experienced*, sorry, i am from mobile

hi, in this stage of my life i am looking for a decent girl to start a ltr. as i said in my previous posts, i am in my mid 30s, in a good position, good career, trying to improve my smv as much as i can first for myself.

i do use lots of old and i think it's part of the problem, anyway here's the situation

first girl, met on tinder, seemed good, first appointment in the first ten second i knew she wasn't right for me. we chatted a bit, hanged out a couple of times (never kissed or had sex before the third appointment with the previous 25 girls), but she had a tendency toward lying in the work aspect and i suspect in other areas of her life, and she seemed to not respect much her father. anyway, i behaved well in this situation, always used clear boundaries, never used manipulative tactics. got the "i see you more as a friend" and continued with my life since i was in contact with other 2-3 girls in the meantime.

second girl, one from my past, three years ago we had a biref sexual relationship, as far as i know i was the second partner after a long ltr, discovered anal with me, i behaved somewhat well with her but it was clear that i only wanted sex. we met again after a three year relationship with an unstable guy with a children that treaded her very poorly. she had and still have low self esteem. i knew what i was going into, but i though let's see if things are changed. i behaved very well, never using dread or manipulating her, we went to bed after a dinner at my place the second time we met, she came like 6 times (not that i am superhuman, she is just like that), then some days later i was casually in her area and she offered me a dinner, met again last week, had dinner together and she literally ran away just before sex. now she's texting me that she is not ready and so on. i guess i did a bit of the rebound boy and she is still under the influence of the unstable ex (i care relatively for her but since we meet before i didn't had much problems letting her in my life for a while).

none of those two situation is a problem for me since i'm aiming for a stable as long as a woman can be stable girl and i knew neither of those two were but i have a question:

is possible that low self esteem, insecure and self unstable girls don't respond well to clear boundaries and decent behavior? i wasn't in any way beta, i behaved normally and always kept my things going, never traded time between girls and my personal interests, so please don't think of me as a last stage blue pill guy. i knew 200% that if i behaved like i did in the past with other women those two girls would be dying to suck my dick as soon as possible but since i'd like a more stable life i'm not behaving like a pua anymore. someone of you noticed something similar?

thanks for the point of view