Advice on being less nervous.

abdada · 2018-05-01T15:55:26+00:00

What's wrong with being nervous? Ever consider just owning it and being confident about it? Nervous doesn't mean a negative thing.

BTW, do you smoke weed every week?

MattyAnon · 2018-05-01T17:11:44+00:00

> virgin ... problem with nervousness.

Get more girls, fuck them. This will make you less nervous. Being nervous won't stop you fucking them - just ignore it as much as you can and don't comment on it.

> , I asked to join

Don't ask. You're the fucking leader remember. Go in, talk, step back and do your own thing... go in again, talk... step back... they'll make their preferences for your presence of absence pretty clear.

> She bet me I wouldn't jump in the water because it was to cold, I ended up chilling in the cold water for awhile

Sounds like a shit test. Making you enter into her frame, then you are either weak for refusing or weak for doing as you're told. "Fuck that, it looks cold".

> . I won the bet, she had to pay up

Most of the time women don't pay up when they lose.

> She was showing tons of signs of attraction. After that second bowl, I went and chilled in the water for a long time. Probably till I was numb. I definitely had a chance to get her number, she even ended up going into the water. Then sitting infont of me, while I was collecting rocks. I never made a move though I was very nervous, how do I get to be fearless? I need to get over this nervousness.

Sounds fun, you did good.

Here's the solution: you make a move no matter how nervous you are. It's not going to go away until you start acting regardless. As you'll find out, there are no save games. You make a move or you lose the girl. Next time you have a chance like this, TAKE A FUCKING CHANCE. There'll be loads more. Don't try and time it right, don't wait until things "feel certain". Wait till you think there's a 50% chance she likes you and escalate. DO NOT WAIT FOR 100% - this means you're reacting to her cues, and this in itself will make you more nervous and second guess yourself. It's your life and yours to lead, not hers. Her job is to accept/reject, yours is to take what you want.

This is the mentality you need to build, and it's hard and it takes time, but it starts with ignoring your nerves.

effyouasshole · 2018-05-01T16:08:58+00:00

One tried and true method is to lower your standards and go for some easy wins. Go hit on the 5.0/10 women just to get some practice. Bang a few, too, to build up your confidence.

Once you stop being nervous with the 5/10 women, move up to the 6/10 women, then to the 7's.

In the meantime, work on perfecting your body, mind, and career. That becomes a real factor for success with women the higher you go.

chomponthebit · 2018-05-01T16:32:55+00:00

Hire an escort. Make sure she’s young and cute. Tell her your predicament. Use protection. Just get it done already. Life is drip, drip, dripping by

TheGhandster · 2018-05-01T19:01:25+00:00

Here's an extract from the Red Pill Handbook:

Men and women both suffer from what I call the "weak" emotions. The weak emotions are fear, anxiety, depression, angst, boredom, distraction, worry, etc... There are many different types of anxiety and they combine in weird ways to cause a plethora of mental problems of women. I can't make a complete list of the weak emotions, but you get the point. I call these emotions weak because they make a person weak: confused, listless, and unable to pursue or achieve any worthwhile goal. If you've ever been under the spell of anxiety or depression, you literally feel a weight on your body that prevents you from doing anything positive. Crazy thoughts race through your head that prevent you from focusing on anything, sleeping, or enjoying your life. Worst of all, the weak emotions are constantly changing, coming and going, so a person feeling them has no way to battle them or a solid footing to rest their thoughts and emotions on. Some scientists have argued that the weak emotions have an evolutionary purpose, but as a matter of practical reality in the modern world the weak emotions usually just cripple people and serve no good. The weak emotions are very difficult to overcome and basically make life shit for anybody experiencing them. This is a wild oversimplification, but mental illness is basically when a person's weak emotions become too strong and a person's logical mind cannot control them.

There is one thing that can conquer the weak emotions: masculinity. What is masculinity? It is difficult to describe any human emotion in words, but I will attempt to define masculinity as an emotion (or a series of emotions) that make a person feel powerful, confident, competitive, aggressive, focused, etc... In other words, masculinity is an energy that makes one feel they can overcome any obstacle life throws at them. It is probably the result of various chemicals in your body. The precise definition of masculinity is beyond the scope of this article, but you know it when you see it. The only thing that can conquer an emotion is a stronger emotion, and masculinity is stronger than the weak emotions so it can conquer and silence them. A person who can focus his masculinity with his logical brain can plow through the weak emotions, focus on his goals, feel powerful and dominant, and become successful. Masculinity clears all the emotional debris and useless thoughts floating in a person's head and focuses them.

Masculinity can be enhanced by increasing T levels (lifting). Also by just practising having a stoic, strong, masculine mindset.

The post is called "Why Women Like Unemotional Men". I'd recommend reading the full thing to anyone on trp.

Title	Advice on being less nervous.
Author	TalionTheWorstRanger
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Date	May 1, 2018 3:53 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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