How do I initiate dancing?

Gidding · 2014-12-22T22:45:04+00:00

Always approach from the front, look for eye contact and I think the part where you struggle the most is the real initiate.

Just hold out your hand, if she grabs your hand you're dancing together.

BitchImMuthafuckinQ · 2014-12-22T21:37:23+00:00

What I've found works best is, like with many situations involving pickup, go into it not giving any fucks. Get on the dance floor, dance your ass off (assuming you are a capable dancer), and be confident. Girls will be attracted to this and will come to your space. From there, you can more easily gauge and build a girls interest. Remember, THEY came to YOU, not the other way around. Additionally the woman in question will not think of you as creepy and it saves you the trouble of having to figure out a solid way to approach in a more subtle way.

I've seen guys pull off approaches on the dance floor and its not easy, it requires a really strong approach game. From what I gather yours is not up to par (no offense man) so stick with this method, It's worked for me always in the past, especially if you have rhythm and can dance at least decently well.

What doesn't work well is infiltrating the girl's space on the dance floor. Most likely they will just think that you're some creepy dude who is trying to somehow take advantage of them. It sucks that this is their first impression without even getting to know you but I promise they will jump to this conclusion like 90% of the time.

zomgitsduke · 2014-12-22T22:34:17+00:00

Dance solo for a little bit, search for eye contact. Once you get it, hold it. Then approach her. If she notices you, put your hand out. If she doesn't notice you, introduce yourself and ask her to dance.

Abstrac7 · 2014-12-23T04:04:01+00:00

What I often do is go up to a chick on the dancefloor, grab her arm and then spin yourself around with it if you know what I mean. 99% of the time it gets a laugh or positive reaction from the girl since usually the guy spins the girl around. From there you can just dance with her. Just don't go up to every chick like this, it will lose its spontaneousness.

Blue_Link · 2014-12-23T04:37:59+00:00

Exactly what most are saying here. jam out for a bit, legitimately have fun. People will be drawn and gravitate towards you because they want to have fun too. Then you can pick and choose.

The type of music has a huge impact on it too. The more intimate the song the easier it is (assuming you have rhythm). House, electro it's a little different

tarantula3 · 2014-12-23T18:54:53+00:00

just as i suspected by the question you ask, your biggest obstacle here is neediness, which i confirmed with this detail, "Are there specific signs a girl sends when she wants to dance with you?"

why are you so concerned about the "signs" a girl might give you? is it because you are afraid of the dissapointment you will feel if you give some signs you want to dance with a girl but she doesn't want to dance with you?

How about you stop caring about what some girl on a dance floor might think. Girls are actually excited and flattered to be approached by guys if you can do it right. Stop waiting for "signs." You are too concerned about what girls think about you.

NO GIRL is dancing "just to dance." some are dancing to validate their egos with all the male attention. Some are opened to being approached. It doesn't matter. Just have fun and stop worrying.

How about you start showing girls some "signs" you are actually interested in them and just dance~!

Scc88 · 2014-12-23T20:32:19+00:00

What if I dont know how to dance but I want to interact with the girl?

AlexBr88 · 2014-12-23T20:00:33+00:00

You need to get a girls approval before dancing with her. That's just my opinion and I'm sure other guys out there will disagree. This is my approach - easiest if done at a club where people are grinding.. You come up behind her and put your arm on her hip and angling you face so that she can see you in her peripheral. When she looks at you, smile and ask if she wants to dance. Most of the time, if the girl thinks you are cute she'll say yes! Make sure you smell good and are well groomed.

Title	How do I initiate dancing?
Author	jmanslumpy
Upvotes	14
Comments	11
Date	December 22, 2014 7:44 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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