Being able to empathize makes it hard to get angry/hold anger

awalt_cupcake · 2015-10-12T16:51:49+00:00

Don't let your understanding of their behavior stop you from enforcing your boundaries.

I understand a dog doesn't know any better when shitting on my carpet, but I'm still going to scold him rub his nose in it. That's the only way it'll learn not to shit on my carpet.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-10-12T16:37:27+00:00

Read No More Mr Nice Guy.

seenoeval · 2015-10-12T19:12:14+00:00

Being angry or holding anger is the worst thing to strive for. You are already on the right path, your issue is more than likely getting comfortable with the word "no"

If someone borrows money and they don't pay me back, I don't care, I subscribe to the thinking that it was a small price to pay to expose a person who doesn't deserve to be in your life.

If someone asks me a favor and I feel saying no will result in them not wanting to be my friend or talking shit about me to others then I made a bad decision putting that person in the position that they felt they could ask me for a favor.

It's easy to say and hard to do, people have family, parents even that will constantly ask for favors and continue fucking up, you have to put yourself first, always, if you want to have a happy life.

I rule my circle with an iron fist, as you get older it becomes easier and easier with practice.

Also, civilians are fucking sheep to me. If someone cuts me off in traffic or gives me an attitude, I could give a fuck, wasting energy on them only robs me of my enjoyment. Getting angry at strangers just proves you have work to do on yourself because no one should have the power to alter your mood like that.

uppermostless · 2015-10-12T22:21:46+00:00

Just because someone had a "Bad Day" or are going through "Tough Times" doesn't justify them taking it out on everyone. It's good that you can emphatize. Imo, I would approach it : "Hey I understand you're mad and all, but I'm not part of that equation, so don't take it out on me because that's not helping your situation"

Title	Being able to empathize makes it hard to get angry/hold anger
Author	adapt2evolve
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	October 12, 2015 3:41 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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