"Get better, not bitter" - becomes seemingly harder and harder

tatsel74 · 2017-01-15T06:59:14+00:00

I think I understand you, I love women, I really do, but if I could take a pill and completly forget about women sometimes I would gladly take it. Its a bit absurd, I understand that self improving should be teh goal, but fuck lets be honest, we do it because we want to get her. I think we are not really choosing, we r just obeying a mix of hormone and social impulses, fuck that.

Jacob_961 · 2017-01-15T12:23:28+00:00

Think of it this way.

You are attracted to beautiful women rather than ugly ones, let's be fair.

Women are attracted to strong, ambitious, successful men.

You don't do it for the girl. You do it for yourself so that you can get the girl that you want.

If you want a house, you save up money to buy the house. You are not saving for the house. You are saving for yourself so that you can buy the house you want.

You are not working hard to get "a girl", you are working hard for the kind of girl you are attracted to. Dumpster level girls don't care if you work out, meditate, have a good career. They don't care if you treat them well, have morals, or have anything going for you. So you are not working for a girl. You are working for the girl you are attracted to and if that is not worth it for you, then maybe you don't really want quality which is OK. But the only thing worse than having low standards is having high standards but not willing to work for it. So hope this gave your efforts some purpose. It's not about the girl, it's about you. You want the house so you save the money. You want the attractive girl so you become attractive yourself. That is worth the price times a million.

DariusSSfJ · 2017-01-15T10:54:11+00:00

Few questions:

-How long you've been on this self-improvement path? -What results do you get now and what's your goal/what results you would consider a "success"? -How long have you been feeling bitter?

The point is, self-improvement doesn't mean that your life will just get better and better, and better, without any pitfalls. In reality, it's messy. There are fluctuations and sometimes you feel unstoppable, like you could do no wrong and other times you can't help but wonder if you're just wasting your time and it's some sort of elaborate scam.

But then when you've been at it for years, you look back and where you've been and smile, because despite the current struggles, you're much better off than you used to be. And that's the point.

Xanarxses · 2017-01-15T15:09:12+00:00

Bro, if I could give up I would.

If I could just fucking... Uninstall the red pill.

I would.

But... y'know I can't.

That's the worst part about this feeling.

Is that you're forced to cope with it somehow.

Title	"Get better, not bitter" - becomes seemingly harder and harder
Author	Seyden
Upvotes	15
Comments	5
Date	January 15, 2017 12:54 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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