Alright gents. I took a tough look in the mirror today and have realized that I have some things to fix. Fortunately this time I just kind of figured it out on my own.. no tragic fuck ups. Yet.

When I am approaching, gaming, teasing, attracting, escalating, and going out on the first couple dates / lays, I am golden. There's always room to improve but for the most part I am confident with my early game.

But once I've spun a girl up into a new plate, and we've hooked up 3+ times, with every reason to believe we will continue to do so.. I seem to instinctively let off the gas. I start rewarding her. I comfort her. I snuggle with her. I let her sleep over almost every time. The more she gives me, the more I give her (though I do maintain golden ratio 3:2).

In and of itself I'm ok with doing all of these things, as generally, I am doing them from a place of power. She earns my affection by being feminine, attractive, and charming.

BUT, this is the rub. I feel like when it comes time for bedroom play, I am far too often trying to run uphill with a backpack and a parachute. I go for the dominance, and it just seems to go nowhere. I've had great hookups and pathetic ones, so I know the difference between good sex and weak sex. It seems like I am letting them get too comfortable, even though they are generally submissive and feminine. They know that I will call them again, that I care about them on some level, and this far too often leads to a loss of sexual tension and overall attraction.

One of the best trysts of my life happened a few weeks ago with a girl who was only in town for 2 days - which she spent getting tied up, fucked, spanked, violated and videotaped. She loved every second of it. I ask myself, why did this work out so well? I think it's because I knew she was going to be 1000+ miles away after a couple days, and so I just did whatever the fuck I felt like, giving zero shits whether she enjoyed it or not.

I don't think this is a problem with my technique, or even my attitude.. inside the bedroom.

I think it is a problem of tension, and my attitude outside the bedroom. I am basically acting like her boyfriend after I am confident she'll be around for me to fuck. Obviously, this is a problem.

It is very unnatural for me to say No if it is easy and reasonable to say Yes. To leave a text unanswered when things are otherwise going good. In short, I am making the mistake of being a "Nice Guy" as long as she is being a "Nice Girl". This puts the ball in her court and me in a reactive position - I only Dread or bring out the Asshole guns when she misbehaves.

I've seen it written that sometimes I should be spontaneously unavailable. Sometimes I should punish her randomly, even if she doesn't deserve it. Keep her on her toes. Make her think I might walk out the door at any moment and never come back - even if I have every intention on coming back.

Other than realizing this trend.. I'm not sure where to start. What are your top tips for adding Dread, Dominance, and the flavor of Assholiness that keeps women wet and guessing?