Anxiety and compulsive thinking

SirKolbath · 2019-02-02T11:58:53+00:00

Everything is going to be OK. Trust me, there’s nothing unusual or abnormal about your thinking.

It sounds like you may have a problem putting women on a pedestal. Instead of approaching women, start approaching random people and just striking up conversations. Complement that old guy on his tie. Ask if you can help that elderly lady with her groceries. The elderly are great for this sort of thing because they love having conversations with random strangers and they are very easy to talk to. When you get comfortable with that, start talking to people closer to your own age. Ask that guy where he got the T-shirt he’s wearing. Get comfortable talking to people before you ever try to talk to a woman. When the time comes you’ll realize that women are people too. They’re very self-centered and self-absorbed people, but they are people nonetheless.

As for the gym, trust me nobody’s going to judge you there. And if anybody does they’re going to judge you favorably. When I see somebody who is overweight at the gym what I feel is enormously proud and lucky to be sharing a space with them. I have the advantages. I was blessed with good genes and a history of athletics that makes working out enjoyable for me. Not everybody has that. So when I see somebody who’s fighting the fact the last four generations in their family were overweight, I see it as inspirational. I want to go over and give that guy a high-five. I don’t because I don’t want him to think it is condescending, but I assure you I am never judging somebody negatively when they are hard at work in the gym. I can’t speak for everybody here, but I think most of us feel the same way. We are proud of you for going to the gym. Nobody here is going to laugh at you for it.

However, anxiety is not rational. That’s why it’s anxiety. My saying this is not really going to change much for you. To give you a practical, real-world solution I would recommend that you work with a personal trainer. You will be so focused on the work out and doing what they’re trying to get you to do that you will not notice anybody else around you.

Good luck. We’re here if you need us.

BurnieSlander · 2019-02-02T18:21:02+00:00

sorry if this is harsh, but consider the possibility that you might be a selfish asshole. You spend all your time thinking about yourself. When you aren’t thinking about yourself, you’re thinking about what people are thinking about you- which is just a roundabout way of thinking about yourself. Nobody gives a shit bro. Get off the hamster wheel and start thinking about how you can help your fellow humans. Get the focus off of you for a bit. Go volunteer at a nursing home and get schooled by 90 yr olds- they will help snap you out of your obsessive petty bullshit by reminding you that at any given momemt you can just die for no apparent reason.

And FFS most people go to the gym alone. Start with that. Pack your shit and go to the gym. Now.

TheFredP1ll · 2019-02-02T11:54:03+00:00

Think less and do more. It's the hardest thing, but you just have to push through it. Set yourself small achievable goals which lead you towards those bigger end goals

Captain_Save_A_Hoe_ · 2019-02-02T13:43:58+00:00

Your neurosis is your body telling you not everything is okay. The enviorment seems odd, everythings off. Why is it that I can't seem to just clean my room to make all the bad things go away? There must be something there... but every time I ask questions I'm given psychopathologized treatment, almost as if I was ill for thinking these thoughts in the first place.

Now ask again, are you ill or do you live in a ill society?

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-02-02T15:34:35+00:00

Try 10-20 min of meditation

Title	Anxiety and compulsive thinking
Author	FudgyBadger
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	February 2, 2019 10:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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