Bad dilemma

superbad4life · 2015-11-14T07:39:27+00:00

Ok... let's be honest, everything points to this:

I got a little out of hand with the drinks.

Dude... duuuuude! You can't do that. A man that doesn't know how to handle himself on alcohol is going to be an instant turn off for every girl. Basically says you're a BB that needs alcohol to even talk to these girls. AF know how to handle their alcohol, so if nothing else, figure that out.

In my perspective I was able to get her to comply.

Able to get her to comply=manipulated. I can get my dog to sit too, he complies when I shove his ass to the ground but he will do it without question if I have a treat in hand. My point being it's easy to manipulate, and depending on how far you take it, illegal. Modify the person's behavior to wanting to please you.

A little background on this girl.

So you're with a few girls and you go after the one you kind of know. Face palm She better have been the hottest one there otherwise that's straight up BB shit there.

She refuse and told me that she had a boyfriend

Unless she was giving you IOIs, kino while doing this, this is an easy next. "I have a boyfriend"= Fuck Off. She may have one, she might not, either way she doesn't want you.

RECAP: You didn't do well at all brother. There were a handfull of girls at your booth and you went after the one you knew who you saw your brother macking on earlier (probably cocked blocked him even if he did get a little cold). You also drank so much, you can't actually remember what happened and had very little control of your actual actions. If this girl comes after you, ignore. IGNORE... IGNORE! Let this shit roll by for right now. And if you do see her in a few weeks/months, whatever, hopefully she doesn't remember what you did to her.

Zamarski · 2015-11-14T09:35:08+00:00

The previous commenter is 100% about the alcohol part. Handling your liquor is vital and shows you're in control. When in doubt and dealing with the girlies, drink less.

Consider that episode a learning experience and adjust your drinking accordingly in the future.

stickfiguresk · 2015-11-14T11:58:06+00:00

I ended up pulling and asking one of the girls to dance with me.

they just went cold and just sat there doing nothing. Hence the reason why I pulled her up from her seat and asked her to dance. She refuse and told me that she had a boyfriend

Sounds like she was maybe conning the dude for attention and you broke her frame, "No, I'm supposed to be a modest, innocent victim! Dancing makes me look happy and secure!"

You "practically raped" her frame. Don't sweat it--she's mentally ill in a entitled/thirsty as fuck kind of way(alpha pass: Denied). I'm thinking she's the type that has seriously advocated the use of trigger warnings. By stepping on that landmine, you've passively shat where you ate. I'd soft next that whole crowd. Let the ones that aren't buying her BS come to you for a while, and even then, on a probationary period.

Getting sloppy drunk in mixed groups is bad form, just to echo the other two posters. Save it for all-male outings and one-on-one "dates" with reliable plates. Good luck, man.

exilesoul · 2015-11-14T12:19:13+00:00

Clubs always have cctv, guess it could go either way though

MattyAnon · 2015-11-14T22:23:14+00:00

'forcing her to dance'.

She's making all this shit up. If it was real, everyone else around would have stopped you and she'd talk to the police. It's made up, so she's trying to get all her friends to agree.

She probably regrets her actions and is blaming you, especially as she has a boyfriend.

And yeah, try not to get too drunk in future. You're leaving yourself open to all kinds of abuse from everyone else.

Absolutely do not be around this girl, she's dangerous. If you have to have contact, smile and laugh like you don't have a care in the world, and make your excuses and leave. No good will come from contact with her, believe me. Do not ever ever discuss any of it with her. Do not be alone in her company under and circumstances. ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. Got it?

See if you can get hold of any video evidence from that night from the bar. I doubt you did anything wrong - don't doubt yourself. Bitches be cray cray.

Title	Bad dilemma
Author	loudonk
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	November 14, 2015 5:59 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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