Approval-Seeking, dealing with that curse

ast201 · 2017-09-15T04:16:11+00:00

one thing I've been doing since TRP is asking myself questions before I speak. So if I'm talking to a friend, before I say something, I'll think why do I want to say this? If the answer is ever "ego" or "validation" I don't say it.

Gipsonsg87 · 2017-09-15T04:53:53+00:00

The less of a fuck you give.

The happier you'll be.

PracticedPrick · 2017-09-15T05:31:41+00:00

It's funny I used to wonder "how can I make girls like me" and only years later did I realise that it was exactly this mindset which repulsed them.

Take them (all other people) off their pedestal. They are cowardly, selfish, insecure pieces of shit. They'll fuck you over if you let them. People will treat you as badly as you let them. That should tell you everything.

The only worthwhile approval is your own.

OfficerWade · 2017-09-15T10:26:16+00:00

Pro tip: if you don't know what to say, don't say anything.

Dmva100 · 2017-09-15T12:45:20+00:00

A good mentality to have to kill this part of the beta within you is to always come from the position of 'fuck this person, what are they doing for me?' Without actually displaying that demeanor.

It's not so much about approval seeking as it is fear of being selfish and putting your needs above others.

BobbyPeru · 2017-09-15T04:58:55+00:00

This simply means you haven't internalized frame yet. It takes time and a lot of work.

When did you start swallowing the pill?

Title	Approval-Seeking, dealing with that curse
Author	Seyden
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	September 15, 2017 3:18 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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