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[–]R9845 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Dude, not to be rude, but you are 25 years old and virgin and you are willing to wait another 3-4 years to get laid? That's just insane.
Lifting is good for you, taking care of your body is good for you, but you don't need to be fit to get laid. Getting ripped is infact the last thing you need to get lad, it's just the frosting on the cake. If you think you need to wait to get fit to fuck a girl you have a serious self esteem issue.
Let me tell you someting: I'm 1.85m just like you and in my twenties I use to weight 110 kg at my worst (240lb) and I never got laid as much as I did then. It seems to me that you are focused too much on what other people might think of you, as u/PraetereoBonobos said before me.
To answer your question: No, you have ZERO chances with women if you are not willing to go outside and meet new people. If you just focus on getting ripped and get obsessed by women you'll never get there, you'll always appear as the creepy antisocial dude who thinks it's his right to get laid because he spent the last 5 years of his life improving his appearance. You need to start enjoy social life, meet new groups of people, men and women, enjoy the company, be open, and let the sex part happen.
That's what I can tell you based on what you told us, your post is pretty vague..
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[–]R9841 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
"you are 25 years old and virgin and you are willing to wait another 3-4 years to get laid? That's just insane."
Why?
Because making a 3-4 years plan to solve a non existent problem it's insane. Also because 3-4 years of lifting won't help you getting laid. So you are making a 3-4 years plan that is completely useless if your only objective is to get laid. (you still should go to the gym or practice a sport for a bunch of other good reasons).
Being rich and having status also helps. I have neither.
You are stuck in a vicious circle of self-pity and faliure. The sooner you understand that, the sooner you break it. Again, I got laid the most in my twenties: no money, no job, living with my parents. Do you onlestly believe that only rich people get laid? Maybe being rich helps, but it's not a necessary condition, even hobos get their dick sucked.
Everyone who says something like this heavily underestimates how good looking they are and fail to understand that it's not their social skills that are getting them laid.
Again dude, you are obsessing over your image and status. Be me, 25 years old, 240 lb, a class III malocclusion (google it). Still no problems getting laid. It's all in your head. You told us that according to r/rateme you are a 6/10. What is your problem? Do you think that you need to be 8+ to get laid?
I'm trying to help but I feel like you keep hiding your problems behind a bunch of silly excuses.
[–]Mpcfiend0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This shit hit home maaaan I'm in the same cycle almost. How can you get rid of something like that? I too have been thinking about needing to look good first before even attempting to lose my vCard. I'm 6'2 255 lbs. I feel OP on this post I'm really starting to think obesity is almost like a disease with all the self esteem issues it brings. As for OP keep working out bro I started at 300lbs and didn't start getting this certain "look" that a female gives you when she is mad interested until I dropped 45lbs.I now know this look as after reading some trp I realized indicators of interest.
[–]R9840 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's all in the head. When I was chubby I never tought of it as a limiting factor. I was happy and sociable and I had no problems making frinds and getting laid. Things started to go downhill for me when I became self-conscious. There's a thin line between the self improvement you do for yourself and the one you do to impress others. The first kind leads you to some sort of happiness and satisfaction, the second kind never ends and keeps bringing you down. The problem with trying to hard to be likable is that you can never win. You will never be able to be a perfect 10, a perfect man. So you'll waste your life trying to chase an unseralistic ideal. Meanwhile times goes by, you get older, you start losing your hair, you get more and more far behind the goal of perfection you imposed yourself. If you do things to win the approval of your peers you are destined to fail. Insecurity and low self esteem are not sexy.
You loose weight because is the right thing to do, because you are tired of dragging around all that extra weight and because you want to be healthy. The interest that women show you is a pleasant side effect of your choice, not the reason of it.
[–]R9840 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was writing a poem but then I stopped and deleted it. Think what you want. At this point you are just arguing for the sake of it. If you want to talk specifically about your case I'm happy to have a conversation. I remain of the opinion that your problem is probably just a mental one, but I might be wrong, I never saw you in person.
[–]Mpcfiend0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just checked your stats, it will def not take you 3 years to get in shape. You could get pretty swole by the end of this year if you really put effort into it. Just make sure to have perfect form when weight lifting its the most important thing to start off with. You'll be good homie just stay optimistic
[–]look_good3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
fuck a fatty if u have to, male viginity is poison. sort out your logistics and lose that shit asap
[–]hakkarin 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I am not that desperate dude.
[–]look_good0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
slump busters are a thing, you don't have to tell others about it. go ahead and get that evil out
[–]Hakametal3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everyone (not only men) will tell you that losing your virginity is one of the most overrated experiences in your life. You're first time will be terrible, so get used to that idea.
The key is to get it out of the way ASAP. Pick up any half-decent chick and bang her. Buy a hooker. Seriously, it's not a life event. It's a mental block more than anything.
[–]PraetereoBonobos2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You haven't read anything have you? Hit theredpill sidebar. how can you know you don't enjoy being around people if you have never had a social life? More than likely it's you don't enjoy the idea of people judging you negatively and are uncomfortable being yourself around other people.
As for your actually question the answer is no, not even close to being to late.
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[–]PraetereoBonobos1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right... Ignore everyone's advice here and continue being a pathetic anti-social virgin. You clearly just want validation for your shitty behavior and don't want help.
[–]top-notch-alpha0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get an escort if all else fails...
[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm 26. Went to an escort at 25. Would have preferred a real girl but honestly I'm happy I went and got it over with. The amount of mental damage it was doing to me after I found TRP was too much.
[–]look_good2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bro, you're the 25 y/o virgin...
maybe you've got deeper underlying issues. we don't care. check your ego at the door
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