If abundance help you get girls and neediness is the opposite of abundance , how am I supposed to get abundant if I start with nothing ? I get afraid when I have to ask a girl out. I am the funny type of guy but when I have to make a move all my jokes disappear. I am afraid she will reject me, when they do I get sad, I don’t understand why. If abundance attracts abundance and lack attracts lack , how am I supposed to pass from lack to abundance ?