Beginner needing some advice on breaking several year long dry spell

Questionablechoice · 2015-08-19T08:09:50+00:00

Ok your 28 so I would say having no pick up game in the bar scene is going to come off as a little creepy. Unless you can actively project confidence in an unfarmiliar settings this is likely not going to work out well at first.

So you can go in a couple different directions:

A. Scout/Acclimate/pickup - check out bars solo with no intention to pick up anything. Pick a different site each night maybe doing 2 nights a week. Pick an "Industry Night" Bar during the week and a traditional "Ladies night" bar on the weekend.

While scouting you want to look at fashion, musical style, atmosphere and you can practice flirting with waitresses/bartenders, meet DJ's/Bouncers/Male Bartenders.

You don't want to approach HB's yet your here to learn not to get drunk or fuck (no more than 1 drink per hour)

Once you have 5 solid bars where this is a good ratio of women to men with some good quality range (HB6+ with a 2:3 or better ratio)

Focus on these bars to get atmospherically comfortable so it becomes like any other place. Learn the menu, befriend a couple of the staff members and ideally doormen.

Next start your pick up game rotating venues. Never become a 1 location man. You need to mix it up taking someone to the same bar even if it is the hottest everytime get boring. Seeing the same crowd all the time gets too comfortable. If you have a few bad pick ups you can poison the well and be remembered as well.

B. Day Game Sport focus

You have no Night game currently and you are doing a lot of Cardio to get yourself fit and cut weight.

Exchange 1 or 2 HIIT Cardio days for Intensity based Co-Ed sport. This doesn't need to be contact. It needs to be Intensity based. High sprint and burst running sports are preferred.

Examples: Indoor Boarded Soccer, Ultimate Frisbee(indoor or outdoor), Touch/Flag Football, Dodgeball, Handball

Initally sign up for whatever random team is looking for players post on fourms in local leagues.

Avoid non burst sports: Softball/Baseball, Volleyball, Non Boarded/Outdoor 11/11 Soccer, Contact football (Unless playing WR/CB/TE), Rock Climbing, Basketball (depends on competition level)

You are exchanging HIIT Cardio for a Sport based HIIT Cardio like activity. These sports while fun are not going to fulfill the interval sprinting you are looking for.

This will expand you social circle. You get contact with lots of fit women who might not be a lot HB7+ but will be fit and likely a HB6 minimum.

It easy to transistion this into an after game activity like a bar and often are associated with a bar/pub.

Also competition will Raise Testostrone in both women and men, allow for causal teasing of players on both teams. This will get you more IOI's particularly if you make a good play.

RICCIedm · 2015-08-19T11:32:40+00:00

Don't try desperatelly get laid, just improve your game meeting girls and etc and sex will come. Don't drink when gaming chicks, it blocks you from improving.

RedPillJax · 2015-08-19T12:12:52+00:00

Hey man, it's cool to have goals, and I know that incel can really fuck with a guy's whole opinion of his life in some cases.

That being said, when you put this much mental energy into trying to bag women, you absolutely reek of desperation. Everybody wants to hit a homer so they swing at the ball, but right now you're the batter standing at the plate cranking swings at absolutely everything that comes your way. This is striking you out before the ball even leaves the pitcher's hand, if the metaphor serves.

Incel has a way of seriously pedestalizing the pussy because it's something you need to feel validation of your life. This is bred into your through male nature, but it is also something you're going to need to overcome.

Work on yourself. Get busy doing things you like. Give up spankin' it to digital women more than once a week so you get a true killer instinct when it comes time to go hunting in real life. Stop overthinking everything - every interaction with a woman, good or bad, is nothing more than amusing and slightly entertaining to you. If she wants to take it further because your SMV is sufficiently high to give her tingles, perfect. If she calls you a creep and throws a drink in your face - oh well, her loss, and you needed the refreshment anyway.

Stop overthinking it, and it will come. Raise your SMV to the point women pursue you the way men pursue women. It will come, if you work hard enough at it.

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-08-19T15:04:59+00:00

Most of it has already been covered it seems, so I will just leave this here to stress one thing: expand the pond you're fishing in. try out new group activities, sports would be a good place to start. But I'm sure there are many other associations you could join. Meet new people and make your life more interesting all at the same time. Organised holiday trips for singles (active/adventure!) is an interesting thing to look into as well.

Title	Beginner needing some advice on breaking several year long dry spell
Author	Samsilent
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Date	August 19, 2015 7:15 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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