I'm 16 years old, I got mad about never having done anything with a girl so I eventually found this subreddit. I followed the advice like go to the gym, dress better, talk more, read books, meditate etc. Now I do that but I honestly don't think that it's helping me in what I really want is just a girlfriend or something because I've been terrible with girls all my life. Even though my looks improved, posture improved, what I say improved, how I say it, girls still don't really notice me and give me signs that they don't want me talking to them (like ignoring for example) which puts me off. Then I feel like i don't really have permission talking to them again. And these average looking girls all think theyre hot shit and will only talk with you if youre attractive.

Now there seems to be a lot of talk about approaching girls and getting girls that way but I live in a very small city where everyone knows eachother and approaching right now would create gossip and I would spend the next 2 years on my highschool miserable if I say something wrong to the wrong girl she'll tell everyone else. When I move to college at 18/19 it'll be a different story however I can't go to college without any experience with girls that'll just set me up for a bad college experience as well.

Even just typing this makes me feel like a loser with 100's of excuses and not enough action even though I really want to do something about my life, and I'm doing all the stuff that gets adviced. (gym, read, talk, study, etc)

I don't really have any hobby's either which will make me a more interesting person, I quit soccer a few months ago and since then I've been trying all kinds of different hobby's. I'm 16 which is too old to really get good at sports or anything if I start now but I would really like to get extremely good at something. Suggestions here would be greatly appreciated as well.

if you guys have any advice or suggestions it'll be greatly appreciated. Thank you.