TRP has helped me confirm what I only subconsciously understood about women, and it taught me things that have already helped me in my current relationship and I use in the world. The red pill lenses helps me make sense of so much. However, i am struggling with the cold and semi vindictive nature of the forum and ideology. The truth of the matter is I want to have a meaningful connection with my wife/girlfriend, and I want to show compassion to others. It seems like people who have truely fulfilling lives are loved by many because they are so compassionate and valuable as friends/colleagues/associates etc.

I want my children (when I have them) to not be soft like I was in school and get bullied because they have no edge, but I don't want them to be loners who only care for themselves and "winning" at life.

TLDR

I'm struggling with squaring a compassionate, community focused existence and TRP. Can you help me understand how these can coexist?