Can’t stop cheating

nujjj80 · 2017-10-30T20:47:37+00:00

Eternal seeking of women validation. Been there too, not trying to sound morally superior or anything. What have worked for me is to find better shit to do with my life. You have a girlfriend, almost plating 2 other girls, and still gaming girls now and then. Either you have loads of free time, or you're spending it all chasing pussy.

datsikboy92 · 2017-10-30T01:38:59+00:00

Be single or let her know you don’t want to be monogamous. Be mature is what I’m saying.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-10-30T08:33:14+00:00

You're not sorry and you don't love her, let's be real here. I've never met a serial cheater who wasn't a scumbag in some other aspect of his life.

Just don't be in a relationship, it's really that simple. Cheating doesn't just stick to sex. It means you have a crooked character, and you're very untrustworthy in every other aspect od your life. This shit really isn't all that hard dude. You like to fuck around? Ok that's perfectly fine, but just do it outside of a committed relationship that YOU signed up for.

TakeEverything · 2017-10-30T13:13:33+00:00

I can honestly say that I love her. At the same time I have this insatiable need to be fucking more than one person at a time.

Mystery solved: You aren't monogamous.

Just tell her that you've realized that you aren't monogamous and that you need her to decide either she's okay with that or you're breaking up.

From now on, just tell girls that you aren't monogamous and that you aren't going to be monogamous and if they want to date you, then they need to be completely fine with that.

gerend24 · 2017-10-31T03:15:53+00:00

if you’re in a ltr you are the beta giving your time energy and attention to this one girl while she bangs chads in Ons

i guess cheating would be better than nothing but still, instead of 100% beta it’s 80% beta

those girls in the ons is the same exact “one” girl ur doing the ltr with which you’re blind to see

failingtheturingtest · 2017-10-30T05:54:12+00:00

I feel guilty from time to time.
Should I stop or change?

It sounds like you think you should. Spend a bit of time considering if it's because you don't like doing it, or because you think everyone else expects you to want to stop.
If you actually have an issue with it, then get some discipline and either end it or stop cheating.

For me, cheating is a non-starter. Both because I still like to think of myself as the golden standard for morals, and because it's a bad strategy.
The strategy part is important. Drama. I do not invite needless drama into my life. If I want to be fucking around, then I just make it clear that it's the case. And it works well.
So I get to think highly of myself, get to sleep with who I want, and get to keep sheilas around who into me enough to be OK with that. I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not. I don't have to sneak around. I just have to turn off my notifications when I'm with one so they don't have to hear or see messages from another when they're with me.

If this is a case of doing what you think the world expects of you, rather than actually wanting to stop, then I think you should learn to care less about expectations. There's enough bullshit we're expected to do, and being 'faithful' until we're no longer desired seems pretty fucking unimportant.

stacysmomlovesme · 2017-10-30T10:52:18+00:00

I respect that this is Ask trp but you could lurk a bit and do some solo thinking and then ask this same question and get more out of the response

TexasNibba · 2017-10-30T01:47:57+00:00

Loser

Title	Can’t stop cheating
Author	el_pildora_roja
Upvotes	1
Comments	32
Date	October 30, 2017 1:36 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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