 02:41 PM
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Nah, we started into dead bedroom territory after we conceived our first kid, which was about a year in. We dated for 4-5 years prior to getting married though.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 06:22 PM
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Been a few weeks. Been working like a mad man, digging myself out of a hole I put myself in. Is what it is. A few small updates before I go and get back to work: - Despite massive amounts of stress from the business, I actually feel great. Lack of stress = lack of growth. I'm patching holes I should've patched months ago. Flew out to CA to see a very successful friend and realized it's time for me to fix shit up, get it running to where it pays what it needs to pay, then put it on autopilot and …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 02:22 PM
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This post nailed it. One other wrinkle: This is FANTASTIC frame practice. I feel the same things, but I recognize what they are - the need for validation from the group. I lean into the discomfort. It’s a low stakes way of getting comfortable being uncomfortable. Recently I forgot my shorts for the gym. I didn’t want to bail, but the only thing I had with me was BJJ pants, which look very out of place. I felt a burst of anxiety, but then said fuck it. Lean into it. Now I wear them frequently. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 01:56 PM
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Cool how you hate female sexuality bro. What do you want? A woman who actually likes to fuck, or someone raised in the Middle Ages who thinks vagina vapors cause plague? You’re a mess. People like sex, AWALT, etc. Fix your shit.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 08:59 PM
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This whole forum is advice. What do you mean, “what advice?” I get it - you think cheating is bad and are looking for a way to make him think the same. Same stupid moralizing bullshit that got both of you where you’re at. Give your friend a link to the subreddit, then stop interfering in his life.
/r/askMRP03/11/19 03:05 PM
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Good lord I didn’t even notice that. Hilarious
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 08:12 PM
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Some of these feel a bit strawman-ish, but overall this is an interesting post concept. Charlie Munger talks about inversion - if you want to get a thing done, ask first what you would do if your job was to ruin everything, and then make sure you’re not doing any of that. Cool idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 10:56 AM
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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty
/r/askMRP24/10/19 05:58 PM
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What happened to your startup thing? Entrepreneurship is easy enough, especially if you go the info product route. But I’ve been in the space a while now and I’m just used to it. Ryan Levesque’s “Choose” is a decent beginners guide to launching a course/infoproduct.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 10:51 PM
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Been a few weeks. Been doing traveling for work and hauling ass in general to make up for a few slow months in a row. Exposed some weaknesses in the business and that's been good for my motivation level. **BODY*\* Most recent progress pic: https://imgur.com/a/l1o7hsL Flexing is cheating, as always. I've taken my focus off of lifting for a bit as I zero in on work, but I've kept up my workout plan. Recently switched to some new exercises and added a day of cardio. Currently 4 days of weights, 3 d…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 07:37 PM
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Part of the problem with the alpha/beta dichotomy is that the above only “feels” beta due to western heterosexual norms. This is the way it is often used in an RP sense (especially among newbies), but a deeper reading of RP distills alpha into “attractive to women/useful in securing sex with a minimal investment.” It’s about power, not about whether he likes pink or not. Not everyone fits a neat binary of “manly/effeminate.” But ALL human relationships involve power dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 04:10 PM
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Inshawls
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 08:14 PM
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Does the fetishization of black men by some people in any way outweigh the effects of casual (and not so casual) racism?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:08 PM
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God, this comment fucking got me. That robot is perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 04:11 PM
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She, she, she, she, she, she, she Get the fuck out of your wife’s head.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 10:10 PM
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RP cannot be deceitful - If you believe it - in the same way can’t be deceitful. It’s simply accurate or not. Nothing in RP is prescriptive. It is (or tries to be) descriptive. RP = trying to define the nature of intersexual relations, the strategies used by men and women, etc. Anytime you stray into prescription, that’s no longer RP - since, as you’ve stated, RP is amoral (meaning no goal or method is viewed as more “good” as another). But look - that’s how I see it. Part of the problem with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 04:15 PM
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You are conflating PUA and RP. Nothing in RP can be manipulative, since it claims (whether you believe it or not), to reflect things “as they really are.” It’s like saying EvoPsych is manipulative, or Feminism. It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 02:29 PM
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I think you’re on the wrong track with the whole “sub par dude” thing. You’re approaching it like a man, applying your own world view to the female experience. Women want sex as much as men, sure. But there is SIGNIFICANTLY more risk involved in the sexual act for them. Pregnancy is extremely resource intensive and thus risky. That doesn’t even get into the fact that the average man has the capacity to straight up murder the average woman. So to overcome that evolutionary wariness to the vulnera…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 01:35 PM
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The answer: Women like sex. If they thought you were relationship material, they probably wouldn’t fuck you. They don’t, so they do. You meet short term mating criteria, not LTR criteria. For men, there is far less difference between the two. You keep thinking, “why fuck me they don’t want to at least date?” They think, “why not fuck him? Not like I’m gonna date him.” It’s all subconscious. You play into it subconsciously as well. You already do a good job of creating attraction. Signal high sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 01:53 AM
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Troll
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 01:41 PM
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Bullshit post. WAH WAH WOMEN BAD HURR DURR HURR HURR
/r/askMRP05/10/19 04:21 PM
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On mobile so skipping typical formatting. Strong week for me. I mentioned being pissed last week, and that pushing me forward. Troubles at work (had a vendor waste 40k under my nose and lie about it; had some dude make a point to talk shit about our business and try to make us look bad) had me more stressed than normal. But stress helps sometime. Got in every workout, nailed my diet plan every day, was in 100% boss mode at work and moved many projects forward, managed employees well, made tough …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 09:03 PM
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googles MRP clicks clickbait THE ALGORITHM
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 11:20 PM
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He was already legally married - this was just to have an event. But, no. Introducing anyone I know to RP has never gone well.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 10:27 PM
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On mobile this week so forgive my lack of formatting. Good week, with some bad news. Which is a weird mix. The good: Diet and exercise I had pretty nailed down this week - ironically, because I was so pissed off at some of the comments on my previous posts. Anger works as a motivator for me - clearly that’s not super sustainable, but it is what it is. I went back and got data on my diet plan adherence for the last year. I’m just going to do what I do - focus on improving that metric. Numbers don…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 03:24 PM
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Hey cool, can I talk about comics next? As long as we’re just talking about made up bullshit here now?
/r/TheRedPill23/09/19 01:53 PM
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I don’t know man. Honestly, I think I’ve hit a phase in my life where I’ve accomplished a whole lot of what I wanted. Almost literally, all my original goals (in life, not just MRP) are checked off. May just be the cliched “mid life crisis” thing where I’m wondering if it’s all worth it. Not sure what to replace it with, or whether to keep grinding. I suppose that’s why I’m circling around the same questions for the past few months. No clear “win condition,” so no clear way to answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 07:20 PM
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Actually, I have your old reply saved. I read it when I want to get angry. That’s the question. Is this what everyone does? Is this normal? Is everyone getting angry to get through what they’re doing? It doesn’t feel sustainable to me. I’m wondering what people do to fill the gap.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:20 PM
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I’m not sure I understand the choice you’re presenting. Are you asking if I don’t care about ANYTHING, or just don’t care about this in specific?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:19 PM
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I think the broader question I’m trying to ask is: Did something fill the gap when anger dissipated? And is the lack of that (for me, right no) a sign that I should be focused elsewhere, or something I need to fight through and keep my focus where it’s been?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:17 PM
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Do you mean, I’m getting sex from the wife, but because I don’t feel I have abundance (the confidence other women would have sex with me), I suspect it to be fake, hence the resentment?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:15 PM
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Let me ask you: What do you do that you feel you use discipline to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:11 PM
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Thanks for this reply. I wonder if part of the problem is that I just don’t care too much about many of the things that got me here (lifting/insert MRP map here)....but that I’m afraid to take my eyes off the ball and focus on other things.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:10 PM
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Paranoid from herniating my disc last year, so twice I bailed out from workouts early, afraid pushing through would lead to injury. Seems like a running theme... Learned, from experience. Sloppy lifts = injuries. Last time I lost 4 months in the gym. Maybe not for you. Maybe you're impervious to injury. But for me, I would MUCH rather go home early. Your passion shouldn't be draining... Playing music is great. Non-stop traveling, staying up late, erratic schedules, late night driving to practice…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:05 PM
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?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 03:49 PM
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Busy week, traveled for work, etc. But things are finally settling down from the summer and I'm appreciating the ability to get back into my routines. **BODY*\* Workouts have been fine, though I got strange moments of weakness/dizziness/sort of felt like low blood sugar, during the last week. Not typical for me at all. Paranoid from herniating my disc last year, so twice I bailed out from workouts early, afraid pushing through would lead to injury. Probably just didn't eat enough, but something …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 01:19 PM
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What the fuck are you going to do about it? I don't know, maybe make a post asking for examples of people who have done this?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 12:51 PM
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Asked a question, bro. Not enough unintelligible aquifer metaphors for you? And hey, PS: we ARE all chemicals. There’s your value add. Go fuck yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/19 11:24 PM
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I find it odd that you’re replying to the OP as if he/she is complaining about their actual relationship. They are making a claim about the AVERAGE heterosexual pairing. Your relationship can be amazing - as can OPs - without disproving their point. This is the classic NAWALT reply that drives RP and BP (“NAMALT”) crazy. With good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 05:57 PM
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I find it odd that you’re replying to the OP as if he/she is complaining about their actual relationship. They are making a claim about the AVERAGE heterosexual pairing. Your relationship can be amazing - as can OPs - without disproving their point. This is the classic NAWALT reply that drives RP and BP (“NAMALT”) crazy. With good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 05:57 PM
1

My newer doctor did, yes. But you’re absolutely correct! Your natural production can be high, but if it’s all bound up it’s not available for the body to use. My numbers are “meh” but not “OMG.” But I also think the existing “natural” ranges for men are lower than they probably should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 05:51 PM
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It’s pretty great dude. I’ve been working my way through it as I’ve been revisiting all the stuff I read when I first got here. It’s a much easier way to move through that material. Big value add. 👍
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 04:52 PM
1

I’ve thought a bit recently about the natural shortcomings of my approach to stuff - spreadsheet style, moving numbers up a scale rather than focusing on the whole, integrated picture. I think you need both, and I will likely move back and forth between the two poles. Certainly feels like I’m moving towards a less spreadsheet oriented approach to life lately. /u/steelsharpenssteel ‘s article on strengths being your weakness is certainly applicable here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/19 11:56 AM
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Pretty much any analytical person who comes in here does this. Hell, you should see MY spreadsheets. I love them and they're not going away. The biggest inversion that happens - depending on how long you're here - is realizing that 1.) Though attraction factors matter, Stacy will still bang a fat dude behind an Arby's given that he has the right frame/the circumstances are right, and 2.) trying to "climb the ladder" in order to "meet everyone else's criteria" is just betraying your own lack of f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 01:11 PM
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I both love and hate this post. Love it, because charts! And also, benchmarking is very useful for personal goal setting. Hate, because it’s core theses are completely off base. Not low value post, though. The debate in the comments is 100% worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 12:44 PM
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See, THATS actual advice - breaking goals down into smaller goals. But I’m good. I appreciate the back and forth.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 12:41 PM
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Well, that was quite the google search
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/19 12:40 PM
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(This is all rhetorical, because I realize you don’t know me or my own mind, and I take your advice as well intentioned. I think I’m just depressed, as happens pretty cyclically. Snuck up on me this time, but it’s nothing I haven’t been through before. I’m just going to argue the point below to help clarify my own viewpoint) I would point out that the advice above actually doesn’t provide any guidance. “Me: I am having trouble following through on goals by willpower alone.” “You: You need to str…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 11:11 PM
0

If I could grind through the tough shit, I would. The fact that I don’t, implies that I can’t. Willpower is biological, like everything else. No magic there. Biological problem, biological solution. If the argument is “you may not want it I think the way you think you do,” I might buy that. Psychology runs deep. But even psychology is just chemicals. Fix the chemicals, fix the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 02:04 PM
2

More like mental MASTURBATION amirite
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 05:34 PM
2

Bruh, you and me both. I seem to have gotten off track when I started traveling for shows and it’s been BRUTAL getting it back. I don’t know if I lost my motivation, if I’m depressed, if it’s biological, if it’s just poor planning, or what. Clearly, I’ve been put in a lot more situations where I’ve had to “muscle it out” to stay on plan - summers been super busy, lots of food around, lots of travel. But other people have the same issues and stay on plan. It’s possible sleep disruption has been f…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/19 05:33 PM
5

Rough/good week. Played my last show for a long while. It was great, but I didn't get home until 4:30am, and the sudden fuck up in my sleep has FUCKED me. Like, I can't think right now. I've had two full nights of sleep since the show and I just feel like I can't get back to normal. No energy, shit mood, depressive thoughts, not eating according to plan, unproductive. Being 100% honest, I can barely think right now. BUT. A few important points to note: 1.) It occurred to me this week that most o…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/19 06:17 PM
5

Not even that. Doesn’t matter how perfect you are. Sooner or later, Perfect is boring. Routine is boring. The same person is boring. Game is boring. Abs are boring. Chad is boring. People seek variety. Chad gets cheated on eventually - and probably with someone of much “lower value.” Maybe it’s 99%, maybe it’s 98%, maybe it’s 50%. Lesson is the same - we connect to others. We provide value and expect value in return. But dependence is just disaster delayed. The ultimate difference between Chad a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/19 03:34 PM
12

Covert contract. “Just your turn” doesn’t mean that every relationship ends with her dumping you, divorcing you, cheating on you, etc. It means every relationship CAN end that way, regardless of how good your game is. There’s ALWAYS a better option. That’s why YOU need options, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/19 03:14 PM
1

Maybe it’s just me, but she is NOT into any of that shit. I could do it, but it doesn’t seem to get me any closer to any of my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/19 10:41 PM
1

DEAR DIARY: Pretty fun week. **BODY*\* ​ All 4 workouts done. Didn't fit in the cardio, though (30 minutes, 3x a week). May have to rethink my schedule in order to get these in more consistently. Didn't eat to plan 100%, but did much better, and still had some travel. Not too upset about it, just keep improving. Emailed TRT to start the process of becoming a patient. Will need to freeze some sperm before that, not sure what that entails exactly. I'll just focus on keeping the ball rolling. Will …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 12:48 PM
1

Hey moron, by the way: My business made money in month one. And I could do that again anytime I want. My guess is that if you needed to make money to eat, you’d find a way. Stop making excuses.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 09:42 PM
1

Man, young Elon looks so happy and carefree. It weirdly made me sad to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/19 05:36 PM
5

Olaf Handsomsson is the new Chad. Make it so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 04:19 PM
2

And this, right here, is the bedrock truth of all human relationships, and the core of everything RP gets right. RP includes a metric ton of horse shit, but at least they understand that you can’t “communicate” your way around basic human instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 03:55 PM
1

TRT curing your arrhythmia blows my mind. One of the most confusing things about looking into TRT has been that some people say it increases cardiac risk, while others say it’s protective. In the end, all you can do is be aware of your own health.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 09:59 AM
1

I could be wrong, but I believe an arrhythmia would be very hard to spot during a stress test. I had to wear a halter monitor for a month to find mine, as they are fleeting. However I’m sure your cardiologist knows more about arrhythmias than I do, so I’m sure they ruled it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:31 PM
1

Have you been to a cardiologist about the dizziness/heart racing? I experience something very similar. For me, it’s a slight arrhythmia called Atrial Fibrilation. It is worth going to a specialist and filing out before you jump to anxiety (many arrhythmia actually produce an impending sense of doom as a side effect).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 09:18 PM
9

I don’t know, man. Sounds to me like your wife keeps initiating (in her way), but you keep not fucking her because you’re so far into your own head. Like, fuck your wife, bro. Stop thinking about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 05:59 PM
1

Start doing Jiu Jitsu. Make friends.
/r/askMRP16/08/19 10:18 PM
1

Health is the one thing I essentially have no spending limit for (that and books). Can’t fuck if you’re dead. Thanks very much for the advice!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 11:05 AM
2

I actually REALLY appreciated the pushback, and the subsequent take on the doc. I have ZERO ability to separate fact from bullshit in the TRT realm - and the more I read, the less certain I become. But yes, his specialty in his practice is helping steroid users recover/fix their hearts and so on. He’s used steroids himself and is on TRT - basically, his experience in heart damage was what attracted me (because I’d list that as the worst potential side effect of TRT, considering my family history…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/19 04:38 PM
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Lol. True. Let’s put it this way - my own moral compass says to do it. Other people may or may not feel the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 08:39 PM
1

When I say she’s not interested, I primarily mean she reacts negatively in the moment to slight increases in dominance (for example, grabbing the back of her neck, a faster/tougher pace, etc). I do these throngs, but I’m not going to plow ahead if she’s verbally expressing displeasure. It’s not theory - it’s experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 07:52 PM
3

I actually asked about the “lowering the ranges” thing - he pointed out that there is virtually no accurate T level data pre-1960, and that the range was primarily dropped as a result of more common screening/a better sense of the average. In any case, it doesn’t really matter what the acceptable range is, only how I feel. your body, your choice Of course. But I’d expect to weigh in on my wife’s decision to, for example, have a histerectomy. It’s my decision, but the decision to have a kid or no…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 06:36 PM
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The 3-6 month trial was specifically recommended by the doc, mostly because he pointed to that time range as within the time period in which my own system could come back/ keep producing testosterone. This is the doctor: https://www.testosteronology.com/ He’s highly regarded, as far as I can tell. As for a decision, I simply haven’t made one. I wanted information, I got it. I’ll weigh my options and make a call one way or the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 06:33 PM
1

It was a shit week for physical fitness in general - never really recovered from being sick, schedule all fucked up, habits fucked up, plus just me being an asshole. BUT - good week in terms of family, and in digging deeper into TRT/heart health. **BODY*\* ​ I essentially took the week off from my diet plan, which is not great. Schedule wise I found it almost impossible to deal with my generally chaotic environment in the moment. Lesson learned: I should have planned every day out ahead of time,…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 01:39 PM
1

Got it, I thought I remembered this post. I certainly think what you’re talking about applies to me, as it does to most people here. But I also think I JUST started getting dread to work, and that affects things as well. For example: I’m hardly telling my wife to engage in a million different sex positions; all I asked for was oral sex performed on me, rather than solely on her. I’ve started talking during sex, because I enjoy it; she’s told me multiple times it does nothing for her and she does…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/19 02:00 PM
1

It’s not really that kind of thing. Really think the music determines this reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 12:58 PM
1

Sex frequency is about twice what it was. I get turned down much less.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 12:57 PM
1

I know we’ve had this conversation before but I’m not sure I can come up with many concrete examples of what you’re talking about here. I suspect I may be missing the point. Did you do a post on this? Or am I making that up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 12:56 PM
1

I still hit the barber for a special occasion or work trip or whatever. Quality is still noticeable. But for maintenance self-cut is the way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 03:45 PM
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>In doing so and stopping myself a couple of times I wondered if maybe I don’t have as high a sex drive as I thought I did. Kind of messed with the identity I had in my head about myself. This is a very real thing. Seems like you're doing good work there. Now, can you disengage from your thoughts and just enjoy the moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:48 PM
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>There was a comfort test recently with her telling me that our daughter’s behaviour pushed her to feel inadequate. I comforted her immediately telling her she was a great mother. This is not a comfort test. You are not getting comfort tests. This is your wife seeking validation and you desperately looking to "fix" her feelings. You don't need to fix her feelings, nice guy. So cut that shit out. You are a ZERO on the "worry about comfort" scale. You need to worry about dread. Everything in this …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:47 PM
2

Thanks!! It looks much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 02:29 PM
2

God, this was a rough couple of weeks. But I'm out the other side. **BODY*\* ​ Being on tour really does a number on me. I clearly need to accept that pursuing music like this (which I love, and wouldn't trade for anything) has MASSIVE trade-offs that just weren't there when I was younger. Played another show in Canada, immediately came down with Strep throat the next day. Fevers, sweating through my clothes, couldn't swallow, the whole nine. Somehow made it home, spent the next few days in a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 01:16 PM
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I don't know, man. You're twenty five. You know what falling in love with a beautiful woman, and getting your heart broken, is called? Living a life. You think Hemingway never had his heart broken? Picasso? You think the grandest, most masculine, most powerful personalities in human history never dared to make themselves vulnerable to misfortune, just to experience how high life can truly get? Stop beating yourself up. "Swallowing the pill" doesn't mean you never fuck up, never feel anything for…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 12:55 PM
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She either wants to fuck another dude or she doesn’t. Everyone in this thread running around like they can “stop her” by not “making a mistake.” Trying to protect your precious unicorn investment. You can’t. You ever heard of this thing, the red pill? Everyone downvoting my comment should take it some time.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 10:42 PM
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Scarcity mentality. Who gives a shit?
/r/askMRP05/08/19 03:32 PM
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Is this that selfish, incentive seeking people are actually more attractive, or simply that they accept more partners? Like, is this actually “9s and 10s love cluster B,” or is it “Cluster B will sleep with anything?” Also not much competition considering they’re being compared here with the other clusters, which are antisocial tendencies.
/r/BlackPillScience02/08/19 12:41 AM
1

(By the way, not trying to be pedantic in this post, just enjoying the conversation)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 05:33 PM
1

You are not bound by biology to a particular mode of goal completion. But you are bound to pursue those goals regardless. Hunter gather gal and cubicle guy are doing the exact same thing: providing glucose, protein and fat for an engine that sustains them long enough to reproduce. Not a choice. Even within that system, the “choices” they make are largely illusory, conscripted in ways they cannot understand by their surroundings, language of birth, ways they were raised, social circle, etc. Biolo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 05:32 PM
1

Sure, you always weigh probabilities. But you don’t forget they’re there, either. And you should never forget that they apply to you just the same as everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 05:26 PM
1

Every strategy for survival has its downside. On the upside, tiger attacks are down. And life spans are up. You may be “made” for the hunter gatherer lifestyle, but run the numbers - which would you choose?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 12:07 AM
1

Only in certain conditions. Our drives are consistent, but we’re built for flexibility in how we get there. That’s why we’re everywhere. Besides, lot more efficient to earn money and buy bananas than spend all day searching the jungle for them. I mean, we’re getting our asses kicked by ants. But the principle stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:42 PM
3

Our primary fallacy comes from our inability to predict our own behavior. This is true of our day to day lives, but it is ESPECIALLY true of actions under duress. The humble man sees acts of great cruelty and thinks “there, but for the grace of god, go I.” The racist, egoist, and blind optimist think “those people are different from me; they are monsters.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:40 PM
1

To be clear, I don’t distrust women. I recognize that all human decision making, even at its most logical, is deeply flawed, prone to misjudgment, and ultimately driven by subconscious impulses beyond our understanding. We are all strangers. Especially to ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:22 PM
1

How does sitting in a cubicle go against our inborn drives? We’ve built a society that punishes violence and rewards cubicle sitting with food credits. Rats never step on switches in the wild, but they’ll do it all day to get food. There is no responsibility. That’s a purely mental formulation. There is nothing but raw biological drive. Our brains, our thoughts, our acts. Our cities, our art, our wars, our loves. Biology plus noise. Nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:21 PM
2

All men absolutely ARE potential rapists. And murderers. Do you think the concentration camps were staffed entirely by psychopaths? You think the widespread rape followed by nearly every conquest in human history were committed by men UNIQUELY predisposed to heinous acts? We’re all capable of terrible things in certain contexts. I’m a “nice guy” - a lifetime beta, of which I’m not ashamed. But. Touch my kid? Put the first piece of food in weeks between you and me? Death, destruction, terror. Hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:19 PM
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I would say the core “truth” of RP is that men and women are both driven by deeply unconscious biological drives...but that women have had centuries of social narrative layered over them that makes their behavior frustrating to “blue pilled” men (meaning, in this sense, men that believe that people are primarily driven by social forces or conscious needs and wants, and that men and women are fundamentally more similar than different in regards to sexuality and Kate choice). Even the “don’t want …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 11:02 AM
1

Do you mean in terms of appreciating her effort? Or in terms of insisting on a high level of effort?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/19 04:58 PM
1

I was thinking about this - I think I’m only marginally more attractive. Certainly more attractive than I was at my worst, but only marginally more than my “average” during that time. I’m working on that, but most of that progress is fairly recent. I think the biggest difference is I told her I wasn’t sure I wanted to stay together, and actually meant it. That’s really it. I’m sure there are little things - a hundred tiny tweaks along the way. But that’s the big one.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 02:11 AM
1

It was all true, but I was overwhelmingly focused on the fact that my needs weren’t getting met. And I was overwhelmingly focused on that fact because I knew I had no options.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 12:30 AM
1

what’s going on I don’t understand what you’re referring to here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 12:29 AM
1

What are you referring to, in this case?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/19 01:05 AM
1

Just got back from a week long tour, followed by 4 days vacation with the family. Tired, and ready to get back to normal. ​ What were you grateful for this week? Tour was amazing, and vacation was fun with the family. Things are good. What needed work this week? Obviously wasn't eating on plan, and sleep really fucked me up. But I accepted that as part of "road life" - only ok because this isn't something that happens regularly. PHYSICAL Tour was very hard on my body - not sleeping (in some case…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/19 12:35 PM
1

Yeah, I need to do this. I’ve been putting it off because time is very short and I don’t enjoy it. Excuses, excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 08:57 PM
1

Not saying I don’t want to, just saying I’m not there yet. No worries - lifting four days a week and seeing a lot of gains lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 08:56 PM
1

Congrats on everything, especially survival. The absolute WORST part of this, the thing that drives me up a fucking wall - “I’m going to break up with you FOR YOU, because YOU need to be happy while you’re struggling and I can’t do that FOR YOU.” Jesus fucking Christ, just own your shit. “I’m too young to care for someone during this kind of thing.” “Look, this got too serious too fast, and I just want to fuck.” Both TOTALLY acceptable reasons to break up with someone. Maybe not nice, but real..…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/19 01:30 PM
1

Ugh. You know how some posts directly address your personal shit at just the right time? I really need mobility work, and NOT so I can lift super heavy, because I don’t - it’s so I stop getting hurt, have an easier time moving around, etc. But I fucking hate it. It’s boring. It hurts. Blah blah blah. Anyway, great post, and point taken. Appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/19 01:24 PM
1

LSE? Assuming you mean something like “is she sensitive about other parts of her body,” not really. She’s not into butt stuff, but never has been and neither am I.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 04:06 PM
1

As for ovulation, certainly possible, but she hasn’t had her period in years (since an IUD)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 03:15 PM
1

She has been extremely sensitive about her breasts since having kids. Constantly talks about how she “doesn’t have breasts” or that my chest is bigger than hers now. During sex shell get uncomfortable, push my hand away, say she doesn’t like it, etc. I respect that and don’t push it. Occasionally, when she gets really into the mood (or recently, after sex has become a point of open conflict) she’ll take off her shirt herself in the beginning.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 03:15 PM
3

Note that the dudes in this article do the exact same thing: bone their rejection on the other person, since they are soooooo “eligible.”
/r/TheRedPill11/07/19 01:31 PM
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How old are you, out of curiosity?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 03:09 AM
1

For someone who was hesitant to take off her bra, this seems like a big step. I now get her shirt off about 50% of the time. But overall investment/enthusiasm definitely up, for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:09 PM
0

Quick check in this week - super busy as I'm leaving for tour on Thursday. Want to keep the habit, though. ​ Sex three times this week; things have been good between the wife and I. Flirty, fun. She took the initiative during sex to sit on my face, which shows effort on her part. Cool. ​ Continuing the new workout, higher reps and sets, much lower rest, plus cardio - it's all killing me. Very sore. Looking OK. ​ Looks like our new ad funnel is underperforming. Never take your eyes off the number…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:08 PM
2

I had a 60 year old philosophy professor who was fucking hot 20 somethings. Fucking Sartre, who looked like a fish, cleaned up in Paris. Artists are notorious for getting shit loads of pussy too. As a lifelong musician, I know this more than most. The problem is that this is terrible advice for most dudes on RP, because their problem is one of assertiveness, self-confidence - the traditional "manly virtues." Lifting is a shortcut to acquiring these. You may take this for granted if you've lifted…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/19 01:03 PM
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Bro, I’ve read my whole life. This sub is for sexual strategy. Reading good books might make you a good man, but Stacy is still fucking Chad behind the dumpster. Lifting raises testosterone, increases physical stature and dominance. It’s directly tied to sexual success (though not necessary for it, if you have natural game - which no one searching RP for help us). Believe me, I love me some tough books and dead languages. But if that shit got you laid you’d be cleaning wet panties off Bertrand R…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/19 12:09 PM
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It is not. But it is a practical step that nearly every dude whining on this sub needs badly. Complain if you want, but unless you’re suggesting a superior alternative that works for the majority of men that come here, your comment adds nothing.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/19 08:49 PM
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Hey, morons - if you suck, your girlfriend might leave you. Ignore the married man for the moment - why the FUCK does the boyfriend deserve any better? RP should the opposite of entitlement. Everyone here crying about “muh hypergamy” should focus their energy on lifting and not being a giant pile of shit instead. NO ONE CARES ABOUT MEN. You are the value you bring, END OF FUCKING STORY. Some girl you fuck is not your mom, and is not supposed to love you unconditionally even though you barely scr…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/19 04:27 PM
2

“Hey, great game out there. You’re really....tall.” As I said, it’s an inside joke. The culture isn’t actually one that shames strength - just google Gordon Ryan to see what I mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 08:11 PM
2

I tease her and so on but she mostly eye rolls. I think the emotional volatility thing is right - she wants and needs some drama. I just need to do that in a less whiny way.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 08:09 PM
2

It’s been difficult for me to find ways of expressing my emotions that don’t betray loss of frame. Need to up my “selfishness” quotient, but it doesn’t come easily.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 08:08 PM
3

If you are tall enough to dunk without jumping but can’t shoot a foul shot to save your life, yes, you suck at basketball. If you can only submit people smaller than you, then yes, you suck at Jiu Jitsu.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 03:42 PM
3

Yeah...I was a little hysterical in the moment. Probably better than my lifetime of "say nothing and pout," but not the direction I want to go long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 02:45 PM
3

Career: Big trouble. May sales results were crap, June was a total fucking disaster. Will have to step up big time and prioritise work over everything else. Meaning less time for the kids, the wife, maybe even lifting. Pro-tip: High performers lift. Period. ​ Cutting your exercise to improve your work performance is like taking the hands off the clock so you'll have "more time."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 01:27 PM
2

Earlier this week I've been trying to be more fun and flirty at home but it looked real fake and Wife called me out on that. Mostly due to me still not owning my shit in the house and still being an unreliable captain, Wife told me I was acting like an asshole. ​ Not the reason. No one fucks someone for doing the dishes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 01:25 PM
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I find it harder for myself to get immersed. I sometimes get anxious, start falling into her frame, mine weakens up, then the whole dynamic is off because she wants me to take charge, then I suddenly give so many fucks that I'm pussyfooting around where I would normally just take what I want. I also cum faster when I'm not drunk. Not 3 pumps and done, but if I'm going to town hard for a 2-3 minutes, it's game over. I'd like to work on myself there to get confident lasting longer actually poundin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 01:23 PM
1

I rolled with three guys and was thoroughly defeated each time. Again, not unexpected since I barely know what to do when I get into specific situations. Strength was not a saving factor this time, as there were some big boys there and they weren’t afraid to use their advantages. ​ This was hilarious to me. ​ This is classic beginner BJJ behavior. There's a reason people are actually afraid to roll with white belts - you try way too hard, and end up hurting everyone. When someone says, "Wow, you…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 01:19 PM
3

A SHIT week. Period. Time to readjust, unfuck my head, and get back on track. ​ **BODY*\* ​ At least I nailed all my physical goals this week - stayed on plan, even through a big family reunion/picnic, and had good workouts all week. Even caught a mother-fucking vein popping out on my upper chest - nice. ​ Had a DEXA scan - last one was before I switched lifting programs, about three months ago. ​ Results: https://imgur.com/a/ar23P2v ​ Basically, fat ticked up slightly, but I added three pounds …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 01:10 PM
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Which animals? The only ones I have heard of that engage in brood parasitism are insects and birds and a few fish. All of which are extremely removed from humans in the evopsych sense. To be honest, I don't know. I'm basing this summary off of the book "Why Women Have Sex" by Cindy Meston and David Buss. I have my notes here, so I'll quote the passage I was thinking of: The most plausible interpretation of these results is that women are attracted to men who are likely to be “good dads” when cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 01:34 PM
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Here’s my take on where this comes from: It is widely accepted in evo psych circles (where TRP has much of its roots, though many regular posters don’t seem to know this) that women pursue a dual mating strategy: seek out “alpha” type men (strong facial symmetry, muscular, confident, pre-selected by many different women, low chance of parental investment) to have sex with while ovulating in order to maximize chance of pregnancy, then “settle down” with “provider” type men (has resources, caring,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 12:20 PM
2

Low value post, link to your own shit. Bring value or fuck right off.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/19 11:45 AM
1

Hannibal “holds frame” because he’s a psychopath. Many of the “alpha” traits are just “dark triad” personality traits dialed down a few degrees. Hence the similarity to Hannibal. Fantastic show though - one of the best on TV.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/19 10:38 PM
3

What about time for them in their rooms at night that’s not bed time, but wind down time? Morning sex is the obvious one, since she’s an early riser, but personally I’m not as into it in the morning (and my kids wake up ass early). Shower sex? I also arrange to swing home if my wife is ever alone, which is rare now - but I work nearby and set my own schedule. It may be more a matter of setting up chunks of time - a weekend away, for example, to a hotel room - because kids are terrible for logist…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 01:09 PM
4

“I went to Burger King on Monday and they nailed my order. But today, they forgot my third Whopper. Is this a shit test?”
/r/TheRedPill26/06/19 02:57 PM
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I’m saying that if you are this worried about doing it “right,” you are not ready. Nothing you do via text is going to “fire her up.” This all one big covert contract waiting to happen - you trying to escape the undeniable reality that your wife just flat out doesn’t want to fuck you and doesn’t find you attractive. “I CAN FIX THIS!” Screams the anger stage - by throwing endless amounts of internet bullshit at a problem that is deep rooted and complex. If you have to ask, it isn’t time. Focus on…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:20 PM
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Text seduction advice: D O N T Focus on gaming her in person. Make yourself so hot she sends you nudes. I personally send my wife the occasional meme, and respond to whatever she says in a sexual way. But it’s not to get her wet. It’s because I love sending people memes and being an ass.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:07 PM
1

It’s also useful for reminding myself not to whine about sex if I don’t put in the work to initiate, and initiate well.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 10:46 PM
4

Have you had your test levels checked?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 08:00 PM
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Honestly bro, if she’s the main breadwinner you SHOULD own the shit out of the house. She ain’t lazy. She’s working her ass off. You’re the one bitching about your workload. Either: 1.) own it, the house is yours now, take it as an opportunity to lead, or, 2.) just don’t fucking do it. Don’t wanna do it? Not your job? Don’t do it. No one makes you. Stop bitching about your own choices. Classic nice guy horse shit. This is from personal experience, BTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 07:27 PM
1

Yes, I have a LITERAL spreadsheet I get the anti spreadsheet bias here. There was a time where I would perseverate on my numbers and it did more harm than good. Today, my drift is in the other direction - the numbers point me towards reality, rather than feeling butthurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 02:45 PM
3

The question is only whether the rope finishes unspooling before I get bored and fuck someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 01:44 PM
2

Hello, OYS. I've made some slight changes to my weekly format to better reflect my current priorities/work. ​ **BODY*\* ​ Decent week. My trainer called it a "grindy week", and that's accurate. Didn't feel like I was making a ton of progress and had to fight to get into the gym. Did it, though. ​ Not much to say, other than that I stayed on plan and hit the gym when I was supposed to. Work the process, let the end zone come to you. ​ **RELATIONSHIPS*\* ​ Wife took a big step this week. ​ I had m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 12:05 PM
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I don’t nuke anything, but just shutting the fuck up does wonders here. At some point, I did have to lean into this - “I understand that you feel you are not enough, and that must be difficult. But it doesn’t change the situation.” Once I did this, my wife became intent on changing. I gave her the respect of expecting better of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 10:48 AM
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Christianity is horseshit, like all forms of theism. Lots of people choose to ignore reality for pragmatic reasons, though. Pick your poison.
/r/askMRP21/06/19 01:07 PM
1

I’m pretty sure it’s only possible via attrition. That could just be me, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 11:44 AM
2

Good first post. Now, keep posting and don't fucking quit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 01:56 PM
1

Some sex talk this week, but I’m not really willing to talk about it – just act. Things she says she didn’t like after the fact she asks for next time or just initiates herself. The dissonance of her ASD is weird. Probably because she’s lost nearly all control of the sexual acts and frequency, which is fine with me. I feel like this is a big issue. There seems to be a sequence - winning back frame in terms of having sex, then frequency, then types of sex. I'm having more sex, but the sex is pret…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 01:41 PM
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I have no idea what most of the words here mean, but after some googling....no? Edit: after looking at the pics again, I think the lighting makes me look like I have more underboob than I do. I’ve never felt like I had boobs, if that’s the question. My chest always seems under developed.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 12:05 PM
3

VERY interesting. Thanks for the tip! I’ll try this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:53 PM
3

The real “pill” you need to swallow is that you are no more rational than anyone else. Wake up, meatbag - it’s all biology. There is nothing - and I mean, NOTHING - else. Even your sad sense of superiority.....just genes trying to replicate. Your body telling you you’re low on vitamins or sleep. Nothing special about it. Get your comfort where you can. Life is suffering. No one ever truly knows anyone. There is no point. And no one knows shit.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/19 03:48 PM
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Mindset can go both ways. Change your behavior to act “as if” you already hit the goal —-> leads to experiences that require your internal beliefs about the world Have different internal beliefs about the world —-> act in a way consistent with those beliefs As for the body hair, yeah? If you trim body hair (as opposed to shaving it) wouldn’t it be a weird texture? I certainly need to shave my shoulders, for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 02:50 PM
1

It's been a decent week after a rough one last week. ​ **BODY*\* After going on plan last week, I've been 100% on plan this week. Trainer says I'm making progress; I certainly look a bit leaner and can see some mass coming in. Some progress photos: https://imgur.com/a/MTjzwV7 ​ Size feels more noticeable in person than in these photos, but it is what it is. ​ I'm enjoying the workouts in my current plan. Been gradually adding weight; apparently trainer is changing things up soon. We'll see how i…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 01:58 PM
1

I don’t know bro - what if we end up doing The ol’ Nip-and-Tipple The Slippery Slap Anal
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 07:06 PM
1

The ol’ in-and-out The tug-and-snuggle The flip-n’-dip
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 06:30 PM
1

Ah, gotcha gotcha.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 04:32 PM
1

What would be an example of refraining from enjoying the benefits?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 12:06 AM
1

I was so beta for so long, I couldn’t have fucked another woman if I wanted to, and was emotionally incapable of imagining leaving my wife. I progressed a bit, and became able to imagine leaving my wife....and things improved. I improved a bit more, and “low hanging fruit” (someone who already knew me) became interested. That kicked off the next level of “what do I really want?” I didn’t figure it out in time. That’s totally fine. It was an inciting incident I needed to make progress. I really c…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 05:28 PM
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Some problems aren’t solved by more lifting. The tactical stuff, I get and am working on. But I need a perspective shift. This may work, it may not. We’ll see.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 03:51 PM
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I literally did this the other day, so I don’t really know yet. Basic structure: he builds a workout (he’s a trainer) and then you do a call a week. Books he’s mentioned wanting to read: Decline of the West, some stuff on building muscle in order to understand the underlying principles, Marx, some Zizek, some Nietzsche, some biology. He’s in favor of reading a lot of contradictory material and then arguing it out. I’ll post more about it as I go.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 02:59 PM
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Ohhhhhhhhhhhh. I see. Eh. I like my ex. We have a good relationship. Still not the smartest thing I’ve ever done.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 11:22 PM
1

Fucking....your ex...with my dick?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:51 PM
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Well, let’s put it this way: I wasn’t even sure before this that I would be able to go through with it given the opportunity. I was more concerned with my internal state that actually having sex. I answered the question I needed answered. That said, clearly I suck at this. But that’s fine - I can get good at pretty much anything given the motivation. I’ve sucked at most things I am now good at.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 05:53 PM
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The wife wasn’t initiating. Kids were up and running around. She was just being flirty. I did the same to her, enjoyed the moment, and then it was up for breakfast with the kids. As for the ex, I agree. It was a great experience though. Learned a lot - and it’s very different reading about this shot vs. doing it. It was a big deal for me to take the step - glad I worked through it. On to the next one. As for the “stay plan vs the go plan” - I don’t really know if that’s true. If I wanted to get …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 04:31 PM
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You’re in her head. Remember that her feelings are just that - feelings. What does she DO? Also - if you’re having sex, what is it about the compliance that matters to you? Is it validation? (This is a literal question - only you know the answer to this). If you’re more desperate for control than sex, that betrays neediness. If it’s just that you can’t get off without a certain kind of dynamic, that’s a different thing altogether.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:48 PM
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It’s a wonderful opportunity to practice using technique over strength. Match her strength level as much as possible and ask yourself if you can still hit the technique using timing alone. This is not a problem with me btw; women are fucking bad asses at my school and will tap me all day regardless of the strength differential.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:45 PM
2

Nice work. Enjoy BJJ, it's great.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:21 PM
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Also been struggling with the fact that I think my wife is an alpha widow. Every July each year has been anxiety struggle with her, and she admitted a few months ago that that’s when she found out her ex was cheating on her. Also, she gets major anxiety about camping, even though I handle 100% of all aspects of the trip. I think cause they used to do a lot of camping together. I’ve just been struggling to come to terms with the fact that my wife used to date another alpha. And guidance on this w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:20 PM
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I probably should wrap up, but am not planning to. at work RIP
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:15 PM
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I told her “Ok baby, I won’t initiate sex anymore with you. When you get horny and need some dick, you let me know.” Now I am just going to game her more, fuck with her more and see how horny I can get her. I am the prize and I don’t need sex. I am legit busy as fuck and she won’t get any time or attention until she starts fucking me like the dirty little whore that she is. That's fine, but the male of nearly every animal species is the one that initiates. "The bull doesn't wait for the cow to i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:13 PM
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I also see a lot of women on men, that looks fun! BJJ is an incredible experience and the social network is a powerful one. Please, please, please do not say shit like the above, though. I know you were kidding, but do not be the BJJ creep.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:11 PM
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If she kicks back, just go for a heel hook
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:10 PM
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Well. Weird week. Shot my shot at having sex with my ex - didn't happen. Learned a ton, though, and feel more confident than ever. Progress always includes failure. ​ Body ​ Another solid week at the gym and on diet. Went off plan two days, but knew that would happen. ​ Still, these "days off" never bring me the kind of release/pleasure/whatever it is that I'm looking for. I always think I'm going to enjoy it more than I do. ​ Something tells me this is tied in with my sex drive somehow - same b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 01:08 PM
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I try. Seriously though, read the books. And the posts. It works.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/19 05:01 AM
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If you put as little effort into your marriage as you did to understanding this sub than you’re a shit lover and a shit husband. Read the books on the sidebar. In order. Spoiler alert: Your wife loves to get fucked. Just not by you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/19 04:26 AM
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“I want to start a business but I’m too lazy. Also I want to train but hurt myself. ALSO, I’m super alpha and social but I’m in a new city and BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH” Stop venting and start fixing your fucking life. No excuses. Your LTR is not a marriage and is the least of your fucking problems.
/r/askMRP06/06/19 12:35 PM
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I just meant I have a “date.” Not that I, like, bust out the flow chart. Nothing against flow charts though. Those are dope.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 11:23 AM
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Sort of a quiet, boring week. Grinding. **BODY*\* 7 days perfectly on diet plan. Got all four workouts in - was planning on doing a "make up session" (only did 3 last week) but ended up with piriformis pain AGAIN. Not a leg day or anything. Found a video that suggested the opposite of stretching (which is what I'd been doing religiously since the last time I had this problem) - shortening the muscle. The theory being that the piriformis may actually be overstretched, resulting in nerve irritatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 04:56 PM
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See you in OYS, fuckwad.
/r/askMRP30/05/19 12:26 AM
1

Use it to fix yourself. Don’t get rid of it - use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 01:14 PM
1

You’ve been careful your whole life. You’re ALWAYS careful. Look where it’s gotten you. You’re not careful. You’re just afraid. Own it. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 01:46 AM
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Nothing is more alpha than finagling, bro
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 07:04 PM
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This is true. It’s certainly not as good as trying out new women. I’m trying to pursue that in a more organized way. I’m slowly working my way through some PUA material and am working on booking regular “go out and be social time.” It just hasn’t been a priority and has been getting bumped in favor of music. I’ve certainly taken “advantage” of the ex as an easy way of trying to do both. I won’t neglect practicing on random women, I promise.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:49 PM
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Maybe! Who gives a shit? I enjoyed myself. I didn’t pay for anything. If she got validation out of it, what do I care? Either she fucks me or not. I’m not invested enough to actually monitor/change my own behavior to make that happen. I’d rather just have fun and try out my shitty PUA in a relatively safe space. But! This is a good example - let’s stop communicating altogether for a bit and see what happens, eh?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 04:04 PM
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The way she is playing it is that she is off the hook for a change. She knows she is not fulfilling her role as wife to you. Now she has something to take the focus off of her and she gets to take the driving seat. ​ THIS. ​ This is all classic manipulation. /u/threekindsoflucky, your wife is manipulating you. ​ Really let it sink in. And go to a divorce attorney now. Figure out what would be involved. Look at apartments wherever you would move if you broke up. Think about what your life would b…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 12:44 PM
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Jesus fucking christ, what a load of shit. ​ Remember two things: 1.) It doesn't matter who does what around the house. Stop keeping score. She literally doesn't care. She's being a bitch to you because you are her bitch. Period. ​ 2.) She treats you like shit. Let that sink in: the woman you are married to, who "loves you," treats you like a piece of dogshit. Never in a million years would I EVER, EVER treat a stranger that way...and if I heard my kids saying half of what she says, they'd be pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 12:39 PM
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Something odd happened the rest of the night after the yelling at my son...I started acting more calm and collected. I was speaking more softly and saying a little less, not being autistically quiet but just not saying a lot of stuff. It felt good in a way to just be in a calm, collected state and not say things, but do more. My wife seemed to react positively to this...she was sweeter and and wanted to do more herself. ​ Bro, you need to get yourself under control because not doing so makes you…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 12:32 PM
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Decent week marked by a lot of schedule disruptions. ​ **BODY*\* ​ Only three days at the gym (instead of four) and 3 days on plan (instead of 7). ​ Traveling for work and lots of holiday/family parties is the excuse, but really, that's all it is. Body weight remains exactly the same, however, over a 7 day average. ​ Looking forward to just having a normal week to dial everything in. I made up the missing gym day yesterday, so I should 5 days in the gym this week. ​ I definitely notice some impr…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 12:27 PM
1

Me too. For MILFs, and for the considerable physical benefits outside of lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 05:02 PM
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Maybe. She certainly is “looking for a relationship” now and has told me as much. That’s cool. Just not what I need. She’s gotta get hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/19 02:50 AM
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Life's been good. There MUST be a catch **BODY*\* ​ Traveled most of last week and ate relatively shitty. I don't really care enough to maximize my diet when I'm traveling and working - too much stress to be worth it. Good news: came back the exact same weight as when I left. ​ I'm starting with a new trainer/diet plan. While I like my old one, I really haven't seen a ton of progress. I have gained the ability to follow a plan and measure macros/food pretty exactly, so not time wasted. But I'm r…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:11 PM
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Zero context means zero useful answers. Also, is the angry baby supposed to be you, or your wife?
/r/askMRP19/05/19 02:42 AM
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I have a sneaking suspicion that the hidden variable here is spontaneous vs. reactive desire. Those with spontaneous desire have more casual sex. Those with reactive desire, less. Some of Those with reactive desire are socialized to BELIEVE that if desire is not spontaneous, it is not legitimate - or even coercive. For those, sexual interactions become anxiety inducing and less and less attractive within the context of marriage (underwear, chores, kids, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 08:42 PM
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Your situation has so many parallels to my own, but you’re in a much stronger position than I am, DL wise. The easy answers, if there ever were any, are pretty nonexistent at this point. The hardest thing is knowing what you want, and having enough confidence in that to give up what you have. Thanks for posting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:27 AM
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I’ve run dozens of websites and have several of them go down besides a a healthy checking account. That said, there’s a dude in that TRP thread from the Daily Stormer complaining about it, so who knows? Maybe he had it coming. WP is a private service. CH had the freedom to post, WP has the freedom to decide they don’t want him. May not always agree with it, but that’s capitalism for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 10:38 AM
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You make the money. So you should control the finances. If you’re not living within your means, start there. Fucking fix it. Pretend your wife is dead. If you had to line up someone new, what would you do? How would you make time? Then do that. You just came here to bitch. No plan.
/r/askMRP11/05/19 05:36 PM
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Good news! You’re not married. Ghost, lift, next, etc
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 03:54 PM
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I’M trying to figure out how people know it’s a “censorship war” and not just that the dude didn’t pay his hosting. I enjoyed some CH posts a lot, so I’m sad to see it go. But...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 10:40 AM
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Nice. We're in vaguely similar places now - sounds like some hysterical bonding to me. Challenge is always not to slip back into being validated by the sex. Easy to do, for me especially. Keep it up!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 02:08 PM
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also just realized my flair got changed -- lol
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 02:04 PM
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Yeah, it’s hard. I’m naturally very affectionate. I have to work to dial it back. But it seems clear that - at least with certain women - it’s hard to have that and sexual attraction at the same time. I can be affectionate with my kids. My wife started dropping hints last night that “her body needs a break” and that she’s “getting desensitized to sex” - I laughed. We’ve had sex almost every night. At this point I’m just curious how it all plays out. I don’t really think marriages are good for ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 02:03 PM
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THERE IS ALWAYS A POST HISTORY WITH THE IMPORTANT SHIT
/r/askMRP07/05/19 07:28 PM
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Why do you care? This is her frame. You’re worried about “passing.” The more you care, the less you pass.
/r/askMRP07/05/19 06:47 PM
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The need for validation and the desire for sex are often entangled, but not necessarily. ​ Nor does the need for one imply the need for the other. ​ MOST people - female and male - crave validation from their chosen partner. That a man desires validation from his wife does not mean there is something somehow deficient in him, nor is there anything unique to the male experience in that desire. ​ Sexual relationships - specifically long term relationships - often provide the setting for personal g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 12:28 PM
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Gotcha. I just meant "comfort building" - hugging in the morning, saying I love you, etc. I get you on the QPQ. Something to watch out for.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 12:22 PM
1

On mobile to save time on a busy work day. PHYSICAL Got all four days in at the gym. I definitely lost a bit of visible pump during my two weeks or so off (traveling with the band, for work, and sickness really took their toll). Found myself frustratedly thinking about changing programs, but reminded myself that it’s my first full week back. Not the programs fault I slacked off. Just get back in the fucking gym and focus on doing the work. Felt good to be back but seems I mildly hurt my back at …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 11:24 AM
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IF I COULD TAKE ADVICE WHEN ITS ACTUALLY APPROPRIATE AND USEFUL TO ME I WOULDN’T BE HERE!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/19 03:08 PM
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Yup. All mental. Plus, you were fun. Fun is attractive. (The relative change is also very noticeable early on) Nice FR!
/r/askMRP02/05/19 03:39 PM
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I think the change predated the validation. I think the challenge is not to let the validation make me lazy, or to get addicted to it. I feel different though. I think I needed to prove to myself that I really could fuck someone else - that I truly had options, whether I pursued them or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 03:16 PM
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Yup - I disconnected from fear of losing her and was able to move on. That triggered her reaction to strengthen the bond. If I lose my ability to leave, that removes the reason for the change, and we go back to where we were...but worse. We’ve had the best sex of our relationship every day since that conversation. It’s been great. My urge is to slather on comfort now. But I’m not. I’m going to keep going down my own path. I know what I want and I’m going to keep moving towards it with or without…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 03:01 PM
1

See my comment above - I expanded on what I originally wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 10:15 PM
1

I see your point. And totally get what you’re saying re: average lay quality in a LTR. To be honest I’m not that wild and I think my standards are very, very manageable.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 06:57 PM
1

Super useful. Thanks for the detailed breakdown. This is pretty much what I expect, but perhaps less bitchy. Gotta stay on myself not to overlook that shot because I want to believe it’s all working out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 06:42 PM
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you're a smart guy so i'm sure your familiar with "regression to the mean". note it does not involve the container work "regress" as in go backwards. It's funny - it's literally an in-joke between my wife and I that explain everything via regression to the mean. I fully expect old behavior patterns to re-emerge. I'll deal with it when it happens. i'd really like to know what got her to ask. given your description of her and the marital dynamic seems really unlikely she initiated the conversation…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 06:02 PM
1

Awesome, thank you for the recommendation. Will definitely check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:40 PM
1

Could you elaborate on that?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:40 PM
1

Passionate Marriage is pretty blue pill. I wouldn’t worry about it personally, but you know your own shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 11:32 PM
1

I’ve listened to it and it’s fine but not a real book (it’s a seminar). The book is far superior. “Resurrecting Sex” has a kindle version and seems to cover the same content but I’m like ten pages into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 10:36 PM
1

Is extreme stretching like a specific program? Or just a basic concept, like “stretch a fuck ton”?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 10:34 PM
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Just remember: it isn’t emotion that kills attraction. It’s the need for validation. Some of the greatest seducers in history have been emotional. It’s fine - women love emotion. The rollercoaster creates tingles. It’s neediness that kills it. You share because you NEED them to reflect your self image back to you. You aren’t ok unless she SAYS you’re ok. If you want to be yourself you actually have to be OK with the consequences. Very few people really are.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 04:27 PM
1

Absolutely.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:01 PM
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SQ: 110 5x5 BP: 75 5x5 BR: 95 5x5 OP: 75 5x5 DL: 145 1x5 Chin-ups: 2RM ​ She's not worried about you fucking other people, bro. Remember this? The break gave me a chance to think through some things and focus on me, instead of instinctively reacting to every comment here. It's been what - a month? Throw your ego in the trash and start over. Easier said than done, I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:40 PM
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“You could be cheating on me, you are capable of it – I mean the girls may be fat, but who knows what you’re doing” ​ She negged you bro. Pretty fucking funny. I am stuck between DL 3 and 4. Whenever I try to go to 4 even a little bit it blows up. I think I’m still missing a huge amount of comfort tests. ​ Fertility issues, even if they're on your side, are a huge trigger for people. Maybe try interspersing more comfort throughout the week proactively?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:51 PM
2

He's also been invited to go on a 5-day vacation with his girlfriend's family. I'm not against it. But I hate the idea him taking his first legitimate vacation with them and not me due to my inabilities. Getting this family out of the house has been on my mind some time now. It may not be 5 days. But, while the family environment here has been really good these last few weeks, we could all use a break from the bullshit. I'm making this a goal. ​ He sounds like he needs you. It doesn't need to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:46 PM
2

Truth? I thought about blowing my brains out a couple of times. I figured out finally that no one gave a shit about me. Not her, not my son, not my mother… maybe my father. That was low. Really low. Fucking lowest I’ve been in a long time. I didn’t though. I’m still here. I realize this is a point from which I can launch from. Without fucking ending it. I think. ​ If you have seriously considered suicide, you need to go fucking therapy. Period. Find a male therapist. I have been there. Was nearl…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:44 PM
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Nothing has nutritional info and I didn't pack a food scale or measuring cups (not that I would want to look like a sperg measuring my food in front of senior leadership!) Wow, what a perfect example of lack of frame. First of all, literally no one gives a shit. Secondly, do you think senior leadership is more or less likely to be goal oriented, into data tracking, etc? This is all in your head. Even if it wasn't - what do you want? To be star pupil, or to be fucking ripped? She had dinner waiti…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:37 PM
1

I still feel pussy-happy or pussy-sad depending on my success rate. Dry spells of a few weeks still drive me crazy. Because of this, I still don’t believe my own leadership, and she can fucking smell it. I'm with you. This is very hard to break free of. Give it time, and develop options. The sex has been the hottest it’s ever been (although still only occasional) and we’ve been having way more fun riffing with each other and making jokes. That’s how we both communicate best, and provides a lot o…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:33 PM
2

Harz mountains ​ Wow, looks awesome there. Reminds me of the Alps a bit. Have fun!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:27 PM
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When I suggested that we consider divorce, she was horrified and said very staunchly that she “does not do divorce”: her parents had an acrimonious divorce and marital commitment is a big deal to her. Actually, she said “we don’t do divorce.” ​ Jesus christ dude. Just get a fucking divorce. You are already divorced. I repeat: You do not have a wife. You have an impregnated plate and live-in room mate who owns half your shit. ​ What the fuck are you afraid of? Everything's already fucked up. Just…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:26 PM
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I took a risk and firmly directed her to proceed with fellatio. I got a soft no, which I followed with fogging, NA, and NI. I tried to get her to get down to the real reasons she wouldn't do it (apart from low attraction). When I felt she had given me the hard no by insisting on PIV, I got up, started putting my clothes back on, and told her it was time to go get the kids. Jesus fucking christ this shit is hard to read. It's like Red Pill Jargon Bingo. ​ Secondly, I have been and often am exactl…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:22 PM
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Back to normal format. Enough diary entries for a while. ​ **BODY*\* ​ Ate perfectly on plan this week. Traveled for work, which makes that shit very difficult, but made sure to really dial it in when I got home. ​ Was sick most of the week (head cold, cough kind of shit), but was still able to get three full days in the gym despite the travel. I'm coming off of two weeks off (one while I was in europe, the second when I had the flu/was traveling), and I can feel the rust. Still, felt great to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 01:11 PM
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I don’t blame anyone who hasn’t been there for getting it twisted, though. Everyone without kids thinks all those “when you have kids, everything changes!” bromides are tired and corny... Then you have kids and you’re like, “oh shit, it really DOES change everything.” You can’t know without the experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 07:43 PM
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Marriage is “RP hard mode” specifically because the legal and logistical ramifications of leaving the relationship make dread harder to generate. While some interpersonal dynamics are universal to male/female relationships, that one is not. If you find yourself dealing with the same issues that married dudes are, you are acting married, which you are not.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 05:30 PM
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OK post, and I used to count this among my major issues. But ​ >I’m in a 1y LTR LTR is not marriage. Totally different dynamics should be at play. Remind yourself of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 04:36 PM
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I loved this post - thought it was well written, on point, and useful. But here’s the counter point: The same wife that disrespects your dad because he didn’t do the dishes or remember his kids birthdays is STILL fucking Chad behind an Arby’s dumpster. There is no way to insulate yourself from that “disrespect.” And you can’t avenge your dad by lifting more and brushing your teeth better. The only thing we control is our ability to move on when it’s time. Great post. I saved it and will return t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 06:19 PM
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>Fitness Tests: You can go through a series of exercises to test your present degree of fitness ​ FUCK, FIRST MY WIFE, NOW AN APP? ​ Sounds cool. I've been intrigued by this kind of app before - thanks very much for the write up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 06:06 PM
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I wouldn’t say he’s red pill. Almost nothing in Schnarch (that I’ve read) on the importance of attraction. More like both Schnarch and MRP recognize the need for differentiation in the creation of sexual attraction, rather than traditional BP advice, which actually produces fusion. I’m happy you’re having such a good experience though.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 04:43 PM
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Lol - you’re welcome!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 04:02 PM
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That’s cool, I wasn’t aware of his other stuff. Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 04:01 PM
1

Have one of these yet? Now THIS, I would wear. I've never worn stan smiths, those good when you deadlift, or are they too thick in the soles? I still lift in slip on Vans. The Stans are fairly thick in the sole, but I'm also very used to flat soled shoes. They're not as chunky as, say, New Balance. I guess it's better than nothing, fairly tame choices though I agree. I wanted to build a base and then add "flair" pieces, but I'm not super sure what those'll be yet. I'm actually tempted to get tat…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 01:34 PM
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Mostly I invested in a bunch of "chino" style pants in some different colors, some nicer collared shirts, and then got them tailored. I also got some stan smiths. From there I'm trying to upgrade the t-shirt collection to include more henleys and some nicer tees. Then I get into jackets, but tbh I'm not super sure what the direction is at that point. I am still doing flannels and black jeans, but that fits into what I'm going for (which is less Dad and more "I am in a new-wave inspired metal ban…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 01:05 PM
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I had a longer response but I deleted most of it. I'm just going to sit with this post a bit. I feel like some of it's off base, but who knows - maybe it'll click with me later. Have you even bothered upgrading your wardrobe to be outside your hipster comfort zone yet? I remember Tanner suggesting you get a skull ring, which scared you off. that still true? I did upgrade my wardrobe a bit. Not a fan of the skull ring, though. I've added a few other touches in the same vein.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:12 AM
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I’ve seen enough babysitter fucking in here lately to think this is a bad idea
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 01:44 AM
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I don’t really care about the ex’s motivations, to be honest. But if certainly agree with your point about the test drive. I’m curious about YOUR take on not confronting the issue with the wife directly, but just seeking action on the side. We’ve nerded our on Schnarch before. He’s fresh in my mind because I just reread PM. I know for a fact Schnarch glosses over affairs as “selling yourself out” (breaking a commitment you agreed to, not for your partner, but for yourself...at least in different…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 10:25 AM
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I’m not. I may be mentally there, but not logistically.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 10:20 AM
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Here’s my general problem with this response. While it’s true I need to improve for myself... (and if were to get divorced today, I wouldn’t change any part of my current self improvement regime) ...I still have sexual needs and goals that are not being met and that my wife shows no interest in participating in. Traditional MRP approaches rely on implied dread to push the spouse to change. As many have pointed out, my wife either thinks I can’t do better or doesn’t care. I’ve been at this a whil…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 10:18 AM
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Ahhhh got it. She was with her boyfriend when we left Europe - they weren’t really getting along. I don’t attribute the break up to myself directly, but it seemed to be the final straw.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 10:31 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 06:37 PM
1

Ahh gotcha. It’s more like she has explicitly told me that if I cheat she will kill me, etc. It’s not that I think that’s the reality - I just think abandonment is her big fear/anxiety point.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:07 PM
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Good points. I still worry about hurting my wife. But maybe that’s the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:48 PM
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I broke up with her.......to pursue my oneitis, soon to be wife. As for interviewing - oh, I get it. I don’t have any illusions about it. But I am willing to enjoy it while it lasts. Same with new relationship energy. But I see your points. Two questions: 1.) CADs model? Is this just referring to cheating? 2.) when you say “why do you think she should give a fuck”, do you just mean...I have such a history of neediness that the effort is perceived as more neediness?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:46 PM
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OK. I need some feedback this week. ​ I have my plan, and what I want to do. But I know others in here have been through similar experiences and may have feedback. ​ In last week's OYS, I talked about my experience in Europe re-connected with an ex. Though I didn't cheat, the experience of sharing enthusiastic female energy was eye opening. The comparison, though unfair, to my wife really made me realize what I was missing. On the ride home I realized how driven by fear I'd been - the fear that …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:44 PM
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Note that the MFA subreddit is a fantastic resource, but it DEFINITELY has a particular style as the default (best summed up in the “basic bastard” post there). It lines up pretty well with what I like, but YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/19 11:02 AM
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Skulls for the skullthrone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 09:08 PM
2

This is literally why bars exist.
/r/BlackPillScience18/04/19 08:10 PM
1

This is true, but I’ve actually been much more confrontational with my wife in general. I don’t know, could be wrong. All I can tell you if what it feels like from this angle.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 11:08 AM
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I think the difference is in how you deal. If you’re afraid of confrontation, you practice confrontation. If you’re afraid of confrontation because you worry confrontation will cause someone to leave you, you practice being alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 02:16 AM
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Few questions: So you don’t do this in the moment you feel it, but on a regular schedule? Are those actual categories, or you just make them up?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 11:36 PM
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The underlying issue is impulse control. Let’s just put it this way: I wouldn’t let this person near MY kids. YMMV.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 05:01 PM
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If she hits you she will hit your kid.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 03:02 PM
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I think the reasons you listed here are both accurate and conflated. Exposure makes a lot of sense, and I think if you asked me last week I’d have said I was doing it already. Now I think I was missing the mark slightly. I’m going to make a big list of things that scare me and just started ticking them off every god damn week.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 02:19 PM
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I actually took the wife on a solo vacation to Paris last year. I think that’s why the comparison was so stark - I had way more fun this time around. If the problem with my wife and I was logistical I would have solved it already. In fact, I’ve spent all my time addressing “logistical” issues rather than figuring out what the fuck is up with my brain. I’m open to everything you and others are saying here; my issue is how do I actually do that? I want to suspend concern of consequence, but since …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 12:18 PM
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Ask away man - always happy to talk work. And yes, knowing what I actually want - and understanding that choice - has been extremely difficult.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 10:30 AM
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Exactly. The moment secure guy goes through a rough patch - laid off through no fault of his own, diagnoses with cancer, whatever - he will be left behind. No one likes the brutal reality of human relations thrown in their face. We all require the illusion to coexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 11:41 PM
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See, I took that feedback way back when. And I’ve struggled to make internal progress. I think now I’m realizing I was never afraid of my wife; I’m not afraid of conflict. I’m afraid of being alone. Different problem, likely with different solutions.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 11:15 PM
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Pretty much. That was what drove it home: desire, opportunity, deniability was all in place. At that point, if I’m not doing it, it’s because there’s something up in my brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 10:40 PM
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I may be the most quoted MRP poster outside of jack10. My problem is that knowing the problem is not the same as removing the problem, and I remain unsure of how to shovel deep psychological horse shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 09:26 PM
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I intellectually understand this, but it’s clear I’ve been letting fear guide my decision making in an unconscious way. But it’s absolutely true - the downside is very rarely as bad as we assume.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 08:19 PM
1

Hasn’t heard of Agile 8 - thanks for mentioning it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:42 PM
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I knew was a pussy, but at least now I know why.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:29 PM
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I'm going to abandon my normal format this week. ​ This is going to be more diary-ish than normal, mostly because I really haven't processed much of this past week, and I need to. ​ I'm also going to be brutally honest. I mean, have you noticed the number of posts here that start off, "Dear MRP, I am super alpha, but I'm having this problem, blah blah blah"? Bullshit. Why bother if you're not going to be honest with yourself. ​ Long story short: My band went to Europe to play some shows last wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 06:33 PM
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If she withdraws, you withdraw - not completely, but just enough to give her space to pursue you. Just think of it as vacation time. She won’t make a decision or commit? Own your shit and lead. She wasn’t attracted to the abuse. She was attracted to the fact that he wasn’t needy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/19 07:23 AM
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You’re missing the forest for the trees. Your self image is not her image of you. Go back and check out how much of this post is you obsessing about every tiny detail of her life and worrying whether you’re “doing RP right.” The medium is the message.
/r/askMRP14/04/19 11:21 AM
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Not after the last time! I’m still not allowed in the Louvre
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/19 11:52 AM
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This is why all the old PUA stuff is centered around adopting outsized personalities. You do better by going hard at a certain sub segment (girls who like punk dudes of whatever) than you do by trying to be the average of what everyone likes. Same in marketing - talk to everyone, reach no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 11:49 AM
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This is a key point - “popular culture” is accepted on a mass level but perpetuated by individuals, all of whom sexually imprint on what are essentially random physical features. A good example of this is R Crumb - his women could be viewed as grotesque, but they’re really just hyper-sexualized, in the same way that anime girls are. Crumb himself was merely expanding on the “pin up girl” aesthetic, but if you look at modern pin up girl style illustrations, they often have more in common with Cru…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 10:31 AM
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“If a good looking but shy person takes actions that are inherently unlike those of a shy person, they will be more successful than an ugly person.” Fixed that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 01:30 PM
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I agree. I was feeling the need to “pre-decide” but of course, you can’t make a decision without any known variables. Waste of mental energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 08:06 PM
1

My D was very low (hehehe) in the prior test and I started supplementing since then. It came up into “acceptable” range this past test.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 08:05 PM
1

Spent a lot of this week in my head, which is not always the best place to be. Worried about something that hasn't happened. So that was a waste of time. Otherwise, pretty average. **BODY*\* ​ Bunch of data to look at this week - awesome! ​ Got my latest blood test back - Testosterone went DOWN, which is frustrating (I'd been focusing on trying to raise T levels through lifestyle changes - better sleep, supplementing vitamin D and Magnesium, lifting, etc). ​ However, my last test was RIGHT after…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:15 PM
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This is especially odd seeing that many of the foundational pre-RP sources that RP draws on are very explicitly all about being the “fun guy.” MRP has “The Book of Pook” on its sidebar and it’s literally all about not worrying about everyone’s internet theory of love and just enjoying yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 06:42 PM
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This is a great breakdown!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 02:21 AM
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Passionate Marriage is also good for the basic concept (differentiation - being able to hear and empathize with her problems without being triggered by them)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 09:13 PM
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This absolutely blows my mind. What could possibly go wrong at the grocery store?? This may be my New Englander coming out. We don't even make eye contact in public.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:27 PM
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You've been talking about this for months, but you never DO anything. I know you're afraid; give yourself permission to be afraid, then act despite that fear ABSOLUTELY the fear of rejection is there. But I think a bigger issue is that I just don't have a systematic way of working on it. If I don't have a system for something, it tends to get forgotten, or rationalized away in the moment. This has been true for the gym, for diet, for clothing...just the way I operate, I guess. I'm finally feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:26 PM
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The guy said, “Alright, Mary Poppins.” (My wife is originally from the UK, and this is taking place in the States).“I’m sincerely fucking sorry.” My wife took umbrage at his sarcasm and asked if his penis was really that small. This incited some bystanders to crack up. The guy got out of his car to address the bystanders, and things devolved. Security came on the scene, and now my wife is banned from the store for a year. She feels okay about it because the other guy is banned, too. Is NO ONE go…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 02:59 PM
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In the car right now, waiting for the tailor to open up. So perhaps less well formatted than usual. Solid week. Not much to talk about - no major events, etc. But doing a lot of assessing of where my weaknesses lie. PHYSICAL Decent on diet plan, got all 4 gym sessions in despite a very hectic schedule. Proud of that. MUCH easier to stay motivated now that I see physical change. I don’t know if it’s the new workout routine, or eating more, or both, but I’ve seen a more dramatic change in the last…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 02:03 PM
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For fucks sake, why do people LIE anonymously on the internet? The WHOLE REASON this place is good is that you can get legit feedback. Props for doing the legwork.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 12:44 PM
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Yes. Probably. Also probably I’m still unplugging from the now 15-year long oneitis I had for my wife. Also - my wife is awesome. I want it to work out. I want to give her the chance. But I’ve accepted that people get married for a variety of reasons, and it’s possible she married someone she was comfortable with...but that she was never, and could never be, deeply attracted to. I don’t blame her either way. The question I most struggle with is “how far am I willing to go for sex and intimacy, w…
/r/askMRP01/04/19 12:35 AM
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I’m not sure why your assumption here is that because I’ve said the above, I’m somehow not working on myself. I’ve said this in other posts, but the extreme ownership ethos of MRP, taken too far, is just a covert contract dressed up in red clothes. MRP is not “if you lift hard enough, shut up long enough, and act alpha ANY woman will want to fuck you.” Sure, most women have sex drives, and share attraction cues. But there is a vast gulf between the average woman and any specific woman - an infin…
/r/askMRP31/03/19 05:42 PM
3

Is this....is this post all taking place within a week?
/r/askMRP30/03/19 03:05 PM
2

I absolutely don’t care about the gender thing, no. Feel fee to recommend your friend!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 12:46 PM
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I’ve been told by literally everyone that I am “tight” all over. My hips especially have limited mobility. There are a whole bunch of programs promising to “increase mobility” but it strikes me as under researched (and poorly defined). Animal flows, Gymnastic bodies, etc. Any recommendations, or general tips for telling fact from fiction? Or am I over thinking it, and doing anything will help? Is rolling out your muscles useful? If not on topic enough, let me know. Fantastic post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/19 04:20 AM
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So, low effort? How turned on and attracted do you think your wife would need to be in order for her to be down for low effort sex?
/r/askMRP30/03/19 01:36 AM
1

How do YOU want to approach your wife for sex?
/r/askMRP29/03/19 11:30 PM
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“p.s. You don't need pain, dude, you just need to see your abs. Your mirror is the best indicator of how fat you are.” I WONT BE SATISFIED UNLESS I MAKE EVERYTHING AS HARD AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE Thanks for the numbers, super helpful. I hover around 20% and have found it VERY difficult to get below that. Last DECA scan had me at 23.7% a few months after hurting my back, no activity, etc. I’ll be getting a DXA scan soon to see what the change is after a few months of concentrated lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 07:00 PM
2

If you are fat. I highly, highly recommend you consider kicking your cut off with a Protein Sparing Modified Fast (PSMF). ​ Can I ask what you are considering "fat" here? I'm not fat, I don't think. But would like faster progress in killing fat %. I've been doing slow and steady for a few years now, with very little psychological "pain" associated.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 05:39 PM
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Is it just me, or has the quality of the writing really jumped up recently? Nice post. ​ I count calories. I have a spreadsheet. It's great. One complicating note: As your body composition changes, so does your calorie requirement. Your metabolism also downshifts as you start to cut in order to maintain weight. ​ Just make sure you're also weighing yourself regularly and following your trend (typically, your 10-day average weight). Adjust your calorie counting based on the reality of whether you…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 05:03 PM
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I think it’s a combination. I think she had more sex when she was younger - but probably not a ton. And mostly while seeking validation for her low self esteem. She’s much more self assured today. Physical issues from our first kid make her very uncomfortable with her body/sex. An overall lack of comfort being sexy/sexual. She’s very “in her masculine,” for lack of a better term. And I’m absolutely sure 10 years with my beta ass, pedestalizing, needy, vagina-drying self didn’t help. Maybe I’m ju…
/r/askMRP29/03/19 04:03 PM
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Great post. Decline is inevitable. Time is a bitch. But you can always get better. My friend often says: “the ‘be good’ mindset always loses out to the ‘get better’ mindset.”
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 01:27 PM
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Your wives want to be sluts. I think this is true for most.I'm increasingly starting to suspect that it's not true for mine. That's OK, though. The plan remains the same, regardless. You get so caught up in your Robert Smith-like angst that you forget… Girls love the angsty guys. ​ MRP in a nutshell: ​ Be THIS Robert Smith...https://i.pinimg.com/originals/59/f2/c9/59f2c993b7fcf1b2ef7fa1dddba45425.jpg Not this one. http://tommycatkins.com/2016/robert_smith_leatherface1.jpg Edit: I honestly though…
/r/askMRP29/03/19 12:33 PM
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Read the books on the sidebar. Seriously. ​ This post is ridiculous on many, many levels... But my favorite part - the, truly, the piece de resistance of this whole thing - Is that you link to this post And then immediately say: It just described me, she tried anal with a guy she was dating only two months, And I, who have been with her for 3.5 years and she loves me so much, will not try (claiming it hurt her that time) even though she knows how much I want to try? I think about it a lot. I put…
/r/askMRP28/03/19 01:26 PM
1

God damn it I am laughing so hard at this comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:25 PM
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gooooooooo fuck someone ellllsssseeeeeee
/r/askMRP27/03/19 12:39 PM
3

but then again - also, LTRs
/r/askMRP27/03/19 12:38 PM
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(LDR)
/r/askMRP27/03/19 12:38 PM
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Yeah, I absolutely hate whenever anyone says this. But then, you can't know until you've been through it - very much like having kids.
/r/askMRP27/03/19 12:38 PM
1

The “we need to do something about it” is me trying to give her a heads up. But, obviously, she knows. She’s not an idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 10:00 PM
1

I think it fluctuates between flatulent and bloated - lol. I’m not sure what her deal is. It doesn’t seem to be dairy. She’s quite fit, but she doesn’t control/keep track of her eating at all, so it’s hard to figure out what the cause might be. Good point on the “going to look elsewhere” bit. I’m fairly convinced she would lose her mind, but who knows - I’ve been wrong about her before. I’ve read a lot recently about women tolerating outside sexual sources if the family/lifestyle isn’t threatene…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 08:03 PM
2

Well, not a great week. Not a bad one. ​ This is going to be a short post, more to keep the habit than anything. I'm running a series of live seminars this week and I am flat-out, time wise. RELATIONSHIP ​ No sex from the old lady this week. Frankly, she just isn't much fun. I like to flirt, be sexual, etc - she doesn't. She just constantly talks about how "gassy" she is. FUCKING HOT, BRO ​ Anyway, yes, my fault, I know. But it's still fucking irritating. ​ I keep having the sense that I need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:57 PM
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I haven’t been in your situation. So take this with a grain of salt. Two things: 1.) there’s a big difference between what you want and what you think you SHOULD want. Seems like you need to do some serious digging to tell which is which. 2.) You may just be in love with novelty and prefer a short term mating strategy. That’s cool. But if you’re trying to fill an emptiness in yourself, you need to know that this won’t lead anywhere. I don’t know you, but your post screams “need for validation” t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 04:19 PM
1

Sounds like you’re overthinking. Let me ask you this: Is OVERtraining really your problem right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 12:20 PM
1

I....have no idea what this is referring to. Not sure the gym is even mentioned in this post.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 09:46 PM
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The “people are judging my weak ass lifts” thing is great practice for building your own frame. Deliberate discomfort. Do what’s best for you, and practice not letting yourself be pressured by the (99% imaginary) opinions of others.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 05:30 PM
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Yeah, great post. I don’t know what I think about happiness. I tend to think of it as an illusion. But I do think we can minimize pain, and maximize pleasure. And that learning to be satisfied with the bare minimum is critical. I also think it’s a shame how little credit Epicurus gets. He really got passed by in the recent stoic resurgence.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 11:57 PM
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I am completely fucking flabbergasted by this post. Good reminder though. I often don’t pay enough attention to the details. I’m not sure if someone gave me fake documents that I’d be able to see past it. Of course, I handle the finances in our family. But this is a fucking incredible reminder: Pay attention to the details.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 10:15 PM
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It's the central premise in the book I'm reading now, "The Dangerous Passion." However, I'd wager he'd cut that with "Jealousy has a variety of causes, and is part of an intricate early-warning system designed to guard against all manner of genetic disasters, and is neither precise nor fully accurate." There's an interesting bit right in the beginning; he notes that women across all sorts of cultures nearly universally pick "My mate is forming a deep emotional connection with someone else" as mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 04:26 PM
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It's been a pretty long road from there to here. In retrospect, that was my lowest point. Since then we did couples therapy, I did therapy on my own, I read a lot, gave up on the marriage, decided to stick around in the marriage, left MRP, came back to MRP, tracked a lot of data, stopped tracking data, starting tracking data again, etc, etc, etc. It's all in my OYS posts. Overall, the biggest difference has simply been internalizing a sense of independence and taking my wife down off her pedesta…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 04:24 PM
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In my defense, she was a sweetheart when we were together. A lot can happen in 15 years or whatever it’s been. I look at some of other posts here and thank my lucky stars my biggest problem is a need for validation and getting my dick wet more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 09:46 PM
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You know your situation. Just be careful that your hopes of what she MIGHT be don’t blind you to the reality of what she’s been. This isn’t, “I wish my wife would fuck me more. I need to lift weights and learn to flirt.” It’s “I married a shit ass person, how do I survive?” Only so much captaining a man can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 12:15 PM
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i'm holding out hope you're going to grab the lightening rod and fuck your ex in Europe btw haha - I'm very, very tempted. I'm pretty sure she's down. Her casual "Back on my meds!" social media posts have me worried though. In /u/weakandsensitive 's terms, she has a lot less to lose than I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 07:38 PM
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This post is ridiculous. ​ Your wife literally sounds like an RP fanfiction version of a person. ​ I mean, I believe you. I give people the benefit of the doubt on here, and congrats on your progress. But your post is all like: My wife pouted on the ride home. She said she wanted me to be her beta provider, but I just smiled and said I would "provide" her with some ALPHA DICK. Later, she said that her irrational female brain was simply forcing her to follow her mating strategy, but that she love…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:17 PM
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wow. Absolutely wild. ​ Congrats!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:12 PM
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I’ve tried to be empathetic and caring without becoming a spongy caretaker. Just quietly handle shit. Move the obstacles out of the way. Think ahead. You're the captain, you can handle it. This is the best way to provide direct support, iMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:08 PM
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The next day she texted me that she had tripped, fallen down the stairs, started bleeding heavily, went to the OB, and the baby was not doing well. I verified that she hadn't left the house all morning but I played along for a bit to string out the lie. Eventually I tired and just called her out on her bullshit. My heart was honestly racing at this point. She cut off communication for an hour (probably to get her story straight) but came back and told me she was coming off a manic-depressive epi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:06 PM
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I’m also aware that is painful because my needs wouldn’t be met, but wouldn’t a real man of truth want to go through that pain? ​ YEAH BRO, A REAL MAN STAYS LOYAL FOREVER A REAL MAN NEVER COMPLAINS A REAL MAN DIES FOR HIS COUNTRY A REAL MAN DOESN'T PATERNITY TEST A REAL MAN DOESN'T QUESTION A REAL MAN SUBSUMES HIS NEEDS ​ Motherfucker, un-fuck your head. There is no such thing as a real man. There is just you, the people around you, and the voices in your head you picked up in childhood. You're …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:02 PM
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Other people have said. You're in perpetual crisis-response mode. No time to think or establish yourself. All that's understandable. What others haven't said: Your wife sounds seriously fucking unstable. She's mentally ill. At the very least, her traumatic experiences - which I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy - have seriously impacted her ability to make decisions. I wouldn't let anyone like that near my kid. Not fucking ever. Seriously, please, please: Force your wife to get help. If not, then …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 04:53 PM
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What's up OYS. I'm officially 39. ​ Last week was a bit chaotic due to playing two shows with the band - both sold out. It's an intense high, but jesus christ, am I old. Takes a big toll on me - both the physicality of playing and freaking out, but the late nights, eating weird, schedule disruption, etc. ​ Wouldn't trade it, but I like it how it is - a few shows a year, max. ​ **BODY*\* ​ As I mentioned, a rough week for physical goals. Got to the gym twice; skipped last two to get in an extra b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 04:49 PM
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I am an “old” young woman: 25. I said here that I would only want a man who makes over $60k a year (or is on track to making $60k a year) because I don’t want my kids to grow up in a zip code filled with crime, gang violence, and shit high schools. I am a studios virgin, make substantially more than $60k a year, and am in good physical shape. This is the answer. Your criteria for what makes you desirable are your own, not those of the people you're pursuing. What attracts men? Looks (implied fer…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/19 07:35 PM
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I went to therapy, mostly. For a long time I was suppressing all anger - even irritation - for fear of conflict with my wife. That would suddenly boil over whenever my prefrontal cortex get like taking a moment off, and I’d punch bruises into my legs, bite myself, etc - huge, sudden rushes of anger that would quickly dissipate. For one, I had to learn that it was OK to be angry. I learned to be irritated with my wife, as stupid as that sounds. I started reacting more in the moment, rather than s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/19 01:21 PM
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Implement an “unlimited car wash” subscription plan. Figure out the average amount of car washes per client. Price the sub slightly higher than that costs. Offer premium subs with more amenities. = recurring revenue to cover rainy weeks.
/r/askMRP12/03/19 10:02 PM
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Mostly because no one knows who I am at those places, and couldn’t tell my wife even if they wanted. No one else has power over me there - unlike in an affair. (Of course, barring arrest. Which would suck.) I have no problems with sex work of any kind. That said, massage parlors, as I mentioned, are highly exploitative, and I couldn’t be a part of that. I should add, MPs also required much less time, communication, etc, than an affair would.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 08:08 PM
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Well, she doesn’t. But I’m skeptical of my ability to hide this kind of thing for any extended period of time. That might be paranoia, or inexperience (in general I’ve never hidden anything, other than occasionally frequenting massage parlors, which I stopped after learning that many of them are engaged in human trafficking). It just seems like living with the uncertainty of being found out wouldn’t be worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 07:40 PM
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I’ve heard that and that is something I’ll believe when I see. My wife, for her lack of interest in proactively meeting my needs, will freely tell me that she will cut my dick off if I ever cheat on her. In the past, I’d always respond with “I’d NEVER do that to you!” Now, I just laugh. It feels like the tables would have to be truly and completely turned for cheating to be passable. I may get there someday, but it doesn’t feel like I’m there now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 07:12 PM
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There’s a ton to be said for longevity in the gym as a goal. We will look way better if we maximize our time in the gym over the year, rather than trying to maximize weight in every session. Young dudes don’t want to hear it. I was young until I herniated a disc - now I am officially old as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 06:45 PM
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My goal is to get it to where it was when we first got together but better. During my time in the affair, there was nothing off the table. She Enjoyed sucking my dick to completion, etc etc… The truth is, I know that my wife, if in another relationship would be just as quick on her knees to gag on that cock to please her mate because AWALT. This is one of my goals in my MAP. I will get there. Most women are more sexually available and interested in a short term relationship. This is nothing new,…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 05:00 PM
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Curious about the 5-HTP - why did you start taking it, and what's been your experience, other than increased energy? My sympathies on the chemo. That shit is terrible and a very draining experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 04:57 PM
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He hit up two HBs to tell them about a crocodile he'd seen at the zoo and talked passionately about Batman to a third. And yet when *I* do this I strike out all the time. Typical
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:13 PM
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Well, I’ve technically kept to that resolution. However, I’ve fucked up (literally and figuratively) in other ways: I’ve since slept with two of our babysitters, one of whom is quite young (she’s at the age of consent, but I still feel shitty about the age difference). I never had issues with infidelity until recently, and I don’t know why I’m so incorrigible. Not that the “why” really matters, I suppose. This and the "mid-life crisis" thing. My guess is you're just processing your grief. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 03:07 PM
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HIGH ENERGY SEX Express my wants / needs I haven’t done this particularly well. I’m not thrilled with our sexual variety, or the fact that sex tends to be entirely focused on her. Frankly, I haven’t had a decent blow job in four years, and yes, it fucking bothers me. /u/man_in_the_world often points out that that may be coming from a need for validation, but frankly, I don’t particularly care. I want what I want. I HAVEN’T, however, done the work to make that happen. When I initiate and am accep…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 02:57 PM
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Parent effectively Generally, I’m pretty secure in my parenting style. My biggest weakness has long been my temper - something I share with my Dad. I’ve worked very hard on controlling this, and my “angry” incidences are much fewer and farther between now. Not perfect, but better. I’ve noticed that the #1 predictor of whether I will lose my temper: whether I got a good night’s sleep. Sleep is fucking everything. There have been a few changes I’ve instituted in the house that have been positive: …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 02:57 PM
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DISPLAYING HIGH VALUE Now we get into deeper waters - how am I really doing? Pass shit/comfort tests These are VERY subtle when my wife does them, and in general she has been doing them a lot less since I started working on myself. Good sign. That said, I waffle sometimes on what’s a “test” vs. what’s a “totally reasonable request.” I think most of the time I do OK here. In general my responses to my wife are much more cocky/funny in tone, and her complaints don’t really bother me anymore. (An e…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 02:57 PM
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COULD THIS BE......MY LONGEST POST???!!! Well, I’m turning 39 this week. A birthday seems like a good time for a general retrospective - a “where am I now, and how far have I come?” type of thing. I’ve been sensing a plateau for a little while now, so I could use a deep dive. I have long been a fan of /u/2ndal ‘s MRP framework, so I’m going to steal that and add/subtract a few things as necessary. PHYSICAL AND HEALTH Stop slacking off on exercise Overall, I’m happy with my physical progress, tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 02:56 PM
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Everyone is shitting on you because everything you track is about YOUR WIFE. This shit isn’t about your wife. Your wife is not a thermometer that tells you how hot it is. Check my post history - I’ve been through this multiple times. I’ve posted recently about what I track and why. TL,DR: track leading indicators that are about you getting better, not lagging indicators about your wife’s reaction to you.
/r/askMRP11/03/19 07:05 PM
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Good lord the socks thing is so real. I fold the socks. “You didn’t fold them the right way - now I have to do them all over!” Next time, I don’t fold the socks. “I’m so stressed, I have to do everything around here!” Her preferences = “right.” The preposterousness of this is especially evident because my wife is pretty reasonable on everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 11:13 PM
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Well have to agree to disagree, I suppose. To be clear, nothing I’ve said here is “my opinion.” Everything above is demonstrable in a lab. This is like, three decades of behavioral psychology. You can believe that’s horse shit - that’s your prerogative. But I think that will lead you to make worse decisions over time. I’m in the top 1% of earners worldwide. I’m in the best shape of my life. I have happy and healthy kids. I work less than 30 hours a week. I use motivation and discipline for exact…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/19 08:30 PM
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Tell you what: get fit and see if you feel about it. I can almost guarantee that this is all self sabotage; saving yourself from the effort and pain associated with getting fit. Giving yourself an “out” so you can avoid the possibility of failure. You can always go back if you don’t like it. So get fit, fuck some people, and see if it really bothers you. Spoiler Alert: It won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 11:56 PM
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It sounds like you’re assuming discipline is an unchanging personality characteristic. It isn’t. All sorts of thing affect discipline - diet, sleep, dehydration, depression, past records of success, mindset, access to temptation, public expectations, etc. All these things are variable. There is no such thing as “self discipline,” only patterns of behavior in a specific environment. Very possible to have the desire but not the discipline. In that case, best to use the environmental tools at your …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/19 07:02 PM
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This is a fantastic post. Married game is surprisingly hard to find content on. The point about not making it a joke struck close to home for me. This is 100% one of the weakest points in my games/initiations. I almost ALWAYS start with a bad joke (her: “I’m need to tuck the sheet in.” Me, rolling over onto her: “That’s not the ONLY thing I want to tuck in right now!”) It’s absolutely ego protection. Just reminding myself to cut that shit out. Great post!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 09:21 PM
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The problem with placing self discipline at the head of the behavioral change hierarchy is that if you were able to do things with just self discipline, you wouldn’t need to change your behavior. Self discipline also isn’t a permanent characteristic. Discipline itself is highly environmental and impacted by all sorts of factors (people perform less well on discipline tasks in a laboratory setting when asked to remember a 9 digit number beforehand, for example). We mostly agree, but it seems like…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 08:52 PM
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Nah. Behavioral change IS complicated. If behavior wasn’t hard to change we’d all be thin and healthy. We ain’t. (I mean, I am. But I’m Chad, sooo)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 12:39 PM
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Self discipline is highly over rated. Nothing wrong with feeling proud of what you have accomplished. But it lines up just about zero with all research on behavioral change. Environmental changes are much more effective at changing actual behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 12:37 PM
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Seriously. It just takes time. Stop judging. Focus on following the plan. Fuck up, get back on plan. Give up, start again the next day. No matter what. Get back on plan. And forget beating yourself up. It doesn’t help.
/r/askMRP05/03/19 01:34 AM
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How did the sabotage happen? Curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 04:56 PM
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Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 04:55 PM
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I’ll redo my wardrobe soon, but I put it off till next quarter. Need to rebuild my savings first (we remodeled the basement in December)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/19 01:42 PM
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Well, yeah, you’ve got to think. Just not about vaginas. They can take care of themselves. Less vaginas, more mars exploration
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 10:12 PM
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you're doing it again (but yes it's funny) ​
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 09:46 PM
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no such thing as new ideas
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 09:17 PM
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Definitely number two. I could give a shit about madonna/whore - lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 10:48 PM
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............. huh. You know, the more I've thought about this, the more I'm seeing some of my own hamstering. I still don't like getting rejected. Don't want to go for things unless I'm sure they'll be accepted. I can absolutely flip my wife over and fuck her doggystyle. That's my favorite position. So why don't I? Because I know she doesn't love it. Throws me off. Same with telling her to put it in her mouth. I don't have to wait forever - I can always give it a shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 09:08 PM
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The question of what I’m willing to give up for better sex is a really tough one to answer. When sex is all bound up in validation, it feels like you’d give anything, do ANYthing, to get more. When it’s less about that, and just one of several variables you’re trying to balance, it becomes harder to answer. Would I live in a different house than my boys to get daily blow jobs? Would I trade a highly capable, but less sexual, wife for one with a higher sexual drive but more emotional ups and down…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 07:45 PM
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I’ve never heard of DC training - I’ll look it up! Yeah, I am not rushing back to squats or DL. I’m fine with the machines, and doing what I can. I’ve never been in AMAZING shape, and I firmly believe that I’d see the results even with a terrible program, followed diligently. Weakest point for me in all these programs is ME, not the programming.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:41 PM
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I don’t accept it, but turning those tables will take a very long time. I DO accept that. In the meantime I’m just working the system. Working on making money, working out, trying to learn some game, continuing to improve. Cheating, while attractive in my mind, just sounds like a fucking logistical nightmare to me. I hate living with a cloud over my head, and in my imagination that’s what it would be like.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 12:00 AM
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I herniated a disc deadlifting last year. I literally couldn’t move for almost a week. As I understand, the injury came from repeated poor “spine hygiene” (ie poor form, not just in lifting but in everyday movement). Worse, once injured, it becomes easier to RE-injure it in the future. I was out for months. Just made me realize that upping the weights every session was fucking pointless if I was out for the next six months. I literally had to walk with a motherfucking cane. So, first few months …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:58 PM
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I’ve worked with a LOT of very difficult kids. Real hard cases, kids who hated my guts. Number one thing to get them to open up is to just be curious. Curious about them, what they like, why they like it. Let them be the boss for a bit - ask for help with something they’re good at. Takes a long time. But it works. Kids never get asked to share. If they sense you’re sincere, it can work wonders.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:54 PM
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Too focused on what you DON'T want. ​ Don't be a pussy! Don't be in her frame! Don't let her get to you! Don't get upset! ​ Know why you hit your BF goal? Because you had a fucking goal that wasn't "don't be fat." Figure out what you WANT. Then, act like you have it. Act how you need to create it. ​ This should be fun. Make it fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 04:18 PM
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I wish I would of responded to a comment yesterday instead of STFU, A different version of "do I look fat"... to quote You want me to keep all these curves , I missed an opportunity here still not sure how best to handle this one. I may drop NMMNG and pick up Sex God Method, I have no game. Athol Kay's thing here is to just respond to this as if she is requesting sex. "You want me to keep all these curves?" "Jesus, I don't know - I'd have to see them. Pull your pants down." etc, etc, whatever
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:38 PM
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Relationship with step son: I’ve been struggling so hard with this. I entered the kid’s life three years ago when he was six. He doesn’t play sports, he doesn’t know how to take a joke and tease, and he wasn’t raised to be social with adults(even though he’s gotten much better) long story short: we just don’t get along. I try and do fun stuff with him, but it’s only fun for so long until he gets bored, or I make a joke and he gets hurt and lets it ruin his next few hours. Idk, just trying to fig…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:35 PM
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Her: "There is nothing left for me to do in the house except scrub toilets." Me: "I scrubbed the toilets while you were in bed but there is plenty to do and I'm happy to share the load with you." Why is no one acknowledging how funny this is? Fuck, that's a good line. ​ Not stepping in to own her feelings is the hardest fucking thing. Sounds you're doing really well. ​ Just like you mentioned, she's trying to get you to pursue her. The dynamic is changing. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:28 PM
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Why the fuck is everyone complaining about this being hard to read? Thought it was pretty clear. I disagree with the thesis, but I also like this post a lot. ​ There isn't enough pure nihilism in the world. ​ ​
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:22 PM
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**CREATIVITY*\* ​ Adding this section because I've been ignoring it. Read this article: https://getpocket.com/a/read/2496701934 ​ And it really got me thinking about my "type." I've always been an artist, a musician. I've been in bands forever. I'm in a fucking band right now, playing two sold out shows in March, playing a sold out show in Europe in the spring, doing a west coast tour in the summer. People love the shit I produce. ​ This used to be the driving force in my life, and I've shunted …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:14 PM
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YoooooOOOOOoooooo Let's do this. **BODY*\* ​ Better week this week than last week. No major incidences of going off plan or eating like a fucking goon. ​ Had two "cheat meals" but kept them within the numbers. ​ Hit the gym all four days, including one day where I don't normally go (had to make up for missing another day). So I accommodated life and still hit my goals. That is sometimes hard to do with the family in tow. ​ I'm officially eating in surplus for the first time in about a year. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 02:14 PM
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I actually still take a lot of data, but it's important to use it in the right way. There are leading indicators and lagging indicators in your marriage, as with anything else. Bundling the numbers into some kind of subjective "score" lets you feel good about success that may not be earned. Your 68% score here tells me nothing. Spending too much time on lagging indicators ("How much sex am I having?") can just make you depressed. Tracking things like "Did I lift?" and "Did I initiate?" and "Did …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 07:38 PM
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It’s a term d’art on this sub, not an indication of actual alcohol consumption.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 06:49 PM
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You are focused on what you want to avoid. When a car spins out, they tell you to look where you want to go....not at the wall. Why? Because when you look at the wall - even if all you want to do is avoid it - you’ll subconsciously drive towards it. Focus on what you WANT. Not on what you don’t. Your stress and inability to enjoy yourself will bring about the exact outcome you don’t want.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 12:35 AM
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What do you mean your kid was “planned by me”? Did you....impregnate your wife without her knowing?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:51 PM
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Ehhh, Frank in the comics has always been a mosh mash of stuff. The show take a very “Lobe Wolf and Cub” approach and there’s plenty of that in the books. You can contrast that with “Punisher MAX” where shit gets so dark Frank realizes he’s actually happy his family is dead, since it allows him to go on killing. Fast forward to today, and he’s fucking Ghost Rider. In space. Man, I love comic books
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 08:49 PM
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You need options. Everything in this post says, “I have no better option.” Get a better option, and suddenly “holding frame” will be a lot easier. It’s not about her. It never is. It’s about us - what we settle for, and what we give up on.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 07:45 PM
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Assuming this is the view you want challenged: "If you are a man who wants sex, it only makes sense to stay with a woman up until the point where she stops being sexually generous." This is true if your sole goal in life is to maximize your sexual access. There may come a time at which you desire something else - long-term, stable companionship with someone you enjoy, kids, deeper levels of intimacy, social standing, whatever. At that point, the question becomes not "how do I arrange my relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 04:01 PM
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I had no idea how to log anything so I called it a "cheat day". What do people think of them? Useful tool or cop out? They can be as useful as anything else, when they are planned for in advance. This wasn't a cheat day, it was you losing control. Own it and deal with it. My future just feels so bleak. My fellow captains and I need to put in all this effort and keep it up for the rest of our lives, meanwhile our ungrateful wives get to reap all these benefits and contribute far less than us. Bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 02:05 PM
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A couple hours later, both finally calmed, we cleared the air and got back on the same page. She really is a fucking child and I hate saying that because it sounds so demeaning. I recognize I haven't really communicated my boundaries ; mainly because I wasn't really sure what they were. I must make this a priority. ​ You don't need to "communicate" your boundaries to her. Your boundaries are for YOU. They are internal rules, things that YOU will do when faced with certain situations. The person …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:59 PM
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Check out the divorce material in the sidebar, if you haven't already. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:55 PM
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Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. My suggestion, if you feel like taking it, would be to limit your areas of focus. Right now would be a good time to focus on YOU. ​ Obviously, you keep being a dad, going to work - the things you already do. But focus on one thing that you want to change up. Maybe it's just getting to the gym. Maybe it's changing up your breakfast, or part of your diet. Focus your energy on building positive momentum - not for someone else, not because of someone else. F…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:54 PM
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All this considered, I am experiencing something that is outside my understanding. I’m getting episodes of depression. Yesterday I felt down. The day before I felt down. Not just, ah it’s a bit of a tough day down, but really, really down. Doesn’t last the whole day, and it goes away. Third time I’ve felt this way in the last two weeks. It concerns me as I cannot pinpoint why I am feeling like this. Having JUST gone through this... It's physical. Everything is. Could be the season (if you're in …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:49 PM
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Much stronger week this week, feeling back to my normal self. ​ **BODY*\* ​ Went off plan one day this week; didn't affect my weight at all. Overall my plan adherence was much higher than normal and I felt good about it. Bought some more food for meal prep; I have consumed so much protein powder over the last two years that even thinking about it makes my stomach turn. Invested in a Misto for adding small amounts of fat to meats to make it more palatable. Looking for high protein, low-fat and ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 01:46 PM
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If it were 100% false, then nobody in a non-cohabiting LTR would ever get bored with the other person. Which is false. Although nothing in this universe is ever 100%, I am 100% certain that, yes, people who live together become more "familiar" than people who don't, which was the point. You are assuming that people need to live together to get familiar with each other. I am NOT assuming that. But I AM assuming that spending every waking moment together makes you more familiar than not. Familiari…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 05:56 PM
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a flash of revulsion when she sees your fat belly It would take a pretty monumental amount of disconnection to hear the above and think "Ah yes - this is merely a statement about her dislike of a certain category of the human physical form, in which I am currently classified, but out of which I could move at any time. It would be silly to take that personally." I don't mind my wife saying, "I hate sucking dicks." I mean, I wish she loved it, but I am not personally hurt by that. It's MRP that cl…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 05:32 PM
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So the problem is not "over-familiarity"; the women who don't live with their man are just as "overfamiliar" with him as the ones who do. This is 100% false. The amount of time spent in close proximity to someone you live with compared to someone you don't is huge. Even if you assumed that the couple spends all day, every single day together, but sleeps in different places, the difference is massive. Once she moves in, she knows that she's got you and it is much harder for you to find another wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 05:27 PM
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The woman doesn't need to be narcissistic, especially in a clinical sense. But her desire is. Female desire is all about being desired, about inspiring acts of disinhibition. "Rape fantasies" aren't fantasies about rape, they're fantasies about inspiring someone to lose control. "I'm so beautiful, he can't control himself" = narcissism. To be clear, I don't view this as a good or bad thing. Narcissism carries a pretty heavy set of connotations that are unfortunate in this instance.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 05:21 PM
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I’m not sure I see how this is some kind of advertisement for hypergamy (granted, of all the RP tropes I am most skeptical of hypergamy in general). For example, it’s not clear that this guy is a “beta partner;” for one, we know almost nothing about him. Secondly, their sex frequency is high (3x week). Hardly a dead bed room caused by a dad bod. Another problem with the hypergamy explanation is the study, noted in the article, that found that female sex drive did NOT drop off after a year when t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 01:23 PM
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I don’t need support on safe topics! If all were talking about things with no downside then we aren’t really opening up. I’m NOT open with my employees, and I can’t be open with my wife. That said, we both seem to be saying more or less the same thing. I just need to make sure I find ways of letting all this out without dying of a fucking ulcer at 40.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 12:48 AM
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I have and I’m “low for the internet.” I’ve put some lifestyle changes in place and will be getting retested soon to see if I can bring it up a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 11:13 PM
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Good question. I actually track my sleep every night with the Oura ring. My sleep quality was noticeably fucked up after I got sleep two weeks ago. Not sure if that was caused BY the oncoming depression or the cause OF it. I’m getting back to normal. I do take magnesium and D supplements, but not for sleep necessarily. I also have been taking melatonin recently but may be overdoing it. (I love the Olly brand chewables - they are amazing).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 08:55 PM
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She’s not cruel; she just loses her temper with the kids. I would too, in her place. I don’t blame her for it and she’s working on it. That said, I need to do a better job of nipping it in the bud when I’m present. I tend to back her up with the kids, even when I don’t agree with her exact approach...is being on “team parents” and so on. But that’s bullshit. My kids, my family. No one is on my tram but Me, and I need to act like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:09 PM
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There’s a pretty big difference between “nobody likes when you say mean ass shit about them, regardless of whether it’s true” and “you can’t depend on the other person for support.” None of the shit I was talking about was about HER. I was just being open about my own experience. I provide emotional support for her; I’d do the same for anyone I loved, friend, lover, whatever. It doesn’t go the other way. It is what it is. I shouldn’t have opened up. She’s not my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:06 PM
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This was a rough, rough week. ​ Looking back on my daily tracking (I use the app Exist to keep a short, few-line daily journal of what each day was like), I noticed something pretty obvious: Tons of brain fog every single day, super low qualitative rating of my mood, got very little done. ​ All that's the hallmark of a minor depressive episode. I get these every now and then - it's been a while, but man, this one came on hard and kicked me right in the fucking balls. I didn't even realize what w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:43 PM
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This is basic, basic MRP terminology. I suggest checking out the sidebar reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/19 02:13 AM
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Oh, my wife was great. It’s just in my head. I’ve always had trouble accepting help, or people doing things for me. Uncomfortable being waited on. Who knows why - feel like that’s a pretty common New England Anglo Saxon thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/19 02:51 PM
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Thanks for all the posts and comments. This one was a doozy to read. Best of luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 03:35 PM
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That threw me - just when I thought I had it all figured out, I felt like I was back at square one. So I did what anyone would do... Yup, I get it - ordered a shit ton of taco bell and settled in for a long night of Fallout 4 and jerking off. ...I said "fuck that" and went on drug fuelled bender for about two months. Cocaine, MDMA, weed, Ketamine and speed. F U C K Anyway, great catch up. Sometimes you need those lows to figure out what works. Happy you're back (I took a break and really benefit…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 03:08 PM
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So, I shut the fuck up and let him vent for a while. As we got to the front door I told him that I loved him, had his back, and together WE'LL get through this. I hugged him, at which point he just burst into tears. Being a parent fucking sucks sometimes. For now he's not seeking advice. He doesn't want opinions. So, I'm giving him his space with a watchful eye. I did print out the WISNIF Bill of Assertive Rights to give to him. I approached him once about it, asking if there was anything about …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:59 PM
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Jesus christ, is it FUCKING FEBRUARY ALREADY ​ This week was kind of a bust. Got sick early and was really knocked on my ass by a high temp, etc. ​ I find it very difficult to just rest when I'm sick. Always feel self-conscious about my wife stepping up to do shit I usually do, all that. Have to remind myself that I'm human, and when I'm sick helping with the kids is not actually helping. ​ I let getting sick knock me off my game. Missed the gym (understandable) and let that fuck up my eating. S…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:53 PM
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The very fact that you HAVE to “put in the work” to get your wife to want to fuck you proves my point. If you were unmarried and wanted to set up the best situation for you to be reliably laid, would you get married again? No. Because MONOGAMY IS TERRIBLE FOR SEXUAL DESIRE. It’s not an excuse, it’s accepting the reality that moving the needle is difficult. The whole post is about moving past resentment. I hadn’t done the work, and the work is hard. Stupid to whine and feel bad about it when that…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 12:46 PM
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I see your points for sure. I also struggle to make sure I’m not “moving the goal posts” and just settling for less in order to save my ego. To make it clear, I am not settling. But I was constantly filled with anger and resentment because I wasn’t getting the sex life I wanted (and still am not). I did some reading on what we actually know about female sexual desire - as in, what’s reconcilable, in a laboratory setting. And just about the only thing I found with any consistency is that sex driv…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 02:54 AM
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Ok, so - the fact that you put a question mark in between “happy” and “couples” yes me you probably don’t know many queer people. Yes! It turns out they are human beings, as well! Boy, howdy! Ball busting aside, this is a shitty situation. My gut feeling - based entirely off your (of course) biased take - is that she’s not “truly” gay, but instead driving herself nuts worrying about her more fluid sexuality. This is broadly true of women in general, and of course there is a lot of variation betw…
/r/askMRP03/02/19 01:40 PM
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If anything I worked on it less. I have no idea if this would work for other people, but I kind of “gave up” fixing things, fixing myself. I had a sustained backslide in diet, stopped all my RP stuff. I focused a lot on work (mostly because my business went through a very tough patch and needed my attention) I came out of it, looked around, and realized I felt way better. I had stopped letting anyone - even MRP - tell me how I should feel or what I should do. I’m not sure I could have forced tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 08:00 PM
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Lol - I didn’t say I’d be able to DO it! Just that I’d add it. Slow Gainz is the way
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 11:49 AM
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All dance, no monkey.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:57 PM
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What's the hardest exercise at the gym? Front door pulls. Man, is that ever the fucking truth. Welcome back! Thanks! Glad to be back.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:12 PM
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cheers!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:10 PM
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I can't actually hit ten pull ups anymore, even on my first set - they'll typically require rest in between. Once I hit ten I'll add one rep every day I do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 08:10 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again. I was raised to be a fucking autist with women. Stupid decisions beget stupid arguments beget my Wife not knowing what the fuck is going on and losing her mind. ​ Have some compassion for yourself. Your wife sounds intense (blaming you for the miscarriage is NOT ok) and you're doing your best. Doesn't mean lower your standards, but I doubt you need any additional shit-talk in your life. The lesson of being able to disconnect from her feelings is an extr…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 03:50 PM
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Well, hello there. It's been a long-ass time. ​ I took an extended leave from Reddit. Main reason for that was finding myself repeatedly sucked into an indignation-anger-depression cycle caused by the endless circle jerking pity party that can be the "Manosphere." MRP is one of the best parts of that world - but it was a HUGE help to disconnect and just focus on my own life. I already "knew" everything I needed to know, anyway. "Lift and stop being so god damned co-dependent" is advice that is b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 03:38 PM
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Speaking as someone who used to work from home, my productivity TRIPLED when I moved to an office. Coworking spaces are great, affordable, and expand your social circle with cool, ambitious people. I recommend them. Most will offer daily “drop in” rates as well as more permanent desk options. Secondly, you are not punishing your wife. This will NOT work. “Oh, you think I’m a boring piece of shit? Well, I’ll show YOU - I won’t hang around with you anymore!” This is the coping mechanism of a child…
/r/askMRP26/01/19 12:52 PM
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Ironically I read that post (super well done) and literally did not realize I was being quoted until the end. I think we still differ on a few points, but validation seeking is so universal to the human experience - ESPECIALLY the parts of it that intersect here - that it doesn’t really matter. Glad to be back! Taking a break has been great for me, but I’m ready to dip back in. Semi-ironically, I am far more “red” than I was last time I was on here.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 02:20 AM
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Hey, is it just me, or am I now the poster boy for validation-seeking? If so....well.....I guess I get a bit of validation from that. :D
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 08:00 PM
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all of which probably boils down to "not enough dread," which I completely agree with.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:21 PM
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Marking down a quick thought: This is all Nice Guy and covert contract on your part. I also take the active role in physical pleasuring far more than my wife, but entirely because I enjoy doing so, not to earn reciprocation. In truth, I only pleasure her in ways that I enjoy, and when I'm enjoying it; doing this is already my reward. It's bullshit to "give" for your own pleasure, and then expect a second reward for your "sacrifice". I generally give only what I want to give; my wife gives only w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:20 PM
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I enjoy these discussions with you because my wife also seems not naturally very sexual (with/because of me maybe?) Even though my wife almost never refuses me, I'm also still working on getting her more active and engaged sexually with me, so discussions with you often prompt me to think through certain things in useful new ways. Hopefully you get something from the exchange as well. I get a huge amount from it, and if I haven't said it before, thanks for always putting in the effort in the com…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:15 PM
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Hadn't ever seen that post and man, I notice some parallels to where I'm at right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:03 PM
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This is an interesting question that I'm trying to wrap my head around. If I read the question correctly ("Differentiated" meaning being able to experience my wife's emotional or sexual issues or frustrations without myself becoming emotional or frustrated), then no, probably not. I let her sexual rejections of me affect my own self-image and feelings. It's hard for me, honestly, to imagine a state in which the woman I'm married to can reject me for several days in a row without it affecting me.…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/18 07:50 PM
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Thanks for the in depth and thought provoking post. I very much get where you're going, and I think that the need for validation is certainly a factor. I'm still struggling a bit, though. Doesn't feel like a perfect match. For example, I'm talking about the sum total of MANY sexual encounters, not ONE sexual encounter. Yes, I could get off with my wife just laying there, not blowing me, etc - and have, and enjoyed myself. But if that behavior is PERMANENT, I find it harder and harder to enjoy - …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/18 07:48 PM
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insist that you go down on her? demand an orgasm? And before yours? respond negatively to passionate "I desire you so much I must fuck you hard now" Emotion after some foreplay and arousal? reject Dominance from you, or Dominance without intermingled Emotional play as per SGM? No to the first two, yes to the last two. She seems uncomfortable in her own sexuality and is very resistant to ANY dominant stuff (I've incorporated some very mild things like holding her hands above her head in missionar…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 06:56 PM
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hahaha - it's basically that, but they're orange. Yes, they look dorky. But sleep is king.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 06:53 PM
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Very, very common trends: - pushing on despite clear signals of lack of interest - no other options, fixation on a single person - sexual forwardness despite lack of enthusiasm - use of guilt to persuade - approaching indirectly, often through other people - switch to anger and threats/accusations when rejected ^^^ Don't do any of this shit. I mean, I would add Be attractive Have options ....But that's like, on the sidebar, and stuff
/r/askMRP04/10/18 12:56 PM
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I think that's 100% what I would do if I was more secure. In the past I've over-talked things and in general I've tried to move away from "having a conversation" about it. It hasn't worked, and I don't think I'm where I want to be when I decide to use that approach again.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 12:37 PM
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I totally agree with the validation angle - not the first time it's come up for me, obviously. (The symmetry thing is also totally there, but I think that's still got validation at it's root). Thinking through it a bit, it seems like a few things are happening: There's a certain amount of validation seeking happening in any serious relationship; there's a special joy in the experience of being chosen and desired by YOUR desired partner. Nothing wrong there. Then there's insecurity-driven validat…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/18 12:36 PM
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he never talks about what he wants, only what someone in his position should want. This is the entire thing in a single sentence.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 08:55 PM
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OYS #9,456 ​ Overall, a good week, but having issues I need to address. I've felt a bit lost, and am needing to come back to myself a bit. ​ **BODY*\* ​ Lots of stuff to dig into here. ​ My physical regimen has been literally nothing since my herniated disc - really got the fear of god put into me by that, and by worrying about re-injuring it. ​ I've been reading through Stuart McGill's books - finished Back Mechanic and am now halfway through The Gift of Injury. GOI, in particular, is a good re…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 08:41 PM
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This comment was a bit glib. But seriously, don't. You're incredibly co-dependent. You're not happy. You're ALREADY looking outside the relationship for something you can't find within. Do. Not. Get. Married. Not fair to you, or to her, or to your future kids. Don't.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 06:24 PM
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Hey, ​ Don't get married. Sincerely, - Literally The Universe Slapping You In The Fucking Face
/r/askMRP23/09/18 06:23 PM
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ahhhh got it. Fair enough. My life is, and has been, SIGNIFICANTLY higher performing than average for a long time. This is why areas where I progress slowly really drive me bat shit crazy. I'm used to making plans, executing them, and moving on. I don't like being bad at things.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:18 PM
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That's all noise inside your head. What your wife sees: too much of a pussy to lead. How do you tell the difference between "I'm not committing enough, need to lean into it more," and "wow, she really is not into this - I need to work on myself more"? I ALWAYS lean towards working on myself, but I'm self aware enough to know that that's the easier road for me.
/r/askMRP19/09/18 08:06 PM
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make it huge? I'M SPOILING THIS JOKE BY NOT GETTING IT AND IT'S KILLING ME
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:05 PM
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I get that it's temporary, but it still sucks, right? That said, it may be time to dip back into the stoics. It's been a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:04 PM
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Awesome, thanks for posting this - I had a vague memory of a back-pain book getting passed around here. Cheers!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:03 PM
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This is still a huge mental block for me. The few times I've given a direct "order" in bed she's directly pushed back ("don't tell me what to do," etc). This is a huge weak point in my personality in GENERAL - I hate being pushed around, and I don't love doing it to others. Just comes back to "not attractive enough yet," I guess.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 08:05 PM
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This was a SHIT week. I herniated a disc and couldn't walk for days. My son had to go to the ER with asthma brought on by a cold. My wife was stressed up to her eyeballs, managing both kids while I was bedridden, not sleeping, etc. I missed work. I missed the gym. Everything fucking sucked. But, somehow, I feel good. The herniated disc...it focused me somehow. I'd been taking my relative health totally for granted. I always skip warming up, stretching, mobility, because I want to be in and out a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 07:26 PM
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There's the dissonance. Is that cognitive dissonance? I think there's a place where "I can't solely rely on my wife to take care of all my sexual needs" and "my wife does want to have sex sometimes, and I enjoy that" can coexist, no? Why are you letting the rejections get to you?!? You've been here for what seems like forever, you know the drill. I do know the drill, but making it a felt reality is a different thing altogether. Still a work in progress, and something I have to consciously work t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 01:51 PM
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I'm sure you're right, but what are you reacting to, exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 06:56 PM
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haha - I haven't already been through it, if by "it" you mean cheating on my wife. I'm basically just picturing dating, but with the added layer of difficulty of trying to do it in secret, alongside everything else I already do. If I wasn't getting any sex at all, I would consider that. But that's not the case at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 08:45 PM
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Hahaha that is great. Was she hot? Was it expensive? How did you find one? I've looked, but its sketchy as fuck in general. She was older but but cute - very attractive. With tip it was about 100$, so not the cheapest thing ever, but I got a legit massage with it that was very relaxing, place was clean, etc, so overall the value was there. I looked on rubmaps.com - and went with a place that had a long history of positive reviews with a consistent pattern (i.e., many people had gone and reported…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:41 PM
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Perhaps your view will change after a few more rub and tugs. I know mine did. Maybe! But I dislike having to hide anything. If I was open about it, that'd be one thing - but my time is pretty well-taken up between business, family, and self-improvement. We'll see how things change.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:37 PM
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From experience, paying for it doesn't do it for me. Sure you get the physical release but there's no hunt. Men need to hunt. Meh. That holds little to no attraction to me whatsoever. Not to mention the hassle and stress of hiding/covering tracks/whatever. Just not interested in investing that much effort into sex outside of any other kind of relationship. The ROI isn't there, for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 06:56 PM
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The dishes have 0 bearing on whether she fucks you or not. Stress does. Dirty house = stress. Doesn't mean, "if i wash the dishes, she will fuck me." Also doesn't mean, "she will never fuck me if the dishes are dirty." But it's a factor, just like hormones, exhaustion, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:47 PM
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That's a good point. I feel like "beta" is read as "codependent," which is many folks real issue (was certainly mine). The "answer" becomes "kill the beta", which turns people into autistic morons." Dividing things into "grows attraction / kills attraction" re-shapes the debate. Is doing dishes sexy? No. Does a kitchen filled with dirty dishes have the potential to throttle a woman's sex drive? Yes. But "doing the dishes is BETA." I don't know - it can be useful but unfortunately ideas take on l…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:08 PM
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Next... I watched real TV on the weekend, something I never do because who the fuck watches real TV, but I was bowled over by the commercials. Every single commercial, including the big-as-fuck-truck commercials, showed women, minority women, and only one thoroughly beta father. Sure inclusion, blah blah blah, no need to have dick in pussy pad commercials... But a truck commercial? And the only penis is a flabby ass father with (I can only hope) his kid in a commercial for something I can’t reme…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:52 PM
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I was thinking this - she may need / want that dynamic and create it subconsciously. Maybe he can make her chase him.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:47 PM
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The diet is punishing my T levels. Work has been super stressful of late, I’m at the peak of a project but I’m a few weeks away from it winding down. ​ Fat in the diet has a pretty significant role in hormonal regulation, as I understand it. If you're really focused on cutting this could definitely be the case. Stress does the same - kills testosterone. Might want to get some blood work done, especially before coming to any conclusions about your relationship. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:43 PM
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Had a good week! And a weird experience. ​ I'll just dig into this upfront. I went to a massage parlor and got a happy ending. It'd been a while, wife was turning down initiations. So I just decided to go. ​ Went, had a very nice massage with the added weirdness of being fucking naked around someone other than my wife. She jerked me off, I left. The whole thing was strange. But I wanted to do it and I did it. ​ For me, I'm just done completely relying on my wife for sexual release. I love my wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:41 PM
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I am stressed out over money. I'm self-employed and it's been really tight for the last 6 months. Plus my $10k push failed. I've got projects lined up for the rest of 2018, but I'm at absolute zero. Still I'm incredibly proud of my output this year and I've built a great portfolio to push for bigger clients. Time to let 2018 alone and start aiming high for 2019. Also need to let my assistant go, his attitude is toxic. What happened here? The answer is always to raise your prices, as my business …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 08:20 PM
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Sex twice last week. ​ And yes, but of course, that's the point - the hedonic goal post moves as things progress. ​ The problem I have right now is splitting the difference between unconditional acceptance ("everything's cool, even though I'm not where I want to be") and my natural goal orientation ("We're having more sex but she won't blow me, FUCK"). ​ I need regular reminders to just focus on the process and not the end-goal. ​
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 08:17 PM
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Fortunately my son was too young to understand what was happening. But if he was older he would have seen his dad being told what to do by another angry man and then submitting to the man's will. Was my biggest error climbing on the railing and endangering all of the other mom's children? If yes, then perhaps submitting to this Alpha man was the best option that I could have done. Am I wrong? What would you have done? ​ Is....is this post real? "competed in mma" "itching for some fun" "give him …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 05:38 PM
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I'M LATE! But god damn it I'm posting. Absolutely CRAZY couple of weeks. Moved into the new house, then immediately took off for a week in Paris with just the wife and I. Had an amazing time, but am SO, SO excited to just settle in to the new house, get back on my diet plan, rebuild my routine and habits, etc. I love vacation, but I also love my day to day life. (note: trying a slightly different format) Rate the week (out of 5): 5 What were you grateful for this week? Trip to Paris. This was a …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 03:30 PM
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Men are taught to be terrified of - and disconnected from - their emotions. Emotions are a far deeper and more powerful warning system than anything the conscious and rational mind can produce. The "stoic" ideal of floating above emotions is unhealthy and disconnected from reality. I put "stoic" in quotes because I feel like this has to do a lot more with the modern conception of stoicism than the real thing. Feels like we're due for a return to an ideals of masculinity embodied in the passions …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 12:22 AM
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This nails a central theme here. I spent a lot of time obsessing about "boundaries" and how to enforce them...but like some kind of zen fucking koan, at some point you realize you realize the whole thing is a dead end, a maze of unenforceable "rules" that literally no one gives a shit about.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 12:19 AM
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There is no purpose to life. You are irrelevant and insignificant. So is everyone else. Any "mission" or "vision" has no point or purpose beyond expanding your own personal power or enjoyment. If you feel like you need to move beyond raw pleasure or enjoyment, I suggest you dedicate yourself to helping others - the only act that's been shown time and time again to increase our sense of connection and meaning. Other than that, we are just Doubting Apes.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 12:11 AM
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kids, specifically when they play-bite me or hit me is totally unacceptable behavior from anyone. not sure why your tolerating this. Oh, I don't accept it - I take them out of the situation, time outs, talk to them, whatever the situation is. My concern is that, for that flash of a moment, I'm not in control. I have a COMPLETELY overblown reaction. They're 2 and 4. They're the ones who don't have the prefrontal cortex. i'll keep saying it. she's too comfortable because she knows you will accept …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/18 08:21 PM
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I was like, "whoa - dude is taking OYS posts to some new, fucked up mystery level"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 02:04 PM
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What's up with this post? Note to yourself? Initiations/escalations are a huge work in progress for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:58 AM
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I just can’t see myself not wanting to fuck in 20 years from now when I’m 57 – but will she? Will I even find her attractive? Will be my only options at that point be an affair, a sugar baby, hookers? People can't even accurately predict their own behavior tomorrow. Maybe just leave twenty years from now for twenty years from now. The process takes care of itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:51 AM
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It's incredibly hard to do, but it's 100% spot on advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:47 AM
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WE FUCKING FINALLY CLOSED ON THE NEW HOUSE THIS WEEK. Probably won't be able to move in for another few weeks, but jesus lord, that is a huge weight off my shoulders. I cannot wait to get back to normal. **BODY*\* I continue to build momentum on getting healthy habits back (disrupted by the move). Got three sessions in at the gym and definitely noticed the pump. Felt good. Also starting to get my DL up towards "feels heavy" range again - hurt myself at 235, I'm now back at 205. Also been eating …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 12:44 AM
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Got it. The sheer amount of co-dependence in my life is way, way down. It's very noticeable to me - I'm emotional by nature and still have a lot of ups and downs, but it's far less dependent on OTHER people's emotional states. I still want my wife to give blowjobs, though. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/18 01:48 PM
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I mean, I agree, but what specifically makes you say that?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 06:38 PM
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>your change sounds haphazard and ineffective. In the business? It's more a case of cascading necessities... We needed to bring together all client communications in one place. So we changed our CRM. New CRM brings a new PM set up, so we switched to that. That breaks the backend, so automations need to be changed. While we're doing that, spot the problems in on-boarding. Fix those. New service and website - well, those were poor timing, admittedly. I absolutely did under-estimate the effect the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/18 05:26 PM
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haha...well... I had this conversation today with someone, and I honestly think i was getting a bit bored. Subconsciously I created an environment that is no longer boring. I've been running a mile a minute, but also having a ton of fun. I'm in my element. Still, I'm at a point where I need to regroup, cut things back...periods of stress, followed by periods of rest. Going into rest time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 06:55 PM
1

Very true. I think I just get wrapped up in the work I'm doing - whether that's actual work or self-improvement work or whatever. I will say my therapy has REALLY driven any kind of "fear" i had of my wife or her emotions way, way down. I don't LIKE when she's pissed, but I'm far more likely to "let her be uncomfortable," as the doc says. I'm not doing a good job of having fun, even on my own. Just had my head down, trying to get through. Something to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 06:54 PM
1

i've come to the realization (DUH) that i should not do or say anything that makes my wife feel bad because of decisions she makes. i neg the fuck out of her; but that's completely different. she's not stupid and knows what i want almost all the time. i'm going to do me; and she's going to do her. turns out when i adopt this mindset, she wants to do me a lot more. This was really well encapsulated. I'm way too serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 12:59 AM
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A stressful week. Lots of change and transition...but a lot of real, tangible progress. Feeling good. In the middle of a move (out of the old house, in a temporary house) which makes everything difficult. **BODY*\* Much stronger week for the physical side of things. Finally found a place and got back into the gym. Two days back, doing 5x5; de-loaded a fuck ton because it's been a while (I was injured before we moved). That's frustrating, but I keep reminding myself that being hurt sucks waaaay m…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 12:53 AM
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This is RP - I assume they’re not my kids
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 12:59 AM
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that's true. babysitters get paid
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 02:23 PM
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I believe the implication in the post is that his wife subconsciously understood that he had made the decision to spin plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:04 PM
1

Bless me, Father Figure, for I have missed OYS last week. FUUUuuuuck the past few weeks have been a hectic mess. Moving from our old house into a temporary house (my wife's extended family, who are out of the country for a bit) because our new house doesn't close for another few weeks. Packing, with a 2 and 4 year old, must get it's own special place in the list of hell-tasks. Because of the kids my wife and I have been splitting time; she'll go to the house and pack while I babysit, then vice v…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/18 01:01 PM
1

Thanks for all the posts and comments, man. It's posters like you that make MRP a decent place to grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/18 12:17 AM
1

What I usually do on the rare occasions that I feel like that is just lift a little less weight. So if you're squatting 250 normally, for instance, maybe squat only 180 or 200. This is ABSOLUTELY what I should have done. Like most problems in the universe, lifting or otherwise, the ego got the better of me. Of course, now I HAVE to de-load, so the universe finds a way... You've been experiencing a lot of success in many areas, don't let this demotivate you. Consider it a cheat day and just get b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 02:55 PM
1

That presentation I had to do on the Civil war in 6th grade. Leeches and hacksaws bro - the cure for what ails you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 02:52 PM
2

Having been through a similar set up ....this is 100% true.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 07:12 PM
1

A weird week. **BODY** Pulled the shit out of a muscle in my back early in the week. I was working out early (not normal for me) in order to get a workout in. Wasn't feeling it - felt tired, out of it, etc...should've just gone home. Didn't want to "set a precedent" and miss a workout. Well, fucked up my back on the VERY last deadlift rep and of course ended up missing the entire week (not to mention awkwardly walking around like I had a ten foot pole shoved up my ass). Getting hurt, all the pre…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 07:11 PM
1

Literally 80% of my medical knowledge comes from episodes of House
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 06:55 PM
3

jesus fucking christ, that shit is BLEAK dude, get out. Please.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:47 PM
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I am mad at her on some level for not putting in more effort to please me, but the other part of me isn't mad at all since I can’t blame her if she’s not attracted to me- that’s my fault. I’m a little conflicted. Last time we fucked she initiated saying "I felt tingly"- so it can happen, it just doesn’t happen often enough right now for my needs. Sometimes I wonder if satisfaction is possible with her regardless of how attractive I become. Don't know about you, but for me, I've recently realized…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:44 PM
3

I got verbal vapor lock. I was so blinded by anger I couldn't come up with a response that wasn't something pissy or butthurt. So, I caved. FAIL. This is because you care more about the imagined power struggle between you then you do about what you're actually doing. It doesn't matter. Have better options. ^^ Easier said than done, of course, but you only lose if you play.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:40 PM
2

Though I am still not where I want to be, it amazes me how far I have come. Even still, there is so much work left to be done. I am approaching 15 years of marriage. I would complain to myself prior to discovering MRP how my wife just wasn't all that sexual. How I had never in my life received a blow job. In hindsight, my two major hold ups were first, being attractive or somebody that she wants to fuck. And second, taking initiate in the bedroom. My wife was a virgin at marriage. So, she was in…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:35 PM
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Sometimes I’ll take a drop of testosterone and rub it on my neck as a little extra cologne. I really think it works on plates, or perhaps it’s just a placebo effect bolstering my confidence. I’m fine either way. I know NOTHING about TRT, so take this for what it is: Isn't that actually really dangerous? I'd heard horror stories of trace amounts of T being absorbed into the skin of women/children and fucking up their hormonal balance.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:28 PM
2

A quiet week. /u/weakandsensitive said my OYS is getting boring, and I agree. Very, very little drama that is not completely self-inflicted. **BODY** Continuing through 5x5, hitting the diet plan, etc. I managed to find a place near me that does DXA scans, so I got that. Ladies and gentleman, my fucking SKELETON: https://imgur.com/a/kDw9Fcz Anywho, no major surprises. BF is around 20%; brown fat around organs was reported to me as "good;" slightly less bone density than I want but not in any sor…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 07:25 PM
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I meant that for me it’s a balance between owning my shit/taking responsibility/“it’s all on me,” and allowing her to chase/requiring her to put in the effort, etc. MRP essentially teaches “if your wife won’t fuck you it’s your fault.” And while that’s mostly true, I have a tendency of using that as an excuse to own HER shit as well as my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 12:35 PM
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she can't chase you if you're constantly chasing her. Over and over I have caught the pattern of myself overcompensating (allowing her to not put in any energy) and constantly pursuing her. The therapist pointed out that when I step back, she often steps in, though it's slow to happen. Again, nothing new, but MRP definitely plays into my "overcompensatory" tendencies....she doesn't want to fuck? I'M NOT BIG ENOUGH, I'M NOT STRONG ENOUGH, LET ME DO THE WORK! It's a balance.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 08:16 PM
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Move along, /u/resolutions316 ... there's nothing new to see here. Think it's feeling a bit different to me because it's sinking in in a more profound way. More and more I am noticing the difference between intellectually understanding something, and even being able to use/manipulate it, with truly internalizing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 08:14 PM
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How can you be so passionate and sure about your work and so fucked up about your mental part of origin? That's actually a rhetorical question for me. Something worth thinking about for you. This is the big question, and I have my suspicions. If I had to guess, I think a whole lot of my achievements in various areas in my life have been about trying to overcome my sense of not being enough. But we'll see. 99%+ of the time, it's all simulated risk, so what is there really to be afraid of? Especia…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 08:13 PM
3

OK - last week was a bit of a shit week. As with MOST of my shit weeks, my issues are largely internal. **BODY*\* Got all three gym days in despite very actively not wanting to. That's good! Only one BJJ, which is bad, but when the schedule gets hectic it's BJJ that gets cut, and I'm OK with that in theory. Diet wise stayed on plan - nothing much to speak of. Overall, like how I'm looking - as carbs come creeping back in I obviously look less lean, but I also feel much better in general. The cyc…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 11:44 PM
2

female nature I mean, any number of causes could coexist with the idea that it’s “female nature” to seek one partner for genes and another for resources and support (the AF/BB idea). I’m not sure “female nature” is a particularly useful idea in and of itself though. stated factors I was just pointing out that most of the factors you pointed out were short hand for “this is the dudes fault.” Which of course is always possible, but is no more or less likely than the RP narrative. It’s all just nar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 10:53 PM
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Sure, loss of sexual desire can be caused by many things. That doesn’t rule out RPs interpretation as being one of those factors, or even the predominant one. Nor does claiming a narrator bias, since I could simply point out that your own experience is no more valid, nor indicative of the majority, than anyone else’s. You, of course, make a LOT of suppositions about the men in question in your comment. One would assume that’s evidence of your own biases, but then again, we all have them and is h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 04:21 PM
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I sense your confusion. This is because you are assuming that the two relationships (casual/serious) differ primarily in the amount of connection/commitment involved. If that were so (or if most RP folks thought it were so) than I don’t think RP would be a thing. To understand the RP mindset, you need to understand that most of those people have had the experience that commitment and connection towards a woman DECREASES the amount of sex and attraction. Therefore the man selected for the LTR wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 03:04 PM
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I don’t think anyone is confused as to this. The examples pointed out validate the “AF/BB” theory within RP. To line this up with the current argument, “jerks” are being rewarded socially with sex - and evolutionarily with passing on their genes. “Nice guys” are rewarded with long term relationships - which, in the RP world view, means declining sexual access and the loss of resources. Thus, even if “nice guys” are “rewarded” with relationships, this is actually a loss when compared to the “jerk…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/18 02:48 PM
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Just stop. Take a breath. You’re so far up your own ass and pitying yourself that you can’t see the forest for the trees. Your wife isn’t the problem. Your self pity, and lack of confidence, is. Start slow. I see a lot of people mocking the “lift” advice in here. Those people are fucking morons. The reason “lift” is the advice is NOT because you need to be a hulking man beast to get laid. The reason “lift” is the advice is that it builds MOMENTUM. Making a plan. Executing the plan. Tracking your…
/r/askMRP21/06/18 01:00 AM
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It’s very difficult to initiate during the day, but I do give it a shot once or twice a week. Daytime initiations have very low success rate for me. Mostly it’s because our schedule is work, into kids, into cleaning up, into showers and so on. Logistically it can be tough (and doesn’t seem to be a scenario she’s particularly into). I have the best luck coming home during the middle of the day while the kids are napping, but if they don’t nap it’s a bust, and of course you can’t know ahead of tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 04:19 PM
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I mean, we could get into it, but I feel you’re making some kind of other point here. Geological data on global temperature is neither inferred nor dubious, nor is it restricted to the past 109 years...? Climate denial is one of those things that I find completely impossible to fathom. Then again, whether OP believes or not is beside the point. He just needs to get past the point of letting the internet decide for him. That includes me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 01:20 AM
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Funny how that seems to happen in these threads.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 01:16 AM
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Yeah, I’m terrible at that. And I’m not really sure of how to harness those in a healthy way. My personal path of improvement lies mostly in learning to be comfortable speaking my own truth; to speak up when I’m pissed or irritated instead of sublimating or repressing those feelings. I’m hoping that’s a “two birds, one stone” situation. Still hard as fuck for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 01:15 AM
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In this instance, I’m catching my stride with new marketing and starting to pull prospects into my orbit. For me, it means I’m enjoying what I’m doing and starting to see reactions/results. I see a very clear path to sales and that gets me excited.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 01:14 AM
1

Very true. I need to learn to appreciate relative improvement and focus on what I have, instead of just what I don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 10:27 PM
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OK....first of all.... Maybe just get off the internet for a while. You seem to think that because you had some whacked-out view of JP that reality is in question, and the best answer to that is to spend your time reading 4chan or InfoWars or some shit. Well, that's not a good idea. Maybe spend some time generating some feelings and opinions of your own, away from the internet. Secondly, JP is still a fucking idiot; and yes, I've consumed a ton of his shit. Yes, he sounds reasonable. Yes, he is …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 08:32 PM
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> who can also be quite viscous when needed those slimy-ass alphas still though, spot on about alpha-worship - it ceases to be helpful at all past a certain point.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 08:23 PM
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This was a weird week. Not great, but some real high points. **BODY** Not a great week for exercise. No BJJ (again - second week! not good) and only 2 sessions in the gym. Also played much faster and looser with my diet than I had planned to. That said, my weight stayed exactly the same, I enjoyed some rest time and time with friends/family. Not too stressed about it. But it DOES mean I need to not lose the thread and reconnect to why I'm doing all this shit in the first place. **RELATIONSHIPS**…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 08:19 PM
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Make something a goal, add a date. Resources and time magically appear to help you reach it. As usual, careful what you wish for. I feel like BJs, for us, are placed right a long some kind of relational fault line. It's a trigger for her in a lot of ways - and obviously for me as well. Hits both of our insecurities about our sex life, and represents (in our minds, anyway) some kind of major reorganization of power. That's the sense I get. All that to say - definitely making it a goal. But expect…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 12:49 PM
1

Hey thanks for mentioning that, I had to look it up. Looks like something I can indulge in once in a while, something different! It was a big help to me when I first started dieting. There's a huge psychological release - for me, anyway - when you "eat a pint of ice cream." Feels like cheating, scratches that itch, but it's only like 280 calories in the entire thing, and easy to fit into my macros. Only you know for sure, but is it possible that therapy is holding you back at this point? Like, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/18 12:47 PM
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Solid week - more emphasis on rest than normal, but really needed it. Still putting in lots of work. **BODY*\* Weights: Continuing with getting back into 5x5, as described in earlier posts. Enjoying it a lot. The addition of the bonus exercises is really nice. I'm enjoying getting back into pull ups, specifically. Not much to say otherwise; 3 days is actually a slower schedule for me, but it's been a BIT tricky scheduling in the rest days. Still, rest days really feel necessary, since I'm hittin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 07:20 PM
2

Hugely beneficial. My income goes up every time I do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 06:03 PM
2

MORE EXCEL JOKES
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 06:02 PM
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I’m going to read this post regularly as I deal with my own “haven’t been blown in 5 years and wife says she hates it” crisis
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 05:59 PM
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All the replies this week have been really, really good at reminding me that it’s relative change that I need to pay attention to. It’s super easy for hedonic adaptation to kick in and make me forget how far I’ve come. Still a long way to go - but that never really changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/18 03:31 PM
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however, since you see this cycle so frequently let's entertain some other explanations that you can mull and test. the one that comes to mind is she finds you more attractive when your quite/brooding/mysterious (i.e. think James Dean). you may be being to open when your on and killing any mystery. is her dad the strong silent type? Interesting. I’m not sure it’s “man of mystery,” but I do think she likes a bit of drama, which I don’t naturally provide, being naturally easygoing. As for her dad,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 11:40 PM
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It’s the CONSISTENCY CONSISTENCY + SLURS = RESULTS
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 12:58 AM
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I heard a story about the woman who started the first online incel community; she was a lesbian, struggling with social anxiety and coming out, and wanted to help folks with similar issues. She spoke a lot about how the community disintegrated over time because the people that solved their problems - who were able to move past their identity as “incel” - didn’t stick around. They moved on. That left the community comprised of those least willing to change, and most likely to become bitter over t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 12:07 AM
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while i understand the soy boys interact in a different world; all the bros i know IRL are just like MRP EC's and behave the same way. no i'm not exaggerating. Definitely don't get me wrong - the whole "make social matrix" thing is real. I tell my wife stories about dudes at BJJ busting my balls (My jiu jitsu nickname is "Rain Man" because they say I'm "like rain man, but not good at math"). She always shakes her head and says that's a shame...and I reply "No, you don't get it - that means they …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 02:50 PM
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MRP's early history has nothing to do with it. it's how MEN interact with each other; when there not actually pining for some sloot. This is true, but MRP very deliberately cultivates that tone as a pre-emptive measure to keep most people out. That was (at least to my knowledge - I wasn't actually here so I could be wrong) a conscious decision, rather than as a totally natural occurrence.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 02:10 PM
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It's super interesting to me, /u/the-noose, how similar the essence of our situations are...so I'm going to write what is essentially a letter to myself, a year ago. I can feel you struggling with the "political" aspects of MRP - mentioning misogyny, the judgement from the outside, the struggling with the "why" and "how" of everything. It'll help if you realize a few things: - There's no one "goal" of being here (other than to have more and better sex, whatever that means to you). You don't HAVE…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 12:54 PM
1

I thought the exact same thing.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 03:52 PM
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Pretty decent week. **BODY** Second week back on 5x5, realized you can add support exercises in on the app. Excellent - did that, liked the bit extra. For those using the app, I personally find it to be the best workout tracker I've used - it's dead simple, easy to use during the workout, and syncs with apple health. Pro version was an absolute no brainer. Liking the workouts, appreciate the shorter gym time. Still figuring out exactly how to balance the 3 on-3 off rhythm with BJJ, but in genera…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 03:10 PM
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Actually, this is not a rough crowd. At all. Secretly, the dudes here are super helpful, honest, and open about their own difficulties. Everyone is rooting for success. It’s only “tough” if what you want is not help but a pat on the back. Personally, I disagree with like 50% of the shit on here. But I’m sick of pats on the back. Honest feedback is a much rarer resource.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 07:05 PM
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I’m finding a lot of great information just in the in depth explanations and diagrams.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 12:23 AM
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Oh no - I went WAY back. That’s fine. I’m not in a rush. Want to get re-acclimated.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:53 PM
1

Cool - I was thinking something very similar. In the beginning I just took advice on face value because I was more concerned with building the habit of lifting in the first place. Now that I’m no longer concerned with quitting or losing the habit, I want to be more informed about what I’m doing. I picked up Starting Strength by Rippetoe but haven’t really gotten into it yet. I’ll pick up 5/3/1 as well! Lots of guys just download an app and do what the app says. There's usually a reason behind wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 05:18 PM
1

Not the best week in terms of raw performance, but a very good week in terms of re-assessing where I'm at and reconnecting with goals. That process seems to recur every 4-5 months or so. **BODY** Lifting: After posting last week about leaving my personal trainer, I switched back to 5x5 to explore lifting heavy again. Despite lifting VERY light for the past 6 months or so, ego still flares up when deciding what weight to put on the bar. I de-loaded to half of where I left off with 5x5 (my PR cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 03:53 PM
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First of all, jesus fucking christ dude. Stop with the poetry and the drama. I know you're all up in your head, but do yourself a favor and strip, in your mind, all importance from your situation. Just chill the fuck out. This coming directly from someone whose first posts here were RIFE with dramatic language and hyperbole. Secondly, if your wife is manipulating or hurting your daughter, you need to fucking end it. Your assessment of the world as being run by "feminist bitches" sounds like pure…
/r/askMRP29/05/18 03:07 PM
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In my experience you will get more mileage by zeroing in on what you want to learn and finding subject specific sources.
/r/askMRP29/05/18 12:12 PM
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This is possible, though he’s been a big help in helping me to understand how to actually target specific muscles. I certainly am not very kinesthetic. It’s incredibly hard for me, for example, to feel/know if my pec is flexed, that kind of thing. Part of the reason I’m pursuing BJJ is development of physical awareness. That and tuning into my own emotions in the moment, being able to express emotions - It’s all tied together. Not sure why. But that’s going to be a lifetime of work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/18 06:12 PM
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I have, simmering deep inside me, a 5,000 word essay on how fucking weird Sir Topham Hatt and the entire dystopian universe of Sodor really are Every day, I struggle against the urge to post it I am a true American hero
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/18 11:56 AM
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I was actually lifting heavy for the first 8 months or so. I didn’t make the switch randomly - I was dealing with injuries and had hit a plateau in strength. That said, what I switched to clearly didn’t deliver what was promised. I’m a stubborn son of a bitch - I often just need to learn for myself. Not optimal, I know. Edit: to clarify, I agree with your post. Reading back over this it felt DEERy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 08:58 PM
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Great recap. Lots of work went in here.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 08:56 PM
2

Cool thanks for all the resources. Hip flexors have come up many times and I agree that’s most likely the issue. I hadn’t heard of the grok squat, but my wife and kids can all do this effortlessly - we say they have the “Asian squat” gene. I can’t get anywhere near there without tipping over, but I can work on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/18 10:08 PM
1

Ahhhhhh. Awesome, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/18 06:04 PM
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I know the feeling - you WANT to not need the validation, you feel like you’re not SUPPOSED to need the validation - but you still need it and are hurt when she withholds it. Then you beat yourself up for it. Lots of good advice in here, so I won’t repeat it. Instead, I’ll say: OF COURSE you want validation from the woman you’re married to. Very natural. Yes, you fucked it up. yes, that’s normal too. If you weren’t fucking it up you wouldn’t be here. fuck up all you want. Half of MRP is just dud…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 04:28 PM
2

When you say V here, you are referring to a large chest and tapered waist?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/18 04:18 PM
1

Here are my current macros for reference: Protein: 171 Fat: 62 Carb: 75 After an initial drastic calorie cut I’ve been slowly reintroducing carbs. I don’t feel fat now - I’m much leaner than I’ve ever been. But I was much higher BF% before I started working my numbers. I do think I’m getting to the point where I need to head in the other direction. I’m going to keep upping my calories for the foreseeable future.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 07:52 PM
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How long do you have to get negligible results before you'll realize this isn't working and actually make a change? Well, I wanted to give his approach it's due, and see for myself. As I've said, while there's a consensus on here about lifting heavy, I wasn't seeing that in real life. But, you can't argue results, and I really haven't gained much muscle mass. That may be because of my own fuck-upery, or it may have been the plan. I certainly think it's time to switch the plan up and see what hap…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 05:58 PM
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Or just know what your main thing is. If it’s finding new content to promote, awesome. It’s just ridiculous how when you start making money, opportunities to make MORE money start to fall in your lap...but it’s almost always a trap if it’s not your Main Thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 12:33 PM
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Oh nice link. Thanks for passing that on
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 11:37 AM
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Oh you definitely need big ideas. I was talking more about focus. You build your big media company....you’re crushing it.... And then, people start to come to you, money in hand, that aren’t PERFECT fits...but you totally could work with them.... And you specialized in social media....but this print company wants to partner with you... On and on and on...all great opportunities that take you SLIGHTLY off course, diluting your focus. And suddenly you’re spread too thin.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 11:36 AM
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Well, I switched over to 5x5 this evening, so I’ll eat that for a while and see how everything looks/feels. Trainer is a friend, and I’ve certainly thought of that. But I don’t think that’s the primary reason. He provides a very rational/logical sounding argument for his approach; it’s also very clear that he eats his own cooking, and he’s the strongest/most muscled person I know, so there’s an “argument from authority” thing going on as well. Hard to argue with the results though. I look pretty…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 12:23 AM
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