Approaching in a bar

skint_back · 2021-04-19T02:54:07+00:00

No dude, you have to approach them. That’s how it works. The girls giving you flirty looks (I.E. Indicators Of Interest) you should be approaching 100% of the time.

You’ll get mixed answers on buying drinks. I personally do it, but never more than a couple, and if the chick isn’t showing a lot of interest I’ll bounce before she finishes the first one.

319Skew · 2021-04-19T04:43:17+00:00

Love bars. Best place to approach in my opinion.

First thing is first. Don't buy a woman a drink. If she makes that shit test tell her that as a feminist, you refuse to take away her empowerment.

You can respond with "Sure thing. What do you want? I'll be right back." Then walk away and look like you're going to get her a drink. Wave at her. Order a drink for yourself and start up a conversation with the nearest cute girl. If she comes over asking for a drink act like you forgot and switch conversation. If she's into you she'll play along but if she storms off you've pissed off a bitch that was just going to use you for drinks.

Now, for a basic game. Hit up the bartender or hostess as they tend to be women. Start up basic dialogue and flirt. Use that energy to hit up the closest set or woman by the bar.

When you have good Rep with that set tell them that you'll be right back and hit up the next woman or near set.

Try to see if you can merge the group.

Every so often switch attention to the other people in the group. Guys > ugly chicks > back up option > chick you want to smash. That's the chat order in terms of preference. Don't be autistic and ignore the chick you want.

Get them to talk and listen. Chime in but keep them talking to see the dynamic of the group.

Guys (unless they are orbiting) will help and most will back down if you seem fun and interesting as it's lame to kick out a guy due to being a jealous insecure bitch.

Same with women in groups literally trying to egg on your mark to go home with you.

Isolate when you are good with the group, Kino and push to get her turned on. Push and pull so she chases a bit.

If this helps, I'll circle back and post some additional suggestions for lone woman approaches in bars.

TheDevilPutD · 2021-04-19T05:12:42+00:00

Girls approach all the time just not it the "how you doing way". They will hover, give eye contact, dance in your line of sight, make up excuses to order a drink next to you, etc.

If you are lazy, you can hang out with your back against the bar and just observe. When you get "approached" by a chick just to over and say hi. Banter a little bit, be fun. Turn the interaction in her hitting on you fast. If she looked at you, you can tease her about it like "well, you were looking at me so you also have to talk to me". If she says, what no way, I wasn't looking at you, then just say "okay I was wrong then, my bad, maybe it was your friend over there that looked at me, okay bye" and pretend to leave. Do stuff like this. But don't have any expectations that they will to hone wi try you or anything. Remember, real alphas have an abundance of women so they don't have to go after each one like a hungry wolf.

michael1962-01 · 2021-04-19T05:45:59+00:00

Read "The mack within" book.

Boldness without creepiness or clowniness trumps all.

You look good enough?

Try

"Hi." (Broad smile no name) "If i have another drink i have to go upstairs." (Hotel lobby)

got me drink and keycard ..

"Hi" (broad confident smile) "i have seen that flash of the eyes before." (Pause , touch her) "shall we ask my tarot cards what the future holds?"

Then just take the hand and lead.

Buying a drink?

Why should you ever?

chodoboy86 · 2021-04-19T22:17:49+00:00

A good one I used to do when they wanted a drink was tell them we can play the lying game to get a drink. Its really simple, you ask 5 questions and they have to lie on each one. You win I buy you a drink, I win you buy me one.

Ask them these questions (or similar).

"Who's your favourite friend/co-worker?" (Good if they're in a group)
"What colour shirt are you wearing?"
Fein disinterest "I think I'm going to lose, what's your favourite drink?"
stall for a few seconds, straight face "which one are we up to?"
quickly respond pretending to be annoyed "you've played this before haven't you?!?!"

If they don't fall on number four, the snappy response on 5 gets them every time.

If the IOIs are flowing before you play this you can use the reward for winning to be an escallation, like a kiss. I've used this countless times.

Title	Approaching in a bar
Author	mikenike21
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	April 19, 2021 2:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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