So, I've been looking into TRP for a few months, and I've read the sidebar and have been trying to maintain frame around my gf but we're having some problems.

Background info: I'm 21, she's 19. We've been together nearly 5 years, since I was 16 and she was 14. I know I should never trust a woman fully because the can be backstabbing and malicious even when in a long term relationship, but I genuinely love my girlfriend and trust her, and could see a future with her. Also, it's tough moving on from someone you've known since childhood and made lifelong plans and have so many memories with.

The situation : Basically my girl has added two guys on her fb account, and I noticed obviously. She added then maybe two months apart. The first guy, I questioned her and lost frame and was yelling and getting extremely mad over a phone call and she basically told me he was just in her lab group last semester and that he was a friend and nothing more, then got overwhelmed and said we should break up. I ended up going to her house the next day and talking to Her and apologizing for yelling and I didn't even care if this guy was on her friends list. I told her I shouldn't be controlling and telling her to delete people and that I trusted her and she could do whatever she wanted and I didn't care.

Basically, she did it again a month later with some other guy and claims the same situation, she was in a group assignment (I can actually believe her when she tells me this) but I calmly asked her who. It was and she got all defensive and shit asking how I knew aboit her adding him and was asking if I was logged in her fb account (I wasn't). I just said fuck it and moved on.

This has been eating away at me. It's not even the fact that I think she's cheating on me or anything. It's the fact that I've asked her multiple times to delete these guys who mean nothing to her and she won't do it. She's just so fucking stubborn.

I finally just said fuck it and Told her straight up to delete them yesterday and she didn't reply at all. She just questioned me like, "do you not trust me?" and "why are you doing this?" I responded with just "delete them off your friends list and let me know when you do it, take as long as you need". She hasn't replied for 24 hours and I broke frame and texted her.

Still no progress on my side. She's acting like an entitled, stubborn bitch. I love her to death but she just tries to act in control and it's killing me. I can't stand when a woman tries to defy me like that. It drives me crazy. What do I do? This is the biggest issue that's driving me crazy, but she'll do other things like always say no when I tell her to do something. Like, "scoot closer to me" or ill try to hug her and she'll push me away, or sometimes when initiating sex she'll just say no and get super emotional and act all awkward.

Idk what to do, im thinking I've lost her and she's too far gone to repair. Its a shame that I care about her so much though.