Been posting (I know I got a shit load of work to do) been reading like a mad man WISNIFG I'm almost done. It's so long so in between I've been reading more into frame since it's been a difficult thing for me.

I started by defining what frame I want as soon as I enter a room. Or leave my place etc.

"If my SO argues with me I will keep calm"

Now a while back she told me she was getting a boob job. It was way out of left field and I didn't even know how to react besides I hate that fake shit on women. She's 24 and doesn't need a boob job and for what. I didn't say anything like that because it's her body she can do what she wants. But at the time it was very tough pill to swallow I almost debating leaving because of it.

We came to terms at the time and I stayed with her through it. But I told her if she keeps getting all this fake shit done I'm not going to be with her. I don't want to date a Kardashian. That if she wants to improve her body the right way I will help her with that.

What does she do next. Lip injections. Now this is back when my frame was reallly weak. And although it still is a work in progress I'm trying to strengthen it and create boundaries. I again didn't like it and told her I'm not cool with it.

Now her birthday is coming up this weekend and she tells me she's treating herself to Botox forehead injections. I feel the rage in me. I stop and tell her. Look you're free to do whatever you want but no SO of mine is going to be getting forehead injections at 24.

She fights back. It's my body I can do what I want. I said you're right. It is your body. And you're free to do whatever you want. But that stuff turns me off and if you go through with it. I will not be signing a lease with you (were getting a place next month.)

She storms off mad. I keep frame and continue to do stuff around the house. Not letting it affect my mood.

Later she asks or says something about me being mad. I tell her. Nope I just am letting you know I'm taking this very seriously.

Two days go by and I ask her if she canceled the appointment she said she didn't make it her sister did. I tell her that's fine. And remind her I am dead serious about what I said.

We watch tv. She gets up after a little and goes into the bedroom without saying anything. I know she's mad but I also know that means she's hamstering what I said. I come into to lay down when I'm ready and she asks. Does that mean you're going to break up with me if I do it. I tell her you know how I feel about it. And what I said. (Now as I write this I get at this point I shouldn't keep bringing it up but I want her to know I'm not Fucking kidding this time. And I want her to think about this before she makes a mistake she will regret and think ill just let it slide like last time.)

She tells me it's not fair Bc I use testosterone for lifting and it's the same thing and she doesn't say anything about my jacked muscles that she hates so much /s . I tell her I'm sure you feel that it's the same thing.

She goes off again about it and I tell her. It's her choice if she wants to date a guy who does what I do. But I don't want to date a women who keeps getting fake stuff done especially at such a young age. That's not the person I dated in the beginning.

Silence. I sit in it.

Wait a little and start rubbing her tits. Kissing her neck. And then We have sex.

Act like nothing happened this morning and kissed her on the way out.

She text me when I get to work, this big picture text of an article of why you should get Botox in your 20s. I can find 20 articles saying why you Shouldn't. But that's not the point.

I said. "I'm not talking about this anymore. You know what it is."

She said I can't believe you would break up with me. That's the extreme.

Then says "Meanwhile I'm here accepting all your stupid ideas. Why? Cause I know it's makes you happy & I wouldn't give you a ultimatum. Bc I love you so much I wouldn't want to lose you. Guess we're on different stages in our relationship."

I haven't responded and am not sure how or if I should. I know I talk too damn much and I'm trying to work on it. And stfu without coming off as a dick since you can't stfu for everything that happens.