Always get cancelled on

innax · 2016-01-03T10:31:22+00:00

It's a numbers game

The number of flakes decrease as you increase your SMV. Simple as that

Don't take it to heart and keep trying but don't forget to keep improving yourself (diet, fitness, reading)

There will always be flakes

frequentlywrong · 2016-01-03T11:40:24+00:00

Women do not like to risk saying no to a guy asking them out. Losers sometimes get aggressive if they do.

So in actuality they never considered you attractive enough and never meant to go out with you. This means you must work on your game and SMV.

bittr_n_swt · 2016-01-03T09:46:41+00:00

yeah i had this happened to me last month, roughly 6 girls and then finally one of them offered a reschedule so i hard nexted the rest and met up with one.

a lot of girls flake, it happens. I was talking to a girl from tinder, got her number, tried to set up a meet and she said "i don't want to say yes because i know i'm gonna cancel" i hard nexted that bitch after that comment and a few hours later, she said "oi you" hamster gon hamster...

bestCallEver · 2016-01-03T13:36:38+00:00

You haven't told us anything about your "game" leading up to these dates. Are the plans all made via text message? Are these tinder girls you've never met before or girls you actually know? Also what kinds of plans have you made that they keep bailing on. Flaking happens, but if you see it happening over and over there might be a flaw in your approach.

MattyAnon · 2016-01-03T16:07:02+00:00

I have asked 4 girls out. All says yes. But they all text me a day before and cancel the fucking date. What would a reason to this be?

disinterest. partial interest when in front of them, not the best option when you're not. or the number is to get rid of you (minimise conflict by feigning interest)

Some of them mention reschulding, so i of course do that. but then they fucking cut me loose of that too and i tend to hard next after 2nd time.

hard next after 2nd time: good.

rescheduling and flaking again: you're possibly an option date ("do that if nothing better comes along")

Solutions: well quit just asking them out on dates. Men do this as a sort of a "get a commitment and get a yes/no as soon as possible", and it doesn't build a solid connection with the girl.

Here's your rough gameplan:

Chat / flirt / introduce self / flirt / suggest meeting / flirt / swap details as a way to make the meeting happen / chat some more / part in a relaxed way.

Very different from "what's your number?" / "555-etc" / flake.

machimus · 2016-01-03T09:36:15+00:00

Failure to build attraction, most likely. Either they come to their senses after a day or two or only agree to the date to get you off their back and then cancel.

Then again, four girls is not a large sample size.

Gelu_sf · 2016-01-03T16:07:54+00:00

This will make you immune to rejection. Keep them up :) Don't really worry about them.

It should go like this:

Phase1: She rejected me I'm such a loser

Phase2: How dares she reject me

Phase3: Damn... another reject

Phase4: It's all good in the 'hood.

Title	Always get cancelled on
Author	Xumas300
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	January 3, 2016 9:19 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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