I'm a 28yr old Irishman. Throughout my 20's I have had a mediocre amount of women (5) with all of these women apart from 1 (Because they were a 5) I have noticed a recurring pattern.

  • Emotionally unavailable, lasted a short period of time before them ending it. -They showed initial interest, which peaked my interest.
  • All still hung up on exes.
  • When it ended I became angry/resentful of them as I enjoyed the validation it gave me to be with them.
  • This resentment would brew and lead to me drinking too much and becoming obnoxious with them and women in general.
  • All of them had sob stories, this caused me to want to help/save them.
  • Became sentimental, like we had a deep connection, which was of course untrue.
  • Would dwell on these ending for long periods afterwards, becoming resentful of women in general.

The latest woman I was involved with followed this same pattern. This has prompted me to finally realize that something is amiss. I clearly haven't swallowed TRP and now as I approach 30, I'm in the same spot I was when I was a kid in regards to women. I am prone to oneitis and this has happened several times, with the women in question, mainly when it ended.

I am naturally fed up with this pattern and I am seeking to illicit a change in this as I don't want this to repeat itself a few months down the road. I am clearly an AFC and I need to learn from the cold doses of reality that have hit me in the face several times.

Thanks guys, just needed to vent this shit out as its been bugging me in recent days.