I feel like sometimes after the first date no matter if it went good or bad there are some girls where I cant decide if they are playing games or are just not interested.

They kind of act cold and when I ask for a second date they usually reject me. But the rejection doesnt have to mean shit. I mean there was this case where I got rejected and I played it cool and told her that she shouldnt put that much pressure on it bc I just wanted to get to know her and its not a big deal because I am seeing other girls too. That somehow worked and she came back crawling after 1 or 2 weeks.

I feel like generally when they play cold I get too curious about whats going on and I ask them too early to see the reaction. How would you act? Ignore her completely and soft next? And if she comes back cool and if not also cool ?