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| 2 | Is driving an hour to meet up with a woman doing to much?Depends on the girl. If she is worth it and is putting an effort from her end also in other ways, go for it. | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Girl with holding sex?I wouldn't deal with it. If she wants to sleep with you but isn't sleeping with you, it means she doesn't want to sleep with you. My suggestion is to take it one step at a time. Ask her to remove her close but keep her panties on. Just keep your boxer on. You will get a hard on, just start dry humping her and get her turned on. Suck on her nipples, side of the neck, get her turned on, choke her lightly while you suck on her nipples, the standard stuff. At some point, maybe like 1 hour in and yes… | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys agree that women in dating apps average 2-3 points lower in real life compared to their pics?You sound bitter. | /r/seduction | 29/12/21 05:48 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]"I thought we had a connection but I haven't heard from you in a while. I'm still interested in you and I would like to see you. If you are up for, I'd like to see you again. Let me know if you are willing to see if there is anything worth exploring between us." | /r/seduction | 24/12/21 10:23 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]In this sub, this could well be a legitimate post | /r/seduction | 18/12/21 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Ok so let’s say you get a girl over to your place. How do you sexually escalate?Wan some fuc? | /r/seduction | 13/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Honestly I wouldn't date you if I was a girl. I don't care what you have. The first level is how you make the girl feel around you. You want validation so bad that you are repulsing women even before they get a chance to get to know you. Cut out tinder first of all, it is useless and it will get you shitty women. If you talk to women because you want to talk to them, have fun with them, and you enjoy their presence and you enjoy pushing their buttons, talking to women will stop being the chore y… | /r/seduction | 12/12/21 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Do women know when a guy is horny as they are dancing on him in the club?When I am fucking the girl and she is moaning and she is wet, does that mean she is horny? Should I continue thrusting or stop? | /r/seduction | 18/11/21 01:09 PM |
| 1 | My goal is to have my first date by the time I'm 40.Why first date by 40? You should be tearing it out now. Whoever you find attractive. Say hi and ask for a date. It's really that simple bro. Not all will be up for it but many will. The mistake in this community is that you want a full proof plan and any rejection is taken seriously. Don't try to be attractive or play games, it will burn you out. Just say hi and take it from there. Women are desperately looking for guys but you need to make it easier for them. Fucking is not a success. It is a g… | /r/seduction | 31/10/21 07:00 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Both of you are playing games. Honestly, it doesn’t seem that you even know what you want. Girl is the crazy type also. What happened is very much expected. | /r/seduction | 27/10/21 05:37 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I’m sorry to hear about your head injury. I hope your sharpness has not declined significantly. In all cases, it’s fine if you want to go on dates but honestly for anything long term, you have to reduce your standards a lot. Even if you make 20k/year it’s still better than making nothing. Do what you can with what you got and hope for the best. | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | 25Male, never had a girlfriend and I find it extremely difficult to find happiness in this loneliness.You’re overcomplicating bro. Are you attracted to every girl? No. Similarly girls have their types and each is different. There is no magic way to be attractive to all women. The point is that if you believe that any woman would be lucky to have you, your chance of success will be dramatically higher than if you think you have no hope with women. The main takeaway from my post is that if a woman shows no interest or is wish washy, don’t be afraid to drop them. Don’t act super cool and just try t… | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 05:16 AM |
| 8 | 25Male, never had a girlfriend and I find it extremely difficult to find happiness in this loneliness.Dude... you have to understand that girls are dying to get a guy. This goes against PUA creedo but when you are trying just to fuck a girl without any real feelings and you're trying to play it all cool which is generally what you are taught if you consume any pick up material, it's going to be really hard to get a chick. It's possible but you can only attract girls that are only looking for dick. Once you understand that it is very rare for a girl to have a guy commit to her and that she has a … | /r/seduction | 12/09/21 10:52 AM |
| 5 | First date ever at 28 and got rejected next dayI didn't want to get dropped home early You were never going to be dropped home early. You wanted her to be on the defensive instead of you trying to qualify yourself. I only said "let talk about that" Facepalm number two. Understand that this is not a thing you can say. Dude it is clear to me that you are messed up honestly and how people would think normally, you don't and that is fine for now but you need to change. Do you have a good job? Some good money flowing? Emotional dysfunction does n… | /r/seduction | 14/07/20 07:53 AM |
| 5 | First date ever at 28 and got rejected next dayYou’re gonna get ripped here. Be prepared for it: let’s talk about sex was a facepalm moment. Makes you sound like a sociopath. when she says “red flag” or comments negatively about you, you don’t try to defend yourself. You just say I enjoy the company of people that care for me deeply and I don’t like crowds and if it truly a red flag, you should probably drop me home because you’re gonna be wasting your time. ... like this she will apologize and she will treat you better. when a girl texts yo… | /r/seduction | 14/07/20 06:05 AM |
| 7 | Guys what is the first thing you notice on a girl?If you want random men to approach you, you have to advertise yourself, which means wear nice clothes that fit well to your body and preferably show some skin in a tasteful way. A bit of make-up can definitely help. If you want guys to message you on insta, you have to put up some Instagram stories, preferably where you are looking hot or doing some activity that you are good at. For social circle, just position yourself next to the guy you like, increase the playful touches, flirt once in a whi… | /r/seduction | 26/05/20 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Need the TruthThe girl doesn't know you are a virgin and it is not something that you need to disclose anyway. No girl will ask you if you are a virgin or not. | /r/seduction | 07/05/20 12:04 PM |
| 1 | I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do itGood post. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 06/05/20 11:58 AM |
| -6 | I Have Been Doing Cold Approach For 2 Years Now: This Is How I Went From Kissless Handholdless Virgin To 15 Lays In 1 MonthI don't give a shit what you call it. Cut the kid some slack. | /r/seduction | 02/05/20 08:05 PM |
| 12 | I game but not with hot womenNow you're getting it. | /r/seduction | 09/04/20 10:57 AM |
| 3 | How do you know of a girl is into you and not just being nice to you?Just flirt and see if she reciprocates. If so set up a date. | /r/seduction | 26/03/20 06:44 AM |
| 1 | [Field Report] I walked a girl out of my place: my recent experienceI would have just taken her phone away from her but still good. | /r/seduction | 24/03/20 05:52 AM |
| 1 | How to get my boyfriend interested in sex againIf the low sex drive thing happened after antidepressants, it’s because of the meds. Otherwise, you have to talk to him. Once every 3 months is not normal. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 05:41 AM |
| 1 | I'm a 24 year old male virgin - help/adviceMost guys are bad in bed even though they are not virgins. Don't sweat it. You get good really fast unless you have underlying issues like PE or something else. If genetically you're fine, you get good really fast. | /r/seduction | 09/01/20 12:52 PM |
| 2 | How to approach girls in a country where it's a taboo to even date or FWB?Tinder is still a thing. If you have your own place, it shouldn't be that hard to find hoes online. Otherwise your best bet is to have a social circle filled with women. You will either date the girls from the circle or get introduced so others. | /r/seduction | 05/01/20 10:41 AM |
| 33 | Chasing Women Vs. Attracting WomenNot fapping or having sex for 90 days actually DECREASES testosterone. Use it or lose it actually does apply. | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 01:17 PM |
| 16 | What do you feel about this?Honestly it does make sense. Online dating and social media opened up the game a lot more for women so for women to find very attractive men is much easier than before. The lack of friction has made it easier for women to find highly attractive men to fuck with. | /r/seduction | 31/10/19 05:55 PM |
| -1 | What do you feel about this?100% truth. | /r/seduction | 31/10/19 05:51 PM |
| 7 | Saw the texts my friend gets opened my eyesIf you are hungry you look for food, not something else. If you are starved for pussy, the good career will not fill that void. You play the hand you are dealt. | /r/seduction | 29/10/19 09:27 AM |
| 4 | Can get numbers....But dates are getting hard to come by. Tips?Dude... your text game sucks. There is no emotional spiking at any point. It's not a value problem. "There is this great sushi place that you would love. Let me know when you are free because I'd like to see you." It is not amazing but at least it's much better than "was nice to meet ya" and sushi this weekend is a bit too broad. She will say yes and flake. More emotional spiking and more concrete timings. | /r/seduction | 10/10/19 08:53 AM |
| 0 | Netflix's Lucifer is a women's romance novel in disguise.Fat ugly girls are unattractive. However, fat ugly girls do get laid. Does that disprove that fat ugly girls are unattractive? No. The exception does not define the rule. | /r/seduction | 07/10/19 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Netflix's Lucifer is a women's romance novel in disguise.I understand. Whenever anyone talks anything about genetics, people link it to determinism that you are forever limited based on your genetics which is not true. I actually really like the book the red queen because although it is observational theory, it is the closest thing we have of describing human mating behavior. Also, for the second point, that behaviors change, it is true and even the author Matt Ridley points out to it that we are very adaptable when it comes to what we consider a high… | /r/seduction | 02/10/19 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Netflix's Lucifer is a women's romance novel in disguise.What? Scientific theory cannot be referenced in relation to human sexual pattern? I thought this was a seduction subreddit. I do not believe I was out of line with the comment specifically since OP is trying to dissect the appeal of the show Lucifer. Just one guy got his panties twisted because of preconceived notions. I don't believe I am in the wrong here with all due respect. | /r/seduction | 01/10/19 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I will leave this hereUnfortunately progress is never linear. For months you plateau and then you level up. The higher your level the slower you level up. Elite sports people hit their peak and then even get worse despite massive continuous effort and practice. 1% improvement a day is super unrealistic, unless we are talking about beginner gains. It's a good post but no human being gets 37.7x better at anything in a year no matter what. It's still a good post for motivation. | /r/seduction | 25/09/19 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls for the confidence boost, not for sex?I rather just fuck. I don't put in an effort if there is not something I want from the girl. | /r/seduction | 23/09/19 06:59 AM |
| 12 | I ask a girl out and got rejectedSo what... 90%+ of girls will reject you. That's just the reality of being a man in 2019. You're not approaching 70% of the female population in your age range so you're not above it either so just accept it and move on. | /r/seduction | 21/09/19 07:10 AM |
| 36 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.It’s in your head. I’ve seen enough butt ugly men get gorgeous women to understand that women are blind as fuck. If they feel good around you, that’s all the value that is needed. | /r/seduction | 05/09/19 06:56 AM |
| 1092 | Here's everything I've learned about women, dating, sex, PUA, and seduction in my decades of life.I’ve had 500 approaches and 1 lay. Top that big shot. | /r/seduction | 04/09/19 09:02 PM |
| -4 | I need help desperately man...Dude... word of advice I wish I took myself when I was your age. Pay for sex until being sexual around a women seems more natural to you. I didn't have the balls to see myself as a sexual being until I actually ended up sleeping with a girl at 24. She did all the fucking work and she hadn't initiated, I would probably still be a virgin. Just fuck a couple of hookers and be honest that you have no real experience with women and ask them to teach you some stuff. It will be worth the money you spen… | /r/seduction | 26/08/19 11:57 AM |
| 19 | Is this a weird first date?Do the furniture thing. Order some food, have some drinks and make a move. She likes you and is making it easier for you. Don't overthink it. She wants you. | /r/seduction | 22/08/19 03:41 PM |
| 6 | My confidence is ruined because of my size. What to do?4.7" girth is above average. It's in your head. Your ex wants a monster cock. It has nothing to do with you. | /r/seduction | 19/08/19 04:36 PM |
| 5 | My confidence is ruined because of my size. What to do?6 inch penis is not small dude. You're average sized like 90% of men. Your ex is whack. | /r/seduction | 19/08/19 04:18 PM |
| 9 | How to Get Laid Tonight (Even If You're Only Mediocre With Women)It's in your head bro... I've seen ugly ass short ethnic guys have dimes swooning over them. All guys get rejections. Don't try to understand why women reject. It's a default mechanism. I've approached ugly ass bitches and they give worse rejections than the pretty ones. It's all a shit show. Don't read into rejections and it's not because you are ethnic or that you are short. I'm genuinely convinced that women are blind as fuck but I've seen so many ugly ass out of shape guys get dimes, it's no… | /r/seduction | 14/08/19 04:02 PM |
| 5 | What should I do next?I would give it space until she initiates. When she does, write to her that you want to cut the bullshit and that you guys should meet up soon. Arrange a date near your place and go for the close. If you fluff too much, she will lose interest. She wants a boyfriend, not a friend, despite all the bullshit she tries to pull off, deep down she wants a guy to fuck her brains out. | /r/seduction | 08/08/19 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Why is my night game so inconsistent?Some girls will like you, some girls will not. Night game is always inconsistent. | /r/seduction | 08/08/19 10:58 AM |
| 0 | "You're a great guy, but I don't find you attractive"Dude... first of all. Just fuck a couple of hookers and get it over with. One of the reasons you're not sexual with women is because you've never been sexual before. Just find hookers you find attractive and blow a couple of hundred bucks and let them educate you a bit. Secondly, you might want to consider medication if you are truly having panic attacks. There doesn't seem to be anything massively wrong with you. It's just that you don't know how to sexualize interactions because it's not somet… | /r/seduction | 08/08/19 10:20 AM |
| 1 | I tend to be very judgmental towards others in my head, which has lead me to become self-conscious about myself because I tend to think people have that same thinking pattern as me. Advice?Yep... I'm that guy. I got an offer to work there and I accepted, not too much to the story. I did well and got promoted a couple of times and the company's corporate culture fit my personality so I'm happy with my career up until this point. Love life is another story. | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 07:39 AM |
| 1 | 30+ "greatly inexperienced" guys, how you deal with envy and resentment?This is a bit off-topic, but I would be interested as to what led you to describing this girl as particularly "dumb" or whatever. Just as a curiosity, really! She used to stare at the ceiling for 3 seconds every time anyone asks a question. Maybe a bit of asbergers or something. Never really went too much into it. She was a good person though, very decent. So now that we got that out of the way, let's tackle the lack of control thing. Genetics puts a lot of cap on potential but potential is stil… | /r/seduction | 07/08/19 07:37 AM |
| 1 | I tend to be very judgmental towards others in my head, which has lead me to become self-conscious about myself because I tend to think people have that same thinking pattern as me. Advice?Nah bro... I live in a 1 bedroom apartment alone in the heart of Dubai. Work out 6 times a week, and I have friends that rent out maids rooms pulling several times a week sometimes. Not a hyperbole. Every person I meet at one point will tell me they think I am good looking. Yet, I have never had a girlfriend in my life. 90% of my lays are from Tinder and I have religiously gone out at least 3 times a week for night game for the past 6 months. Got 2 dates from like 30-40 numbers. I definitely imp… | /r/seduction | 06/08/19 05:29 AM |
| 3 | How do i develop the mentality that I am enough?Joe Rogan said something in passing that made an impression on me. Being extra horny is not always a good thing. If you are with a girl because you just want to fuck her, it's not gonna be a good thing. When you are meeting a girl, is she really someone you would consider dating? Stop thinking what do I need to do to get this girl. You've done your thing, you got the good body, you are going up in your career, start looking is this girl worth trying for. The girl will really start to qualify her… | /r/seduction | 05/08/19 10:44 PM |
| 1 | 30+ "greatly inexperienced" guys, how you deal with envy and resentment?Why do you care? I lost my v-card when I was 24 y/o to a girl I would consider a 3/10 overall (5 looks; 2 intelligence). Anyway, it never bothered me and it hasn't bothered me till now. I'm 30 y/o now, slept with 10 women overall. No long term relationships to speak of. What other people do is none of your business. I've never understood regret and envy. If you go back in life given the same circumstances, you would do the exact same thing so what's the point of beating yourself up for something… | /r/seduction | 05/08/19 09:00 AM |
| 1 | I tend to be very judgmental towards others in my head, which has lead me to become self-conscious about myself because I tend to think people have that same thinking pattern as me. Advice?Honestly. Yes. Likely it will be more difficult. I've seen so many ugly loser men get hot women that it is not even funny. Long term it will likely be harder but for short term, it's much more about vibe and how you present yourself rather than any real achievements. I'm genuinely convinced women are blind because ugly short guys with annoying voices and weird ass personalities pull wayyy more than me in our pick up group. I make 6 figures, am built like a fucking truck and have a better quality… | /r/seduction | 05/08/19 06:57 AM |
| 1 | I tend to be very judgmental towards others in my head, which has lead me to become self-conscious about myself because I tend to think people have that same thinking pattern as me. Advice?I had the same behavior because I had it fixed in my brain that I was not good enough in general and that I needed to be on top of my game all the time to even be considered of value. Otherwise, might as well be dropped in the ocean as a waste of a human being. You can see how much anxiety that produces when you are constantly trying to prove yourself and how weird you interact with people when you are trying to always show that you are smart. I had a realization in a drug induced state (ampheta… | /r/seduction | 04/08/19 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Why are we so insecure?Of course there is. Everyone now goes to the gym, travels to like 40 countries, strives to make a lot of money, constantly improving. There was not this culture before. Honest man living was enough. The girl would leave her house and live with the in laws. Expectations have changed and competition is wayyyy more. It is all part of the competition. | /r/seduction | 04/08/19 10:43 AM |
| 2 | Why are we so insecure?It's a bit of a cultural thing. Women now have a lot more options. Giving women more choice would seem to benefit men. However, it is quite the opposite. Biologically women are attracted to the top 10% of guys in terms of sexual value. So more choice benefits the top 10% and hurts the bottom 90%. 100 years back there was no way a guy could have slept with 100 women, barring prostitution services, without being beat up by the village mob and the women being labeled whores forever. Women has so mu… | /r/seduction | 04/08/19 07:41 AM |
| 5 | Can't Seem To Get Any Girls To Talk To MeJoin the club. You’re probably boring on an emotional level. That’s my problem. Emotional stimulation just for the sake of emotional stimulation is empty for me as is the case for a lot of guys. Girls love empty conversations and I genuinely can’t stand it. Hence, it gets boring for her. | /r/seduction | 28/07/19 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Best female friend as wingman?You are wayyyyy overthinking this. The whole point of getting a girl that is also a friend is that she sets you up with her friends. Don't outright ask her out to be your wing but ask her to set you up with some of her friends she thinks you will get along with. It's that simple. Ask her to play cupid for you and use her magic powers. You will be flooded with dates if she has that huge of a social circle. | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Am I coming off too strong?Depends on the context. It's not too rough but there is not enough context to understand the situation correctly. Either way, not too rough but it is definitely a hail mary attempt. Good luck with the response. | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 02:27 PM |
| 1 | One night stand and STD’s?Wear a condom. Transmission rates per act are very low. If you fuck 500 women just once using a condom, you probably still won’t get anything. Most stds are symptomless for a lot of people also. Nothing in life is risk free. | /r/seduction | 23/07/19 05:35 AM |
| 1 | When women have a boyfriend but seem interested, do they expect you to pursue them regardless?Many people have differing opinions on this. In my view, if the guy is not your friend, you don't owe it to the guy to not follow on hints from the girl. However, I would not date the girl. If she has so low morals that she would cheat on her boyfriend, she's gonna do that to you also when a shinier object comes along. There is a certain level of personal satisfaction sleeping with a girl who has a boyfriend. It is a piece of shit thing to do but hey, the mating game was never intended to be pre… | /r/seduction | 22/07/19 05:22 PM |
| 7 | One is next to Zero, or how to create AbundanceEasier said than done but nice write up. | /r/seduction | 22/07/19 05:18 PM |
| 1 | A girl from work used a seduction technique on me yesterday.Girls have more leeway in seduction. A girl can just get you to her room, get naked and start dancing for you at it's over. This is not a seduction technique, she's a girl, she can get away with more. If you get a girl to your room and get naked and start dancing, there is a good chance she will scream. | /r/seduction | 08/07/19 05:29 AM |
| 2 | How can I get out of the mindset that girls are thinking negatively of me?Not disagreeing with you but if you are past 30 and are still a proud owner of a v card. Just go ahead and fuck some hookers. It won’t detract you from meeting a decent woman but in the end it comes down to personal values. No one is forcing you to do anything you don’t want to do and I applaud you for sticking to your values. So good luck my man. Best of luck. | /r/seduction | 28/06/19 06:06 AM |
| 2 | How can I get out of the mindset that girls are thinking negatively of me?Just pay for it. Legal or no. | /r/seduction | 28/06/19 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Not sure if the first date went completely wrong or okayI feel like I’m just being a pussy and should just tell her this and ask her how she feels but I want to ask you guys first. Fuck no. Don't do this. How is crying to the girl gonna get you laid? You have one and only one problem, you didn't sexualize things during the date. If you just have fun during the date, she will not see you as a sexual object and she will get turned off sooner or later. It was not the conversation. You can have the most mind blowing conversation and go deep down into her… | /r/seduction | 27/06/19 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Women see me as a master fuckboy, when paradoxically, I can't get any girls at all. How do I shake the impression?Usually when I get the fuckboi comment, it means it's on. Girl logic goes like this, if the girl finds you attractive, she assumes all women find you attractive. Now think about it, if all girls are attracted to you and you are a guy, it's not too far flung to assume that you are fucking left and right. This is girl logic for you sir. Just push for a meet, don't address the fuckboi comment, there is no way to convince the girl you are loyal so don't try to. Just push for the meet, up the flirtin… | /r/seduction | 27/06/19 01:39 PM |
| 3 | How can I get out of the mindset that girls are thinking negatively of me?Have the same problem. I can't accept the girl is into me until I get shitloads of proof. That is she sleeps with me multiple times, at least 3 times and does not nag about anything. Only then maybe. And she doesn't ask me to spend money just for the fuck of spending money, like asks for expensive meals or gifts, etc... all have to happen and only then I can go, oh this girl is into me. | /r/seduction | 27/06/19 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Any good seduction/PUA YouTubers?James Tusk is legit | /r/seduction | 19/06/19 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Just tried Day Game for the first time at the Mall.Well done. You did better than most guys. | /r/seduction | 15/05/19 11:20 AM |
| 3 | Can I be really nice and date an attractive woman?If it’s working, keep doing you. Being decent with women hasn’t gotten me results with women yet. I have yet to meet an attractive woman that values decency. | /r/seduction | 08/05/19 05:08 PM |
| 2 | RSD Derek 10 commandments of game full version 💥💯I am selling for $9. | /r/seduction | 08/05/19 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Really tired of guys latching on to this idea that 6' + and 6 figure + guys get all the girls...The worst rejections I get are from ugly chicks. It's not a value game at least for cold approach. For relationship, probably it might matter a bit more but for the initial cold approach, it doesn't really matter if you are butt ugly. The amount of numbers that some of the objective 2's in our local seduction group get is mind blowing. Bad posture, no spine, no IQ, bad tonality, pussy guys get a boat load of numbers from cold approach. It is just that they are at the right place at the right tim… | /r/seduction | 06/05/19 09:38 AM |
| 171 | Went clubbing alone last night, this is how it wentYou had no problem getting between to dudes fighting to the death but saying hi to a girl you found attractive was somehow beyond your capacity. Get a wing that has no AA. It rubs off on you and it becomes ok for you also. My AA is down like 60% around a zero AA wing I have. Have 1 burn set. Your first set will never go well so burn it as fast as possible and then the rest of the night becomes significantly easier. | /r/seduction | 05/05/19 11:34 AM |
| 2 | I Deleted Tinder and Bumble.Where did I claim that I was good? Most of the pick up coaches went out for several months without any success. There was an ex RSD coach named Hoobie, short Asian guy. He went out 9 months straight every day before getting a kiss from cold approach, 12 months before his first lay from CA and this was in US, the highest country of ONS. I'm in a country where the gender ratio is 3.3 guys to 1 girl. That's an actual statistic btw so give me a break. | /r/seduction | 11/04/19 02:36 AM |
| 2 | I Deleted Tinder and Bumble.Be ready to fail more in cold approach. In Tinder the girl is already attracted to you. In cold approaches, that is not the case. 200 approaches I’ve done in the past 3 months, like 10 numbers, 1 date, 0 lays. At least 50% of sets are quick rejections. But skill improved greatly over time. Tinder is wayyyyy easier to get laid from and I get significantly less matches than you. Average is 1 easy lay per 2 months. I don’t put effort in Tinder and I’m not very active either. I invite the girl over … | /r/seduction | 10/04/19 04:36 PM |
| 3 | How do i approach the subject of a friends with benefits relationship?Tough honestly. It depends on how she sees you. You have to first create a situation where sex is possible. Secondly, she has to want to fuck you. Thirdly, if step 1 and 2 are achieved somehow, after you fuck her, you set the expectations. If she has strong feels for you, she might be crushed but that’s a risk you should be willing to take if you want to fuck her. | /r/seduction | 27/03/19 08:03 PM |
| 4 | My friend just sent me this when I was feeling down. I hope it helps someone else out there.Thank God. I would suffocate in pussy otherwise. Not good folks, not good. | /r/seduction | 27/03/19 07:56 PM |
| 46 | A simple trick to get more comfortable talking to girls.People underestimate how difficult it is to find 5 new people on a daily basis, let alone 5 new attractive women. I go out daily and I don't meet 5 new women on most days. Average is 3 to 5 sets a day. But it's not a "simple trick". It's a lifestyle change. | /r/seduction | 27/03/19 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Asked a girl out to a date via text never heard back from herMore like she would reschedule with you or make a grand apology for why she can't go out with you that day. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 10:16 AM |
| 2 | Asked a girl out to a date via text never heard back from herJust drop it. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 10:15 AM |
| 7 | I have a date.Well done. Nice story. | /r/seduction | 10/03/19 05:14 AM |
| 4 | As a late bloomer I'm finding out seduction is pretty straight forward and simple.Pua is for unattractive socially awkward guys. Of course the doctrine is going to be to approach everyone. Otherwise, if the unattractive socially awkward guy is going to wait for a girl to find him attractive, he's probably gonna die a virgin. | /r/seduction | 03/03/19 07:42 AM |
| 1 | I [22M] Have Not Initiated Any Physical Contact with My Date [26F] After 3 Dates. Advice/Perspective?If the girl does not like you, she won't go on a 3rd date, let alone a 4th. Just man up a bit and invite her at your place. You need a location where something can happen. Let her get comfortable at your place. If you still feel it's early. Invite her to your place on the premise that you will have a drink together and then go for dinner and actually go for dinner afterwards. 5th date just invite her over and have food at your place, put a movie or something, some good music, whatever and go for… | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 09:16 AM |
| 5 | Sends nudes but that's itInvite her for drinks at your place followed by dinner. You will probably end up smashing. | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Playboy Lingerie for VdayGF of the year award goes to u/Foxredlocks | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 07:41 AM |
| 2 | The 100 Girl's Number ChallengeBon chance | /r/seduction | 13/02/19 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Seducing your S/O?Post it r/relationships. More long term relationships exist there. Here guys have either difficulty or lack desire for long term relationships. | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 11:14 AM |
| 6 | Is being a cute guy better than being a hot guy?Unless you spend on them, money will not help you. Rich man game is very costly and unsatisfying if you are looking for a real connection. I'm not rich but I have my own place, no roommates, I bring in low 6 figures a year and I have issues bedding good looking girls. I have a friend that makes next to nothing working 12 hours a day at a shitty job and he slays hotties left right and center. Personality trumps money always. And money game is costly. I had a Porsche, a newer model at that for a y… | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 07:05 AM |
| 3 | Is being a cute guy better than being a hot guy?There is always investment risk. The better looking the partner, the higher the investment risk. For girls the risk is that you will not stay with her and it does sting her but it's always better to be more desirable than less desirable. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Way more attention at school when I start dating a girl.That’s it. Good job. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 05:27 AM |
| 1 | If I can't even approach a girl who IOIs then what the fuck can I do?Getting a wing will help and the problem is only the 1st approach. Next time when you go out consider the first "set" the burn set. Find the ugliest girl that you wouldn't mind losing and say hi. The point is to just burn a set. Once that is done, the other sets will flow much easier. This is tried and tested and it works 100% of the time to get you in the flow. | /r/seduction | 01/02/19 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Asking Out Acquaintances and Getting RejectedSo you had 4 rejections and you're concerned? Try getting 8 rejections daily for a couple of months and things will change. | /r/seduction | 28/01/19 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Is this girl into me?She's still into you. Everything was on except the sex. As for why it did not happen, I don't know. A girl inviting you to her place is kinda a fuck invite. However, despite the no fucking, everything else is on point. You guys made out, she invited you to her place, she even dropped you back, gave you a goodbye kiss and asked you to message her. If she wasn't into you at all, she would have asked you to take a cab. Anyway, just set up a second date near your place if you live alone and seal the… | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 03:52 PM |
| 1 | When to make the next date?I mean don't set up a date for Saturday on Monday. It's too far. However, seeing that you see each other every day, you can do it. Usually, when you set a date too far down the line, the magic goes away and she will flake. Your situation is a bit different as there is daily contact so you have a lot more leeway. The magic will not die out. | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 02:07 PM |
| 4 | When to make the next date?First check when you are available. There is little point in setting a date for 5 days later. Secondly, obviously you will see her at work so propose the next date in person. Using text to set up a date is like making a doctor's appointment. You have the option of setting up the date in person, use it. And happy for you. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Richand La Ruina or Mystery?Don't read any book. Just go out. | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Is it too late to start from scratch?It's obvious you have things stacked against you but improvement is always possible. | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 11:22 AM |
| 14 | how can i balance between being interested, and needy?How many hundreds do you have sir? | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 10:26 AM |
| 7 | A reminder why you should approach every women you’re attracted toYes. But women by and large don't tolerate rejection all that well. Men are by and large are more competitive and we tolerate rejection quite well. Our ego is quite strong and we can be virgins and think that we are God's gift to humanity despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. | /r/seduction | 22/01/19 03:59 PM |
| 2 | No woman is ever interested. I don't know what to do!I like that book but it's really simplistic and kills your drive to work. Not recommended if you have a career. | /r/seduction | 22/01/19 04:53 AM |
| 1 | How do you learn to get over rejections?You shouldn't care if she doesn't like you. You don't lose anything if she doesn't like you. You had 0 girls before talking to her and you had 0 girls after talking to her. There is no loss in this situation so don't care about it. Most girls will not like you as you don't like most girls. You are rejecting 80% of the girls you don't approach. The girls are not butthurt you didn't approach them so don't get butthurt when a girl is not interested even if she genuinely didn't like you for who you … | /r/seduction | 18/01/19 11:20 PM |
| 4 | Is nice guys that bad?I'm with you. Decent guys exist that are not pushovers. The problem is women react more to emotions than logic. You could be a smart, driven, successful, ambitious person with good values. The girl cannot determine that in the initial 5 seconds of the pick up. You have to go in thinking you are worth her fucking with and you have to show her you have choice with women through your sub communications in the initial 5 seconds of the interaction or else you're not going to be given a chance. No gir… | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 12:08 PM |
| 8 | How to get a guy to kiss me?Your boy is a bit shy. You're gonna have to take one for the team. | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Why do women act so self-absorbed , stuck-up and cold ?No offense taken. Still trying to improve. | /r/seduction | 14/01/19 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Why do women act so self-absorbed , stuck-up and cold ?Fellow 29 y/o invisible human being. I'm average height but I'm above average looking cause I lift religiously so at least my body looks better than most guys. It's an attitude and personality thing. I get some tinder lays with 5s at most. When I do cold approaches, I don't get instant positive feedback and some of my friends that are objectively worse looking get the attention. It's a confidence and balls thing first of all. If you have any sort of fear or hesitation, women sniff that shit out … | /r/seduction | 13/01/19 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Potential date in next month, how often should I text?I’m lazy. I would rather start texting when she’s about to return or when she is actually back but this is just me. | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 05:07 PM |
| 9 | Technique doesn't matter if you're a mess. Fix yourself or don't bother.Agreed but keep going out also. A model looking ripped doctor will still not get approached. You still have to do the approaching. 99% of girls will not go out of their way to approach you in public. Active game is required always. | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 06:24 AM |
| 3 | (Long) The Concept of Attraction: How to Better Understand What Attracts a WomanSend voice notes, not texts if she is a late responder. I generally don't like women who play hard to get. It's a huge turn off so voice notes are generally better if you feel she's not investing. Higher response rate than texts. | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 12:36 PM |
| 6 | How did you become fuckbuddies with your current ones? And how regular you meet?Tinder fuck date. Sex was good so she texted me again. We meet once a week for sex. She asks to go out sometimes but I always say next week and next week never happens. It's still a fuck date. Another Tinder fuck date is lined up. But problem is quality is not very high. Beggars can't be choosers though so I'm fine with it. | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Why do I fear rejection from this girl? Where to from hereYou've been playing games for a year and it obviously hasn't been working. Show interest and intent and ask her out. Best case scenario, you meet for a date and there is obviously enough tension already that something good will happen. If she flakes, voice discontent for disrespecting your time and tell her take her time and get back to you when she is ready to respect you and your time. If she does not respond or respond negatively, drop her or ghost her until she apologizes and then some. (Jus… | /r/seduction | 07/01/19 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to date and seduce two women simultaneously?Honestly just ask them casually if they have ever slept together as part of an MFF thing? Ask just out of curiosity because you sense that kind of a vibe. If the answer is yes. Try to set up a threesome. Otherwise your best bet is to focus on the one that is into you more and sleep with her. It's unlikely you will sleep with them both separately but if you magically pull it off. You can push for a threesome as a next step. Your best bet is to just ask if they've slept together with a guy. If yes… | /r/seduction | 06/01/19 12:58 PM |
| 9 | Too often I see don’t hit on a girl at the gym...but damn some of these girls eyes are saying otherwiseThe girls at my gym are constantly scanning. The concept of clothing is lost on the girls at my gym. The smallest sports bras and the tightest yoga pants or whatever those sports pants are called. They compete for attention but I haven't yet had the balls to approach a gym girl. Will try soon. | /r/seduction | 06/01/19 11:29 AM |
| 20 | Too often I see don’t hit on a girl at the gym...but damn some of these girls eyes are saying otherwiseIf anyone is successful with gym game, please write up a guide. Gym girls are hot as fuck. | /r/seduction | 06/01/19 10:16 AM |
| 13 | I've been coming to this subreddit for 6 years. I no longer have any desire to date or meet new women but at the same time I crave what's after.If you are using tinder and similar applications to meet people, stop and actually meet people in real life. Go for girls that you would want to spend a lot of time with rather than girls that will be easy lays. Your progression is really good. I wish I was at your stage when I was 23. It's quite a sign of maturity and a bit of a sign of depression. Keep working on yourself. It is possible to hook up without much going in your life if you are charming but for a long term relationship, you need t… | /r/seduction | 06/01/19 09:23 AM |
| 1 | How often are you guys “talking” to girls on a daily basis?Not really too much texting but at least approach 3-5 new girls a day. Age 29. Go out daily with wing for 1-2 hours a day.p | /r/seduction | 05/01/19 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Should I break up with her?You had 2 dates. It's a fling. There was no relationship for you to break up. Give her back your things and tell her you guys are not compatible and that it was lovely to meet her. Don't rip her soul out. Just say your not looking for a relationship at this point in time. | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 02:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you build your self esteem when all your friends look better then you?Because the Ferraris won't stay with them. Eventually they will settle for the Camry and secretly fuck the Ferrari on the side. The Camry will raise the Ferrari's kids. The end. | /r/seduction | 27/12/18 05:07 PM |
| 25 | Hit me like a truckYou have options too. There are as many men as there women so just because men do the active pursuing does not mean men don't have choice when it comes to women. Talk to more girls. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 02:09 PM |
| 3 | Told my female friend I wanna fuck her, now what?Concept was good. Execution was a huge flop. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Told my female friend I wanna fuck her, now what?It's not a misconception. The whole idea about the seduction community is that doing nothing does not get you women. Before attraction exists, you need to do stuff, flirt, demonstrate value, show some form of sexual intent. Once she's attracted, then doing more things to get the girl attracted is counterproductive. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 12:42 PM |
| 3 | Told my female friend I wanna fuck her, now what?It's not all or nothing at all. The girl obviously likes the guy. A push is what draws the girl in. Before the girl likes you, you need to chase. Once the girl likes you, you distance yourself to create tension and make it challenging. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Told my female friend I wanna fuck her, now what?She felt cheap. It's still on. Remember you too have been friends for a long ass time. When you see her, tell her you didn't mean to be too crass about it and that you like her. Invite her for drinks and then escalate to sex. She wants to fuck but women can't be that blunt about it. Proceed as planed. Ask her out for drinks and find a way to get her back to your place. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 12:34 PM |
| 5 | 22 M Virgin Needs help getting over Chronic OneitisIt's not an issue of persistence. The issue is that you are not making moves to escalate. You would rather have a good interaction than get laid. In the club, when you feel the girl is into you, ask for the number before ejecting at the very least. If you want to go further, ask for her hand and take her to the dance floor if you know how to dance or just isolate her and go for a make out. It doesn't matter if you get rejected. Your job as a man is to try. The man pursues, the woman resists. It'… | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 06:21 AM |
| 1 | [F28] SHY GUYS: How do I tell a potential (but extremely shy) guy that I'm in an open marriage and want to play, without scaring him away?Please update the story when you give it a shot. It's not really worth the hassle because this guy has to be convinced that nothing bad will happen out of it and that you really want him to get with you also and that the relationship will not change 100%. | /r/seduction | 23/12/18 12:30 PM |
| 5 | Don’t listen to mainstream opinions about “Nice Guys”You have to understand that there are 4 billion men also. It doesn't matter how many there are, the percentage of women that are in their prime and that you would settle for is quite low and in high demand. Most women go crazy for the top 20% of guys and regardless of where you stand the in terms of SMV, still the best tactic, as you said, is to throw the bait to a large enough audience and see who hooks and then pick and choose as you wish. Some guys have it exponentially easier than others and… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Can you smile too much?Smiling is ok. Keep it. | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 04:06 AM |
| 26 | My friend got asked out by my crush and it hurtsToo much of a pussy move. Better to risk friendship. The whole concept that the seduction community preaches is that there is no one girl that is destined for you. There is no "the one". There are quality girls and there are not so quality girls. The goal of the pick up and romantic pursuit in general is to find a quality girl that you have good chemistry with. That is all. That's what what we work towards, to be able to attract a quality girl. Not that one girl, any girl that fits the bill is f… | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 09:05 PM |
| 1 | My friend got asked out by my crush and it hurtsDude I've seen this first hand and the worst type of it happen to a friend of mine. They were best friends since childhood. The guy actually proposed to the girl 3 times over a period of probably 5 years. The girl was never interested in anything romantic but for my friend, she was special and he pursued her for years upon years, all the while remaining best friends. The girl ended up marrying her ex-fiance. You might not be in this bad, I doubt you are. But what you have is the mild version of … | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 09:04 PM |
| 2 | I WILL get gameHow old are you? Just curious. | /r/seduction | 18/12/18 01:11 PM |
| 1 | How to DHV non-verbally?Check out Mystery Method Volume 1-5. You can find it free on YouTube. I don't remember exactly in which volume grounding routines are explained but it's a very worthwhile watch, all the volumes. For example, out of memory, Mystery's grounding routine was that he was always into magic ever since his uncle bought him his first magic kit. He started practicing and eventually got someone to pay him $50 to entertain kids for a birthday party when he was 13 y/o. He failed miserably but still got paid … | /r/seduction | 17/12/18 02:58 PM |
| 2 | How to DHV non-verbally?Good posture and strong voice projection is a solid DHV. The problem is it is reasonably hard to fake good posture or have good voice projection if you generally don't speak loud and have poor posture. Smiling is a good DHV. If you have a smile on your face more often than not, it's a good indication that you are a happy person and most likely have a good life. It's very difficult to have a smile on your face often if your life is shit and you are a sad troll. Having a good physique is technical… | /r/seduction | 17/12/18 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Is it best to enter into game after getting married ?So now the goal of having a wife is to increase SMV? Get me out please. If you want an open relationship, more power to you. But marrying with the intention of using your married status to score is beyond stupid on so many levels, not to mention counterproductive. You're marrying a person. I didn't think this needed to be defended. | /r/seduction | 16/12/18 02:53 PM |
| 4 | Is it best to enter into game after getting married ?No offense but I genuinely think you are an idiot. If you really think having a wife is necessary to have high SMV, just tell the women you are dating that you are married. This question has so much retardation written all over it that it is hard to address each point of retardation individually. You need to turn to God my friend. Maybe he has answers for you. | /r/seduction | 16/12/18 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Where is W. Anton (Author of The Manual)?I liked the book but I don't feel it's the best way to live life. I've never seen him do an interview. Every time I read his book I become lazy and I don't work on my life. I did like the book though, not something I would recommend though. | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 08:33 AM |
| 3 | I Need to Get Laid in 17 DaysDude... own it. Just try it. | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 07:51 AM |
| 5 | I Need to Get Laid in 17 DaysTinder and put that in the description. "I've been fat my whole life and have always dealt with low self-esteem because of my body. I'm a virgin and I'm turning 30 on December 21st. I want to lose my virginity before I turn 30. It's just a personal goal of mine." | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 07:46 AM |
| 2 | If a girl flakes once should I try again or let her do the work?Legitimate flakes I can bear. She sent you the schedule. Just try again and if it flakes again... go next. | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Enjoy the chase but not the rewardI'm the complete opposite I hate the chase. I just want the end result. The chase is just the means to get that. Can you shed light about what goes on with your brain? How do you see women? What do you think they respond to? What about the chase is it that you like? Why? Thanks. Would be quite useful. | /r/seduction | 02/12/18 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Approaching girls everyday day 4Nice write up. Well done | /r/seduction | 01/12/18 08:33 AM |
| 10 | Are the type of girls we attract a reflection of who we are?I used to go for broken women also. It's phase that passed thankfully. It does say something about you. | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to just look?So you catch feeling from a single glance? Unlikely. I'm not saying you're wrong. Just very unlikely this is the case. | /r/seduction | 26/11/18 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Is it wrong to just look?Why are you so concerned about other people? This is a nice guy thing and trust me, 95% of women don't want you to start with so you can objectify them all you want. Pick up is about trying to find the attractive bunch within the 5% of women that will go for have the balls to escalate because even if the girl is into you, she will not make the move. It's you job as a man to do it so there you have it. | /r/seduction | 26/11/18 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Is it wrong to just look?This is a PUA thing. You don't have to approach every girl you see and you can check them out. Tits, ass, go nuts. Don't worry about it. | /r/seduction | 26/11/18 07:37 PM |
| 1 | How can I attract older men at a party?Can I ask how? Where do you meet 20 y/os as a 37 y/o? | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 11:23 AM |
| 3 | How can I attract older men at a party?Use Tinder. Easier to be anonymous. | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 11:21 AM |
| 8 | Girls get bored when sexual tension is missingI'm genuinely happy for you and I don't doubt that it was a pleasant experience for you. This is not the first story I've heard of massive effort and persistence made to "win" a girl. It's just that the PUA doctrine does not really encourage these kinds of lengthy attempts. Maybe we have this wrong. | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 05:55 AM |
| 22 | Girls get bored when sexual tension is missingI don't consider this a good story. The whole point of pick up is to not be the guy that begs for 2 months or have a girl that is not sure about you that you have to convince for a prolonged period of time. If this is what is required to get a wife, I think I like being single then. | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 04:39 AM |
| 3 | Tinder hookups according to this tinder chick I've been seeing, uhh what?Come to the middle east. The girl wouldn't even dare to go to your place on the first date. I wish a girl would be down for a date at my place. | /r/seduction | 18/11/18 05:54 PM |
| 1 | I'm aware I'm using women to validate myself and I want to stop.Regardless. It's over. Move on. There will be other girls and I'm sure you learned some stuff from the relationship. Move on. Never want someone that does not want you. It is a bad road to follow. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 09:52 AM |
| 0 | I'm aware I'm using women to validate myself and I want to stop.Stop crying over spilled milk. Why do you care about a person who no longer cares about you. Are you that damaged? It's a Tinder chick. Of course it's not gonna be a long term thing. Just keep doing your thing and continue going out. If you find a person you click with, great. Pursue it further. Your ex does not exist anymore, she is unimportant. If she breaks up and is single again, you have my blessing to pursue her again but as long as she is in a relationship, she does not exist in your real… | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 09:26 AM |
| 5 | Don't let online dating be your main way to meet womenSo cnn sauces don't count towards validating your thesaurus? | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 09:19 AM |
| 5 | 13 ways to make a girl want youYou're wrong, respectfully. Very old school thought. It doesn't apply as much anymore. The best women I've been with, I've slept on the first date. There is very little correlation between prudishness and being a high value person. Tone down the condescension also. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 09:08 AM |
| 1 | 13 ways to make a girl want youRule #1: Be attractive. Rule #2: Don't be unattractive | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 08:46 AM |
| 2 | 13 ways to make a girl want youYou have more of a chance with the less attractive guy and the less attractive guy will treat you better to compensate. For a night club fling with a guy you will probably never see again, you'll go for the model guy rather than the above average guy 99 times out of 100. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 08:43 AM |
| 5 | 13 ways to make a girl want youWomen who open their legs are not low value. Please correct yourself. Being highly sexual and being low value is not the same thing. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 08:39 AM |
| 2 | 13 ways to make a girl want youLook at Mr. Swave being able to count on one hand. I can count in one finger. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 08:37 AM |
| 2 | Finally read Models by Mark MansonModels never did anything for me honestly. I think I'm three only one. | /r/seduction | 12/11/18 09:16 AM |
| 1 | How do you protect yourself from bad women?You don't except bad treatment and you check your girl on every small disrespect she shows you. Check her on small things because there is no use checking her when things go out of hand. | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 05:19 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with "I have a boyfriend"If she says she has a boyfriend after you kiss, just disregard it and say everyone keeps a loyal dog around. Before kissing, you can use the same line but it's better just to leave it alone. | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 05:16 AM |
| 5 | Im 33 years old. Someone tell me it isnt too lateWomen are single way into their 30s. You’re fine. You won’t do street cold approaches but you can still do club game. The pick up rules will still and always apply to dating. It doesn’t really work for relationships but for dating as a single guy. It definitely has it’s perks. | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 08:32 PM |
| 5 | Tinder "date" adviceIt's a date... whatever a girl writes is irrelevant. She's a single girl. Hence, she is looking for dick. Whether she's looking for friends, tour guide or whatever to turn into boyfriend or fuck buddy is not your concern. Take her out, have fun and make your move. She rejects, persist a couple of more times until you break through or receive a hard no. It's always better to try to escalate than not try. I'll take an awkward escalation over not trying any day of the week. She will appreciate it t… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Taking a massive break from dating apps.Set dates either for the same day or the next. Morning dates are better than evening ones. Morning dates that you can stretch for more than 4 hours and can end up at your place have a high likelihood of going to fucksvile. Otherwise be a jacked model looking guy and get 4000 matches and just write "come over". Online game is king for mega good looking guys. Only game needed is "come over". | /r/seduction | 07/11/18 06:16 PM |
| 5 | How can I use money to attract women?Get some good wings and travel and do pick up abroad in Europe. It will take a couple of years to get good at learning how to attract women. You got money so who cares. Money is much less of a factor now especially if you're in the US. Go to poorer European countries and the high life will attract higher quality women to your life. Other than that, women can buy shit for themselves. If you're playing the status game, it will take a whole lot of money which is really not worth it even if you do h… | /r/seduction | 07/11/18 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Scared to tell a girl I'm attracted to her when I approach herThat's why you go indirect. Most guys are not good looking enough to go direct. Pre 1 minute game should be sky high for revealing interest to be a good play. For the rest of us mortals, we have to rely on post 1 minute game to up our perceived value. If you are a model looking human being or a celebrity, go direct. Otherwise, indirect is a better play. | /r/seduction | 06/11/18 03:42 PM |
| 8 | Cold approached a 10. My brain felt broken.People don't understand that cold approach success rate is very low, whether the girl is hot or not. A few percentage of the female population will like you no matter what, around 3%. 1/3 of them are attractive enough and available. So bottom line, don't take rejections personally. Most girls will not like you no matter what and that's ok. It's part of the game until you find the girl that you do it for her. There is an active element of game which is skill based. However a lot of game is passiv… | /r/seduction | 04/11/18 02:35 PM |
| -1 | (26, m) I've never been on a date and no woman has ever been interested in me, is it because of my looks? (pics included) Looking for honest feedbackYour facial features aren't weird. It's in your head. If you hit the gym, you could look really solid like an 8/10. Right now you are a 5-6/10 which is average, not ugly. Trust me, your looks are not the problem. I've seen way uglier guys with good looking women. Let me explain it to you this way, you don't have Ferrari looks, you have a Kia look which is fine, but your engine is a beat up 20 y/o fiat engine. If you had a Ferrari look, with a beat up 20 y/o fiat engine, people would look past th… | /r/seduction | 04/11/18 07:55 AM |
| 2 | (26, m) I've never been on a date and no woman has ever been interested in me, is it because of my looks? (pics included) Looking for honest feedbackLooks are not the problem. | /r/seduction | 04/11/18 07:42 AM |
| 5 | I told her I like her. Then what ?I vote giving it space. You don't want a girl that doesn't want you back at least as much if not more than you want her. You revealed your cards, let her process it and if she feels the same way, she'll let you know in due time. She likes you but it's gonna take some time. Go no contact for 3 days and ask her out, if she rejects, wait 2 weeks no contact and ask her out again. | /r/seduction | 03/11/18 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Why do I always get told to workout?You look better, women become easier. Strong correlation. It takes time, effort and dedication but worth it if your verbals suck. | /r/seduction | 01/11/18 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Non-partiers, have any of you tried dating a party girl? How did it turn out?You just temporarily party with them. Partying with a party chick is the most fun you will have in your entire life. | /r/seduction | 01/11/18 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Invited a girl for a walk and dinner she declined the dinner wants to do the walk. What does it mean?Walks are better. She's helping you. Plus you don't have to spend on dinner. It's a win for me. | /r/seduction | 01/11/18 08:57 AM |
| 2 | Any advice you post her would be downvoted in r/relationshipsThat's not the point. The point is here on r/seduction we really try to improve ourselves and use tactics and strategy just to get a decent woman and it is still hard. On r/relationships, seemingly good women who take care of total losers end up asking stupid question like "how can I make him clean after himself after playing video games all day when I support him financially?". And most advice you would find here, would be downvoted to oblivion in r/relationships. This is not a value post. I ju… | /r/seduction | 29/10/18 08:27 AM |
| 1 | "Do not go chasing butterflies, tend to your own garden and the butterflies will come."If you are an attractive rich doctor, a girl still will not come and open you. You still have to do the approach. Passive game makes you need active game less but you still need active game. No girl will approach you still unless you make the first move. | /r/seduction | 26/10/18 12:39 PM |
| 5 | Feeling Burnt OutYou're not in a bad place. This is a razor's edge away from being termed a first world problem. You're not fulfilled sexually. Your dating life and even relationship life feel fine. The lack of sexual fulfillment is turning you off which is fine. If it is a dealbreaker for you, just end it. Furthermore, this is not a PC community so advice will not always be PC. Just get a side girl since you don't seem to be unattractive. Every girl has her place. You got the "wife", just add a "mistress". It's… | /r/seduction | 25/10/18 06:39 AM |
| 36 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeDude... sometimes you just want a girl, that girl that you think you go well with. There is nothing wrong with wanting one special girl. It's when this one special girl does not want you back and you're trying to "get her back" and realize that you are really a good fit together for whatever reason, valid or just in your head. The point is even if you are right, the more you pursue a person that is not or no longer interested in you, at least interested in you less than you are interested in her… | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Met 2 girls but I like 1 moreGo for girl #1. | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 12:04 PM |
| 30 | Just matched with highschool crush on tinderDon't try to game her or be clever. Your job is to get a date. Focus on the objective and keep in mind female psychology. Be genuinely interested without being overly pushy. Don't try too hard but be genuinely interested. Don't overtext. If she's not engaging. One additional text is all you can do but that's it. If she's not responding, you let it go, she may initiate the next day or whatever. It's stupid female shit but it is what it is. Get her to talk about her a bit and set up a date within … | /r/seduction | 17/10/18 03:07 PM |
| 2 | 17 year old wants to fuck me.Give it to her as a birthday gift. | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 08:52 AM |
| 2 | Finally asked her outMoral of the story is get drunk and be naturally attractive and make sure the girl that you have a crush on sees you with other women throwing themselves at you. Wait for her to throw herself at you also and then tell her you're interested. Ok noted. Jokes aside, I'm happy for you. | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 06:35 AM |
| 3 | Why are comments like this allowed?It's called freedom of speech. It doesn't make the guy less of an asshole but I wouldn't say silencing the asshole should be the go to approach for this sub. You have to take into consideration that most people on this sub are frustrated themselves. It's more of a reflection of how this guy communicates with himself than actual advice. Every one can improve but your ceiling might be lower than most which is fine. You play the hand you are dealt and make the best of it. This is life. Keep your he… | /r/seduction | 08/10/18 07:22 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this? RSD is brought up a lot here and I’m doing one of their former instructors programsI don't see a problem with this post. Obviously there is no intention to rape the girl. If the girl is attracted to you but she has a logical block. Having the balls to go caveman, pin her to the wall and kiss her neck and go for a kiss can overwhelm her logic if she's emotionally into you. If she's not into you and you go caveman, it's gonna be sexual assault so take things into perspective. That's why the PUA community always preaches calibration. Knowing what to do when. | /r/seduction | 01/10/18 06:49 PM |
| 6 | The most beta/cuck think I ever didNice story. Thanks for sharing. | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 03:33 PM |
| -5 | Those in relationships, how do you reject without losing a chance for friendship?What's a relationship? New gadget or something? Sounds interesting. | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 02:05 PM |
| 0 | Married woman wants to see me..If she wants to cheat, she will cheat. It's gonna be you or the next guy. As much as I wish people did not cheat, it happens. Just keep it on the down low and don't fall for her. | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Recently got into PUA. Having moderate success, but hooked by how empowered I finally feel. Besides approaching everyday what's the best way to improve?Where are you gaming (country) and how much alcohol are we talking about? | /r/seduction | 17/09/18 12:29 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop getting attached so quickly?Delay your attachment after sex, not before. It's a step forward. There is a hole in you that you are trying to fill. That hole creates a vacuum effect and you attach yourself to anything that has the potential to make you "whole" again. Work on yourself and grind hard, it takes the pressure off. The girl should always be priority #2. Priority #1 is whatever adds real value to your life like working on your career, going to the gym, etc... | /r/seduction | 15/09/18 02:47 AM |
| 4 | Girl said I’m hot but my personality sucks.Work on yourself and increase your SMV so that your personality can be overlooked. I'm like you. Very risk averse, have social anxiety, kind of boring, introverted. Personality does not change much after a certain age. Was on antidepressants for 7 months for social anxiety, I don't recommend it. Ultimately, people are attracted to value. If you have enough value, you're gonna get results, don't sweat it. Go to the gym. Work on your career. Study and get higher degrees within your field. I'm maki… | /r/seduction | 11/09/18 02:39 PM |
| 5 | WHAT CAN I SAY OR DO TO CREATE DRAMAMy douchebag senses are tingling. | /r/seduction | 10/09/18 09:36 PM |
| 2 | WHAT CAN I SAY OR DO TO CREATE DRAMAUsually you need to sleep with the girl multiple times before you can successfully pull off a move like that. 1st day lay, the girl can easily consider sleeping with you and just a mistake and she is not invested. After the 3rd time, you have a good shot of pulling this off with higher level of consistency. | /r/seduction | 10/09/18 08:19 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl obsessed with you?Like her but always let it be felt that it's not a guarantee, you are never hers. Once taken for granted, attraction dies. When she is not convinced that your liking is a sure thing, she will invest more to make it a sure thing. | /r/seduction | 10/09/18 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Three questions.One you start kissing, there is going to be a break to more talking to going back to kissing, when you feel it is the right time, ask her hand and lead her to your bed. Keep the condoms close by. | /r/seduction | 10/09/18 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Had sex for the first time and doesn't feel good?Space issue and anxiety issue probably. | /r/seduction | 27/08/18 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Post date/lay gameIn the same boat as you. Rule of thumb. You need to at least sleep with the girl 3 times to have a reasonably good chance of retaining her. Last girl I slept with 3 times and the sex was good and I still got ghosted. So not fool proof but 1 times of sleeping with you can be rationalized as a mistake. | /r/seduction | 21/08/18 06:08 AM |
| 1 | I'm quitting night game for the time being. Considering Meetup groups.Haha. Thanks for sharing your story. This is what I wanted to hear. Cheers mate. | /r/seduction | 20/08/18 04:52 AM |
| 4 | I'm quitting night game for the time being. Considering Meetup groups.It's a pick-up group and you mentioned going to clubs. For club pick-ups lay-count is a good indication of skill. I did not have any malicious intent in the question and we don't usually have guys here in their 50's so I was curious to know. Whether you wish to share your story is completely up to you. | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 06:45 PM |
| 3 | I have no self worth. And being Boring. Not succeeding with women makes me to think of suicide. This is my last post.It gets better with age. But the self hate part and your over-reaction to rejection is something you have to fix before you can get positive reactions from women. Women smell neediness and insecurity from a mile away. Over time, you will start to make money, dress better and mature and women will become easier but for now, you have to fix your own shit. You're gonna die anyway, fuck some bitches and leave a kid before you do, it's better than taking your life. It won't solve anything. | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 12:49 PM |
| -15 | I'm quitting night game for the time being. Considering Meetup groups.I never said it is a big deal so don't presume to know my thoughts. I'm asking out of curiosity. What you think is a big deal or not, I'm not concerned with. Keep it to yourself. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 12:34 PM |
| -1 | I'm quitting night game for the time being. Considering Meetup groups.Can I ask what your laycount is at 52? | /r/seduction | 19/08/18 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Super confused with this girl... She worth keeping around ?You should have gone to a bar, not a park. That was the mistake. The girl likes you though, you just needed her to have a couple of shots of alcohol in her system. | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 02:47 PM |
| 2 | “Can I have your number” or “Would you like to go out sometime”Both are bad. If you give the girl the option to say no, more often than not she will. She has to like you soooo much to detract from the automatic no that it is not viable for cold approach. "Let's hang out sometime" is better. | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 02:36 PM |
| 5 | What do you guys think about Craig Ferguson. Is he is natural or he is actually PUA.Natural. | /r/seduction | 16/08/18 02:28 PM |
| 1 | What was your most brutal rejection? Have you ever had a girl just flat out roast you for approaching her?This is way more harsh than a girl aggressively berating you. Being considered non-existent is more painful than a girl actively being rude. | /r/seduction | 01/08/18 11:48 AM |
| 2 | What was your most brutal rejection? Have you ever had a girl just flat out roast you for approaching her?That's harsh. Dayum. | /r/seduction | 01/08/18 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Should the guy pay for dinner or split the bill?Pay for the first date unless she really insists. | /r/seduction | 30/07/18 05:25 PM |
| 0 | Tinder, is this girl forreal?I was expecting an unmatch. You made your life harder than it needed to be. Expect hard resistence and long lmr. I give your chances 20% to bang on the first date or probably nothing and just a next. Make sure you end up at your place. | /r/seduction | 29/07/18 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Severe problem with low energy and low sexualityMaterbation does not lower t levels. If anything not masterbating for a prolonged period of time lowers t levels. It is likely a psychological thing. Rejection and failure feel bad and lowers serotonin levels and makes you less “alpha”. Just keep practicing and when you start getting better, you won’t have the I don’t have energy problem. | /r/seduction | 28/07/18 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Lost my virginity when I was 16 - I've slept with 22 different girls now, and I'm 18 yrs old. Here's my most honest guide on how I've done it.Thanks. Really good material. | /r/seduction | 27/07/18 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Let’s go for a drink tonight - 100 Women in 50 Days - Day 43Good job. | /r/seduction | 27/07/18 07:05 AM |
| 2 | Most Men Self-Identify As Uglier Than They Actually Are - The Blackdragon BlogNot the author but Feminism in tandem with social media has had a significant impact. Women by and large are attracted to men that can provide. Women in this day and age don't need men to provide either due to the women occupying higher positions and the cultural push that women don't need men for anything, both movements are pushed by Feminism. This has contrasted women's biological inclination to rely on men for their survival. Furthermore, women are always attracted to men that are better the… | /r/seduction | 25/07/18 01:30 PM |
| 13 | Women's Reactions To Top 1% of Men?Value post right here. Guy wanking to his own reflection. The world needed to know that you get more women than models and super high status guys. My life has been so enriched because you orgasm everytime you see your own reflection. Keep wanking. | /r/seduction | 23/07/18 09:12 AM |
| 2 | Mentioning my country completely kills the conversation. What should I do?Lie. | /r/seduction | 23/07/18 07:40 AM |
| 0 | I fucked up yet another date. I really don't know what to do anymore.First of all. Obligatory I'm introverted as well. 29 y/o. Slept with around 8-10 women. All from Tinder. I'm average looking. Average height. Good job. Good life. There is such a thing as real value and perceived value. Your real value is quite high but your perceived value is quite low. We have a logical element and an emotional element built in our brain that both work simulatanously. When something is too easy, it loses perceptual value even when it's real value is the same. This is just a sm… | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 09:09 AM |
| 48 | How do I stop coming off as the boyfriend type?What you are doing is fine. You either have your shit together or are generically handsome. Take it as a sign of a compliment. Limit the amount of time you see each girl to 2 times a week at most. The rest of the time you are in meetings, working late on a project or on business travel. | /r/seduction | 12/07/18 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Unsure what to do with this girlHonestly I don't like or trust this girl but try it, she's not worth much more than a lay and I don't care how good she looks. Play to your strengths, it is a good opportunity to fuck, you are going away and you have a one on one situation that can end up somewhere so play your cards right and you might get laid. Have fun. | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 03:44 PM |
| 2 | I'm stuck between "hookup" material and "boyfriend" material. Girls aren't interested for long. Help!I would say it is for you to decide. If you ask yourself would you want to have a baby with this girl and stay with her and the answer is yes, she is probably a quality girl. | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 03:36 PM |
| 7 | I'm stuck between "hookup" material and "boyfriend" material. Girls aren't interested for long. Help!Not necessarily fucked at all. You're 25 y/o, no one expects a 25 y/o to be able to settle down. Those days are passed but we live in the era of social media and images of greatness, success and achievement are bombarded on the masses so the expectations are higher. What you need to show is passion, drive and ambition and actually put in the work. It is enough for a girl to be willing to invest in you. | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 12:08 PM |
| 19 | I'm stuck between "hookup" material and "boyfriend" material. Girls aren't interested for long. Help!I got my shit together but my personality is not that attractive and I'm quite reserved, I'm average height and looks, 29 y/o, single and hookups happen few and far between. Get your shit together, if you want quality, you have to be quality. Money is not necessarily important in the immediate sense but you have to show some sort of a potential for greatness to secure the investment of a quality chick. | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Is it my weight?Hehe. More power to you man. | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 02:10 PM |
| 2 | The best way to get the girl you're thinking about RIGHT NOWReally well said. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Is it my weight?Lose the fat and hit the gym. Unless you are in your mid 30's and heavily career oriented, there is very little excused to being fat specially since you don't seem to be genetically predisposed to being fat. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 11:57 AM |
| 1 | The best way to get the girl you're thinking about RIGHT NOWOP never mentioned he didn't sleep with the first girl. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 07:18 AM |
| 1 | The best way to get the girl you're thinking about RIGHT NOWJust read the story. I'm not going far. Guy liked girl a lot, she got turned off and said he was not in the cards. Guy got bored of girl and fucked another while seeing her, she wanted to be exclusive. You see a pattern? Majority of women unfortunately are wired like this. This is the point I'm trying to make. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 06:59 AM |
| -1 | The best way to get the girl you're thinking about RIGHT NOWHonestly no. The best thing for a girl is a beta provider that takes care of her and respects her. Too bad pussy only gets wet if the guy is fucking 2 other women and barely calls her. What is good for a woman and what women respond to are very different things. | /r/seduction | 08/07/18 05:17 AM |
| 5 | [28/M] Can I ever become a sexual being or is it far too late?Until I find a girlfriend, I am going to fight feminism online and try to put it to a halt. You have no hope. Work on yourself and if you want to get good with women, go out and approach 5 to 10 women on a daily basis, you will get good within a year or two and you can fuck consistently. | /r/seduction | 03/07/18 12:52 PM |
| 1 | I'm 23 Years Old And Just Went On My Very First DateWell done bro! Keep it up. | /r/seduction | 03/07/18 12:47 PM |
| 38 | A story and advice for newbies on how to be careful with game and self esteemWhat was the most effective material for you to get laid. I'm not asking what the healthiest method is. From 0 confidence to consistently busting a nut is a hell of an achievement, regardless of the emotional quality or whether it fixed holes in you. What material actually gave you results? Thanks. | /r/seduction | 01/07/18 02:03 PM |
| 1 | 21 Life-Changing Lessons I’ve Learned From Over 5 Years Of Doing Cold Approach Pickup & Developing My Own System For Meeting And Attracting Beautiful Women At WillThanks. Nice answer. | /r/seduction | 23/06/18 07:15 AM |
| 2 | 21 Life-Changing Lessons I’ve Learned From Over 5 Years Of Doing Cold Approach Pickup & Developing My Own System For Meeting And Attracting Beautiful Women At Will@u/TravonM What do you mean by Intelligence > Emotion? Thanks | /r/seduction | 22/06/18 09:01 AM |
| 2 | To all the"Funny" guys. There is no need to perform or make other people laugh ALL THE TIME. Just have a normal conversation with a joke here or there and you'll be okay.People take self amusement as a method. It is not. A lot of the times Craig has an agenda of turning the interview into a sexual direction. He for sure enjoys it but there is purpose behind it and not all for his own pleasure. The emphasis is to give a good show and he has branded himself as the late night host that makes sexual jokes. | /r/seduction | 19/06/18 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Girls say "You're weird" to my face and/or tell my wings "your friend is weird"?You're probably trying to get a reaction and that is what is making you come off as weird. | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 07:23 AM |
| 51 | My very best opener.Club pulls are not relationships. | /r/seduction | 28/05/18 06:25 AM |
| 2 | (26, m) I have Asperger's and I don't think I can ever be attractive to a woman.Impossible to tell. Have you considered anti-depressants. Not to treat depression but for anxiety. If the med doesn't produce bad side effects, anti-depressants allow you to accept yourself and you'll be way more outgoing and fun. Honestly worth it if you have that bad of a self image, whether due to real limitations or self-imposed. It doesn't matter. Was on anti-depressants for 9 months. It made me weak, sleepy and fatigued so I stopped it. However despite it, I went out with like 20 women dur… | /r/seduction | 17/05/18 09:08 AM |
| 2 | The goal for today - approach 1 girlHave the goal of approaching for 8 hours straight. You will not do it but it relieves the pressure of the single approach because it is only one of many. This is how you get better. The ultimate goal is to approach for 8 hours straight. You would get to mPUA level super fast. The issue is that most people just like to get validation instead of actually really getting better at attracting and bedding a quality girl. | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 04:08 PM |
| 59 | Do men like being asked out or pursued by women?If you fit the bill, the guy will be interested. Guys know from t=0 if they find you attractive or not so if you find a guy attractive, go for it. Games very rarely improve your chances of being considered attractive. | /r/seduction | 14/05/18 11:26 AM |
| 4 | Dating is like playing Minesweeper.How good looking you are, how much money you got and how genetically blessed you are will determine the level you need to beat. Homeless ugly loser with no life prospects plays minesweeper on the expert difficulty with max mines. Moral of the story. Work on yourself and the game becomes easier. You don't need to be an expert salesman if you have a good product. | /r/seduction | 28/04/18 11:37 AM |
| 36 | Please do not do what I just didOk. This is what I don't like about this community. The shit load of pressure people put on themselves. You didn't approach a girl that was with her mom and do a ninja mind trick to get her phone number so you are a loser. Granted you didn't do something that you wanted. Learn from it and continue practicing. If this shit was not a psychological mind fuck, everyone would do it. The point is, it is not a failure, you're either rusty, you need to level up or you need a new perspective. Approaching… | /r/seduction | 15/04/18 05:01 AM |
| -10 | Do hot women get rejected ?I view the term “alpha” differently than most people do. Check out the book “Open Her” by Karen Brody. To me, “alpha” doesn’t mean “doucher who is in control of everything and bosses everybody around.” You can be quiet and shy and still be alpha. Alpha to me is sets and enforced his own boundaries, lives based off his own standards, internally validated, and protects his friends, loved ones, and values. Respectfully your definition is wrong. You cannot be shy and quiet and still be alpha. Alpha … | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I need some inputs on boundaries.So it's probably a resentment thing. I was gonna suggest boxing. Lifting too much without boxing makes me very closed off and easily agitated. Boxing takes the edge off. | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 01:53 PM |
| 1 | I need some inputs on boundaries.All these people were legit messing with you. You need to ask what is causing it. You go to the gym a lot so it appears that you are not a skrawny little dude and you do confront people and are not really a pussy so my guess is you try to please people or fit in a lot which makes it easy for people to mess with you. | /r/seduction | 09/04/18 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Failed today on a girl who was a 9-10. Advice to do betterSome girls have a hard no for date 1 lays. It has nothing to do with you. You completely gucci. Smash on date 2. | /r/seduction | 04/04/18 09:40 AM |
| 1 | I think l’m just mentally fucked.No one wants to give money to a beggar. You're starved for sex. Just get a hooker a couple of times. Do a once a week thing for 10 weeks and get rid of your anxiety over the sex thing and move on with your life. | /r/seduction | 26/03/18 07:52 AM |
| 18 | The fastest eye contact to makeout I have ever done [FR], and not a single word was saidShe really had a boyfriend. Girls fuck around hardcore. | /r/seduction | 05/02/18 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Girl Stops Make Out - What Did I Do Wrong?Why didn't you ask her what's wrong and baby step it. Women freak out during sex. A lot of girls from Tinder dates go no, no, no when they are fucking moaning as fuck. One girl I had clench her legs even though she was obviously into it. Girls go haywire just before sex. Just relax her and baby step it. Kiss her neck, ask if she is ok. Kiss, ask if she is ok. Slowly move until she is moaning and is ok for dick. | /r/seduction | 25/01/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | 23M on Tinder - serious girls?Rofl. You're asking in the wrong sub-reddit. Here fucking is more or less a sport. | /r/seduction | 27/12/17 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Advice for girls/womenTrue. But first you want the guy to approach the girl. 99% of the reason a guy approaches a girl is because he thinks she is cute. Then the qualification stage is what you said. Baby steps. | /r/seduction | 22/11/17 01:57 PM |
| 4 | Advice for girls/womenHit the gym. Lose weight. Eat well. Learn a social dance like Salsa. | /r/seduction | 22/11/17 08:20 AM |
| 1 | How do you flirt with someone without coming across as weirdly awkward and creepy?Flirting is dangerous and difficult to pull off. So much so that most books on flirting don't know what they are talking about. Flirting is really flat out hitting on the girl and making something that is inherrently creepy work. Example. You have such a beautiful smile, I hope a day will come where you smile like that everytime you see me. This is fucking difficult to pull off and even when you pull off, you are in a vulnrable position because if you have any shred of fear or hessitation it wil… | /r/seduction | 01/11/17 02:10 PM |
| 1 | How to get girls you work with?A friend of mine was a manager at a restaurant. Banged all the waitresses. He was in a position of power. He invited the girls out and banged them at his place. I have no personal experience so I cannot contribute more. | /r/seduction | 28/09/17 06:31 PM |
| 0 | What are some useful tips to bring out the protective side in men?Let him lead. Guys are natural leaders but they want pussy as well so if leading is perceived to detract them from pussy, they will resort to being submissive in hopes that they might get pussy. Best to allow the guy to lead and let him take care of you and enjoy being a girl. | /r/seduction | 26/09/17 07:27 AM |
| -2 | Hey guys need some quick texting help. Not strictly seduction but honestly this seems like the most appropriate sub.What I do with girl notorious for ghosting is call her. Either she will not respond to the call and text you a bit later or she will talk on the phone and there is a lesser liklihood of games because you can call her on her bullshit. If you decide not to call and after 8:30, there is no response, you write something like this "the courteous thing would have been to tell me you're not interested or that something came up if indeed something did come up. Unfortunately, I don't seem to be worth the… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 02:47 PM |
| 1 | More times than not when I'm talking to a girl in person or through text I can tell if we're compatible within the first few minutes. Am I being too judgemental.No. It's not a mindset issue. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Yes, One Mistake is Enough to Lose HerYou are just lazy bro. You don't want to put in an effort. Women spend an inordinate amount of time making sure they look good and go crazy if they put on a pound or two. You just don't want to work on yourself which is a bad mindset. To attract quality, you gotta be quality and if that depresses you, I'm sorry. It's not purely an emotional game, women have eyes and have capacity of logical thought, even if it may be underdeveloped. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 05:11 AM |
| 5 | Yes, One Mistake is Enough to Lose HerI'm with you on this but a fuck up is still a fuck up. Women really do have options but once she engages you, fairness has to ensue. If she pulls shit, you drop her or give her shit for it but if you had 300 models messaging you and wanting to suck your dick, you would start to get picky. Add social pressure that fucking equals you're a slut and things become even more complicated. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 07:43 PM |
| 3 | How long do I spend with her?Wedding you keep her next to you basically forever until you're both a bubble and the wedding doesn't matter. You're 21 y/o chances are you don't really care about the wedding anyway. | /r/seduction | 17/09/17 03:47 PM |
| 1 | How to introduce my friend (19m) to my other friend (17f)Thanks, any tips if it doesnt flow well? I suggest you don't invest in making it happen for them. Don't play cupid. Introduce the anxiety ridden love birds and if it happens, great. Don't force it and don't be invested in making it happen. You're doing both the retards a favor. It's up to them to make it happen, not you. And for location? I've heard the guy say that we could have a drink at his home since his parents are not home for like 2 weeks or so. That means he is homealone. Bring your boy… | /r/seduction | 07/09/17 11:01 PM |
| 1 | How to introduce my friend (19m) to my other friend (17f)You tell them guy "I'm gonna set you up with my friend because I think you two will hit it off well". You tell the same to the girl. "I'm gonna set you up with a friend because I know you both will click well". If the guy objects, you tell him "you to just meet the girl and see if you like her, that is all", same objection for the girl. If the girl is ok to meet at a quiet bar, it's better. Nervious people need a drink or two in them to flow so if you can convince her, it is best. Try to leave t… | /r/seduction | 07/09/17 09:59 AM |
| 3 | I just want to have fun, instead it's a chess match with all these stupid rulesThis is the stupidest post I've seen in a while. I just want money, I don't want to have to work for it and have to be good at my job. I just want a company to pay me loads of money for my limitted skill and experience because they like who I am inside. | /r/seduction | 06/09/17 05:31 AM |
| 2 | Harsh rejections really fuck up my nights.Throw a drink in her face and look her dead in the eye. So what if you get thrown out, your ego remains in tact, balance is restored and now you have a story of how you got back at a rude hoe instead of feeling like crap that a bitch walked over you without hessitation or remorse. Pride is important sometimes. | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 09:45 AM |
| 5 | I'm in my mid 20s and in my last year of college, how can I finally overcome my approach anxiety and talk to some girls?The first girl you sleep with doesn't have to be insanely hot. Pop your cherry with a tinder chick and when you have more confidence, start to approach girls you are attracted to. | /r/seduction | 28/08/17 11:08 AM |
| 15 | Its the second date and she hasnt offered to split the billsDude... stop counting cents if you at all can. If after the 3rd date she doesn't spread her legs or you don't feel there is a legitimate chance of her spreading her legs, the forth date, you push the bill to her and say "this one is on you. Treat me." If she gets offended, dump her ass. | /r/seduction | 23/08/17 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Love spellsLet me know. Ask how much for shakra cleansing as well... for reasons. :) | /r/seduction | 23/08/17 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Today a very sad event made me come to a realization.Thanks for sharing. Damn... gave me chills bro. Good lesson and good post. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 23/08/17 06:14 AM |
| 6 | What happened to RSD Todd?What the fuck is wrong with you? Grow up. | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 06:07 AM |
| 2 | What's the modern equivalent of The Game by Neil StraussI really can't resonate with Models. It could just be me but I just don't get that book. | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 05:03 PM |
| 15 | Today this car has taught me somethingPerception > Reality That is why we learn game. If merit was all that was needed, you would only need to lift weights and work on your career which is not necessarily enough. Being rich and looking good are foundations. A girl will go for a rich good looking guy over an ugly poor guy every single time but if the rich good looking guy is shy, anxious, and has emotional issues, he's not gonna get far and be able to keep interest. In the end, you are dealing with human beings, not robots. Otherwise… | /r/seduction | 14/08/17 02:55 PM |
| 2 | How do I not seem desperate when I am utterly desperate?Not easy but being truly independent from outcome helps a lot. Being independent from outcome as a technique is still being dependent on outcome. If you play competitive video games, you know that you're gonna lose a lot. Eventually, you just play your game and take things one step at a time, if your actions lead to victory, great. If not, next. I get rejected twice a day at least. It's never personal and you can try again with an infinite number of women. I'm 28 y/o. I took a conservative Musli… | /r/seduction | 06/08/17 05:10 AM |
| 1 | How do i stop getting upset over flakes?First of all it's alright to be upset. Don't be upset that you couldn't make the girl agree to meet up with you. You offered, she agreed and then changed her mind and rejected. You can try again or you can say it's not worth it and drop it. There is no reason to be insecure. Ugly girls reject me all the time. Today from Salsa class, I met a 5/10 face and 6/10 Japanese chick. I got a boner while dancing with her, so I asked her out at the end of the class. I went "what are you doing after class?"… | /r/seduction | 01/08/17 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Is she a gold digger?Gold diggers actually ask you to buy shit and pay for shit. She's an intern with no cash and you tried to be stingy and made a post to verify whether a girl that you don't intend to stick with used you for money. She hooked up with you on the second date. Gold diggers out front ask you to buy her a designer bag, a dress. I've had a girl ask me to pay her dental fees (which I obviously refused.) She wasn't a gold digger but you are a bit stingy. First of all take into consideration the context, a… | /r/seduction | 23/07/17 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Stop only talking to girlsGuys are boring to talk to. | /r/seduction | 13/07/17 12:08 PM |
| 1 | First date Advice RequestKeep your initial plan of cooking together. | /r/seduction | 13/07/17 10:12 AM |
| 4 | Girl didn't wanna have sex because she was too ashamed of her body?From her end: She probably did feel ashamed of her body. She did like you. Otherwise she wouldn't heavily make out and come to your place. She thought you would judge her in one way or form. From your end: You didn't create enough comfort that she wouldn't feel judged. You weren't smooth because you esclated and got rejected multiple times. If you hit the iron while it is hot, it will bend. You're syncness with her was off. You were trying to get laid instead of feeling what she was feeling and … | /r/seduction | 02/07/17 10:01 AM |
| 7 | I owe every single one of you on this subDescribe the things you learned and what exactly worked for you to get this girl that you really like. It would be useful to hear. Seriously. | /r/seduction | 29/06/17 08:58 AM |
| -3 | NEVER Do This On A DateNever suck dick. Period. | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 10:40 AM |
| 4 | Ltr game with no social circle?Social circle is not the real problem. The relationship is getting boring. Don't address the logical issues. Address the emotional ones. Deep down you know what she wants and it is a confident guy who will look past the bullshit chatter and engage her core. The raw emotional core and if you can do it, you don't need to do anything else. She would live with you in a sardine can. | /r/seduction | 28/06/17 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Pretty girls are psychos.Anyone who says women aren't psychos is a psycho. It's not misogyny. Women have crazy built in them. If women were sane, we would give out resumes and women wouldn't prefer bad boys who don't ever settle for them over nice guys willing to give their hearts and souls for these women all becauae their a bit "needy". A guy will be more than happy to settle for a chick that is loyal and makes sense on paper despite her being "needy". A girl will not settle for the perfect guy if he is needy, insecur… | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Pretty girls are psychos.Dating a russian model that has the intelligence of a 3 year old cat and the personality of a marshmallow. She just complains about everything, has bullshit opinions like mineral water is not good for you, is never happy and is a snob. Toxic, bitchy and stupid but she's an 11/10 in looks. Havn't fucked her yet so can't say anything about how she is in bed. It's my only experience with a super hot chick so i can't say it is conclusive evidence that all hot girls are crazy. I'm an average looking … | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 01:04 PM |
| 10 | I was hugged by a girlStep 1: Jack off on her tits. Step 2: ??? Step 3: Profit | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Picking up cosplay chicks at a convention?Roleplay a lot. The girl is wearing a costume because she thinks the specific character is either hot or cool in some way. Talk about taking the character out rather than the person assuming the character. It's much more enticing than if you just make it a normal pick up. Just my 2 cents here. | /r/seduction | 27/06/17 06:33 AM |
| 1 | what would you write to a girl that doesn't even know you existHi | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 12:35 PM |
| 19 | 24 year old virgin gets attractive girlfriend - My top revelations from 2 years studying dating/seductionThis doesn't really apply to bars. This after you have picked her up and want a relationship. If you want to settle with her because you have no other options, it's a turn off. | /r/seduction | 18/06/17 12:35 PM |
| 1 | 2nd girl to tell me about someone else she banged while we had our first couple datesShe's testing to see how you respond to the possibility of casual sex. It's not a red flag, it's a real shit test either. She's not forcing a bad frame on you. She's just trying to see if you react calmly to the fact that she enjoys dick inside her and that you won't judge her for it. It's like when a friend talls to you about his hobby of painting. You make superficial conversation and you move on. You're glad she enjoys dick and you look forward to filling her up soon. | /r/seduction | 11/06/17 12:52 PM |
| 1 | 20 and a half yo virgin, with no friends and social life. Advice on how to improve my life?Get laid, have friends and get a social life. I missed anything? | /r/seduction | 11/06/17 08:59 AM |
| 1 | How the fuck do you talk ?It's nerves and lack of social competence. It gets better with age and experience. Watch a lot of stand up comedy and read psychology books. It helps. | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Has medication helped any of you with seduction?I'm on SSRI now for anxiety. Gonna be breaching the 2 month mark soon. It's not a miracle drug and it doesn't increase your mental sharpness in any way but it does make me more likable and mellow. Side effects include weaknesses and drowsiness which I'm hoping it goes away soon. I would say it's a 7/10 in controlling anxiety which is huge. It doesn't give me confidence but rejection doesn't hurt all that much. It won't fix low self esteem. It will make it hurt less. Low self esteem needs a chang… | /r/seduction | 08/06/17 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Girls online won't even talk to me. Do I have hope approaching in person?You think I give a shit if a girl doesn't want to go out with me. I only go on a date if the girl really wants to go out with me. Most girl feel inferior as fuck to start with and think the guy will fuck them and leave which is most cases on Tinder. I really don't give 2 shits. The reason guys fail at getting dates because you WANT the girl to say yes. I don't give a fuck if she likes me or not. I am perfectly happy and well established and in most cases better than the girls I meet from Tinder.… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How you can do nothing wrong and things still don't work out.It's not pushing. It's up to you. | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 01:49 PM |
| 0 | Girls online won't even talk to me. Do I have hope approaching in person?If you can't get a date from Tinder matches, there is something wrong with your vibe. If you come off needy over text, do the following for Tinder matches. You: Do you believe in destiny? Her: Yeah why? You: Do you believe that if it meant to be that the universe will find a way to make it happen? Her: (She will take a bit of time to answer this because it's a bit of a heavy investment from your side to type this much. Give it a good 5 minutes.) Her: Yep. You: Let's tempt fate. You: You're in? H… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 12:54 PM |
| -4 | How you can do nothing wrong and things still don't work out.Sorry... there is something off here. Who gives a fuck if she has anxiety. This is the stupidest reason I've seen someone go out of a viable relationship. You like her right? She likes you too, right? How does her anxiety get worse when she has someone who loves her and cares for her as a support? The way I read it is "I don't think you really care for me and I don't want to get walked over because I care for you so it's better if we don't see each other." and you went "ok". Men are really thick… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 11:56 AM |
| 10 | If you're a girl who likes a guy, ask him out. Please!Not necessarily. Women are generally attracted to the top kahuna and the supply of the top guy is generally limited. If you think men are picky about women, women put guys under a microscope to check for defects. Women biologically have always had a higher risk when it comes to mate selection so it's not surprising that the circuitry is still in place to shield them from costly mistakes. Women err on the side of caution more often then men. Men will risk death to get pussy, it's a different dyna… | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 08:17 AM |
| 54 | If you're a girl who likes a guy, ask him out. Please!men are dense as shit. Can verify this. Source: I'm a man. | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 08:04 AM |
| 2 | Girl ive been talking too religiously just suddenly stopsNo worries. It's good that you typed your thoughts. It gives you perspective. Step 1: you have to see the girl before being chill and relaxed. This I cannot help you because if the girl doesn't want to see you, it's generally not worth bending over backwards to make her want to see you but this is completely up to you. You've met her dad and you've seen each other multiple times already most likely. It shouldn't be that hard to meet her if you really want to. Just tell her you want to meet her a… | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 03:13 PM |
| 797 | I got brutally rejected twice regarding race last night. It actually hurt.You approached a girl because she was hot, not because she had a phd in astrophysics. You were objected to the same level of vanity you use when judging women. Just move on to the next one. It hurts, yes. Rejection is supposed to hurt. It's the price you pay to play the game. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 09:21 AM |
| 3 | [UPDATE] Do guys appreciate girls asking them out?Amazing well done. Update if the date goes well. | /r/seduction | 25/05/17 01:06 PM |
| 6 | Seriously how do you become a man?This is a really good question. Being a man is about taking responsibility for your actions and at a higher level the actions of others. When you mess up, acknowledge it and fix it, when you want something, take action towards making it a reality. Children cannot take responsibility for their actions because they cannot ensure their own survival. As an adult, you have a responsibility towards yourself to take care of yourself so you don't allow yourself excuses. You either do it or you don't do … | /r/seduction | 23/05/17 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Date with girl but felt like we were joking too muchDude... you got a make-out. What do you need to feel that you are on the right track? A girl doesn't make out if she doesn't find you attractive. Do a day 2 and take her home, it's a done deal really. Dude... what do you need to feel she's hooked, she should suck you off in the car or something? She likes you, just do a day 2 and fuck. Damn man... something was off because you felt something was off. There is nothing off. | /r/seduction | 23/05/17 08:57 AM |
| 1 | I need helpWhen you coke yourself up and sit at home alone, your brain comes up with useful stuff. | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 09:25 AM |
| 2 | I need helpI got this one handled so listen up. The way to look at it is that you have 2 types of values, logical and emotional and our brains react to both. Your logical value is your real value, it's what you have, your intelligence, how much money you got, you genetic make-up, everything that makes you you and no one can take this away from you. You have little control over this especially in the short term. The other value is emotional, this is fake. Emotional value is not perfectly correlated with rea… | /r/seduction | 21/05/17 02:25 PM |
| 8 | Anyone wlse getting needier when not masturbating?Everyone reacts differently to no fap. Some people lose focus and motivation when they do not fap. Some people gain motivation and focus when they fap. Imagine being hungry, can you think about anything but food? It's not different than being horny. If being horny gets you more motivated, than great. If it distracts you, then fap to reduce the impulse. It's really specific to the individual. | /r/seduction | 21/05/17 01:29 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being afraid of women, because I always end up feeling connected but they don't?Don't seek for connection, seek for compliance. A king doesn't care for his subjects to love him. The king asks for compliance. I don't care if you don't like me but if you don't show respect, you fucking die. Women seek connection, men seek obedience. | /r/seduction | 21/05/17 06:36 AM |
| 1 | What parts about the RSD advice/vision for possibility is bullshit, what parts are true?Firstly, they make light of things a lot. Oh, it's just talking to girls. They should teach frames, psychological techniques. Old school micro loop theory, multithreading, open loops, are far more useful to teach than telling a student just do it and figure it out for yourself. It's like going to a martial arts class and the instructor telling you fight a lot and you will learn eventually. It's true but it's far more useful to teach techniques to speed up the learning curve of the student than t… | /r/seduction | 19/05/17 06:22 AM |
| 2 | I'm super good at texting, but real bad at interactions face-to-face.Simple. Communicate by text face to face. "LOL" | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 01:02 PM |
| 1 | What parts about the RSD advice/vision for possibility is bullshit, what parts are true?RSD doesn't teach techniques. They advocate mass approach and figure it out for yourself which is not a good way to teach. Secondly, life is very nuanced and especially Tyler loves to use the nuances of life to confuse students, not that his aim is to confuse people, he does it to entertain. For example, life is a joke and life is serious both at the same time. It is true but it is not really helpful to a student. Nuanced points and greys don't make good instructional material. That is why you c… | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 01:00 PM |
| 13 | Would anyone be interested in a website which detailed many different hobbies and how to get started, equipment needed, etc?Not a bad idea. Make it a community and it will have more success. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 11:38 AM |
| 3 | Where I live the 10's want bottles and yachtsYou are free to be attracted to whoever you want to be attracted to and the girl is free to be attracted to whoever she is attracted to. Your menu doesn't change. If the girl wants what is on your menu, great. Otherwise, she can move on. Build yourself to the best version that you can possibly build but don't do it because you need to get a 10 or a 9 or whatever calibre of girl you are looking for. Work on yourself and if you find a girl you are attracted to that is mutually attracted to you, it… | /r/seduction | 08/05/17 11:41 AM |
| 27 | Why is it that only beautiful women know how to flirt? I never approach anything less than a 9 because I get more cold shoulders from anything below that.Because a 9 doesn't have downside risk, she knows she is desirable. 6s are you warm up and stepping stones to the 7s, 8s, and 9s. A 9 doesn't have to worry if you are just looking to fuck, want her full time, she can get whatever she wants when she wants it. A 6 is always cautious because she doesn't have the same level of choice and she is easily replacable. Let me give you looks, money, status and you will be much more open than you are now. | /r/seduction | 07/05/17 10:56 AM |
| 6 | Do guys appreciate girls asking them out?Ask him why hasn't he asked you out. Make it sound that he obviously should have and create a void for him to get the hint and ask you out "Well are you?!". If he doesn't, you lost nothing, he's not yours to start with so don't cling to potential. Assume that he should be interested and chances are that he will. | /r/seduction | 03/05/17 10:45 AM |
| 4 | (x-post) I'm 25 and I graduated college without ever having a girlfriend, does that mean I'm hopeless?Damn that is a lot of stuff you are mixing. Why not just stick to Effexor without the rest. Nicotine patches don't do much long term except mess with your sleep. Aniracetam is probably just giving you the placebo effect, there is not much clinical evidence of nootropic effects. You're already taking a heavy antidepressant, why add Wellbutrin also to the mix. I don't know much about Phenibut so I can't comment. If you can get your hand on Concerta, it can be very helpful for during dates. I used … | /r/seduction | 01/05/17 09:25 AM |
| 3 | (x-post) I'm 25 and I graduated college without ever having a girlfriend, does that mean I'm hopeless?Even more fundamental. In school, you had your class topper right? Every class has that one kid who gets an 93% average even though the best you can get on English is 88%, they are just insanely bright and gifted. Even if you spend twice the amount of time studying, you won't do better so you just compete with the students at your level. Human being are insanely competitive and we are social beings so it is normal to compare ourselves with others but it doesn't bring true happiness. Always work … | /r/seduction | 01/05/17 09:07 AM |
| 8 | (x-post) I'm 25 and I graduated college without ever having a girlfriend, does that mean I'm hopeless?First of all, so what? You got dealt worse cards than other people. I got laid at 25, she probably had asbergers and I had a whole host of issues that I probably still do. There is no purpose to life, you're alive for a short period of time and then you die, what happens during that time doesn't really matter and it won't make any impact on you, you're gonna die either way so it doesn't truly matter. That is really uplifting. If life doesn't have meaning, the meaning to life becomes whatever mea… | /r/seduction | 01/05/17 07:19 AM |
| 7 | i'm scared of girlsRealize that it is very unattractive to be scared of women. Women biologically are weaker than men physically and have relied on men's protection to ensure their survival so they are biologically wired to feel insecure and weaker than men are so if you feel weaker than she is, how is she supposed to feel safe around you when she being a female is stronger than you. Meditate on that. | /r/seduction | 25/04/17 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you tell an FWB that you like them romantically?Congrats first of all. I'm happy for you. Secondly, you don't have to be all that serious about it. You are already a thing. You go out together. You are into each others social circle. She already proposed for the both of you to be a thing and you agreed by declaring that you do have feelings for her. My advice is don't furher bound a thing that is already bounded. Invite her over for the "talk" but don't talk. Cook dinner or take her to her favorite restaurant, and make it romantic, tell her h… | /r/seduction | 19/04/17 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Managing my rotationSeek out JMULV. He has good advice when it comes to rotations. Regarding settling down, it is a personal choice. There are certain deal breakers some women have, polygamy is one of them. If you want the girls to stay with you despite your unwillingness to commit, you have to be really valuable to the girl. The girl has to be better off having an unattached relationship with you than a commited relationship with someone else which is hard to pull off long term. | /r/seduction | 18/04/17 01:22 PM |
| 6 | How do you tell a girl you're uncomfortable with something without coming off as insecure/weak/controlling?OK. Listen carefully. The game part is over. Now values matter. If something bothers you, you discuss it like grown ups and come to a compromise. It doesn't mean you're allowed to be a depressive dude who get all worked up and insecure about every single thing, it just means if you are feel a certain way about something, you disclose your stance on the matter. She is allowed to disagree on the stance. Your truth and her truth need not match but the interaction has 3 paths, all of which are accep… | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else just HATE game?27 y/o here. Similar position to you. Lost the V-card at 25. Good paying job. 5'7". I'm not out of shape, 22 BMI, just to put into perspective. Decently intelligent. No major self esteem issues. I just don't like fluff which is all game is, A GAME. The only thing stopping me from an arranged marriage is that I need to learn this crap. Values are great and all and being a well developed decent person is extremely valuable but women want to FEEL attracted to you, which is not a logical decision. I… | /r/seduction | 29/03/17 11:45 AM |
| 6 | Is 5 foot 10 1/2 a short height for a guy?Sorry to break it to you but you will never get laid your entire life. Even if you work on yourself, are funny, charming, popular, well groomed, intellegent, drive a nice car, have an awesome life, it will never work out for you because you're not 6ft tall. You're above average height, stop over analyzing. | /r/seduction | 27/03/17 12:18 PM |
| 18 | I realized I might've misunderstood what Seduction is all about and the mentality that one should haveNice post. Although it's you AND her, seduction is still adversarial at the start, she is testing what you are made of. She has standards and you have standards but for her to understand your value, she needs time because every idiot can fake being confident for 5 minutes so it's not all holding hand and rainbows, there is still a game to be played but there is an eventual win-win in the end. | /r/seduction | 26/03/17 07:38 PM |
| 0 | How to be a man: climb a mountain, tell no oneThanks. I needed to ready this. | /r/seduction | 25/03/17 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Late bloomer. Anyone else?Weren't you doing it with your gf at the time? | /r/seduction | 24/03/17 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Awkwardness when driving/watching tv/sleeping?This is on you. You still want something from this chick. Focus on being you and do stuff because you want to do it rather than because it will be better for both of you. If you want to put you hand on her thigh put it because at that moment you wanted to put your hand on her thigh and feel close to her. Not because there is a lack of stimulation and you have to do something otherwise the girl will get bored and leave. Emotion is like a flame that makes you forget reality. Once the flame dies, r… | /r/seduction | 23/03/17 07:13 AM |
| 1 | I've became a male version of validation whoreTo be honest, I don't think what you are doing is wrong. Seduction is an emotional game and you have raised the bar to an enormously high level to the point that you are toying with the girl. Your problem is that you are losing touch with reality which is a byproduct of game. Emotions are not necessarily real. The same way that rejection feels bad but doesn't really harm you in any physical way, you are addicted to feeling good, not necessarily real success. If you have the real success along th… | /r/seduction | 22/03/17 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Demystifying Why Confidence is so ImportantThe tail doesn't aid the peacocks survival or indicate any form of survival value. The female is attracted to guys with the big tails so she fucks them. We take care of our women, our survival value is the we take care of women and protect them. Peacocks don't do shit but fuck so no survival value at all to women. The women's arbitrary preference for big tails have led to evolution of peacocks with ever more extravagant tails. It just happened and it's still not understood why. A peacock with a … | /r/seduction | 19/03/17 07:01 PM |
| 1 | I've became a male version of validation whoreI think the club is made for validation. But anyhow... Your self concept is built on your ability to get attraction and have women fall for you, fuck you, etc... There are 2 ways you can go on this to fix it: 1) Define success in binary terms. That is, sex or no sex. The height of the attraction doesn't matter. It's whether you closed or not that counts. This way you can only get validation when you get results rather than when women stroke your ego by telling you how amazing you are. When the g… | /r/seduction | 19/03/17 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Demystifying Why Confidence is so ImportantGreat post and makes a lot of sense. On a slight tangent, the case of the peacocks tail signaling that the peacock can survive despite the huge investment although seems very logical, is unfortunately false. Scientists haven't been able to find a logical reason why peahens prefer peacocks with large extravagant tails. The best explanation of why peacocks have larger and larger tails each generation is that the females prefer peacocks with larger tails for no reason other than that they like it. … | /r/seduction | 19/03/17 12:08 PM |
| 1 | M17 patheticBeing casual is great but at some point you need to show desire towards a girl, a real passionate desire which is difficult to do because it puts you in a vulnerable situation. I don't mean a declaration of love. I'm talking about a palpable sexual tension that is created when you are next to the girl and trust me, that is on you, not her. It's not easy to pull off. I can safely predict you never got a boner with the girl you were dating and everything was always politically correct. She needs t… | /r/seduction | 19/03/17 10:13 AM |
| 2 | Do I flock to the attractive girls like the other guys or waitNot true. Women have a lot of insecurities and are naturally more inclined to be drawn in and latched to a strong guy. It's not the CEO element that attracts the girl. It is to strength that she is drawn to. | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 05:13 AM |
| 1 | I just don't know how to make a girl feel interested in me.This is a bit condescending. First of all assuming that he isn't getting any because of neediness when your advice is to be the best version he can be is contradictory. Being the best that you can be is a fundamental change whereas "trying to get girls" is a behavioral modification. So which is it, he has to be a better person or act like a better person? The behavioral element is game. The self-improvement and lifestyle change being the best that he can be is a core shift. Don't accuse a person… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Would it be weird to call an Uber/Lyft to pick up my date for dinner?If your already using Uber and she's on your way, pick her up. It's better to arrive together. Secondly, you'll know where she lives and will have to drop her back which is a good excuse to go to her place assuming she lives by herself. | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Would it be weird to call an Uber/Lyft to pick up my date for dinner?She has a car? How far is she from you? | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes I wonder if I should stop doing this for a while and work on something else...Good. First of all. When you close, agree to meet somewhere. So when you close be like there is this amazing pub/taco shop/xyz that I want you to see. Let's meet at 8pm today/tomorrow/Wednesday/whatever then get their number. Text them, hey it's PuttingMyBigBoyPants. See you at xyz at 8pm on whatever. It will dramatically increase your follow through rate. Monotone and business like doesn't fuck you up too much in daygame. In the meantime, go to the gym and socialize in GROUPS. I know it's dread… | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes I wonder if I should stop doing this for a while and work on something else...Depends on what you want. If you want to get laid, dropping cold approach is not the way to go. You won't get better at game without gaming. Getting a better body, better lifestyle, experiences, travel, amazing hobbies will make game easier but it's a long term solution to a short term problem. You want to fuck girls now. Not wait until when you are self actualized. Sit down and understand why is it that why the phone number isn't converting to a lay. Is it a numbers thing or is there something … | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 10:29 AM |
| 5 | Should I try dating my boss when she quits in a few months?Give it a shot. I see no major downside risk. | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 06:58 AM |
| 1 | Tried something new, it was a huge hit.Normal vibrator or hitachi magic wand? | /r/seduction | 14/03/17 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Conflict between Mystery's method and other seduction approaches. Some clarity neededMM is designed for night clubs which is a very artificial environment. In night clubs, games work a hell of a lot better than stating intent unapologeticically. As powerful as it is to unapologeticically show intent, it's not much fun. Clubs are for fun and if you are being serious in a place designed for fun, you're not gonna win. Alternatively in real life, if you play too many games, it's out of place as well. If you wear a fether jacket, airplane goggles to the supermarket and open with who … | /r/seduction | 13/03/17 02:29 PM |
| 1 | I kino nicely but i cant escalate to k - f close.Isolate by leading and then do the heavy escalation. Even if she is comfortable making out in front of her friends. Why risk it? Take her by the hand to a corner and do your thing. | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 12:49 PM |
| 6 | Do girls ever wonder to themselves why a guy didn't approach them?Yeah. But only about guys they find attractive. If a girl likes you she will pivot herself and put herself in your proximity. This is your invitation to approach. | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Due to so many misconceptions around, here is I have noticed over the years about guys that actually get hot girls and lessons you can learn from them.Bullet point number 5 took me a long time to understand. Freedom from outcome doesn't mean not wanting anything. It means doing all you can to get something without becoming myopic. If you want something to happen so bad in exactly the way you want it, it won't happen. If you do all you can to increase the chance of getting what you want, you will likely get it. There is always something that you want but the game is in increasing the chance of getting what you want. Rigidity will mess with you … | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 11:56 AM |
| 15 | You know girls used to post here tooGive a woman anonymity and she'll give you better advice than any man ever could. They just don't like telling you how much of a loser you are to your face because they care about your feelings. | /r/seduction | 12/03/17 09:27 AM |
| 5 | I literally cannot approach a girlFirst of all, approaching random women is hard as fuck so don't beat yourself too much. I'm 28 y/o and I still would have trouble approaching random women in a bar, especially alone. Go with all your wings and approach in groups. As in you and 3 of your wings makes a 4 set of your own. Open other sets collectively and get the hang of it until your comfortable opening sets on your own. You really have to believe the set will open. Otherwise, it won't open. You need a high level of confidence and … | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with inner game and self confidenceTelling you to be confident without describing how to get it or learn to love yourself without telling you how is more detrimental than helpful. Life has only one goal and that is survival. Reproduction is genetic survival so it's still survival. For this exercise, we will define success as the degree to which you can ensure your own survival, without any dependence on others. The problem is that you are comparing yourself to others and if someone is better, in your world, you are not enough, a.… | /r/seduction | 09/03/17 06:38 AM |
| 1 | What are your opinions on a f-close for the first date.Tinder is usually same day lay. Social circle I have not enough exposure to give advice on. | /r/seduction | 08/03/17 08:25 AM |
| 5 | I'm seeking validation from guys I like, how do I stop that so I only need validation from myself?Yep. I have a couple of tips for this: First rule is rely on yourself for your survival and happiness. Instead of looking to others to take care of you, look to yourself to take care of you. Really make yourself feel protected at all times. This is the first step to feeling secure. Secondly, value is of 2 kinds. Logical and emotional. Your logical value is what you have to bring to the table, your real value which includes your looks, intelligence, education, the things that truly make you a val… | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 07:20 PM |
| 1 | I have NEVER walked up to a random girl and started chatting with her with the intention of asking her out. Where do I start?Approaching to get to find out if you want to ask a girl out is an intention. | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 11:15 AM |
| 11 | This sub made me realize why I was/am crushing on that girl27 year old who lost his virginity at 25. Damn son. It's tough. Not everything I write will make sense to you. It probably will but it won't really sink in until after you gain more and more maturity. First of all, whether you deserve a girl's love or not is not up to you to decide. It is completely up to her. You loved this girl irrespective of whether she decided that she deserved love or that you should have any sort of affection towards her. Really meditate on this point. You liked what you … | /r/seduction | 02/03/17 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Cute girl usually leads to chickening outOne thing thing I'm really trying to get down in my system and it is if it is OK for you, it is OK for her. Example, some girls are flirty on the dancefloor and will flirt with you and rub themselves all over you not necessarily sexually but as playful flirtation. If you are cool with it, they will do it more and they can enjoy doing it, if you are uncomfortable and a shy nice guys, they will stay the fuck away from you not because they don't like you but because they feel it is outside of your … | /r/seduction | 02/03/17 10:42 AM |
| 2 | Is monk mode a good option for Virgins?I'm not suggesting talk therapy. Meds are amazing. It can literally change your life and antidepressants don't need to be taken for life. If you have a friend psychiatrist or family friend who is a doctor, ask if he can help you out with a prescription and you can fix the behavioral issues yourself. I take meds other than antidepressants and I wouldn't have it any other way. Just think about it. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Is monk mode a good option for Virgins?Try to see a psych if you are having suicidal thoughts even though I think you're just exaggerating. If you have the depressive mood for 6 months or more, you could be suffering from depression, anxiety or both. If you have the capacity, go to a psych. It might do you good. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 02:06 PM |
| 5 | Is monk mode a good option for Virgins?Real change takes time. The best game coming from a loser will not hit. But real change takes time and is hard. Work on your life, go to the gym, pursue higher studies and during that time, go out and socialize whenever you can, be it as dating or with a group of friends. Game is doing the same move but gradually better over time. Social dynamics is nuanced and it needs time to develop. The black belt and the brown belt both do the exact same move but the black belt can do it so much better beca… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 01:19 PM |
| 9 | I am kind of salty about online dating. Can you tell me if it's justified, or I am having a limiting belief?you'd die to know what freud would say about the way you smile This is a bit cringy honestly even if she is a psych major. You really don't want long drawn out conversations because these bitches get hit up like by 300 guys all making deep statements. She doesn't have time to give a thought out answer to anything. Think of online chicks as ADD kids. They have 0 attention span so if you are not making a statement that has a gut reaction response, she's not gonna respond. Example: "You have a nice… | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 09:58 AM |
| 4 | I'm having my first ever Day 2 in 3 hours! Tips are welcome!Your value is not dictated from her reaction so don't try to make her like you. Whether she likes you or not is up to her and doesn't change you in any way shape or form. Don't have any expectations from her because it communicates lack. Have wants from her and it is completely different. We need food but a Pizza is a want, porage would have done it for survival but Pizza is so much more pleasurable. She needs to be the Pizza. It wouldn't matter if you have her but you want her anyway. So it's n… | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 02:19 PM |
| 18 | [FR] A Russian, a Yoga Girl, and a Brit. My first 3 Tinder dates (and all in one week)!Nice field report. Well done. | /r/seduction | 28/02/17 10:09 AM |
| 4 | What are some of your best seduction tips? What are the slightest signals girls give that shows they are interested? Reply with your experience about it.When a girl gives me proximity, I freak the fuck out. Am I doing it right? | /r/seduction | 27/02/17 06:01 AM |
| 0 | 30 Day Experiment: Approaching at least one women a dayThese are the kind of posts I hate. Dude, if you want to do a 30 day challenge, good for you and you have all the support from the subreddit but don't claim to be an inspiration to anyone. You are doing this for you, not for anyone else so do me a courtesy and don't make it out that you are trying to inspire me. A guy who has reached the top of their game is an inspiration, not a newbie doing an approach a day challenge. All the best to you but don't give yourself more credit than you deserve, i… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 12:34 PM |
| 6 | For those of you who are afraid to approach a super pretty girl.Honestly the thing is beautiful women have lower downside risk. They are desirable so they don't have a lot of defense mechanisms like average looking women do. Average looking women need to game guys. Beautiful women got of all trump cards in their hands, they don't need to make maneuvers or play you, they are perfectly willing to let you do your thing because what you do doesn't really matter, they can get what they want 99% of the time. | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 06:36 PM |
| 1 | I don't wanna loose this tinder girlBro... women are attracted to what you are capable of i.e. your value because they want value themselves. You like this girl because you think your life will be better off with her in it rather than out of it. The same way, she wants a person that would make her life better and you have to become that guy. Think of how you can be valuable for her in absolute terms and spend as much time as you can with her. Familiarity leads to liking. "Paula, you know I'm shy as fuck and sometimes I really stru… | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 02:09 PM |
| 16 | DAE Notice a weird father/daughter type dynamic when you're getting in a relationship?It's a power dynamic. You're stronger than she is. She has latched onto you and you feel responsible for her. That's a daddy daughter dynamic. It has not much to do with the norm, it's just how it played out for you. Enjoy it and don't hurt the girl. | /r/seduction | 18/02/17 08:17 PM |
| 1 | 5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned.First off, I really liked your approach to life. It's close to how I live my life or at least would like to live my life. I want to ask you, what is your goal when approaching women in the day? You want to get laid? Meet a nice girl? Find a girl that you mesh with? You want to have fun? What is the exact thing you have in mind when decide to go out? | /r/seduction | 18/02/17 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Must not seem desperate, must seem like having fun, must have social proof, etc etc. Sometimes I just want to say "Fuck this shit", man.Dude... it's ok. All of this stuff stems from the same place which is need for validation and a feeling that you are not enough on some level. Men wouldn't even bother doing anything if they weren't motivated by sex so it's a good thing to have to work on yourself and become a better person. Our minds try to make sense of the world and it navigates through it taking into consideration our strengths and weaknesses. If you feel weak, you will exhibit neediness and trying to please people, it's a n… | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 01:53 PM |
| 1 | I just got out of a LTR and freeze up most of the time when women approach me in public. How do I stop this?Ya. I got it. It's not expected that women hit on guys. You must be doing something right. Enjoy it. | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 11:18 AM |
| 2 | I just got out of a LTR and freeze up most of the time when women approach me in public. How do I stop this?It's an ego problem or you just miss your ex? It's fair if you don't want to talk to new women right now but if you do and you can't, it's a problem. A woman's validation or devalidation doesn't change who you really are. I think this is the best concept I have. If I tell you, you are an amazing person and you should feel proud of yourself or just crawl under a rock and die loser. It make you feel a whole range of emotions and you feel weaker or stronger based on the validation or the devalidati… | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 06:48 AM |
| 1 | What did a woman do to seduce you?Next time start with cleavage. :) | /r/seduction | 13/02/17 06:39 AM |
| 3 | I've read about confidence a million times, but realistically how do you start off with flirting with a girl?The only problem is that the standard for girlfriend is much higher than a casual lay. The women you sleep with are not necessarily women you would be willing to have a relationship with and higher quality women have higher standards. Secondly, OP is 21 years old so the demographic he is working with are college students that likely are in the experimentation phase rather looking necessarily to commit. | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 12:52 PM |
| 13 | Is it ok not to settle?You have the incorrect definition of settling. Settling is staying with what you have instead of trying for more. You don't have the "meh" girls to start with so how can you settle on something you don't even have. I'm not saying that you should go for women you find unattractive but to assume that you can close all the "meh" girls is a gross overstatement on your part. Even unattractive women have expectations, some of them grossly unrealistic. So to answer the real question that hopefully you … | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Thanks for the help. Here's my two cents:Let go of any expectations you have about anything (expectations lead to disappointment) This is the next thing you need to fix. You have to have expectations, otherwise you will drift aimlessly in life. Goals are expectations. Now this is a bit tricky because without expectations you perform better and react better to the environment but it kills motivation, drive and direction. The "what" is the expectation the "how" is the process. The "what" doesn't matter if you can't do the "how" but witho… | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 09:13 AM |
| 1 | First online hookup ever. It was weirdWhy did you not talk about it? | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 01:58 PM |
| 1 | How do you stop caring if they like you or not?You start caring to like yourself rather than for other people to like you. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Feel like I do everything well, but girls aren't sexually interested?Emotions are a bit weird. Attraction is an impulse but people have the ability to act against impulses so emotion doesn't necessarily lead to actions. The girl could be attracted to you but decide not to have sex with you. One does not necessarily lead to the other so if you are gunning for attraction to get sex, you might get the attraction but not get laid. There is a weird thing that people do which is backwards rationalize emotions. If the girl initially was not super attracted to you but ha… | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Feel like I do everything well, but girls aren't sexually interested?First of all. Good job on all the effort. Focus on getting laid rather than getting attraction because what's the use of the girl getting attracted to you if she won't end up sleeping with you. The focus should never be the techniques. The techniques are only tools at your disposal to get what you want which is the girl sucking your dick. Not every girl will get attracted to you the same way that you will not get attracted to every girl. But the point is failing to get laid is acceptable and exp… | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 01:46 PM |
| -1 | "I don't remember eating a legend" reply?I would stop responding entirely. She will start to doubt the statement. Either she will be passive aggressive or she will act like a puppy, both are desirable. If she becomes passive aggressive, maintain the silence until she breaks. | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 01:24 PM |
| 1 | On a date, do you ever ask if she's looking for a relationship or looking to have fun or anything like that ?I become stupid when I am emotional. All calculations go out the window and it becomes about the vibe which is all well and good but the tactical elements and get thrown out the window. Any thoughts on this? | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Female here, do the same rules of seduction apply for a female trying to pick up dudes?Yet your standards are somehow not that low. You're better than ripped as fuck guys? | /r/seduction | 30/01/17 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Female here, do the same rules of seduction apply for a female trying to pick up dudes?If you just want to get laid which is basically what pick up is about, it's pretty much straightforward. Just give enough indications that you like the guy and hope he picks up on it. My guess is that you want commitment which is exactly the opossite of what the community preaches. Loyalty and commitment are logical attributes although it is much more likely that a person commits to you if he likes you but at the end of the day it is a decision that you have to ask the guy to make. You have to b… | /r/seduction | 30/01/17 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Anyone Else Feel Like They "Miss The Point" A Lot?All of this is great but you need to come to a conclusion. You're on to something very significant that you should do things for yourself and not for others but staying at home and playing games is not the solution even if it is important to you. You have to realize what the "Goal" is, the motivation is the why. The goal is to get girls, some people want to date strippers for validation, others want to date strippers because they just want to date strippers, they do it for themselves. The wrong … | /r/seduction | 30/01/17 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Can you have a clear mind whilst you are horny/ how to develop one?If you can learn to separate emotions from actions you can and it's called impulse control. Example: someone can make you angry, but you can choose not to express the anger. It doesn't mean you didn't get angry, you chose not to act on the impulse. Impulse control is a distinctly human attribute. Hunger is an impulse the same way that attraction is an impulse. The stronger the emotion, the more difficult it is to override. The good thing is that with women, the less you override your impulses, t… | /r/seduction | 29/01/17 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Do girls cuddle with guys in the friend zone?None of the comments till now are particularly useful. The thing is your job is not to focus on what she wants. Your job is to focus on what you want. If you want to kiss, you go for a kiss. If she rejects, you back off. You don't try to mind read to try to know if she is up for it. You find the next girl that you want to fuck and try again. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:58 AM |
| 0 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsSo? Doesn't stop the double standard though. The guy has to pursue the girl, take all the responsibility of the interaction while making sure the girl is enjoying herself, feels safe, secure and all the while respected and loved. What does the girl have to do? Not much other than not be a total bitch. She's a person too, yes. But the standard of conduct and the level of responsibility she has to take is far less than the man. So although she is a person too doesn't mean she shares equal responsi… | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Saying: why haven't we had sex yet!!!???"It amazes me that we haven't had sex yet." But it has to sound like a compliment. She does something impressive or something nice for you and you can throw this line. | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Make Her Horny To Solidify The LayAmazing advice. Thank you. | /r/seduction | 22/01/17 11:56 AM |
| 1 | How to know when I'm actually being vulnerable or just emotionally vomiting?Good luck on the next one. It happens. | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 06:51 PM |
| 1 | How to go from meeting a girl to sex/Bj?What a boy and girl love each other very much... | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Obsessed with sexSecond this. Depends on what the guy is looking for. If you want a girlfriend, prostitutes won't help you but if your goal is sex, pay the $200 and lay a gorgeous girl and get on with your life. | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 12:54 PM |
| 5 | What does this even mean?She wants you. She just is afraid and doesn't want to be used and dumped because her system cannot tolerate rejection after fucking. She's telling you she want you to go slow and make her feel comfortable. Plus she's a girl from work. If you were a girl, would you want a guy from work to fuck you and have the word spread in the company. Dude, empathize a bit. She wants assurance that you want her really and her place is not another notch on your belt. Tell her that you can go slow and that you w… | /r/seduction | 19/01/17 10:31 AM |
| -4 | How to tell a girl my time is too valuable to deal with flakiness without coming across like a dick?"I want to see you, when are you free?" | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Do you score more chicks by coming off as an asshole at first?Make them like you first and then seem like nothing they do really matters and you can hook them like that. People fear losing what they already have. Disinterest from the start doesn't do much. | /r/seduction | 16/01/17 06:15 AM |
| 7 | "Get better, not bitter" - becomes seemingly harder and harderThink of it this way. You are attracted to beautiful women rather than ugly ones, let's be fair. Women are attracted to strong, ambitious, successful men. You don't do it for the girl. You do it for yourself so that you can get the girl that you want. If you want a house, you save up money to buy the house. You are not saving for the house. You are saving for yourself so that you can buy the house you want. You are not working hard to get "a girl", you are working hard for the kind of girl you a… | /r/seduction | 15/01/17 12:23 PM |
| 1 | I'm hardly ever actually interested and I feel bad about it. Please read, advice would be appreciatedDude... stop mindless approaching and get out of pick up. It is against your value system. You don't want to talk to women you are not interested in so don't talk to them. You will have internal issues and start do doubt yourself. Pick up is a sport, it is not real. Cold approach is not for connection and a meaningful relationship with a girl, it is a sport. It is, let's make this girl fuck me. If you are looking for a genuine connection with a girl you care about and cares about you, talk to wo… | /r/seduction | 14/01/17 06:32 PM |
| 1 | How to know when I'm actually being vulnerable or just emotionally vomiting?I don't think I like this concept much. I could classify vulnerability in 2 ways, emotional vulnerability and real vulnerability. Emotional vulnerability is weakness in my book. Honestly, controlling emotions is hard enough as is without a girl telling you she would rather sniff paint than talk to you. Then there is real vulnerability, risking not getting something that you want, which is still emotional to a large extent but it is more result oriented than for example asking for affection. If y… | /r/seduction | 14/01/17 05:46 PM |
| 1 | No real physical contact on first or second date. How can I take the third date to the next level?As long as she wants to spend time with you it is good. You are in a good position now. She likes you but now you have to build attraction. Attraction is different than liking. Try to accentuate your value as a person while enjoying her company rather than just focusing on the fun of the interaction and escalate. | /r/seduction | 14/01/17 12:33 PM |
| 0 | Ten seduction facts men wish they knew earlier...Everything is spot on. Ty! | /r/seduction | 14/01/17 10:25 AM |
| 1 | I feel like I did almost everything wrong but still got laid just by putting myself out there and not expecting sex.Just because you don't want to hear something, doesn't make it untrue. I am not trying to downplay his success and he deserves all the props for stepping up but it is not difficult to imagine that it is unlikely than a guy that is conventionally bad looking writes a post titled "I did everything wrong but still got laid by putting myself out there an not expecting sex". The guy wasn't even gunning for sex and he still got laid. It's just an observation and I could definitely be wrong and honestl… | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 09:07 PM |
| 6 | Any tips how to not approach a girl in a creepy way?Do the approach because you want to approach, not because you want the girl to like you. If you go look at a Ferrari, you go because you find the car beautiful, not to impress the car. Do the approach for you because you are interested, not to impress the girl. It will be way more chill and it is the uncertainty of "what does this guy want?" that puts off women, if she knows what you want, you make it easy for her to respond. | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 09:29 AM |
| 6 | I feel like I did almost everything wrong but still got laid just by putting myself out there and not expecting sex.Nah... that's not the case. I barely have any neediness issues and have worked on myself quite a lot. I have my own place, lift, have good hobbies, good job, and I go for women I like and ask them out. The higher the calibre the woman is, the less allowance for mistakes you get. It is what it is. So to get away with neediness and blunders leads me to believe that either the women think it is cute that he cares that the girl likes him or he is good looking enough that what he does isn't mattering… | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 09:05 AM |
| 5 | I feel like I did almost everything wrong but still got laid just by putting myself out there and not expecting sex.I have a feeling you are good looking. I'm not trying to discredit your efforts. Either you come off as really sweet and it is appealing to a certain percentage of the women or you're good looking so the girls are looking past that. Either way, very good job. You should be proud of yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Went on a date, but still in love with her BfYep. If she doesn't want to move on, it's not up to you to force her to move on. You offered her your company, if she is still fixated on the abusive ex, it's her problem, not yours. It has really nothing to do with you. | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 02:25 PM |
| 3 | I'm in a position in a relationship that is absolutely crushing me.. would really appreciate some relationship helpYep. But you risked people telling you to screw a possibly solid relationship with a person that is likely important to you. Ask yourself the following questions: Is this girl important to you on her own, as difficult as it is to have a death in the family, the feelings will pass and if you are keeping the girl only for emotional support, it's not bad but you should ultimately choose a girl based on merit. How old is the girl, can she safely wait out possibly 3 to 4 years without having a child?… | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 07:53 AM |
| 3 | So frustrated with online dating, it's causing major anger problemsDude, I'm 27 years old and barely this year did I got a semblance of a handle on my life. You're not supposed to feel like a complete person at 22. It takes time. And I have set up my life in a way that I have basically ZERO stress, not many people have my context and it is very difficult to have clarity of mind if you have people nagging you or you're trying to compete in a social context. There are a couple of mindsets that helped me. You got no one in this world but you. No one owes you anyth… | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 07:42 AM |
| 3 | I'm in a position in a relationship that is absolutely crushing me.. would really appreciate some relationship helpDude... this is truly the worst place for relationship advice. Most guys here fuck for sport. If the girl can wait out on the baby making part, having the support of a partner can really benefit you with your professional goals. Talk to her about your plans, and decide together. | /r/seduction | 10/01/17 05:11 AM |
| 3 | New Year's ResolutionsStop seeing women as your ticket to happiness and see them as a welcome addition to your already kick ass life. | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 06:03 PM |
| 4 | So frustrated with online dating, it's causing major anger problemsYou have bigger problems than dating sites. Fix your insecurities and let's say for the fuck of it, you respond to this girl with, "these survey sites are mostly scams and the possibility to make money is minimal" and continue the conversation, the fact that shit bothers you is a sign of a deeper issue. Never depend on anyone for your happiness or your life. This doesn't mean shut yourself from the world. It just means no one owes you anything ever and nothing is personal, ever. Go to Tinder sec… | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 10:40 AM |
| 8 | Highly sensitive and emotional girlsJust a tip. Don't tell her that you want her only for sex right away. She has enough anxiety as it is, don't add to that and if you have chemistry with this girl, a sense of groundedness is what she is looking for. Don't be a douche either, she has enough on her plate as is and she doesn't know what she needs to do to survive in life, at least psychologically. Just take it into consideration when dealing with the girl please. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 09/01/17 08:32 AM |
| 1 | Something's fucking wrong with me. My mind has absolutely 0 consistency.I'm with you there. Mental health is really super crucial in life. Messed up brain = messed up life. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Something's fucking wrong with me. My mind has absolutely 0 consistency.It's your life. An internet stranger cannot know your situation better than you but you do have issues. The fact that you continue to respond and that you haven't deleted the post is a good sign, you're not taking criticism personally and it is a good thing. Anyway good luck. Hope you find what you are looking for, you will eventually, one way or the other. Cheers bro. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Something's fucking wrong with me. My mind has absolutely 0 consistency.First of all. Do you know how demeaning it is to talk down to a person who has aggression issues and very possible anxiety/depression? Worst way to convince a guy he has a problem is telling him to enjoy his miserable existence. YOU'RE a miserable person if you talk like that to people especially if they have mental health issues. Measure your words please next time. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Something's fucking wrong with me. My mind has absolutely 0 consistency.Not therapy. Just SSRIs. You have aggression issues. You don't need talk therapy, especially if you can't afford it. But you really need a fix. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 06:47 PM |
| 24 | How can somebody who is bald and short attract women or am I pretty much fucked?Neil Strauss. Epitome of short and bald. What are you talking about? Just shave your hair and move on with your life. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Ill tell you what most women want in a guyDebatable but fair point. Debatable because the guy is not bad looking. If you change the guy's picture to a fat 40 year old with molten hair, I would give it to completely. Now you have a solid 6/10. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Ill tell you what most women want in a guyI'll give it to you but I have difficulty understanding what else to make of your initial statement. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 01:52 PM |
| 2 | I always end up reeking of desperation. What should i do? I am so irritated with myself.This seems counterintuitive but make work, gym, passions your primary focus and it will be easier to interact with women. If you base your self worth on women, it will be hard. One more thing, you only have yourself in this world, don't depend on other people for your well being or your happiness. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Ill tell you what most women want in a guyBecause normal women don't want rich, good looking, tall, athletic guys, valid point. Men who go after good looking women is perfrctly normal but women who go after tall, good looking, successful men are definitely diggers. Flawless logic. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Ill tell you what most women want in a guySomeone is messing with your reality. It's really difficult for you to agree that a girl would want a guy that takes care of himself, makes her feel safe, is tall and attractive, has goals in life and good hygiene. Cocky funny all the way bro. All you need. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Ill tell you what most women want in a guyGood write up. Thanks. Really valuable info. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 09:35 AM |
| 1 | How to know when I'm actually being vulnerable or just emotionally vomiting?Vulnerable has more to do with going after what you want. Going for a kiss and revealing your intention puts you in a vulnerable position. | /r/seduction | 08/01/17 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Self image low enough that I can't imagine someone taking interest in me.It has nothing to do with insulting you, it doesn't benefit me. I have ADHD. I'm on stimulant medication which is starting to give me bad side effects. My dad is a doctor, not psych though but I would trust him over any psych, thinks I have a mood disorder rather than an executive functioning disorder so I will probably try SSRI after talking to my psych next week. Today I am off meds so you got me talking to you and not the doped version of me which I can't really tell you if it is better or wo… | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Self image low enough that I can't imagine someone taking interest in me.Life doesn't owe you favors, if you truly cannot offer value, you will get a girl that can offer the same amount of value as you can. That's why we work on ourselves but sometimes you can offer value but your emotional system is comprised so you can't correctly assess yourself. Robbin Williams was brilliant, loved by all, but he suffered from depression for decades and ended up killing himself. Emotions and logic don't always mix so if you have an emotional issue, fix that with your therapist. I… | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Self image low enough that I can't imagine someone taking interest in me.Look... think of it like this. You're smart, intelligent and skillful, but you slack off at work. Would the company keep you? No, they would sack your lazy ass. Capacity matters only to the extent that you use it. The landlord wants his 250k, he doesn't give a shit about how much money you got, he wants what the price of the house. What use is a billionaire who is not willing to pay. To the landlord, the billionaire might as well be a beggar as far as the landlord is concerned. | /r/seduction | 07/01/17 06:16 AM |
| 9 | Self image low enough that I can't imagine someone taking interest in me.Yep... i think I got this down for you. Bear with me: Low self esteem means you don't trust your capacity. The solution to this is to operate as though capacity is infinite. Is it really? No. But you operate with a hell of a lot less anxiety and trust yourself more if you know you can get what you want 100% of the time. It doesn't mean you will, it just allows you to not give up. We lose when we give up. Every victory in life comes after thousands of defeats. Does it mean that the greats didn't … | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 10:31 PM |
| 1 | What happened to the humanity of it all?The problem is not them, it's you. If you stop trying to please, they will appreciate your humanity but when you try to please them, you give away your humanity and become a dancing puppet unfortunately. Stop caring what the girl wants and start caring about what you want. | /r/seduction | 06/01/17 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Showing interest vs needinessI want you - Interest Please like me - neediness One is about what you want. The other is about what she wants. | /r/seduction | 04/01/17 05:27 AM |
| 2 | Is it OK to ask if the other person wants to break up?Wait it out. It won't be a problem if you don't make it one. If you want to talk to her and miss her, tell her that you want to talk to her because you miss her voice, something sappy like that. Let her tell you when she will be free and call her. | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it OK to ask if the other person wants to break up?You want her or not? | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 01:44 PM |
| 1 | I feel nothing, therefore I amHappy for you, you're on the right path. See you one month into the relationship and we'll talk. | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 01:24 PM |
| 2 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?In the same boat as you. I am looking for a long term girlfriend too. I messed it up with 2 really quality girls. I am in an anxious state now, irregular heartbeats, chest pains, confusion, sucks so bad and I need sleep. It will pass and I will eventually get what I am looking for but for the past 2 days, it's been tough to say the least. I can't even control my thoughts. Just work on yourself, sleep well, remove distractions and if you find a girl you want, go for it. Worst case scenario, you'l… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 04:00 PM |
| 7 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?I had friend who probably did 5000+ approaches and got laid like maybe 5 times and not with women of amazing quality. There is such a thing as stupidity and it depends on what you want from women. Anyway... you are asking the wrong question. There are failure as life, same way there are failures in school, sports and anything else for the matter. First define exactly what it is that you want and really ask yourself in your heart of hearts the kind of person you need to be to achieve your goal. I… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Should I Continue Reading The Mystery Method?Forget the autistic comment. Mystery is one of the true legends in the PUA community and no one has the right to judge the person. You can judge his system but the man is an absolute legend. Anyone who disagrees, let him first achieve as much as mystery has and then talk. That being said, MM is a very routine based approach to interacting with women. Mystery is a performer, he is a magician so routines fit him. If you want a genuine connection with a women, whether you just want to fuck or you w… | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Girl rejects you and then keeps trying to flirt. Do I even bother?Yep it's a normal psychological response. You tell a girl, "You turn me on so much" and she will get turned on, we want people who want and value us. What use is it if I want you if you don't want me. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 12:51 PM |
| 1 | I can't hold a conversation through texting. Any advice?The point of texting is to set up a date. If this is Tinder, don't flirt much, telling a girl is gorgeous or cute once or twice might be OK if you think you are losing her but spiking her too much on text is a sure way for a flake. Women don't trust their emotions because they do stupid shit like fucking random guys off the internet. So if you fry their brain with overstimulation, their gonna get anxious and flake. | /r/seduction | 30/12/16 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Is it alright to join in on her plans?Go. | /r/seduction | 30/12/16 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Do you have any suggestions for me that I may have not thought of?Wants wishes matter to the extent acted upon. A house costs $1,000,000. If you would only pay $500,000 for the house, it means you don't want. There is no such thing as I want it but. Everything in life has a price. When you decide you want to talk to a girl, it has a price and if you are not willing to pay that price, you are chancing it at best. Maybe the landlord likes you and gives you the house at half cost. Man up and pay the price if you want it and it is important to you. | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Do you have any suggestions for me that I may have not thought of?You have to think more binary. Judge people by actions, never emotions. She looked at you which communicates interest, if you don't approach it communicates disinterest. Why would you show disinterest if you are interested. Judge yourself and other people by actions, not emotions. It matters very little what people feel, all that matters what they do. If a girl hated you but fucks you, she still fucked you. Would you rather have it the other way around, the girl love you but not fuck you? I know… | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 06:27 PM |
| 0 | "I am the prize!" mindset. How did you guys finally get this thought process to stick?I don't like this concept at all honestly. You are not the prize and she is not the prize. Now you have to bear in mind that I want a relationship. I can see how this applies to lays but in a relationship there is no prize, it's a collaboration. You want a quality girl and she wants a quality guy. It's completely win-win. Pick up is a competition between you and the girls emotions. If you can make her feel like your are the best thing since sliced bread, she will suck your dick so there is immen… | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 12:14 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to focus on girlsNot everyone is a master seduction artist. Go to a psych first of all and get help for your depression and your anxiety. I don't think you should move forward without getting your internal issues handled first. | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 09:39 AM |
| 8 | BUY A WATCHThis post was worth it for this comment. | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Is "we would make great friends" a rejection?You get what you ask for. She is asking for a friend, if you buy into that frame, you became a friend. So you reject the proposal and ask for something more, if she buys into it, she can't do bullshit excuses afterwards. Anyway up to you unless you want to play the "Oh... I thought we were just friends" game. I wouldn't accept the friend frame personally, not worth the headache that comes with it. But you were on the date with her and you know the vibe better than me so good luck. | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 02:46 PM |
| -1 | Is "we would make great friends" a rejection?The girl is testing you. Just go "I have something better than friendship in mind. When are you free?" And let it hang until she responds. Create a void until she responds, no communication is allowed until she responds. She will go "What do you have in mind?". You'll go "I want to meet you again", she will go "why?". From this point is up to you. "I want to beat your ass at Scrabble" is a personal favorite of mine. She will get the point and her buying temperature will go up and she will eventu… | /r/seduction | 28/12/16 02:16 PM |
| 2 | How to recover after showing the neediness?Everything is fixable but you made it harder or yourself. | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Why am I so obsessive?Why can I not read minds? | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 09:37 AM |
| 2 | 26 M, never had a GF - Wondering if anxiety may not be the real issue...Plz bare with me - tried professional counsel, hasn't worked and can't afford...Valid point about your 1. Sometimes you do the needed and the girl is being a bitch, at that point, you can put your foot down and call her on it. Alternatively, sometimes when dealing with really high value girls you need to give a lot to get them squarely, you need to be really strong and have patience until they give in. They have a lot to offer so it's only fair that you have a lot to offer also. No one owes anyone anything. | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 11:04 AM |
| 1 | 26 M, never had a GF - Wondering if anxiety may not be the real issue...Plz bare with me - tried professional counsel, hasn't worked and can't afford...What kind of girl expects a bitch of a guy? You have to see what the girl wants and give it to her which is usually strength. Sometimes one demonstration is not enough tip her over, that is the point. | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 05:11 AM |
| 2 | 26 M, never had a GF - Wondering if anxiety may not be the real issue...Plz bare with me - tried professional counsel, hasn't worked and can't afford...The reason you didn't get offended by what I wrote to you is because I wrote it in a way that meets the normal expectation when giving the sort of comment that I did, you didn't feel anything out of place. If you are positioning yourself as a lover, there are certain expectations that exist which are really easy to see if you are looking for it. Secondly, your frame needs to be strong. The girl wants to get fucked but if you finish in 2 minutes, you are useless. You were amazing for the first 2 … | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 05:10 AM |
| -2 | Texting a girl "merry Christmas"Of course. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 01:06 PM |
| 16 | 26 M, never had a GF - Wondering if anxiety may not be the real issue...Plz bare with me - tried professional counsel, hasn't worked and can't afford...Let me straighten you out brother. IQ is not the issue. Far from it. I love your ego protection btw. Maybe I'm too smart, that's why I can't get girls. 😂😂😂. Trust me, that's not it. The problem is and the technical term for it is that you are a pussy. Yep and with your anxiety, this sentence probably hurt you a hell of a lot. Let me break it down to you. You give up too quickly because rejection hurts for you a lot. The solution is to realise the only reason you get rejected is that you give up … | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 11:24 AM |
| 3 | Is it my personality? Or how I interact with people? 19 FWay to rip the girl out. Dude... chill. Loud mouth bitch? What if someone called you an asshole, how would that be constructive criticism? Well intentioned sir but poor execution. It's a girl, she has feeling, comments like this break a girl. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 09:12 AM |
| 10 | Is it my personality? Or how I interact with people? 19 FSorry to burst your bubble miss but you need to lose weight. It's not a personality issue. If a guy was ugly with no prospects but a heart of gold, would you date him? | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 09:07 AM |
| 5 | How do you transition from dancefloor to something else?After make out the expectation is sex, you go back down to talking, her pussy is on fire, her state is gonna go down and she will move on to someone else. You have to amp it up more or don't let it reach there to start with. Tell her you want her, take her by the hand and drag her to the toilet and fuck her brains out or pull her home. You cannot go back down without influencing her state negatively. Imagine this, the girl is telling you how good you make her feel, how much she wants you, starts… | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 08:51 AM |
| 2 | Anger is a byproduct that will never sufficeOne advice to you sir. Don't ask for love from people. Love cannot be bought. It is the root of your mysery. Ask people for behavior and people will give you love freely if they feel like it. You cannot control how a person feels towards you to a large extent. | /r/seduction | 25/12/16 07:21 AM |
| 2 | Why are so many helpful and then this...Merry Christmas. I'm on Concerta 18mg. Inattention issues get solved with low doses so maybe worth a shot to ask your psych. Even 5mg Ritalin if you can tolerate it might do it for you. Avoid sugar if you can. Our minds are sooo fucked up. There are people who can party till 3am, sleep 3 hours and operate perfectly. We need 9 hours of sleep just to be normal. With meds, good sleep, diet, exercise and low stress, it becomes OK. I cut everything out from my life, even social life, I go to work, ex… | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 09:48 AM |
| 12 | I feel nothing, and this has somehow made me more charming and confident.Let's play a game. Let's test out your new found powers. Make me feel good. | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 03:56 AM |
| 19 | I feel nothing, and this has somehow made me more charming and confident.Anxiety is an emotion. No emotions = no anxiety You are on the right path. The master manipulator part is all hype, you're giving yourself more credit than you deserve. | /r/seduction | 24/12/16 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Why are so many helpful and then this...Dude... my judgement of your value matters very little. In fact, I have all the love for you. I have ADHD and I know the defective feeling ADHD gives you all the time like somehow whatever you do, it will eventually all turn to shit. Are you taking your meds? | /r/seduction | 23/12/16 07:01 AM |
| 1 | Why are so many helpful and then this...Just to burst your bubble a bit. I have ADHD too and I do have capacity to feel. You want to feel good about yourself, I'll tell you how. An ugly girl has less value than a beautiful girl but both women's lives have the same value. Human life has the same value regardless of race, gender, money, looks. So your life does not have less value because you have less and you deserve love as much as anyone else. If you want to be happy, use this. It won't get you shit in life but you will be happy so i… | /r/seduction | 23/12/16 06:15 AM |
| 1 | I met a girl on tinder, we had a quick coffe date and she will be out of town for a week. I want to keep the interest without becoming annoyingTell her you want to meet her again when she is back but will not bother her on the phone when she is away. Agree to meet for a date on a specific date after her out of town visit. She will be thinking about you the whole week she is away. | /r/seduction | 22/12/16 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Why are so many helpful and then this...If I punch you will you break? There are always going to be people stronger or better than you but that doesn't make you less than what you are. If I tell you, you are strong, it doesn't make you strong. If I tell you, you are attractive, it doesn't make you attractive. Validation doesn't change anything in you. If I tell you that you are weak, you don't become weak because I devalidated you. You still are the same person, with the same skills, with the same brain and with the same body. But it … | /r/seduction | 22/12/16 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, if I've been rated and told I'm a 7 right now and I'm 5'7" 125lbs, would my attractiveness and rating increase even more if I added lean muscle and built a better physique?Yes. It's not a miracle cure but yes. | /r/seduction | 21/12/16 07:31 PM |
| 2 | I've study pickup since 2005 and never get laid. I've approached so far something like 50.000 women in southern europe.That's normal after 50k approaches. Dude... do some weed. You need a new way of thinking because your current way of thinking isn't working out for you. | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I've study pickup since 2005 and never get laid. I've approached so far something like 50.000 women in southern europe.What would you say your strengths and weaknesses are in pick up? | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 01:29 PM |
| 1 | I've study pickup since 2005 and never get laid. I've approached so far something like 50.000 women in southern europe.Do you suspect any psychological condition? (Serious) | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 01:28 PM |
| 1 | I've study pickup since 2005 and never get laid. I've approached so far something like 50.000 women in southern europe.That is not very short. | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 01:27 PM |
| 1 | How to be happy with my life?Do things for you and not for others. Simple but very true. | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 12:30 PM |
| 1 | I feel so shitty after every (failed) interactionIt might work for you but it doesn't work for me. I don't have that much energy to read 200 pages of words about a single idea most of which is wrong and take massive action in hopes that something changes in my brain. I have a simpler concept, use your common sense. Before doing anything, you need to know what you want, once you know what you want, you ask the goal what the goal wants from you, everything has a price. Once you know the price, you pay it and you get it, it really is that simple.… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 01:53 PM |
| 15 | A new rule to change your perspective: the most attractive quality a girl can have is an interest in you.Since you like this metaphor, I'll give you another one that hits home better. I can be smart, intelligent and skilled at my profession but if I slack off at work, the company will fire me. The fact that I can do the job matters very little if I don't put my capacity to use. This works for you as well, just because you can get a girl, doesn't mean you are entitled to her and that she should jump on your dick. What you are offering the girl is your value to the girl. As glorious as your dick may … | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 12:45 PM |
| 11 | I have a very strong desire for external validation and can't seem to shake itYou can change a lot in a month alone. Keep meditating and learn to be enough by yourself. The thing you want to be a player, even worse that you are content with feeling like one, this is the validation seeking part. There is no issue with having a goal but wanting desperately to better immediately will make you go crazy. Imagine a skinny guy who is trying to get buff and is telling the world how he can bench press 200 pounds. Wanting validation is a sign that you feel you have a lack. The way … | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Compared to high school, what types of guys do MOST beautiful women end up going for in the real world?If you were a hot girl in your mid-20s and could get any guy what's the ideal guy you would go for? | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 11:21 AM |
| 3 | I feel so shitty after every (failed) interactionStop reading any PUA, self-help books, burn it all. The problem is that you think the solution to your problem is in the book when it is not, the solution to your problem isn't even in the girls, it is in yourself. You are looking for value outside of yourself and it is eating you alive, everyone falls into this trap, you go out, you approach no one, go home feel sorry about yourself, next day you feel depressed, you read some books or listen to PUA videos and you feel a bit better about yoursel… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 09:00 AM |
| 251 | A new rule to change your perspective: the most attractive quality a girl can have is an interest in you.The concept is people mistake capacity for value. A millionaire has money but until he gives money to you, he has no value to you. People mistake capacity for value, it is a fallacy. A rich person who will not give you a dime might as well be poor, it's all the same to you. A beautiful girl who is not willing to give of herself to you might as well be ugly. | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 05:37 PM |
| 7 | Feels good man.Smooth. Well done. | /r/seduction | 17/12/16 08:27 AM |
| 5 | In a relationship.. in love.. want to chase and sleep with other women.What you are doing is not fair for your girl. If you want an open relationship, discuss it with your girl. If she's OK with it, chase as much tail as you want but if she is not down with the idea, you have to decide if you are willing to commit to this girl or move on. | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 11:22 PM |
| -2 | Will any woman want to kiss me with these lips?I'm sure you've gone to a dermatologist, but go for a second opinion. If it not a permanent illness, why live with it? | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 11:17 PM |
| 26 | I'm ready to give up on womenReally go to a therapist, you are a wreck. You have no control of your emotions, you are so scared of being alone that you are damaging your liver and quite possibly your brain. Go to a therapist ASAP. | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 05:42 AM |
| 1 | I had the most difficult girl to pickup today and it worked!!!You did well. Keep it up. | /r/seduction | 09/12/16 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Hey, I'd like seddit's take on thisDude... your thought pattern is a bit hazy. First of all, you should never consider the idea of a relationship like it is a whatever happens happens thing. Either you want something or you don't. You're 32 years old, grow up and cut with the being wishy washy. Secondly trying to validate your ego with flings gets old at your age. 27 year old here and it is already getting old. A relationship needs strength, commitment, strong values, ambition, direction, you have to know what you want and you ha… | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 12:40 PM |
| 2 | [Looking for] A sub where everyone is trying to become the best version of themselves and supporting each other in doing so togetherSelf direction is the only way you will feel fulfilled in life. Ambition means better things you want for yourself. Rarely can someone else tell you how to best live your life. Even if they do and what they tell you is right, you are trying to measure up to someone else's expectations of you. Best thing is to sit down alone and think of what is important to you and the direction you want your life to go and follow the path you set out for yourself. | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Need advice with a coworkerYou still got this girl, she just freaked out. Honestly it is a complete non-issue. You came up and introduced yourself, super suave btw, connected to her, looked her up on Facebook, added her, chatted her, got her number, you guys are texting and she was reacting to you. She's already had sex with you in her mind already, like many times. You just need to stop caring what this chick thinks. Girls don't even know how their brain works. Girls have attention issues because they are emotional. They… | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Need advice with a coworkerNah bro... she is shy and you put her on the spot. Where are you taking me put her in the driver seet which makes her panic. Take complete charge of the situation. Just so that you understand: You took charge and introduced yourself. She liked you. You took charge and added her on facebook. She accepted. You took charge and asked for her number. She gave it to you. You gave her control and asked her where she is taking you and she freaked the fuck out. She is a shy girl and you need to take char… | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 02:19 PM |
| 9 | How do i ask girls at a club to dance with me?Ask her non verbally. Signal her to go to the dance floor with you. It's not a big deal if you don't make it a big deal. You can even grab the girl from a group of friends. It's not an issue, you just want a dance, what she is above you? People don't like to say no. If she says "no", you are back to where you already were, nothing lost. | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 01:13 PM |
| 3 | Most of this knowledge seems virtually impossible to use in practice.I think OP is downvoting everyone. Not conclusive but I smell a sad troll. | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 08:34 AM |
| 0 | Most of this knowledge seems virtually impossible to use in practice.I have an extensive education. I have a good job. I have money. I have time. I have some friends. I work out. I dress well. I seek new experiences when I can. I learn and improve. This. I believe. I'm an adult. This. I don't believe. Yet none of that matters because there is never ever anywhere that has attractive single women around. Age doesn't make you an adult. Your capacity and willingness to take responsibility for yourself and the direction of your life is what makes you an adult. It's no… | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Relationship helpNever trust emotional beings. Read her behavior, what she says and what she thinks will always be inaccurate at best. Women do exactly the opposite of what they firmly believe 99% of the time. They have crazy built in them. Your job is asking for compliance. You want a kiss, you ask for a kiss. You want to sleep with her, you bring her to a location where sex is possible and you escalate. Asking her for feelings and connection is you working backwards. You are hoping she will like you enough to … | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 07:13 AM |
| 2 | Please give me your advice. I think I have a lot of problems, but probably mainly escalation and maybe some mindset issues.Bro. Rule: ACTIONS FIRST FEELINGS SECOND You do something for me, then you backwards rationalize that you must like me otherwise why would you do me a favor. Same for women: girl sleeps with you, she backwards rationalizes that she must love you because otherwise why would she sleep with you. If she had dick, she would have felt the butterflies she was looking for. | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Relationship helpToo much drama. Not worth to have a relationship with this girl honestly. Relationship is different from pick up. Pick-up is a hobby, it is a game that is played as a sport. Relationships are based on values, loyalty is the number one criteria for any relationship. That is why I tell you this girl is not relationship material. If you want a relationship, find a girl who is willing to be serious with you. Otherwise, your goal is to fuck this girl which is going to be hard for you since you care a… | /r/seduction | 01/12/16 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Field Report: Tinder dateHow many mature 20 y/o girls have you met? Edit: It is a Tinder lay, but the theory still applies. You deal with people based on where they are coming from. Edit 2: I would have loved if the girl was mature and full inside. I would have been a better experience for me but you work with what you got, that is the point. | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Field Report: Tinder dateCondom. | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 02:34 PM |
| 1 | 18-year-old her and 20-year-old me. Don't want a gfYou still have more growing up to do. She's 18 years old, trust me she's not looking for long term. Dating doesn't imply getting into a relationship. Dating implies getting to know each other. Don't be a dick, she is a person too and she has feelings. | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 06:31 AM |
| 5 | The #1 Thing You Need To Stop Being NeedyThis all great but there is a higher level than this. You need to be ok WITHOUT 8 WOMEN IN HAND. People have a hard time understanding this because it doesn't make sense emotionally. The mentality that you have when you have 8 women in hand should be the same mentality you have with 0 women in hand. YOU DON'T BECOME A DIFFERENT PERSON IF YOU HAVE MORE WOMEN IN YOUR PHONE NUMBER. YOU ARE STILL YOU, YOU HAVEN'T BECOME RICHER, SMARTER, MORE KNOWLEDGEABLE, YOU ARE STILL THE SAME PERSON. The problem … | /r/seduction | 24/11/16 02:01 PM |
| 1 | No hobbies or passions, can I still get laid (without paying)?Dude... very rarely are super rich beta, unless they inherited the money. The community views having loyalty, being respectful and tactful as beta behavior. This is not true. It is only true when it stems from weakness. Taking responsibility for your actions and being value driven is a mark of maturity. The community is filled with man children who just want a girl to love them so that they can forget their miserable existence and feel good about themselves. And trust me, you wouldn't want a pus… | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 07:52 AM |
| 1 | No hobbies or passions, can I still get laid (without paying)?What does meditation do for you. Any recourses you might recommend? | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 05:58 PM |
| 4 | No hobbies or passions, can I still get laid (without paying)?Ok. Dota 2 player here with 4,000 hours logged in. Die LoL scrub first of all. Secondly, cut the game. I don't care if you cry yourself to sleep, you cut gaming completely out of your life. It has no value to you in real life and your diamond tier doesn't mean shit to a girl. You can passively watch streams but actively play is a cardinal sin punishable by death. I haven't touched the game for 6 months now. It is the start to having a normal life I really promise you as much as you don't want to… | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Starting to get really frustrated as I see so many people get into relationships and have hookupsDo you let someone hurt you? No, right? Do you let someone steal your money? No, right? Why? Because these things are yours. No one is allowed to take what is yours. You have to decide that the girl is yours and not allow any moves that interfere with getting what is yours. To Ace a test means to not get anything wrong. But if your goal is to get a 70/100, you won't bother doing much more than that. You think you deserve a kiss, so you won't do more than going for the kiss. Anything more is extr… | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Starting to get really frustrated as I see so many people get into relationships and have hookupsYou still don't think you deserve it. Think about it. This is your problem. Otherwise, if you truly believe that a girl you like is yours, you wouldn't have trouble assuming the role. | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Big Muscles.6 packs > gut It's a plus. Everything adds up. | /r/seduction | 21/11/16 12:06 PM |
| 2 | I think I've really seduced this time boysHappy for you. Stick with the soul mate thing just know how to separate emotions from logic. You cannot set emotional boundaries but trust and respect are very much logical requirements. Our brain work on two different wavelengths. Don't cut out the soul mate thing. I really love my family but if they mess up I can call them on it and make it an issue, it doesn't mean I don't love them, it's completely separate. So clinginess doesn't stem from love, it stems from a lack of ability to separate lo… | /r/seduction | 21/11/16 02:07 AM |
| 9 | Taking a last shot with a girl whose ghosted you?Mostly Tinder chicks text after a couple of months when the dick train starts to dwindle or it loses its flavour. They respark dates that went OK but wasn't fuck me now level. Waste of time girls to start with, the are bored. You can push these girls to the end that day because they are dreading being alone. They are desperately looking for a connection to forget the pain of their existence. If they show fake resistence, you call them on it, she can leave if she wants to. She will always stay an… | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 07:45 PM |
| 21 | Taking a last shot with a girl whose ghosted you?Just drop it. She will text you in a month or two when she is down. Make a date then and fuck her the same day. | /r/seduction | 19/11/16 06:09 AM |
| 1 | I have never had a girlfriend and do not know how to start dating.Emotions by their very nature are uncontrollable. If you want the girl to want to hug you, you have an impossible task infront of you. If you want the girl to hug you irrespective of her emotional state, you have a doable goal. And the weird thing is that once the girl hugs you, kisses you or whatever it is you are gunning for, she will backwards rationalize that she actually wanted to do it and starts liking you because why would she kiss someone she doesn't like. Makes sense? So don't ever try… | /r/seduction | 16/11/16 10:16 AM |
| 10 | The Difference Between Mastering Pickup & Actually Getting LaidThe goal is to get laid, not to merge sets, or to open a shit ton of people. If your goal is to merge sets, you will merge sets. If your goal is to get laid, you will get laid. Very simple. If you say that you act dominant, what you are doing is probably harder but at the same time more efficient than 99% of what your PUA friends are doing. You give almost no control to the girl and take all the responsibility. I can make a guess that all the responses of the girl are seeded and in a way forced … | /r/seduction | 16/11/16 09:27 AM |
| 7 | I have never had a girlfriend and do not know how to start dating.Your most important relationship is your relationship with yourself. Once you get that handled, women become a nice bonus. People dread being alone, what people don't realize is that people dread being alone with themselves. You creep people out because you want a girl to adopt you. Neediness stems from not being able to trust yourself to ensure your own survival. The key point is this: You should not need anyone to get what you want Ask for compliance not love You're in school right, you don't … | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 11:35 AM |
| 10 | I have never had a girlfriend and do not know how to start dating.Your most important relationship is your relationship with yourself. Once you get that handled, women become a nice bonus. People dread being alone, what people don't realize is that people dread being alone with themselves. You creep people out because you want a girl to adopt you. Neediness stems from not being able to trust yourself to ensure your own survival. The key point is this: You should not need anyone to get what you want Ask for compliance not love You're in school right, you don't … | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Taking a girl on a date to play poolAnd now you white knighted him and made him feel even smaller. Well done sir. | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Taking a girl on a date to play poolWhite knighting a dude? Damn you are beyond noble, I never knew such a level even existed. You honor me with your reply valient sir. You should feel proud of yourself for maintaining the sanctity of this subreddit. On a real note... Do you really think I am trying to shit on this guy just to feel good about myself? Grow up dude. I'm all for feel good bullshit but when I am fucking up, I appreciate the guy that tells me I'm fucking up rather than the guy that tells me I'm so brave for trying. Fai… | /r/seduction | 14/11/16 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Taking a girl on a date to play poolDude... i can predict your date is gonna suck. The date is about you, not pool. It's like both of you going to the bar for the alcohol rather than spending time together. The pool doesn't matter at all. You can teach her and bring value to her life and she will dig you for it but the day is about you both not the fucking pool table. And winning? Seriously? It doesn't matter, focus on the game you are playing with the girl rather than the game of pool. Jesus. Know what you want from the girl. You… | /r/seduction | 14/11/16 11:29 AM |
| 2 | How to just be an asshole?Let's see what we can do. Dude... the nice guy syndrome you have stems from inner emptiness. When you are not enough, your only hope is that someone loves you and finds emotional value in you enough to help you survive better. It is a survival instinct. That is why women are more emotional then men. Women are physically weaker then men so they do the offensive on emotional grounds. You diss a man, he will fight you. You diss a woman, she can't really fight you so she cries, and you feel sorry fo… | /r/seduction | 14/11/16 09:10 AM |
| 2 | How to stop feeling unworthy?Aggression is very practical I promise you and aggression has nothing to do with liking. Complete emotional detached get you to see the world very clearly. You want very logical right? Someone messes with you, you don't do anything about it, what does it communicate? It communicates that the other person has the right to mess with you. It communicates you have no power over your life and your life has little value to you. Maybe someone will love you and take care of you. Best way for you to get … | /r/seduction | 09/11/16 09:49 PM |
| 22 | How to stop feeling unworthy?Dude... this is going to be heavy so brace yourself. You need to take full responsibility of your life and I don't mean this like a greating card sort of way. This is probably the hardest thing a person can do in life. I'll elaborate because it doesn't make much sense till now. You need to feel 100% certain that anything you set your mind to, you can get. This means that you don't give up until you get what you want, even until death and I don't even know if I mean just metaphorically. If you ar… | /r/seduction | 09/11/16 08:09 PM |
| 1 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.Sorry I got on you bro. What you wrote is amazing for women. Women want guys who can handle their business. I got really burned bad at work because I was trying hard so I was pissed at humanity. People behave emotionally. They don't care about real value, only what FEELS good. If you try hard to impress, you come off as arrogant and you have to fight to prove your worth because no one wants to feel lower than you. Respect is very expensive and costs people a lot of money. With women, it pays off… | /r/seduction | 09/11/16 02:21 AM |
| 1 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.Nah... it's alright. I got you and you are right, it doesn't mean I cannot give value. What I was doing was overpaying which is slimy. It's the only way you can feel good about yourself while still maintaing rational thought and I got burned. You can get what you want by paying the exact price, overpaying works against you unfortunately. You feel like a king but you convert the other person to a beggar. You're basically paying more to feel like a king but the perceptual value unfortunately dimin… | /r/seduction | 09/11/16 02:11 AM |
| 2 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.Yep... I stand by it. You have the greatest of intentions but when you try to position yourself as an authority figure, you will only reach people who buy into your authority. When you talk to people like equals, everyone will listen to you. the fact that you know something I don't doesn't mean I should respect you, only after I get value from what you said have you provided value to me. The fact that the information you provided has potential to change my life doesn't matter if it doesn't. So w… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 07:27 AM |
| 2 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.I work in a corporate environment. Office work. The thing is that bosses play games too and you can call them out on it without being offensive. When you try to manipulate, you become offensive, when you are changing yourself to impress another person, the other person will get suspicious. The thing is that a manager has a duty towards you to motivate you to work so his job is to make you feel like you are a capable human being. If you are treated as a slave, you will act like a slave, and no on… | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 10:16 PM |
| 3 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.Yep. Fucking hard to get more than you have. Feelings are more real than numbers sometimes and if you work harder than normally expected, more often than not it creates discomfort for your manager/boss. People hate owing others and it instills in the person a negative attitude towards you and you start getting more criticized for stuff and you have to make fights to make your worth recognized and it is ugly as fuck. Best way is to tell your manager you want him to recommend you a raise and to as… | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 08:22 PM |
| 7 | How to be the master of your own mental health by goal setting.I don't like you already honestly. Don't talk down to people because even if what you are saying is valuable with it truly is. People don't like snobs. So treat people as equals even when you do more than others especially your managers at work because they will not like you if you are arrogant even if you deserve to act as such. Once they don't like you, all your efforts will go to waste and you will constantly fight to have others recognize your worth. It's not pretty. | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Breakup: A bottomless pit or a clarion call?You wrote nothing and you know nothing unless you understand which lense through which you should look. I lost my job and my wife and I am filing for bankruptcy. It's a sad state of affairs. But it doesn't have to be this way. It is through the lense of which I choose to see things that determines my fate. You need to do a bit more thinking because you are onto something that can truly change your life and trust me, I am not kidding. You don't have the clarity yet. | /r/seduction | 07/11/16 12:37 PM |
| 1 | So this pornstar chick is flaking.. what do??Nice story. But I have no clue why you are pissed or how you are interpreting things. First of all sister can trump random guy from work who she has a crush on, she's still doesn't know you and she is a girl so she has jitters for sure. She makes it up to you by inviting you for a jog and you take it as some kind of an insult. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that she indeed is messing with you, if you go over and hold the frame that "Oh how considerate of you to invite me, I love you too", … | /r/seduction | 04/11/16 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Be an asshole.Dude... if a girl shoots someone in front of you, you would be unresponsive? Well done sir. Buddhist level 3000. Good explanation but there is a higher level, it is to react appropriately. If you walk pass by her intentionally to mess with her on a logical level, it is much more impactful than being unresponsive. If she understands that you know that courtesy says that you should thank her for holding the door for you but you just stare her in the eyes and don't thank her and communicate that yo… | /r/seduction | 04/11/16 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Be an asshole.Best answer here. | /r/seduction | 04/11/16 08:35 AM |
| 2 | HOW DO YOU PROVOKE SHIT TESTS?You get shit tests if you introduce a frame. If you come in like you're a boss, she's gonna shit test you to see if you are actually a boss. If she's quiet she has already affirmed you're frame, you just hold it. | /r/seduction | 03/11/16 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Practicing seduction as a woman without seeming desperate or out for just sex?The girl loses nothing. She already didn't have the guy in the first place. She creates an emotional connection with the guy and now the chance of her getting denied has very significantly decreased. She is hotter so it makes more sense for the guy logically to go for a beautiful girl that wants exclusivity rather than the average girl that is wishy washy. She needs an emotional connection, logic alone won't carry her, this is the whole point of the pickup community. She needs an emotional conne… | /r/seduction | 01/11/16 04:36 AM |
| 3 | Practicing seduction as a woman without seeming desperate or out for just sex?You know the context not me and your code is your own, it doesn't depend on what others do. Other people are do stupid shit, why am I not allowed to do stupid shit is not a rational argument. If you want it, go for it and no one matters except you, everyone can burn in hell as far as you are concerned. If you want the guy, it is fair. I would be against it if you are just doing it for validation, it would feel good to have a guy drop a girl for you. If it is not to stroke your ego, it's fair pla… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Practicing seduction as a woman without seeming desperate or out for just sex?Look... you can get any guy especially if you are hotter, but keep your hands off the merchandise. There are plenty of other guys. This is how cats behave. If the yarn is out of reach, they go crazy and want it. Once they get the yarn, they get bored and walk away. Unless you really want this guy for real, other than for validation or practice, just drop it. The other girl is a human being too and she has feelings. Regardless of the fact that you wouldn't let another girl flirt with your guy, it… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 08:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you fix being socially awkward?You want them to like you so you panic if you don't get validation and you start doing stupid shit. This is the empty cup syndrome. You need validation. Look... let me demonstrate. It's very nice that people on Seddit have the courage to talk openly about their insecurities and you sir are a fine example of the type of people that make this subreddit great, it's a remarkable example of courage and you sir should feel very proud of yourself. Now did you feel good about yourself? Chances are you d… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 01:22 PM |
| 1 | How to get rid of a subconcious desire to impress other people?Cut it out completely seriously. It does more harm than good most of the time. Especially if you are self validating. It is really dangerous. Thinking about a strategy is useful and deconstructing why people behave the way they do is really useful but if you are using it to construct fake realities and you will indulge in them, say goodbye to everything real in your life, the fantasy will never happen. Take it from someone who used to do it. Validation kills all action. Kings validate, if you va… | /r/seduction | 30/10/16 12:01 PM |
| 1 | How do you deal with your own disinterest in certain women?I don't think you should talk to women you don't want to date or fuck. Only do it if you have problems approaching women you actually do want sort of like training wheels. But you shouldn't be scared to open women you find attractive to start with. If you're scared to talk to another human being and cannot face rejection, you have bigger issues than just women. | /r/seduction | 28/10/16 11:00 AM |
| 3 | The Most Crucial Advice I Can Give You After Working On Myself For 3 YearsStep 1. Work on yourself for 3 years. Step 2. Go get rejected Step 3. Profit This is all great but how does a newbie understand what is means to work on yourself. What if the person is in a depressed state? I'm sure you have very good intentions writing this but your post does not offer any reasoning as to why working on yourself is important. I know you mean well, but what if the person you are dealing with is in party mode and is going out getting drunk, doing drugs and getting laid. How would… | /r/seduction | 19/10/16 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Girls that are receptive to my looks automatically become unreceptive when I talk to them. Every single time.You have what I call the empty cup syndrome. You want the girl to like you so that you feel better about yourself so you either self depreciate to get pity or you overcompensate and become rude to women. If you just don't care much and go for what you want, you could end up with a girlfriend. But the needy vibe kills everything. | /r/seduction | 17/10/16 06:30 AM |
| -3 | Tinder: how to keep the heat before the first date?Don't try hard to be funny. Don't overdo or underdo. Think what is a reasonable expectation a girl has of a guy he met from Tinder. Text her good morning and goodnight. Nothing sappy like sweet dreams. It's just a courtesy. If you underplay and show no interest, she thinks you don't care. You can spike her a couple of times with things like you are so hot and try to button push via text, only do it if you know how to be unreactive and are just doing it to make the girl feel good as opposed to pu… | /r/seduction | 16/10/16 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Success when it 'matters'You can get any girl if you set your mind to it. The problem is that you are not sure you can get her and you are "hoping" that it will work out somehow. Guys who get the type of women they truly want know with a 100% certainty that they can get her and start from the bottom with the girl and reach all the way to the top. 1 hour lays are not a testament to a guy's skill. The girl will forget this guy the next day. If you ever wonder why you sleep with a girl and she doesn't reply to your texts a… | /r/seduction | 13/10/16 05:36 PM |
| 1 | If a girl w/boyfriend flirts with me, is it worth my time?Depends if you want this girl or not. | /r/seduction | 13/10/16 04:46 PM |
| 0 | Did what you said: 6 Months, +10 Approaches/Day. No sex, no Makeouts, no Hooks. I don't know what to do anymoreTry it. Just to see how you feel like on alcohol and try to replicate your results without it. Just 1 shot is even enough just see how you react when you stop giving a shit about what people think. Honestly it's super depressing to do night game if you are not drinking. Do daygame it makes more sense but it is up to you. | /r/seduction | 10/10/16 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Did what you said: 6 Months, +10 Approaches/Day. No sex, no Makeouts, no Hooks. I don't know what to do anymoreYou don't drink right? | /r/seduction | 09/10/16 05:09 AM |
| 0 | Did what you said: 6 Months, +10 Approaches/Day. No sex, no Makeouts, no Hooks. I don't know what to do anymoreRead "the manual - W Anton" It will fix it for you. You will thank me. I'm not even joking. | /r/seduction | 09/10/16 05:08 AM |
| 2 | Girls seem to come when you don't try. But then I read about all the things you have to try to get them. How do you achieve the balance of trying but not tryingYou go for her from a place of strength. Brad Pitt telling a girl that he finds her gorgeous and that he will do so much nasty stuff to her, make her moan and give her a glimpse of what heaven is like because she has been such a good girl tonight, doesn't mean he's not trying. But you when you do something to increase the fun, it's not work. The girl will never go, oh you are trying to get into my pants. It's no longer a logical thing. It's an emotional play. Asking for something from a place of… | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 08:16 AM |
| 5 | "Don't try to sell meat to a vegan"Or don't be bothered when she didn't want you. That might turn it around. If the butcher went "Oh well! It was nice talking to you all the same", Steve might have went "I'm am vegan, but my friends aren't, I'll be sure to let them know about you." Having an agenda kills an interaction. Outcome independence is important. | /r/seduction | 07/10/16 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Need help getting rid of the thought of what people think.What did it for me was the following: Women are attracted to strong, dominant alpha guys. A strong guy is unphased by his surrounding because nothing oustide of him can hurt him so he is icy. He doesn't need to quickly react to his surroundings because nothing is really a threat to him, his reaction time is slow. So unreactivness communicates strength which is an attraction switch. When you allow another person's approval or disapproval to affect you. That is when you care about what people thin… | /r/seduction | 06/10/16 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Want to get better with women, not become a PUAPUA focuses of getting sex as fast as possible so it focuses on the "game" side of it much more. Hopefully with time and effort you can get enough skills to quickly emotionally charge and lay higher and higher calibre girls until you meet the one you really click with and keep her. Biological drives and overall how much fun she has with you will determine your level of success. Alternatively you can focus on your career and focus on having "objective value that holds", and slow play based on mer… | /r/seduction | 05/10/16 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Is this a skill or a change in habits?Change in habbit is required for a skill to develop. So I think your question is wrong. I think the question should be "Is it skill or mindset?" And the answer to that question is a bit of both. When playing tennis you can learn what proper technique is from a coach or from a book but practice gets you the skill. If you don't know the proper technique but you practice a lot, your progress will definitely be better than nothing but it will be bottlenecked by your lack of proper technique. This is… | /r/seduction | 05/10/16 09:10 AM |
| 5 | Severe oneitis and can't move on. Would appreciate words of wisdom or a slap in the face.Every girl is replacable. If you want this girl, you can go chode and tell her you are attracted to her and can't see yourself with any other girl as long as you communicate it from a place of strength, you have a shot. If ugly Betty proclaims her love for you, it's repulsive. If your dream girl tells you she has feeling for you, it's the best thing that will ever happen to you. The reason the seduction community exists is because value is perceptual, it's not black and white. An unemployed, une… | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Those of you diagnosed with ADHD/ADD, how did your game change after taking medication? Is it worth it?I take 18mg concerta extended release which has the same chemical composition as Ritalin but its delivery mechanism is smoother than Ritalin XR. Is there a 10mg XR version of Ritalin? | /r/seduction | 04/10/16 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Those of you diagnosed with ADHD/ADD, how did your game change after taking medication? Is it worth it?What are you on? | /r/seduction | 03/10/16 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Those of you diagnosed with ADHD/ADD, how did your game change after taking medication? Is it worth it?1 year since diagnosis. Yep, it helps because actually paying attention to conversations stops becoming a chore, especially in a group setting. Do psych evaluations. It's quite difficult to get diagnosed with ADD in non-westernised counties and the symptoms like anxiety, racing thoughts, procrastinating, disorganization is not uncommon with people without mental health issues and some psychs believe you grow out of ADHD so if you weren't diagnosed as a kid, psychs are reluctant to put you in the… | /r/seduction | 03/10/16 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Very stuckI would say that you want the pick up to work. That is why you are looking for a lot information. I.e. where are you going tonight? You like what you do? Rule to follow: Hold space when you approach. (Assume that she will stay and chat for you and engage. This is different than the "I need to leave any second now" posture.) Mindset: All women are replacable. Women respond to emotion, not logic. With this mindset. When she says she's in administration, you can very easily go. "OMG I love you. I f… | /r/seduction | 03/10/16 10:07 AM |
| 8 | Is it necessary to '100%' be attracted to the girl?Something is wrong in your thinking. As a man, you can't be wishy-washy. Know what you fucking want or you will hurt the girl. Secondly, it depends on your values. You might be very goal oriented person. As in, you only approach a girl if you like them enough to consider something long term a.k.a. something real. Which is probably the case here. Otherwise, you wouldn't be in a state of indecision and wouldn't be putting this much value in a decision. If this is the case, go for the kill on the o… | /r/seduction | 02/10/16 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Use escorts to not waste time?Fat chicks are still chicks and have feelings. They attach more because they have even less options. I would avoid it if possible. Just use Tinder. | /r/seduction | 02/10/16 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Girls are confusing!You can call her again... it's not an issue as long as you don't sound butt hurt and assume she is still attracted to you. Don't bring up the missed call. Women don't operate based on logic. There isn't a logical reason why she didn't message you back or call, emotions dictate a women's actions, not logic, it doesn't matter anyway, it's all fun and games. Try one more time for the fun of it and then drop it. Always ask yourself would a super alpha guy be bothered that a girl got cold? It's only … | /r/seduction | 30/09/16 06:12 PM |
| 9 | Has anybody tried pickup on the beach?He is a bit of a weird person, aspergers, I don't know what but he has something for sure. He doesn't know when women like him, doesn't really have the ability to read where the other person is in the interaction and has very little smoothness but through sheer effort and enormous field experience he started to get more and more calibrated. He got a couple of lays from beach game, one girl he fingered in the beach but didn't go more, today he's on a date with a real stunner from the beach, it wo… | /r/seduction | 30/09/16 12:47 PM |
| 5 | Has anybody tried pickup on the beach?I have a friend who does beach game a lot. He takes a stroll and does a mental note of all the options. Then systematically approaches all the sets, usually twice. His reasoning, first approach, you're a stranger. Second approach, she already knows you and it seems more normal. Problems: You get sunburnt. Nothing else much really. If you have a great body, it'll probably be easier for you. | /r/seduction | 30/09/16 07:50 AM |
| 2 | This has probably be posted before...HTWFAIP is great for business. Sucks for seduction though. You will see soon enough. Giving a girl what she wants and care for what she thinks is the easiest way for you to lose your mind. Amazing book, just don't use it for seduction. It'll get you nothing but confusion. | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Flashing pantiesJust flirt back. It's all fun and games anyway. Wink, intense eye contact with smirk, whatever you want, air kiss and ask for more, just for fun. It doesn't matter to her, it shouldn't matter to you. Assume attraction. Do the flirting for you own fun. Remove dependence on outcome. She doesn't care, so why should you? | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 08:22 PM |
| 6 | My good friend has sociopathic tendencies and I need inout on how to handle him and the way he acts around my new girlfriendThis is above my pay-grade | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Any advice to disconnect yourself from developing personal feelings on a one night stand?Normal to get feelings. Drop the girl completely if you don't want to develop feelings. It's hard not to develop feelings if the girl has qualities you admire in a person. | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Best Way To Spend $50000 To Lose V Card? (w/o hookers)Get your own place if you don't have one yet Enroll for improv classes Enroll for Salsa/Bachata lessons Get a personal trainer if you think it will help Go out to house parties Get your wardrobe in check Get into top frats. Stronger frame will win. If you act like you are of "caliber", you are. Don't brag about money, it's repulsive to women. Women want guys with money but that don't talk about it. When you brag about anything, it communicates that you don't think you are enough without the thin… | /r/seduction | 29/09/16 08:12 AM |
| 7 | A quick tip on making a move on a girl you already know for the first time... from the girl it worked on (21F).Interlocking fingers hand hold is huge investment honestly. You actually liked the guy before the move or that move would have you freaked out. I'm not sure if the guy is using you for validation or he actually wants you. But he made a move after 8 months of knowing you so it is a good sign. Plus you are a flatmate, so there is more at risk and if intention is shown despite all the pressure, it's really a good sign. I'm glad you like him and it looks good based on the info provided. Hope you get… | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Let's make a mega thread of all techniques, frames insights that Seddit knows about women2nd this. Salsa/bachata did a lot for me. | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 10:28 AM |
| 2 | I approached a model the other dayYep. Well done. Next time spark emotion and then ask for compliance. Flirt, "I'm not that easy but I'll take you to the party with me because you are nice." Say it in a playful manner. But well done. Really proud of you. | /r/seduction | 28/09/16 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Let's make a mega thread of all techniques, frames insights that Seddit knows about womenGet the book called Flirt Mastery - Steve Scott. Most PUA don't know how to teach the material in a way that makes sense to students, at least in a way that I would get it. This books discussed a lot of concepts and frames. Still not spoon-feeding but good enough. I might link some stuff if I feel like it later on. | /r/seduction | 27/09/16 06:31 PM |
| 10 | Let's make a mega thread of all techniques, frames insights that Seddit knows about womenI slept with 2 different women in 2 weeks because of these ideas. If frames, mindsets, attraction switches don't work, why is there a seduction community to start with? Seduction for me is an artistic expression of self. But you cannot express yourself and create any form of art if you haven't mastered the basics which is essentially the technical elements. | /r/seduction | 27/09/16 04:28 PM |
| 7 | tl;dr guide for seduction (WIP)This is all you learned? No offense but I was expecting female psychology, techniques, frames, etc... I can get these tips from a fortune cookie. | /r/seduction | 27/09/16 05:46 AM |
| 1 | questionsThis is really bad unless you are doing to self amuse. You shouldn't really care what her favorite show is or her favorite superhero. What you want to know is the kind of person she is. Can she cook? What is she passionate about? What are her biggest fears? What does she have going for her? What kind of person is she? I honestly just keep it fluff and roleplay, mess around, flirt because I intend to sleep with the girl during the first couple of dates. Usually I will drop or they will drop me so… | /r/seduction | 26/09/16 10:33 AM |
| 1 | My cousin is a self prescribed nice guy. What link(s) could I send him to change his mind.Being nice is ineffective and appears more manipulative than being selfish. I know what a selfish person wants, I don't know what a nice guy wants. Why is he being nice to me? What does he want from me? Being nice comes off looking more suspicious than being selfish and putting your interest above others. Secondly, it is ineffective. Why is this guy lowering himself and trying to please me when I have done nothing to add value to his life? I must be above this guy, why else is he supplicating to… | /r/seduction | 25/09/16 10:17 PM |
| 2 | questionsWhat is one thing that you can tell me about yourself that would make me more interested in you? | /r/seduction | 25/09/16 09:57 PM |
| 0 | [Need Advice] Largest problem - first kissIf you make it a big thing, it will be a big thing. Honestly, if you just want to get it over with, find a girl you are comfortable with and tell a girl that you've never kissed before and you want to get it over with and experience and that she is welcome to decline or set you up with a friend. Worst case scenario, you'll get a date. Best case, you'll get a cheap ass kiss that might lead to more depending how much you "practice". If you want a more organic approach, ask women you find attractiv… | /r/seduction | 25/09/16 09:55 PM |
| 1 | My suggestions after ten years on this; top ten things you should avoid in the PUA worldWell said sir. Can you give your reasoning as to why you advise not to get married? I'm curious. Also, how old are you? | /r/seduction | 23/09/16 12:52 AM |
| 1 | She replies after 9-11 hours to texts..Good luck. | /r/seduction | 22/09/16 08:25 AM |
| 1 | She replies after 9-11 hours to texts..Just push for a meet-up. Check for compliance. She might have a job that doesn't allow her to carry and use cell phones. It happens. | /r/seduction | 22/09/16 07:28 AM |
| 3 | She replies after 9-11 hours to texts..Women who don't show timestamps play the waiting game a lot. Usually when women respond late, they are trying to imply they are not too much into you. It is neutral at best. If a girl likes you and sees your text, she'll respond immediately with a lot of emojis and long ass texts. Short answers and delayed responses generally means lack of interest. | /r/seduction | 21/09/16 10:08 PM |
| 7 | Pickup is BrokenYou have issues my friend. We are attracted to the best females and women are attracted to the best males. Stop faulting women for going for rich, tall, successful men. Women have their own interest to protect as do we. If that is case, then all men are pigs for rejecting ugly Betty. It's the mating game, that's how we evolved as a species, by being selfish, greedy and ruthless when it came to mate selection, women even moreso than men for obvious reasons. | /r/seduction | 20/09/16 07:37 PM |
| 5 | I've pretty much reached the conclusion that cold approach is hopelessStop doing cold approach and get a hobby. If after a year of cold approach, you don't like it, it's time to get a hobby. It is not possible to attract women if you are not happy with your life. Women should never seem to be our priority even if they are. Quit cold approach and do shit that you actually REALLY like. | /r/seduction | 17/09/16 11:17 AM |
| 7 | What is this saddness/depressive state ?More info. | /r/seduction | 17/09/16 06:07 AM |
| 1 | No approach anxiety. Just no idea what to do after that.Dude... you're better than 99% of guys here. To be able to walk up to a woman and have no approach anxiety and be witty and feel comfortable in your own skin at the age of 24 is a big thing. Don't downplay yourself. You need to get a new skill that is all. Every single thing is learnable. Nothing in life is beyond reach. I'm comfortable with touch because I dance Salsa and Bachata as a hobby and touching and physically leading a girl is something I am more used to than others. Honestly, if you h… | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 10:08 PM |
| 1 | No approach anxiety. Just no idea what to do after that.You progressively get closer Slide your fingers from the inside of her arm to her hand and let it fall in. Only with fingers not full hand, you're not there yet. Whenever you walk, course correct her either with two hands on the shoulder, or one hand from the side of the waist. Remember your job is to lead and protect her, you make sure she is safe. If you create a "us vs them" dynamic, like let's say you play "fuck, marry, kill" you are in your own little bubble, you pull her in with one arm to… | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 06:31 PM |
| 3 | No approach anxiety. Just no idea what to do after that.Ok this is a feel you develop that is quite easy. At any one point the girl is: Not OK with escalation: Will back off when you go for touch Neutral: Will let you touch her but won't come into you, she won't hug you when you do a side hug and squeeze but she's OK with being side hugged. Super ON: she in ready for the escalation and will reciprocate. Example of a neutral, you go in for the kiss and she's not backing off but she's not coming in either but you kiss her but she doesn't kiss you back … | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Give a 31 year old loner some advice.See a therapist first. | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 12:37 PM |
| 2 | Newbie: Today I approached a blonde girl in a mall and she looked at me like I was going to murder her...So you crawl under a rock and quit. :) It's alright bro. Do it 200 times, you start to see patterns and flow better and get a feel of how to approach without creeping a girl out. It takes practice to get the finesse. PRACTICE. ONE BAD EXPERIENCE DOESN'T MEAN SHIT. 100 BAD EXPERIENCES DON'T MEAN SHIT. 2000 BAD EXPERIENCES MEANS YOU'VE ALSO SEEN SOME EPIC SUCCESS WHICH IS BADASS Most of all. Have fun, picking up women becomes so much easier when you are having fun, regardless of your level. Go in … | /r/seduction | 14/09/16 11:57 AM |
| 19 | Realistically, how much of a success rate should I have?YOUR BIGGEST MISTAKE WOULD BE TO TAKE IT PERSONALLY. What do you win by taking a rejection personally? You label yourself as defective. The best in the world know their weeknesses and proactively try to identify and work on it. The losers of this world try to blind themselves of their weeknesses and try to justify circumstances. The truth is "field experience is king". The more you play, the better you get. Simple. | /r/seduction | 10/09/16 06:36 AM |
| 1 | My new roommate [F20] just broke up with her bf, and is turning to me for comfort/real talks. I [M22] feel like I'm being friend zoned/emasculated.You can protect but never comfort. You can tell her to doll up and take her clubbing so that "all the guys can't keep their eyes off you". You can flirt with her. "Stop being sexy or I can't be held responsible for my thoughts.", "you look gorgeous in that dress, stop teasing me." in a playful way. Make her feel like a woman, your job is not to comfort her. Either you take charge and lead, tell her to shut up and take her somewhere and change her mood, or you flirt. Never be the bitch that you w… | /r/seduction | 10/09/16 06:12 AM |
| 1 | how to flirt and what it is?Just search for the pdf. I don't know if I'm allowed to share links. But you can find the book from pualib(dot)com. Yeah... all the concepts are from the book. | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 09:01 PM |
| -5 | how to flirt and what it is?Just go and try to get women into bed. All will click for you. | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 02:44 PM |
| 9 | how to flirt and what it is?Steve Scott - Flirt Mastery (Good book) Flirting: My favorite is telling a girl she is gorgeous and tell her you find her attractive. It creates more tention than the community makes it out to be. True sexual intent is different than tell her you find her hot. Its telling her "Oh what I would like to do to you right now if only we were alone." with lazer eye contact. She will look at your eyes to see if you are saying it to induce a response or it's genuine. If you don't flinch and you're comfor… | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 01:49 PM |
| 1 | What makes men like Damon, McConaughey so confident? And what is it about them that we love so much? (X-Post from AskMen)Put yourself in the spotlight. When you have eyes on you, you will get criticized for every imperfection. All these actors have millions of eyes on them, their every move is calculated on screen and off, they have to be otherwise they risk fucking up in front of millions. They don't cater to the will of the public but they still put their best version of themselves forward naturally because of so much exposure. A coach potato playing WOW will not have the same urge to be his best self when there… | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Consider not going home on a winBoth are good honestly. Loss makes you want to do better and win makes you want to win more. Bottom line: Try | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Is it pointless to go after a girl if there are no initial signs of attraction?"I find you attractive and want to take you out to see if we click." "Are you interested or not?" Works for me. | /r/seduction | 07/09/16 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Advice on Class Mate?Walk up to her and tell her you finder her really attractive and want to take her out so that you can get to know each other. You like coffee? Depends on how much balls you have. | /r/seduction | 05/09/16 12:28 PM |
| 1 | How to develop a 'seduction' instinct?Remove all desires Know the basics of flirting Profit | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 09:07 PM |
| 6 | losing faith in cold approachDude. Few matches means you are average looking. Top 20% guys get 80% of the pussy on Tinder. It's alright. You need game and the best way to learn is cold approach. Don't you like it when the girl's eyes light up and she's sees you as this golden peace of human flesh only to get the girlfriend pull her away because your wing fucked up or you messed up somewhere? It doesn't matter, you can never grow your game and have beautiful intense earth shattering experiences with women if you don't do col… | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 02:50 PM |
| 5 | Feeling phoney when trying to be charasmatic and other questions on charisma."The Manual - W Anton". Read it like it is the bible and you will be pardoned for all your sins. Seriously, drop everything and read that book. Men are strong, women are weak, at least physically. Women can have babies, men can't. Biologically, the trade off is protection from the man in return of babies from the woman. Simple enough. Masculinity is defined by strength and dominance. Femininity is the opposite. Weakness and submission. Any characteristic of dominance is attractive for men and an… | /r/seduction | 04/09/16 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone have maybe a single drink prior to doing daygame?Thanks. This is what I was expecting to hear. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone have maybe a single drink prior to doing daygame?Got past implies at one point you relied on it. If you were to go back, could you have gained momentum without the use of alcohol? | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Better to go out alone in a sour mood or stay home and recover?Action > rest Your body aligns eventually. Action first, emotions follow. | /r/seduction | 03/09/16 02:30 PM |
| 1 | When he wants it , when I want itr/relationships material. You might get good advice here though if people actually decide to comment. I havn't been in your situation so not much advice I got for you. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 10:48 PM |
| 1 | OK to always use 'lines' as openers?Definitely second. I would do the "Hey. Quick Question, will you marry me?". She will start laughing and say something like "I don't even know you" you can go "You have to be able to cook though or it won't work..." "I love cooking"... "Alright. We're getting married. (Physical escalation (High five)" OR "I'm sorry I don't cook"... "I'm sorry miss, you have been demoted to mistress level." (moderate push + it's taboo which is interesting) "I'll call you over when my wife is on vacation" (Alpha f… | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 04:46 PM |
| 1 | OK to always use 'lines' as openers?''Hey. Quick question. Will you marry me?!!'' I'm so gonna use this. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Female using your tips! I approached!Nice one. I love having women on this sub. But yeah... women have massive barriers, most likely it is an evolutionary thing. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 08:42 AM |
| 2 | What, in your opinion, is the single most important element to success with women?Unfortunately it takes time. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 06:52 AM |
| 5 | Female using your tips! I approached!A woman making eye contact with a guy is a subtle sign of interest so women generally withdraw and look the other direction except when it is a guy they find attractive. In which case a woman holds eye contact pointing to the guy that she finds him attractive, at least on a preliminary level, and is open to be approached. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 06:35 AM |
| 10 | Female using your tips! I approached!I don't want to downplay your success and I hope the guy you met was a quality person regardless of where the number leads to but for women the usual avoiding eye contact is a screening mechanism. | /r/seduction | 02/09/16 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Swedish sedditCould have fooled me. That shit scared the crap out of me. | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 04:12 PM |
| 1 | I have trouble getting started in the gameMaybe it's not a thing where you live. | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 01:59 PM |
| 1 | I'm a boring civil engineer. Help make my job description sound better when asked!Civil engineering is a BOSS job. Don't say "I am a civil engineer". Just say "I specialize in designing roads and highways" follow it up by saying "I'm an engineer" if you think it didn't hit them yet. No one cares about the specialty. They want to have enough info to judge you. No one is interested in knowing what exactly you do in the office. No one cares about details. | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 09:03 AM |
| 2 | I have trouble getting started in the gameI don't like doing cold approach so I took some Salsa lessons. It's a good way to learn how to lead women by touch and taught me how to comfortably escalate. You meet a lot of women and you can go out together in groups. Good hobby Gets you a social circle You get comfortable being physically close to women that you are not yet intimate with. It is a fun hobby The drawback is that it takes a lot of time to learn and get good and it can be an expensive hobby depending on where you live and how ex… | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 06:01 AM |
| – | Swedish sedditWhat do you mean? You guys are enough good looking as is. Fuck, once I had a Swedish F-buddy hand me the government supplied condoms to Swedish people used to promote safe sex. It was twice the size of my Johnson. I was like "what the fuck is this?", she said Swedes are well endowed. Worst day of my life. Fuck Swedish guys. 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 04:39 PM |
| 0 | Tinder date literally asked "when are we going to have sex". That's when I realized I am not that type of guy... yet.Have a couple of shots of alcohol together and take her to your place. | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 04:35 PM |
| 1 | 2 big issue that I need help on. Girls telling me that I flirt to much with them and other girls and girls telling me that I am annoyingYou are only annoying to them if you are trying to impress them. I think you are trying too hard to be funny or impressive which communicates that you are not enough which is why you are trying to use tactics like flirting and feeling the need to be interesting to catch a woman's attention. The time a girl is most interested in you is when she is trying to be interesting to you. You see the paradox. You never try to do anything to impress a girl. You show your personality completely and freely e… | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 03:46 PM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong?Men have trouble getting laid Women have trouble keeping a guy after getting laid First of all, so awesome of you posting in this subreddit. It's always nice to have women here. Now, it's really tricky this one. From what I read from your comments the guy is just validating his ego and had no plans to stick with you to start with. It can change definitely over time but you are a fling for him up until this point which is not a bad thing. The same concept that is taught to guys applies to girls. … | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Reacting to Needy CommentsYeah... you got this. You must have done something right that she's giving you the signal. Have fun and keep doing what you are doing. | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 06:45 AM |
| 0 | Is it ever ok to tell a girl you want to kiss them?I want to kiss you. Hold lazer eye contact, let the temperature rise and the tention mount and slowly go closer. Grab with both hands gently the back of her neck and bring her head close to yours at a slow seductive tention inducing pace until it culminates in a kiss. If you just tell her I want to kiss you and put the pressure on her, she might not be able to handle it. Have a couple of shots before the heart to heart. 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Reacting to Needy Comments"I'm thinking of going to X bar. Let's grab a drink." Her advances were not neediness. This is girl language for I want you to fuck me. | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever get rejected for physical escalation by a girl even though she's into you? Why does it happen?Escalation is a dance of back and forths. It's not oh she didn't comply. You can have 3 hours of LMR and still fuck the girl. The girl is clearly into you lying almost naked with you in bed and still will resist. Resistance does not mean rejection as long as she is still receptive to you. It just means that your escalation has to be smoother. | /r/seduction | 30/08/16 09:34 PM |
| 7 | I hate the cheesiness of flirtingI don't know you but people who generally dislike complimenting other people and creating fun for others have hurt in them. The reasoning is "why should I give someone good emotions when I'm feeling bad myself." When you are happy with yourself and your life, telling a girl she looks gorgeous and that all heads in the room will turn towards her when she steps in will immediately become way less phoney. You won't even care if the compliment is true or not. You will only look at it as "Does this c… | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Need serious advice- My ex broke up with me about a month ago, said she used "depression" to mask that she was unhappy. How to deal with knowing she started dating someone new who looks like an "upgrade" immediately after we broke up? I feel as though I failed as a man to keep her interested?You move on. Plain and simple. Don't blame yourself. Trust me. This girl is not a catch, at all. There will always be people smarter than you and better looking than you. If you think you need to be better than you are now to get a girl, you will never get the girl. Let me explain. If you think that you need to be X or do Y to attract a girl. You have announced that you are not enough by yourself without the extra glitter. If a lion is attacking your girl, she doesn't care that you look like a p… | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 06:23 PM |
| 2 | What is your guys opinion on doing anything sexual with a clearly intoxicated/ drunk woman?1-2 drinks is OK. Fucking a girl that is borderline blacked out is not. | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Need serious advice- My ex broke up with me about a month ago, said she used "depression" to mask that she was unhappy. How to deal with knowing she started dating someone new who looks like an "upgrade" immediately after we broke up? I feel as though I failed as a man to keep her interested?Well put. The ultimate goal is interdependence but to get there a person generally needs to learn to become independent first. Your truth is more correct than mine but it might not help a person who is currently suffering from codependency. You should be able to put yourself on the line and be vulnerable and play to win, all the while being outcome independent. But it is not always easy to put into action if you have linked your sense of self on the approval of another human being. First, learn … | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 02:21 PM |
| 5 | Need serious advice- My ex broke up with me about a month ago, said she used "depression" to mask that she was unhappy. How to deal with knowing she started dating someone new who looks like an "upgrade" immediately after we broke up? I feel as though I failed as a man to keep her interested?There are a lot of things that you need to understand and we're gonna tackle it one by one. There will be a lot of info here that will contradict your reality so be ready to challenge yourself. It will help you understand what happened. What you have to understand is that, the likely reasons that caused your relationship to fail are the following: (bear in mind, your girlfriend was mostly at fault, but we're only gonna focus on you now.) Trying too hard to fix the relationship. Women value what … | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 11:58 AM |
| -2 | Anyone watched "RSD Max - The Natural" and can give a review or point me to a dating site that actually reviewed the product? Thanks.I'm hoping Max isn't as big of a douche as Tyler and Julien. | /r/seduction | 23/08/16 06:53 PM |
| 17 | How do I have a stronger 'frame'?First of all you have to know what frame you are defending. I think your problem has to do with understanding the definition of what a frame is in order to move forward. The conventional frame is: "Men should earn women's attention and chase after them" which translates in your interaction as "You should chase me and you should work to get my attention" from the girl's standpoint. The frame that you want to adopt is the you are the prize hence "It's the girl's job to win you over". Now this fram… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 11:41 AM |
| 3 | How would ask a girl to dance with me without being abrasive in a senseGo in. Face up 100% to the girl. Hold space. Extend both hands palms up, lean in actually showing vulnerability, not shoulders back, this is not the time for James Bond. The vulnerability won't ruin your frame once she complies. Worst case scenario, she will feel embarrassed and not take you up on the offer. Girls will reject you more harshly if you James Bond it. Make her look sexy on the dance floor and gradually increase kino, don't immediately start rubbing all over the girl. Tease her back … | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 03:02 PM |
| 1 | [Question] Smell,looks or body language?Could it be that you are half her age and that you have nothing in common? How amazing are your conversations with 9 year olds? I think the 9 year old body language is off, and her breath stinks. | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 02:12 PM |
| 2 | How would ask a girl to dance with me without being abrasive in a senseNo need to say a word. If you're a good dancer, then knowing how to touch and generate physical compliance shouldn't be an issue with you especially if a song you like is up. | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 12:35 PM |
| 2 | Girl Called Me AnnoyingThere are some missing pieces in your story. You were together the whole night and you were touching, teasing and sexualing the interaction and you pose a question was the "yes boss" too much? I don't get it. Anything that creates sexual tention can be categorized as flirting. With the information you provided in your original post, it's nothing worth reading into. Now if you spent the whole night touching, that's a different story. Take care bro. | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 07:14 AM |
| 5 | Girl Called Me AnnoyingHave a fun life and keep playfully flirting with her and teasing her. As long as you don't get physical and she's enjoying the playful banter, keep at it. Honestly the "yes boss" isn't really flirting, it's just playful. Flirting is more like "stop staring at my butt, we work together, gosh!!!" in a playful manner and obvious that you are role playing. You're reading too much into a 2 second incident that meant very little. Keep at it and have fun. | /r/seduction | 21/08/16 06:36 AM |
| 4 | Think Your Rejection Was Bad? Read this.Hindsight is 20/20 | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 07:33 AM |
| 2 | How do you make your boundaries clear without coming off as mad or pissed off?I think you fucked up already. Your only option is to sit her down and talk about it. She has forced the frame that "she is teaching you a lesson for messing up" and you reinforced it by buying into it and letting it slide. Silence is a sign of acceptance. Your frame should be "Disrespect and trying to belittle are unacceptable behaviors", the stronger frame will win. Either you are the pussy boyfriend who needs to be trained or she is the entitled brat that needs to shape up. Frames define the … | /r/seduction | 18/08/16 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Need advice on inner gameThis is the best shortcut I found till now. Self esteem is how YOU view yourself. It has nothing to do with others or how others view you. If you allow the validation or disapproval of others affect you, you are essentially declaring to the world that you self esteem is open to re-evaluation, which it should never be. Men are supposed to be stronger than women, at least physically. If something she does affects you or something in the world flinches you, how can she trust that you will be strong… | /r/seduction | 18/08/16 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Please help convince a 35yr old male that visiting an escort would be a great/terrible ideaOk... do it this way. If you hire a hooker, it will still be akward because you have social anxiety, you probably won't even get an erection, you won't feel right fucking a person you don't know / have feelings for / share a connection with. All are BS mind chatter by the way, it's your social anxiety mind coming up with excuses and there is a way to get rid of it. The cure? Drink and get her drunk as well. Not shit faced, just a couple of shots to get a buzz to remove your anxiety and for her t… | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 03:02 PM |
| 5 | Is it too late to approach?Word of advice. Men are naturally stronger than women, at least physically. If you are afraid of the woman you're about to talk to it's an instant killer of attraction. How can the girl trust a man that is weaker than her. I don't say this to pull you down. You are afraid because you want to make a good first impression, hence your anxiety. If you get it through your head that in order to attract her, you need to feel unaffected by her because why would you feel intimidated by a person who relie… | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 08:44 AM |
| 11 | Strategy when responding to flaky girlsWomen are emotional. If she texts you a week later saying she is sorry, it probably means she feels like she wants to see you that day. For whatever reason, she's interested in you on that particular day. Blame whatever you want, hormones, some guy fucked her over and she needs validation, she feels confident that day, fuck knows. If the text a week later is positive, ask her to invest. Tell her to doll herself up for you and take her out for. If it doesn't hit, scrap the girl, she probably just… | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 08:07 AM |
| 1 | [Advanced guys] Have you ever felt guilty because you didn't having feelings for a girl?Nice write up on the linked comment. Enjoyed reading it. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Try this tonight if you're going out..Good post. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 05:55 AM |
| 2 | For the LOVE of all that is good in this world, please help my text game!!The actual text is legit, your timing is off. Bear in mind you are texting her at 11:30pm in the evening asking for her to come over in non-drunk, non-high state. You basically asked for a booty call at 11:30PM after knowing this girl for 1 day, most of which was in an intoxicated state. Next time do "We had a blast last time, let's grab a drink together in the evening." At 8:00PM. She likes you but you can't make her feel like nothing more than a booty-ball. It's degrading. Cheers bro. | /r/seduction | 13/08/16 09:13 AM |
| 24 | One girl is hot, but is only polite with you. Her friend is cute, but is excited to see you. What do you do?You go for the receptive one always. You can sacrifice the cute for the hot once the hot one starts sending you signals. | /r/seduction | 12/08/16 06:46 AM |
| 9 | Holy fuck I've learnt more in two days than two years.Dude... you just lucked out because you are white. It's alright. Enjoy it and learn how to behave alpha. If a girl is 15 minutes late but make-up is done well and she looks pretty. It mean she spent time to get ready for you. Not a big deal. Don't judge people. Have standards. Honestly, you sound like a butt-hurt chode trying to validate his ego. You might not be but this is the vibe that I am getting. Enjoy the Asian pussy. Have fun. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 10:09 AM |
| 1 | How to put yourself out there/ask somebody out and not shit your pants?If the girl replies "I don't drink" and it is legitimate? | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Are there any PUA/dating guides for men based mostly on evolutionary psychology?The Red Queen is very interesting but not really PUA material. The Manual is the bible as far as I am concerned. Can you give your feedback on The Mating Mind? | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Are there any PUA/dating guides for men based mostly on evolutionary psychology?This book will change your dating life. | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 07:24 AM |
| -4 | How can I stop putting my crushes on a pedestal?Women are fleshlights. No more. Have fun with them. | /r/seduction | 06/08/16 06:13 AM |
| -1 | Is there any similar books to "Models" by MM? On building confidence, being less needy and overall "inner game"?Thanks for arguing PUA schools of thought. Get a life bro. | /r/seduction | 05/08/16 10:03 AM |
| 0 | Is there any similar books to "Models" by MM? On building confidence, being less needy and overall "inner game"?Yes. You will thank me. The Manual - W Anton. Don't tell anyone about this book. The only PUA book that isn't completely bullshit and actually will change your life. Be careful it can fuck up your career because the mindset that gets you girls unfortunately can make you a lazy bastard. Models is a crap book for me. So is RSD stuff. MM everyone hates on but it has nice stuff and games that come in handy. What I don't like about MM is that it works more on showing the girl she's not cool and that … | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 08:19 PM |
| 0 | My "inner game" is spiraling down and I can´t stop itAs a man, put it into perspective that you are not allowed to show weakness as it is not a masculine trait. I realise what I am saying is fucked up and that 9 year's relationship is not easy to get over especially if you are reminded of it every now and again. But as a man you have to be strong and you are not allowed to show weakness because you cannot attract a girl if you are weak, bitter or not confident. Unfortunately, you have no choice but to act that whatever happened doesn't affect you … | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 02:08 PM |
| 11 | Do girls talk really loud and act kinda funny like jumping around etc when they are trying to get your attention?Best answer. Women crave attention. They will try to grab your attention more if they like you. | /r/seduction | 03/08/16 03:03 PM |
| 0 | How to transition from hooking up to a relationship?Depends on where you are coming from. If you take her on an expensive dinner because you feel not enough and that you have to compensate by spending money on her to get to her level, that is beta. But if you are rich and you like a specific restaurant and you want to enjoy yourself with her, that is alpha. There is no lover/provider dynamic. Women like strong men where they will feel safe and protected around. A weakling idiot who is willing to bend over backwards to make the girl happy is not a… | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 01:55 PM |
| -1 | How to transition from hooking up to a relationship?A girl wants to be chosen, not choose herself. Tell her you think she is the most attractive girl in your eyes and you want her to be yours. "Let's become exclusive babe. I want to take care of you." | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Extremely depressed, I just failed myself.Dude... looks really don't matter, they really honestly don't matter. Women are attracted to confidence and charm. If a girl feels she is under your protection and nothing can touch her because of you, she will be attracted to you, it's instinctual. Women are hardwired to find guys that will protect her on a basic biological level. Looks and popularity make it acceptable for her to sleep with you. Her friends won't call her a slut if you're good looking. That is the distiction. The attraction is… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Extremely depressed, I just failed myself.You know they are there for promotion, they want to talk to people, their job requires them to actually seek and engage with people, you think you are funny and you have fun with them and everyone wins. There is no downside. People hate negatives. You don't care that you don't get a raise, but get a pay cut and all hell breaks lose. It's always like that. The normal girl, you don't want to inconvenience her which is probably how you are looking at things. This might not be the case so take whate… | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Extremely depressed, I just failed myself.Dude 16 y/o. You're at the bitch of the world stage. It's amazing that you even have the motivation to try to game. What you need to understand that your feelings are normal but you cannot approach if you are not dominant and confident. Women like confident guys and having the guts to approach shows confidence. So you have to do it. The approach is not something you have to barrel through. Actually approaching shows massive value. It doesn't take from you when you approach, it only shows that yo… | /r/seduction | 28/07/16 02:04 PM |
| 2 | I'm afraid of alienating or weirding people out when the topic of music comes upDude... as long as you don't diss people. People would love to know more about your passion. | /r/seduction | 27/07/16 10:44 AM |
| 1 | I am Derek Cajun, I now run Love Systems, teach guys how to lead the life they want, and play SEGA. I'm here with Chris Shepherd. Ask me anything!No, not really. I prefer formless methods. I always have. Best way to get attraction immediately is to stop seeing women as the audience. THEY are not the audience, YOU are the audience. Go into social situations with this is mind and you'll find attraction comes much easier. Can you elaborate more on this? How can you assume responsibility for the interaction, lead and be the audience at the same time? Can you explain a bit what you mean by this because I'm pretty sure it is something really im… | /r/seduction | 25/07/16 04:07 PM |
| 4 | My experiences of 2 years into Seduction/PickupDude... really thanks for posting. Guys stop with the looks matter bullshit. If a lion is attacking you, being good looking will not make you any stronger, more clever and be better at defending yourself or the girl. Sure it is more socially acceptable to sleep with a male model but that does not mean that you need to be a male model to get laid. Girls want to get laid but they have to justify it somehow. If your behavior is attractive, she will justify your looks as why she slept with you. The … | /r/seduction | 25/07/16 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Do shy/geeky/awkward girls like to hook-up?Low standards. She just wanted someone familiar in her life. We were both expats in a foreign country. | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 04:35 AM |
| -2 | Do shy/geeky/awkward girls like to hook-up?Relationships with the girls you are talking about is going to be a needy bubble and terrible sex but it's not bad at all for a start. I had a shy akward slightly autistic FWB relationship because the girls thinking was "At least I get to have sex and not have to talk to unknown creepy guys." Shy akward women are generally afraid of guys and especially if they are average looking have massive trust issues. Take it easy with these kinds of girls. They like dick as much if not more than extroverte… | /r/seduction | 15/07/16 05:43 AM |
| 6 | I feel like when a girl says 'I want a guy who has his shit together' what she's really saying is 'I want a guy who makes a shit ton of money'...Dude... not really. Shit together means secure of himself as a man. Doesn't mean having a lot of money. Generally people who have a lot of money feel secure of themselves. But what the girl is looking for is behavior. Cavemen didn't have Ferraris. All they had was a bit more certainty in their ability. The key word is behavior. | /r/seduction | 14/07/16 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Misconception about seductionAgreed. Telling a girl you are rich is bragging the same way as telling the girl of your intention sours the interaction. Telling a girl you went out of your way to introduce yourself to her because you find her attractive and would like to see if something can develop does more than pretending you went in to know where the starbucks is. | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Misconception about seductionThe frame is you are the protector, masculine guy that wants her because she is attractive. This is not appreciation for an outcome. You are choosing her because you want her. She is free to want you back or not. Choosing her entails deciding that you are willing to safeguard her survival always which is an enormous commitment. It is the only way I resolved the empty cup syndrome. I am telling the girl if you are mine, you will be protected for life no matter what, mind, sould and spirit, always… | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 02:07 PM |
| -2 | F closed a girl thanks to Pokémon GoNerds fucking brings a tear to my eye. :) | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 09:05 AM |
| 1 | I have a hard time believing I am in the league of the women I'm attracted to, and even feel like there are guys leagues above me!Spike tatoo on arm | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 11:07 AM |
| 3 | I have a hard time believing I am in the league of the women I'm attracted to, and even feel like there are guys leagues above me!Expect to get shit results at first. A lot of people read pick up material which hurts them much more than if they knew nothing. Their egos get bruised that they are not getting results despite having pua theory in their heads. | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 11:06 AM |
| 1 | I just want to share my progression and I need some advice.Adhd? Be careful with this one. Doctors are very reluctant to prescribe stimulant medication to 28 y/o. It has potential for addiction. It is not good for the liver and the heart and can have side effects. I got prescribed at 25 after being turned down by another psychiatrist. It is a lucrative business for a psychiatrist so you will find someone to prescribe you the medication eventually. I pay around $250 between consultations and medication per month. My insurance covers for 2 months out of t… | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 07:08 AM |
| -1 | Thoughts about the "you are everything I thought I never wanted in a girl" line?"If there was a girl I would want to spend my life with it would be you but if it's not meant to be, I will let it go." This is a better line because she experiences loss of love. The heading line is just super needy. | /r/seduction | 04/07/16 08:50 PM |
| 2 | I have a hard time believing I am in the league of the women I'm attracted to, and even feel like there are guys leagues above me!It's not whether or not there are leagues. It's either that you can create attraction or you cannot create attraction. You cannot create attraction if you are not attractive in the same way you cannot win at a competitive sport if you are not skilled. The only way to get what you want is to become the kind of person that naturally attracts what you want. If you want to generate attraction, be attractive. If you want to seduce, be seductive. My problem was that I was logical and friendly and expe… | /r/seduction | 04/07/16 12:13 PM |
| 1 | How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?I got ADHD. I can't drink because i become stupid and I can't enjoy myself. Is it the same for you? | /r/seduction | 03/07/16 06:20 AM |
| 3 | I'd never pay for sex but I'd pay someone to teach me how to be successful in dating women.There are sex therapists. More expensive than hookers though. I've never paid for sex but if you make very good money, I would suggest to get a hooker that you like and become a regular. It's more of a girlfriend experience than a sex therapy session and hookers actually know what they are doing if your goal is to get good at sex. Plus being a 30 year old virgin, the chance that you will feel comfortable around a good looking women just because of sex therapy is much less than actually spending … | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 11:31 AM |
| 6 | I froze.Mark Manson tells you that you are the top 1% and that you have to ask as such. You create that image for yourself and you feel great but when it comes to approaching, you don't want to risk losing that image because if you were truly top 1%, you wouldn't get rejected in the first place so your mind starts panicking and your emotions tell you to stop. Don't take yourself too seriously. Apply more common sense. You like her right? Think of what the first step is towards getting her. Obviously, it… | /r/seduction | 29/06/16 07:02 AM |
| 5 | I froze.You cared about how you would feel if she rejected you. Mark Manson stuff gives a lot of AA. You're not important and no one cares about you. The girl cares about herself. Focus on her and go from there and it'll be easier. | /r/seduction | 29/06/16 06:08 AM |
| 1 | I am having tremendous difficulty putting myself out there, because I feel like it's unfair to whoever is on the receiving end.Damn bro. I feel you. I'm no expert in this but this is what I know till now Let's go one by one: The PUA community does not face the "Let's just be friends" problem because we never get there. The community encourages same day lays, bare minimum the day 2 should be a lay. Otherwise, you're a beta loser piece of shit chode. The fact is that overescalation early on kills intrigue. If she knows you want her for sure, the thrill is gone for a girl. You can flirt and be sexual as long as it is tongu… | /r/seduction | 28/06/16 11:30 AM |
| 1 | Feedback pleaseDude... not about being butt hurt. I got nothing against you. I just don't need condescending criticism. It doesn't help me. I can't learn from someone telling me I'm an idiot asshole. This is not constructive criticism in my book even if it happens to be true. Fair enough? | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Feedback pleasePresumptuous pricks aren't generally good teachers. | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 04:06 PM |
| -2 | Feedback pleaseDidn't even bother reading it. For a person preaching being accepting and non-judgmental, you sure are very judgmental, condescending and patronizing. Well done sir. | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 01:31 PM |
| -2 | Feedback pleaseI think you are more butt hurt than I am. Facts are facts. Saying a victoria secret super model has more options than ugly Betty from down the street is not a judment call. Went to a coffee place and spent 2 hours together talking and having fun and she was comfortable enough to come to my place. She didn't want to stay and that is her call and she is entitled to it. I took her immediately to the metro station without any hasstle or argument. "I will not stop you" is the motto. I realize it is f… | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 12:33 PM |
| 1 | I am having tremendous difficulty putting myself out there, because I feel like it's unfair to whoever is on the receiving end.Shit bro. Sorry to hear that. Sometimes it is tough. I'm not qualified to give you advice. I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 26. The meds brought me to a baseline and with self help and some mental rewiring, I'm a bit more sane and have more control over my life. I'm not saying this is what you should do. I know how it feels to have little control over your life and always think that whatever happens, it will always go to shit in the end. It's a tough place you are in and 99% of p… | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 06:57 AM |
| 3 | I am having tremendous difficulty putting myself out there, because I feel like it's unfair to whoever is on the receiving end.Go to a baseline. Read "How to win friends and influence people". This will really help you. Basic gist of it is that people care about themselves. You could be a 10/10 in looks, charisma, money, lifestyle but if the girl cannot tap into that value as in if the girl will not be more valuable herself after her association with you, your value means shit. I will explain a bit more, people want to feel important and have a purpose in life. The thing that gets guys is being self concious. It is the … | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that progress is exponential?True in the sense that you are pulled down by your weekest key skill. Most of the time you need 2 to 5 years to develop all the key skills necessary to get the desired effect. I would say on the contrary, your growth is always slower as you reach higher levels of competence. | /r/seduction | 23/06/16 05:19 PM |
| 2 | How to get girls GET BUSY!This takes time. You want a girl to be attracted to you 5 years from now, then follow this. You should be doing this anyway. Guys need to get more experience actually talking to women. Bums with no worth get women a lot of the time because they have game, they know how to play women. I personally know some bums who are stupid and broke who attract gorgeous girls. Skills, passions are massively important and women are massively attracted to people with amazing skill but it takes a lot of time to … | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Too unsocial for any of this.True. Don't listen to the "nothing matters" bullshit that pick up companies vomit. If a shy, socially akward loser living in his mother's basement could get laid, he'd already be getting laid. If you are not getting what you want, it means that there is a skill that you are missing. Any skill is learnable. It might take you 3 years to develop something some another person devloped in 2 years or aquired during his upbringing, but everything is learnable. It is only a matter of time. So don't feel… | /r/seduction | 21/06/16 07:08 AM |
| 1 | How can I over come the self improvement vs self acceptance paradox?I think that if you don't think that you meet the minimum requirements to be attractive to women in general, you are shooting yourself in the leg. This is the self acceptance part, you need to believe that you have the minimum criteria necessary to attract the girl you want at this point in time. It doesn't mean you are perfect. It means that if you are a 7/10, you work with what you got. There is very little you can do to become an 8/10, 9/10 or 10/10 at this point in time so work with what you… | /r/seduction | 18/06/16 09:40 AM |
| 2 | How can I over come the self improvement vs self acceptance paradox?I think that if you don't think that you meet the minimum requirements to be attractive to women in general, you are shooting yourself in the leg. This is the self acceptance part, you need to believe that you have the minimum criteria necessary to attract the girl you want at this point in time. It doesn't mean you are perfect. It means that if you are a 7/10, you work with what you got. There is very little you can do to become an 8/10, 9/10 or 10/10 at this point in time so work with what you… | /r/seduction | 18/06/16 09:40 AM |
| 7 | The needy, insecure and passive-aggressive beautiful womanDude... we can only do what we think is right with the information that is presented to us. Not everyone is meant to get along with us and that is perfectly fine. If at this stage in her life, she needs over attention and someone to constantly cater to her "me, me, me" thing, it is perfectly fine that she goes and finds that person who is willing to tolerate her and you did more than fine. Thanks for the post and showing us that 9-10s can be insecure and clingy too. It is good though to have a l… | /r/seduction | 14/06/16 02:27 PM |
| 43 | The needy, insecure and passive-aggressive beautiful womanOk. The best way to avoid a fight is not to have them in the first place. She had an ego and you had an ego. You wanted to play it cool and make it that you don't care when she gave you the silence treatment a.k.a. "testing you". She wanted validation and you starved her too much it. You were both playing the who will break first game, which is lose lose for everyone. If she breaks, you win a broken girl who resents you. If you break, she wins a broken man who resents her. People stay in relatio… | /r/seduction | 14/06/16 01:04 PM |
| 3 | I feel like I have nothing to offer, and so I don't bother asking girls out.The fuck? What is the one skill that would have the greatest impact to YOUR life? Not anyone elses. Everything you do, is to up your value. You don't do it for validation. Validation is a byproduct of success. Being a superstar NBA player or being a charimatic CEO is not somehow diminished by validation. You might admire the class topper, it doesn't make it that he/she studied hard and is intelligent to get validation from you. Dude, bottom line, stop being a whiny bitch and work on yourself. If… | /r/seduction | 12/06/16 05:40 PM |
| 5 | I feel like I have nothing to offer, and so I don't bother asking girls out.Pick one skill that if you were great at would have the highest impact on your life and well being. You won't like the answer you come up with because it will usually be something you suck at miserably. However, all skills are learnable. It is just a matter of time. If you wanted to be a good dancer, painter, athlete, whatever, you would have to put in the time and effort to get good at it. No way around it. Bad news is that, it will take time and effort. The good news is that it is entirely pos… | /r/seduction | 12/06/16 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Explain this to me like I'm five?No easy answer. Just maneuver so that you bring yourself and her in a setting where a kiss is possible and work your way towards it. Watch a movie together and get her to lay next to you. If you feel the urge to kiss her, then do it. Don't just do it awkwardly to get it over with. Well done to you for getting this far. Think what the best move is and do it rather than what you necessarily feel like doing and all will be well. | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 05:56 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop letting one girl's opinion of me determine my happiness?Defeatist mentality. You want her? Then do shit that gets her. Be normal. Get interested in her. Build a sense of connection with her. Stop thinking about yourself for one god damn minute and focus on making the other person like you. Not for validation or for ego boost. Merely for her to feel good. Guess what happens when she feels positive emotions from you? She starts liking you and then you flirt and create some tention and boom you got yourself something you can work with. Don't panic or fr… | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 12:04 AM |
| 13 | Should I tell the girl I want to sleep with her because I'm confidend, or should I not care if it's not happening when it comes to sex?LEAD THE GIRL TO SEX, DON'T PUT HER IN A SITUATION THAT WOULD LABEL HER A SLUT, THIS IS JUST BASIC COMMON SENSE. Women desire to be desired. All the confidence and no filter stuff that the PUA community teaches is for you to get out of your own way and express yourself freely and to demonstrate value behaviorally. Once you get in a situation where sex is possible, it is your job to push for sex. Why would a girl want to have sex with someone who doesn't want her, second basic common sence. You s… | /r/seduction | 25/05/16 02:23 PM |
| 1 | I am so unhappy with myself. I pretend to be confident but it's not real. I get attached to every girl and ruin it. Please help me seddit.Stop trying to control stuff. View your life as a spectator and whenever God/universe/circumstance gives you an opportunity, you take it. You cannot control your past, to a large extent you cannot control your present because so much stuff is out of your control. Your genetics, your boss, work situation, family, past experiences, natural tendencies, luck, you name it. Live life as a spectator, get rid of your ego because that is the thing that is causing you pain. If someone is better or worse t… | /r/seduction | 19/05/16 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Girls I date constantly say I need to stop being mean.There is something that old school pick up did that was very good and it was to treat the outcome as important. So if the girl was being bitchy it wasn't that she is a bitch. It is that she is a bitch to you. It is that there is a value gap and you need to up your skills. This creates a sense of humility in the person to learn and grow. RSD did an amazing thing by teaching guys that they are of value and to have some self respect but it came at the cost of guys thinking they didn't have to learn… | /r/seduction | 12/05/16 07:07 AM |
| 3 | Girls I date constantly say I need to stop being mean.Let me make a bold prediction. You are a nice guy and you listened to RSD and read Mark Manson and you got hammered into your head that you are awesome and that you don't need to care about other people and just "be you" and to win the game of attraction you need to invest less in the girl than the girl is invested in you which basically means take the low level of caring you already have and be even more detached from the person infront of you. You probably have a bit of a sarcastic nature and … | /r/seduction | 11/05/16 06:52 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys reacts to a rejection?Just to clarify. It is a bit condescending and sarcastic on purpose. It sucks to get rejected after sex. But hey... such is life and you move on. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:06 PM |
| 0 | How do you guys reacts to a rejection?Rejection after two lays. Wasn't bad in bed or anything. The girl was religious a bit and had issues with sexuality. She got pissed at me out of nothing and after 4 failed attempts of mine on trying to meet. I sent this text. [4/20, 7:14 PM] Me: Congratulations... you got what you want. [4/20, 7:16 PM] Me: You won't be bothered to hear from me. [4/20, 7:16 PM] Me: Cheers. 👍 [4/20, 7:25 PM] Girl: Wow [4/20, 7:25 PM] Girl: Okay whatever [4/20, 7:25 PM] Girl: Thanks [4/20, 7:27 PM] Me: Anytime miss… | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 12:02 PM |
| -1 | For some reason no girls I meet interests me.If you are able to get girls generally and the skillset is there but you just don't find any girl particularly interesting which is a bit of a stretch in its own right, but hey... I will give it to you... maybe. In that case, you probably have other areas in your life that are lacking so your brain is placing value elsewhere so as to direct you in the right way. However, if you generally cannot get the women that you want, then probably you have a psychological self defence mechanism to protect … | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 11:28 AM |
| 2 | A learning experience for all. Had a great Tinder interaction and she suddenly unmatched me. Did I fail shit tests or was I just being a dancing monkey?She was never into you to start with. Remove all negativity from Tinder chats. You have to be very non threatening on Tinder and keep qualifying the girl and getting her invested to the point where she does not feel wierd meeting you in person. You get her attracted to you in person. Not on Tinder. | /r/seduction | 25/04/16 10:05 AM |
| 1 | 30 years old, just got laid for the first time. There is hope after allHappy for you. | /r/seduction | 19/04/16 12:08 PM |
| 2 | I am 27, still Virgin, Chennai, India. Is there a hope?Same story: - Overprotective parents. - Wasn't allowed to play with kids in the block - Spent my entire university days playing Dota (video game) - Always was a loner. Never liked groups. Didn't socialize. - Never kissed a girl until 25. - I got laid from Tinder when I was 25 with a nut case. - Had a 10 month relationship with said girl - Slept with a new cute girl almost same day a week ago. Day 2 sealed the deal. - Now 26 Advice: Find a wing who goes out everyday. Befriend him and never declin… | /r/seduction | 18/04/16 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Could I get a list of better compliments than 'cutie' or 'beautiful'?I've seen a friend of mine repetively address a co-worker as gorgeous. To be fair she was gorgeous and the guy was a big shot boss so he could say what he wanted. So if you can pull off "Hello gorgeous" or "Bye gorgeous" nonchalantly then maybe it could work out positively for you. The nickname in itself is not a big deal. You could say "I would love to bend you over and handle business but we're not in the right setting so don't give me bad ideas." if you say it without neediness or trying to e… | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 02:27 PM |
| 1 | I Read This In A PUA Book - Have you guys tried this? Would you try this?Depends on the context. I can't really imagine anything a girl would ask you to buy in a supermarket that would be absurdly expensive enough to warrant a reaction. Sure if she asks you to buy a $200 bottle if wine, you would probably address it beforehand rather than at the counter. Some girls have a script in their mind that they only sleep with guys that buy them stuff so the $5 overpriced chocolate could have been to make herself more comfortable and rationalize to herself that it is OK to sl… | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 02:11 PM |
| 2 | I did 30 days of NoGame as an experimentSaying looks matter to a person who is not conventionally good looking is like telling him not to bother and that he is doomed to failure which is not really the case. Does looks make it easier for you? It definitely does. If you are not good looking, does it mean that you have no hope with quality women? It might make it harder but it is not the doom and gloom you speak of. The ugliest fucker with amazing wit can best a good looking guy, maybe not in a one night stand, but as far as relationshi… | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 01:45 PM |
| 6 | Could I get a list of better compliments than 'cutie' or 'beautiful'?Don't show so much interest or you will fuck it up for yourself. It is OK to recognize that the person in front of you is good looking but it shouldn't have any more meaning than that. She just happens to be good looking rather than "OMG you are so hot and I want to bang you". You wanting to compliment the girl so that she sees you in a favorable light is the ultimate form of supplication and attention seeking. And trying to find a way to compliment her covertly shows that you are putting her on… | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 07:30 AM |
| 1 | How to lower your standarts?Stop judging yourself and you will stop judging others. | /r/seduction | 14/03/16 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Your social anxiety is killing your game. Here's how to make it go away.Better yet. Stop putting the girl on a pedistal. Talk to her with the mindset that she wants to hear what you have to say and that you don't really have to impress. Be normal and react appropriately to the situation. | /r/seduction | 08/03/16 04:22 AM |
| 0 | The best pick up everThanks for the honest feedback. Women usually give very bad advice with stuff like this but your story is very much on point. | /r/seduction | 21/02/16 06:03 AM |
| 1 | A short article that, though written by a woman, will resonate with the dudes here who are reluctant to put themselves out there.Women in thei 30s are basically men. They become insecure to approach because they know they offer little value. | /r/seduction | 07/02/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Where Neil Strauss is NowArguably the world best at seducing women, rich, insanely smart, quick-witted, has a drop dead gorgeous model who truly loves him, and yet this guy is depressed, has anxiety and finds no meaning and fulfillment in life. If this guy is gonna be sad, anxious and miserable with life, I don't know what is left for the rest of us. I got no sympathy for him. Sorry. | /r/seduction | 05/02/16 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Anyone that implemented vulnerability successfully can help me?Giving your all at something is the best form of vulnrability and is super difficult to do because people don't like to put themselves on the line and be come up short. It takes massive balls. Approaching makes you vulnerable to rejection. Being loud makes you vulnerable to being judged. People don't want to find out how good they are because putting an effort and not measuring up would shatter their already wounded egos. | /r/seduction | 27/01/16 12:04 PM |
| 0 | Sucking at something is the first step to becoming sorta good at somethingThen sucking not so much to eventually being decent, to actually being really fucking good. | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 08:12 PM |
| 3 | The TRUTH About Real Social Dynamics – From An InsiderSo much of a crybaby. Why go to clubs if you don't enjoy it. RSD guys were kind enough to sarge with him for years and this guy cries because victoria secret models don't sleep with him every other day. Marketing is marketing. Even RSD guys tell their client not to believe their advertisements. Worthless post. | /r/seduction | 05/01/16 08:19 AM |
| 1 | How true is it that as you hit 30, your chances of marrying an attractive woman without baggage go down by a lot?What you are talking about applies to women. Not men. Women lose a shit load of value once they reach 30. With men, the stronger your frame gets and the more valuable of a person you become, the higher the caliber of women you are able to attract. Look at it from a women's point of view. Would a women rather go for a 20y/o nobody or a 30 y/o self actualized man who has cultivated himself so high above what she can possibly expect of a guy that she is in awe of him? | /r/seduction | 02/01/16 03:27 PM |
| 1 | how do i know if a girl is feeding her ego by sending me signals just to validate herselfCompliance | /r/seduction | 28/12/15 05:05 PM |
| 2 | I'm a piece of shit, just turned 26 and still a virgin. I need some fucking help.Fellow 26 y/o piece of shit here too. I am in good shape. Not bad looking. Above average intelect. However, I avoided social situations like the plague until the age of 24 and played competitive video games as a glorified hobby. I don't stutter but my speach is not very fluid and my voice sometimes nasal. I am working on it. I am smart though and very tactical and very concious about the psychology of another person. Lost my virginity at 25 to a 4/10 who was the first person in history to ever l… | /r/seduction | 17/12/15 07:03 AM |
| 1 | How do you be Vulnerable without being needy?You have positive expectations. But if ever they are not met, it does not turn you into a butthurt child. Anal sex is awesome but sometimes you get shit on your dick and that's ok. | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 12:28 PM |
| 9 | I read Models and How to Win Friends and Influence People a few months ago, several people noticed these things about me since applying them...Don't take yourself less seriously either. Work hard. Expect amazing stuff to happen. If they happen, great. If they don't, no big deal. You are awesome anyway. | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 07:02 AM |
| 0 | I've been talking to this 10/10 super nice girl and we have hit it off pretty well, but all the sudden she hits me with "I dont want to talk today" what do I do?You can ask why she is bored if you want to. Being a pussy never helps. | /r/seduction | 10/12/15 02:00 PM |
| 2 | Is there a book about the female psyche?The closest to what you want is the Red Queen. | /r/seduction | 10/12/15 01:59 PM |
| 1 | I have a girlfriend but... would anyone be interested in me posting a 30 day challenge from Rules of The Game by Neil Strauss?Get your girl and go to nightclubs, concerts, high stimulus venues together and learn to be a fun and carefree person. Learn to be open an connect with another person. There is nothing more you need to know how to do. If you really feel you need to do this after doing the above. Go for it. | /r/seduction | 27/11/15 11:36 AM |
| 18 | How do you not be "nice"?First step. Don't be a push over. Be comfortable connecting with random strangers on a deep level. Be true to yourself. | /r/seduction | 21/11/15 02:55 PM |
| 1 | As an Indian Guy which pick up material should i follow ?Next time reply to a thread 1 year later. | /r/seduction | 21/11/15 02:04 PM |
| 2 | "Models" has given me clarity with an ex-girlfriend. Has it given you insight with an ex too?Post an update to this post with the result. | /r/seduction | 17/11/15 04:31 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with being around more confident/alpha men?RSD Alex - "There is no reason why you are not enough." Whatever you need to do to maximize your chance of a win. You have the devine permission to do. The guy is playing the same game you are playing. There is nothing he is entitled to that you aren't. If you truly believe you are enough, you should have no problem requesting the girl's attention and playing solid game. | /r/seduction | 15/11/15 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Approach=>do everything right => is your (more attractive) friend taken? This scenario repeats and makes me depressed :(Losing your ego is part of growing. All great achievements started with people who knew they were shit but had the balls to say "but I am determined to get better and if I can do this, I can do anything". The pro does not get annoyed by rejection. He has been rejected more times than you have ever tried. Furthermore, the pro never gets a massive high from victories either because he is focusing on his own actions. Results are only feedback for course correction. The pro is driven by his actions … | /r/seduction | 15/11/15 12:38 PM |
| 2 | [FR]. Cooked dinner at my place. Really bad kiss at the end.I don't know why you are unhappy about this. A shit kiss is better than no kiss. You got this. Arrange to meet again and cook something that goes well with wine. As much as the PUA community is against alcohol and to be fair so am I but first time lays need alcohol, very little. Just enough to get her to rationalize to herself that it just happened. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:37 PM |
| 3 | What should I [20M] as a virgin do when watching netflix in bed with girl [20F] to lead to us having sex?Easiest thing to do that doesn't need any balls whatsover is to position yourself next to her in bed and start cuddling. Nothing too drastic. Just let her sleep on your arm so you are close. You have already done more so this should not be a problem. Get comfortable touching her and caressing her on the shoulder, arm, waist and start kissing her cheeks and forehead and transition to kissing her neck. Position her body on top of you. Actually cuddle and start making out. Keep at it for a while. W… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Narcissism and egoism will DESTROY your gameSpot on. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Narcissism and egoism will DESTROY your gamePutting yourself out there and risking your ego shattering to the ground is the most humbling thing in life and gives you more motivation, groundedness and humility than convincing yourself that the mask you are prentending to wear is actually your face. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Are dimes worth it?Ok despite what is mentioned in the PUA community, humans largely are a monogamous. That is why we don't like going after fat chicks, because there is a chance we might end up having to take care of her. Our emotional programing rewards us for attracting women that are worth taking care of and not the scraps that are left. There is no problem with attracting a 6-7 if she is good enough for you and you are attracted to her. However, it is a shame if you have to settle for her because you could ha… | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Persistence -VS- Oneitis: Where do you draw the line?Who are you talking to? The PUA community is about hard closes. The rule of thumb is to try 4 times. If you get rejected 4 times, you let it go. This applies on the micro level and the macro level. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Why not just pay for sex?Second this. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 12:01 PM |
| -2 | How do you actually get over not having much success with girls in your school years (high school and college)?Sad story bro. Keep feeling bad for yourself and blame your past for your bitterness and shortcomings. First time I had sex was at 25. I have never cared nor will ever care that I did not get my dick wet in college or high school. Work on yourself, work on your career, get interesting hobbies, work out, go out and meet women and see if you are still bitter and sexless. Boo hoo crying doesn't get shit done homie. Hussle. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 11:59 AM |
| 2 | As an Indian Guy which pick up material should i follow ?Second this. As an indian, you have to lift. It is just not an option. Most indians look like Ghandi in his fasting stage. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 11:49 AM |
| 2 | Would you bang despite her having a boyUnless you want to do it for an ego boost, just forget it. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Would you bang despite her having a boySingle mother's are not allowed to have sex? What is the point you are trying to make? Getting her to have sex with you is your job. Making you stay is hers. Women still deserve to orgasm after childbirth. Don't ruin it for her. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 09:10 AM |
| 1 | I got a girlfriend, but am depressed when I'm not with herGet interesting hobbies. Work on your career. Go to the gym. Keep listening to pua material, focus on inner game stuff. There are always areas to improve in. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 07:40 AM |
| 3 | Ex-gf asks me out to dinner. Possible to prove that I have balls now?Women love validation and she is using you to boost her ego and that isn't a bad thing. She might even have intentions of fucking you. You've already been in a romantic relationship. Your job is not to impress her with your exploits. You're job is to increase her attraction of you through BEHAVIOR by actively messing with her once in a while throughout the interaction and leading. Make sure the date location is near your apartment. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 04:15 AM |
| 1 | The ''nice guy'' status.Being nice so that people like you is the most ingenuine form of manipulation. It stems out of fear, lack of confidence and low self-worth. No person is holier than another person. The nice guy is not a better person than the jerk. Both are implementing strategies to get what they want. The jerk at least has some balls. When you realize that every act is a form of manipilation, it frees you to choose from a wider spectrum of strategies to act upon. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Working on my game...without a car.Car doesn't matter. If you drive a car, you can't drink. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 03:41 AM |
| 1 | A very effective principle I learned from over two years in game.What is your motivation to go out consistently? | /r/seduction | 08/11/15 09:52 PM |
| 2 | I feel like you guys are the perfect people to ask...In sick twisted way, I am happy that your other relationship didn't work out. Probably, it would have never worked out but you went for it anyway and you benched this guy. There is nothing really wrong with what you did. It is completely understandable. I just feel bad for the friendzoned guy. Guys are not that picky. If he liked you at one point, he will continue to like you. Ask him to meet up for coffee and let him lead. The guy needs to win you over, otherwise you are labelled as "too easy".… | /r/seduction | 05/11/15 02:30 PM |
| 2 | So I fucked it up..:/ real badI don't see any problem here. You did not kiss him, you did not sleep with him. The number one thing you learn in this sub is that you don't have control on what people will think and that is Ok. You flirted because you enjoyed the validation and now you think you are somehow bad for giving the guy the wrong impression. Dear, this is romance, not work, it is all about fun and games. As far as I am concerned, you have done nothing wrong. If you really feel you have wronged the guy, just tell him … | /r/seduction | 02/11/15 06:53 AM |
| 3 | I do a lot of stuff for mental game, but I still feel like I'm not good enough occasionally. How do you fight the mental battle?"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a … | /r/seduction | 02/11/15 05:57 AM |
| 5 | Why are girls naturally attracted to my friend?I think you are rejecting yourself before you give the woman the chance to reject you. The hallmark of a great man is that he does not care to be rejected because his opinion of himself is more important to him than any other person's opinion of him. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 04:55 AM |
| 2 | [FR] First date ever, first kiss everAre you by any chance from Dubai? | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 04:49 AM |
| 8 | 24 years old and going on my first date ever. What are some things I should know?What you think of yourself is more important than what she thinks of you. Have no filter, keep the vibe man to woman and not friend to friend. Whatever comes to your mind vomit it out and make sure you are having fun. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Crush of mine comes over to my placeIt is on! Just don't sit opposite or far apart. Make sure you serve something that goes well with wine. Treat her as if she was your girlfriend. Move things forward without tripping if something doesn't go 100% according to plan. Think of how you can get her in your bedroom and go for the kill. | /r/seduction | 27/10/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | I just hate dealing with womens silly bullshit...I think you are doing something wrong before the number. Set up a date before getting her number (specific date and time). The text should always be like you are running late 15 minutes and for her to confirm. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 01:23 PM |
| 0 | I have till Tuesday to bed this girl before she leavesInvite her over for a movie. Choose the most boring B movie you can find, the ropes used for the special effects should be clearly visible. If u can watch on your bed go for it. Otherwise make it so you both have to sit on the same couch and have her lie on you or sit very close to you. Escalate from there. Kiss her neck, rub her thighs, have her sit on you, kiss her on the forhead, lips, back of her neck. 30 min in she should be wet. Start rubbing her pussy and go to town. | /r/seduction | 26/10/15 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Advice for a 28 year old new to game? Kind of a long post.Focus on inner game RSD stuff will work for you the best. | /r/seduction | 25/10/15 08:34 AM |
| 3 | " Being jealous you give her the excuse to say “Well he already thinks I’m going to cheat so I might as well just do it and have fun.” But giving her an identity as a girl who you regard as having integrity, she suddenly has a lot more to lose." TylerRSDWtf... why would you even say that. At best, say you sometime have some jealousy issues in a very matter of fact way in you really need to get it off your chest. Remember... Abundence. Don't be a whiny bitch. | /r/seduction | 25/10/15 08:17 AM |
| 7 | [Discussion] Some things my an ex-FWB and I discussed...If I may be so bold... you are stirring the pot more than trying to help her out. Focus on helping her out rather than making her reminiss what she lost. Douchebag move if u ask me. | /r/seduction | 25/10/15 06:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm going to go out today and approach for the first time in my lifeJust think "man to woman" all the time. It takes all the pressure off. | /r/seduction | 24/10/15 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Am I doing eye contact right?Eye contact is a byproduct of your state of mind. If you place a lot of value on the other person and are nervous, you eye contact will be strained and akward. If you place so much value on the other person. You can have a more relaxed eye contact and connect to the person on deep level. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Am I doing eye contact right?Depends on the topic. Lazer eye contact with someone explaining quantum mechanics is distracting as fuck. But if there is a sexual undertone and man to woman vibe. Strong eye contact shows that your core is strong. Distracting a woman because the eye contact is amping up the sexual tention so much that what she is saying has become irrelevant is a good thing. Otherwise, you have entered creepy martian territory. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 02:02 PM |
| 1 | It's strange, I've accomplished incredible things, but I still look for validation all the timeIt takes a lot of time to fix self worth issues. It gets easier the older you get and the more you work on yourself. Go out a lot and get good at social interractions. It might be a mental health issue as well. Depression, learning disorders all lead to self worth issues. If you truly have an issue, medication can help but it is not recommended unless you without a shadow of a doubt have an issue. Confidence is a magnifier for value. If you have low value, confidence will make you look even less… | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 07:03 AM |
| 1 | I [17f] just want some sex with my boyfriend [20m] help!Make this post in r/relationships as well. This is a weird one for me. You have to sit down and talk to him about what is blocking him from being intimate and discuss what you can do so you can both enjoy a healthy sex life. | /r/seduction | 20/10/15 06:41 AM |
| 5 | First lay field report (finally did it, feel like a God)Don't be a dick. If you want to call her or text her, do so. Nothing wrong with it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 06:27 AM |
| 6 | Should I say something about my face when it blushes or ignore it until they say something? Today I got called out and literally ran out the mallNo way around it. Say that you get red when you are nervous. Addressing a fault is better than ignoring it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 06:22 AM |
| 4 | Why do older women not shit-test you as much?Women lose value over time unfortunately. What she could get away with at 21 is no longer an option. The guy will not put up with it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Part time job - When is too much?Don't sarge at work. However, nothing keeps you from beng friendly and social. If you see a spark, go for it. Not a numbers game. | /r/seduction | 15/10/15 05:55 AM |
| 13 | My GoalsOne piece of advice. Don't tell your friends what you are doing. Not because they will sabotage you or anything. If they give you props, you have already received validation and your willingness to follow through will be gone. It is like the person who plays in his mind an entire pick-up. What he says, what the girl replies and creates a whole fantasy and feels good. You can be sure that this guy will never go out. Keep your goals to yourself and even your progress. Only disclose achievements wh… | /r/seduction | 15/10/15 05:48 AM |
| 7 | Don't Overestimate the World and Underestimate Yourself. You Are Better than You Think. And You Are Not Alone.One success when he was 15 y/o. Now, he is spreading his wizdom to us mere mortals. You gotta love narcicists. | /r/seduction | 15/10/15 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys sleep with the same girl several times (friends with benefits)?Apologies if I got you wrong. In that case... here is my 2 cents. If the girl is hot enough, she would be a girlfriend not FWB. FWB's usually have self esteem issues and the only reason she is not in a real relationship is because the guy does not want it. Getting an FWB is not always easy though because not a lot of women can handle being labelled a FWB. Enjoy it though... nice self esteem boost for a 19 y/o. | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 01:13 PM |
| 0 | Casual relationships and FWBsWow... u are so fucked up in the head. I have no idea where to begin. Are you even in one relationship to even consiser to branch out into multiple relationships? | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 09:04 AM |
| -3 | Do you guys sleep with the same girl several times (friends with benefits)?I think you just want to brag that you got a FWB. | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 09:00 AM |
| 2 | Biggest boostersBoxing, gym, acting, latin dance, public speaking, good income, your own place to live a.k.a. freedom. | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Serious question? How do you initiate anything while she's over?Kiss maybe next time? | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 08:31 AM |
| 2 | Why can't I for the love of god talk to girls at parties?Have no intention to fuck, kiss, or make the women like you. Just offer value and self-amuse. Escalate for your own personal enjoyment. You want to escalate because it is fun. | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 08:29 AM |
| 4 | Can we please discuss HOW it has come to be that women are socially conditioned to view them self as the prize? [historically, sociologically, etc]Your head is messing up concepts. Let me clear it up for you. Evolutionary programming sticks. Just because there is contraception, women will not jump on your dick. It is not all logical. It is a pre-programmed emotional response shaped by evolution. Women who fucked low value shy nerds died out. They are not here anymore to fuck low value guys. "I know women are not the prize" is such a wrong statement. It is not whether men or women are the prize. Men compete amongst men and women compete amo… | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Can we please discuss HOW it has come to be that women are socially conditioned to view them self as the prize? [historically, sociologically, etc]100% of women are not the prize. That applies to peacocks and peahens because the peacock does nothing but provide sperm. Every impregnation is like winning the jackpot for the peacock. For humans, we are more selective of the women we choose because we usually like to take care of them. So no, 100% of women are not the prize. The way to understand this is to forget a human being as a collective and look at it as a vehicle for the gene to survive the passage of time. A man can potentially impreg… | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 07:01 AM |
| 3 | Can we please discuss HOW it has come to be that women are socially conditioned to view them self as the prize? [historically, sociologically, etc]Poligamy = Women are the prize In peacocks, the females don't get any help from the males for survival or for taking care of the kids. The peacocks' contrubution is only sperm. Needless to say, 5% of peacocks inseminate 100% of the female flock. The rest of the males die without decendants. Bottom line, 5% of men have massive value and the rest are worthless. In contrast, 100% of women have value. Humans largely have monogamous relationships. That is why we don't go after fat chicks, because the… | /r/seduction | 14/10/15 04:58 AM |
| 1 | My cousin has serious problems interacting with women, please help me help him.Being a 23 y/o virgin is tough. This is coming from a guy who broke free at 25. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. The best thing you can do for him is set him up on dates with women and make sure the date involves something physical. Double date with your boyfriend then go to a bar/club. Get him to drink and loosen up because I promise you if he goes on a generic dinner/coffee date, he will become the friend. He seems like a decent guy and should not be too socially akward. Advice will n… | /r/seduction | 13/10/15 01:51 PM |
| 1 | (23F) Can I go from one night stand to more?Seriously wrong place to post this but ONS can lead to a relationship but you have to expressly inform the guy that you are looking for a LTR. | /r/seduction | 27/09/15 01:56 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys deal with regret?As long as you see your future brighter than your past, your regrets will not bother you. My regrets motivate me to try harder. The solution is to really have one important goal, know you can achieve it and see yourself progress. My guess is that you think your missed opportunities have wounded you in a way that you cannot recover anymore which is rarely true. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 10:04 AM |
| 3 | As a virgin, how do I turn the conversation sexual/express my sexuality?The best thing to do is to game more and eventually you will get a girlfriend and have regular sex which will give you more confidence and remove the headles chicken syndrome. Eventually, you will be looking for women you have a connection with instead of just "Oh, would this girl bang me?" If you don't have patience, hire a hooker a couple of times to get the performance anxiety out of your system. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Handwritten Letter: Right Move?You can give statements of interest to the girl, but not a letter confessing your love for her. You just gave her a shit ton of validation. Anyway, hopefully it works out for you. | /r/seduction | 31/12/14 08:19 AM |
| 2 | How do I initiate dancing?I can vouch for this. I have yet to meet a girl that says no to an opportunity to dance. Just go in and talk about how much you like dancing (oversell your love for it). Then extend your hands and she will grab it. After she complies verbalize the magic words "the music here is amazing, let's dance" . Don't dance for more than 2 songs because it gets boring fast. One songs is optimal and then eject. If you really enjoy dancing, stay for the second song. The rule is that if you want to dance with… | /r/seduction | 23/12/14 07:01 AM |
| 0 | Hello, I am Dave and this is my final fight towards being a normal social beingLack of self worth because you're not social? Who cares? Good job. Check! Good health. Check! In good physical shape. Check! Regularly meet people. Check! Having sex. Check! I think this is a first world problem that you're facing. You're problem is maintaining relationships. Meeting new people is hard, maintaining the new relationships is harder. The girl that you think is cute. Regularly invite her or for dinner, activities, anything. Get more intimate with her. The people you get introduced t… | /r/seduction | 11/11/14 01:42 PM |
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