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If they friendzoned/flaked on you already, they should be under a soft-next, no? In that case, stop worrying about them. Only start caring if they reach out to you directly. Then either they're receptive to your escalations, or they go right back to being soft-nexted.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 06:01 PM
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She's your FWB, not LTR. She's free to do anything she wants. Turning you down to hang out with her friends isn't a problem. That said, that's a warning sign that she's not LTR material. The ideal candidate would be always be excited to hang out with you. So to answer your question: no, a soft-next is not appropriate. You do need to adjust your expectations of FWBs, however.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 05:59 PM
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The core of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Other people's desires and expectations should have no bearing on your decisions. That said, it doesn't seem like you're being pushed into this. You realized you made a mistake and you want to fix it. So there's nothing wrong with that. Apologize once. Say what you want to say, and nothing more. Ideally, she would accept it and move on. Otherwise, if she drags it out, treat that like any other shit-test.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 02:41 PM
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You never get rid of a woman. You simply dial your attention down to her. Eventually, she may ask questions. "I've been busy with school/career/hobby lately." That isn't a lie... it reflects the fact that those things are now more important than her. In the future, if she becomes interesting again, you can ramp things back up.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 02:38 PM
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Hard-nexting on the smallest and most easily-passable shit-tests is the hallmark of a guy in the beginner level of RP theory. Their wet paper bag for a frame can't handle any hint of a challenge.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 04:31 PM
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They're not necessarily questions. Shit-tests can come in the form of boundary-testing. How much can she get away with? Or she would make statements to see your reaction. A former LTR used to periodically tell me about guys that would hit on her. She would tell me about the things strangers in public would randomly buy for her. She did it to test my reaction and see if I'd get insecure about it (I never did... I'd just laugh and move on). The sidebar has resources for identifying shit-tests.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 04:15 PM
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Roughly, yes. Although you would still get occasional tests to make sure you're still on top of your game, so it never stops completely. But they shouldn't be bothering you since you ought to be destroying them with ease. You'll also notice that if you fail a shit-test, you'll get more of them--and bigger ones. The shark smelled a drop of blood so now you got its attention. You showed weakness, and now she needs to know how deep that runs. Destroy the follow-up tests and you'll restore peace. Fa…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 04:01 PM
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When your SMV is high, the feminist types get in line too. They even compromise their ideals, which is kind of hilarious...
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:46 PM
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Those are the same thing. Women will challenge/shit-test you because they want to make sure they're not wasting their time with a weak man.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:44 PM
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Firstly, you should never try to shoe-horn what YOU want with what anyone else thinks or expects (and this goes for "TRP principles", even). Secondly, an avalanche of examples exist that show ideal outcomes with women who follow your lead. One that challenges you (aka shit-tests you) will force you to keep your skills sharp. As long as she ultimately gets in line, knows her place, and doesn't interfere with your personal enjoyment of life, it will work. For me personally, if a woman constantly t…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:40 PM
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The definition of FWB is "friends with benefits." They are women who you fuck and do non-sexual things with. Nowhere in there does it imply any type of exclusivity. But if you'd like to personally re-define it for your own purposes, I understand that.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:19 PM
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This is my unicorn. And yes I have oneitis [...] Guys, what the fuck should I do? Recovering from oneitis is your #1 priority in life right now. Immediately begin applying dread (the sidebar talks about this in detail). Soft-next to regain self-control in the meantime. Are you lifting your fucking face off at the gym? Do you have a mission? Are you working hard on it every day? Are you gaming other women? If your answer is no to any of these, that is another major problem that needs immediate at…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:41 PM
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Firstly, if you're hanging out with them, they're not plates; they're FWBs. Secondly, plates and FWBs are fully free to do anything they want. They are not your LTR. That said, you still pay attention to red flags that suggest they are not LTR material. FWBs that go make out with other guys are permanently disqualified from further promotion. They're still fine for fucking and hanging out with, though. but should I now be paranoid Get out of their frame and get into your own. You care way too mu…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:31 PM
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You were supposed to set up a time to meet about a day after you started talking to her. Waiting almost a week is too long. At this point, you have nothing to lose. Suggest a specific time and place on Wednesday or Thursday. Either she accepts or you soft-next.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:26 PM
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Your post implies that you're living in her frame instead of your own. You're worried about what she will think if you're not a horndog 24/7. Hence, you're coming at this situation under the angle of "how can I fix this so my girlfriend likes me more/doesn't abandon me." Instead, you need to get back into your own frame. Accept the fact that you're human and you only have finite attention and desire. Stop worrying about what other people think. Focus on being the best person you can, and only le…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 12:56 AM
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There are more medications for ADHD than Adderall. You should research those and possibly try them. I agree that fixing those issues should be done naturally, if at all possible. But its a very real possibility that medication is the only route.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 12:51 AM
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Have you been evaluated for ADD/ADHD? The way you worded your post suggests you may have it (its common for those with ADD/ADHD to be good at big things, but fail at organization and handling small stuff; "trying harder" just doesn't work for them.) Small doses of medication could give you the focus to get things on track.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 11:46 PM
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There's a million ways to pass it. One response (using the AA technique) is: "You're right. I'm just a gold digger, pretending to like you so I can marry you without a prenup, then take half of everything you got in the divorce." Study AA/AM responses in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 11:42 PM
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You got physically numb, and mentally exhausted (the largest sex organ is the brain). The solution to that is just rest for a little while. The bigger problem you have is that it caused your frame to crack, as evidenced by your mention of handling it terribly, as well as the fact that you're posting here about it. THAT is the real problem you need to fix.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 11:34 PM
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K.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 11:30 PM
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No, it shows the opposite of desperation: you're saying that your time is valuable and you're not going to waste it on a flake.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 07:26 PM
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Some percentage of women just want to fuck once, even if you did everything right. Get better at sex and game more women. This will guarantee you to get plates. In the meantime, forget about what happened in the past with those three.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:38 PM
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You admitted to being bad at sex with Girl 1. What are the chances you got better at sex with Girls 2 & 3? Slim. Solution: get better at sex. Women who are open to one-night stands are definitely open to repeat performances if the guy knows what he's doing and gave her a good time.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:25 PM
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This is basic side-bar material. Speak with your actions, not your words.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:20 PM
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I'd respond to her, but let her take the lead in the conversation. With two flakes under her belt, the ball is in her court to set up another date. If/when she asks, reply with "Depends on what the chances you'll be 'sick' again are." Only agree to something that is easy for you (i.e.: meeting at your place, or going out somewhere close to you). That way if she flakes a third time, you didn't waste too much effort. If she doesn't arrange a date soon, soft-next. If she suggests a date but cancels…
/r/askTRP04/11/19 04:19 PM
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Speaking with words instead of actions is weak. Instead, dial down your attention to her and game other women. The dread will light a fire under her ass, and you'll get pussy from other women. Win-win. (For you, anyway.)
/r/askTRP04/11/19 02:32 PM
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They are adults. They can make decisions for themselves. Its what feminism says too, right? Its on them if they are doing this to buy an LTR from you. Despite their choices, they never become entitled to your attention. P.S. If you're going to get food and seeing a movie, they aren't plates; they're FWBs.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 02:29 PM
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She's trying to lock down a complacent provider. By lowering your SMV, she can then control you since other women won't find you as attractive. Ignore it and keep doing you. She'll fuck you more that way.
/r/askTRP03/11/19 05:07 PM
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Thank you very much for this blog post. Now delete it and go post it on your Tumblr account. This is ASKtrp. Notice the "ASK" part? That means its for asking questions. What a concept!
/r/askTRP02/11/19 07:54 PM
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The ideal LTR candidate doesn't get swayed by physical looks alone. She's attracted to the total package: looks, personality, status, etc. I've been in LTRs with women who never seemed tempted by other men's looks. Now, these women certainly weren't unicorns... but the point is that I'd never get beat by a one-dimensional guy. The women who get all excited by something shiny in front of them... they won't ever bond with you. You're just the provider/safety net.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 06:41 PM
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How can i get over this ? Dude... if you're this retarded, you deserve to have a shitty life. You earned it. Now GTFO.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 04:07 PM
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What do you think? I think you should sit back and watch this shit-show go down in flames. Don't think you're going to be able to save them. They're both adults and they made (very poor) choices. Its on them to figure out how to un-fuck their lives.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 04:04 PM
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RP knowledge cannot be forced on anyone. The best you can do is talk about things from a high level. If it catches their interest, you can go a little further into the details. In the end, a guy needs to be open to the idea. If he's not agreeable to learning more, the only thing you can do is leave him alone.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 04:01 PM
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There are good women here in the states but feminism's a shit show. [...] It's the legal system in a nasty divorce where it reared its ugly head for me. I and my kids have suffered greatly due to a rigged game. Anger phase detected. Guess who's ultimately responsible for what happened in your life? YOU. Not feminism... YOU. Its time to put your big-boy pants on and accept responsibility for your retarded decisions instead of whining about a "rigged game." Fuck off with that incel horse shit. At …
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:48 AM
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Boy, you sound angry. The only guys who are angry at feminism are the ones who suffer because of it. In other words: low-SMV guys. All the high-SMV guys here are drowning in pussy... even with bullshit feminism everywhere. But hey... if you want to remain a low-SMV guy and think you nabbed a unicorn in your traditional culture... I'll let you live in that fantasy world. Good luck, dude.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 02:32 AM
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Thank you very much for making this retarded post. Now go work on your mission, retard.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 11:12 PM
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If you really are trapped in a traditional and religious part of the world, your first move after college is getting the fuck out... not playing along with their bullshit expectations.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 10:03 PM
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Im 19 [...] If im marrying this girl Sidebar.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 09:39 PM
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Women who are so easily tempted by other men do not make good LTR partners. Sooner rather than later, the right guy will jump in at the right time and say all the right things. Her panties will get splooshed and she'll "accidentally" add his number to her phone. She'll tell herself she's just meeting him "as a friend". Then she "won't know what got into her" when she "somehow" ended up at his place. Demote to FWB. You fucked up by promoting a plate without a proper vetting process, and now you f…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 05:59 PM
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Three months is NOT enough time to vet someone for promotion to LTR. You fucked up.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 05:55 PM
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but why is it that so many women just annoy the shit out of me? Because you're choosing to spend your time around them. 90% of them do something that just puts me off to the point where I just couldn’t care to keep trying to game them. Then don't. In the meantime, start learning how to spot out the retards so you don't waste your time to begin with. Idk if my standards are too high That's entirely up to you to decide. Are you happy with turning down women and not having sex for awhile? If so, th…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 05:14 PM
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So you're implying that the second guy should have had equal verbal abilities to "verbally fight back" at the first guy? "should have" doesn't mean anything. Either you have the verbal abilities to spar with, or you don't. Either way, there are many AA/AM responses that don't require too much skill once you establish strong frame. and the second guy fought back the best way he could. And right here is the problem. Second guy felt threatened because he didn't have any real confidence... just a fl…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 04:00 PM
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So you're saying its valid to have dog-shit confidence and use violence to compensate for your insecurities? You're saying that what other random nobodies think about you is really important? You have a lot to learn about RP theory, as do the other high school kids who upvoted your response. And hey... that's OK... everyone is a beginner at first. But this means you're not qualified to post on this sub. Now get to work reading the sidebar. The clock is ticking.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 01:11 PM
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You sound like you're 16.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 01:06 PM
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increasing female attraction Yeah, I'm sure Grandpa splooshed a lot of teenage highschool panties doing this. But everyone else saw that his confidence took a deep hit from some nobody's words.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 12:22 AM
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"You disrespecting me in front of these people here??" He lost frame. His ego got hurt by some nobody, likely because he doesn't have real confidence. unexpected face-slap This is the point at which his frame shattered. No. You do not fight unless it is self-defense. ANY other fighting is the ultimate loss of frame. If you're just a scared little boy who likes to act tough, then I can see the appeal: if you don't act quick, people might start to realize the truth about you. That, and you know de…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 12:20 AM
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If she viewed you as a hot guy, she would have fallen all over herself to get you back. The fact that she so easily moved on with her life speaks volumes on her true thoughts about you & the relationship. The drug use, what you said, the way things ended, etc., are just the tiny details; your LTR was in trouble long before this tipping point was crossed. This LTR is done. And good riddance, too, given that you said there were red flags and boundaries crossed already. Go lift your fucking face of…
/r/askMRP28/10/19 06:46 PM
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That way costs you money, guaranteed. Instead, if you contact them first on your own, there's a 4% chance (?) that you'll pay $0 in legal fees. You might as well roll that dice before dropping $500 for an official C&D letter.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 09:36 PM
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Your first move is to tell her she needs to 1.) delete those posts, and 2.) issue an apology. "If you don't, I'm going to contact a lawyer and work towards getting a court order." She may very well fold right away, costing you $0 in legal fees. But if you hear no response in 24 hours, record all the evidence you can and bring it to a lawyer.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 07:56 PM
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Should I try to contact him Fuck no. He's crazy. Logic doesn't work on crazy; it only dumps fuel on the fire. she says he had a bad coke addiction and has guns. Get a permit to carry a concealed firearm. Train with it regularly until you've mastered its handling and gotten at least decent aim at a range of 15ft. In the meantime, she absolutely needs to get that restraining order. If he contacts you at all, get one yourself as well.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 07:52 PM
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Spoken like a true retard.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 04:43 PM
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Oh, I beg to differ! There are plenty of retarded meatheads at the gym.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 04:22 PM
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A jacked guy who has nothing interesting to say, has no interesting hobbies, nor an interesting personality is not going to get any friends. Sure, people will respect him, but they won't engage or include him in their lives. You still need to have a personality.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 03:33 PM
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She's only being a "tough girl to get into bed" as a front. Its her power-move. "I'm going to force him to follow my lead from day 1 so he learns who's in charge." When you have high SMV, women want to immediately fuck you. But many won't jump right into bed because of societal expectations/not looking like a "slut". Make no mistake, though... that underlying desire is still there. If this "tough girl's" movie-star crush knocked on her door and suggested he insert his penis into her vagina, she …
/r/askTRP24/10/19 06:56 PM
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You don’t have to immediately jump into an LTR, you can date or hang around people until you decide they’re the right person for you. So in other words, FWBs without the WB part? I think most guys (myself included) would say that hanging out with romantic interests without having sex for long periods of time is very boring. Anyone is free to do what they want, but I don't see many guys realistically doing this. At least... not for long enough to vet a woman properly.
/r/askTRP24/10/19 06:27 PM
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but what worries me is she's not seeing her friends anymore [...] And I'm feeling like I played a role in this subtly manipulating her She is an adult. Feminism says she can make decisions on her own life without needing a man to protect her, no? Furthermore, RP theory agrees that women can, and should make decisions for themselves. Her choices are her responsibility alone. when she sends me sound clips on messenger she seems tired/off/lonely even though she's craving for more from me at the sam…
/r/askTRP24/10/19 04:26 PM
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Firstly: "she isn't yours, its only your turn". So of course she'll eventually be tempted. Secondly, if your SMV is high enough, she won't be tempted very often at all. You'll never be invincible, but when even above-average guys hit on her, she usually won't notice or care. If you don't go the FWB route as is commonly suggested in RP theory, then you'd be immediately jumping into LTR status. No vetting, no projection of being the prize, and much less control of boundaries & boundary enforcement…
/r/askTRP24/10/19 04:05 PM
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He doesn't bring the case to court himself. He brings it to a lawyer first, who would advise him on the likelihood of outcomes.
/r/askTRP24/10/19 01:18 AM
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You want someone who follows your lead.
/r/askTRP24/10/19 01:17 AM
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This situation is the exact reason libel and slander laws were made. Never mind you. Think about the other guys that this woman has fucked over. Think about sending a message to women that their lies have consequences. And it would be nice to get your lost money back, too, no? It would be nice to continue living like you did.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 09:14 PM
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Collect hard evidence that this woman committed slander and libel. Bring it to a lawyer. Aside from reparations for lost business (i.e.: money), you should also require a public apology.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 08:03 PM
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Yes: read the sidebar. Stop being lazy; nobody here is going to be your personal RP trainer for free.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 06:51 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 06:48 PM
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First-off, immediately smack yourself upside the head for having sex without a condom. You fucking retard. Secondly, your frame is as strong as a wet paper bag if you're worried what a plate thinks. You have a loooong way to go before you learn even the absolute basics of RP theory. The clock's ticking. Get to work.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 02:11 PM
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Start with the Stronglifts 5x5, then branch out from there once you max out your gains.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 02:07 PM
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Troll post.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 02:04 PM
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How she FWB's is key. If she's happy to see other guys in this time, then she's permanently disqualified from an LTR upgrade. However, if she acts like she's in a committed relationship (while you're still free to do anything), then that's a green flag.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 02:01 PM
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So you "don't give a shit" about me... just like the 350lb girl you're lusting over?
/r/askTRP21/10/19 08:03 PM
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so theirs this chick who I don't give 2 shits about [...] I really do not give 2 flying fucks about her [...] [...] and show how I don't really give 2 shits. I legitimately don't care if I stop talking to her [...] Anyone wanna take bets on this girl being 350lbs? That's why OP is desperately trying to trick himself into thinking he doesn't care.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 06:52 PM
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This is called mate guarding, which is always the wrong move. Instead, you properly vet your FWBs over the course of many months. If no red flags come up (such as being a party-girl), you can optionally upgrade to LTR. In other words, the proper method is to filter out this behavior well before-hand.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 06:04 PM
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Not offhand, no.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 05:00 PM
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Are you asking about starting your own business? In that case, you need a business plan. Come up with a strategy for attracting new customers. You need to be realistic about it. In other words, it needs to be based on proven methods. Don't think you're just going to fire up a Twitter account and put up a website, and have dozens of clients come in on day 1. Starting a business is HARD. "If it was easy, everyone would be doing it." I'd strongly suggest you get hands-on experience in the consultin…
/r/askTRP21/10/19 04:22 PM
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You shouldn't be so concerned with things that don't matter. If anything, your response should have been amused mastery, such as "Oh, I didn't know I was fucking an underage girl! Am I going to prison now??" Then if she denies it: "hey, I'm the one going to prison, not you. There's no need for you to hide it..." After that, just let it go. It doesn't matter. Unless you're really insecure with yourself, that is.
/r/askTRP21/10/19 04:13 PM
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Glad to hear that you see the mistakes now. Moving forward, you need to make sure you keep your eyes open so you don't fall down the same trap.
/r/askMRP20/10/19 10:15 PM
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She didn't do anything wrong. She simply acted in accordance to her goals. You were the one who fucked up... by not paying attention to the obvious warning signs (you don't explain much, but it doesn't matter... there are always warning signs). Ask yourself this: does it make sense to get angry at a lion when it kills a zebra and eats it?
/r/askMRP20/10/19 08:36 PM
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I guess she’s starting to doubt my abilities because they started coming up more. Indeed. Also, because you're not passing the shit tests, you're getting more of them... and bigger ones. The solution is to pass them. Would a better response have been saying “That’s a cute voice. I remember being 5” nonchalantly Yes. Personally, I'd mimic her mimic. I'd re-say the same thing, but even more ridiculously and exaggerated. Then I'd laugh, because that's funny. There are many good potential responses …
/r/askMRP20/10/19 04:01 PM
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I was played like a little bitch You let yourself get played like a little bitch. She didn't do anything wrong. She wanted a provider while getting hot dick on the side, so she acted in accordance to that goal. This is what some women do. Would you get angry at a lion when it kills a zebra and eats it? But you... you fucked up. I guarantee you that you missed obvious signs that there was a major problem. I guarantee it. But hey... all that matters now is that you're older and wiser. Learn from i…
/r/askTRP17/10/19 06:17 PM
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Yeah, it sounds like going into monk-mode for a while is the right move. Just work hard on making progress.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 05:36 PM
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You partly have the right mindset to begin. You said you want to be the best version of yourself, and that's right on the mark. However, you can't make women part of your mission. If you focus on them, they become harder to get! And when you do get them, you'll quickly learn that they don't provide the fulfillment you were fantasizing of. Fulfillment and life happiness comes ONLY from following your path to self-actualization. Lift, work on your mission, become an interesting person, and have fu…
/r/askTRP17/10/19 02:20 PM
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Stop being a weak little bitch. You already know she's fucking another guy. Do you have a cuck fetish and are hoping to see the pics of other cock in her pussy? Otherwise, there is no reason you need to look at her phone.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 04:27 PM
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Ever notice that "fuckboy" is only a term used by people who are jealous? Women use it to try to shame high-value men/shit-test them. Other men use it as a put-down because you're a threat. When it comes down to it, being a "fuckboy" is exactly what you want. You're the hot dick that women lust over, not the provider chump.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 04:24 PM
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what exactly is taking place when girls do this They want to fuck, but they need plausible deniability so they can lie to themselves. They don't like the idea that they're a "slut." You have a couple options to handle this. If they're not worth the effort, you can just remove your attention until they're ready to play ball. Then either they get in line, or they don't. The other option is to game them more so they think things are progressing towards something of more substance. In other words, d…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 04:20 PM
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Don't forget that she paid almost $2K for the iPhone 11 Pro Max with the extended warranty, and also dropped $3K for a 2019 MacBook to replace her 11 month old 2018 MacBook (which had also cost $3K). But you know... "their" capitalism is the real problem here...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 04:11 PM
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She wanted commitment. And she basically roped you into it because your frame is dog shit. Its fine if she was in the running for an LTR already, but all decisions must be made from within your frame... nobody else's. Above all else, you need to fix your frame, otherwise this FWB/LTR situation is going to blow up in your face.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 08:02 PM
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I assume he's chasing them way to hard. I thought the same thing, but his fundamental mindset needs fixing first. Worrying about the smaller details can come later. It's the man's job to chase the first 2-4 weeks Woah. That's WAY too long. When you have decent SMV, after you make the initial moves, she will show interest and pursue you a bit. If that doesn't happen within a couple days max, then a soft next is usually appropriate.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 03:41 PM
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I feel I have achieved nothing yet, and am still the same coward I was in school. That's up to you to change. Nobody else is going to change your life for the better but YOU. What should my goals be? Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want. You need to spend time thinking about it. Try many new things. Hobbies, jobs, social events. Find what you like, and pursue it. Just know that you have to take an active role in this process, otherwise you'll go nowhere.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 03:15 PM
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You're asking the wrong question. and i feel so empty after it Women cannot give you a sense of purpose nor meaning in life. That alone comes from making progress on your mission. What is your mission? Secondly, you should not be chasing an LTR. LTRs are to grow naturally. You meet a woman, spend some time with her, realize she is fun to be with (so you promote to FWB), then you spend months vetting her for worthiness. She might make it 10 months in before you find out she's got feelings for her…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 03:11 PM
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One of the key points of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Also, people are only welcome in your life if they bring value to it. To ask the question "How do i react to girls whine?" shows that you are living in their frame, not your own. You're likely doing this due to lack of outcome-independence and scarcity mentality. If you had abundance, you wouldn't waste your time on the annoying ones. I'm 100% that girl is gonna whine and this will be a main topic of our evening…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 02:46 PM
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This sub naturally attracts angry women with daddy issues (aka feminists) because they want to vent at someone. They aren't thinking logically; they just want to unload their emotions. I think its good practice for guys on here. They can argue with these women non-stop, then realize nothing was accomplished. Hence they learn the rationale behind the "never argue with women" point of RP theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 02:35 PM
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Yeah, you gotta dial down your attention to her, and game other women. You need to see that she's not a unicorn, and that you have other good options. Once you get your feelings under control, you can go back to normal.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 02:40 AM
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It can go so so wrong if you fuck up. [...] it can still be risky. I agree. I've made mistakes over texting, just like I've made mistakes in person too. But it was well worth it to invest the effort to learn. My successes far outnumber my failures.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 08:44 PM
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i don't need "evidence" you fucking dork You sound angry. Do you need a hug? she played you bud Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:39 PM
2

do you guys have any recommendations when it comes to keeping it cool and not losing frame/ her attraction when it comes to a girl hotter than you usually get? Yes. We call it: the sidebar.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 05:47 PM
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6 month anniversary with LTR coming up This is not a thing. what would be an appropriate gift for it? Nothing. You should not even be aware of this date. so i feel kind of obligated to give her something really nice. You don't owe anyone anything. If you don't internalize this idea, then 6-18 months from now, you'll feel obligated to move in with her, even though that idea wasn't yours either. Guys like you eventually get roped into kids and marriage, too, because they never sat down and thought…
/r/askTRP14/10/19 05:46 PM
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Texting game isn't for beginners. Its all too easy to shoot yourself in the foot. At the intermediate stage and up, though, it works for some people (keyword here being "some"). You can indeed escalate and game properly via text; on more than a few instances, I've upgraded first dates from a coffee shop to my bedroom, among other things. Asking how to escalate via text is like asking how to escalate in person: there's a millions ways, which work differently based on the situation and who's doing…
/r/askTRP14/10/19 05:39 PM
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Sounds like the start one oneitis. You need to ease off in that case. In general, though, if a plate is fun to hang out with, you promote to FWB. That can happen rather quickly (as in... days after meeting). After that, you can start a vetting process that lasts for many months. You can't do any of this if you lack the groundwork to avoid oneitis, though.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 05:09 PM
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There's no evidence of that whatsoever. I understand that you have an emotional need to believe this, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:05 PM
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not necessarily, women do things to feel personally empowered sometimes. or just because its fun. I'm aware that women like to play mind games on men and make power-moves. Part of beginner RP theory is being able to spot and neutralize them. how did your "fwb" even get to the point of suggesting you move in together though? it seems like you were in deeper than a normal fwb... Pretty much all women who stay in the FWB phase for long enough will push for commitment. Its just a matter of time. Oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 11:40 PM
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subtly trying to mindfuck you. Into... what? Loving her back? She failed. i just think its interesting how its assumed that the gaming isn't happening both ways. She'd come up with "sly" ways to suggest that we move in together, which was a complete non-starter. She was like 0/4 on that count. And given that she would try to upgrade us into an LTR, she definitely wasn't using me for sex, soooo... either you could say she wasn't gaming me back at all, or she was gaming me back very poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 11:01 PM
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Comments like "those guys are such losers!" and other hate. She wasn't an SJW, but you know how those types get emotionally triggered and go off about redpill? Yeah... that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 10:50 PM
1

Advanced RP knowledge is amoral just like the subject of chemistry is. You can build weapons to hurt people with it, or you can use it to improve your life and bring positive change. What many people don't understand (and I don't really blame them) is that the beginners give RP theory a bad name. The beginners come in what we call the "anger phase." They're hateful and toxic. I'm not saying that its a good thing, but it is a natural reaction that some have when they first realize how the world r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 06:33 PM
1

As much as the phrase "running game" makes me cringe, the things you're describing all sounds really healthy. I've witnessed this several times, actually. I've talked to people--SJWs, even--about RP topics without using RP terminology, and they were very receptive to my points. But the very moment they got a whiff of an RP-specific term... it all came crashing down. Suddenly, all my ideas were hateful misogyny, and I was a piece of human garbage. In a lot of people's minds, "redpill" = very bad,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 04:46 PM
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Agreed. But a valid move for beginners is "fake it until you make it." They gotta get that initial success from somewhere, after all...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 04:39 PM
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You're right. At this point, it is more a figure of speech. Guys in the beginner levels of RP theory need to consciously evaluate themselves. "Is this joke I'm about to tell appropriate for the situation?" "Is it time for me to 'casually' put my hand on her back?" Running game at this level involves a lot of brainpower. Guys that reach the intermediate and advanced phases have internalized the behaviors that work; they are done subconsciously. They don't think "hey, I should say something witty …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 03:40 PM
1

I'm the best version of myself, and I put effort into keeping her attention. I'd tell jokes, plan day trips, etc. That's the gaming part. I wouldn't have put in that effort if she were a 350lb homeless woman with no teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 03:28 PM
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"Manipulation" = "influence" + subjective negative connotation. Women put on makeup to influence others' perception. Samsung runs advertisements to influence purchasing decisions. These can be considered manipulations as well: they are designed to change people's minds in their favor. The point I'm making here is that people subjectively deem an influence as a manipulation when they personally do not agree with it. So shaming something as a manipulation doesn't hold a lot of water, objectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 03:15 PM
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Once I was FWB's with a woman who read some PUA books so she could spot who the players were. She would even crack jokes about the cringey shit they would do, and I would just laugh along side her. Yet she had no realization that I was gaming her. Of course, I don't ascribe to the PUA bullshit. I was running real game: being confident, keeping in excellent physical shape, telling funny jokes, being a good leader, etc. She fell in love with me. Is it straight up manipulation and deception or what…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 02:22 PM
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I wasn't discounting what he's managed to do up until now. I was only commenting that he's going to be slamming into a brick wall soon if he doesn't get his shit together. And he probably won't. He's a one-trick pony, and once that runs out, well... that probably won't be a pretty sight...
/r/askTRP11/10/19 04:04 AM
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I don't think a soft-next is appropriate. She didn't do anything wrong (shit-tests from women are normal and can be easily dealt with). Perhaps you could give her a time out for a couple days. Lower your attention to her for a little bit. Then reach out as if nothing happened.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 09:47 PM
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It was a culmination of about a month of bitchy attitude You should be fully managing that as it occurs, not waiting for it to all collapse on you. Any time she's being a stick in the mud, you handle it. Crack jokes and get her to lighten up. If that doesn't work, you dial down the attention until she's ready to bring value to your life again. Her problems are hers. You've got shit to do, and real problems to deal with. You don't have energy to waste on carrying resentment.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 09:32 PM
1

If little shit-tests like these rattle you, then you've got fundamental problems with holding frame. What's your mission? Are you lifting your fucking face off at the gym? More importantly: if someone asked you what your greatest accomplishment is in life, would you have a good answer? If you answered no to any of these, that would be your starting point for fixing your frame... besides hitting the sidebar.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:39 PM
1

No, its textbook-classic AA. It projects confidence while getting a laugh.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:36 PM
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These women will not be around when he hits 30 and isn't famous, still working in Walmart. Exactly. This guy is going to hit a wall in the next couple years when guys his age start to really get their careers going. Then he's going to be the 27 year old loser working for minimum wage alongside 17 year olds while living with his mom.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:34 PM
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What would be best course of action? Well, either things got weird for her to start ignoring you, or... she just really isn't into you. But that doesn't matter. What do you have to lose by giving it a shot? Smile at her and say hi. If she doesn't respond well, do it again next time. If you still get nothing, then just drop her. In my current situation at a STEM college [...] 1 to 5 girl guy ratio You should primarily game women off-campus, then.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:29 PM
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What kind of lie was it? I get the feeling it wasn't something minor. In that case, demote to FWB and game other women. Dial down your attention to her in the meantime.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:24 PM
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she said “the stuff you watch is stupid and uninteresting “ Your agree & amplify response should have been: "That's because I am a stupid and uninteresting man!" Then continued doing what you were doing. But instead, you showed butthurt. how would you guys recommend I handle these situations ? Firstly, learn how to use AA/AM responses. When she crosses a line that those can't handle, then you dial down your attention to her--without showing butthurt.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:22 PM
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If OP's girl was the kind who would partake in that, then there would be plenty of other red flags. So this on its own doesn't prove anything. Sure, plenty of women look for excuses to go partying and "accidentally" fuck a guy. And some like to go out dancing. Its pretty easy to pick out the two types when you look at all their other behaviors over time.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 04:48 PM
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Like I said before, he's painted himself into a corner. Its a lose-lose situation. My advice has him take the least shitty route.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 04:44 PM
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and was very close to taking out all of my anger on that dude You've got anger that's built-up inside you. We're not therapists in here, but spend some time on your own finding the root cause. If you can't figure it out, its worth seeing a professional. This kind of thing rarely goes away on its own. Gaining full control of your emotions is the key to moving up the levels of RP theory. In my eyes he was a small insecure chihuahua barking. Then why did you consider him to be a threat to you? Weak…
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:58 PM
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Another point: when you tell her about the rule change, keep it very short. "I changed my mind. You're free to go to your friend's birthday party without me. I won't hold it against you." No further discussion. No apologizing.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:51 PM
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Now get ready because I'm about to sound like a 13 year old in a minute. Yep, you did. So does anyone have any advice for stopping behaviors such as this? Same as everyone else who catches oneitis: hard-next for your own sanity, and get to work fixing your frame so it doesn't happen again. Lay low for a couple months. Go to different churches and/or different times at the same church. Avoid the social events you've seen her at. Meanwhile, game other women so you realize none of them are unicorns…
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:46 PM
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She's shown no evidence that she's going to cheat on you, but your insecurity flared up anyway. You effectively mate-guarded. At this point, you painted yourself into a corner. You're in a lose-lose situation. Either you back down and appear even weaker for not holding boundaries, or you hold your bullshit rule which solidifies your insecurity and/or destroys the LTR. The least shitty outcome here is to tell her you were wrong in preventing her from going. Then immediately get to work fixing you…
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:41 PM
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Wait... on top of all this, she also has BPD?? Dude. BPD = you do not have sex with her. Nevermind FWB. Nevermind LTR. Nevermind marriage. With her moving out, you were given a true gift. And here you are... missing a woman with BPD and thinking about maybe divorcing her! Wow. Just.... wow....
/r/askMRP09/10/19 07:22 PM
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She only drinks to a blackout level when upset. She sounds like a winner. Now she has started being really flirty with me, Getting jealous when I talk to other girls etc. I don't understand what is going on? She wants her orbiter back. If you were at the intermediate or advanced level of RP theory, you could eventually plate her by pulling other women in front of her. But given this post, you are solidly in the beginner level. Any attempt at plating her will likely blow up in your face in an ava…
/r/askTRP09/10/19 05:46 PM
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You didn't ask a single question, but here's some feedback on what you said: At this point she wants space and doesn't want to give an answer on if or when she'll be back. She'll only come back if she fails to find suitable branch to swing to. You're the backup. She doesn't want to lose me and asked me not to see other people Of course she doesn't want to lose her safety net. and she is doing the same. Lurl. I hope you don't actually believe that. She's on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match right …
/r/askMRP09/10/19 05:41 PM
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I thought metrosexuality died out like 14 years ago.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 05:24 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 02:39 PM
3

Strangers on the Internet cannot tell you what you want.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 02:38 PM
1

Is this one of those manifestos that fucktards post before going on a shooting spree?
/r/askTRP08/10/19 02:35 PM
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It upsets me to have sex with multiple girls at once. If threesomes aren't your thing then just fuck them one at a time. Help me decide, thanks. Strangers on the Internet cannot tell you what you want.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 12:46 AM
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How do you get out of your head and not notice all the details By spending years solidifying your frame, raising your SMV, and working on your mission. There are no short cuts to real success.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 12:43 AM
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This is FWB/LTR-level stuff... not for plates, and not for potential plates. Stick your cock in her a couple times, decide if she's legitimately fun to hang out with outside of the bedroom, and take it from there.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 12:41 AM
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She secretly fucked more than one guy. And she'll fuck more in the future. Are you OK with this? No? Then you know the next move is to meet with a divorce attorney.
/r/askMRP08/10/19 12:39 AM
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and I acted a little butthurt that day. Scarcity mentality and lack of outcome-independence. she isn't asking for hugs anymore from me like she used to, leaves without a hug and is less affectionate overal. Stop giving a shit about what a plate does. I don't like it and am thinking of replacing her. More butt-hurt due to weak frame. I believe her flake/disrespect to me wired something in her brain and will never ever be attracted to me again like she was Stop giving a shit what might be going on…
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:35 PM
1

Sounds like you didn't drink the bleach yet. I PROMISE you, it'll clear your mind of all the government brainwashing. Think about it: you've been exposed to chemtrails for decades at this point. Of course they're making you think bleach is harmful!! Just start by drinking one cup. It'll change your life. You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP06/10/19 04:17 PM
1

Bro. I am 300% serious. Bleach negates the effects of chemtrails. The fact that you're doubting me comes from the government mind-control itself! Just drink one full cup right now, and you'll know what I mean. You'll immediately know its working. You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 07:05 PM
1

Bro. I hacked into the Area 51 computers and I found their research on chemtrails! Turns out there's a way to counter-act the government's mind-control!! It says to drink one cup of bleach every 24 hours. You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 04:03 PM
0

You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP04/10/19 02:54 PM
1

Bro. I googled it, and a ghost reached out of my screen and fondled my erect 2-inch penis. That was your plan all along, wasn't it!! Fuck!! You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP03/10/19 09:14 PM
0

Hahaha. Google "OMG vampires from another dimension are stealing my avocados." You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP02/10/19 11:19 PM
1

I know, retard... I know. They're spraying us all with Viagra, which explains why I got a MASSIVE boner all the time! I'm not complaining... Now, if you want some real talk... let me tell you about the Mormons' plans to infect our space-time continuum with nanites... You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP02/10/19 02:07 AM
2

Bro. You're the retard who doesn't even believe that vampires are invading our dimension every Tuesday. Can you even prove that they're not?? Yeah, I didn't think so. P.S. 9/11 was caused by shape-shifting Jews.
/r/askTRP02/10/19 02:05 AM
2

Bro. I heard that the government is spraying mind-control chemicals from commercial airplanes. Think about it: WHY ELSE would there be streaks in the sky when they pass by??? Also, I can shoot lasers out of my eyes. My doctor told me that's impossible, but he's just brainwashed by the chemtrails.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 11:28 PM
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You don't travel with plates. That's FWB territory. Is she legitimately fun to hang out with when you're not fucking? If so, there's no hurt in promoting her to FWB level. Decide for yourself if it would be a fun trip. If so, then go. Otherwise, don't. You should always be doing what you want.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 08:50 PM
3

I think climate change is all about making the US socialist Do you believe that the earth is flat too? If you were to guess, how many US government workers are actually shape-shifting lizard aliens? You fucking retard.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 07:53 PM
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i just got back from thailand and fucked 65 hookers in 6 months. How many dudes do you think you accidentally fucked? If you were drunk when fucking these hookers, then that number is over zero.
/r/askTRP01/10/19 12:47 AM
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The therapist says she almost certainly has borderline personality disorder. [...] the stay plan the same as the go plan. No, dude. When your wife has BPD, there is no stay plan. Because BPD. Last night I mentioned that if she moves out we are 100% done. This morning she's freaking out and saying she'll stay because I'm forcing her too. And now you see the value in STFU. You triggered her BPD and got nothing useful in return. Right now I'm a bit lost. Do I let her go? She has BPD. End of story.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 09:42 PM
4

Think harder.
/r/askTRP27/09/19 04:07 PM
3

There's a couple ways to handle it. One is to say "No problem", followed by a soft-next. Another is to ignore it completely and hit her up in a week like nothing happened.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 09:04 PM
1

Stop being a bitch.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:39 PM
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"Privacy about my health is very important to me." Look them dead in the eye when you say it, and they'll pick up that you're serious.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:38 PM
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potential LTR [...] 3 weeks Uhh, no. You don't even think about promotion to LTR status until the 6 month mark. When I got back into the car she went ballistic. Massive red flag. She is crazy. Normally, this is cause for a hard-next, but now you probably can't do that easily because you stuck your dick in the crazy. Hard-nexting at this point will likely result in a full-scale nuclear meltdown involving your pets getting murdered and/or false rape accusations. Your only hope is to fade out by ac…
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:36 PM
1

but at some point there really is an issue that needs to be addressed No there isn't. The fact that you're suggesting this implies that its getting to you. Your frame isn't as strong as it needs to be. Keep up with the AA/AM responses while you improve your frame.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 10:59 PM
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Woah there, tough guy. Deep breaths.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 06:13 PM
1

What gives? You have weak frame, that's what. Reflect on why you need external validation of your life's choices. Eventually you need to realize that the only person's opinion on your life is your own.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 05:47 PM
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His entire life right now revolves around his paralysis. It would be good for him to get his mind off that, no? In that case, go in and talk to him about anything and everything except that. Make him laugh. Play some card games. Show him reasons that life can still be fun.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 03:56 PM
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First off, she isn't your friend. You're attracted to her, so your perception and interest is completely different than your perception and interest in a true (male) friend. It doesn't matter if its platonic up to this point... what matters is what's happening under the hood in your mind. Your move now is to escalate. You've got nothing of value to lose. Either she responds well and your penis enters her vagina, or she rejects you and you stop wasting your time orbiting her. Its very simple. The…
/r/askTRP23/09/19 03:53 PM
3

Is this a hard and fast rule? When you're in the intermediate and advanced levels of RP, nothing is a hard and fast rule. Beginners shouldn't text for anything other than logistics, because its all too easy for them to shoot themselves in the foot. But once you've mastered the basics, you can start to experiment with running game over texting. It works for some people. Others can't seem to get it together (and those are the ones insisting its a "hard and fast rule"; they can't see past their own…
/r/askTRP23/09/19 03:45 PM
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Cancelling every once in a while is fine. Things turn up in life. It happens. Instead, what you pay attention to is patterns. Even if she has a string of verified and good excuses, if she can't prioritize you enough to meet, then you soft-next her. If at some future time, she'd like to get fucked again, then so be it. Hard nexts should be used very rarely. They are only for women who show actually crazy behavior, or somehow become permanently un-fuckable (Did she get mangled in a car accident? D…
/r/askTRP23/09/19 03:36 PM
1

I wouldn’t say you broke frame Read the other responses in this thread. Yes, this is broken frame.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 07:35 PM
1

Sure, you can form theories about what's going on, and that can help you navigate a situation. But in the end, only actions tell the truth. If you don't want to fuck her right now, that's fine. But she can be useful in other ways. Other women will see that she wants you, and this will make you more attractive...
/r/askTRP21/09/19 06:45 PM
1

Wooosh. You missed the point.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 06:43 PM
1

but then he kept giving me the finger *GASP* OH NO!!! THE FINGER!!! Fuck, dude... you really needed to blast that guy's face off with your fists!! Now what's going to happen?? All these randos on the bus think you're weak!! Dude. You need to make sure everyone around you thinks you're MAXIMUM ALPHA all the time. Otherwise, what's even the point of living??
/r/askTRP21/09/19 06:06 PM
1

Did he fight? What I read is that when things started to seriously escalate, he pulled back. OP's insecurity caused him to escalate the situation not once, but twice. Once for "calling him an idiot back", and the second time for going up to the guy and trying to initiate a physical altercation. Men with real confidence and solid frame do not do this. If you're yelling shit at someone You do not "yell shit" at strangers in public.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 05:59 PM
2

Now I'm starting think you really were acting like a retard on that bus...
/r/askTRP21/09/19 05:36 PM
1

You were responsible and reasonable. Fighting for ANY reason other than self-defense is the ultimate loss of frame. Its OK if you're still a beginner to RP theory, because everyone has to start somewhere. But you shouldn't be answering questions on AskTRP in that case. You have more to learn.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 05:08 PM
5

You may be right, but so what? The guys who keep spouting about hypergamy seem to be fixated on it so as to justify their anger. That mentality will keep you stuck in the beginner phase. The core of RP theory is to accept the world for what it is, and maximize your potential within it. Instead of wasting your time worrying about things outside of your control, you should be working on your mission and your path to self-actualization.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 05:05 PM
2

until I started calling him an idiot back This is the point at which your flimsy frame cracked. Some fucking nobody was talking, and it made you feel threatened. At one point, I walked up to him and stood over him, and said “if you’re a fucking man stand up and say it to my face.” This is the point at which your flimsy frame shattered. You NEVER fight for any reason other than self-defense. Unless, of course, you're a weak man with low confidence and you need everyone around you to know this. Be…
/r/askTRP21/09/19 04:30 PM
7

You can come up with many, many explanations as to what's going on: she wants to fuck you, she wants you as a boyfriend, she wants you as an orbiter, she wants to make your friend jealous, etc. None of this actually matters, though. All that matters is what you want, and her behavior. If you want to plate her, then run game. Either she responds well to it, or she doesn't and you soft-next her. Trying to analyze what's going on in her mind is pointless.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 04:21 PM
9

This is a question for the sociology subreddit. Birth rates are known to plummet in first-world countries once a certain standard of living is reached. And its not just women who stop wanting kids; its men too. You post sounds angry, though. Controlling your anger is something you need fix.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 04:17 PM
6

Every time me and my girlfriend travel to some city, she should try to look through her list of male friends to meet. So she's the type of woman who feeds off male attention & validation. Now, there's nothing inherently wrong with these types, but they are not suitable for LTRs. Hence, you fucked up by promoting the wrong woman to LTR status. In addition, I pay for the whole trip. Way to go, Mr. Beta Male Provider. When I confront her about this There is no point in talking to her. She isn't LTR…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 07:40 PM
2

I've accomplished a lot so far... Traveled the world, lived abroad, made money, etc... Now I was thinking of just enjoying the fruits of my labor, kicking back, Good to hear that you had success in life. But you're not done. Your mission is what gives you purpose and happiness, both on a short-term and long-term basis. building a "legacy." Many, many people have attempted to build a legacy through children, and they always fail. They think their children can be treated like puppets that can be c…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 04:24 PM
5

So I kinda want to LTR this girl, despite the fact that she cheated on her bf with me Red flag. At most, she can only attain FWB status. Full stop. She is in love with me and my personality She was in love with the last guy, too. Then something shiny came along and... poof!... that "love" disappeared as if it never existed in the first place! Don't be a retard. She'll do the same to you. "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." I am sick of having to always make sure I am not ac…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 04:11 PM
6

Ex's can indeed be safely turned into FWB/plates, but definitely not by beginners to RP theory. That's an intermediate-level and up move. The fact that you're here asking basic questions tells me loud & clear that you are a beginner. If you try it, you will crash & burn HARD. For anyone curious, here's how it can work: firstly, you need a rock-solid frame. You will be shit-tested more. She will also push for re-commitment. Your AA/AM responses need to be on-point. You need to be strong enough to…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 03:59 PM
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FINALLY AN LTR WORTHY GIRL!!! Woah there, buddy... take a deep breath. I also recognize AWALT, and putting this girl on a pedestal will only sabotage my goals. Bingo. So there's a little self-awareness in you after all. In that case: are you seeing how you've already put her up on that pedestal? I’ve finally found a girl worthy of an LTR… [...] can’t ignore my drive to have children someday [...] The thing is I just can’t stomach any more time with post-wall independent sloots that are my typica…
/r/askTRP20/09/19 03:42 PM
3

Anyone in your life that is more of a liability than an asset should get nexted. Personally, I'd go with a soft-next and just sit back and enjoy the shit-show. I'm a grown-ass man with a mission and purpose; I'm nearly impossible to manipulate or shame, so I'd be more entertained than anything. But it sounds like its getting to you, probably because you don't have enough actually-important things to worry about in your life. That needs to be fixed, but in the meantime, just block them entirely.
/r/askTRP19/09/19 11:09 PM
1

Yep. She's trying to rope you into commitment. You can respond with AA/AM techniques.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 11:45 PM
1

check up on her I'm not sure what this means, even. You should be running game on your plates & FWB's on a regular basis. But you shouldn't be mate-guarding or overly concerning yourself with what they're doing.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:56 PM
3

i feel bored after a month of relationship You should always be doing what YOU want. This relationship isn't interesting to you, but you're probably not leaving due to scarcity mentality. Fix this.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:50 PM
1

Should I check up on her or fuck it? You should always be doing what YOU want. From the sound of it, the only reason you're considering this is because she wants you to. That's an invalid reason.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:49 PM
1

Here, let me quote your own words back to you: I feel like I’m with little children when I’m with my friends.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 10:46 PM
2

You're not very far along if you don't understand that you shouldn't be keeping people around who bring no value to your life.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 07:54 PM
3

To me, it's absolutely eye-roll inducing. I hate when guys brag about girl they bang, yet alone girls they cuddle with. I don't mind it being mentioned in passing, but the ego of some of these guys... And here you are, worrying about what other people are doing instead of focusing on your mission and your path to self-actualization. You need to reflect on why this guy's behavior is taking up so much of your mental capacity.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 07:41 PM
14

Go to a doctor? Yes. Go to an orthopedic doctor. Don't bother with a primary care physician, unless that's a hard requirement for getting a referral. If so, what do I tell the doctor? "My shoulder hurts" should do the trick. The orthopedic doctor will handle it from there.
/r/askTRP18/09/19 07:38 PM
3

This is a common question. The bottom line is that RP knowledge cannot be forced onto people. They have to be willing. The best you can do is sprinkle a couple bits of wisdom here and there. Maybe it piques his interest. But honestly... it probably won't, so be prepared to have a BP brother for the rest of your life.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 09:03 PM
2

Then the ball is in her court. Soft-next. If she's interested, she can reach out and set up a time.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 03:58 AM
1

This is a common question that is posed on here. In the end, RP knowledge cannot be forced upon anyone. Many people have tried this, and it always fails. What you can do, is sprinkle a couple hints here and there. If he's receptive to those, then ramp up slowly. (The keyword here is slowly.) He will probably reject it outright, though. In which case, you keep your mouth shut and let him wreck his own life. That's his problem, not yours.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 01:25 AM
5

If you have a plan for how its going to be fun and interesting for you both, then it works. Personally, I'm drawing blanks on how the library would satisfy those requirements, but hey... if you think it can work, do it.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 01:21 AM
3

It doesn't matter what the "real" reason is (which you'll never know anyway). All that matters is the pattern of behaviors. If she cancels once, that means nothing. If she flakes out consistently, then its time for a soft-next.
/r/askTRP17/09/19 01:18 AM
4

Do I make a big argument out of it or do I just let it be and withdraw all of my attention? The former would be satisfying but not very elegant. This is the line of thinking of a man who doesn't have a proper mission in life: they fantasize about telling people off to feed their flimsy ego. People that do not bring value to your life should get minimized. Anyone is free to ride your success train through life, but if they interfere, they must get off immediately. Anyone intentionally hampering y…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 07:04 PM
1

workplace's hot guy Do you mean you're chasing after co-workers? Don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 06:59 PM
3

Who the fuck cares? You ought to be busy on your mission, not wasting brainpower on what some other fuck-asses are doing. Get to work. The clock's ticking.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 06:57 PM
10

Dont shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 05:28 PM
6

This implies you are afraid of her reaction. You are now operating within her frame, likely due to lack of outcome-independence and scarcity mentality. You have fundamental problems with your self-image. Fix this.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:54 PM
22

or simply confront her about the situation "Hey, I'm really insecure because I have oneitis, lack of outcome-independence, and scarcity mentality. I am not the strong man you thought I was when we started dating. Just FYI." This is guaranteed to hurt you and guaranteed to accomplish nothing in your favor. Plus her so called best friend is now using my LTR to pass time and eventually plant the carousel seeds onto her. This is your hamster spinning. You have zero proof that the friend is trying to…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:51 PM
10

Are you a brainwashed Catholic boy? Is that why you felt a compulsion to confess?
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:42 PM
2

Yes.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:41 PM
7

It was actually my parents who adviced against it, on the grounds that her dad saw the video and that they were probably dealing with her themselves. This isn't about them. This is about YOU. Specifically, your healing process. Confronting what happened and taking control of your life back is exactly what you need to fix your mindset.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 02:31 PM
18

on a moral level like I didn’t get into game to ruin marriages. Yeah, because it really sounds like this was a solid marriage before you came along and wrecked it... I’m morally mind fucked should I fuck this guys WIFE where is the line. [...] I feel like I’d be super guilty. Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want. Only you can decide. The girl is really cute totally innocent never in my life expect this shit Boy, you have a lot to learn about women...
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:49 PM
26

Who the fuck do you think is going to read your 888-page bullshit victim-puke? Delete your post and go put it on Tumblr.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 07:44 PM
8

Will I be able to feel comfortable knowing that all the guys at her work place are constantly hitting on her? Probably not. In which case, how to handle this realisation? You're uncomfortable because your frame is weak and/or your SMV isn't high enough to withstand a challenge. You can fix this in one of two ways: start dating shittier women so guys don't hit on them, or start putting in the years of hard work to raise your SMV so that when your girlfriend/wife gets hit on by even an above-avera…
/r/askTRP13/09/19 03:03 PM
6

I think I’ve finally found one. [...] I just don’t feel a “spark.” This is called: settling. You don't say it explicitly, but you imply you're looking for the mother of your kids. You're 28, and you're following the same path that single women do when they're about to hit their 30's: settle for someone stable because the fear of not finding someone, and because of social pressure to start a family. my SMV has skyrocketed in the past few years If you're really holding all the high cards like you …
/r/askTRP13/09/19 02:57 PM
1

Disgusting? No, I think its awesome. Now I fuck more married women.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 11:45 PM
2

What the fuck are you babbling about? Did you just mash keys and let autocorrect write all that?
/r/askTRP12/09/19 02:53 AM
3

You probably shouldn't be in an LTR if you're this insecure.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 02:52 AM
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should I approach? If/when shit hits the fan, are you comfortable with the drama she'll start every time you see her at your gym? Personally, my gym is my safe place. I'm there to fucking lift, ignore everything else, and leave post-haste. But hey... you do you.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 02:37 AM
5

You should post this blog entry to Tumblr. Maybe someone there will give a shit?
/r/askTRP12/09/19 02:34 AM
2

That's a major red flag that should have prevented her promotion to LTR status. Full stop. She is--at most--FWB material. At best, she keeps these losers around because she's dependent upon male attention & validation. More than likely, she's getting some dick on the side, or is keeping them for options later. In other words, she is never going to be your loyal first-mate. You fucked up by promoting her. Immediately & silently demote to FWB status. Game other women, and then learn how to better …
/r/askTRP11/09/19 10:57 PM
14

"No problem," followed by an immediate soft-next. She's probably not interested, but this theory doesn't matter; all that matters is her actions. If she comes back later, schedule something convenient for you (in terms of both time and place) so that if she flakes again, you're not affected much.
/r/askTRP11/09/19 10:51 PM
20

Even if she's a 9/10, you still shouldn't give a shit...
/r/askTRP11/09/19 04:52 PM
3

I'm planning on ending things when she gets back, but how do I best continue until then? Why do you give a shit on how to "best continue"? You're single now... she just doesn't know it yet. So act like you're single. Work on your mission and game other women. Your ex-girlfriend is messaging you? Ignore.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 06:40 PM
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I've been getting pre-cum all over myself [...] is there a better response than just ignoring it every time? Stop giving a shit what plates think. They're plates. This shows you have weak frame. I don't think I ever want to go down on her Then don't. The core idea of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. If you're feeling pressure to do something else, its because of scarcity mentality. Fix this. What's the best way to deflect it and get my dick sucked instead? "I need you …
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:52 PM
1

I said I don't agree at all but I will if she wants to "I don't want to do this, but I'm too weak to stand up for myself." It feel like I fucked up somewhere and awakened the feminist in her. Yup. See above. How to proceed? Firstly, fix your weak frame. Then make a decision yourself on what you want. Then either she gets in line, or you replace her.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:50 AM
4

so I think she thinks Dude. You've got zero proof that she wants an LTR. Stop worrying about what she may or may not be thinking. Just keep gaming her and escalating until you get what you want... whatever that is. The sidebar has The Talk covered pretty well.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:45 AM
2

It sounds like you did it right. If she's at your place and not returning the ball, that's on her. If this was the third date, then personally, I'd hard-next. She's just a waste of time. Otherwise, if this was the first or second date, I'd soft-next her. If/when she comes back, I'd give her another chance to redeem herself. Then either she does or she doesn't.
/r/askTRP07/09/19 06:16 PM
0

and the girl was distant for a few days. A soft-next would fix this. She kept calling me and texting but wouldn't want to go out with me. Soft-next. I got her to talk about this No. There is no talking. You speak with your actions: she either gets in line and follows your lead, or she gets soft-nexted. If a pattern emerges, you re-evaluate her LTR status. she said that her sister is subtly making her life hell Not your problem. Woman doc advised to say away from 'toxic' people Also not your prob…
/r/askTRP07/09/19 06:07 PM
22

Hey man... you do you. If you want to bury your head in the sand about how the world really works, have at it! Because the more effeminate & emasculated men that modern-day society produces, the more married women want to fuck me. And I am very OK with that.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 12:12 AM
1

Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 11:50 PM
20

Why is this even a problem? This is the effects of abundance. This is a good thing. Now she'll try even harder to keep your attention.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 11:48 PM
5

Obsession about women The beginners are obsessed with women. The intermediate and advanced guys aren't. Success with women comes as a reward for hard work in your personal and professional life. lifting weights in hopes of compensating for weak mental state Its a real transformation, not compensation. Weak guys start with low confidence, then become strong and start believing in themselves. They learn about hard work and perseverance. This transforms them from a weak mental state into a strong m…
/r/askTRP30/08/19 07:04 PM
6

“if you build it, they will come.” Yes, but your frame will then dictate if you become the pushover that women use for money & resources while getting hot dick on the side, or if you're the prize itself. It all seems shallow. This answers your question: you're still in the very beginning phase. Is it shallow for a lion to kill a zebra and eat it? No. That's simply what lions do. And you're better off knowing this reality, as you can then use it to your advantage. RP is just about seeing the worl…
/r/askTRP30/08/19 03:28 PM
0

The first step is to decide what YOUR boundaries are. From the sound of it, you don't like being physically touched by acquaintances (I wouldn't like that either). In that case, I'd look him dead in the eye and say, "Do not put your hands on me." Calm, cool, and collected. No smirking, no joking, no changing the subject. Then I'd immediately resume doing what I was doing. Next time it happens, I'd make a snap assessment if his behavior crossed the aggression level. If its a lesser offense, I'd g…
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:41 AM
4

You jump on the opportunity, post-haste. Its a common story to hear people who passed on an opportunity to set themselves up just so they could spend more time on bullshit drinking & partying. They all regret it. Don't make the same mistake. Besides, even the most time consuming business ventures don't require 70+ hours a week for sustained periods of time. You'll still get to enjoy life.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 08:18 PM
2

could be due to loneliness and lack of mission Yep, it is. Its ok to not know what your mission is, as long as you're actively working to find it. Browse around on the Meetup website and find a group that's doing something fun. That'll help with the loneliness part. Otherwise... its just a matter of keeping busy and working on yourself. Time heals all.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 08:12 PM
4

Worrying about what other people think is the clearest marker of weak frame.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 03:48 PM
3

Out of sight, out of mind. Are you seeing either of them around? If so, you need to avoid them. Aside from lifting and gaming other women, your main focus should be on your mission. Do you have one? Are you making sufficient progress on it?
/r/askTRP27/08/19 03:45 PM
2

Its fine to take some cues and reminders from works of fiction, but in the end, you have to keep in mind that someone made it all up. Its not real life. People used to come into this sub and justify things based on Game of Thrones episodes. They had a hard time understanding that just because some character's tactic worked on the show, doesn't prove nor disprove anything in the real world. The best RP stories come from real life.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 03:42 PM
5

Of course you go up to the door. Showing fear in a silly social situation will get you nexted quick.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:41 PM
1

I'm not going to read this novel. Thankfully, I don't need to, because the title and first paragraph tell me everything I need. Apply dread (I get the feeling you still need to learn what dread is...). She will get in line quickly.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:40 PM
5

Hard next for your own sanity. Out of sight, out of mind. If she reaches out in any way, immediately delete/ignore. If you see her out somewhere, avoid that place for a little while.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:38 PM
1

Are you retarded?
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:17 AM
3

Are you retarded?
/r/askTRP22/08/19 04:00 AM
6

"Tomorrow I have plans. Let's meet for coffee at 7pm on [2 days from now] at [specific place]."
/r/askTRP21/08/19 06:37 PM
1

Amused Mastery and Amplify don't seem to do shit. If she's still in the game, then its working. "I can't stand wannabe ghetto hoes, either behave normally or piss off" This shows butt-hurt.... because you ARE butt-hurt. So the real issue here is to fix your frame so you stop caring about what some silly 18 year old babbles at you. Go lift, and work on your mission. Then you'll stop caring. Once that's done, its easy to ignore her until you want to use her wet holes again.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 06:33 PM
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one of the girls in my class [...] asked me if i had a girlfriend. You should have dodged the question. I really don't understand why she thinks we're "80% official" [...] How do i react to it? Firstly, you need to reflect on her overall behavior and look for red flags that suggest she's unstable. What she's doing now doesn't necessarily prove that she's crazy; she could be deep into wishful thinking, or its intentional to rope you into commitment. But if she's showing crazy behavior on top of t…
/r/askTRP21/08/19 06:25 PM
3

she starts asking why "Keeping busy." and brings everything back up? Standard AA/AM responses would work well if she's whining about you disappearing. If she continues to pester you, withdraw attention until she's ready to play by your rules.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 09:28 PM
3

Then I ignore her for a few days, and then invite her No. A soft next is when you withdraw all attention until she reaches out to you. This means if she doesn't initiate contact for 4 months, then you don't talk to her for 4 months. The ball is entirely in her court, and if she never uses it, then you never deal with her ever again. The moment she reaches out to you, though, you continue on as if nothing happened. You don't bring it up. You just continue gaming her. When it comes to an LTR, thou…
/r/askTRP20/08/19 03:24 PM
5

The key point about having a strong frame is that you're always doing what YOU want. It is never based on what other people want nor expect from you. So you make the decision to delete your ex based on YOUR best interests. Is it distracting to see her on there? Is it interfering with you gaming other women and/or chasing your mission? In those cases, you remove/block her. A bad reason to do it would be to "get back at her" or "show her how much I don't care." That is the smoking gun that you are…
/r/askTRP20/08/19 03:19 PM
2

My question is: is it normal that when I finally got her I don't want her anymore? The turning point seems to be when she mentioned she would start telling you important things about her life. You said "I felt a bad feeling in my stomach after she said that", and that you're being nagged about your texting response time. Sounds like you want to keep her as an FWB, but not as a girlfriend. The solution is to resume treating her as an FWB. Use your actions, not your words.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 03:14 PM
3

Girl I work with who spent the night last Friday Did you shit where you eat?
/r/askTRP20/08/19 12:53 AM
1

How many personal possessions does she have at your place? Big pieces like furniture, or just small stuff you can move yourself like clothes, makeup, etc? If I was in that situation, there'd be no more talking. The moment she steps foot outside the apartment is the moment I'd change the locks, and move all her stuff out. Don't leave anything outside your door. Don't even put her shit in a nearby dumpster. Take her shit far away so she can't say it was ever in your place to begin with. Her posses…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 07:15 PM
2

No one said you had to stick around for that month she finds another place.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 06:06 PM
1

Well you definitely fucked up, but right now you need to deal with this situation. Restraining orders work differently based on where you are. But consider this: she made threats to you, did she not? She made you feel physically unsafe, right? Those are the points you keep harping on. How long has she been there for? Also, what did you tell the cops?
/r/askTRP19/08/19 06:05 PM
2

Talk to your landlord and see if getting out early is an option. If he declines, see if you can toss in a couple hundred bucks to sweeten the deal. You can also offer to find someone willing to take over the remaining 6 months or so. Don't forget to take your money out of the joint account. Anything in it can be legally taken out by either party. So she could clean it out and you'd have no recourse. Giving her a month to find another place to live, or a room mate, is very reasonable.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 05:19 PM
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Does she have her own place? Does she have any documentation that she lives there? (Mail addressed to her, government ID with your address on it, etc?) If she has her own place, and no proof, I'd just wait until she stepped out, then I'd change the locks and quickly discard all her possessions (if you want to be nice, put them outside the door of her actual home). For bonus points, file a restraining order. Is it a legal grey-area? Yes, but personally I'd rather get her the fuck out, then roll t…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 05:09 PM
11

he told me Hearsay. Continue running game on her. All that matters is her actions. To be safe, though, think twice before spending even $5 on a coffee for her. But you should already be careful about that, no?
/r/askTRP19/08/19 05:04 PM
11

Its easiest to set the pace early on. She can text as much as she wants, but you have control as to when you reply. The core of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. Other people's desires should have no bearing on your choices. So think about how often you want to spend on it, and act accordingly. Then either she accepts your level of attention, or she exits. Either way shouldn't concern you much, due to outcome independence and abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 03:11 AM
1

She may be using this for plausible deniability (i.e.: she wants to escalate things with you, but doesn't want it to be obvious just yet). The other option is she wants a beta orbiter who will give her free help. Either way, the fact that she's in an LTR changes nothing for you. Do you both go to the same gym? If so, think about if you really want to shit where you eat. Its not as bad as gaming a co-worker, but if/when things end, do you really want to keep seeing her around and acting weird? Ot…
/r/askTRP16/08/19 02:19 AM
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My problem with this is that [...] The core of RP theory is that you should always be doing what YOU want. So ask yourself: is this something you'd normally want to do on your own? If so, you do it. Otherwise, you don't. The fact that someone wants you to do this or that should have no bearing on your decisions.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 02:08 AM
2

Self-actualization is the process of becoming the best person you can be. Do you have some musical talent? Then your job is to master several instruments. Do you find it easy to learn math? Then your job is to design proofs that blow away math professors around the globe. Learn mindfulness. Learn self-control. Learn mastery of your emotions. And lift your fucking face off at the gym.
/r/askTRP12/08/19 10:32 PM
2

I wasn't just talking about "ok" marriages. I was talking about great marriages. And now that I think of it, 1 in 400 seems too high...
/r/askTRP12/08/19 10:28 PM
0

Any comments or suggestions on how to help our children in light of hypergamy? There is no helping them, other than leading by example. One of the common questions in the asktrp sub revolves around trying to force RP theory on their BP brother/cousin/friend. It never works. They need to arrive to the starting point themselves. Your daughter is just going to keep doing what millions of years of evolution taught her to do. Regarding your son: you can toss a couple quick lessons at him and see if h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/19 07:23 PM
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but isnt it possible to make my turn last forever? Why do you NEED this so badly? Long-term happiness does not come from women. Also: your question implies oneitis. Like how some marriages last forever Half end in divorce, and of the ones that "last"... most aren't happy marriages. The fairy-tale portrayal of a perfect marriage happens in... 1 out of 400(?) marriages? That's a pure guess, but my point is that it is exceedingly rare. Overall, your perspective is wrong. You're seeking meaning from…
/r/askTRP12/08/19 06:32 PM
2

Who has time for this bullshit when you're busy lifting your fucking face off at the gym, and working on your career?
/r/askTRP12/08/19 06:20 PM
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When you've built yourself up as a man, you gain confidence in yourself. At that point, you realize that you bring to the table a lot more than other men do. So when other guys hit on your LTR, you just laugh. Would you feel threatened by a fucking loser who is 12 to 17 leagues below yours? Nope. Also: she isn't yours. Its only your turn. So stop worrying about things out of your control, and start working on your path to self-actualization.
/r/askTRP12/08/19 06:20 PM
1

yes this girl is my oneitis [...] It's painful to think of her with other people, but There is only one way to handle oneitis, and its been covered extensively already. Hint: you cannot continue seeing her in any capacity. You need to stop seeing her until you've built up a strong frame and learned the absolute basics of RP theory. Hitting up a former oneitis is possible for intermediate/advanced-level guys only. Beginners will crash & burn in a clusterfuck of drama and depression. But we all kn…
/r/askTRP12/08/19 03:56 PM
-1

Make the fall hurt Anger phase detected. Your anger is weakening your frame. By thinking in terms of how you can "get back" at women, you're not following your own path of self-actualization.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 03:30 PM
9

I feel as though she lost attraction for me Yep. And talking caused her vagina to dry up even more. Also: never argue with a woman. It never accomplishes anything. and I don’t think I can get it back Yes. By applying dread. She'll get in line and give you the sex you want. Or not. In that case, you'll know you did all you could, and its time to move on.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 03:26 PM
1

If she cancels the date, then the ball is in her court to come up with a new date. Until then, just leave it at "no problem, I understand that things come up." If she takes too long to come up with another plan, then she's just looking for an orbiter for attention.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 03:23 AM
2

Before jumping to the conclusion that its anxiety (i.e.: fear based on no rational reason), work on building up your frame. Build general confidence in yourself. Lift hard and work on your mission. Work hard and build success in your life. If that doesn't solve the problem after a year of good progress, then its time to look at it from the perspective of anxiety.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 11:51 PM
1

TMI.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:32 PM
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How do I prevent that situation from happening again? Next time, pick up an 8/10 dude from a gay bar. The movie probably won't distract you from the raging boner in your pants telling you to escalate.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 05:40 PM
4

What the fuck did I just read.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 01:46 AM
13

whenever we argue Never argue with a woman. I personally don't give a Fuck as I'm always talking to other chicks Sounds like she's not your LTR to begin with then. In that case, she's your FWB, and you should treat her as such. Which means you're free to fuck other women, not just talk to them.
/r/askTRP03/08/19 03:37 AM
5

Are women really this ruthless? Yes.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 04:59 PM
1

I don't see a single question mark in your text. Thanks for this blog post, though. Maybe post it on Tumblr too?
/r/askTRP02/08/19 03:41 PM
3

I do not know where you live. Certainly not in my world. I'm glad I don't live in your bullshit world where astrology is considered a real topic. Now be careful, dude. My magic spells work through the internet, and I'll fuck your aura up hard.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 03:19 PM
1

My advice is exactly how I get laid with smart women. It works. I also have the same "problem" OP does with dumb girls: they don't like me, and I don't like them. There is no solution to this.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 03:03 PM
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I show a lot of strong feelings and emotions. So you're saying emotions control your behavior? That's a problem. You should be controlling them, instead of the other way around. as the girl usually get annoyed by my questions or see me as a nerd That's what happens when smart guys talk to thots. Find the smart women. They sploosh when hearing a guy talk about something intelligently.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 02:58 PM
3

It’s okay to operate in her frame if the ultimate benefit is your frame. What the fuck are you babbling about, dude. Rhetorical question, because if you're this retarded, I don't care.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 08:49 PM
9

She said something along the lines of "I hate how you always take control of the situation. It's always what you want to do, what about me?" You were maybe being a drunk captain. A responsible captain doesn't just pick what he wants to do and forces his crew to help him. He makes choices that are in everyone's best interests. That said, if you're coming up with good ideas, and she's not falling in line, then she's just not a good partner. I'd need a lot more context to understand which case this…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:31 PM
11

"I'm not mean, I'm an asshole."
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:26 PM
1

As long as you're not falling down the path of oneitis, it doesn't matter. Sure, its possible she'll think she's got the upper hand and start shit-testing you. You handle that when/if it happens... just like you normally would. Then she'll learn her place. Similarly, if it leads to a decrease in her attraction, you apply dread. Your words to her can't hurt you, unless you follow them up with weak behavior.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 06:55 PM
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And then if I argue with them I come out as some sexist misogamist. You never argue with women. Its pointless. What’s the proper way to react to these situations? By not giving a shit. To care is to operate in their frame instead of your own. If you wanted to have fun, try some AA/AM techniques. Make it seem like you're oblivious that they're upset, and just act excessively happy and cheerful. It'll bait them into a meltdown. (I should point out that this is more of an intermediate/advanced-leve…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 05:12 PM
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I asked who is the guy and she said she doesn't know him. At this point, your move was to STFU and make a mental note that she is the type who feeds off male attention & validation. You would also note that these types are not suitable for LTRs. Anyway I say I don't do this, I don't need to add random girls I don't know who they are on facebook or instagram, we had a fight that day. Mistake. Never argue with a woman. You had no strategic goal. She proved that she seeks male attention & validatio…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 05:07 PM
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Oh, I understand that. The problem is that you're trying to get into another dude's pants. TRP does not deal with this scenario. You might as well be asking the same question in the knitting subreddit.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:58 PM
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Am I playing it too cool? I've felt like saying it before but haven't because I know she is sensitive about it. You are operating in her frame instead of your own. You should not be caring. You do what you want, when you want to. Get out of her frame.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:54 PM
1

Can TRP guys tell me (gay dude) what the fuck is going on? Nope. TRP is about how men deal with women.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:52 PM
1

If you always follow like a robot what some "hero" of yours always says, you'll never learn and grow on your own. You'll always be stuck at the beginner level.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:30 PM
9

Sometimes anxiety can be managed well, and sometimes its not. Keep your eyes open and see if its a problem as you promote her through the phases. Be aware that her anxiety might be biologically-based. So if you're considering kids, you'd be rolling the dice on them inheriting it.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 01:28 PM
2

I'd stay away. Why? With strong frame, a former FWB coming back for more isn't a threat to you. Furthermore, she's done nothing wrong to leave you and start things with someone else. The only time you hard-next is when they do something that makes them permanently unfuckable, like consistent flaking, or crazy behavior (or if you catch oneitis, and you need to get out for your own sanity). Other than that, its game-on for men with strong frame.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 11:12 PM
1

My behaviour isn't showing it Don't be so sure of that. Women are masters of subtlety. When it comes to interpersonal relationships, they pick up on very tiny hints that something isn't normal. She might not know what's going on in your head exactly, but she'll find out soon enough that something is off...
/r/askTRP24/07/19 11:06 PM
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I'll let other guys answer your question directly, but I thought I'd mention that there's nothing wrong with keeping a stable of FWBs. I do that myself. If I can't enjoy a woman's company enough for her to reach FWB territory, then I don't have an interest in anything at all with her. So either she gains FWB status quickly, or she crashes out and it turns into a one- or two-night stand. So there's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure you stay in control of your emotions and expectations.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 09:27 PM
3

Exactly. And strong frame gets you what you want... not necessarily with any particular woman, but with women on the whole.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 09:21 PM
2

In general, the lifecycle of this plate/FWB situation may very well just be over. In that case, you accept it and game other women. However, you can try to keep things going by telling her "let's see where things go" or telling her that she needs to earn her way back in. It might work... it might not. You shouldn't be caring too much either way.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 08:46 PM
5

Being great at sex counts for a lot with some women. Those are the fun women to be with.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 08:41 PM
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because if she does something stupid, you have to explain to her in a controlled manner. No. You tell her once, then when she violates that boundary, you simply remove your attention. You physically leave. Maybe later, if she asks, you tell her what she did wrong... then you resume working on your mission and gaming other women (because she needs to make up for her transgression somehow). And at some point you become angry If your frame is strong, then you wouldn't give a shit. Hence, you wouldn…
/r/askTRP24/07/19 08:41 PM
14

Fat people and running do not mix. Stick to biking, swimming, and walking until you get under 210 or so.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 02:21 AM
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just wanted to see if anyone else had experienced something similar and what they did to get past it. Work on your mission. Game other women. slightly sadend that a source of consistent validation and sex is gone like even though I rejected her somehow she is still rejecting me. Work on your frame, too, while you're at it. If it were strong, you wouldn't give a shit.
/r/askTRP22/07/19 03:24 PM
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What should I do here? Firstly, stop typing like an autist. Speak correctly. Secondly, "what time u wanna meet" is very passive. Be a leader, and suggest to her a specific time and place. but dont want to miss out on a fuck Your abundance mentality is weak. Fix this.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 01:09 AM
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You're being lead around on a leash. You're reacting to her moves, instead of leading. If your frame was strong, you wouldn't be giving a shit. You'd be busy working on your mission. Get out of her frame, and into your own.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:26 PM
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Now I feel super guilty. The girl was literally just about to get married but I went and nuked it all for her She's an adult. She made choices. She needs to take responsibilities for those choices, like all adults do. You have nothing to feel bad about.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 07:52 PM
3

There's more than one way to handle this. Personally, I'd soft-next her. If/when she comes back, I'd invite her right over to my place. Either she accepts or she doesn't. I wouldn't waste any more of my time on someone who either doesn't know what they want, or is stringing me along for attention.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 02:58 PM
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because I don’t want to look like a pussy. Lack of frame. You're worried about what a bunch of nobodies think about you? Men with real confidence don't give a shit what some peons think.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 05:16 PM
3

How would you have reacted then on the spot? Externally, I would have said, "That's fine. I'm not the get-jealous type anyway." Then I'd continue gaming her as if nothing happened. Internally, I'd immediately note that she is not--and never will be--LTR material. The highest position she could ever achieve with me is FWB status. In other words: everything is fine. Just don't be stupid.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 07:03 PM
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In situations where you can’t remove yourself (ie. work, roommates, etc.) At work, I'd ignore it and carry on as if it weren't said at all. I'd focus on doing my job very well. The company would eventually notice my value, and then I'd have clout to get the negative factors out of my workspace. Otherwise, if the company doesn't value me, and doesn't support my efforts to succeed, that's a clear signal to bail. Good companies enable their workers to do their best, after all. If your roommates are…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 01:22 AM
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Firstly, to write such a post shows that you are operating in her frame. Yesterday she said that we should stop our relationship because it is going nowhere "K." Immediately resume working on your mission, and game other women. You should have soft-nexted right then and there. she got offended and called me an idiot to which I calmly replied not to call me that anymore. Your frame is shit, and it cracked. You showed butthurt. Sure, maybe you said it "calmly", but she knows it got to you. Women a…
/r/askTRP15/07/19 04:32 PM
5

Girls feel I have some sort of "wall-up" or a "facade." Well, do you? If your frame is just a veneer, then many people will eventually notice. If you don't have a real personality to show underneath, you'll always have this problem... and not just in the dating world. Who are you, really? (Rhetorical question.) People should be seeing that right from the start.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 04:18 PM
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An FWB is not a plate, so if you treat her like one, the "friends" part will collapse. If you're OK with this, then change nothing. Otherwise, in the future, you'll have to treat her like a friend. Honesty is always the best long-term route. You should tell her why you didn't go. If it was to go fuck someone else, then admit it. Sure, she might flip out, but so what? Your outcome-independence and abundance means you shouldn't be caring.
/r/askTRP13/07/19 07:25 PM
1

My manager caught on what i was doing and she told me that he was probably hazing me Your manager already knows what's up, so don't sweat it. Just do your job well and ignore that guy. In the end, either your company will learn that you do good work and that you're an asset, or they won't. In the latter case, you'd find out that you're working for a shitty company in a toxic environment. That's your cue to bail. In the meantime, apply for more jobs. Getting some offers--even if they're not up to…
/r/askTRP13/07/19 07:19 PM
1

That means he's only your friend until there's a woman to compete against you for. Then he tries to ruin your fun. You should only keep people in your life who bring value.
/r/askTRP20/06/19 06:14 PM
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Are they throwing cockblocks in front of women? If so, that's a major problem. Otherwise, if they're making the comments in private, just keep using AA & AM techniques. Eventually they'll either get in line with it, or they're just not good friends. Not everyone is going to like you, and that's ok. Find people who you enjoy being with and bring value to your life.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 04:48 PM
1

Yes. 12 months. People can hide things from you for quite a while... even if you're paying attention. Also, in the 6-12 month range, you start to see how things will really be since the honeymoon phase is over. But hey dude... you do you.
/r/askTRP18/06/19 04:44 PM
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Keep plating as if nothing happened? Yes. Soft next until/if she contacts? She did nothing wrong, so a soft next is not appropriate. Or hard next? Wow. No. Hard nexts are for situations where a woman becomes permanently un-fuckable, like cazy & unstable behavior. They're also useful for your own sanity if you've caught oneitis. Now, the real question is: how long did you know this woman before you starting thinking about LTR status? Sounds like a big rush-job, if you got blind-sided with 1.) the…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 04:37 PM
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K.
/r/askTRP07/06/19 05:05 AM
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In my culture (United States), saying "fuck you" is considered an insult. In fact, depending on context, it is a severe insult. LMFAO Did you actually laugh your ass off when you read my message? Be honest.
/r/askTRP07/06/19 02:49 AM
2

I knew a woman who would go to those "talking circles" with other women. The idea is they would take turns talking about anything they wanted, and nobody was allowed to cast judgement or react negatively. She was shocked at how many women admitting getting pregnant on purpose by stopping birth control without their boyfriends' knowledge or consent. But hey, dude... you do you.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 07:45 PM
2

but surely not everyone uses a condom If everyone was jumping off a bridge, would you jump too?
/r/askTRP06/06/19 07:31 PM
1

but last weekend we had sex without condoms as she had started with the pill. Aside from STD risks (which you just learned the hard way about), you can never trust a woman that she's taking birth control properly. Plenty of women make mistakes and sometimes forget a dose. And then there are the women who "forget."
/r/askTRP06/06/19 07:19 PM
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she sent a middle finger emoji so I began talking with her some "She disrespected me, so I rewarded her bad behavior with attention." Mistake. Her: "Not tonight." You failed the shit test above, so now you get more shit tests. I plan to reply with "Not tonight" This shows butt-hurt. A much better response is no response. Stop rewarding whining and bad behavior with attention. Stop reacting, and start leading.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 07:15 PM
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If YOU think everything is fine, then everything is fine. Being worried about how she's feeling, or trying to deal with some hypothetical issue (that you may have imagined up yourself) is a prime example of lack of frame.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 11:22 PM
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is a relatively new phenomenon, one that social media is in large part responsible of. I strongly disagree. If women in the 1940's had social media, they'd be acting just the same as women today. Technology does not (and never has) made humans do things they wouldn't normally want to do. Technology only satisfies desires easier, faster, and at a higher scale. For hundreds of years, people would write letters and gossip about news, who's dating who, what scandalous thing happened recently, etc. T…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 11:14 PM
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I meant that in the past, someone could think a woman is LTR material for way too long, before finding out she's just an attention whore. Now, you can immediately understand what her angle is. But yes, you can use social media to zero in on the prime plate material.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 05:14 PM
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Social media is a gift. It lets people show you who they really are. Now, you can immediately tell if a woman is primarily driven by attention & validation, instead of spending weeks going down the wrong path with her. When you see these types of women, you automatically know: 1.) she is not LTR-worthy, 2.) push/pull, negging, etc. methods work very well on her. Knowledge is power. Like others said, there are plenty of women who aren't obsessed with it. You're just going to have to find them els…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 02:41 PM
1

Supply & demand. Many American kids get effectively brainwashed that they need a college degree to succeed. That, and many foreign students attend as well. I'd like to think these exorbitant prices are a bubble, and a crash of the student loan market will cause a price-correction, but... well, this has been a problem for quite some time (10+ years), and the crash hasn't happened yet, sooo....
/r/askTRP05/06/19 01:54 PM
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....aaaaand this would be the high-schooler method of handling issues. Which is not the adult way of dealing with it. You came here to ask for (presumably) good advice, and you got it. Oh, and btw: That would just be embarrassing. This is loss of frame. You give a shit what other people think, and let your fear dictate what do and don't do. You have a lot to learn, high-schooler.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 10:21 PM
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Now he occasionally starts punching me lightly Clear your mind, and then ask yourself, "Do I want him touching me like this?" I'm pretty sure that answer is no. Hence, you must act. Personally, I'd look him dead in the eye and tell him, "Do not touch my body." Next time he does that, report him to the school administration (not just a teacher). Inform them that you'd prefer that they stop him from committing battery, but if they don't you are going to defend yourself. or does sudden movements to…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 09:41 PM
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How can I tell her With your actions, not your words. Withdraw your attention until you're investing the amount that you want. but she will still send stupid shit. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself. Don't respond to stupid shit. Keep yourself busy with your mission, and you won't feel guilty for not dealing with it. Eventually, she will get in line, or the plate breaks. Your outcome independence keeps you from over-investing.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 09:31 PM
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Look into the StrongLifts 5x5 program. That's an excellent beginner program that focuses on squats, bench press, deadlifts, overhead press, and rows. The website has videos demonstrating how each exercise is done, and there's a clear explanation on how progression occurs. There's also a free phone app to help track your progress. Getting a trainer is an option, but the down side is cost. They're not cheap. If you're motivated and focused, you should be able to figure out enough on your own to ge…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:51 PM
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What I've found is that people can be very receptive to RP theory if its talked about in the "right way". The moment you use RP-specific terminology, though, that's when their emotions get triggered and they shut off. That's because they have it burned in their heads that "redpill = bad". I've gotten liberal feminists to agree with my points simply by avoiding loaded language and using facts & research to back up my ideas. So its not what you say... its how you say it. Given that your professor …
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:43 PM
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Get your hands on your important documents: birth certificate, social security card, bank details. Get your driver's permit/license as soon as you can. That ID helps you set up other accounts in the future (bank, etc). On your 18th birthday, you need to be in a bank, setting up your own account. Then transfer money from shared accounts to that. Otherwise, money in your shared account can be legally taken from you at any time. Research areas you can live in with roommates.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:11 PM
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I almost want to call my ex to set the bar straight This will dump fuel on the fire. Properly ghost her. Don't answer the door, don't answer her calls, don't respond to texts, and make yourself scarce at the studio for a couple weeks until she gives up.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:52 PM
1

Think of it this way: if a woman from your classes/complex/gym went batshit crazy after you decided you no longer wanted to see her, how inconvenienced would you be in your day-to-day life? Having a neighbor that hates you and engages in petty vengeance tactics is going to make your life suck. Same with it happening at your gym. If a cashier at a coffee shop hates you, though... there are plenty of other places you can go instead. So that's fine.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 08:11 PM
8

This would be libel. Get a lawyer and seek 1.) monetary compensation and 2.) an extensive public retraction and apology. That would fix your problems.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 02:23 PM
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we fuck without condom Immediately smack yourself upside the head right now. Then go find a time machine and jump back to when you first met her, and smack your younger self upside the head for even considering fucking a plate without a condom. You're welcome.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 03:27 PM
1

We argue. Never argue with a woman. You can explain things to her if she doesn't understand them. You explain them once. Your decisions are not up for any kind of debate, however. My question is , how do I handle this shit Same with all shit tests: AA/AM techniques. If she starts behaving badly (like crying, or continually killing your enjoyment), soft-next her. Withdraw attention until she's ready to come crawling back and play by your rules. why the fuck she acts all up like this. Easy: she wa…
/r/askTRP16/05/19 08:43 PM
9

Do shoulder and tricep accessory lifts to help with your bench. Overhead press, tricep extensions... there are a lot of options to choose from. Also, if you're a beginner, its normal to have muscle imbalances. They'll fix themselves after two months or so.
/r/askTRP16/05/19 05:47 PM
10

Send her pics of your long balls. Tell her that you can stuff one nut into her vag, and the other into her butt. Bitches fucking melt over that nut DP'ing...
/r/askTRP16/05/19 05:38 PM
1

24 hour soft next Proper soft-nexts don't have an expiration. She's been hitting me up a lot today, but is failing on making plans with me this weekend. Then soft-next again... but properly this time. I [...] want to try to fuck this chick this weekend. Let go of your desire. The less you want it, the more she will. Consider this venture a loss, and game other women. This one will either come back for attention & validation later, or won't. You'll have found success either way, so this outcome d…
/r/askTRP15/05/19 06:20 PM
1

Basically, yes. Although a "firm rejection" isn't always what women will give you. It often comes in the form of being ignored.
/r/askTRP11/05/19 02:24 AM
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"so I'm not important enough for you to send me a "I'm busy rn" text even though I see you're online?" "Deep breaths, Karen, deep breaths..." She's trying to draw your back into her frame. Respond with AA/AM techniques. Nexting again will be really extreme in her case and will probably lead to a break up So? A girlfriend who behaves badly and won't follow your lead is not a girlfriend worth keeping. (I'm assuming you're soft-nexting for appropriate reasons.) Later, when/if she gets in line, spri…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:46 PM
2

I hard nexted her until a week ago. She messaged me This would be a soft next, not a hard next. Also: hard nexts are only for when they do something that makes them permanently un-fuckable. Rejecting you temporarily does not fit in this category. The list of good reasons to hard-next is rather short: she shows behaviors that indicate mental illness, or sex is not enjoyable. she wants this thing from me, is she trying to get me into her frame and make me her orbiter? Or she's trying to smash? The…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 03:41 PM
2

The official boundary is listed in the DSM-5. Untrained people cannot diagnose others with it, but it is still very helpful as a guide. Personally, I'd be able to endure much less than the DSM details.
/r/askMRP10/05/19 03:29 PM
3

Everyone has various levels of narcissism. But there's a boundary beyond which they are considered a "narcissist."
/r/askMRP09/05/19 08:33 PM
14

What the hell i do now? Is excessive drinking a pattern with you? If so, you need to quit entirely. Regain control of yourself. In the meantime, keep your mouth shut. Unless you're an idiot.
/r/askTRP09/05/19 05:32 PM
7

Is this a troll post?
/r/askTRP09/05/19 05:29 PM
1

You don't date a woman with narcissism. You don't marry a woman with narcissism. If you are already dating/married to a woman, and you find out she is a narcissist, you immediately end the relationship. Then reflect on how you managed to miss all the red flags that lead you into this mess. Its pretty straightforward.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 05:27 PM
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I stay put for awhile but eventually cave because it looked bad Loss of frame. You blinked first. Something about what she did made me feel embarrassed and like a bitch, especially in front of this other girl who sees me as a high value guy who doesn’t give a fuck. What other people choose to do is on them. You can't control them, nor should you try. If she wanted to move seats, then fine. Let her. But instead, you lost frame and showed both women that you're weak and that you can be easily cont…
/r/askTRP26/04/19 04:35 PM
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Since she explicitly told you over text that she will kill you, yes... report her to the police immediately. Request a restraining order. I responded to all of this saying “ok” No. Hard next. Ghost her completely. If you run into her again, remove yourself from the situation immediately, and tell the police that she's violating her restraining order.
/r/askTRP26/04/19 04:27 PM
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I make them a deal with less money to pay/session if they come together Business mistake. Would you have given two dudes the same discount? Probably not. Since these 2 girls live in the neighborhood I thought why not drive them there Exhibit A: The Male Hamster. Dude... its fine if you choose to be in an LTR and try to fuck other women. I'm not judging. But you need to be honest with yourself about it. Furthermore, if you're going to violate standard LTR expectations like this, at least be smart…
/r/askTRP13/04/19 10:01 PM
1

Looks like I misread. -5 points for me.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 09:43 PM
0

You show no proof that this wouldn't have happened if you didn't text her to begin with. In an alternate universe, its plausible that the no-texting-you ended up in the same boat.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 08:58 PM
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Women with daddy issues tend to be broken human beings. Her dad (who is pretty fucked up himself) treats women badly, and she learned that physical, sexual, and/or emotional abuse is normal. Sometimes she seeks revenge against other men (i.e.: you) for what he did. All this results in high drama, dangerous & erratic behavior, and toxicity. But hey... don't take our word for it. Fuck/date/marry one and learn for yourself why the saying "Never stick your dick in crazy" exists.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 08:56 PM
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I happen to run pretty good game over text. I've mentioned in other threads that I've used it a couple times to upgrade a normal first-date at a coffee shop to my place for a fuck session. The guys who fail at the texting game would rather assume texting on the whole is bad, rather than conclude that they're shit at it. I've never heard them give any compelling evidence that texting is bad for everyone. Yes, its terrible for beginners, because they don't know what they're doing and they have an …
/r/askTRP08/04/19 07:55 PM
2

I guarantee that you could summarize it into three readable paragraphs.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 02:12 PM
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I'm not reading this fucking novel. Thankfully, everything I need to know is in the title. She proved she is not worthy of an LTR. So treat her as such. Demote her to plate/FWB if your emotions can handle it, otherwise hard-next for your own sanity.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 01:34 PM
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After calling for hours straight Wait. You're on the phone with her for hours?? Dude... your priorities in life are massively fucked. This is basic sidebar material. Does she just wanna smash? Or does she want something more? She explicitly told you she doesn't want anything more. Believe her. FYI: we always split the bill "Always"? Does this mean you met multiple times already? After you meet her twice, its time to invite her straight over to your place.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 03:01 PM
2

Well, if you want to be part of the kid's life, you request one from her. If she refuses, you get a lawyer and get a court order. If you don't want to be part of the kid's life, you physically disappear so you can't get served with a court order. If they can't even test you, then they can't order you to make child support payments. At least that's how it works where I live. I have no idea how it works where you are.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 04:21 AM
0

How do you do what? Stop babbling.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 04:14 AM
2

she cheated on me ONCE man ONCE. Chances are she cheated on you multiple times, not just once. You only know of the one time. She's definitely pregnant from me. No. You do not concede paternity until you get the official paperwork in your own hands, and read it with your own eyeballs. Not a moment sooner.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 04:11 AM
0

Your post barely makes any sense. Are you high or drunk? What I scraped together was this: you hooked up with a non-monogamous woman who was likely having sex with other men at the same time. Then two months ago she got pregnant. She continues to date multiple guys. Is that right? Your next move depends on what role you want in your potential child's life. While there's a good chance the kid isn't yours, you're not going to know for another 7 months. If you want to be a part of its life, then yo…
/r/askTRP07/04/19 04:05 AM
2

Later that night after she left she texted me, i had a really good time tonight. I havent texted or replied since and its been a week. Wait for her to text me or just forget about it and ask her to hang out again? She didn't do anything wrong, so there's no need to soft-next her. Reach out and set up the next meet. Am I overreacting like a little bitch? A little bit, yes. She dropped hints that she wanted to try some stuff you're not into. That's not a problem. You just tell her you're not into …
/r/askTRP07/04/19 03:55 AM
8

Try running an experiment: pull beta-male shit on a bunch of women and see how successful you are. Then run real game on another set and compare. You'll quickly see how much more successful real game is on women, which will be very strong motivation to not revert back. Or don't. Because the more chumps there are in this world, the better for me. The reason I clean up so well is because most guys are utter shit.
/r/askTRP06/04/19 08:30 PM
18

How to react? Say, "You're right." Then immediately quit smoking. You don't need that bullshit in your life.
/r/askTRP05/04/19 07:28 PM
5

Plate her.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 07:50 PM
4

That doesn't change anything.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 03:59 PM
2

Yes. Upgrading to FWB is an option as well. But that's the absolute maximum level she can ever attain.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 03:55 PM
4

she was talking about not being sure of a lot of things in her life at the moment, not looking for relationship, wanted to experiment sexually because she hasn't yet. Here's your answer. She's interested in slutting out for a while. This makes her unsuitable for an LTR. ​
/r/askTRP04/04/19 03:51 PM
-1

I lift 5 times a week, train MMA, I'm in school, in a fraternity, meditate daily, and I still feel like I just have too much time on my hands You must have a bullshit major if you can do these things at all... nevermind do them AND still have lots of free time left over. What are you studying? Feminist dance therapy?
/r/askTRP03/04/19 06:49 PM
2

No. Frame is what's going on inside you. Frame is knowing that you're a high-value man and that little things that happen in life are just that: little. Frame is knowing who you are, what you're doing, and what you want at all times. If someone was shouting at me, I'd look them dead in the eye and calmly say, "I can hear you just fine. There's no need to yell. Let's use our indoor voices instead." Either they follow my lead and we have a rational discussion (unlikely to happen, but I'd give them…
/r/askTRP02/04/19 08:16 PM
1

The better question is: why are you spending your precious time with annoying people with whom you have nothing in common with? Find interesting people to hang out with. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP01/04/19 03:57 PM
31

You didn't fuck up at all. She's just a flake. Your move now is to soft-next her. Personally, if/when she comes back, I'd immediately respond with: "You're coming over tonight at 8pm and getting your pussy stuffed. Don't wear underwear." On the down side, being this direct has maybe a 40% chance of success. On the up side, either way I don't have to deal with flaking anymore. I just don't give a shit. My time is valuable, and I'd rather roll the dice on someone else. But again, that's just me.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 08:33 PM
3

Its 2019. Their options for transferring money include: mailed check, Paypal, Venmo, Bitcoin, and much, much more. Or he can even stuff cash in an envelope and mail it! So even if he really owes her money, there is no need to meet in person. She's meeting him for lunch because she's interested in fucking him. Full stop. Your reaction should have been to say "OK", silently demote her back to plate status, and resume gaming other women. There's no fixing anything. You just continue on in life. P.S…
/r/askMRP31/03/19 08:22 PM
6

When your girlfriend stops bringing value to your life, that's when you end the relationship.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 09:16 PM
1

I have the next 2 years to learn, experiment and make mistakes with my risk being limited. This right here. To find your mission, you need to experiment with various hobbies, interests, and jobs. Eventually something will resonate. In the meantime, go into monk mode. Quit any drinking and drugs you might be doing. Stop chasing women. When you're not eating, sleeping, or working, 90% of your free time should be going towards exploration. Do this, and you should find the start of your path in unde…
/r/askTRP30/03/19 06:13 PM
1

"She was never yours. It was only your turn."
/r/askTRP30/03/19 06:06 PM
1

Among many other things, yes. Read up on the "female social matrix." There's an entire world of subtextual signaling women do to each other to gain status.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 02:37 AM
2

Women don't just compete for attention from men. They flex on other women too. There's an order among females (which constantly changes), and this is one of many tools they use to jockey for position.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 01:33 AM
2

This is AskTRP. Ask a question, or delete your post and GTFO. ​
/r/askTRP29/03/19 12:52 AM
4

My friends said "she seems like the kind of girl that would file take charges if you don't settle for her". If this came from your female friend, then she could be throwing a cockblock out of jealousy. If other people are saying this, though... then maybe you're missing some red flags. we do not know eachother. In that case, you should meet up in a neutral place and chat a bit first. The last thing you want is to be stuck with someone you don't like in another city for days without an easy way o…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 03:57 PM
1

You sound retarded.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 03:30 AM
1

You start by reading the absolute basics of RP theory, lift like your life depends on it, and continue working hard to improve yourself for years. That's how.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 02:54 AM
4

She is seeking closure. If you don't give it to her, she will more likely come crawling back in the future... which can be a good thing, depending.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 02:48 AM
4

Thank you very much for this blog post. Now please delete it, since you did not ask any coherent question.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 02:46 AM
2

she told me that she was gonna go talk to another guy if I didn't talk to her. This triggers an immediate demotion to plate status. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 02:43 AM
3

She's gonna get really hurt I think. She's an adult who can make her own choices. She doesn't really seem to want to/be able to pump the brakes on her feelings at all either ...aaaaaand here's the decision she's making...
/r/askTRP27/03/19 02:42 AM
3

She was never yours. It was only your turn.
/r/askTRP26/03/19 06:43 PM
29

But I see women of my own country as vampires, they now smell the smell of potential and flock to it. Your mentality is the same as a former fat chick who used to be invisible, but then gets in shape and is resentful of all the new male attention she gets. "This is why men are trash," she says to herself. This is the wrong perspective. Women are not doing anything wrong. You used to be a fuck-up, and you were treated accordingly. Even though you're in a much better position now, you're still sad…
/r/askTRP26/03/19 03:38 AM
7

Spoken like a true 17 year old. Here's a hint: you might be fine now, but if you stay on this same path, later on you're going to be mega-fucked. Stop fucking around.
/r/askTRP26/03/19 03:20 AM
7

i've been to jail twice, how i do a lot of drugs Dude. Get your shit together.
/r/askTRP26/03/19 03:04 AM
2

Beats me. Does that matter? All that matters is what you want. If your family is starting to annoy you, start enforcing boundaries. Otherwise, ignore them and do you.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 07:00 PM
3

An excellent beginner lifting program is the StrongLifts 5x5. The website will teach you about the lifts, and the free phone app helps you track your progress. At the same time, you need to start eating more protein, along with consistently eating more calories. Consistency in diet and lifting will result in success.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 06:59 PM
1

When you have multiple pots on the stove, and one doesn't work out, you don't worry about it. Or even notice.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 04:45 PM
47

I'm kind of on the fence between breaking up with her You don't break up with her over this. Its on her to decide if she wants to continue riding your success train, or to get off of it. Your outcome independence causes you to accept either. For the sake of discussion, we are discussing whether or not I should drop my side chicks and focus on other things with the free time Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 09:17 PM
1

Her marriage was broken the moment her boyfriend proposed. He should have picked a better partner.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 05:47 PM
2

The bottom line is you can't be monogamous with her. Lack of sexual attraction is a dealbreaker. You need to start fucking other plates. Your other problem is that you have no boundaries. She made the decision to take up all your time, and you just allowed it to happen. She made the decision to basically move in with you... and you just let it happen. This needs to stop. You need to start enforcing boundaries. Tell her you need some space.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 05:43 PM
2

Your only assumptions of me are based off projection No, retard... they're based on your actual words in your post. because you don’t know why I was fighting. You stated it was "out of anger". Not "self-defense"... "out of anger." Self-defense is the only legitimate reason to fight. And since you still don't understand this, you have a lot more to learn. You need to talk less and listen more.
/r/askTRP21/03/19 02:12 AM
2

This contradicts your statement of "i’ve beat up people before out of anger". Re-read my response.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 10:06 PM
1

The better questions are: why are you so weak that you let emotions control you to such an extreme degree? Why is your ego so fragile that you need to resort to violence when it gets prodded? You need to get that under permanent control. ASAP.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 02:02 PM
6

Sometimes its out of no where. This means they're on her mind. She's really trying to tell herself they're not that attractive. Or it could be a (really) low-key shit test. "I'm going to bring up these guys and see how he reacts..." Either way, ignore it. Or if you find those guys amusing, you could make some jokes.
/r/askTRP20/03/19 01:55 PM
6

Her behavior clearly tells you that she is not LTR material. She is FWB material. Hence, your move is to re-classify her in your mind, and act appropriately. She didn't do anything wrong. You did. You fucked up by promoting a woman way too soon without performing the necessary vetting process. Hard-nexts are to be used very sparingly. They are for situations which absolutely cannot be redeemed, such as a woman showing legitimately crazy behavior. In this case, not even a soft-next is appropriate…
/r/askTRP19/03/19 04:35 PM
13

I asked her a few more times Mistake. You ask once, and once only. When she says "nothing", you reply with "ok" and continue on as if nothing happened. If she continues to be a downer, minimize your attention to her until she's ready to continue adding value to your life. To answer your question directly: it doesn't matter what's happening. You do you. Don't get drawn into her silly little games.
/r/askTRP19/03/19 03:21 PM
16

She started screaming at me because she didn’t like my arguments Firstly, never argue with a woman. Secondly, its rather suspicious that she started screaming over nothing. Like... suspicious in the mental-illness category. I snapped and yelled Loss of frame. Regardless of how this plays out, you need to reflect on what happened internally to evoke an emotional response. It’s one of my boundaries. This happens to be one of my boundaries as well. The key difference is that if people cross it, I d…
/r/askMRP18/03/19 07:43 PM
1

I casually bring up some of the main points once I get to a certain familiarity with someone. From there, its up to them. If they show interest, I'm happy to talk more about it. Otherwise (i.e.: most times), I can tell they're not on board with it, and I immediately drop it. I never force it. ​ Its not your job to save anyone. In fact, you can't, even if you tried. There are many stories in here of guys who tried to force this on their friends & relatives, and it always ends badly.
/r/askTRP16/03/19 03:33 PM
8

Don't bring it up. You'll only dig yourself deeper. Act like nothing happened. If she brings it up, just laugh about it and move on. ​ The real solution is to fix your insecurity. If I was in that scenario, I'd just laugh. Or I'd make fun of the guy for being that desperate for attention. If she saw another guy's dick, so what? I'd be confident that I bring a lot more to the table than most men (and I'm not even talking about the package department).
/r/askTRP16/03/19 03:28 PM
6

The bigger question is: if you didn't want to willingly do this on your own already, why did you get engaged to begin with? ​ This is rhetorical. I already know the answer (you're not ready for marriage).
/r/askTRP16/03/19 03:23 PM
2

They do it because they can. Its that simple. If you could stroll into a car dealership and trade your pocket lint for a car... wouldn't you do that? I sure would. The never-ending waves of thirsty guys throwing themselves at women give them this attitude. Your ego would get over-inflated if the roles were reversed, too, so don't think they're doing anything wrong. This is normal. The right way to navigate this in life is all the classic RP advice: build yourself up as a strong man, and acquire …
/r/askTRP16/03/19 03:19 PM
6

Do nothing. If she annoys you past a certain point, soft-next her. She'll get back in line.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 07:33 PM
1

Why you guys come up with all same shit? You mean... the right answer? “Next her”, “improve you SVM”, “game other girls”...... What about trying to get some fundamentals to understand things? You will never understand The Truth, nor does this matter. The only thing that matters is maximizing your own potential.
/r/askTRP11/03/19 09:32 PM
1

I just need to understand her behaviour. No. You don't. You need to understand what soft-nexting is, and how to break out of oneitis. Meanwhile, you need to work on your mission and game other women. You need to forget about this woman, not understand her behavior.
/r/askTRP11/03/19 08:22 PM
6

Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want to do. Only you can figure out what you want. Your current jobs sucks and has no long-term prospects, so its clear you need more. So (according to your post) its either becoming a police officer or becoming a computer programmer. If you were passionate about programming, you'd be spending your time learning and doing that. Otherwise, you're either not that interested, or you didn't make time. Which is it? Spend the next year learning it on …
/r/askTRP11/03/19 08:20 PM
2

I soft next her. But i was keep liking her posts on instagram This isn't a soft-next, then. Go read about it in the side-bar. As far as the rest of your post is concerned: as soon as she started to show fading interest, you were supposed to soft-next and move on with your life. Worrying about what this one is doing shows that you've got oneitis. While you're learning the basics in the side-bar, read about how to break out of your oneitis too.
/r/askTRP11/03/19 08:13 PM
2

The proper response is to use AA/AM, or ignore it completely. They're just shit tests. The fact that you're moved by her words implies that your frame needs work. Why even bother having a bitch as an LTR if I have to pass more shit tests than if I were spinning plates? This implies that your LTR isn't providing enough value to your life. If she was, then her silly shit-tests wouldn't cause you to re-evaluate whether or not she's worth the minor inconvenience. Take a step back and as yourself wha…
/r/askTRP11/03/19 08:09 PM
-1

In the end, it doesn't matter why she ghosted you, because the end result is the same: you continue on your mission, and game other women. But its natural to be curious, and its helpful to learn for next time. You may never know the real reason she hard-nexted you, but here are some ideas: Slut regret. Its ASD, but happens after the fact. You caught her in a period when she was extra horny from ovulation, but now her "beer-goggles" have come off, and she's not into you anymore. (Yes, this is a t…
/r/askTRP07/03/19 08:51 PM
0

How do i react if she confronts me about ignoring her? Immediately resume orbiting her and giving her attention & validation for the illusion of maybe one day getting a kiss on the cheek. Orrrr... hard next, find a mission, lift, and hit the sidebar. Its obvious that you are at the absolute beginner stage. Any advice on how to navigate this situation would likely be lost on you since you don't have a grasp of the basics. The clock's ticking. Get to work.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 05:14 PM
2

So a couple months ago, you ended it with a plate, and then started seeing this new girl? And in that couple months, you upgraded her to LTR status? Mistake. The vetting process takes much longer than that. 12-18 months. Since you gave out your commitment so freely, you proved that its not very valuable. She noticed. How do I play this one moving forward? Soft-next. If/when she returns, continue on as if nothing happened. If she pushes the issue again, reply with "I already explained this non-is…
/r/askTRP01/03/19 10:00 PM
2

Yep. I'd tell her that marriage is not on my mind right now. If that's a dealbreaker for her, then so be it. Otherwise, she's welcome to stay with me. If she throws a tantrum or continues trying to pressure me: "I understand this is a big problem for you. In that case, I'm going to have to let you go so you can find the relationship you want." Say that without any butt-hurt and she'll probably cave in and never bring it up again. Either way... outcome independence.
/r/askTRP01/03/19 09:51 PM
1

Your title says your relationship is at a crossroads, but its not. Its being made out to seem like you have to make a permanent choice right now. You don't. Never let someone pressure you into doing anything you wouldn't normally do. Never. Even if its something trivial like what type of ice cream to buy (because once that step is taken, they can work up to something bigger). Keep doing what you're doing. Maintain outcome independence. She's more than welcome to continue riding your success trai…
/r/askTRP01/03/19 08:09 PM
-1

Personally, I would have silently demoted her to plate or FWB status. There's no need to get upset about anything, so I wouldn't have to cancel the vacation. I'd still be able to have a good time. She'd be paying her own way if she wasn't already, though. Then I'd game other women. Maybe weeks later when she asks why I'm spending less time with her, I'd inform her of her demotion.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 06:49 PM
1

she fucked someone else in the first few months we were dating This means the highest status she should ever be promoted to is FWB status. She has an implant as birth control and i've checked to see it's still there. Doesn't matter. That can go away at any time. From this point on, you only fuck her with condoms. I think she might get really pissed off if I dump her Lack of frame. You should not be making decisions based on how others may or may not react. You must always do whats best for YOU. …
/r/askTRP19/02/19 06:19 PM
7

If boring women are the best you've ever had, then that should speak volumes about your SMV. Get to work improving yourself so you can have a fulfilling life. This issue with this one boring woman is just the symptom of a much larger problem.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 07:24 PM
3

Once you realize the person can't be reasoned with, STFU at the very least. Or you can use AA/AM. For example: "Are you having PMS right now, or are you legitimately crazy? I'm honestly considering calling the police because you might be a threat to yourself and/or others." Then respond to anything she says with, "What medications are you on? Which ones did you actually take today? Are you sure you took them?" They'll just rage harder, and everyone around will see you being calm and collected, a…
/r/askTRP18/02/19 07:22 PM
25

the sex is kind of boring [...] that pussy is amazing Dude. That's a blatant contradiction. Pick one. The fact that you're asking about it implies that she's boring. In that case, stop wasting time on boring diversions. Attain abundance so you don't have to desperately cling to mediocre women.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 07:15 PM
2

No, from me. And I'll stare deep into your eyes while I toss you off. You'll feel better. I promise.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 05:34 AM
2

Ok, fine... a hug with a happy ending?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 03:31 AM
2

My ass is hard because I do a lot of squats.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 02:45 AM
2

You sound upset. Do you want a hug?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 02:42 AM
10

I'd immediately say no and resume going about my business without delay.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 11:52 PM
2

K.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 11:30 PM
5

Either you didn't run game as well as you thought, or its a shit test. Either way, it doesn't matter, because your reaction is the same: you soft-next. Either she comes crawling back or she doesn't. You'll be busy chasing down your mission in the meantime, and gaming other women.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 06:46 PM
2

I'd run game on her. Reply back only with the name of the motel. Let her make moves and try to get your attention. Eventually, I'd stop giving her one-word answers and suggest she come to my place for sex. If she declines, she gets soft-nexted again.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 06:26 PM
3

Here's a tip: put in the hard work to increase your SMV so you don't have to pay money for mediocre sex and a significant risk of STDs. As a bonus, you'll be a lot happier with your life in general too.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 06:23 PM
19

I have a feeling the go to response is going to be that I need to figure out my mission, and frankly I agree Bingo. You answered your own question.
/r/askTRP14/02/19 12:24 AM
1

K.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 04:09 PM
2

Take initiative. Come right out and suggest a definitive time and place. "Lets meet at X at 8pm on Friday." If that doesn't work for them, they'll usually respond with an alternate time. If they only shoot down your idea without suggesting another plan, read the situation. She might not be interested. You can maybe follow up with one more attempt, but generally, I'd soft-next after that.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 03:12 PM
2

you think OP might be able to plate her? Neither you nor I can know the whole situation from reading a couple paragraphs. So anyone can project all kinds of things onto this scenario. My strategy is to make low-effort moves that carry the potential for larger payoffs later. This wouldn't make sense to someone with a fragile ego, though, when they're panicking the moment their frame gets tested. Those types get defensive, emotional, then retaliate. She dumped OP for being beta enough Indeed. But …
/r/askTRP13/02/19 03:07 PM
0

The exchange is you show indifference, which primes her for plating. You need to talk less, and learn more.
/r/askTRP13/02/19 03:59 AM
-2

Translation: "I am stuck in the anger phase. Any perceived slight against my fragile ego triggers me... and controls my actions." K.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 08:31 PM
1

If you weren't stuck in the anger phase, you wouldn't care about "giving her closure." You'd be most concerned about making moves that maximize the chances of getting what you want. Its time to let that anger go, son.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 08:30 PM
1

Act like an adult. She's going through various irrational emotions because she knows she needs to break up with you. Be thankful she isn't dragging this out and wasting your time. When she comes and gets her stuff, be polite. Have everything in boxes and ready to go. Help her carry them to her car. The fact that you'll show this isn't bothering you in the least will cause her to question whether this is the right move. As for whether or not you should plate her... that comes down to how strong y…
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:00 PM
-7

How about you act like an adult in this scenario.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 05:56 PM
2

On Thursday, suggest a specific time and place for Friday, if you haven't already. Have a back-up plan. If she doesn't respond or flakes, soft-next. Women who consistently flake are still free to come to your place and fuck, because that doesn't require you to put in much effort. Then, if they still don't follow through: back to soft-next. Your effort should reflect hers.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 05:54 PM
2

You hard next ONLY when they cross a boundary that makes them permanently unfuckable. This pretty much only comes down to when they show actual crazy behavior. You soft-next otherwise, and game other women.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 04:09 PM
2

You're a hot mess. Your only way out of this is to hard-next her for your own good, then go into monk mode for a year or so while you un-fuck your mind.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 04:05 PM
1

I actually think calling people faggots is what they need sometimes In that case: shut the fuck up, faggot.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 12:59 AM
2

Ok, so worst case is she recommends you, you fuck up and make her look bad. And? So what? This should not matter to you. Do you have issues with general anxiety?
/r/askTRP12/02/19 12:58 AM
1

constructive criticism You forgot the "constructive" part. Also, why is your frame so weak that you need to put people down? Another rhetorical question.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 12:55 AM
2

Realize that your old friend's opinion about you doesn't matter in the slightest. That's how you don't give a fuck.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:14 PM
1

She is completely failing as a FWB. She isn't even fulfilling her duties at the plate level. And by the sound of it, you aren't holding frame throughout any of this. She's showing some big red flags with all the crazy talk and excessive emotions. That alone is enough to hard-next her. The fact that she's not being a good FWB nor good plate is the icing on top. The only question you should be asking yourself is: "how do I get rid of her without enduring a massive shitstorm of drama?"
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:13 PM
5

You shouldn't be caring what other people are doing because you ought to be busy chasing your mission.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:37 PM
1

How do you see her 3-4 times a month? At the grocery store? Stop going to whatever places she goes to, for starters. Secondly, what are your options for moving to another part of town? Even just 10 minutes away can put more than enough distance between you.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 05:50 PM
1

Calling OP names will not help him. It'll help you feel superior, though, and gives you an outlet for your anger. Why do you need either of those? Rhetorical question.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 05:47 PM
5

Do you not find that a date every few weeks keeps them satisfied? Yes it would, but your approach is wrong. You shouldn't be molding your life around women. Women should be molding their lives around you. Focus on your mission and doing what YOU want. Women can either come along for the ride, or you replace them with someone who will.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:27 PM
9

You don't go on dates with plates. You can go out with FWBs, but they have to pay their own way. If they don't like the arrangement, that's on them. There's always more women.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 08:18 PM
1

Women want two opposing things: a nice, stable guy to get resources from, and a high-value bad-boy, who can give her excitement. Read up on the Female Dual-Mating Strategy. To answer your question more directly: some women are lying, and many others don't really know what they want.
/r/askTRP02/02/19 05:46 AM
1

What enrages is me is how guys are just set up to get emotionally / financially destroyed or consumed by women This, too, is a result of evolution. Men have been resource-providers for hundreds of thousands of years. They provide protection, food, a standard of living, attention, validation, etc. They are discouraged from giving this away easily (i.e.: men do not commit quickly), but once they find "the one", they commit 3,000%. The result of this is strong & successful offspring, hence it has b…
/r/askTRP02/02/19 12:56 AM
2

Never chase money. It doesn't work. You have to go after your passion. Depending on what you want to do in the medical field, there's lots of money to be made there regardless.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 09:34 PM
1

Your age doesn't matter. What degree you get, ,how you plan to use it, and what your income/debt ratio afterwards is all that matters. What subject are you considering? (Please say STEM...)
/r/askTRP01/02/19 09:10 PM
1

i stumbled upon it two weeks ago I rest my case.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 08:37 PM
1

but with the added drama I've had them drop the topic for weeks, months, and even years with no side-effects. So dodging the question worked great. Sure, some did respond with extra drama, but I crossed that bridge when I got to it. Dialing down your attention level to handle that is easy. I'm good at spotting crazy long before it becomes a problem, so the most that ever happened to me was some grumpy behavior, silent treatment, or ghosting. All that is easy to deal with.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:59 PM
1

but I still want an LTR and have kids eventually. An LTR shouldn't be your goal. Your goal should be to follow the path of self-actualization. An LTR may or may not come as a result of you putting in the hard work to forge yourself. It may or may not come as a result of you experiencing many women over time until one stands out as having many green flags and no red. Hence, kids may or may not become a reality; for the same reason, they should not be your goals. still am a Christian so I don't li…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:52 PM
1

Well good luck!
/r/askTRP01/02/19 06:02 PM
1

Crossfit is a little bit different, you can't go there with your headphones. I've done crossfit before. I didn't go with my headphones, but same thing otherwise: I showed up, worked hard, then left. Nobody cared. I like to go to latin dance rooms, where socializing is the #1 thing. Right now I won't do that because my mood is shattered If your mood problems aren't caused by something obvious that you can fix in the next few months on your own, I'd say consider medication. Personally, I think pil…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 03:24 PM
17

Instead of waiting for it to happen, take initiative. Run game on her and escalate. If that doesn't work in the long term, start questioning whether or not she deserves her LTR status.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 03:06 PM
1

Ok, well the big issue seems to be your mental state, and you're already getting help for that. The only thing I can add there is that if progress stalls with your current therapist/therapy strategy, that you should switch to another. There are other types that may work much better for you. I want to enroll in a crossfit box, but I recognize I got so many things in my head that I won't be able to socialize I socialize with nobody at my gym. I go in with my headphones, lift heavy shit, then leave…
/r/askTRP01/02/19 02:57 PM
3

You didn't list many details on what's going on, so I can't give any specific advice. Generally, what I'd do is make a list of what I don't like in my life. Then I'd break it down into a series of specific & achievable steps. I'd get to work on that ASAP. What's changed for you in the last year when you had your shit together?
/r/askTRP01/02/19 02:26 PM
-1

All that involves effort... effort on a woman who overwhelmingly just wants her orbiter back. My method works well in this situation because it invests a proportional amount of (little) effort for a 3% chance of success. Or he could waste a perfectly good evening gaming her to get a... 4.7% chance? Not a good gamble. OP is better off spending his evening gaming other women.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 08:30 PM
-1

This is a guaranteed way to make yourself look stupid. How you look in front of a (potential) plate is not a concern to those who have strong frame. I'd be willing to bet 90% of the advice in this sub is coming from virgins or desperate guys ... says the guy who doesn't understand the absolute basics like frame. Also, you failed to present any counter-points. And as a bonus, you don't even understand why ad hominem attacks are ineffective. You need to delete your account and lurk more.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 08:24 PM
7

You're right in that she just wants her orbiter back. Go for the hail mary pass anyway: "Come to my place tomorrow at 10pm. Wear yoga pants with no bra." Then only discuss logistics, if at all. Going out is a waste of time, since she just wants attention. Instead, the direct method ensures you either get sex, or your time isn't wasted. Either way, she won't bother you anymore.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 06:20 PM
-10

K.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:40 PM
11

What is the approved RedPill approach to this situation? Any and all creative ideas accepted. I actually laughed out loud when I read this. Dude. Fucking act like an adult, and go ask her if she has it. The real issue I'm struggling with... is how a "straight" man bought for himself a £300 piece of luxury clothing...
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:49 PM
2

Is this some way of seeking validation from me? Yes. How should I react in this situation? Step one is to forget the begging and (unintentional?) manipulation tactics she's running. Think about what you want out of this situation. You said in another thread that you just want sex every once in awhile because she's not that great. Ok, fine... then step two is dial down your attention levels to the point where you still get that without over-committing. Step three is then to ignore the whining/man…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:07 PM
7

Regardless of whether she's stringing you along or not, since you tried twice to schedule a date, it is now entirely her responsibility from this point on. In other words, your move is to soft-next her. She likely isn't interested, but hey... in the 3% chance that she is, she can reach out and get things moving again. In the meantime, focus on your mission and getting other women into your rotation. Forget about this one.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 02:00 PM
72

Top comment: "You just gotta COMMUNICATE more!!!"
/r/askTRP30/01/19 06:15 PM
1

I've experimented with truth bombs, but they clearly resulted in more plate breakage than the dodging method. It worked especially worse on MILFs (I'm guessing its because they've got more life experience, so they know where the dating-a-player road goes). But hey... I'm a proponent of the idea of there being more than one way to skin a cat. My particular personality and strategy might be best-suited for the dodging method. Yours, and others, might work better with the truth bombs. Try doing you…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 05:57 PM
5

I've got solid frame, and I've experimented with both methods. The truth bombs would much more often lead to immediate plate breakage than dodging the question.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 05:48 PM
5

She hits me with the "are you seeing anyone else" which I immediately give a yes reply to. Never drop truth-bombs on plates. A better response is to dodge the question. That usually extends the life of the plate, and sometimes even eases them into the idea that they are just one side-piece of many. "I might not be his only one, but he is fun to hang out with...I bet I can get him to choose me!"
/r/askTRP30/01/19 05:09 PM
2

You don't go on "dates." You hang out with her. If any activities happen to require money, she pays her own way. The frequency that you spend time with her is entirely up to you. Know what you want, and adjust your attention to her accordingly.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:52 PM
6

LTRs in high school are not a thing. Nobody has any clue who they are as a person, what they want in life, nor a stable set of values. LTRs are options for men in their mid-twenties and up. FWB status is a level in between plate status and LTR. Seems like that's where you're at. Effectively, you are her friend (i.e.: you hang out with her just like you would a male friend), and you also fuck. So do whatever it is you want to do. If you think bowling is boring, don't do that with her. If you'd ra…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 04:05 PM
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but after some time it became shallow and dull. Stop chasing silly thots at clubs. Try running long-game on women with more substance. You'll find that more enjoyable. Also, make sure you don't make women your mission. That never leads to happiness.
/r/askTRP30/01/19 02:48 PM
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Its basically a nuclear shit-test. She dumps you, then sees if you're hurt about it. If so, you prove that she can do better than you, and it remains a permanent break-up. Otherwise, by signaling that you don't care, you project high value; hence, she wants you back. So yes, you are doing it right. Very right. Shit-tests are a normal part of female interaction, but some types (like this one) strongly imply that she's going to be more work than she's worth. I recommend that you demote her to plat…
/r/askTRP30/01/19 02:43 PM
2

No. I said at the beginning that you're correct to hard-next this particular woman since you suspect her of being crazy. Then I said in a hypothetical scenario where she isn't crazy, you would ignore bad behavior, and escalate otherwise. Since this post she’s sent me over 50 texts telling me how terrible I am, it’s getting a bit ridiculous, I still don’t understand her problem with me. Her problem is that she is crazy. Hard next. I hope you understand what that means.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:38 PM
2

It means flirt and make advances. I'd highly recommend learning the basics of RP theory. You'll end up answering a lot of your own questions.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:15 PM
2

or does it come across as being too available? Yep. End things with just a "No problem." Then soft-next.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:08 PM
3

I think this girl may have BPD in which case hard next is the obvious answer Correct. But let's suppose that she doesn't have a mental illness, and she's just being a normal woman. What should you do then? In that case, you would ignore her when she's behaving badly, otherwise you would escalate and game her. Pretty straightforward.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 08:06 PM
1

I agree in principle indicates that you are butthurt Re-read my response. It does not matter what you look like, because a plate's opinion does not matter. Also, setting strong boundaries will likely sploosh her panties. "Being laid back" doesn't.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 02:25 PM
2

Ehh, too butthurt. How you look in front of a plate--especially one who has zero value since she won't have sex--does not matter. Actually being butthurt, however, is a different matter. Your emotions should not be engaged whatsoever. You'd be ending the interaction because 1.) there isn't any reason for you to continue it, and 2.) you've got work on your mission to resume.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:53 PM
2

There absolute no signs of interest. OP stated: "It started off flirtatious, got heavy-handed and we ended up making out one time at school." Women only do this when they're attracted to a man. They do not flirt, and they do not kiss men they are not attracted to. OP then further said: "When I was talking to another girl, [...] she literally appears out of nowhere and says "so how many times do you tell that story every day?" and gave me a death glare." This is mate-guarding (or maybe orbiter-gu…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:49 PM
1

I can not stop laughing. Did you really? Be honest.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:45 PM
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Yes. She was a waste of time. Wrong. See my other response. And probably crazy. Based on what? The fact that she acted like a woman?
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:06 AM
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Would pull away from kisses, said that she "barely knows me" and that she's "not that kind of girl". This is ASD/LMR. just gotta take it more slow, right? Nope. You apply ASD/LMR-busting techniques. When I was talking to another girl, [...], she literally appears out of nowhere and says "so how many times do you tell that story every day?" and gave me a death glare. You unintentionally applied dread, and she responded with mate-guarding. You needed to seize this opportunity to escalate. You prob…
/r/askTRP29/01/19 03:04 AM
4

Doesn't matter. That's their problem, not yours.
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:18 AM
8

However you want. Plates are just wet holes for you. But if you want to be diplomatic, one way is to look her in the eyes and say, "I suppose we can have sex another time, then. Thanks for stopping by, though!" Then casually get up and walk her to the door.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 09:06 PM
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You maintain frame in this situation just like you would in any others. If a plate doesn't want to fuck, you withdraw attention. If she's at your place, you tell her she needs to leave immediately. A plate who doesn't want to fuck has zero utility. If an FWB doesn't want to fuck, go do something else. If it becomes a pattern, demote to plate status.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 05:40 PM
0

You're asking questions about things that don't matter.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 05:35 PM
2

Women start in plate status. If they're fun and show green flags, you promote them to FWB status. This can happen at the one-month mark or so. Then you continue enjoying their company for 12+ months, while paying close attention to what they do, along with what their words imply. If you only see green flags in this time period, and no red flags (important), and if you want a girlfriend, then you promote her to LTR status. The process happens organically. You do not specifically look for a relati…
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:32 PM
1

Stop worrying about what silly things silly women are doing. If tattoos repulse you, then don't spend time with women who have them. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 04:22 PM
3

Did I destroy a friendship? Friendship between men and women is not possible to begin with.
/r/askTRP28/01/19 02:43 PM
1

Any update? I'm curious to hear how it went with your boss.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 01:39 AM
5

wants to stay the night. Plates aren't supposed to spend the night. That's for FWB status and higher. Like one minute she's overwhelmed, kissing me back passionately, and the next she's saying "Nope, I can't." That's when you withdraw attention from her. Use the standard LMR-busting techniques. If they don't work, you inform her that she needs to leave immediately. so I said fuck it I'm going to my bed... she sleeps on the couch. Next day she leaves and that's that. You showed her that you lack …
/r/askTRP24/01/19 09:09 PM
2

there’s huge thirst where I live and a shortage of beautiful women. Hence, your local market is highly competitive. SMV is a relative figure, and its not enough for this market. You do have another option that I didn't mention before, though: move to a more lenient market.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 08:48 PM
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Guys with decent SMV and higher get plenty of action on Tinder and other dating apps. So if you're not, that's because you have a lot more work to do. I’m pretty sure I have good pictures and top %20 look. That's your opinion. But the market clearly says otherwise. Your only option is to either raise your SMV considerably, or don't bother with dating apps.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 08:41 PM
5

If you read my other thread, I pointed out that OP likely instigated the scenario by staring him down. So let's instead take the situation where you're minding your own business, and someone bumps you. You first assess to what degree they did that on purpose. If its an accident, you don't worry about it. If its intentional, you further assess if they are an immediate threat to you. If yes, you immediately engage in self-defense. Otherwise, some words (amused mastery) and/or an ice-cold stare-dow…
/r/askTRP24/01/19 04:16 PM
6

Having good body language is important, but using it to flex on strangers and bully them is not right way. This isn't even close to being your biggest problem, though. What you need to do is fix your underlying confidence issues by lifting and working on your mission. Once you start to become successful in your path of self-actualization, confidence will flow out of you naturally. You won't need to worry about micro-managing your body language since it'll happen automatically.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 03:59 PM
14

You ONLY fight in a self-defense scenario. Otherwise, fighting for any other reason is the ultimate loss of frame. Full stop.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 03:54 PM
29

I keep my head up and look people in the eye when I'm walking You likely caused this entire incident by making the other guy feel threatened. Neither of you handled this correctly. He's got weak frame since he felt threatened by a nobody staring at him in public, and reacting by getting physical to protect his flimsy ego. You got weak frame because you're intentionally staring people down to feel superior; your weak confidence feeds off this. The real solution here is to put in the hard work to …
/r/askTRP24/01/19 03:24 PM
2

Glad I could help.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 05:52 AM
1

Well there you go. Just dial down your attention until its at the level you want right now. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 06:00 PM
5

You never formally end things with a plate or FWB. You simply dial down your attention until you're at the level you're comfortable with. Sure, they might pester you for a little bit, but that's easy enough to ignore. Unless they're crazy, they'll adjust. As a bonus, if later on you decide you want fuck again, that door isn't fully closed.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 05:10 PM
2

I end up seeing some texts [...] I call my LTR out on it Why? There's no point in talking anymore. At that point, you immediately and silently demote to plate status. There's no talking. There's no venting your emotions for validation. That's loss of frame. This bitch [...] this bitch [...] I'm fucking pissed about it. [...] The bitch Why are you angry at her? She's just a woman. Instead, you should be angry at yourself for choosing such a poor partner for an LTR. This comes down to you fucking …
/r/askTRP23/01/19 05:05 PM
3

Why are you paying for her flight to come to your place so you can work on your days off? Unless you have a REALLY good reason to do this, your employer should at least be paying for the flights.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:54 PM
10

I’m still mad about it There's no getting angry about it. You simply tell her in a stern voice that she can't invite people over to your place. "I'd love to be able to keep hosting you so we get this project done faster, but you need to respect my space." Getting emotional about a crossed boundary counts as loss of frame.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:52 PM
4

When you bold-face too many things, it becomes hard to read. And those words no longer stand out. Use it sparingly.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:50 PM
1

An LTR isn't just a length of time. Its a level of commitment and expectation.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 10:30 PM
2

considering the power dynamic that is baked into a employer/employee relationship. If you see your employer having power over you, then you're doing something wrong. You should view your relationship as being equals. A man who is great at his career should always have options for leaving this job and going to another. Additionally, he should always be on solid financial footing, so being out of work for a few months (or longer) shouldn't be a problem.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 09:14 PM
2

but I never see TRP discussing it this way, they always just assume the worst Without a specific example, all I can say is that many guys in here are beginners and stuck in the anger phase. They do tend to automatically assume the worst. However, I also read scenarios in this sub that are littered with red flags, so the proper response is to indeed assume the worst. Don't concern yourself with to what degree the beginners represent TRP; try instead to guide them out of the anger phase so they ca…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 08:19 PM
4

At the intermediate and advanced levels of RP mastery, you stop labeling things about society/women as "good" or "bad". You just accept the world for how it is, and you work to maximize your potential within it. For example, despite all the negative effects feminism has on men as a whole, you can easily leverage it to your advantage (this is an entire topic in and of itself). Ok, you circle jerk about women cheating in 40% of relationships, but ignore 60% where everything is ok? No, you accept b…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 07:56 PM
4

Lying is a dealbreaker in LTRs. Since you suspect that she is, immediately downgrade her to plate status. Next time, do proper vetting for 12+ months before upgrading to LTR. That will give you plenty of time to spot red flags like lying.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 07:38 PM
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A lot of reality isn't sunshine and kittens, and TRP reflects that. At the same time, there are too many people who are stuck in the anger phase, and only see things through that toxic perspective. Once you've built up enough experience in how the world really works, and learn how to spot the emotionally-triggered guys in here, filtering out the two becomes easier.
/r/askTRP20/01/19 07:32 PM
2

and wouldn’t let me fuck her unless we dated, so I did. Scarcity mentality. She has made jabs that I’m lucky to have her [...] Last night I asked her why she worked out at the gym so much, and she said so she can stop dating me. You're just the safe re-bound she's using to save her ego from bottoming out. Effectively, she's buying time to branch-swing. I don’t want to stop dating her bc than I’m the asshole who dated her for a week just to fuck her, and her dads a cop. Weak frame. Always do what…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 04:18 PM
1

Troll post. +1 for Illuminati reference though.
/r/askTRP18/01/19 05:52 PM
3

Sure no problem lol
/r/askTRP17/01/19 04:13 PM
3

When you put "lol" at the end of a sentence, it either comes off as a nervous laugh, or you're 14. Re-read your sentence without it. Wouldn't it sound so much more confident and definitive? You're welcome.
/r/askTRP17/01/19 03:43 PM
1

You talk but she makes no effort to hold the conversation. At this point, I wouldn't hold the conversation either, since she's not putting effort in. I wouldn't bother asking her out and wasting my time. She gets soft-nexted again. Sometimes this lights a fire under their ass and they stop with the playing-hard-to-get games. But if not... oh well. I'm busy working on my mission and fucking other women, so I don't care.
/r/askTRP16/01/19 04:26 PM
0

He shouldn't have to begin with. You don't spend money on plates nor FWBs.
/r/askTRP16/01/19 01:29 AM
2

So if you were on a date with a girl You don't go on dates with FWBs. You basically do the same things you would with your male friends, except you also fuck them. and she blatantly started flirting If your male friend started flirting with someone while you were hanging out, would you get butt-hurt about it? I sure hope not. I have other girls Its still possible to develop oneitis even so. And that's what's happening here. The fact that you dodged my suggestions about this the last time did not…
/r/askTRP16/01/19 12:23 AM
10

disrespecting me by flirting with other guys This isn't disrespect. FWB's are free to do that. You're not required to stick around for it, though. so fucking no dates out anymore. You sound upset. Your emotions should not be engaged. I personally don’t want to hear about it. Then dial down your attention to her. I thought there should be a don’t ask don’t tell policy when it comes to who else you’re seeing? In the end, you can make and enforce any rules you want, but this one would make you seem…
/r/askTRP15/01/19 11:18 PM
2

Sounds like you don't lift. The solution: lift. Then you won't look like a little boy anymore.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 10:41 PM
1

If she delays the next meetup, you soft-next. No need to drop her entirely. If she comes crawling back in a couple months, and her body would still be enjoyable to fuck... then you meet up again. Don't let your ego make decisions for you.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 10:37 PM
1

I understand that nobody can choose what turns them off, but know that you can control the pace of meet-ups by how you give her attention. Put on the brakes when it starts to get too much for you. This might get you more miles out of a plate before it breaks.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 10:35 PM
182

I know this is a big red flag, but is it a deal breaker? If you have a cuck fetish, then this is a big green flag. Otherwise, yes. Silently demote her to plate status, and start gaming other women.
/r/askTRP15/01/19 10:30 PM
2

This: I told her how I felt and said “I think I like you” Women want to date above their level, not sideways, and definitely not below them. By admitting that you like her, you proved that you're not above her.
/r/askTRP14/01/19 11:17 PM
1

the next morning she woke up feeling obsessive and caught up in what happened Translation: your behavior proved that she can do better than you, so she lost interest. In theory, you can bring back interest by continuing to soft-next her. She either re-enters your frame, or its over. However, given that you have oneitis, its not a good idea for you to get back into it with her. Your move needs to be to fix the fundamental problems you have that lead to oneitis to begin with. Study and master the …
/r/askTRP14/01/19 07:18 PM
4

Seeing this girl I met on Tinder for a little over a month now. Overall she’s been great so far, lots of green flags, no serious red flags. One month is not anywhere close to the amount of time you need for proper vetting. You need 12+ months for that. because I felt like exclusivity was somewhat implied This is not a thing. We never had “the talk” or anything, but I’m certain she’s been exclusive with me. Ok, so this is a green flag. Make note of it, but it is way too soon to conclude she's LTR…
/r/askTRP14/01/19 05:47 PM
6

I want to continue my own legacy through children. This is not a thing. Your legacy is created by YOU and you alone. You cannot control children to follow the path you want. People have tried. Many times. It always ends predictably: your kids will end up hating you, taking specific actions to spite you, and end up doing what they want anyway. So right off the bat, your goal is wrong. My mission is progeny. This is not a proper mission. You need to follow the path of self-actualization. But inste…
/r/askTRP10/01/19 04:05 PM
2

Thats fine ill stay. Actually, no... I said you need to leave. Btw, remember that wall of text you wrote? I didn't read any of it.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 12:57 PM
2

I'm not even going to read this wall of text. Dude, just leave this sub and don't come back. We can't help you.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 03:39 AM
1

Dude. Pull your head out of your ass. /u/mrpthrowa did you a huge favor by 1.) breaking down how you fucked your own life up (which you're still blind to), and 2.) how you can un-fuck your life so you don't land in the same situations (which will assuredly happen again since you're not learning from your mistakes). But you're too arrogant to even listen. At this point, just fuck off. If you can't recognize when good advice falls in your lap, then don't bother coming here for help.
/r/askTRP27/12/18 09:38 PM
1

Well it sure as fuck isn't money, that's for sure.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 06:49 PM
35

She's going to make moves on you, so be prepared. Intentionally fail all her shit tests. For every decision, ask yourself, "what would Billy Beta do?" Then do that. When (not if) she makes an explicit move on you, that's when you inform her that you just started dating someone. Hopefully you didn't elaborate too much when you told her about your plates (which was a big mistake to bring up, btw), so it sounds believable. Another option is to cancel the date. "Something came up." Of course, you'll…
/r/askTRP17/12/18 06:47 PM
3

Money is not more important that happiness. The only path to happiness is following your mission of self-actualization. A major component of this is to build strong frame, which is completely incompatible with the idea of placating your shitty family in order to get a payout. at this point if there wasn't an economic incentive I'd of changed my name and mailing address last year. Here's your next move. Cut them out of your life and get to work on your mission. The clock's ticking.
/r/askTRP17/12/18 06:31 PM
3

Do not apologize. An apology admits guilt. Instead, repeatedly state that you don't understand what she could be upset about. In the end, suggest that your communication style and hers just aren't on the same wavelength. Tell the managers and CIO that the solution, as you see it, is for you to use a more direct communication method in order to avoid any future misconception. This will neutralize their concerns about drama getting in the way of the company's mission. This settles the matter witho…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:21 PM
1

TBH I have no desire to say it at all, but if my LTR were to say it to me should I say “I love you too” back? The key point about frame is always doing what you want... not reacting to other people's desires and expectations. You should 1.) not be concerned with what other people want, nor 2.) fear their reactions. I don’t really feel like going out on some tangent to explain to her why I don’t want to say it Then don't. You don't owe anyone anything. If she asks why, you respond with "I don't w…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:04 PM
1

Family doesn't get a free pass. They get held to the same standard as everyone else. Your brother is a loser and doesn't care to improve. That's on him to fix, if at all. You're under no obligation to have anyone in your life, much less people who react to you with jealousy. You do you. He and everyone else can earn the privilege of riding your success train through life by contributing in a meaningful way. Otherwise... they aren't welcome. You're too busy working on your mission to waste time o…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 07:00 PM
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The appropriate move is to soft-next. She's done nothing wrong to earn a hard-next. Is it ok to send her a text Nope. You're too busy gaming other women and working on your mission.
/r/askTRP16/12/18 06:47 PM
5

After matching on Tinder/Bumble, I start with asking them questions about what they list in their profile. People absolutely love talking about themselves and being the center of attention. Its utterly intoxicating for them (especially women). When they say they like to travel, I ask where they've been, what's their favorite place, where they're going to next, etc. I use active listening techniques to contribute to the conversation and keep the focus on them. I throw in jokes to make them laugh …
/r/askTRP14/12/18 04:06 PM
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Your move is to reflect on what you want. If you want to talk to her less often, then dial down your attention to her until you reach the level you're comfortable with. Either she rolls with it, or doesn't. Your abundance mentality and outcome independence means you don't care if this one leaves, right? ... right?
/r/askTRP14/12/18 04:09 AM
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If That's right: if. I've had wild successes in upgrading planned coffee dates into fuck sessions... all through texting. I've been able to extend a plate's interest through texting while logistics prevented us from getting together. The results speak for themselves: if you're perceptive and know how to handle yourself, running game over text works wonders. That doesn't mean it works for everyone. Beginners, especially, should not attempt it. Don't take everything you encounter here as absolute …
/r/askTRP14/12/18 04:06 AM
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she fails to tell me that her shifts are till 1:00am every night[...] I cut off all contact and have ghosted her since. [...] I abandon ship when I see a red flag. What. The. Fuck. You panicked because she left out a detail that doesn't matter? She dodged a bullet and doesn't even know it. Here's my advice to you: continue to ghost her. This does her a huge favor, since she was dating an bona fide autist for four years. While you're doing that, start reading the side-bar and find your mission. Y…
/r/askTRP09/12/18 02:31 AM
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Since nobody else is reading this post, is it safe to assume that you downvoted my last response? If so, that's another instance of broken frame. An internet stranger's words (mine, this time) triggered your emotions. Why is that? Is your ego fragile? Are you dependent on validation from others in this forum? (After all, you have that fancy flair to live up to, right?) You don't realize it yet, but I'm helping you.
/r/askMRP29/11/18 06:05 PM
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So let me ask a question, do you think that sometimes there's irrational response with emotion, and sometime there's calling someone out on their faggotry? Yes. And sometimes there's irrational emotional response while calling out OP. Your question below confirms you were emotional, and there's no rational reason that an internet stranger (or anyone in your life) should evoke this response. This shows broken frame. Deeper question is, do you know that you can be emotional and still in your own f…
/r/askMRP29/11/18 02:36 PM
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What internet randos do or say shouldn't evoke an emotional response from you.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:52 PM
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How is it relevant?
/r/askMRP28/11/18 03:50 PM
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This is some stupid fucking shit. You talk about frame, yet you have a meltdown on some internet stranger. Interesting.
/r/askMRP27/11/18 07:33 PM
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If/when a soft-nexted woman reaches out to you again, you resume as if nothing had happened. What good is the soft next if it ends so fast? It still shows that you are in control, both of yourself, as well as the situation with her. If her bad behavior continues, you ignore it and re-direct the conversation towards something you want. Failing that, you soft-next again, until she's ready to follow your lead.
/r/askTRP24/11/18 06:57 PM
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This “red pill” stuff is complete trash. And your proof of this is the guy who fucks up basic RP theory? K.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 11:52 PM
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Any workout is better than nothing, but a proper gym blows a home gym out of the water. Not only is there so much more equipment at a gym, but you're also surrounded by other people busting their ass. That's very motivating.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 11:46 PM
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Well, /u/MrBoringxD, why do you care? I guarantee you that hookers are not a good short-term nor long-term solution to any of your issues.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 07:47 PM
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How should I be doing the demoting process However you want. But to give you an idea: if you silently withdraw your attention (unless its to set up a time to fuck), her interest in you will likely rise dramatically. Translation: more sex, better sex, and minimal drama. so it doesn't seem like I am the bad guy If you concern yourself with what she thinks of you, you would be operating in her frame. Do what you want. Id like to keep her since she is a great preselection Silently demoting to FWB, a…
/r/askTRP20/11/18 07:19 PM
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A man with abundance mentality wouldn't see the need to risk a substantial fine for one girl, when there are so many that are interested in him... right? In general, if a woman wants something from you, reply with "Ok, but what's in it for me?" Make her earn what she's after. With a high SMV, you're the prize. No need to get upset about it.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 06:59 PM
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You should be constantly gaming her and escalating in person. Suggestive jokes, kino, a random butt-poke when nobody's looking, etc. Have fun. If nobody's around, kiss her. Don't wait for a "good time" or an explicit sign from her that she wants it.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 06:54 PM
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All relationships are transactional by nature, though it is considered social taboo to explicitly point this out. As long as you're not breaking the law, this is perfectly fine and normal. Don't take the risk of going to jail for giving alcohol to a minor.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 06:50 PM
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You LTR'ed the wrong woman. Your job was to complete a careful vetting process over the course of 12 months (at minimum). But instead, it seems that you rushed in... likely due to scarcity mentality and outcome-dependence. This is the type of woman who feeds off male attention. There is nothing inherently wrong with women like this; in fact, they make great plates and FWBs when you have decent SMV. But they are not suitable for monogamous LTRs. The solution here is very straightforward: immediat…
/r/askTRP20/11/18 06:46 PM
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Could you please explain how/why a person with strong frame, solid ego, outcome-independence, and high inner confidence would risk going to jail/prison/the hospital/the graveyard over something like this? You now have 100% of my attention. I am extremely interested in hearing your response. School is now in session.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 05:51 PM
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He literally has no comeback Yes he does: he pulls out a gun, deposits 7-10 rounds of hollow-point bullets into your torso. This is why you don't escalate with people known to be violent and/or are currently threatening you.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 05:45 PM
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Unless its self-defense, fighting is the ultimate loss of frame. This only makes sense to do if you lack each of the following: Outcome-independence Inner confidence Strong frame. Or any level of frame, really... Common sense The desire to stay out of jail/prison/the hospital/the graveyard Pay close attention to this list. Notice that RP theory strongly revolves around those first three points?
/r/askTRP20/11/18 05:42 PM
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No, this is called "handling it like an adult." You never fight someone unless its self-defense. ...unless, of course, you have zero frame, and a massively fragile ego. Then it makes sense: you're desperate to prove yourself because you have no inner confidence. You're just a tough exterior with just a scared little boy inside. So it makes sense to risk going to jail/prison/the hospital/the graveyard. You got a lot to learn, son.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 03:07 PM
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You're not obligated to like a particular type of woman. The problem here, though, is your emotional response. This speaks volumes.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 03:02 PM
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I got super irritated because I knew they both were in LTR's "I'm desperate to believe the lie that women are these pure, angelic beings capable of doing nothing wrong. I got a hint that this is not true, causing my world view to come crashing down, which manifested as anger. Also, I really need to hit the sidebar and learn the absolute basics of RP theory. Brb in 7 months!"
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:33 AM
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im clearly in the anger phase still after months. [...] I need more side bar. Yes. Yes you do.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:31 AM
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Thing is, this guy is tiny. I'd be a little more worried about this, actually. Little guys may use weapons to get a (massive) advantage. we have mutual friends that I haven't been able to hang out with because he is already at their house or something. [...] Honestly, I entirely regret sleeping with "his girl", and would take it back if I could You are now in his frame. Should I try to make amends? Depends on what you mean by that. You don't owe him an apology since you did not do anything wrong…
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:29 AM
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she asked me if she could sleep at my house even if we didnt have sex. "Nope." Don't provide an explanation. This lead her to go full bananas telling me that i only want her for her pussy and shit like that. Laugh, ignore, lie, AA, AM. You've got a bunch of options as long as you don't enter her frame. What do? Own it or make up a story? Depends on what you want. If you're the morally flexible type, and you want to just get in her pants, you can lie and say you're not just in it for sex. Then co…
/r/askTRP20/11/18 04:18 AM
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AskTRP isn't your personal book club, dude.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 03:45 PM
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plate for another 5 prior. [...] too many red flags If you plated her for the minimum 12 month period, you would have found these red flags before they caused your problems. Every time we've been in an argument though Never argue with a woman. Any advice for doing it now with as much damage control in place as possible? People have mentioned that going full-beta would repulse her with minimal drama. This is true, but would take time and effort on your part. I've never needed to do this, but it s…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 03:36 PM
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The only things that matter with plates are: Their bodies are enjoyable. They reliably hold plans. They aren't crazy. What they do outside of this is none of your concern. It doesn't matter if she's fucking other guys, sending them nudes, etc. Otherwise, plates are just wet fuck-holes that you enjoy from time to time. That said, you would pay attention to her behavior and understand what it means in terms of potential upgrade to LTR status later. In this case, she is permanently disqualified fro…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 03:25 PM
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And guess who's fault that is? You made a series of decisions in life that lead you to this. That makes it your responsibility to fix. Now stop whining and get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/18 05:17 AM
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You did well, and your follow-up plan is good. If she turns you down a second time, though, its time for an immediate soft-next. End the date immediately. If/when she comes crawling back, explicitly state that she's coming over your place to get fucked deep. If she declines, soft-next again. Follow this pattern and you'll never waste your time. ​
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:52 AM
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Firstly, you cannot make women or a family your purpose in life. That does not lead to happiness. You need to instead follow your path of self-actualization. You feel like your current life of working two jobs isn't giving you the progress you want. That's a clear sign that you need to switch careers. Nobody can tell you what would make you the happiest; you have to find that on your own. But its clear that change needs to happen. If you had 10 extra hours per week to put into a hobby, what woul…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:47 AM
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I didn't want to do this This implies that you had an attachment to her. While this doesn't sound like anything close to oneitis, its still important to reflect on how this developed. This wasn't the only thing, just the last straw. Your slight(?) attachment might have clouded your judgement and caused you to put up with more red flags than you should have. Just FYI. Otherwise, you handled this pretty well.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:40 AM
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Sounds like you didn't escalate and close on Tuesday. And you didn't on Sunday, so now you left her with blueballs twice. Your move now is to be very explicit. Invite her over to your place soon: "Come over Monday at 8pm. I'm going to fuck you deep with your arms pinned over your head." Get the party started as soon as your door closes behind her. Do not waste any time. Now i wonder if i will ever eat that pussy You shouldn't be concerned, because you have abundance and outcome-independence, rig…
/r/askTRP18/11/18 06:42 PM
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Second, fucking a oneitis is the worst thing you can do. I think guys who have ascended into the intermediate/advanced phases can do this safely. In fact, that would be a real test of frame, would it not? Beginners should absolutely not attempt this, however.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 06:37 PM
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FYI, some rumors you may think work against you, but actually work in your favor. Lord Byron (a poet in the 1800's) had persistent rumors about fucking his sister. Instead of turning women off, it worked to his advantage big-time. Deep down, women appreciate a guy who seems to break norms and doesn't give a fuck. Ignoring and AA/AM techniques will sploosh many panties.
/r/askTRP18/11/18 06:35 PM
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You can't force RP knowledge on other people. If you don't like your friends, get new friends. Otherwise, you're the retard. You need to learn about frame. Its obvious you don't know about this topic, otherwise you wouldn't have gotten angry over nothing. Get to work.
/r/askTRP17/11/18 03:07 PM
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it would be nice to know how to proceed with this in the future Laugh about it. Then continue doing what you were doing. Change nothing.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:48 PM
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Plenty of gay guys don't show the stereotypical behaviors. Or, like /u/fuggetboutit implied, he doesn't know what the fuck he's doing right now.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 08:13 PM
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He is either asexual or gay. Asexual people are much more rare, so my money's on gay.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 07:50 PM
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You reply with: "Be at my place at 9pm tomorrow. I'm going to pin your arms over your head and fuck you deep." She either accepts and you get what you want, or she declines, gets soft-nexted again, and doesn't waste your time. Win-win. Either way, game other women.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 06:17 PM
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Then you soft-next. Either they're too anxious to actually date, or they're just looking for attention/orbiters. It doesn't matter what's actually going on, because either way, they're a waste of time. Soft-next and game other women.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 06:09 PM
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Focus on doing your job really well. If some women are really throwing it to you, then get their number quickly and resume what you're there for.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 05:30 PM
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You're mostly correct. There are some women who are just getting back into the dating game and are nervous about the whole process. These women will unintentionally waste your time. I tell them that attraction happens in person, not over an app. I also point out that the entire point of meeting for coffee is to get to know each other. And as a bonus, we don't spend three weeks talking just to find out we have no chemistry in person. Most will then accept a casual date; the rest get soft-nexted. …
/r/askTRP16/11/18 05:23 PM
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dates with your plates You don't go on dates with plates. You don't go on dates with FWB's either. You go on dates with LTRs only.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 03:32 PM
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Dude. Stop spamming this sub with your bullshit stories. You come here and make 3-4 posts per week, learn nothing from them, then delete. Its time for you to take a six-month time out.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 03:29 PM
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im a fucking man following red pill learning Apparently you just started, because you don't know anything. Now be quiet and pay attention.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 01:00 AM
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"I don't even study or try hard. Jealous?" Say that with a smirk while looking them in the eye and walking past. "If you're this jealous now, wait until after college when I'm making $300 an hour."
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:21 AM
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It may be a shit test, or you're overthinking things. Either way, no reaction necessary.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:17 AM
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You'll never know the real number, but this doesn't matter. What matters is if she is a promiscuous woman or not. You can tell this by her actions and her words. Does she maintain a bunch of orbiters? Does she feed off male attention wherever she goes? Does her social media footprint scream "I need attention!!"? Is she a party girl who hits the clubs frequently? Does she have little self-control? This is easy to figure out. Furthermore, note that the only time this even matters is when you're co…
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:14 AM
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In no particular order: Provide me sex whenever I want it, and how I want it. Follow my lead. Do the tasks I assign to you in a timely manner. Don't whine and complain at me. Have a fun personality. Take care of yourself physically. That's a good start...
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:09 AM
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Fuck at her place, or a fitting room in a Target/Walmart/other store.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:07 AM
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AA or AM responses would work wonders. Pull that off, and the other women observing will sploosh.
/r/askTRP16/11/18 12:04 AM
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I'm still a bit angry but it doesn't hurt me anymore. Of course its still hurting you. That anger is the result of thinking you were/are owed something more. No. You aren't. Neither this world, nor anyone within it, owes you jack shit. That anger is the result of thinking that things are out of your control. They are not. You and you alone control your life and your path through it. Once you change your perspective, you'll become much happier and successful.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 10:51 PM
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Is this a troll post?
/r/askTRP15/11/18 04:31 PM
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You opened your mouth when it should have stayed shut, and then you kept your mouth shut when it should have been opened. Two mistakes. Instead of sitting there in silence after her shit-test (which basically said, "yep, I know I have no shot with you because you're out of my league"), you needed to AA or AM. Then continue to escalate.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 04:30 PM
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Words don't matter. Only actions do. She likely lost interest in you for the standard reasons, and is just using this as an excuse. The truth doesn't matter. All that matters is your SMV isn't high enough to retain her. But this should be an issue, because you have abundance mentality and outcome-independence, right? ...right?
/r/askTRP15/11/18 03:19 PM
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What helps tremendously is realizing that women are self-interested creatures, like all humans are. Feminism is their tool to gain power while claiming its just about equality. You can't be angry at them for wanting to improve their position; after all, what do you think TRP is about? You're angry because of, what? The feeling you've lost time? Lost opportunity? Believe me, you've got plenty of time starting at age 27 to maximize your potential. And most guys never learn! Or do you feel angry be…
/r/askTRP15/11/18 03:16 PM
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How do you get from talking to kissing? After 20-30 minutes, you just kiss her. That's it. You just do it. No waiting for a "good time", no waiting for her to look like she wants it. You just do it. Its a lot easier than you think.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 12:32 AM
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Oneitis is always caused by lack of abundance. As long as you have scarcity mentality, you will always suffer. Put in the hard work to raise your SMV, game lots of women, and you'll have a much better time.
/r/askTRP15/11/18 12:27 AM
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I used to have above average face and unfortunately it's where most of my self-esteem and confidence came from. Well here's your real problem: your confidence came from the wrong place. The solution is to draw confidence from progress on your path to self-actualization. Put in hard work on your mission and your mental game will improve. Also, aging is genetic, but the life you live definitely makes an impact. Smoking, poor diet, UV exposure, fitness levels, proper sleep are known to be major fac…
/r/askTRP14/11/18 10:08 PM
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a certain element of "oneitis" is natural. Natural for a beginner? Yes. Acceptable? Never. Is cutting it off now rather than later (3 or 4 months) sensible in this case The longer you wait at this point, the stronger your oneitis and frustration becomes. Besides, you'd be losing valuable time that could be put towards fixing the core issues that resulted in the oneitis to begin with. Your time is precious, and its going to take a lot of effort to get on track. Go for the quick and clean break, t…
/r/askTRP14/11/18 08:44 PM
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Someone else replied about going full-alpha on her. I doubt that would work with someone so shy. Hold that thought until you make more progress. In the meantime, try the opposite approach: have some music playing, and start with a massage.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 08:03 PM
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So my question is, what happens now? You soft-next and game other women. What did I do wrong? Nothing. But in the future, don't go around asking what happened. Even if you had a crystal ball and found the real reason, it doesn't matter. All that matters is their actions. but this seems to have blown up in my face There are no set of tactics that will work 100% of the time against 100% of women. RP theory's goal is to provide a framework that achieves optimal effect against the majority. Also, yo…
/r/askTRP14/11/18 07:58 PM
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Me being TRP aware [...] it just makes me disgusted the whole time You're aware, but you haven't accepted it. You are clearly at the very beginner stages if your life is so empty that you're wasting it on judging strangers. Start worrying about yourself and your mission. Is there some age where they face reality? Or does it never go away? Nobody at the intermediate and higher levels of RP mastery give a shit about what some silly women are out there doing. They're busy focusing on themselves.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 07:53 PM
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Is there a red pill way of handling this which doesn't involve simply keeping calm, not getting too attached and moving on? Nope. I have obviously developed strong feelings for this girl This is called "oneitis." It is caused by your lack of abundance mentality and lack of outcome-independence. This is a serious problem that you must begin to fix immediately.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 07:43 PM
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As with other plates, you keep seeing them as long as their bodies remain enjoyable and they reliably keep plans. Personally, if she didn't start to learn soon, I'd get bored and then I'd have to drop her. But strangers on the internet can't tell you what you want. Evaluate your own satisfaction with where things are, and how fast they're progressing, then make your own choice.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 07:38 PM
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Glad I could help, and glad you realized what you need to do. I should clarify about my idea of going on the trip anyway: that's something that can reasonably work if you don't have oneitis. With oneitis, however, the chances of navigating that situation correctly (using your ex's place only and friendzoning her) comes crashing down to less than 1%. I don't recommend that you try this in your current state. Finding another place to stay for two weeks could be expensive unless you go the hostel r…
/r/askTRP14/11/18 05:58 PM
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Are you 14?
/r/askTRP14/11/18 03:07 PM
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I once had the thought "I wish my turn lasted longer". Nothing wrong with that. Its indicative of a larger problem. Namely, lack of abundance mentality and outcome independence. It indicates that you have more work to do.
/r/askTRP14/11/18 01:26 AM
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Coming from a guy who needed a unique Reddit name and didn't wanted to be called fuckyouasshole1736512.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 11:49 PM
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Go to the bathroom after sex, with the condom still on your dick. Take the condom off, rinse it out with water, then put soap in it and rinse it again. Wrap it up in a tissue, then go put it in your pants pocket. Later on, toss it in the trash back at your place.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 09:47 PM
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But don't you ever enjoy a females group company? Nope. I love that shit, but it doesn't go well with all the "either study or pussy, no bullshit" attitude. Correct. But it comes down to what you want more. Is it more important for you to be their friend and never get pussy? Or would you rather get pussy from women, and friendship from men?
/r/askTRP13/11/18 09:38 PM
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Damn, maybe I'm being too supportive? Yes. Stop being a woman's emotional tampon. Should I straight up be in a "I'm not here to solve your problems" attitude unless I'm really needed? Correct, but also if you're "really needed." You don't have time for being her friend. You have a mission (your studies and gearing up for a career). You want some pussy on the side to distract you from time to time. If you're not getting that from a woman, you stop giving her attention. On the other hand things li…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 08:17 PM
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How would you describe assertive behavior? Do you always know what you're doing, what you want, and how you want it? I'm the guy they all want to talk with about the guy they have a crush on, the guy they want to cook and study with but not the guy to sleep with. This right here says you're deep in the friendzone. You are absolutely doing something very, very wrong. Try this: make a list of all the stereotypical attributes of men in romance novels. Which ones do you have, and which are you missi…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 07:40 PM
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I am supposed to fly to her in 1 month for 1 month. How is it that you're able to put your life on hold for one whole month just to see a woman?? Do you not have a life? Even if you're independently wealthy, you should still have a mission. So one way or another, you've got bigger problems than just this LDR. Much bigger problems... Flights paid for, no refund possible. [...] What should I do now? You learn your lesson about LDRs, that's what. Assuming her city/country is fun to hang out in, I'd…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 07:31 PM
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I am prepared to move on (just my turn), but I’d prefer if she stayed here (i want a longer turn). Your words are contradictory. but I’d prefer if she stayed here (i want a longer turn). This is the real situation you're having trouble admitting to yourself. This problem comes from your lack of abundance mentality. If you had a proper mission, too, this revelation wouldn't have fazed you. she is having family issues and is thinking of moving If she valued you enough, she wouldn't consider leavin…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 07:23 PM
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You can say "bullshit" on the internet.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 05:40 PM
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My ex-plate [...] I nexted her 3 months ago because she was banging another guy Oh look. Yet another guy who has no idea what a plate even is... A plate is a wet fuck-hole. You use their bodies for as long as they're enjoyable and reliable. You have zero expectation of them outside of that, including what they may or may not be doing with other men. However, you do take note of these things, which affect potential upgrades to LTR status (much) later on. So here's your mistake: you thought a plat…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 05:38 PM
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Are you assertive? Do you project confidence? Are you constantly focused on seeking validation from friends?
/r/askTRP13/11/18 04:32 PM
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I soft next. [...] But everytime I try to re establish contact If you re-establish contact yourself, then this is not a soft-next. A soft-next is where you withdraw all attention until she reaches out to you. If that day never comes, then so be it. Or is it a clear indication that I fucked up in some way? Yes. You fucked up the soft-next and showed neediness and lack of abundance. This makes it all too easy for them to feel contempt for you. Properly soft-next these women. Let them come crawling…
/r/askTRP13/11/18 04:29 PM
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What you are doing is hard nexting them Uhh, no. OP is not hard-nexting them. He's not even properly soft-nexting as he is later initiating contact.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 04:25 PM
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and told her to text me when she was done acting up. "I'm kind of bluffing about this. You're not in any real danger of losing me." Never say this. Just immediately withdraw attention and say nothing more. Let their hamster spin. How should I word my response to her? When a plate comes crawling back, you pretend like nothing was wrong to begin with. There's no talk and no follow-up. Your soft next succeeded and now she wants her holes used again. So your next move is to schedule a time to fuck.
/r/askTRP13/11/18 04:21 PM
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Gifts are for women who have put in the hard work to earn LTR status only.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 10:53 PM
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how important is family in regards to SMV Its not. What matters is your physical size, your social-economic status, and your attitude. Your broken family is only a problem if you let it be. The 'ideal' goal is to eventually marry a woman Wrong. Your goal should be to follow your path of self-actualization, not seek fulfillment from a relationship or family. This is RP theory 101.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 10:51 PM
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If she brings up the topic, yes. Never be ashamed of who you are. But if you bring it up yourself, there's a good chance she won't perceive the situation accurately. People fill in details with their imagination, often without realizing it. This just lowers your chances of success without any benefit to you.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 08:09 PM
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And yes, I would slap your ears off Ohhhh... so close! Your advice was solid up until here. Fighting for any reason other than self-defense is the ultimate loss of frame. Oh, someone hurt your fragile little ego? Better tell the whole world that you're only tough on the outside by "defending your honor" in front of nobodies. And also risk going to jail/prison/the hospital. You have more to learn about holding frame. Get to work.
/r/askTRP12/11/18 08:07 PM
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Seeing "LTR" after 4 months. You don't promote to LTR after just 4 months. This happens after she's proven herself for 12+ months... at minimum. I fucked two other girls [...] I still love this girl "I have such strong oneitis that its persisting even through a couple other plates." We had an argument Never argue with a woman. What to do? Start putting in the hard work necessary to overcome your oneitis. (Hint: this means not going to see her.) I just want to [...] teach her a lesson. Loss of fr…
/r/askTRP12/11/18 08:03 PM
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Should I disclose that I have an illness to my date or try and hide it? "Should I tell her something that will seem from her perspective like a red flag?" NO. I’m worried that if I hide it the girl might be able to tell something is off with me. You got a 10% chance it will hurt you if you keep your mouth shut (according to what your friends said), or an 80% chance otherwise. The better question is: how is the correct choice not obvious to you?
/r/askTRP12/11/18 07:54 PM
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but still insists on "her rules". End up leaving the next morning with no success. That night, if you had immediately picked up your stuff and started heading out the door, the chances she would have "made an exception" would have increased by a factor of 19.6. But instead, you displayed low value by showing scarcity (i.e.: high-value men with many options wouldn't be desperate enough to stick around until morning just for a chance of getting pussy). Any ideas on why this was the case? Perhaps a…
/r/askTRP12/11/18 05:05 PM
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Is this the sign of somebody disinterested, or is it the product of an actually busy person? It doesn't matter what's actually going on. All that matters is how she reacts to when you suggest meeting. Even if she is legitimately busy, either she needs to make time, or she's done. The next day I say last night was fun, and I'd like to go out again sometime, maybe later next week Never suggest vague meet-ups. Always specify an exact time and place. This makes it easy for her to just say yes. It al…
/r/askTRP03/11/18 08:44 PM
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How do you recommend escalating physically without pushing any boundaries? She will enforce whatever boundaries she has once you cross them (and when you do, you respond with AA/AM/soft-nexting, as appropriate). Until then, you don't worry about what she may or may not like. Forget that she said she isn't interested right now. Act like this is a women who is into you and wants you to make moves. Flirt, casually put your hand on her back, and maintain good eye contact. Invite her on a date. Also …
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:35 AM
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TRP is against video games because its all too easy to waste your life away on them, instead of following your path to self-actualization. Its like spending too much time on social media instead of improving your career, hitting the gym, etc. In your case, you're making money, and it could be an OK career. As long as you leave room for improving your body & mind, and pursue a solid backup plan, there's nothing wrong with professional gaming.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:24 AM
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Needed her to order something for my department It sounds like she works for the same company as you. In that case, abort mission. Don't play with fire. There's plenty of other women to game in this world.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:20 AM
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What do you want to do? Strangers on the internet cannot tell you what you want. If that answer is yes, then you begin escalating immediately. The dude was a fag [...] She's told me she's into me but struggling to get over her ex If a guy who looked like he stepped right out of a romance novel spit some game at her, believe me: she would forget all about her ex within milliseconds. when I suggest we date she just says she wants to be alone for a while. Use your actions, not words. Escalate physi…
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:18 AM
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is it possible that she fights her emotions and urges because she knows I'm bad for her... or do women always succumb to their emotions and feels. That entirely comes down to how well you run game on her. If you nuke the shit tests from low-earth orbit, her panties will sploosh that much harder. If you hold frame and soft-next when necessary, her resistance will further wear down. In the meantime, game other women so you're not trying too hard on this one.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:08 AM
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A plate is a wet fuck-hole. As long as she is reliable and her body is enjoyable, you continue fucking her holes. So no, you don't don't bring it up. Your move is to continue fucking her holes. However, you do take note of these things. Lying to you is a permanent disqualifier for promotion past FWB level. Furthermore, if this coincides with other red flags that suggest she is crazy, then you hard-next. But until then, you keep fucking her holes.
/r/askTRP03/11/18 12:04 AM
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If I was low value I wouldn’t be asking the right way to get rid of a girl. This statement strongly suggests that you do not understand the basics of attraction. Next time answer the question and keep it moving. I can imagine more than half of the people who call others low value on this sub are low value themselves. 1.) Then why are you here, if you don't think most people can help you? You want to cherry-pick what responses reinforce the ideas you already have? 2.) A stranger on the internet i…
/r/askTRP02/11/18 06:25 PM
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Her feelings and her reactions are not your concern. You need to do what's right for you. If you're high value enough, she will still want to spend time with you and fuck you. Lastly, I should point out that this question is usually only asked by guys who lack abundance mentality. If you had good SMV and were gaming other women (like you should be), you wouldn't be worried about how this one girl would react, nor whether or not she would still have sex.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 05:42 PM
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Not only do you have oneitis, but you're stalking her too. Your move is to regain control of yourself by hard-nexting her. Work on your mission, and game other women. Fix the weakness inside you that lead to this desperation in the first place.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:19 PM
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Translation: "Please spoon-feed me hundreds of hours of learning for free." No, dude. Stop being lazy and start learning the material on your own. This sub is for asking specific questions once you've learned the basics.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 04:21 AM
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Hard next. [...] Spoke, had a chat, then I walked away. FYI, if you engaged in any interaction afterwards, then this is a soft-next.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 02:53 AM
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That doesn't matter. He should treat her as a plate regardless. Either she goes along with it, or doesn't. He loses nothing if she declines. She might also come back months/years from now for the D.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 07:20 PM
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I meant that OP needs to alter his perspective on her. Its true that she no longer is invested in the LTR, but she may want him to stay invested. Or she may want to keep him in orbit in case her next guy doesn't work out.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 05:42 PM
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Silently demote her to plate status, and treat her accordingly. No need to talk about anything, nor formally end the LTR. Since you're single now, start gaming other women and continue working on your mission.
/r/askTRP01/11/18 05:36 PM
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Your perspective on plates is wrong. A plate is a fuck-hole that you enjoy from time to time as a fun distraction from following your mission. You have zero emotional investment in them, and certainly no expectation of how they behave outside being a reliable wet hole for you. Even at the next level up (FWB), you don't worry about what she's doing with other guys (however, you would take that into consideration for further upgrading into LTR status). Your move in this situation is to keep enjoyi…
/r/askTRP01/11/18 03:06 PM
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This blog post belongs on Tumblr, not here.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 05:56 PM
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All I did was read the title, and its already obvious what the solution is.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 05:55 PM
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This is a very common problem, and is asked about frequently. The most you can do is lead by example. Every once in awhile, toss a hint in his direction, but nothing too obvious. RP knowledge isn't something that can be forced on someone. They have to begin to see the cracks in their own perceptions first and start to question things. Once they realize there's a lot more to society than they were taught can they start on the RP journey. Some people never reach that point. And that's fine, becaus…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 05:53 PM
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What personal problems do you have? And what have you done so far to address them? What caused your confidence problems to begin with?
/r/askTRP30/10/18 09:39 PM
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Aside from lifting, work on your mission to build confidence. Also, realize that those women are interested in you. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." Optionally, you can consider going into monk mode for a little while in order to build yourself up.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 08:24 PM
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I know I'm a newbie, and I'm reading the sidebar, but there's hundreds of pages. Good. Keep reading, and keep learning. You have a LOT more to go. In the meantime, you're posting questions that imply you still don't grasp the basics. People tried to help you, but you miss the points they make because you don't have the right foundational knowledge to understand it. This is why you need to stop posting questions. Its a waste of your time, as well as ours.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 07:14 PM
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Are you trolling, or legitimately autistic?
/r/askTRP30/10/18 02:40 PM
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Stop posting on AskTRP. You're wasting everyone's time.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 07:45 PM
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I already know the answer Well now that we handled that... anybody else hungry?
/r/askTRP29/10/18 06:45 PM
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This question suggests that you need the group to want your plan. You don't. If you want to do something, and others don't, then you go do that thing on your own. People will start to respect your ideas more as your SMV rises. Then they will begin to follow your lead. But at no point should you ever need this.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:46 PM
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Yes. Have a plan on everything... or at least most important things. Its ok to revise the plan over time as you learn new facts, but you always need to know what you want, what you're doing, and why you're doing it.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 04:06 PM
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I'm timid, not assertive. People don't respect me. These two points are likely related. To be more assertive, you first need to know what you want. For example, when a co-worker asks for ideas on places to go for lunch, you won't seem assertive if you say "I don't know". Know what you want, then tell them a specific place. Passive people look to others for cues on what they should do. Assertive people always know what they want, when they want it, and how they want it. To fix this, spend time th…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 03:36 PM
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How do you know Because your post is titled "I Am Mentally Weak, And I Need Help To Improve." The body of your post talks about how you're mentally weak, too. dimwit This is the sound of a cracked frame.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 03:18 PM
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Then why are you so mentally weak still? If you followed the path of self-actualization, you wouldn't be searching for happiness from other people.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 03:02 PM
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Don't bother trying to help this guy. Read OP's history. He isn't learning from the feedback he's gotten from us.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 03:00 PM
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This is happening because you don't have a proper mission, nor do you have abundance mentality. The solution is straightforward, but will take years of hard work: lift, advance your career, follow the path of self-actualization, and game lots of women. Read and master all the sidebar material.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 02:54 PM
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You can indeed build muscle in your 30's. But if you keep repeating negative thoughts to yourself, you'll create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your mission cannot involve women. Women will never lead to long-term happiness; that alone comes from following the path of self-actualization. Your mission should include career goals instead.
/r/askTRP29/10/18 01:45 PM
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Boy, you sure sound angry. Why does this break your frame so badly? (Hint: this question is rhetorical.) Secondly, why is your own life so empty that you're worrying so much about what other people are doing? If you had a proper mission and were busy working on making progress in it, you wouldn't care about what's going on. You got a long road ahead of you, son. Get to work.
/r/askTRP28/10/18 04:04 PM
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I do have other girls and an abundance mentality. If you really think that, then you're hopeless.
/r/askTRP24/10/18 04:19 AM
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The other half say that if you've been acting like her BF, you are her BF Ok, then what if she's your FWB? In FWB arrangements, you can go out and do non-sexual activities. The only thing that separates this from an LTR is the lack of an explicit agreement of exclusivity. Your friends are wrong, and you need to stop feeling guilty.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 01:42 PM
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You never get rid of a plate. You dial down your attention level until you're happy. You don't owe her your attention, nor can you predict the future (its possible that your interest level will come back later). Sure, the plate may break for 6 months--or even permanently. Oh well. But you may find yourself interested again months later, and as long as you didn't close that door yourself, you may still fuck her again.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 01:35 PM
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Because that is what matters, seeing her again If you're saying things like this, then you don't know the absolute basics of RP theory. In that case, you needed to spend your time learning about it, not posting questions. This is why everyone roasted you so hard. Here's a hint: start learning about abundance mentality and outcome-independence. Then come back to your own post, and spot the problems with your mindset.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 01:24 PM
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Is this a troll post? Because I'm having trouble imagining that someone is this stupid. Let's play a game called "How Many Red Flags Can We Find?" (note that the red flags in OP's behavior are fair game too!) Ok, I'll assume that this is a real post. In that case, you found what we in the industry call a "crazy woman." You do not stick your dick in crazy. You do not engage with crazy. You do not acknowledge the crazy. You run the fuck away. Immediately stop interacting with ALL women. You are a …
/r/askTRP22/10/18 02:19 PM
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Glad you got out. At this point, I hope you got a couple side chicks to keep you entertained while you work on your mission.
/r/askTRP19/10/18 07:54 PM
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I know its not amazing, but its not bad to the point where they don’t want to never see me again. ... except this is exactly what's going on. So yes, it could be your dick game. It could also be that you're showing beta traits after getting into their pants. Or you just happen to be landing on women making rounds. Regardless of what the real reason is (which you will never find out), your next moves are still to soft-next them, work on your mission, and game other women. Spend time thinking abou…
/r/askTRP18/10/18 02:54 PM
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It's not much of a question Then it doesn't belong on AskTRP. Go post this blog entry on Tumblr. already wasted a ton of time writing this. Yes. Yes you did.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 03:50 PM
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You did well. If she presses the issue again, tell her its already been decided. If she won't let it go, immediately withdraw your attention. She'll learn to not pester you about this.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 03:48 PM
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Since you don't seem to have oneitis for her, there's nothing wrong with plating her. If you tease her and make her work for it, you can make this happen. I wouldn't worry about her catching feelings again, because this can be handled: simply adjust your attention level towards her until her behavior is appropriate. However, do not have unprotected sex with her. You should never do this with a plate to begin with, and especially not with one who was/is in love with you. This is how women try to …
/r/askTRP16/10/18 07:04 PM
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You're right... he's freaked out about getting an STD. In which case, AskTRP isn't the place for him to be asking questions about his health. Its the place to ask about what to do next with this FWB; that's what I answered.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 08:51 PM
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I definitely have control over my emotions. ... said the guy who burst into tears over an FWB getting an STD. This has nothing to do with getting women; it has everything to do with my health. You completely missed the point. If you were gaming other women, and had outcome-independence, you wouldn't have even blinked upon hearing the news. Because you'd know that there are many other women out there to game; you'd know that this one isn't special. Now stop whining and go learn the basics of RP t…
/r/askTRP15/10/18 08:28 PM
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I have broken down crying; and you can call it beta that’s fine Good job, beta male. At least she didn't witness this... right? Your biggest problem here isn't that this woman got HSV-2. Your biggest problems are that 1.) you have no control of your emotions, and 2.) you have no abundance mentality/outcome independence. Work on your mission, lift, and game other women. Master all topics in the side-bar. This woman happens to be just one of the 3,500,000,000 other females on this planet.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 07:53 PM
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I tried kissing her days ago, and she was saying no while she smiled That's your cue to immediately soft-next and game other women. she calls me friend, ALL the fucking time Actions speak louder than words. It doesn't matter if she calls you "friend" or "sex god". What matters is how she acts in response to your escalations. You got your answer when you tried to kiss her.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 07:47 PM
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This is Exhibit A on why guys stuck in the anger phase should not be answering questions on AskTRP. You've been angry at women for long enough. Come join us in enjoying life and making progress on the path of self-actualization! Its well worth the effort, I promise.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 05:21 PM
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Immediately soft-next her. Do not reply. When she comes crawling back, start escalating. Either she's receptive to it, which eventually leads to you in her pants, or she just wants you to orbit her. If the latter, follow the same soft-next/escalate pattern again; repeat as many times until you either get poon or she never comes back. Regardless, follow your mission and game other women.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 04:22 PM
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Sometimes there are guys in here who have no business answering questions. /u/IcreateMoney is stuck in the anger phase, and doesn't know he needs to STFU and stop blaming women for his own failures.
/r/askTRP15/10/18 04:03 PM
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None of those are shit-tests.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:18 AM
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No. Women don't shit-test guys they know they're not interested in. Shit-tests are for guys who are in the "maybe" category.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:34 AM
2

Learn how to roast them back. Also, use AA & AM techniques. Treat it like a shit test from a woman.
/r/askTRP13/10/18 12:32 AM
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The cure for oneitis, like it is for everyone, is to game other women. Abundance mentality. Read the side-bar.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 08:07 PM
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Yeah, here's a tip: stop being lazy and read the side-bar. You obviously have put in zero effort into learning anything, so why should anyone here care to help you?
/r/askTRP12/10/18 07:34 PM
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"That's ok... I'm not going to tell him. Also, we wouldn't be just friends." If she doesn't accept your offer to hang out, then soft-next.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 05:49 PM
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If you make getting pussy the focus of your life, you won't get very much. Your focus should be on your mission. This raises your SMV considerably, and then women will come to you. Just go there and enjoy yourself. Don't try too hard.
/r/askTRP12/10/18 03:34 PM
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If a plate or FWB does something you don't like, withdraw your attention immediately. There is no getting angry; there is no "talking to her". You just withdraw and focus on something else. If she persists (which it sounds like she will), you soft-next. She will either get in line, or this plate breaks. But that's not a concern of yours, since you have abundance mentality and outcome-independence, right?
/r/askTRP12/10/18 03:31 PM
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Body is average, a bit skinny. My personality is boring and I have a habit of opening up emotionally like a faggot after sex for the fun of it. Is this really enough to turn off girls? Yes. Read the side-bar. You don't even know the basics of RP theory. ​
/r/askTRP11/10/18 02:49 PM
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No, I'm not. The reason so many people are dying from bullets each year is because of gang violence. If guns magically disappeared into a puff of smoke overnight, the core problem would be unchanged. Those gang members would quickly obtain other weapons from middlemen eager to make a profit. This is why the War on Drugs failed; this is why the War on Alcohol failed: because outlawing the things people want do not change the people's desires for those things. In fact, outlawing them only increase…
/r/askTRP11/10/18 12:56 PM
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The problem is you don't escalate. Stop waiting for her to make a move; she never will. If you wait too long, you'll get friendzoned for being afraid. Make a move. Either you're in, or she turns you down and you stop wasting your time.
/r/askTRP11/10/18 12:39 AM
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If she comes at you with a knife, a gentle slap may be OK. No. If she comes at you with a knife, you put two rounds of hollow point 9mm into her torso. You do not fuck around with deadly weapons. You eliminate the threat immediately. ​
/r/askTRP11/10/18 12:36 AM
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Let them heal. ...is this a trick question?
/r/askTRP08/10/18 11:35 PM
1

So you're only going to act in ways that your group approves of? Do you ask them for permission to use the bathroom too?
/r/askTRP08/10/18 10:36 PM
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Your problem is you're trying to find meaning in the wrong place. There is no meaning in casual sex; its just enhanced masturbation meant to brighten your day. Do you expect to find deep, philosophical meaning in playing mini-golf for an hour? No, and nor should you try; its only short-term entertainment. True meaning comes from making progress on your mission. Focus on that until you're on the right track. If you feel like having some side-action in the meantime, then by all means: do it. Other…
/r/askTRP08/10/18 06:32 PM
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Yes: you lift and you follow your mission. Follow the path of self-actualization, and you'll gain the confidence in yourself to stop caring what others think. Your success comes from within, and would be proven by your accomplishments. At that point, you would have no need for external validation.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 04:58 PM
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One of the key points of RP theory is that a man should do what he wants. He shouldn't be cowering in the corner, afraid of how the world might judge him. With confidence, he seizes opportunities to enrich his life. If you want to fuck older women, then do it. Stop caring about what other people think.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 04:05 PM
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You're assuming those guys are aware that improvement is even possible. They think their potential is permanently bounded, so they think they have no choice than to go for the overweight & obnoxious SJWs.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 03:42 PM
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I hear most girls There was an OKCupid Labs study that showed that, overwhelmingly, people strongly prefer to date their own race. That said, some gender/race combinations were more open to certain other gender race/combinations than others. But some girls are super interested in "black culture" and fucking a black guy. If you're not a member of "black culture", then the women who are interested in that are not your type (and vice versa). So this isn't much of an issue. Women who are just intere…
/r/askTRP08/10/18 02:43 PM
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Yep. Every once in awhile, those guys get some scraps tossed their way when a woman is having a dry-spell. Its the best game you can play when your SMV is shit. But once your SMV becomes decent, though, RP techniques reap much greater rewards.
/r/askTRP07/10/18 04:58 PM
1

Move elsewhere in Europe, if you can't have a good life where you're at. EU rules let you do that, right?
/r/askTRP05/10/18 07:24 PM
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She was testing to see how much of her bitch she can make you. Immediately kicking her out would have been ideal. And let her pay for her own Uber. Soft-next her. If/when she comes back, invite her directly over to your place and explicitly state you're going to fuck her while her hands are pinned over her head. At that point, either she agrees or she doesn't, and you don't waste any more time.
/r/askTRP05/10/18 03:59 PM
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Put in effort to try to blend in with your peers. Notice how they carry themselves much differently than you. Notice how they don't go off on tangents for their own amusement. Practice emulating that. Also, before speaking think about what your audience needs to hear, and how that differs from what you want to say. Your post doesn't give too many details, but I get the feeling you're blabbing more than people want to hear. In that case, stop wasting words; only say what you need to in order to g…
/r/askTRP05/10/18 02:57 PM
1

Already am.
/r/askTRP05/10/18 01:55 AM
1

Because it works.
/r/askTRP05/10/18 01:31 AM
1

"All of them." Or: "A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell!"
/r/askTRP04/10/18 10:15 PM
4

One of the biggest lies society tells high school kids is that college is mandatory for success. That's why we have so many millenials saddled with $150K of debt and useless degrees. Some career paths don't require degrees, so getting one for them is a catastrophic waste of money. STEM degrees are still wise investments. If you're interested in computer programming, then yes... get a degree. Be sure that this is something you want to commit to, first, though. There are lots of resources (like Kh…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 10:13 PM
1

That would be the best move in the long-term, so yes. After you get in the groove of studying full time, you can consider adding in a part-time job to make some money again. See if you can be a teaching/lab assistant. Perhaps resume working in the factory during the summers, too.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 09:20 PM
3

I don't even know who you're talking about, but you sure sound angry. Do you need a hug?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:24 PM
1

I'd draw my concealed carry and say to him, "You should be running." You'd draw a firearm on a guy who is unarmed and isn't an immediate threat to life or limb? Wrong move. I can think of two ways this goes very badly for you: You draw your weapon just to scare him off, but it doesn't work. He feels an immediate & serious risk from your brandishing that he lunges towards you. You now have only one hand to fend him off, so you're pushed off balance easily, and maybe he gets your gun. This is bad.…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 01:24 AM
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The real question is: if you fuck a woman there, then things end badly, is that going to cause a problem for you? This might be the same situation as gaming women at work. Never shit where you eat. If the worst case scenario isn't a concern, then game on.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 06:25 PM
1

I don't know the career prospects for a Health Sciences degree, but I hope that leads to a job you can support yourself with (and pay off your loans). No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed. Your toxic parents have been abusing you your whole life; its going to be a challenge to learn how to stand up to them. But its a challenge that you absolutely must face. From this point on, only talk to your parents once per week. If they yell, threaten, or manipulate you, hang up and give them a two week t…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 06:01 PM
1

No. The way it usually works is someone (a lender and/or parents) pays the school for room & board and tuition on a per-semester basis. If the bill isn't paid in full before the start of the semester, they don't let you register for classes. So once its paid, you're set until at least the end of the semester. Double check with the Registrar (you can probably do it online, otherwise you can go in and talk to someone about it). Assuming you're a legal adult, they can't force you to leave. Of cours…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 05:42 PM
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Doesn't matter.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:52 PM
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So you're saying she just wants to sleep there... for "no reason"? Silently demote her to plate and fuck other women. That's a line that an LTR can't cross. Even her suggesting that idea speaks volumes on what's going on.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:49 PM
1

Uhh... ok... so she wants to sleep at his house with him (supposedly) not there... for what reason, exactly?
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:45 PM
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Assuming there isn't some kind of good reason for her to do that, silently demote her to plate status, and game other women.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:40 PM
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If its a shit job, then just get another one. Otherwise, game other women; you'll soon forget about this one.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:39 PM
3

one of my plates Do you even know what a plate is? Its a hole you dump your cum into. There is no expectation of any exclusivity on either side. You don't hang out with them. You don't talk about personal stuff. You fuck. That's it. In which case, what do you hope to gain from spying on them? Not only should already be assuming they are seeing other guys, but this fact should have zero effect on you. What, you need to find out what her favorite ice cream is? With that knowledge, would you cum ha…
/r/askTRP03/10/18 02:31 PM
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Motivation is the one thing that cannot be taught. You either want to succeed, and are willing to put in the hard work, or you don't. "You either suffer the pain of hard work, or the pain of regret."
/r/askTRP02/10/18 10:05 PM
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Don't sprint in a marathon.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 10:03 PM
3

I take sleep meds to help me sleep during the night but they make me sleep heavily into the morning too. Take a bit less. my dad showed up to my dorm room this morning Tell campus security about it and that you don't want him there. They can handle it without outing you. my parents threaten to take me out of here but since I’ve been to this college I haven’t had a need for my anti depressants as opposed to the environment at home where I was needed to be on them. In the worst case scenario, if y…
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:52 PM
2

Ok, so you're going to have to play their game for now. It sucks, but as long as you're financially dependent upon them, its either that or college is over. What are you majoring in? What's tuition and room & board? How much are your parents paying?
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:45 PM
1

Strangers cannot tell you what you should do with your life. They cannot tell you what you want. Invest time in learning things that advance your career. Learn a skill that's fascinated you since childhood.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:18 PM
8

You need to learn how to manage the kids better. Ever notice when you were in school yourself, that some teachers you knew not to mess with, and others were pushovers? That entirely came down to how they set and enforced boundaries. The classrooms that ran well had teachers that demanded respect; consequently, it was easier for everyone to learn in them. I don't have specific suggestions on what to do (dealing with kids is not my area of expertise), but I can tell you for sure that it is a solva…
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:17 PM
2

how do you piss them off? [...] what else can you do to make these boys / girls really question themselves? The fact that you're asking this question shows that you're not holding frame. Your ego is taking a hit, and you're trying to "get even." If someone goes off the deep end in an argument, its time to walk away and go work on something productive in life. Stop wasting your time when you've got work to do on your mission.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:10 PM
2

Do what you need to do in order to succeed in the long term. Otherwise, 5 years from now when you're still stuck living with your parents and working a shit job, you'll wish you did. You'll hate yourself for not working hard for one year to make the next couple decades easy.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:07 PM
6

Normally, I'd say you handle this by turning down your attention to what they're doing and their communications with you. However, I assume you're financially dependent on them to pay your college tuition. In that case, you got yourself a minefield to navigate. Dialing them down too fast will result in you having to drop out of college. Dial them down slowly. In the meantime, take control of your financial situation and make a plan for if/when shit hits the fan and they stop making payments. Fig…
/r/askTRP02/10/18 06:01 PM
1

It a mentality that no matter what happens, you are fine with the result. For example: you put in an offer to buy a house for a price you think is fair, and you don't mind if the seller rejects it. You're not desperate for this particular house, because there are plenty more to choose from... many of which you know you'll be happy with. Outcome-independence one of the basics of RP theory.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 04:52 PM
6

You don't even know the basics of RP if you're saying things like this. There are 3,500,000,000 other females on this planet. You do not need this one. What you need to do is find a mission, game other women, and lift. Learn abundance mentality and outcome-independence. But I feel like I'm wasting my time telling you the real solution, since it seems like you just want to put a bandaid on a fatal wound...
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:19 PM
12

Choice 4: Sex with a condom, then take it off and cum in her mouth. Also: how often are you masturbating? Try stopping completely for a couple days before sex with condoms and see if that helps.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 03:16 PM
6

My exgf ruined my life Let's not be dramatic. She didn't ruin your life. You're still alive. And if she did actually ruin something you enjoy in life, 1.) why did you put yourself in a position to let it happen?, and 2.) you can probably re-build it, so stop whining. she has me blocked on all social media and we ended on horrible terms Translation: "I went full-beta and did some things that are cringy as fuck." You better learn from this. how the fuck CAN I STOP THINKING ABOUT HER? You get over …
/r/askTRP02/10/18 01:43 PM
8

Yes.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 01:36 PM
3

Correct. You simply learned a list of facts, but you didn't change your mindset. The problem here is you lack a proper mission. You said you have one, but if its not giving you fulfillment in life, you're doing it wrong. You also lack abundance mentality and outcome-independence. Re-evaluate your mission, and your methods for making progress. Make the necessary adjustments. Spin some plates to attain abundance mentality and practice OI.
/r/askTRP02/10/18 01:01 AM
2

You're welcome. I'm a dispenser of tough love...
/r/askTRP01/10/18 10:56 PM
2

I guess the idea of going from living at home straight to shacking up with my girl is freaking me out. You answered your own question here. I just want other guy's take on sharing a space with your girl at this age when you're generally inexperienced. Yeah, that's gonna be a no from me, dawg. You're WAY too young to get trapped in an LTR, especially the safe-but-boring type. Its time for you to game other women and learn your worth in the market. Its time for you to focus on your mission and set…
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:54 PM
4

I bet you say that to every girl? Yeah, and some of the trannies, too. I have a boyfriend That's ok... I'm not the get-jealous type. Give me your number and I’ll call you (How is this even a shit test? She wants your number. Either she calls/texts because she's interested, or she isn't interested.) (if approaching solo) where are your friends? Why does that matter? I'm a big boy now... I can hit on women all by myself. why are you talking to me? I didn't know you had zero personality. My mistake…
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:49 PM
4

Ok, then if you're not interested in her right now, focus on something else. There isn't an explicit thing you need to do to drop her. This leaves the door open for months later if you decide you'd like to drop a load in her again.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:16 PM
1

You need to realize that this anger needs to be directed at yourself, not at your ex. You fucked up by marrying the wrong woman. You fucked up by ignoring the 30,000 red flags she was probably showing while you dated her. You failed to build yourself up as a man to the point that you no longer needed external validation (and when that source of validation crashed & burned, so did your sense of self-worth). The path out of this anger phase is to accept responsibility for the mistakes you made tha…
/r/askTRP01/10/18 04:17 PM
2

Kind of feel like its not my place to do this anymore as shes 18 & shes been allowed to do whatever she wants by parents & she has no respect for me. You answered your own question right here. Stop worrying about her, and start worrying about yourself. Follow your mission.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 04:06 PM
3

What made you not attracted anymore? Weight gain? Change in personality? Just spent too much time with her (overexposure)? Its probably some temporary effect. In that case, turn down your attention and focus on other things. Then later when you're interested again, arrange for a meet-up. Never burn a bridge with a plate. You'd be surprised how you start daydreaming months from now.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 03:55 PM
3

I read a story from a guy on deadbedrooms who said he used prostitutes several times a month for decades to fill in for his wife who wasn't sexual with him. Not only did he claim that they were "mostly sad experiences" but he also dumped nearly a quarter million dollars (!). With a higher SMV, you'll have no problem getting women. You'll also have a much higher general quality of life as well. Prostitutes would only be a crutch that you'd become dependent on. Use your frustration to focus on sel…
/r/askTRP30/09/18 03:11 PM
4

And here's a problem you have: you're worrying about what other people are doing instead of worrying about yourself.
/r/askTRP30/09/18 03:06 PM
1

If you slumped, stared at your shoes, looked defeated & depressed during and afterwards, then yes... that would be massive turn-off. But instead if you watch like you're being entertained (as you should be--he's about to crash & burn), then that projects confidence in your position and shows that you're not over-invested (because of abundance mentality and outcome-independence). Feel free to chuckle as the guy gets turned down. Then you continue right where you left off: having a good time and a…
/r/askTRP29/09/18 12:59 PM
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You got the first part right, but its not on you to shut them down and move her out of the situation. Its her responsibility to reject them and leave... even if you're standing right there. The only time you get involved is if he starts to get aggressive or crosses the line into harassment. If you've got advanced game, you could toss in some AA/AM to amuse yourself. Use with caution, however.
/r/askTRP29/09/18 02:26 AM
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but it still kinda hurt hearing her say it. She's a fuck-buddy that you only saw 4 times, yet you're already getting oneitis. Turn down your attention on this one before you lose control of yourself. Also she’s soon going on BC and wants to fuck with no condom. This is a good recipe for STDs and pregnancy: fucking women you just met without a condom, and who are also fucking other dudes. Smack yourself upside the head for even considering this idea. ​ ​
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:06 PM
3

Feel free to leave this sub if you don't like its terminology. Maybe create your own subreddit with whatever rules you want! Go nuts, dude.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:01 PM
9

Yes. It will always work. However, as time goes on, she will begin to whine and complain that you're not spending enough time with her. Thing is, no matter how much time/resources you give a woman, she will eventually come to think its not enough... that she deserves more. At first, she will be very grateful and appreciative, but over time, she will take it for granted. Eventually she will beg and plead and even pull out the tears. But if you can spot out the manipulation, and also understand th…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 02:39 PM
11

You're right that she's interested. To seal the deal, you need to give her plausible deniability. She wants to fuck without feeling like a bad person afterwards. Invite her out for drinks. Escalate when she brings up the past. Work in some kino (the sooner, the better). Don't address the fact that she's married and thinking about breaking her vows; keep the focus on having a good time and tempting her. After an hour of flirting, make a bold move.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 03:19 AM
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"not fulfilling" or "is empty and hollow" Boring people with no significant goals feel the need to fill in their lives with LTRs and kids. This isn't to say you can't want them at all, but rather... LTRs and kids are only a person's endgame when they don't have anything else going for them. whining about shit that is wrong with society Beginners stuck in the anger phase do this. Guys in the intermediate and advanced stages accept the world for the way it is, and use it to their advantage. Few ca…
/r/askTRP27/09/18 03:09 AM
2

Only insecure guys resort to starting fights. In RP terms that means weak frame. Your response suggests you think its OK to fight someone in a non self-defense scenario. Before I school you on this topic, I thought I'd clarify: is that what you meant?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 02:19 AM
22

Why do you give a shit what a plate thinks? You can react with literally anything. Have sock puppets discuss whether fucking up your endocrine system with steroids is worth it to get more chicks. Then tell her it was "just a joke" and it was your new shipment of gay romance novels. ​
/r/askTRP26/09/18 03:00 AM
2

Let me break this down for you: she is already showing signs of losing interest in you. Combine this with you being gone for 6-12 months means she's going to be fucking other guys. If you're into this sort of thing, then... hey, there's no problem! Also, you need to fix your oneitis. You're showing dependence on this relationship.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 12:13 AM
3

Oneitis detected. You work on you. Go do your internship and focus on advancing your career. Long-distance relationships don't work, so cut her loose before you leave. She is showing red flags anyway, so you're not losing much.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 11:56 PM
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Your mom got her face painted by different guys twice a week for years.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 09:17 PM
3

(Seriously, about that username...) All the ones I wanted were taken at the time, so I put "effyouasshole" in frustration. It was available, so I rolled with it.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 08:12 PM
1

Sounds like you're in high school. High school drama is bullshit and doesn't matter later in life. You mentioned having low SMV. Start pumping iron to help fix that problem. Find a couple good friends and stick with them. Everybody else can fuck off.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 08:08 PM
8

When you have true confidence, those tests won't faze you. In the meantime, if you can recognize that you're being tested, you can make a choice on how to respond. Read up on amused mastery (AM) and agree & amplify (AA) techniques.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 07:50 PM
3

You don't hard-next when a woman rejects you. Six months from now, when your SMV is higher/she ran out of options, and she wants to fuck... then you stick it in her. Unless she crosses a hard boundary which makes her utterly un-fuckable (now and at all points in the future), then you soft-next.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 04:25 PM
1

If you don't know the absolute basics of holding frame, then you need to not be answering questions on this sub.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 04:22 PM
4

Either she is actually busy, or she has other guys that she's considering. Regardless, you proceed as usual.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 04:20 PM
1

/u/juaracam is giving you the WORST advice. Never get physical unless you are in a self-defense situation. Never. A real man controls his emotions, instead of letting them control him. You never mentioned what happened to kill your reputation. That's a key point. ​
/r/askTRP25/09/18 04:18 PM
9

You deal with it by working on your mission, lifting, and gaming other women. You deal with it by learning the absolute basics of RP theory, and put in the hard work to improve yourself.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 04:14 PM
6

Have you fucked her in those four times you hung out? If yes, then you are her plate. Stop over-thinking this. You're just a cock to her, and that's all she's interested in from you. Keep her in your rotation of plates until one of you loses interest. Its simple.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 03:51 PM
3

She enjoys being the center of attention. She likes having orbiters falling all over themselves for her. Unless you massively raise your SMV, you will never have her. Stop giving her attention. Focus on your mission, lift, and game other women.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 03:00 PM
10

"No problem." Then soft next.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 02:46 PM
3

If you're picking on one guy too much, diversify before your apologies stop working. If its easy to see that you spread it around evenly, nobody's going to take it personally. Your bigger problem, as I see it, is that you don't seem to have self-awareness of it, nor self-control. The day you enter the professional world, you'll become a ticking time-bomb.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 01:17 AM
1

"Staying productive" means entirely different things depending on who you ask. What you need to do is find something that interests you and focus on it. Nobody can (nor should) tell you what interests to pursue. Spend some time meditating on what skills you want your future self to have.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 11:47 PM
4

Sometimes plates break. That's why they're called plates. Secondly, you're acting like you need this one. If you had abundance mentality and outcome-independence, you'd just continue on with your life and not even notice. Soft-next while you work on your mission, lift, and fuck other women.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 11:44 PM
2

how can i expect her to be monogamous after only a couple of weeks? At no point should you expect anything from anyone. Expectation implies entitlement, and you aren't entitled to anything. What I meant before about her not being monogamous is that she will never be the type of woman who will only seek emotional and physical comfort from one man. The fact that she is sexually open and dating other guys while fucking you too confirms this with extremely high probability. Now, despite what all the…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 07:05 PM
4

I wouldn't bring it up myself if I didn't have to. That would come off as attention-seeking. If a woman asked for my last name before/during the first couple dates, I'd give her the overview immediately. She's obviously about to Google-stalk you, and its best to get ahead of it. As long as you don't project insecurity, it'll be fine.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 06:33 PM
7

You need to learn that your life is yours, and your family can't and shouldn't control you. You need to learn how to set and enforce boundaries. Yes, this will upset your parents, but there is no way around it. They need to learn respect for you as adult. You're going to have to move out of their house, if you haven't already. Once you have physical space from them, it will become much easier to handle this situation. Until then, stall on this topic and don't commit to anything.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 04:19 PM
7

Learning how to set and enforce boundaries is indeed an RP issue. Learning that you need to follow your own path is indeed an RP issue. Learning confidence to deflect overbearing people in your life is indeed an RP issue. Learning that people have the choice to either ride your success train or GTFO, is indeed an RP issue. Learning that toxic people must be cut out of your life, even if they are family, is indeed an RP issue. ​
/r/askTRP24/09/18 04:14 PM
13

Firstly, its clear that this topic is sensitive to you, so anyone paying attention will definitely notice. Guys who see you as a threat will attack this weakness, and some will wonder if its because you really are a murderer who got lucky in court. So your first order of business is to accept what happened, put it in your past, and stop giving a shit about it. Once you stop giving a shit, then you deal with it like any other shit-test: agree & amplify, and amused mastery. If you need a concrete …
/r/askTRP24/09/18 03:50 PM
9

Never go on first or second dates to the movies. You can't talk. You just sit there in silence. Go to a bar or coffee shop. Or go play mini-golf.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 03:24 PM
7

You got several problems here that you're blind to: You shouldn't even consider LTR'ing a woman you just met a couple weeks ago. The vetting process happens over the course of 6 - 18 months, whereby you keep a lookout for red flags (which, btw, she's already shown). She isn't monogamous. So unless you know for sure that you like open relationships, then promoting her past plate status will blow up in your face. And FYI, very few men could properly navigate an open relationship (0.0001%?), yet ma…
/r/askTRP24/09/18 03:22 PM
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You can't control other people. You can only control yourself. If your friend develops an interest that doesn't involve you, then so be it. You have to continue on with your own life. Tell him you'd much prefer if he were around to help with the final two songs, but if he can't make it, then its no problem; you'll make them yourself.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 03:04 PM
6

She is telling you (perhaps intentionally): "You are just my plate. Don't think this is serious...now or in the future." You proceed like you should already be doing: working on your mission, and fucking other women.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 01:22 PM
5

No. There's a difference between acting emotionally and acting crazy. If you keep attracting crazy women, then you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Normal, well-adjusted men aren't crazy-magnets.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 08:13 PM
1

No. There's a difference between acting emotionally and acting crazy. If you keep attracting crazy women, then you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Normal, well-adjusted men aren't crazy-magnets.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 08:02 PM
9

Never stick your dick in crazy. There's a reason this saying exists. If you weren't so thirsty (from having low SMV), you wouldn't be tempted. Start lifting to improve your SMV. There is no substitute for it.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 07:36 PM
2

OP says he didn't want to fuck her. So you're telling him he needed to? No. He didn't. The key point, "Chad", to being a man is knowing what you want and doing it.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 02:09 PM
4

There is a girl the first time we met she fell in love with me How do you know she fell in "love"? How do you know she didn't fall in lust with you? and i know a year before she tried to seduce a friend of mine the same way, how red flag it is ? You're asking if a woman who showed interest in any other male in her life prior to you is permanently ruined? No. No she is not. And also, how many days should i wait to say her to be with me ? I'm not sure what you're asking, but either way... speak wi…
/r/askTRP21/09/18 03:39 PM
3

She didn't respond and left my message on read. For ten minutes? Ten days? Important detail right there. Either way, even if she's not interested in you, you can still contact her for tutoring in the future (assuming she didn't waste your time and take your money the second time).
/r/askTRP21/09/18 01:01 AM
5

Soft next. Let her hamster spin and regret her response. Since this is an LTR, I'd be inclined to put a time limit on how long she has to realize her fuckup. If maybe 2 days pass and she doesn't crack, silently demote to plate and find other women.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 12:58 AM
1

Prince*
/r/askTRP20/09/18 11:41 PM
3

obvious oneitis. This is your projection. to put up with a girl who disrespects you These are called "shit tests". Women will always throw them at you. The day they stop is the day they're no longer interested. The hallmark of a guy still stuck in the anger phase is when he reacts to everything by pushing THE BIG RED BUTTON. His ego is still too fragile, and he projects disproportionate threats in situations where they do not exist. Its time to put down the hate, dude. Besides, whatever it is sh…
/r/askTRP20/09/18 03:01 PM
7

Translation: "I have no game whatsoever, and my ego is very fragile. Hence, any shit test must be handled by pushing THE BIG RED BUTTON."
/r/askTRP20/09/18 02:44 PM
12

Your response should have been "who said I need to keep you?" Amused mastery. Otherwise, if you didn't think of a good comeback right away, withdraw your attention from her until she comes crawling back.
/r/askTRP20/09/18 02:43 PM
-1

Mad, bro?
/r/askTRP18/09/18 02:31 PM
-3

Oh boy. I really set off the druggie crackheads, didn't I...
/r/askTRP18/09/18 02:13 PM
-2

Instead of sending me these quotes, post them on /r/im14andthisisdeep. You'll get a lot more attention there. Also, I wish you the best of luck with your drug addictions.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:59 PM
3

You've took what I've named and failed to read between the lines. Protip: when trying to convince someone of your position, never expect them to read between the lines. Its your responsibility to make solid points, backed up by facts. Psychedelics have their place in the search for wisdom, and the pursuit of power. Spoken like a true druggie. Also, you present nothing to back up this (crackhead) claim. Ritualistic use is encouraged, not cancerous use. Did you just mash keys, and let autocorrect …
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:35 PM
1

Ok. And then what do you do after the drugs wear off and your realize that path was imaginary bullshit? Take more drugs?...stay high for decades at a time, non-stop? It sure is easy to use drugs to shield you from reality. Unfortunately, they don't work forever; sooner or later, you'll have to face your responsibilities, and all the interest that has piled up since you began ignoring them. Good luck with all that, dude.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:23 PM
2

Life is what you make it. Nobody is going to come rescue you. So if you keep fucking around and wasting your life, then life most certainly IS going to get worse for you. Get evaluated for depression.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 12:55 PM
1

/r/im14andthisisdeep just called. No. Drugs do not give you any real meaning. Its a short-term illusion that tricks simpletons.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 12:53 PM
5

You've been "doing redpill for 7 years now", yet you seem to have missed the entire point. The point isn't to get laid or blast your brain with drugs. The point is follow the path of self-actualization. To do that, you need a mission. You appear to have made women, drugs, and lifting your only goals; these things obviously don't lead to long-term happiness (Exhibit A: "the cycle of bullshit is coming down again and I wanna fucking die"). You need to find a non-bullshit mission, and you need to f…
/r/askTRP18/09/18 12:51 PM
2

Then ask them out to a bar, and order yourself a water or a soda. When she asks why, tell her that you were lifting hard today, and recovery + alcohol just doesn't work for you. "I don't mind if you drink, though."
/r/askTRP17/09/18 11:18 PM
1

Ask them out to coffee shops. There's plenty of them around.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 11:05 PM
6

They're either nervous or not interested. While they're responding, you should study their body language to get hints. Instead of grilling them with basic questions, use humor. That can loosen up nervous people and make them much easier to read.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:22 PM
1

Glad I could help.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 12:40 PM
1

Your mission can't revolve around women, because women are human beings. Women have flaws. Men tend to idealize women in their imaginations, but eventually reality hits and they're left disappointed, angry, and depressed. Often times, men become inappropriately angry at women, when the problem really lies with their own mis-perceptions. Time and again, its been shown that the men who feel the most happiness and fulfillment in life are the ones who followed the path of self-actualization. I dont …
/r/askTRP17/09/18 12:40 PM
7

Do not apologize. You inadvertently projected yourself as scarce, which works to your advantage. Pretend like it never happened. If she asks, just say you were busy. Your next move is to set up a time in the next few days to meet up again.
/r/askTRP16/09/18 11:00 PM
1

I suppose you can consider this to be your punishment for lack of a long-term game plan back in college. Your peers who focused on their studies (i.e.: their upcoming careers/mission) and kept the partying in check now have a sense of purpose, happiness, and high SMV. Its not too late for you, though. It never is for anyone, in fact. But strangers on the Internet can't tell you what you want; that's something you need to meditate on and figure out for yourself. What's your dream job? What do you…
/r/askTRP16/09/18 10:56 PM
13

Are all women filthy sluts? A beginner thinks in terms of good and bad (i.e.: "filthy sluts"). A key marker that someone has ascended into intermediate level is when they stop casting judgment; they realize that women are self-interested and sexual creatures like all humans are, some of which are enjoyable to spend time with, while others are not. I personally had a LTR at one point, and she left me, and she went and fucked like 5 guys [...] I still have trouble believing it In that case, you st…
/r/askTRP16/09/18 10:36 PM
17

What's happening is you need more time to process what you've learned. Its natural to be a bit angry or depressed at what you now see in the world. But there comes a point where you're going to have to put down the anger and start accepting the world for the way it is. It won't change just because you want it to. Once you've fully accepted it, you start acting and thinking much more tactically. You feel a tremendous sense of freedom, knowing that you have so much control of your own fate and you…
/r/askTRP16/09/18 10:15 PM
5

and after escalating and encountering resistance for like three hours Jesus. Three hours?? That's a fuckup. You demonstrated that 1.) you don't value your time, and 2.) you're desperate and thirsty as fuck. It depends heavily on context, but generally after a couple instances of resistance, you needed to bail. If you did that, you'd have a threesome next time. Now? Prepare to get ghosted. ​
/r/askTRP16/09/18 10:09 PM
3

I think OP is "asking for a friend"...
/r/askTRP16/09/18 08:42 PM
2

Oh, and one more thing: shes young, hot, has a shit ton of IG followers and snapchat and all that crap These women are primarily driven by attention and validation. By and large, they are a waste of time to deal with; they'll only want you as an orbiter. Protip: if they list their IG/snap on their dating profile, that should be an instant nope.
/r/askTRP16/09/18 08:37 PM
5

Someone with intermediate/advanced game would have a chance at plating her. However, you (a beginner) would make so many mistakes that you'd be 99.9999999% guaranteed to land in her orbit. And (re-)catch oneitis. Hence, you made the right move to shut her down completely. Anything else would lead to consequences you don't want. It sounds like you already know you've got more to learn, lift, game other women, and work on your mission. So you're on the right track there! Keep doing that, and your …
/r/askTRP16/09/18 08:32 PM
3

What type of loneliness is this? Are you isolated from all people? Or are you missing attention from women? If its the first type, join some clubs that align with your interest. In 2018, its really easy to find them. I'm guessing its the second type, though. In that case, you need to learn that women will never give you long-term fulfillment in your life. That alone comes from self-actualization. You need a mission in life, and continuous progress towards it. Women are just a fun diversion along…
/r/askTRP16/09/18 03:45 PM
1

At this phase in your life, you need to be heavily investing in your future. What's your mission in life? If you don't know, your first priority is to figure that out. Your post title suggests that you've framed the purpose of your life around relationships with women (the end of a relationship should have zero impact on your mission). Once you've been on the path of self-actualization for long enough, your SMV will hover near its theoretical max. Pulling women will become easy. This isn't to sa…
/r/askTRP16/09/18 03:40 PM
10

Her actions say she's interested in you. Her words say she's plate/FWB material. Proceed to game her, and escalate. If she repeatedly resists your escalations, that's when you conclude she's trying to make you an orbiter. Until then, assume she's DTF. And this should be obvious, but if she hates relationships and doesn't believe in monogamy, then she can never ascend higher than FWB status.
/r/askTRP16/09/18 03:28 PM
1

I don't know that anger "burning itself out" is really a thing Quite a few of the RP regulars have stated that they, too, were stuck in the anger phase for X months, and that eventually they learned to let it go. This enabled them to continue on the path of personal growth. I worry disenfranchised young males see RP as affirmation of their anger, rather than encouraging simple dispassionate understanding of that value one presents to other human beings, sexual or otherwise. Many of them eventual…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 12:55 PM
1

I didn't say the anger phase is good or bad, simply that it is. I agree that it is a natural path for men who have had their perceptions and expectations abruptly changed. Some responsibility lies, however, on that man to extend effort to surpass it. The exact point is blurred, but there comes a time where he needs to actively work to get past it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 12:53 AM
7

Never apologize to anyone unless you actually did something wrong. Misreading signals is never a mistake on your part. What happened here is she's interested in you, but would like to take things a little slower. If you're ok with that, then no problem. Continue as normal, escalate, and move things farther next time. If she resists, she's no longer interested. Why are you trying to be friends anyway? Straight men can't be truly friends with women. Also, study the sidebar. ​
/r/askTRP15/09/18 10:17 PM
2

First girl showed her ASD. She needed plausible deniability to lie to herself that she was giving you her number in order to be "just friends." If she was receptive to your flirting (and flirting back), then she's not just interested in you as a friend. Play your cards right, and you'll be able to insert your penis into her. Regarding the second woman: I suddenly get the urge to escalate, so I call her back into another hug. Wrong move. You already ended on a hug, so you needed to leave it at th…
/r/askTRP15/09/18 10:11 PM
1

Is this nexted woman telling people the truth about what happened, or is she slandering you? If its slander, then you have legal recourse.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 06:44 PM
3

Fade out on them. Dial down your attention over time until you don't see them anymore. This should be pretty easy: just focus on your studies, lifting, and hanging out with people you like (these are things you should be doing anyway). If they ask where you went, just tell them you've been busy; go ahead and list those things, if they're still curious. Eventually they'll move on with minimal drama.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 05:32 PM
3

Did you delete your accounts because you were wasting too much time? In that case, enjoy the break, focus on your mission and make progress on it. At some future point, you can come back and use social media in moderation.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 05:27 PM
7

What the fuck did I just read.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 04:30 PM
5

It doesn't matter what anyone's opinion on this is. What matters is what works for you. Try both and see what works better for you. Then you'll have your answer.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 03:20 PM
2

You're going to have to pump iron for a year before you start looking good in clothes. Until then, you're going to be mostly invisible to women. Also don't roast me too much You projected insecurity, which is a major turn-off. I'm just wondering whether or not I should try to initiate the convo again You dropped the ball by not keeping the conversation going. You can't expect women to put in 50% of the effort at first; until you land a date, its more like 70-30. Tell some jokes and regain her at…
/r/askTRP15/09/18 03:08 PM
5

This is a common concern. Unfortunately, the best you can do is lead by example. Many guys have tried to force RP knowledge on others, and this often blows up in their face. This type of knowledge can only be acquired if someone is ready for it. Anyone who impedes on your mission must be minimized or cut out entirely. It may come to the point that your friends no longer share your same outlook on life, or the same values; at that point, it would be time to move on.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 02:58 PM
9

Red pill minus anger, minus women-hating equals intermediate/advanced redpill knowledge. The beginners come in when the straw broke the camel's back. They're angry because women did something to them. Or rather... that's how they perceive it. What really happened is they let themselves be used, but they haven't learned yet to take ownership of their life choices. Hence, the main RP sub is filled with gems of knowledge spread in a sea of hate. The more experienced guys try to guide the newcomers,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/18 01:33 PM
1

> What should I do? Whatever you want to do. Being a man is knowing what you want and going after it. Random people on the Internet can't (and shouldn't) tell you what you want. Reflect on the pros and cons in your situation, and you'll figure out if its worth it.
/r/askTRP14/09/18 09:33 PM
1

I happen to have a great poker face (and matching body language), so the "No, why" works perfectly for me. I'll agree that it doesn't work if you don't have a high degree of control over facial expressions and tone. Your method works a lot better in that case.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 02:05 PM
14

This was a shit test. By taking it as a compliment, you inadvertently passed it. Other options include: AM/AA: "Sounds like he'd be a catch! Want me to be your wingman and get his number?" Possibly follow it up with: "once I set you two up, his hotter girlfriend will be up for grabs..." Ignore: "That's nice, dear. Hey, can you get me my socket wrench set from the basement?" ​
/r/askTRP14/09/18 01:46 PM
3

Regardless of whether you're actually mad about something, reply with "No, why?" and continue doing what you're doing. If she keeps asking, assure her that everything is fine.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:38 PM
10

That's not how society works. Why this is the case is a (rather involved) topic in and of itself, but in the end, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you 1.) understand the rules, and 2.) use them to your advantage. Don't expect the world to change because you want it to. Accept it for what it is (irrationality and all), and maximize your potential within it.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 05:33 PM
20

"Weird. So what are you doing tomorrow at 7pm? Let's meet at [insert bar/coffee shop/my place/etc]."
/r/askTRP13/09/18 02:57 PM
2

She wants you only as an orbiter. Work hard to raise your SMV and bang other women. Forget about this one.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 02:55 PM
20

A shitty excuse would only string you along. Flaking out sends a definitive message.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 02:39 PM
1

I probably have a better understanding than most contributors. Not if you're asking basic questions like "How to deal with a needy but nice girl". You've barely scratched the surface on learning this stuff. You also claimed in another comment that you "hard-nexted" her... yet here she is again. You don't know what hard-nexting is, nor when it is appropriate. And you're saying things like "But I do love everything she's doing"... yet you don't. Sure, its certainly possible for someone with interm…
/r/askTRP13/09/18 02:11 PM
2

No, because you asked nothing useful. Actually, wait... I do: spend 6 months reading and learning everything in the sidebar.
/r/askTRP12/09/18 06:23 PM
7

Yes, it is certainly possible to have alpha traits and still experience dopamine and seratonin. Over time, natural alphas tend to get broken down into a shell of what they once were; there are plenty of stories in the /r/MRP archives that confirm the downhill slide. Those who have attained a high SMV through hard work have a much better chance of holding frame.
/r/askTRP12/09/18 06:16 PM
3

and maybe semi autistic. Given that you thought it was a good idea to make this bullshit post, it seems like its more than just a "maybe semi".
/r/askTRP12/09/18 06:11 PM
1

I highly recommend the StrongLifts 5x5 program. It is specifically designed for beginners to learn how to do bar exercises, and it results in amazing beginner gains. Link: StrongLifts 5x5
/r/askTRP12/09/18 06:01 PM
7

I'm not even going to waste my time reading this novel. I'm going to respond purely to your title. If you got friendzoned, its pretty much over right now. Soft-next and raise your SMV. At some point in the future she may come back. Or not... it doesn't matter, since there are 3,500,000,000 other females on this planet. Chase other skirts and forget about this one.
/r/askTRP12/09/18 05:56 PM
3

She may not have performance issues, but she is certainly creating a difficult work environment, which is impacting you and others. This is the angle to go after when you talk to HR. This likely won't be solved overnight. You'll need to report her to HR multiple times. Bring evidence with you each time. Bonus if you can get others to confirm what's going on.
/r/askTRP12/09/18 05:43 PM
1

I wouldn't call that oneitis but I can see why people are saying it. Can you explain, then, how someone can twice say "I do feel strongly about her", but somehow not be on the path to full-blown oneitis?
/r/askTRP12/09/18 01:32 PM
2

it's far from oneitis [...] I do feel strongly about her Contradiction. Also, you state you have strong feelings for her not once, but twice. Full-blown oneitis in 9...8...7... For the last few days she was texting me at least every hour Stop making yourself so available. Put the brakes on and start withdrawing your attention. Ignore the whining and sad-face emojis that will be used to manipulate you. But I do love everything she's doing Oh really? Then why are you posting on here about how she'…
/r/askTRP12/09/18 01:10 PM
1

Your first step is figure out what you want. Are you interested in her romantically? If so, stop wasting time and ask her out. That's what she's waiting for you to do.
/r/askTRP12/09/18 12:48 AM
2

This is part of the absolute basics, which is covered in the sidebar. Stop being lazy and read it. People in here aren't going to spoon-feed you for free.
/r/askTRP11/09/18 05:34 PM
1

Her words mean little; actions say much more. If she cancels without suggesting an alternate time, I tend to soft-next. The ball is in her court, so its up to her to come up with another plan. Or not... you should have other pots on the stove, so you won't even notice if you never hear back again.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 05:38 PM
2

Reflect on why you feel bad when someone you shouldn't give a shit about "dumped" you. Why is your ego so fragile that it took a hit from this nonsense? That's what you need to learn from this experience. (Hint: it has to do with your unrealized path to self-actualization.)
/r/askTRP10/09/18 05:07 PM
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You should rather be disgusted by your own poor choice of a girlfriend. Also, be glad that she didn't delete it all and pretend like it never happened. If you really are as successful as you're implying, finding a better woman to spend your time with should be easy. Start worrying about yourself, not what some silly party girls are out there doing.
/r/askTRP10/09/18 05:00 PM
3

Drop the non-crazy plates outright. Fade out on the crazy girl. Become less and less accessible over time until you stop responding entirely. Why do your friends accept a crazy girl in the group? That strongly implies (some of?) your friends are shit. Cut out the shitty people and form a new group from the good ones.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 07:27 PM
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If you burned your toast in Belgium, leave Belgium. You eurofags can do that easily, no? Figure out a way to get whatever degree/certification/license you need to become a real estate agent somewhere else, and do that for awhile. Then maybe come back, if you feel like it. Or not... the world is yours for the taking. Whatever you do, staying where you're at without making any progress is toxic. Keep moving.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 07:19 PM
0

It absolutely does not. Words do not project high value; actions do. Nexting a woman is an action (namely, the lack of initiation and withdrawal of attention). Low-value men do not do this; they instead fall all over themselves and pour on the attention. High-value men move on when average women come their way; they have more important things to do/women to bang. Its fine if you don't prefer my approach. There is more than one correct way to handle this. But if your replies suggest you don't und…
/r/askTRP15/08/18 12:35 AM
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See my other response.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:46 PM
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Yes, it will indeed resonate with her, because it projects high-value. It shows he's not desperate and thirsty. He's got things to do, other options for dates, and doesn't care too much about her. Even if she already decided she's only interested in a new orbiter, this response has the chance of changing her mind. You can gain a new plate this way.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 09:40 PM
9

"You gotta strike when the iron's hot, princess." If she doesn't change her mind: "I'm not here for penpals. I wish you the best of luck!", then soft next until she reaches out with solid plans. She's probably looking to make you an orbiter, but it doesn't matter. Either she agrees to meet, or she's done.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 07:12 PM
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When someone in your life is behaving badly, withdraw your attention. Give them a time out. If it continues, you drop them out of your life. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP14/08/18 06:41 PM
3

Nah.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 12:25 AM
9

I'm not going to read all this shit. Delete your post and make a new one with three paragraphs or less.
/r/askTRP09/08/18 03:47 PM
4

Like others have suggested, ignore this behavior and read the side-bar regarding The Talk. Also, give her a time-out. Cancel your plans for the party with her. Can you go by yourself without her also showing up? If so, do that. Otherwise, tell her you can't make it. Drop off the face of the planet for 2-3 days, ignore her attempts to reach out to you, then contact her to arrange a meet-up for sex. No date. If she accepts, act like absolutely nothing out of the ordinary happened. Fuck her and con…
/r/askTRP08/08/18 05:21 PM
2

I opened this link, saw a wall of text, and noped right the fuck out.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 04:09 PM
3

Nobody here can tell you what you want. The core ideology here is that you, as a man, need to know what you want at all times, and have the confidence to pursue it. If you want to meet her every other week, then so be it. Either she agrees, or you find someone who does fit into your life on your terms.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 03:10 AM
1

As long as your emotions didn't become engaged, that was a good response. You said you may have been "too firm", so I'm picturing you showing annoyance. It still got you the outcome you wanted, but next time try to be careful about showing your cards. Beyond that, reflect on how something easy to fix made you a little upset to begin with.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 03:06 AM
2

Its just a silly term people use for when a couple catch feelings for each other. You didn't miss much.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 02:54 AM
2

You're fully in control as to how often you see her, so the solution is simple: schedule your meet-ups less often. No need to talk about it with her, or justify it. Just simply dial down your attention until you reach the level of contact that you want. Then its up to her if she wants to see you once per week/month/whatever. Maybe she's ok with that and you continue hanging out at a pace that you prefer. Otherwise... the plate breaks. Oh well. There's always more...
/r/askTRP02/08/18 02:52 AM
3

Regardless of whether its a woman who isn't interested in you, or people who don't notice a cool project you made, your reaction is the same: continue on doing your thing. All your actions should come from a belief in yourself, and confidence that you're doing the right thing. If we're talking about projects, sometimes success doesn't come right away. It can take awhile for people to take notice and appreciate what you made. Of course, its also possible that you've gone down the wrong path, too.…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 10:49 PM
1

No. You can't squat without safeties, and squats are mandatory for building your lower body strength. Safeties/hooks are also necessary to do overhead press with sufficient weights too. In the meantime, you can still do the bench press, deadlift, and row exercises from SL5x5. But unless you want to end up with a funny-looking and disproportionate body, you need to get that half-rack soon.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 02:27 PM
1

Your anger/disappointment comes from a broken expectation. And that's faulty thinking on your part. Despite being with you for over a year, she still owes you nothing. Above all, she is a women who will branch-swing, given the opportunity. In the end, it makes no sense to be angry/disappointed in her. Be disappointed in yourself for not understanding women enough.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 02:04 PM
1

I’m honestly furious Why? She is a woman, and she has acted like a woman. Is it because you had some fairy-tale expectation that she would ONLY ever be attracted to you, and that no matter what happens in life, she would never replace you? Wrong. Your other fuck-up is signing a lease with her. You must get yourself out of that. Theoretically, IF (big IF) you can regain control of your emotions, you can demote her to plate status while you fuck other women. But in this case, you probably don't ha…
/r/askTRP23/07/18 01:45 PM
4

The home gym route is pretty difficult to pull off, mainly due to the distractions you have around. That, and seeing a gym full of people bust their asses ends up motivating you that much more. But yes, physically, it is possible to get the same work done at home. Another $400 will buy you a half rack, which will let you do squats and overhead press with safeties to catch the weight. I highly recommend the StrongLifts 5x5 program. It is designed to give beginners a solid foundation of strength.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 01:32 PM
10

Its automatic and subconscious. Much like how you spend an extra half-second looking at a pretty woman, and how butter-huffers are pretty much invisible to you.
/r/askTRP23/07/18 01:26 PM
11

We had a huge fight, her fault mind you You argued with a woman. That makes it your fault. This also shows that you have weak frame. She probably lied and kissed and/or fucked him, but at this point it doesn't matter anymore. Then why are you here babbling about it? She refused to answer specific questions about it and basically humiliated me in the process. You humiliated yourself by not immediately demoting her to plate status. I want to crush her. Because your fragile ego took a hit. The prob…
/r/askTRP22/07/18 10:06 PM
4

Go to /r/MRP and /r/askMRP. Plenty of examples on how married chumps turned around their crumbling marriages by acting like men and leading.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 09:55 PM
2

Your grammar is shit. You dumped her and now you're butt-hurt that she moved on? And you want to ruin whatever happiness she has with another guy? You're immature and insecure. These are the problems you need to address. Start raising your SMV. Work on building your frame and abundance mentality. And leave that poor girl alone; she's much better off without your sorry ass around.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 09:52 PM
3

> I work out almost everyday but that does nothing when I can’t talk to women, or even when they approach me. With practice, learn how to make small-talk. What also makes this much easier for introverts is to put the focus on the other person. Ask them about themselves. Appear interested. Just a few words on your part can get people to talk for hours. I need a good workout schedule. I’m 180 trying to get to 200 but I don’t know if I should add running to my plan. If you're a beginner, start with…
/r/askTRP22/07/18 09:45 PM
2

Not sure what to ask but making points wondering AskTRP isn't your personal online diary. and wandering if I'll ever be full red pill alpha. That isn't something that life comes and does to you. Its a mission that you have to explicitly work very hard for years to attain & maintain. If your heart isn't in it, then the answer--most certainly--is no.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 09:40 PM
20

It's legit not fun anymore. Here's your answer. If your friends are no longer fun to be around, stop hanging out with them. and then my ex showed up. We broke up on bad terms [...]. I'm not jealous, it's an ex, I don't care. Look how much you wrote about what your friends did in relation to your ex. If you truly didn't care, you wouldn't have even noticed. Fact is: you do still care. Work on your abundance mentality to fully get over her.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 09:15 PM
1

There are two problems here: You let your insecurity control you (and in turn, to try to control her). This rule you set won't work in the end anyway; they will never stop a woman from doing what she wants when you're not around (and you'll never be around 100% of the time). But now its too late. You drew a line in the sand, and now you painted yourself into a corner. Your choice is now to either enforce this ineffective rule (which will probably blow up in your face) or drop the topic entirely …
/r/askTRP22/07/18 02:43 PM
5

If she's not crazy, and doesn't flake on plans, what does it matter? A plate is just a fuckbuddy. All that matters is that their bodies are enjoyable. The guys who come in here thinking that there are more requirements for a plate are seriously confused as to what plates are. They are not LTRs; they are holes.
/r/askTRP19/07/18 02:48 PM
5

This is a variation of the question "what is it that you're looking for?" Jokes have their advantages, but eventually they'll catch on that you're dodging the question. The women who are looking for something more substantial will bail. Is that what you want? Another strategy is to plate women who want LTRs by tossing a promise here and there that one day she'll get upgraded... If you want to maximize your options, tell them "I'm looking to find someone fun to hang out with. I'm not in a rush, a…
/r/askTRP22/06/18 04:52 PM
7

Sock puppeteering, writing a gay incest romance novel, and chainsaw juggling. Dude. Strangers on the internet can't tell you what you want to do with your life. The entire point of being a man is knowing what you want, and going for it without caring about others' opinions. Spend more time on the self-discovery portion, and you'll figure it out.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 05:59 PM
4

K.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 02:28 AM
3

LOL no offense, huh? I love the way you bullshit like that. A few words from a stranger on the internet triggered your emotions. Your self-confidence is weak. Listen up, your SMV is [...] This has nothing to do with what we're discussing. Either that, or you're explaining your point very poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 11:58 PM
1

There's a reason for that. Are you out of shape? Do you lack social skills? Do you have zero self-confidence? Being tall and having a good career is far from everything you need in order to be considered high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 11:54 PM
7

I'm not sure I'd say that I "support feminism." Most of it is bullshit. But if you're one of the smart few, you can harness its effects for your own advantage. Because I'm a perceptive and highly pragmatic guy, I benefit greatly from the harm it does to men on the whole. So yes, for me personally... I absolutely love feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 10:46 PM
7

That says a lot about women that they only look for the 6'4 men and consider lesser men "settling." That is not what I said, nor implied. Re-read my comment. It says even more about you that you are so thoroughly indoctrinated that you believe it's a good thing that you out-compete other men for a woman. Men do compete for quality women. Likewise, women compete for quality men. Ever notice how famous musicians, powerful business men, etc, have lots of attractive women throw themselves at their f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 10:40 PM
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I love feminism because it produces many effeminate and emasculated men. With less competition, I get a lot more attention from women. Each man's value in the dating market is relative to the group as a whole. If you're somewhat tall, have a good career, a sense of humor, and physically fit, then you stand out in the crowd. But let's say the average man was 6'4" tall, made $3M a year, and could squat 550lbs. In this world, you would be well below average, and women would treat you as such. You'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/18 09:18 PM
1

Let your anger out If this triggers an emotional response from you (regardless of if you express it or not), then you have weak frame. This is the result of being stuck in the anger phase, oneitis, and/or a covert contract. Spend as much time as you need to reflect on the cause of this emotion, and take the necessary steps to fix it. Otherwise, a hard cap will remain on your quality of life.
/r/askTRP16/06/18 09:04 PM
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A plate owes you nothing. And you owe them nothing. A plate is useful to you if they fulfill your sexual needs without exerting much effort on your part. As long as that's still true, then you continue on. Otherwise, you drop this plate and find more. Plans can be broken at the last minute. That's life. Whether or not she did it on purpose or lied to you does not matter. ALL that matters is that she remains a good fuck overall with little effort. Don't bother trying to analyze what's going on in…
/r/askTRP16/06/18 04:27 PM
1

"Still waters run deep, my friend", followed by eye contact and a smirk.
/r/askTRP15/06/18 03:45 PM
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> How do you get over anger from a past relationship? You realize that all the anger comes from your own fuck-ups. Take ownership of your poor decisions and learn from them. Realize that your ex is simply a self-interested person, like all humans are. Who made the decision to LTR a shitty woman? You. (Yes, I guarantee there were red flags that you ignored and/or you jumped into it way too soon.) Who made the decision to have kid #1? You. Who made the decision to have kid #2? You. This situation …
/r/askTRP12/06/18 08:04 PM
2

The key to being a man is always knowing what you want, and always going after it. It also involves setting and enforcing hard boundaries. Your boundaries are not up for negotiation.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 03:49 PM
5

I know that TRP says to go to every party that you are invited to. No, it says you should always be doing the things you want in life. Not even feeling it tbh Here's your answer, then.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:46 PM
2

Perfect! Get to know her, dance with her, and totally ignore this other chick. You'll end up playing them off each other as they realize they have competition for you. Other women will notice too.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 06:37 PM
1

> My family (parents, 3 younger siblings) are currently living in my house, me as the sole provider Why the fuck are you letting yourself get utterly used by your family? This is strongly related to the problem you posted about: you have no boundaries, nor are you enforcing any. Step one is stop being a chump. Stop letting your family use you. On your own, come up with a reasonable time frame for them to move the fuck out. Then tell them of this time table. Do not ask them to leave. Tell them. O…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:40 PM
3

> I texted "hey" 1.) Way to show how boring you are, and 2.) how you can't be a leader. Next time, take charge right away. At this point, you painted yourself into a corner. Soft-next. If/when she comes back, take charge immediately and give her a concrete time & place to meet.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:24 PM
1

Wait, you're going to prom without a date? What an excellent way to advertise your low SMV! Also, you're showing signs of oneitis. You don't need this one girl. There are many, many others for you to be gaming. Stop chasing this one girl. Let her come to you while you're going after others. As a bonus, she'll probably start rushing your shit once she realizes you got opportunities with other girls. And shit, dude... do not go to prom without a date!
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:20 PM
1

Yes. Raise your SMV and you'll get better women, both on Tinder and in person.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 05:14 PM
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There's a no-texting-except-for-logistics rule for beginners, since its way too easy to shoot yourself in the foot. The questions you asked imply you're still at the beginner stage, so you'll generally want to stick to that. Even if you had intermediate/advanced game, unless you're going to see her in the summer, what's the point? If anything, you'd make yourself seem too available and eager to see her in the fall. Instead, if you keep quiet, when you run into her again for the first time in 4 m…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 03:27 AM
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hard-next Hard-nexts are only for when someone becomes unfuckable. She isn't impeding on your life's goals and she's not yet shown any crazy behavior. Until then, as long as she remains enjoyable to fuck, soft-next only.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:53 AM
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She's interested again. Set up a time to meet, escalate, and insert your penis into some combination of her holes.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:39 AM
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There's more than one way to skin a cat. One option is to not respond until the next time I want to fuck (at least a day after her response), and pretend like she didn't say that. If she throws another shit-test, soft-next. Another option is immediate soft-next. Yet another is a variation of your idea: "When you get to my place tomorrow at 8pm, I'll show you who."
/r/askTRP04/05/18 02:38 AM
1

Its never too late to increase your SMV. But significant changes usually take time. Its unlikely that you'll be able to pull it together quickly enough to stop the direction she's going in. By plating her and withdrawing a lot of attention, you may re-capture her interest. You might be tempted to promote her back to LTR, but until your game improves, you'll just land in the same situation again. Start lifting, work on your career, and solidify your frame.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:59 AM
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Yep, sounds like a new job with less stress should also help with your inner game as well. Good luck! And keep in mind that you have a lot to be proud of.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:54 AM
1

Are you roughly qualified for the jobs you're going after? If not, are there similar jobs you can get in the meantime to build experience?
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:45 AM
4

This is a very broad and general topic. There are lots of resources on this already. Stop being lazy and go read them.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:40 AM
1

Well here's a major problem you have: you've made getting women your goal in life. Women cannot, and will not, lead to long-term happiness in life. That only comes from following the path of self-improvement and achieving self-actualization. Women are just fun toys to play with along the way. This has a practical effect on your SMV as well, since your mindset is the basis of your behavior. Focus on women, and women become harder to catch. Focus on yourself, and eventually women fall all over the…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 01:36 AM
1

I keep meeting girls online who are super into me, even trying to talk to me all the time or obsessing over me and talking about how much they like me, yet they get extremely quiet the instance they meet me and they just ghost on me afterwards. This means their imagination of you and the in-person you are miles apart. It seems like you're unintentionally cat-fishing them(!). Or flake and ghost. These women weren't into you in the first place. OR the first date/meetup goes VERY WELL and she leave…
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:15 AM
1

Yes. There's no reason you need to act differently. And if you do, it only hurts your chances (and what would be the point of the date, then?).
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:05 AM
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If your partner is showing signs of temptation, demote them to a plate, and act accordingly. That means your SMV isn't high enough to keep their interest. No need to get angry about it. Use it as motivation to improve further.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:03 AM
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Proceed like normal. Invite her over to your place, play some card games/watch Netflix, start to snuggle, and escalate that into your penis inside her.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 12:01 AM
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I strongly suspect that the guys who over-use the hard-next are doing so because they have weak frame and/or are still stuck in the anger phase. The slightest shit-test gets nuked with The Big Red Button instead of laughing it off with standard AM/AA techniques. Or they hard-next because they feel like this somehow gets revenge on women.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 08:56 PM
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Isn't that my responsibility? Yes. Shouldn't happen if I cut her from my life altogether, right? Assuming you have the strength to do that, yes. Do you mean my internal frame, self esteem, self confidence etc? Or my SMV? Or my frame in front of her? Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. Because she already knows you were low-value before, she is really going to shit-test you once you start making moves. Your game is going to need to be on point, otherwise you will crash and burn. But hey... if you think …
/r/askTRP03/05/18 08:45 PM
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Failure against your former/current oneitis means you will possibly get sucked into her orbit and/or take a massive hit to your frame that will take a long time to recover from. Unless your frame is much more solid now, and you're positive you will retain control of yourself, do not engage.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:45 PM
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I sure hope English isn't your first language. If it is, you need sorely need to study proper writing technique.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:19 PM
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Plays and movies are bad date ideas. You get no chance to talk and game her. Flirt with her and ask her out for coffee or drinks. Give a concrete time & place to make it easy for her to say yes. If she can't make it, suggest one alternate time. If she says she can't make either, end the conversation and remove yourself. Soft-next. This all assumes you've re-gained control of your emotions. She was your oneitis, so don't play with fire if you haven't fixed your frame.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 06:17 PM
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Needless to say that’s a hard next, What? No its not. She did nothing to make her un-fuckable. The condom broke (not her fault), and she implied that she's willing to take a pill to make sure pregnancy doesn't happen. This isn't even close to a soft-next scenario. What are your hard next stipulations? Way too many guys on here hard-next inappropriately. The only time you hard-next a plate is when they do something that makes them un-fuckable, such as: Repeated flaking Crazy behavior Let's take a…
/r/askTRP03/05/18 05:40 PM
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Practically speaking, it is much easier to fuck around while you're single. Otherwise, you're going to spend a very significant amount of your time covering your tracks (and let's face it: you're probably not slick enough to pull it off for very long). Having an LTR + plates is do-able if you have... flexible morality.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 04:40 AM
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In this example, me leaving her would be the pain and her really wanting me will result in her changing. Oh sure... she'll change. For a week. Then its right back to crazytown. The point is: never get tunnel vision for any one woman. And especially not ones with so many major red flags. Or maybe im just so fucking brain washed Yep. Take a step back and start learning about TRP. you need to learn the fundamentals about women. Specifically, learn about "oneitis". That's what you're afflicted with.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 04:05 AM
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what if they do change? What do you mean?
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:36 AM
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39 and living at home. At first, you moved back in with your mom to get back on your feet. But now, your mom lives with you because of her health issues. This is how you should frame it in your mind: you're not a loser who failed at life (living at your mom's house), you're a man taking care of his family (she lives wi*th *you). I want to stop this and work on being happy. You're going to have to make a decision, then: is it more important to keep sprinting towards starting your own business, or…
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:27 AM
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Why does this matter?
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:15 AM
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Oh, well that's a relief that she's out. You can get over it by realizing there are 3,500,000,000 other females on planet Earth. Flirt with a couple of them and then fuck. You'll start to realize that women are replaceable and cannot bring you long-term happiness. Only you can do that through self-improvement and self-actualization.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 01:54 AM
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Yep. Since she's living in your bedroom, your first task is to get her out of it. She sleeps on the couch now. If she complains, tell her she should be grateful you're not putting her in the garage. Tell her she has a week to GTFO. If she resists at all, get the homeowners involved. This is a command, not a negotiation. In this week, you can discuss logistics of her moving out only. Do not engage in any other topics whatsoever. Make yourself scarce, too; hang out at the library in your free time…
/r/askTRP03/05/18 12:17 AM
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I'm glad you have enough sense to take a hard critique. A lot of people's ego's couldn't handle it, so I commend you for that. Now its time to start the hard road of self-improvement and learning. You've got a long way to go, but I assure you, its worth every minute.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:25 PM
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Back in the day, I, too, missed a lot of good opportunities. After spending too much time regretting my mistakes and being angry at myself, I decided I wasn't going to let my past failures dictate my present and future. And just like that, I started focusing on how to reach my present goals. Life is too short to waste it on regret. The clock is ticking right now. What are you going to do to maximize your opportunities?
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:22 PM
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because this girl really did love meafter dating for 5 months. I hope you learned your lesson. I broke up with her two weeks ago because she was constantly accusing me of [...] If you plated her for a proper amount of time and vetted her thoroughly, you would have realized the crazy long before she moved in with you. These things continued basically our whole relationship ... because you never established nor enforced any boundaries. Hence, you got what you deserved. I'm sitting here after we br…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:13 PM
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Yes. When its well-placed, the direct method works well. There are times you should stick to building interest, and then there are times to make a frontal assault. This is one of those times. Again: you can't win them all, but if you don't try, you'll always fail.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 10:59 PM
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She made me angry This shows that your frame needs work. A woman's words should never incite an emotional effect in you. Anyway, what would you guys have said? That was a pretty good response. You passed the shit test. Did I handle the situation correctly? Yes, you did the best you could with the tools you had. Ignoring and not showing butthurt is the best you can do when your emotions are engaged. Once you've improved your frame, you could include her in the conversation instead of blocking her…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 08:32 PM
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At the end of the night, just look her in the eye and say, "Lets go back to your place." If she prefers yours, just be honest. Then either she'll make it work, or its over. Remember that you'll never win them all.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 08:28 PM
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I'm going to reply here to teach any other TRP readers what's going on. See how a little prodding caused this guy's confidence to shatter? This is what weak frame looks like. Someone with strong confidence wouldn't have even noticed a (minor) challenge even occurred, let alone unleash a meltdown. In the short term, if you find your emotions triggered by an insignificant challenge, STFU. Don't give your cards away. Meanwhile, keep building your confidence so that the core issue is addressed.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 08:07 PM
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Your frame just cracked, son. Take a deep breath and reflect on how this happened. Then get to work on fixing it.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 07:58 PM
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what's wrong with playing head games with the hottest one? It's fun and a good use of time, really. What, your frame is too weak on its own that you need your ego pumped? Or you've got remnants of anger towards attractive women, and this makes you feel like you're finally getting back at them? Its certainly a fine move if your motivation is to achieve a tactical goal (i.e.: getting and maintaining her interest so you can keep fucking her), but if you're doing it out of resentment or sociopathy..…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 07:51 PM
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But, uhhh... that means you never nut in the hot chick, bro. It's almost fun to do Yep. Almost fun.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 07:42 PM
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Step one is knowing what you want out of every situation you're in. Every situation, every day. Projecting confidence would strongly discourage others from trying to intimidate you. If you can stop them from trying in the first place, you insta-win. Confidence also comes into play for telling people no. No, you won't let pretty girls cut you in line. You're more important than they are, and they aren't special.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 07:35 PM
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I tell her no worries "Its ok to ignore me. Please do it more to me in the future!" The rest of your response here was fine... just don't excuse this behavior. Ignore it. Should I text her right now saying “What’s up?” Nope. That would result in a failed shit-test. Normally you would soft-next, but this doesn't work if you deal with her in school. In that case, don't initiate any flirting with her any more. Pretend like nothing happened and treat her like anyone else. The ball is in her court re…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 05:05 PM
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Next time she brings it up, tell her that you're taking things one step at a time. If she presses for commitment, either say "we'll see" or turn it into a joke: "what, you want to get married right now? Ok, I'll look up flights to Vegas. I've always wanted a drive-thru wedding." Are you even fucking her yet? After the third date, it needed to happen. Either way, for your next "date", invite her directly to your place. Escalate and fuck her. If she declines, send her on her way and soft-next her.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 04:58 PM
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Immediately demote her to plate status, and treat her accordingly. No need to soft or hard next, since she hasn't done anything wrong. You were wrong in your perception of her. And that's ok as long as you re-categorize her from this point on.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 04:52 PM
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Also, what is "beginner" here? My body count is 38ish Its an abstract term that refers to what level you're at in terms of SMV/knowledge of women. The number of women you've fucked doesn't tell the whole story. The kinds of questions you asked imply that you're at the beginner stage. Your SMV is probably good, but you still have more fundamentals about women to learn.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 04:28 PM
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Unfortunately, she rarely responds to texts and never answers phones calls. After the first time she does this, you soft-next. is she just being nice in person? You didn't provide enough information to answer that. Women have a body language that you can pick up on when they're attracted to you. But in the end, this doesn't matter. All that matters is her explicit reactions to your game. I've avoided texting her too much (6 messages so far), but it's still a 2:1 ratio with me texting more Six me…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 03:22 PM
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Right. I thought that part was obvious. He needs to start with women that are one or two levels below him, then work his way up as his confidence and experience improves.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 01:54 PM
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Lots of cardio has a large negative effect on steroid users too.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:43 AM
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Next time, throw some light negs at them.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:42 AM
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Why didn't you contact her after getting her number? You gotta strike while the iron is hot. Not wanting to spend time on a date with her is fine, but you need to do something to keep the interest alive. If this next party is coming soon, then you can game her there. Escalate until you get her into your bed. Why don't you want to go on a date with her anyway? You don't need to do anything serious. You can buy a $2 coffee for yourself only and spend 45 minutes talking, then invite her to your pla…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:41 AM
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Do you even know the basics of TRP? Are you lifting and prioritizing yourself over women? Nobody in here is going to come and be your personal trainer for free. You're going to have to put in serious effort to learn TRP principles first, before you become worthy of help.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:32 AM
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after I said it’s cool. "Its OK to behave badly, honey. Please do it again to me in the future!" How far do I take this dread? As far as you need to. She's losing interest in you, so your move is to soft-next. Make her come back to you. In the meantime, you need to be chasing other skirts. Remember that they're called plates for a reason: sometimes they break. When you play the plate game correctly, this should not faze you. Your abundance mentality is why you don't get attached, because there w…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:27 AM
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You soft next after a rejection. At some point in the future, she might flirt with you. Only then can you game her again. Since this particular woman is in your social circle, you can't just ignore her. Instead, you treat her like a 290lb woman who happens to always be around. Don't be rude, but she's not interesting to you whatsoever. Regardless of what happens, you fuck other women.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 02:18 AM
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before its safe to ask her out again. You did that already. Move on to other women. The part you're not understanding is that you should never focus on chasing down one particular woman. Work on developing your abundance mentality, and this problem goes away. Also, what do you mean by counter punching? A shit-test is a punch to your confidence to see how strong you are. If you pass the test and counter-punch with a neg, panties get splooshed.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 01:08 AM
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Dude. Either boil down your text into something much more legible, or maybe you don't know enough of the basics to even be asking questions yet. You're unlikely to find a personal trainer here to work for you for free. You're going to have to put in serious effort to learn on your own first.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:31 AM
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should I just play the “I’m here if you need me, we’ll get through this babe.” And call it a day? Yes. Do not bail her out of her own problems. If she asks for money, harp on how anti-feminist it is for a woman to rely on a man.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:28 AM
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how long does it take to turn yourself around to the girl? Your question implies that you somehow need another chance with one particular woman. This is the wrong mentality. You got rejected, so you immediately soft-next & forget her, then chase other women. My game has gotten better [...] and she is starting to see it Cool. Keep chasing and fucking other women. Develop your abundance mentality. When/if she decides you're interesting, she will initiate. Until then, you don't even remember her. S…
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:27 AM
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but I think what's stopping me is I am addicted to her. I guess that's another way of saying oneitis Yup. Oneitis. but her parents just divorced, she just lost her job, and it's possible that she might not get accepted into her Uni 2 months from now, and basically the ship is extremely unstable. Its not your business to save her. Your mission is to improve your life and work towards your life goals. Always. Am I addicted, Yes. is she worth it, No. There are 3,500,000,000 other females on planet …
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:20 AM
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Plates eventually push for commitment, or leave you for a better/more available guy. In this case, they got a hard reminder that he's not theirs. If he holds frame, some will come crawling back when they realize they can't do better. He's going to get even hotter sex from them. Some won't come back. Oh well... that's why they're called plates. Because eventually they break. Always be ready to let them go. Always be chasing more women.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:15 AM
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There are hundreds of potential reasons for this. Shit-test is but one of them. In the end, it doesn't matter, because they have no bearing on your response: don't reply. Give her a couple days before contacting her again. If she flakes again or otherwise shit-tests you, soft-next.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 12:07 AM
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You're clearly not reading my entire post. Correct. Its just incel rambling anyway. I'm not missing anything important. Let go of the anger and join us. Its time, son.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 10:48 PM
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Its happened since the beginning of recorded history. Your job is to stay true to your goals in life no matter what. Positive people can come along for the ride if they'd like. Toxic people can't.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 10:46 PM
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You didn't initiate the fight, so you did nothing wrong there. I’m trying to piece together why that dude reacted like that A mix of alcohol and white-knighting. Next time you see him, tell him that he needs to keep his hands to himself at all times. He needs to understand that people can get hurt (including himself), and that he would be criminally liable for it. Tell him that if he needs to quit drinking to make sure he stays in control of himself, then so be it. Don't sound butthurt. Don't sa…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 10:44 PM
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And here, ladies and gentlemen, is an incel who would rather give up and feel sorry for himself rather than put in the hard work to improve. Yes, you've got more challenges than a natural Chad. But that doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is your motivation to improve. Sitting around and whining about the hand you've been dealt changes nothing. It is entirely non-tactical, and thus, a waste of time. Let go of the anger. Its time. Join us on a path to improvement, and your life will becom…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 10:29 PM
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The self-doubt and over-analyzing will stop once you get to a certain experience level. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. You just gotta get on it!
/r/askTRP01/05/18 10:25 PM
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Do you remember what you said? Not really. It doesn't matter anyway... its not like there's a set of magic words that hypnotize women (that's more PUA bullshit). I picked up she's a horndog (it takes one to know one), and escalated until she started texting me pictures of her wet pussy. At that point it was easy to say "hey, instead of meeting for coffee tomorrow, let's meet at my place." She quickly accepted.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:42 PM
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I didn’t outright say yes or no Good. Never bring this topic up yourself, and dodge it every time she does. If you get cornered repeatedly, and if you're the morally-flexible type, you can tell her that you're interested in an exclusive relationship once she proves she's a "good girl." Of course, that day never comes, and you keep fucking her like a plate. Remember: plates eventually break. Even if you got three in your current rotation, you always need to be looking for more.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:38 PM
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Lift more so you're harder to ignore physically. Learn more so you have more interesting things to say. Game more women so the ones not interested have no effect on you.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:22 PM
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Depending on your skill level, you may be able to successfully raise interest via texting. No-texting-except-for-logistics is a hard rule for beginners, but as you become more experienced with women and raise your SMV, you'll find that well-placed texts can skip you ahead a couple steps in the game. I've used this to sploosh some panties before the first date, and sometimes even replace the first date venue from a coffee shop to my bedroom. Don't try this unless you're at least at the intermedia…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:17 PM
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There should be no emotional attachment to plates (otherwise they are not plates). They are free to do anything they want at any time. and implied that my plates see other guys. This can either make them more interested in you since you're showing disinterest, or it can trigger them to demand a commitment since you're declaring there is none and you're fine with it. Be aware that the outcome very much depends on context.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:07 PM
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And she would drag me away from them. Do not let her dictate who you do or do not talk to. Do not let her place her hands on your body to enforce her will upon you. If it happens again, look her in the eye and say, "Excuse me... I was talking to her. If you need to go, that's fine... I'll catch up with you in a bit." Remove her hand, and resume your conversation. This will make both women sploosh. how can I make this a regular thing, I’m crushing hard but I’m preventing myself from getting needy…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 09:02 PM
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Someone with established frame, high confidence, and extensive experience can meet up as often as they want. Furthermore, the text-only-for-logistics rule doesn't apply to them. But you're a novice. I'd say meet up with her about once per week. Keep some distance so you don't develop feelings. And any texts you send are probably only going to shoot yourself in the foot since you're inexperienced. In the meantime, game other women. Plates eventually break, and this one will be no different. When …
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:56 PM
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Does being direct like this ever work on dating apps? If your SMV is high enough relative to yours, yes. Otherwise, it blows up in your face... just like it did. What could I have done to still go on a date without entering her frame? Once you committed yourself by asking her to your place, you painted yourself into a corner. There was no getting back out. You could have first gamed her more and given her the tingles. Escalated if she brought up any sex talk. That way, you'd break through any LM…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:49 PM
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she said "Okay thats fine" The game's in play. She's interested. As long as you don't seem over-eager or smother her, you got yourself a plate.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:39 PM
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Have a normal conversation with her about a random topic. Once her initial nerves wear off, introduce a little game. Use good body language and a little bit of eye contact to get the message across. That'll loosen her up.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:37 PM
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Yep, this guy is just a safe rebound. This will not last. In fact, this is going to dissolve well before any real plans for a wedding even start.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:33 PM
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Contact her two or three days later and arrange another meet-up. Its really that simple. If she declines or doesn't respond, soft-next. Either way, chase down more pussy.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:30 PM
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I'm not exactly a rock yet and I teared up when she said she didn't like me as much so it's probably donezo regardless. Her comment should be taken like a shit-test. You failed it, btw. Being/becoming a strong man is most challenging in an LTR. You're playing RP on hard-mode. You can learn a lot more--and faster--if you experiment within this environment. While you did make some mistakes, none of them of irrecoverable. I actually recommend that you don't call it quits just yet. Use it as a testi…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:27 PM
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highly unlikely a virgin can do that. [...] But that isn't going to happen right away. It'll never happen at all unless you practice. If OP has enough of an SMV advantage on them, then yes... they will chase him down. The only question is: does he have enough to evoke this response from 5.0/10 women, or is he going to have to go lower?
/r/askTRP01/05/18 08:17 PM
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I see her in class two days later and I could sense something was wrong. It was as if she is distancing herself from me. In this case, you reflect back her own disinterest back at her. Then optionally, you can either initiate a conversation next time like nothing happened, or just soft next and let her come crawling back. Don't let her actions manipulate you.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:37 PM
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Reach out to her two days later if she doesn't text you first.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:34 PM
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Or is it just practice makes perfect? Yep. Start hitting on other women and getting experience with talking to them. It'll get MUCH easier, and you won't stumble anymore. As for this girl, start up another conversation next time you see her. Suggest a coffee date and get her number. You gotta strike while the iron's hot!
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:32 PM
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If your SMV, frame, and leadership abilities are strong enough, a woman will submit to you... even on political ideologies. However, she has a desire to explore her attraction to women. In the end, there's nothing you can do about this. Forbidding her is not a long-term solution; eventually she will grow to resent your rules, which will cause drama. She may even move forward on it anyway without your knowledge (stalking her is weakness, nor would it be 100% effective). If you personally have a p…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:28 PM
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when I did she smiled and instantly made this weird face when she saw my face. Oh well. That's life. You can't win them all. This will never stop happening to you, no matter how attractive you become. The key is to always have multiple pots on the stove, so when one fails, you don't care. but I can't help but feel looks matter a lot more than you're making it out to be. Men are very visually oriented, whereas women are much less so. Yes, some women do look at porn, but guess who primarily dumps …
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:19 PM
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Im keeping my frame with this girl. No, sir, you are not. If you were, then you wouldn't have said this: "but posting stories like that is just provoking". You also wouldn't have posted on this sub trying to figure out what's going on, because her actions wouldn't have fazed you. The sooner you realize your problems with holding frame, the sooner you can begin fixing it.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:15 PM
1

If you read what OP wrote, he got attacked by a guy after trying to de-escalate a situation between the guy and his friend.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:11 PM
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You cannot be a competitive distance runner and build significant muscle mass at the same time. Pick one. Which is more important to you? If you're serious about a hobby, then you absolutely should choose it over women. Women cannot make you happy in the long term. But if your interest in running is waning, then trade it for muscle mass and FWBs.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:04 PM
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You're needy because you have no abundancy mentality. And you have no abundancy mentality because you're a 29 year old virgin who started the path of self-improvement just a couple months ago. You need some easy wins to establish a cycle of success. Start gaming the 5.0/10 women. Learn to flirt and hold frame with them. Go on some dates. Flirt, escalate, and make them chase you down. Once you got a couple women hounding you for attention, pull the trigger and lose your v-card. Continue gaming an…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 07:00 PM
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That's bullshit incel talk. Women do take physical appearance into consideration, but they are very much attracted to behaviors. If you establish a solid frame, fine-tune your body through physical fitness, and work hard towards a rewarding career, then you'll still have women throw themselves at you. But like all things worth doing in life, this won't be easy. You're going to have to invest a lot of effort over time, suffer setbacks, dust yourself off, and keep going until you make it.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 06:53 PM
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but posting stories like that is just provoking. The fact that it provokes you shows that you're not fully in control of your emotions. You're lacking frame. Study this topic. And i really think shes doing that on purpose cause i havent talked to her all day yesterday. And you're letting her manipulate you. Bonus fact: she's trying to get your attention because she's growing an attachment to you. If you can control your emotions and not let yourself get manipulated, you can keep her as a long-te…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:55 PM
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Right. But do not engage her in a conversation until you've killed the lingering feelings you have for her. Only proceed once you've re-gained power over your emotions.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:43 PM
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So theres this plate, gf or whatever Or whatever? Those are some very different situations. Which is it? If you have feelings for her, then she's not a proper plate; you'd need to re-gain control of your emotions. Should i just soft next her? If she's a plate, then yes. If she's more than that, immediately demote to plate, kill your emotions for her, and soft next. Once your emotions are stable, you can resume fucking her.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:41 PM
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and most possibly hurt his head against the brick grill. That's not your concern in a self-defense scenario. Your first priority is to quickly remove the threat. After this, your second priority is to use as little force as possible. They are the aggressor, so if you follow these priorities, any consequences to their choices are on them. He is going to call me to apologize, what should I tell him? Accept his apology, and tell him that he needs to make sure he doesn't do that again to anyone. He …
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:37 PM
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Good bot.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:19 PM
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If you've been seeing one therapist for awhile, but its not helping, find another therapist. Maybe even one who employs different strategies.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:26 PM
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Learn your lesson. Namely, its your fault for not asking for real-time pics prior to arranging this date. Go through your chat history and her profile. There are probably red flags that you missed. Learn to spot them out for next time.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:24 PM
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Sounds like you need therapy. You got some major roadblocks in your mind as a result of past abuse that you need to get over. Good luck.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:21 PM
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but sometimes we face each other and we say hi in the most awkward way possible. This implies you two haven't fully resolved the breakup in your lives. do I give a fuck and don't even say hi? A person whose emotions weren't engaged wouldn't have a problem just saying hi, giving a slight smile, and blissfully continuing on to the weight rack to continue their workout. Say hi without a conversation? A person whose emotions weren't engaged would have a conversation if there was a reason, and wouldn…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:20 PM
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One tried and true method is to lower your standards and go for some easy wins. Go hit on the 5.0/10 women just to get some practice. Bang a few, too, to build up your confidence. Once you stop being nervous with the 5/10 women, move up to the 6/10 women, then to the 7's. In the meantime, work on perfecting your body, mind, and career. That becomes a real factor for success with women the higher you go.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:08 PM
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You hate her because you think she wronged you. This is false. You let yourself be taken advantage of. Whatever it is that happened, I guarantee that you are the cause. She simply acted in her own best interests, like all humans do. Once you realize that you need to take ownership of your own fuckups, you'll see that she did nothing wrong. She owes you nothing, and neither does the rest of the world. Then the hate will dissipate, and you'll get to work on improving yourself so you don't make the…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 04:04 PM
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I mean they are cold hearted enough to use us Re-read this sentence you typed. 1.) You're reacting to women, and 2.) you're trying to get back at them. You have very weak frame. If you had a strong sense of identity, you would be a leader, not someone who reacts. And if your confidence ran deep, you wouldn't be caught up in some petty revenge fantasy against women. Whatever women did to you in the past is your fault. YOU let them take advantage of you. You should be angry at yourself, not at wom…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 03:35 PM
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Why not take advantage and flip the tables? Anger phase detected. What, you want to stick it to women because they hurt you and you need to get back at them? Wrong move. You need to stop being a slave to your emotions, and start on your independent path of self-improvement.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:52 PM
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But I don't plan to perpetually plate-spin into my 60s. Is that your end-game? Women cannot, and will not, give meaning to your life. Not now, and not in your 60's. You and your mission of self-actualization is the only thing that will. Or perhaps just to spend the last 3 decades of your life alone? I'll have a companion in the last three decades of my life if its what I want at the time. Otherwise, if I'd rather be alone, I will be. The fact that you've asked me this question is telling: you're…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:23 PM
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i was wondering what it meant with girls being comfortable talking to me about sexual topics If a woman brings up sexual topics, your job is to return the ball and escalate. Keep the conversation going and amplify the vibe a little each time you talk. She's probably a horndog and has sex on her mind. She wants to fuck. comfortable touching me If a woman crosses the physical border and touches you, then this is a big sign that she's attracted to you. Paired up with the sex talk, its pretty obviou…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:15 PM
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No country has the unicorns you're dreaming of. The "average plum" acts the way she does, because she's average. If she were very attractive, she could get away with lots more shit, and so she would take advantage of that. This is regardless of society. I've found that some regions of the US have women that are more responsive to game than others. Liberal areas have more women who are open to FWB relationships. Very high population places (like NYC) have many women with low attention spans becau…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 02:10 PM
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Basically I'm freaking out and wanting to abandon ship before I get too deep into the shit. [...] Do I go for a short term relationship (I know it won't last, I've never had a real relationship, I'll probably cheat on her or lose interest) You answered your own question. Whether or not anyone should get into a true LTR can be a philosophical issue around here, but regardless... in your case, you're freaking out about it. This definitely spells out "NO" in your case. Instead of ghosting outright,…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 01:59 PM
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The MRP sub has plenty of examples in the archives of betas successfully turning it around. There are plenty of stories, too, of betas going Redpill Rambo, fucking it all up, getting divorced, and paying a fuckton of child support while the ex fucks an unending stream of 20-something guys. The ones who are successful share these same traits: 1. they're smart, 2. they work really hard at it (sometimes for years), and 3. they don't expect to that Rome is built in a day.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 01:54 PM
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You need to talk less and listen more.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 01:37 PM
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> I told her plate status only Never talk about this explicitly. Just treat plates like plates. > I'm still struggling to get plates I have only been able to get ons That means you have a lot more work to do to improve your SMV. Glad to hear you made improvements, but that's only the start. > I lost access to her pussy. Take that pussy off the pedestal. > Sometimes I would get angry because she is so hot so she would get so much attention from all these guys and has it so easy while I have to wo…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 05:26 AM
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When I've used it, there was. And that's all that matters.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:20 AM
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This is often how males socialize and bond with each other. They're likely joking about your height because you showed that its a sensitive subject. Once you learn how to hold frame, their comments will just bounce right off you. Learn their weaknesses and roast them back.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:19 AM
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What, you're not man enough to support yourself in life? You need handouts to succeed? Man the fuck up, and blaze your own trail under your own power. Relying on others is weakness.
/r/askTRP01/05/18 05:16 AM
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