Am I just a pu** or what?

SkimSTi · 2017-03-13T20:23:45+00:00

shitty situation dude. you should never be 'friends' with someone you were with seriously.. all it does is keep the door open for your feelings to get shit on. reason i say this is because 95% of dudes can NOT detach themselves from women they were sexual with.

best to bite the bullet and find a new place to live. you will forever be reminded of her by living together/being friendly. depending on how serious you two were, how it ended, you will forever feel attached in a situation like this. its going to make it impossible for you to move on and meet other women. then you are going to feel like shit when she moves on and starts bringing other dudes around.

why would you do this to yourself?

DonaldBaelish · 2017-03-13T20:25:29+00:00

Hey , everyone had their tough breakups. You have spent almost 3 years of emotional time together. That is 36 months of dating , investing , fucking in all sorts of different places , vacations , serious talks and also tough moments. It is absolutely normal to feel down.

Life happens. Life continues.

Few questions. Why still friends? Why still living together?

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-13T21:09:13+00:00

When I broke with my ex I had been redpilled for a while. I understood that the shittiest things she put me through were natural consequences of her being a woman, and some of her insecurity. I didn't have anger towards her anymore.
But still, being in a relationship had became torturing. Love had faded and without it there was nothing good enough for me to remain in the relationship. I wanted new partners, sexual adventures, to catch a good break from working so hard (worked VERY hard in the wrong way, acted beta. in the end I grew selfish but I still reciprocated her efforts because I didn't want her to be as frustrated as I became), less social obligations, a lot of shit.

It was a bit tough to actually manage to pull the trigger. It's stupid, but while I was still inside the LTR I felt like there had to be a trigger, she had to commit a fuck up, a reasonably big mistake, to enable me to do it rightfully. And she was working hard to make up for the shit she put me through before, so, she did no fuck ups at all. She had an access of selfishness towards her father and it kind was popped out as enough for me.

I suggest you to, before breaking up, thinking about what it takes to fix it, and the cost. You need to know precisely what would take to make it worth for you. If you think it's cheap, hit it. If you think it's too hard, then you know why you're ending it.
Would a one way open relationship fix it? What does it cost, how much proposing it harms your name? Maybe it'd work if she gave up on her dreams of being an actress and started caring about money. How does it harm your name and reputation asking her that? How it'll effect her?
And if you think you should end it, don't look for a reason. Just pick up an excuse from the book and use it. "I don't see us progressing."

dendsm111 · 2017-03-13T22:15:59+00:00

Comes down to philosophy. Would you stay in an OK job when you know there are better jobs out there? Its going to be an adjustment and its going to be painful but you know you will be better off.

nicetimeisback · 2017-03-14T01:50:33+00:00

been there..

I will write to you now an advice that i would give to myself, if i could ever timetravel back in the past:

"do what is to be done! she will cry, her world will fall apart, your action will give her a lot of pain. but you know what? in a few weeks she will be getting another dick in her pussy anyway, so if you want to leave just leave, pack your stuff and go, if you feel nice you can write her a letter where you say 'sorry, i leave you, wish you the best, bye'".

I was stuck in a situation like your for more than a year, and it ended badly, for both, pack your stuff and get the fuck out for fuck sake!!

Title	Am I just a pu** or what?
Author	Daxxipro1804
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	March 13, 2017 8:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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