Lurking for 3 months, only decided to swallow about 2 months ago and although my circumstances are virtually the same I feel a lot more confident and motivated, which is definitely a plus.

One of my few true, solid friends found out his girl cheated on him multiple times during their 5-year plus relationship.

I advised him not to fucking go back to her, but he hasn't swallowed and has chosen to live on his knees rather than die on his feet, so to speak.

The following is the text message I intended to send him, it may be a drunk ramble, I'm too drunk to tell. Down vote if so, and if you feel like it maybe show me where I'm going wrong.

Also, forgive the hip hop/ rap references and quotes we both love that shit.

I half-ass tried to be gentle(-ish) which would explain me "beating around the bush" at some points.

"To be honest I'm really fucking drunk. So ignore this like its a drunk text.

You're your own man and you make your own choices, I'm not trying to guide you or anything of the sort. In writing this I am merely venting my own frustration, I have problems in my own life and analyzing your issues distracts me from my own.

I'm not writing this with any devious intentions I just want you to view the world through my lens. If at any point in reading this your are confused just fucking ask me and I will explain it, if you are bigoted and close-minded then stop reading right fucking now. Do not waste your time, you have a life to live.

I really like chilling with her. She seems, at least on a superficial level, to be a really down to earth, solid kind of girl. She's one of the only girls that I consider a friend, "Friend" in the truest sense of the word, in that I have no desire to fuck her. I literally enjoy being her friend. Maybe I look at her like that due to her being your girl, but It doesn't matter why I view her the way I do, what matters is that I do view her the way I do. She's fun to chill with, like "one of the boys." But I have to say one thing:

You can't make a hoe a housewife.

Read that fucking line again. Here, I'll say it again:

You. Can. Not. Make. A. Hoe. A. Housewife.

Make your own decisions don't let me influence you, or anyone else for that matter. If you want to be a doormat then go ahead, get fucking walked on.

"Your" girl has zero fucking respect for you. She fucks other dudes behind your back and your so hooked on that pussy that the blinders are up, you can't see anything but the one fundamental goal: her sweet, sweet vagina.

The fact of the matter is your girl cheated on you.

And you kept her.

She cheated again.

And what the fuck do you do? You fucking kept her.

What kind of message does that send?

Here, I'll fucking tell you: She can have all the perks of a "relationship," cuddling, venting, attention, validation, etc. all at the same time as catching dick from other dudes. Lebron James, Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, Magic Johnson, Charlie Sheen, fuck, every rapper you have ever heard on the radio, literally can not breath, they're drowning in pussy. All of these motherfuckers have something going for them: status. Your girl will spread those legs as soon as someone with a higher status than you walks in the door.

Look at who she fucks on the side. Crack heads with confidence, pill fiends with good genes. Do these guys have a better grip on life than you? I certainly don't fucking think so. But she fucks them. It all comes out a year later and she says "it was so long ago I'm a changed girl"

Bull. Fucking. Shit.

This isn't how I view you, this is how she views you.

I'm not saying this specifically about your girl, but she has an increased capacity for this bullshit. And you don't fucking need it. You're a lot better a dude than you give yourself credit for and I'm not making this shit up. She knows how to push your buttons in the right way.

I really don't want to have to explain this to you but, ergo, if she fucks around once she will do it again. Guess what? It's been more than one fucking time. She won't turn to another chapter she will stay on the same fucking page. You heard straight up she would rather be with a specific "someone" and I'm sorry but that "someone" would never fucking date her: he knows, not learned but naturally, that:

"if she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you."

He'd rather fuck it and move on. Why does that attract her? Not a clue, I am not a psychologist nor do I claim to be. But a snap judgment: He's manipulative. I bet he told her all sorts of shit to fuck her behind your back and he acts all innocent and she does the same fucking thing. Maybe I'm giving her too much credit, maybe she came on to him and he just doesn't have the snuff to turn pussy down, but alas I digress.

My words seem to go in one ear and out the other...

She's going to keep you as an emotional tampon that puts up with her shit and she only has to fuck you, what? Once a week? Tops. Meanwhile she's dicking studs and players who don't give a fuck about her while you bitch in the corner about how unfair it is and she offers another taste of what she has to offer and you crawl to it like a junkie.

This isn't an attack on your character I just want you to know you're not hopeless, you have other options.

You have other options.

I wish you would realize that.

"It might be hard to swallow this because subliminal bigotry makes you hate [all of it]".

To break that quote down, it means you have been trained, not unlike a dog, to disregard ideas that go against the status quo (current state of affairs)

I'm not trying to spit in your face or even talk down to you you're my bro and this is fucking horse shit: If my girl cheated on me I would never fucking talk to her again. I would laugh in her face, let her know she fucked up and this is what she's missing.

She takes full advantage of you and you let her walk the fuck all over you.

Dude, WAKE UP.

Seriously, go fuck her brains out one time and never talk to her again.. Cut contact. You're moving on, don't read her messages don't even think on it.

You can get better pussy and deep down you fucking know it.

You act like she's the only girl on the planet, bro, you do not fucking need her you're your own person you have your own shit going on... Focus on yourself. Take a minute. Think on it.

"I swear If niggaz put half of what they put in chasing ass into a craft I swear by now, you'd be famous and rich, but I get it, you'd rather lay with a bitch"

I don't know why I typed this whole fucking text out, I'm not even going to send it. But all in all, I feel better venting my frustrations; putting them into words.

Even if no one reads them, and I'm most certain they won't, it makes me feel better.

I suppose that's what life's all about, making yourself feel better. So keep her, if it makes you feel better. But it makes me feel better when I tell you not to."