Beta instincts kick in without even realizing it

103342 · 2015-11-24T15:49:14+00:00

Somethings that actually helps get the "beta away" is trying to increase testosterone.

Things like: lifting heavy, sleeping a lot, eating red meat and generally eating well, taking cold showers (this one doesn't increase testosterone, but it makes you feel more energized).

Also: take care of yourself to the point where you actually FEEL attractive. If you feel like the girl is "above" you will behave "beta". This also goes along with inner game. You have to feel confident.

Sometimes you will still feel like you need some love and caring. But we are all like that.

TheGillos · 2015-11-24T14:39:30+00:00

Well, unless you are a natural, which I'm guessing you aren't, you NEED to push the beta aside consciously. At least until you are well trained.

You need to fully understand and incorporate the idea that: "she's different, don't push it with this one." HURTS more than helps.

mr_nate_ · 2015-11-24T15:01:26+00:00

Having read "Alpha Guides" prior to TRP, it was a conscious effort at first (using a lot of lines and shit aka not really understanding the fundamentals that TRP covers). Over time, and with TRP and practicing TRP, the conscious effort becomes minimal. Instead of thinking about the complexities of each situation and identifying what's going on, it's second nature - as easy as talking to a friend.

However, when I stumble upon new areas of knowledge I'm not familiar with, I have to make a new conscious effort to learn these things and put them into practice. For instance, if I get married then I would have to research all the things considering marriage on TRP and ways to manage it.

Really it's like any skill. More practice = gradual building of natural action. Since you're in your early 40's, it's likely that it'll take MORE conscious effort at first since you have to burn everything you "knew" to the ground (e.g. supplicating women, compliments, flowers) and replace it with new practices. But with everything, it'll become natural over time.

On a side note, I've always found (and I assume it's like this for most people) that negative experiences are more immediate in forcing me to change than positive ones. If you do something embarrassing in grade school in front of your classmates and become a laughing stock, you'll never do that thing again. Likewise, you're learning from your mistakes with sexier women, and therefore know what to do next time.

[deleted] · 2015-11-25T03:54:45+00:00

My mind has wandered when under stress. I just wasn't paying attention. I paid the price. But I learned to wake up and hold frame as a result. Hope this helps, OP. (I'm 41 BTW).

silver_nuke13 · 2015-11-26T11:21:22+00:00

Learn to lucid dream and rewire your character. Or do it irl, go out, study your reactions and be ready next time. The reptile wired in a beta inside your head is a million times faster than the mammal in your head. See what's up and correct default responses.

There is no easy way, you need to do some kind of "open chest operation" on your personality.

Title	Beta instincts kick in without even realizing it
Author	atticusfinch1973
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	November 24, 2015 1:58 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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