I’ve been in LTR with my girlfriend for 10 years we live together and have a 2 year old child. The relationship had been rocky for the last year or so due to arguments and my anger issues. She went on work trip and came back to being off with me. We had another argument and she said she didn’t want to be with me. This was all very sudden and unexpected as the month before we was taking about getting married and having another child. She said her reason for the break up was due to my negative attitude and because I called her a nasty name during an argument. I later on discovered that she was acting shady hiding her phone and acting in strange way started smoking and drinking. I new something was up and checked her phone I found out she was message a guy from her work and saying that she likes him, his reply was to that he only sees her as a friend. She carried on messaging him anyway constantly and started to speak about me to him telling him how she found me boring and how she wanted to poison me and didn’t want me looking at her body.

When I pulled her up on it she said it was a joke and she didn’t mean it.

Call me crazy but I still love and care for her and want to get back with her to make things right and be a family. This has never happened and she has been loyal to me through out until she said she didn’t want to be with me. Is there any point of me trying to fix things or do I give her the cold shoulder.