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There's a 9 (Let's call her J) that I could have fucked at this party but I didn't since my friend was seriously trying to date her at the time. We were chillin on the couch and it was a perfect time to make out after real steamy dancing and shit. I knew the moment I uber'd back with her that I blew my chances.  
I brought her to a party later and tried to make up for it by having my hand around her alot and clearly demonstrating my intentions. Of course she caught on and when we got back to the dorms she asked to talk and said she respects me too much to confuse me and that she didn't want to hook up. I'm sure she took my failure to escalate last time as some beta shit.
 
Since that night we are in this state where we hang out a few times a week and talk about all types of shit (life goals, our past, relationships, sex etc.). I would normally say it's the friend zone but she'll text me first to go with her to parties or get food. Today she walked for like 20 minutes after a football game with her friend to my fraternity house to get me to go eat. Of course the attraction is probably still there unless she is just being a REALLY good friend.  
I saw her friend tonight at a club and she immediately started bringing up that she knows I like J and how I'm secretly a great guy and stuff. My response was that J and my's relationship was weird and that I'm whatever about it. She was drunk and I was coked out so I kind of ended the convo quickly and moved on.
 
J has tried to ho around recently but quickly realized she probably just wants a relationship (She's never had a boyfriend and just lost her v card last year). I myself do pretty decent with girls but honestly wouldn't mind locking J down if I can.
 
So basically I'm at a crossroads. I figure I can cut my losses and really push the friend thing and use her as a top tier wing woman (she's a real attention grabber).
 
I could go monk mode for a bit and try to re-alpha game her later (Risking her getting snatched up in the meantime).
 
I could throw in the beta towel and actually ask her out to a date and work for a relationship.
 
I'm sure the physical attraction is still there but I'm not sure how deep of a beta hole I've dug myself into (Because you know girls categorize quickly) so the relationship game might be my best bet. The issue with trying to date her though is that she doesn't like my use of harder drugs (Coke, molly, hallucinogens) but we've smoked weed together before. Honestly the thought of having to resort to asking her out bugs me because that's some weak shit since we know there's a guy somewhere that she'll let hit the first night. I haven't been in a relationship in years and that just isn't my game.
 
What do you experienced guys think is my best move? I'm open to any option I just need a consensus. Of course she might think that we are legitimately friends and all of this is pointless so let me know if you think that's the case based on what I've said. Keep in mind that 95% of the time I hold frame with her and I still detect slight shit testing in our convos. Also there is still some sort of abundance/dread game since she personally knows girls I've fucked recently. Just please give me some good advice, I know you guys are good for it.
 
Edit
 
I asked her out on a date. We are going mini golfing after my 5K and then getting dinner. I'll keep you guys posted on how it goes
 
I had something come up for later in the day so I postponed mini golf and just took her to dinner at a gourmet burger place. It was a great time with joking around and surprisingly a lot of talk about sex. I had things to do when we got back but she said she wanted to plan the next date. I think things will work out but this going on dates thing is going to be tough since it's so easy to slip into some beta mindsets. Wish me luck.