2 year LTR cancels ("raincheck") regular weekday night to go out for "1 or 2" drinks with coworkers. This is the first time she's ever cancelled, even if nothing was actually 'planned.' Just want some opinions/thoughts...

[deleted] · 2016-07-08T00:01:04+00:00

She cancelled once in two years. You're overreacting.

She'll only ask if you're mad or some shit if you act butthurt (aka losing frame). Instead, move along like it's no big deal and don't even bring it up.

What you do need to look for is if this shit starts becoming a habit. If she does it again anytime soon, then you have a situation that needs to be taken care of.

i_forget_my_userids · 2016-07-07T23:33:55+00:00

Nobody knows the dynamic better than you. Trust your gut. Don't hamster.

FattiesMakeMeGag · 2016-07-08T00:41:22+00:00

One night in over 2 years. You responded well. Although if it happens again recently and she doesn't invite you I'd probably soft next. Why the fuck would she need to go out to a bar with her most likely single coworkers. If she asks if you're mad don't respond while she's out at the bar.

Instead, just answer the next day and say you ended up doing something so you didn't look at your phone. If she sends another text again just be like " no lol, sounds like a good time." Try to make it not sound sarcastic.

When I do this right they'll either send me a nude, text me something about missing my dick, or call me and ask if I'm mad. I'll say no and laugh telling them we'll talk later and to have fun, I then will say I need to go as I'm out/busy.

notmyusualreddit · 2016-07-08T00:52:13+00:00

When my gf of 2 years went out for her first coworker happy hour it was where she kissed her coworker.

Part of me says "hey it's not something she does all the time. Once is fine!" (Regarding going out for drinks, not the kissing part)

The new more aware side of me says "hey. This is out of character for her... what has changed?"

3rt41 · 2016-07-08T06:03:06+00:00

Watch what happens next. A single sporadic night out with the coworkers is not a matter of concern. Constantly becoming a flake, is.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-07-08T01:36:47+00:00

Make sure you go out and have a good time, game some girls to keep sharp, etc.

If she asks what you did, say "Oh, I went out."

The Hamster will, inevitably, take the hamster-bait.

Troll her as follows:

"It was a good time. Met some interesting people."

"Were any of them women? Statistically 51% were women."

My plates ALWAYS ask if I met women. It's ok to be a bit evasive. "Did I ask for their numbers? Well, no, I can't say I ASKED, but certainly they may have offered them, because, let's face it, I can be a charming guy."

"Did I hook up with any of them? Define 'hook up'. Oh, well, technically, 'no', then, I think..."

Have fun hamming the hamster...

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